I am a 32-year-old man. My childhood best friend and I reconnected 5 years ago when I worked in South Africa. He is married with one child. I'm planning to marry and that will be my hot topic. Two years ago I relocated to Zimbabwe. My friend gave me money to give to his girlfriend in Harare. As friends, I did not ask for much. I met this girl. She was 24 at the time and strikingly beautiful. My friend would come to see her once or twice a year because he traveled with his wife most of the time and it was difficult for him to visit his girlfriend. The year flew by and this girl complained to me about her boyfriend's situation. He promised to marry her, but there haven't been any introductions yet. My friend had assured me that there was nothing serious between him and his girlfriend. I decided to tell her everything that was against the bro code. She was hurt because she waited for her boyfriend to marry her and called off the relationship. She pointed out to him that long distance doesn't work. I begged her not to mention anything about marriage because my friend would know I told her. We didn't talk for about 5 months then I met her at a show in December. Weeks after that we started dating and 6 months later we are expecting a baby together. I want to marry her at the end of April, but how can I do that without my right-hand man and my best friend? I don't know how to present my case to him. I saw a flower and picked it up to make it mine. Despite telling him, my sister advised me to keep him out of the proceedings. She feels it’s wise to let him know after I am done with lobola. I don't know what to do. I need your help! Should I follow my sister's advice?
10 сен 2024
