"What you do in the privacy of your own home is a reflection on who you are" Me, laid out on the couch like a beached whale, drinking my 7th cup of tea: oh no
This is great stuff! I've found that it really helps raising a toddler if you do ask instead of tell. It just helps them learn to ask other people kindly. Of course they still must obey ☺️
Turning on notifications for your channel is the best decision I’ve made since turning 17 so far❤️love your vids on marriage and femininity even tho I’m p r a c t i c a l l y a c h i l d
I’m a teenager as well (18) and far from getting a husband but it’s always a good idea to spend our time on self growth and cultivating our femininity as much as we can before marriage is even up for discussion. 🌷
Y Ara it’s so crazy how different people are. You’re saying you are practically a child and I was engaged and living with my (now husband) when I was 17. Nothing is wrong with either! It’s just funny to see the different perspective
I am not nice guy (tasteless and unhealthy) and I am not bad boy(tasty but unhealthy) .. I am confident masculine good guy(tasty and healthy).. She is not my partner, she is not my 50-50..she is my woman, she is my girl and I am her man.. I have no hate for Women because I know, they aren't bad, they don't want to be and I also know, women have two switch in their mind 1-bad girl switch 2-good girl switch.. I also know, attracting Women is a skill which men can learn and develop..I am good looking, masculine guy but instead of using my handsomeness, I attract Women emotionally.. These are personality traits and behavior which attract Women naturally.. 1-confidence 2-emotionally masculine 3-charming 4-charismatic 5-funny 6-socially intelligent 7-sexual.. 8-unpredictable (challenging) Women are feminine part of human species, a weird thing they do in relationship is "making feminine request" I know this so I have learnt to pick up feminine request of Women.. I know, women love being Women and love being around men.. I know, women want to feel being safe and protected by their men so they put fake pressure when we are in tough time and want to know, if we will crumble understand fake pressure.. They do this unconsiously so don't be angry and only a strong masculine man can provide this so I will never let her take my masculinity away from me.. One of the main importance of Woman in a my life apart from cooking and cleaning 😂😂is making me emotionally stronger and she does this by throwing one gram of tantram, putting one gram fake pressure, pulling her interested in me for testing my confidence.. I am not emotionally weak, I don't have to be emotionally guarded , I am emotionally fearless, I don't fear reaction of Women which is more rewardable than being emotionally guarded.. I know, woman are too good in dragging men in an argument and will end up blaming on us for every things so I don't go in unnecessary argument, I turn it in something funny.. A typical example is here There was a Woman who was saying we Women are smart and men are dumb.. I said definitely Woman are smart and men are dumb.. We are dumb that's why we choose you and you are smart that's why you choose us : :-) Now tell me who is smarter??!! Men or women!! Her response was some laughing emoji, if I was there I would definitely ask her a cup of coffee made by her hand.. I know, women love serving men who can make them serve him in lovely way.. I know, women love men who can make them feel more girly and feminine.. I know, women love men who can put them on their place in lovely way.. Respect will lead to attraction and attraction will lead to love.. All these advice is for guys only... If any Woman reading my comment, for you information, I love CONFIDENT BEAUTIFUL FEMININE WOMAN because feminine energy of Women trigger my masculine energy.
Mrs.Midwest knows what she’s talking about! All of the qualities she mentions is what all of my friends and I look for in a woman. If you follow her advice you’ll get a guy in no time 😃
Well, I've actually seen a couple of channels that inspire guys with traditional values. The Art of Manliness and Real Men Real Style. These two have inspired me to so something similar with my own. These types of channels are out there. You just have to look!
I think that‘s something that‘s often forgotten. It’s as much about love, respect, honor and honesty and so on as it is about the sheer willingness to keep it working.
1. Cook For Him 2. Actively Listen to Him 3. Say "Thank You" Often 4. Compliment Him (Around Others) 5. Anticipate His Needs 6. Ask For Things, Dont Tell/Demand 7. Support his Hobbies 8. Be Affectionate 9. Look Nice 10. Take Care of Your Mental Health This video was full of real advice and great tips! Not a bunch of vague ideas. Thank you!
Just to read it gives me the feeling of reading a fairy tale. There are basically zero women like that out there. Most of them are doing the opposite and turning every relationship into a waste of time for more and more men.
We used to live in a culture that taught the virtues of service to others, our community and spouse. The woman in the video comes from such a community. A concerted effort has been made to destroy these values, create mistrust between the sexes and destroy our bond. If you can destroy the relationship between men and women and set them against eachother in both the public and private realm you can rule them both. You only need focus upon the heart and mind of woman. Once decieved she becomes the greatest weapon to destroy man and all that is good.
I have always gotten up before my husband, even on days when the kids have no school and sleep in. I make a hot breakfast almost daily. I make his coffee. Twenty years. Honestly, Caitlyn, all my friends think this amounts to being a "doormat". People are shocked! We are losing the art of caring for each other in marriages.
I loooove serving my husband in the morning! I make his breakfast and pack his lunch (Why not? We eat the same things!) and also take the time to get his work clothes laid out for him. In all, it maybe takes me 10 minutes to do all of that, but the impact it has on his day running smoothly makes us both happy! You're so right, we are losing the art of caring for each other in marriage, and in society as a whole. No wonder so many are anxious, depressed, and lonely.
I dont do this for my husband but i honestly think its wonderful you do, its such a lovely way to show you care. Dont worry about what your friends say x
Conservatively Right Ya...what are you contributing to this relationship, exactly? Try doing things for her too, as she is not your doormat. She is your girl, so you treat her like the queen she is, ya hear?
I can't wait to have a hubby to cook for! Cooking and baking are both passions of mine, and I look forward to being a housewife who writes and shares my love for my spouse by cooking for him (among other things). If this is a crime, then I don't want to be right! LOL!! Great video.
I prep my husband’s shirts from the cleaners, warm a mug for his morning coffee, set out his morning towels ... He works 10-14 hour days. I feel like anything I can do to help is welcome. He works so hard for us. Psst! I also work up to 10 hour days myself. No kids just pets. He is my best friend.
I think a really important point to emphasize is to not be a mother to the man in your life. If you're using phrases like "Don't forget to....," making appointments for him, telling him to eat healthier, etc., he's going to feel (s)mothered. A great way to respect your guy is by trusting him to make his own decisions for himself. For example, my fiance (getting married next month!) needs a checkup for his eyes because he's been out of contacts, but I haven't even brought it up to him because I trust that he knows what he's doing. While I do wish that he would just go get his eyes looked at, I know that he's a smart, capable man and I don't want to sound like his mother. Men don't have romantic feelings towards their mothers. I feel like that is contrary to what TV, movies, and media present the husband-wife relationship as with men being big idiots and needing their wife to take care of them. How many times have you heard women joke that their husband is their 3rd child? Since I started taking a complete "I trust you" outlook towards my fiance, the whole relationship dynamic has transformed and I swear he looks at me like an angel. Men's love language is feeling respected.
@Mariana C Hey Mariana! My perspective has been shaped through books like The Surrendered Wife; Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus; and Fascinating Womanhood. Those books plus my own trial and error has helped me make my relationship into something better than I ever imagined. While I definitely agree that health is important, I’ve come to believe that it’s motherly to schedule appointments, and therefore a romance killer. I think that most men will accept their wife making appointments for them and may even be grateful for it because they know they should be, but it puts the woman in the role of being the mother and the man in the position of being the little boy. Now if my fiancé asked me to schedule an appointment for him, I would happily do it. But he hasn’t asked me to yet. And the point that Laura Doyle (the author of The Surrendered Wife) makes is that your man was taking care of himself before you came along, so there’s no reason that he’s suddenly unable to take care of himself now that you’re together. So I believe it’s an act of respect and trust in his capabilities that I let my fiancé take care of himself in regards to his health. Likewise, I don’t give him my thoughts on the clothes he chooses to wear or the fact that he only drinks soda. Our helpful suggestions usually sound like nagging to men’s ears. And I’ve come to realize that it’s just not my business. I do cook for him and do his laundry, but I remember where he ends and I begin. And my relationship has become everything I could have ever dreamed of. My fiancé doesn’t let me drive anywhere now. In the past year we’ve gone on two different road trips to the mountains which is about a 10 hour drive each way, and I never drove once on either of those trips. And this is a man who asked me to drive my car on our first date! He doesn’t let me put gas in my car, he doesn’t ask me for help carrying groceries (and in fact he jumps up to get them so I don’t have to,) he manages my money for me, and he’s so tender with me that I swear I can do no wrong. I think that for both the man and woman in a relationship to be happy and fulfilled, there has to be a ying-yang balance where the man feels needed and respected, and then he acts in a way that makes us women feel loved and cherished. From the books that I’ve read and from my own experience, any motherly behavior works *against* those manly feelings of protectiveness and feeling respected and therefore doesn’t help anyone get what we want.
One point I do not agree with is your example with eating healthier. My man and I are both firefighters. He does have to live a healthier lifestyle not only for himself, but for his job and Passion. So do I. Doesn't mean I won't cook burgers or something likewise from time to time, though! 😂
@@km-kl3lg I agree that eating healthy is important, and I do cook nutritious meals at home, but I don't nag him about the choices he makes for himself. That would be a quick way to kill any tender feelings he has for me. But even without me ever saying anything about his soda habit, my fiance recently told me that he'd like to stop drinking so much soda. He came to that decision with zero input from me. What I *do* say though- that I think might have made have seeped into his brain and made him start thinking about his lifestyle choices- is that I want him to live a long life and for us to grow old together. We have amazing powers of persuasion when used the right way. I'm definitely not perfect about never nagging or giving my opinion where it wasn't asked for! But because I've cut back so much, I see the difference right away when I slip up. And I definitely prefer to maintain the image of sweet, angelic, can-do-no-wrong that my fiance has of me.
@Saad Bin Masud I think you misunderstood the point that I was trying to make. I do all of the things you listed, I cook for my fiance and do his laundry, I know everything that's going on with his business because I talk to him about it every day, and I make sure he knows that he's my hero. But I don't try to tell him how to dress or what he should eat or not eat, or give him advice about his business (unless he asks obviously.) My fiance has never said "Respect is men's love language," lol. And I don't think he would necessarily agree with me if I said "Women shouldn't mother their husbands/partners." Because it's not something he thinks about. But as I've said, through my own trial and error and reading, I've come to the conclusions that men have more tenderness in their hearts for their partners when they feel respected. And to understand what respect means to a man, it means not questioning his judgement. An author I like said something like "It doesn't matter if he misses his turn and keeps driving till you pass the state border, don't point it out to him." That might be a little extreme but that's the general idea. (I still backseat drive sometimes- "Weren't we supposed to turn there?- but it always makes me cringe at myself.)
I am a 19 year old german Christian guy and I still find your videos interesting, this views are just so uncommon these days. I am glad that there is still femininity out there and can't wait until I will marry myself (hopefully a feminine women too). You two must be a very happy couple, God bless.
@@JWu-jt7fz in a small European country hahaha.. there is no pure christian guys here, but a lot of my girl friends are just everything a christian guy can wish for. And they never dated.. all the good man are taken :,) so hurry ahaahhahahahahah
Sweetheart, thank you for the inspiring Video. Could you do a video on your diet and how being a christian and staying slim, fits together! Love you, sister!
That would be interesting! I would love your thoughts on self-discipline (obedience to God) vs. self-absorbtion as it pertains to eating, exercise, taking care of appearance, etc.
My husband and I gained a bunch of weight too from all the good food we ate haha...check out SkinnyTaste cookbooks and her blog!! She has DELICIOUS recipes that are really healthy! I've been using them and my picky eater husband loves them all....oh, and we're now losing weight. :)
I thought I “couldn’t” cook until I worked on my cooking skills! Now I’m amazing! Everyday I’m getting better! I cook my husband dinner every night! :)
1. Cooking 2. Actively Listening 3. Says "Thank you" 4.Compliment in front of other people 5. Anticipating his needs 6. Ask, dont tell! 7. Encourage his hobbies 8. Affection 9. Look nice (Men are not visible creatures) 10. Mental Health (your husband is partner, not therapist)
I'd say also make sure your man is involved. After having kids, you get into these situations and sometimes my husband just doesn't understand about us having bad days. That's because I'm handling all the nitty gritty daily stuff. PLEASE make sure to make the husband involved with the kids so he can get a better understanding of what it's like when your trying to get one ready for school, one that's having trouble with homework and the other that's getting into puberty. So when it's Friday and you say, let's go out for dinner, he understands better why. And he doesn't take those frustrations personally. I've found some of the biggest problems happen when the father is NOT involved, and then doesn't understand what's going on.
Love your practical tips😊💕! I believe that culture trains us to take marriage for granted, and that everything will magically fall into place after we have found “the one”. It’s the everyday effort that stabilizes marriage and your tips are great things to incorporate. Wishing you a great weekend 😊🌸
Cynthia L You are so right that marriage takes real effort! And it is often not talked about that conflict is a naturally occurring part of married life. We may disagree over issues but fighting is not set in stone! How we deal with the imperfections of married life and what we bring to the marriage makes all the difference! 💕xo
Mother Muse I completely agree! Conflict in marriage is often looked upon as a lack of compatibility - a notion that doesn’t encourage healthy conflict resolution. Everyday tips like Mrs. Midwest is suggesting, help strengthen marriages on an everyday basis 😊
Cynthia L Agreed. 🤗 Sometimes we may be highly compatible with our spouse but still experience marital conflict. Cherishing each other and holding respect in the marriage is vital to a peaceful home life! Mrs. Midwest offers such lovely tips and a refreshing perspective! 💕xo
In regards to saying thank you, the absolute worst thing I have heard a spouse say is "Why should I say thank you for something hes supposed to be doing anyways?" My thought was, "Is this how you operate in your everyday life outside of your marriage?"
I’m 29 almost 30, married for 5 years, one toddler and another on the way. I love your channel. At first I was a little turned off and I still think some of the stuff is a bit impractical for women with 1 or more children lol, but he more I listened the more I realized everything you’re saying make sense and they’re all biblical principles for wives. We go above and beyond to serve everyone else: our children, our boss, coworkers, other family members, friends and even strangers as even ourselves. But often we forget the most important of all, our husbands.
Feminism is always saying that only woman serving man. But for me as a man I wonder if my 70h work week to offer a good lifestyle and stability is a joke to them. Marriage is 80% giving and 20% taking On both sides
Love this! American society today is so anti-man, and then women wonder where all the good men are! As nurturers women have the power to ~nurture~ boys into true men! Whenever I affirm my fiancé in his masculinity and am generous with my affection and love I literally see him walk a little taller, hold his head higher, and rise to the man that he can tell I think he is. Sounds weird, but we need to change the anti-man mindset that is dominating western culture right now! Marriage is both partners submitting to one another in humility and that humility heals our hearts, our minds, and will extend to all our other relationships!
@@aidatesfaye9044 where did I say that we were? That is not the sole purpose of women, but if the only person you are serving is yourself I think that's a really unfulfilling life! As humans we live in community. Period. Biologically, we only exist by the coming together of a man and a woman - however, any relationship where either one member is worshipped by the other or both partners are only out for themselves is bound to be a fruitless relationship.
I absolutely love this. When I first got married one huge learning curve was appreciation. Men need to be built up. They need to be encouraged. They need to be told they’re doing awesome. I thought I was doing a good job by having all my house work done and dinner ready every night on schedule as a way to show appreciation, but no, they need to be told explicitly. So what I did was I randomly would put reminders in my phone in random days to remind myself to do some sort of appreciation, and I would either get a card or write a letter of all the things I could think of that took place recently that I appreciated about my husband. I also made a habit to regularly tell my husband how proud I was of him. Even when it’s something little. Doing acts like that falls in line with Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband”. By showing appreciation it falls in line with respect too. And I agree, today marriage is looked at so negatively because of the horrible “me first” attitude many people have. People go into marriage thinking that just by being married it’s going to instantly make their lives better because someone is going to me doing something for them. But no. Marriage is teamwork. It’s not 50/50. It’s 100/100. You build each other up. You work together in your respective roles as husband and wife. And another thing too, people these days just have a negative view of the traditional roles of husband and wife. Either men don’t want to lead their families anymore or they think leading means to be a tyrant! I listened to a bible discourse once that helped me see 1 Peter 3:7 in a different light. In that scripture it says “weaker vessel”, weaker meaning that men are also weak. The scriptures then goes on to say to “assign them honor” so assign wives honor. The speaker then made the comparison between a Beer Stein and a Stemmed Wine Glass. Both are made of glass and both are used to drink a liquid that takes a lot of time, energy, and talent to brew/ferment. However, a Beer Stein is typically made of thicker glass and can withstand being knocked around a little more than a stemmed wine glass, as well as to the fact that wine is typically viewed as a more elegant drink compared to beer. I’m probably rambling on. Lol but all in all the point of the comparison was that our husbands are stronger in some areas where we might be weak, just like biologically in some areas men are stronger in areas where women are weaker. It doesn’t mean that one is better than the other, it just means we have our own places and when we see the beauty in our differences, marriage can work! Lol I probably rambled on and on and this doesn’t make sense. But I just loved this video so much because I love my husband so much and you shared so many reminders with me that I am so excited to implement in my daily life to show my husband how much I love him.
A family friend shared how her mom would lovingly help her husband every morning! She set her alarm a few minutes before his would ring then she'd start the water in the shower and prepare his toothbrush, ect. Then as he'd use the bathroom she would lay his clothes on the made bed. Finally, she would prepare him coffee and a light breakfast and a solid lunch as he dressed. This let him know he was appreciated for his hard work for their family and home! They've been happily married about 50 years.
That's nice but she's not her mother, this seems too much. I mean preparing toothbrush? Really? I think there are so many other ways that are not creepy to show how she appreciates her husband.
I’ll be honest. I am at nature a more liberal minded person but listening to you I’ve really grown to value and appreciate my role and value as a woman I society. I am hopeful to do these for my man (who also does his role as a masculine man) and prosper in a happy relationship with him 😌
Millie Mogudala that is not your nature you’ve been brainwashed by liberal media to hate yourself, your inner femininity is pointing you to your correct nature. I wish you the best in your relationship.
As a guy myself, allow me to elaborate on number 10. My ex girlfriend had such huge emotional baggage she has been holding on for 10+ years. Of course, I just sat there and be the good listener. But she would just lash out on me and verbally abuse and manipulate me whenever her emotional baggage is brought up. Even when I confront her about it and communicate with her, she still continued the behavior and refused to get help. The relationship did not last long. And it did affect me mentally too. So yes, your partner are not life savers or healers.
Yes girl, thank you for this one! I feel like it's really controversial these days to want to do things for your man, like doing things for men takes away our power somehow? Which is ridiculous to me because the greatest strength in women comes from our nurturing qualities. It took me awhile to learn the things that are meaningful to my husband (men and women speak such different languages), but since making habit more of the things you talk about in this video I've been blessed with a man who is motivated, inspired, vibrant, giving, loving, and affectionate! It's beautiful to see how he is blossoming through my nurturing, and I am even more blessed everyday that I strive to bless him. Anything we give is always returned multiplied from a good man. Love your channel💕
"Anything we give is always returned multiplied from a good man." I personally appreciate that you specified " a good man. " I know by experience of giving and giving and giving and always thinking of my man and getting no compliments, thank yous, or anything in return. He has good qualities and I know he could be a good man, he's just hard headed and stuck in his old ways where he thought it was ok to slap a woman for saying the wrong thing and that gang violence and raunchy rap songs are acceptable for younger generations.
Yes! In a biblical marriage both spouses have God ordained roles, its a beautiful representation of Christ and the Church. Just saying the home has to be in order first, sets the tone.
Kevin B where men are Christ, and women are the church? I can’t vibe with this idea that men are holy and women are there to serve. It really benefits you guys I guess, but it seems wrong. The God I believe in doesn’t place superiority on any one gender, race, or class.
Kevin B it’s probably sacrilege but I don’t think I believe in the Bible. It’s a book written by men, self-serving men. I don’t believe God intended those things. So when you are talking about biblical marriage, sure I bet you’re right. But if we are talking about a godly marriage, I can’t believe that is the truth.
I'm a Muslim woman and I'm married. In about a month it'll be 2 years of marriage! I completely agree with all of these! This is exactly how it is as a Muslim woman, this is how I should be toward my husband and we are always happy!
Yes! What you say really resonates Caitlyn. 💕 Makes sense that we should offer kindness, love and attention to those in our own household first! If we cannot be kind to our own husband - or wife- then how genuinely can we attend and show kindness to others in the community? 💕💕xo
As a man, I find this channel fascinating. I've had a relationship in the past that did not end well, she was a woman who did not have the values and integrity that you demonstrate and talk about. I don't know if you realize how important what you are doing is, but I just want to let you know that it's good women like you who are the cornerstones of western civilization. Without good women, society cannot survive. Men have to be good as well, there are plenty of pos's out there and men who just need to get their shit together, but if there aren't good women, there is no hope.
In my experience, when you start blessing/showing respect to your husband, he will start doing the same to you without even knowing it was you that started! 😀
OMG women. I've been married almost 40 years and I had a true partnership with my husband. We both cooked and both cleaned and both supported each other. This is a 2 way street, you get what you give. If your not getting this from your husband he doesn't deserve it from you! Stand up for yourself, you deserve the life you want not the life he wants for you.
I was cruel with my ex in front of other people, whitout realizing because I felt bad at this time. It led us to separation ! So I could realize my behavior was wrong, then I am grateful for this lesson.
kaitlyn, with all of the femistic worldly Girls, in media it is so nice to see a actual women celebrating our feminine qualities. God's Blessings to you girlfriend!
My boyfriend is more passionate about cooking than me and often makes meals or will take over cooking for me...I was little embarassed about it but he truly is better at cooking and enjoys it a lot so I dont want to take that away from him. The solution for me was to get more into baking 😊 something he doesnt know much about but I have much more experience with. (For some reason my mother would involve me and teach me a lot in baking but not really cooking. I think she didnt like it as much either lol)
We are the same! Except that we often just cook together - I chop stuff, he puts it together. Or vice versa. It's a really nice, calm part of the day. :)
I always like the video before even watching 10 seconds of it ☺️ I get all giddy when I see a new video from you. I always leave more knowledgeable and just happier after watching your content
We have to remember we have to earn our right to have a woman like this and do our part as head of household husbands. Simps and being mean, lazy, unmotivated isn't going to cut it. They do this because they "see" us working hard.
This Is a dream for very man. I do It for my Daddy, because I live with my parents,but it's a big satisfaction do this kind of things for him who works all day. I'll hope to do It very soon for an husband like you do. Thanks for your wonderful video,as usual. Kisses
One of the best things I’ve learned from being married is that my husband is my best friend but not my girlfriend. He does not communicate like a woman and I shouldn’t expect him to fill me up like a best girlfriend would. So I need to cultivate friendships with women. I used to make sure that I had a good phone conversation with my girlfriend before I went out on a date with my husband. He is more introverted and does not need to hash out all the details of what I did or want to do with our home. Or he does not need to know about how I’m changing my hair routine or I found out what color season I am. He DOES need me to be an active listener. Second DATE your husband!! Once a week without fail. It will save your marriage.
I accidentally came across your channel. This is a special episode. I've been married for 26 years. Marriage is a blessing and a partnership. It's nice to see a Christian lady with U tube channel which helps the young women. Being a lady is important no matter when generation one is from. Thank
Since our wedding a little over 2 years ago we have known 5 different couples who have divorced...the majority of them put each other down all the time, argued in front of others and never had anything nice to say about one another. Showing your husband respect and remembering you are on the same team is super important!
"Start small, start simple, and build from there" Me: **throws a pack of uncooked ramen at my husband** bone app the teeth honey Just kidding im actually a good cook and not married. Or in a relationship. But i thought that was funny and it made me cringe a little.
I came here from a ‘bash’ video because I wanted to see the full thing instead of clips.. I’m 3 videos in now and this is actually good advice. Not only towards you’re significant other but towards everyone in you’re life that you love. I’m totally a gay, but it’s great advice and I will be taking pieces of this and applying it to my life. Being selfish in any aspect of life isn’t a good habit to have. So honestly thank you for the advice that I didn’t expect. I will probably keep following these videos tbh 😅
Complimenting and honoring your husband in front of others will only be appreciated if you do the exact same thing in private, however. Otherwise, he will recognize (and rightly so) that you’re just making yourself look like a good wife in front of others, without the genuine and consistent sentiment to back it up. A lot of wives do this. 😕Something to always keep in mind (somewhat touched on in another point). 😊 Anticipating needs is an important one that’s very easy to do before children, but really takes more significant effort and prioritization once you’re a mother. A good one for moms to focus on! 😊
I thank my boyfriend for spending time with me, it does make me feel a little weird because obviously he should spend time with me, but I just feel the need to thank him 🤷
This is true and also one thing I would say that I think is really good for my marriage is that I keep all our problems between three people me, my husband and God. This is so key because for all the christian ladies out there defiling your marital bed is a quick route to destruction of your marriage. Everything to everyone is always good and you can and should refuse to answer inappropriate questions that prey into your marriage because a marriage is between you, your husband and God not even your parents or siblings.
Thank you for another amazing video 🤗 You help me to become more feminine everyday and to be more confident as a feminine woman🌹 I really have to work on my mental and emotional health though 🙄 Greetings from Germany and God bless 🙏🏻
You give real solid advice. Especially for someone so young. You have a gift, and are using it to bless others. Good for you! I'm glad I subscribed a while ago. It's nice to see a young lady being centered and well spoken.
I so appreciate this video ❤️. My mother 35 years later still makes hot meals for my dad, and serves him also. My dad can also cook, and even does her laundry sometimes. I have caught myself criticizing her sometimes , but each day I am learning to embrace that and not let society dictate my mentality .
Love you videos. And I love the insightful advice you offer but certain tips such as cooking for your significant other should only be reserved for marriage and not if you're dating that person. I have a friend of mine who has been with her boyfriend for 8 years. She has confided in me that she constantly wonders when he'll pop the question of her marrying him and says she doesn't know what to do. She cooks for him, cleans the house up (she's somewhat of a neat freak), is attentive to his needs, and on the occasions my boyfriend and I accompanied her and her boyfriend on a double date, she has never belittled him or disrespected him in front of company. It made me wonder if the reason he hasn't yet proposed is because she is giving him "wife benefits" and he doesn't feel the need to propose if he already has a girlfriend acting as a wife for him without the title. I advised her to simply have a private conversation with him and ask him, if it really bothers her. She said that she has tried and he'd brush it off and say he's "planning" on it which she doesn't know what he means by that since it's been a few months. At this point I suggest to give him an ultimatum: a proposal or an end to the relationship. Thoughts??
I'm not sure if you've seen the Office, but there's an episode literally titled "The Ultimatum" where one of the characters says to another, "And I don't know about you, but I don't know of a lot of happy marriages that start off with an ultimatum, do you?" and I agree with that 100%. Your friend has invested 8 YEARS in to a man who is happy to take advantage of her "wife benefits" with no plans to commit to her by giving her "marriage benefits". You're exactly right about that. But, if she has to give an ultimatum, it still won't change that he didn't want to marry her of his own free will. I'm so sorry that she is going through this situation, because it is heartbreaking that she is clearly so devoted and worthy of becoming a wife, but at the end of the day, she is with a man who doesn't want what she wants and forcing his hand to marry her will only end in resentment, and more than likely, an unhappy marriage.
@@lindserzz Thank you for taking the time to respond and I understand what you're saying. My boyfriend advised me to stay out of their situation and let them figure it out but he doesn't see her cry the way I do. I guess the best thing for her to do is to end the relationship rather than provide him an ultimatum because forced marriages aren't as genuine and most likely won't last. It'll be hard for her but better alone and sane than in a relationship and losing one's sanity and sense of self.
Don't present it as an ultimatum...tell her to try this "I love you and you're important to me , but what would fulfill me at this point in my life is to be a wife, not a girlfriend. I will need to reconsider this relationship." Wait two weeks. If nothing changes, leave.
I thanked my fiancé for all his hard work trying to get our new life together set up and ready to go and I got a spontaneous lunch date out of it! Our men truly do love to hear that they are appreciated!
My partner just spent the past weekend planning all the logistics for our cross-country 3.5-day move. I've been lavishing him with praise on that one because I HATE planning stuff like that.
Can't count the times I've scrolled up to like your video to see I already did😭❤️ I'm not married yet but both me and my BF look for something longterm in our relationship, fun fact also waiting till marriage, and being feminine, honest, and and the best person I can be to him really work out the things we struggle with, I can't thank you enough for your comtinuous inspiration on how to be a good woman to those around me❤️ I'd also really love it if you go deeply into the topic of how to have the most construtive discussions over the things that challenge our relationships and how to hold one's principle and convince the other on what's best to the family unity without sounding authoritive and how to keep it from escalating to an argument? Thank you again Kaitlyn❤️❤️❤️
"Little house on the mountain" is kinda similar. I love watching her videos also. She shares recipes for both food and beauty products and shows what she does at home being a home maker!
I second Daily Connoisseur and Nikki Moreno :) also check out The Simply Luxurious Life. Her videos are actually just her podcast, The Simple Sophisticate, but her content is fabulous! She also runs a beautiful blog and has two books. I don't believe she is a Christian, but she carries many traditional views and favors a life of intention, frugal luxury, and stepping in to femininity.
Wow sorry I have to totally disagree on the point on mental health... The advice that you gave young woman, to NOT talk to your husband about mental problems and seek out other therapy means!! This is mind blowing....if you cannot talk to your partner, then you definitely won't confide in a therapist. Now for example after not communicating with your husband regarding your mental instability or stability is detrimental and triggers bad communication, distances both partners, your husband leaving you, which can lead to suicide!! Please read the statistics before spreading irresponsible opinions onto young people. Extremely irresponsible point!! Please accept this criticism you seem lovely, we all learn everyday for life...no one is perfect!
Sorry for the late reply, but I just found your channel not too long ago! I just wanted to say that Iove this list and couldn't agree more! My husband goes above and beyond to show me that I'm loved and cherished and I think it's great to have some tips to give back to him, too
Mrs. Midwest can you help me? I am currently going through divorce. It was not what I wanted by any means, and I fought very hard for my marriage after being taken by total surprise when he left me and our children. We have been separated for over a year now since he moved out to be in a relationship with someone else (I suspect he had been having an affair). I am seeing someone new now as I feel like God has tried to show me over and over that my current husband is not what is best for me. But I feel like a total failure since my marriage failed. I don't feel worthy, or normal. I also worry because I still do love my husband and wish it had worked out, so I feel like I'm being unfair to my current boyfriend. How do I get past these feelings and fears and be ok moving forward. Sorry, for such a long rambling post. Please Help!
I love the idea of putting EFFORT into your marriage and going out of your way to please/bless your partner! It seems obvious but you never hear these things being said lately!!
Cooking......yes love... I am NOT a chef but when I cook for my husband he will eat anything I serve because he loves the fact that I try. I have gotten better over the years--30-- lol...he feels blessed every day when he comes home to a home cooked meal... he provides an amazing life and lifestyle for me so it’s the least I can do.
You're about to hit 60k!!🎉🎉 been here since 30k🙋🏼♀️ I love how fast your channel is growing, it makes us feel less alone💓 THANK YOU for everything you do !
Well finaly some real femininity. If a man has a wife with a quality like these ,caring and loving then we repay it ten fold. It is about mutal respect and love. Caring is showing.
This channel is the best thing EVEEEER!!!! I LOVE IT!! You're providing such great influence in my life!! Please never stop making these videos❤❤❤I appreciate you❤❤
Thank you Mrs Midwest. Your videos are making my marriage better. I care for my wife as well and do all sorts of loving things, however i today’s world (western only, mind you!) women are pushed by some mainstream media agendas to make them and their men unhappy. I am so glad your channel exists. When my wife found it and moved from Kardashians to you... she is almost instantly a new woman. She loves me, but being young in her early twenties, she needed a woman to hear this from. And guess what, as a result we are all happier. And to the feminists out there: I am already trying my best and doing everything I could think of to make her happy. Also for feminists, many men cant be truly happy if their women is, however you pointing them out that and rubbing in their nose is counter productive. Men have masculinity and women femininity. It is bad when femininity tries to be masculine and masculine feminine. Thank you for this channel. For women who WANT to learn, who want to be good... to even have a choice. Even if this channel is one in 1000, still, a good woman now will find it resonate in her heart and chose it vs Kardashians and the rest of feminists society. Thank you.
Interesting video. One thing I am wondering about is why females are regularly labelled as “bossy” but if males exhibit the same behaviour it’s “leadership potential/skills”.
Yes it is so silly especially because even if you believe in a "traditional" idea of femininity/womanhood, leadership (negatively referred to as "bossiness") is still required. it takes leadership skills to run a household and especially to raise children. It's so weird that we label this as a negative trait when it comes to women.
