my mom always told me keep some money in a separate account because you never know what happens and you need to have your own money. hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
If you are stalking your ex online while we are in a relationship, you are obviously not ready to be with anyone else. You need to get over your ex first.
Eh. It depends on whether "stalking" is meant literally or in the exaggerated sense. Like, I FB stalk a lot of people I am not romantically interested in. Heck, I looked up that kid I kissed in kindergarten once. I hardly thing I'm not over him.
danayshia coping But there's no need to keep it secret. Like Jeannie said in a previous episode discuss finances before marriage so you are both on the same page. Having the separate bank account isn't the problem, it's keeping it a secret that's the problem.
Im with tamera and adrienne in this one. Idk why everyone is hating on adrienne. Like there is nothing wrong with having a separate bank account but why is it a secret? Each put a certain amount of your paycheck in a joint account...to pay bills, to save up to buy a house, children's education fund, etc. I believe in 2 of everything. 1 joint savings, 1 joint checking, and each have your own savings and checking accounts as well. Use the joint accounts for joint expenses and your individual accounts for whatever you want. But no need to keep secrets imo. TRUST your partner.
Mara Okafor the reason to keep it a secret is because when going through a divorce you have to disclose all finances and holdings. If he knows that it is there, then he might report and you still you have to give up half. If no body knows and you don't disclose it then that's all yours.
Getting a separate bank account is not whack, it's smart. There has been so many horror stories of couple who are married and would trust each other with their lives and a few years in get into an argument or get separated and one cleans out the other of all their cash and runs away with someone else. I'm never gonna Be the one left looking stupid 💅🏾 Hope for the best, prepare for the worst
Damn straight 💯 nothing wrong with protecting and looking out for yourself because no marriage is guaranteed to last no matter how much in love you think you are..things can change like that ...y'all divorced...he moving on with his life and you broke as a joke..please!!!
But why is it a secret? If I’m with someone and he tells me he has another bank account, I would do the same thing. Not like the other person can just get into it without your permission.
This shows how they are hypocrites and change their ideas like people change underwear. There are multiple videos where they say separate bank accounts for women are smart to protect themselves....
The fact that an ex knows about me and I don't know about them shows that I'm more important. I don't give a damn about my mans corny ass exes 😂😂😂 And as far as that secret bank account goes, that's not whack. That's being prepared. You never divorce the same person you married. People can change in a split second and you never know when you'll need some back up
Fifi Lauren exactly what jeanie was trynna say. but look at the comments. sometimes i feel like most of the real viewers r super naive super religious ladies who spent half of their day in church who know nothing about the world and judge everyone. keeping a separate bank account is such a good decision. i am tired of real and its comments lately.
If you get a divorce you are going to have to reveal all of your accounts anyway though so why keep it secret? So he doesn't try and gain access to it during the marriage? Me and my spouse would have a joint account for bills and separate accounts that we each know about.
K Henderson In my current situation I would not keep a bank account secret but some people have maybe had bad past relationships or maybe their feelings are starting to change and they want to be prepared. Every situation is different. I just don't like the fact that a lot of people in the comments are judging people when they don't understand or aren't trying to understand the context in which one would have a separate secret bank account
K Henderson There are people that hide accounts or put money in someone else's name; and unless you have an expensive private investigator, you most likely will never find those accounts.
Fifi Lauren I will say this it’s whack if you don’t tell them you have it because you actually would have to fork over half that account in some states if it’s found out about during a divorce
I don't care how wack y'all think it is. My daddy taught me when I go on a date to have enough money to get home on my own if I need it, best believe I'll have that account if I need it when I'm married.
sorry Adrienne but when people get divorced or break up they become PETTY.. you have to look out for yourself, keep a personal account for a rainy day.
My stepmom taught me a long time ago that I don't have to share every single detail with the person I'm with and I agree with her. When I do get married I'll share everything that involves us and affect us both, but if there are stuff that don't really affect him or our relationship then I don't see the need to have to share it.
In general there are things you need to know especially when the both parties are serious I for sure wanna know what am I getting myself into likewise the other person have equal rights to know about me. I do agree if there are things that would be a problem to the relationship eventually then its okay to not hurt the person you love in a way. Sometimes there are things that better left unsaid. Yes I wanna know but I wont wanna go in detailes like did you cum how long was it for, was it good what color panties were you waring or was he big. I think you have its okay to do the background check but so much of details then you're torture my living soul for being a human that did so things I'm not proud of we are not perfect. #1 if you're afriad of the judgements thad comes after thad and you know know its unesscesly for those jugdements its totally okay to show some self love. And who knows if he's telling the truth maybe the other person thinks the same way some truth hurts. I know I handle things that he did and told me which was not good or expected I stayed humble repesct him and would question those things at times. I do trust him but heads up fam not everything you heard is true. This is me I didnt love you then I shouldn't care but at times we all have inscurities its a normal human thing.
@soapqueen2008 For certain things its okay to share and most importantly you know what you have to deal or has been dealing with so when or if that time comes you'll know what you should say it all depends on your partner behaviour and understanding. Its all okay to be honest but sometimes we cant handle the truth as much we wanna be honest some people cant deal with other people honesty
I don't know I'm a little with Adrienne and ...Loni. If you messed (whatever type pf relationship) with someone and we're at a party and you see that person ...give me a heads up. I don't want to know every single detail between y'all but don't let that chick have a one up on me.
jvrbreaker and I say, If you can go somewhere else, do that too so that you both can have a great outing, but if one doesn’t want to go, then you can find out the respect tip and comfort level of who it is who wants to stay.
As a Christian and a God fearing women, WHEN I get married I don't think keeping secrets from my husband is something I would do lol I want him to know everything (as he should) and vice versa
Alexia Nicole you're a little naive. It's not a sin to keep some things to yourself and not tell your partner. They don't need to know everything about you. Some things are best kept to yourself or between you and God.
Indi jay+ It's my life. I'm not telling you guys how to live yours. If the Holy Spirit checks me and let's me know that I'm opening up too much then I'll check myself, otherwise what you guys are telling me is invalid. My life, my relationship with MY future husband, and MY relationship with God. Unless God HIMSELF checks me, I'm good. I don't live for y'all. :')
Yup I'm exactly like Tamara and Adrienne!! That's how u stay happy and trust eachother. I don't care what they did before they were with me and it won't hurt me but I need to know.
It's just something you talk about to get to know each other even better. A woman or man might be or might have been different with somebody else and you might not have seen that in your own relationship.
I understand both sides but I agree more with Adrienne and Tamera. I'm a really chill girl, I'm not the extremely jealous type who blows up if a girl says hi or if you like another girl's photo, that's really petty tbh. I don't need to know every single thing, but the important stuff like serious relationships and all of that, I would want to know because they were important in some way to my guy. but it don't hurt to be aware if any exes try to come crawling back. I can put them in check.
I'm with Adrienne and Tamera on this one. No it's not ok to keep secrets from your husband. I need to know everything and he needs to know everything. We need to keep each other in check and on point for the sake of our life, marriage, and family.
And this is why so many relationships today fail. No commitment, having one foot already out the door, or an eye out for the next best thing. Why be with somebody if you are so paranoid? Full commitment and transparency is expected from the man but he will never receive the same, will he?
team loni and jeannie on this one. adrienne and tamera just sound insecure to me. also, i resent the explanation tamera gave of "maybe it's just the girl in me. sometimes we're nosy." that's not a gendered thing, boo. that's a personality thing.
I agree, and I like that just because Jeanie is married she doesn't always side with Tamera and Adrienne. The show would get pretty boring if it was always "married women" VS. "Loni. Lol
NO! Keeping a separate bank account in secret is not whack, Adrienne. It can be a good thing especially when your spouse is addicted to gambling (for example)
Perfectly fine and recommended on that secret bank account. Not whack. you never know when you might need that and everybody isn't good with managing money. My money I had b4 marriage isn't about to be run up.
I'm with Jeannie and Loni. Now, If we happened to run into an ex, I wouldn't leave you out of the loop and I would want the same, but that's where it ends. The only thing that interests me about your ex-girlfriends is that they are your EX-girlfriends. You need pictures? Childish. You couldn't pay me to care about another woman's mental tally of who knows what--of who's "winning". I don't get why her perception of who's winning matters. She is a non-factor who will be given no relevance. What I look like having sat down and discussed YOU in our current relationship. I'd find it to be more of a drag if I met her, "Sorry boo, you didn't come up". The way I see it, if you ever feel like you have to compete for your man, he is not your man.
Trust me the women may be telling everything but the men sure ain't. And having a separate bank account is a wonderful idea bc with the way how relationships and marriages are these days, it's a very smart idea
Lizzette Sanchez everyone Wants to believe they have the best of the best of the which none is, even if a women knew of wrongs, she will back him up in public, keep pride, and hopefully be dealing with the issues in private. I trust God and NO MAN. I’m always listening and watching, women too, and even myself, and rebuke my self as needed. This man told me, that people talk out of the side of their neck, and the meaning that I took from that was, People say one thing and believe and do another.
This reminds me of when they brought up Rob Kardashian, adrienne wasn't having it and said she didn't care about who rob is with since she moved on and had no feelings lingering for him...
Bank account is the only one I disagree with. Both couples should have a private bank account for safety. Personally I would tell my spouse that I have one but it depends on the situation and I think it’s also reasonable for it to be secret.
My mom always told me to never say / reveal all your secrets to your partner . I intend to follow her advice , as long as it's not life threatening , or dangerous why should I reveal it ?
My boyfriend and I had a conversation about this a few weeks ago where ... we questioned whether it was necessary to go into detail about each others' exes and I thought I was mature enough to handle it BUT I found myself actually getting upset and jealous about the things he told me about their relationship .. but in part I'm glad I know .. Theres nothing to be mad about cause that was his past, I just had to suck it up and accept it.
cutiepie44507 I’m late to this... but I definitely just went through the same thing! I feel so boring compared to his EX’s. Part of me is like why did I even ask? Idk I still don’t know how to feel.
whits water we need to go to different places, be involved with other events, grow in as many areas as possible and get a new perspective or future friendly life. If you keep worrying, you can become sick, and so sick that you and me will forget about living the gift of life that we have. Men aren’t everything. God is, and they and we know no more than God or the devil tells us-whichever Oone we decide to follow.
iamgold I agree, I love Jeannie but I would NEVER take relationship advice from her. Not when she married but single, no ma'am! Me and my boyfriend tell each other EVERYTHING and we have been together 7 years ❤
Jeannie I feel like you put Freddie on back burner and your not so excited or I love with him. Everything u say or your actions seems to believe marriage wasn't really what u wanted. But I still love u girl
yeawheh taylor everyone shows their love and affection differently. jeannie and freddie have an enormous amount of trust; enough for them to have that kind of dynamic people find so strange, but you can definitely tell they love each other deeply.
1. I don't need a list of who my partner has been with (I will need proof of an STD test though). Just give me a heads up if we run into one of them or they try to reestablish contact. 2. Having a secret account is shady to me. Just go into the relationship letting your partner know you want a joint account and separate accounts. Get a prenup stating the separate accounts and retirement funds will not be split in the event of a divorce.
Littytae that's exactly the point Adrienne was making I'm sure you would've appreciated knowing that cuz you were the one looking stupid with not knowing that
Littytae that’s unsettling in the gut. You know something’s just not right, and, maybe right now. He stiffens up, she keeps staring, and you keep staring at her because he lied...that was one of my situations.
Am I the only one who feels like Adrienne was being kinda immature in this??? I feel like this season she's been more mature but she seems to be different in this segment. No shade though
Dee Dee the other girl may seriously be the other girl, and may have been invited by him, and he may still be with her if he or she recognized her so soon. Maybe the relationship is not over. On the flip side, the relationship, if it is right, is between the husband and wife, if it truly is, but if there is deceit, both know it. Don’t Play!
Having a conversation with someone when you initially start dating about past relationships etc. Is perfectly acceptable (wanting to understand why a past serious relationship may have ended, if you're in an interracial or interfaith relationship maybe you're curious about their past experiences etc. and so forth - real questions of magnitude ) but once you're in a serious relationship or married why are you prying into your partners past, at that point you should know who you're with. Wanting to know about who the exes are and what they look like screams insecurity - who cares, he's/she's with you now. I do agree if you walk into a room and your ex (from a real relationship) happens to be there, you should say something to your partner but on a regular day why do I need to name my exes off, give you a profile and show pictures? Vice versa I'm not going to ask..if I'm secure in myself and in my relationship what is the point? The past is the past, every one has one, you should be looking towards the future.
having a 2nd bank account is smart actually..anything can go wrong in a relationship. .either a death or cheating or they just leave out of the blue leaving you with nothing. .it's not wack Adrienne
My mom always says "A man don't need to know every single detail of your life", why? Because everyone has secrets, and they are the first ones to keep them hidden.
I feel like it’s important to still be an individual even when are married. Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you get so invested in the other person, neglecting yourself.I do agree that you need to communicate with your significant other if another guy/ your ex tries to text you or something, however keeping certain intimate details about yourself is important so you still feel like you are an individual outside of your relationship.
Thinking about what the article has said and it got me thinking that there are certain things that I would like to keep between me, myself, and I and/or myself, the Lord, and the Devil.
My mum always said keep your money separate and be independent so if anything happens you know how to take care of yourself. Separate accounts I agree with
i think knowing how many women he has been with is important because you want to make sure the person is clean and healthy before getting intimate. i hear that in California.. they are planning to decriminalize the act of not telling your sexual partner if you have HIV. so its good to know things about your partner.
