How and When to Break Up With Your Therapist

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How do you know if you are ready to end therapy? And how do you tell your therapist?
Ending therapy can feel like a break-up. It comes with guilt or uncomfortable feelings about saying goodbye. So in today's video we talk about how and when to break up with your therapist and what to ask for/how to prepare.
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Deniss
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23 май 2021

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@spockthevulcan 9 месяцев назад

I'm quitting therapy because after 12 years I've finally accepted that there is ZERO cognative therapy that will help my diagnosis of Bipolar 2 - ADHD with RSD and Anxiety. Even my medications don't seem to help except the benzodiazapine allows me to function...the trade-off, I'm physically dependant on it for life. Anyway I just cancelled my appointment and said I'd call back to rescedule, it's not a lie, if I want to go back I'll call her.

@SGKUser1972 Год назад

I am here because I feel very uncomfortable to end a therapeutic relationship lasting for 6 years and I have personal reasons to break up with the person.

@laurachandler1562 Год назад

Terminating therapy is not the same thing as "breaking up" with your partner or best friend. Your therapist does see things differently than you. Your therapist is not your friend. Your relationship with your therapists is purely business. Your therapist is getting paid to provide a service to you. Your therapist could care less if you did terminate therapy, because your therapist will replace your time slot with another patient.

@dwaynediah4595 3 месяца назад

Im go through this right now I will naver open up ever again mental health keep it to myself

@kira5612 Год назад

This was such a helpful video! I have been struggling a lot with my anxiety and my whole life has basically been me trying to advocate for myself and prove to people that I need help. The therapist I’m currently seeing is very nice. But I just keep feeling the same anxiety and I feel like we haven’t actually dove into the big issues in my life and past. Which is really stressful because there are things like my past experiences and even me making it clear that I need a diagnosis or just some clarity on my mental health and I keep feeling like each session is just like me having a vent with a friend. Which isn’t bad but I don’t learn any coping skills or anything I can use out of therapy. It’s been tough because I’m tempted to just quit therapy all together because I just haven’t found a therapist who seems to understand and also it’s been tough because some of my trauma is from my experience with people being racist towards me and it’s hard to feel like I matter or can speak freely when most of the mental healthcare has been with me being the only person of color in the room. Which isn’t bad I suppose it just makes me more anxious having to explain even more. This video definitely gave me something to think about. And I just hope that therapy doesn’t keep being something that makes me more anxious. Thank you for such a lovely video 😊

@TherapyExplained Год назад

I'm so happy to hear the video helped! I know it can be hard to find a good match, but don't give up. I encourage you bring up what you feel with your therapist. They might be able to adjust. If you decide to change therapists, see my resources page for my recommended listings and if you are in California, consider requesting a free consultation at my practice: www.toctherapy.org/resources

@jamietiller429 2 года назад

I'm here because my therapist keeps falling asleep and spacing out during sessions. I definitely still need it but not from someone who sleeps or doesn't pay attention for 1/4th of the session. My biggest struggle is that she always wants to schedule months and months ahead of time, (up to 4 months sometimes, and weekly, and with a very expensive price per session) which I'm too awkward to say no to or cancel even if I do follow through with scheduling. And I'm also too nervous to try and mention the issue of her falling asleep during sessions. I obviously need to switch to someone else, but the biggest problem I struggle with is feeling bad for no longer wanting her as my therapist, and being unsure if I should tell her that she's falling asleep or spacing out during sessions. I feel it's only fair to the both of us to tell her, but at the same time I feel like she obviously knows this is happening and just simply doesn't acknowledge or address it herself. I'm at a loss on how to handle this. If you are able to give any advice on the situation whatsoever, I'd be extremely grateful for it. Thank you for putting this video out there for people like me that need a little extra advice and guidance on making these decisions. Again, if you have advice I'd be so so grateful, but if not I'm grateful for the video in the first place.

@TherapyExplained 2 года назад

I'm so happy to hear that the video was helpful! And I'm so sorry to hear about your experience. You deserve to feel heard and validated in therapy and you absolutely have a right to say something if that's not happening. I would encourage you to journal about how you feel and what you would like your therapist to know in order to help you get your thoughts in order. It will be uncomfortable but that's where we grow. Hopefully she'll be open to the feedback and if not, that will give you your answer and send you on your way to finding a therapist that fits you best.

@kingzombie951 8 месяцев назад

My therpist just left didnt even give me time. I was having insurance issues. Is this my fault i now this i a terrible place to talk about it but have nowhere else. I thought she would maybe wait maybe just stop sessins till i can figure out insurance. Never going to thearpy again becuse that therpist broke my trust in no way somone has done in my life. I need thearpy just to fix my last couple therpist. But i dont trust the system

@haunteddreams7856 Год назад

My support we go places and take our chats to cafes but she is leaving in 2 weeks its been incredibly hard to get over the fact that to her its a job so when shes gone shes gone ..... But to use she was that person we really needed.

@Eddi3xBac0n Год назад

seen my therapist for three weeks and it went nowhere. i still wake up and have to deal with me. it is a waste of time talking to someone. i might as well get a dog because its the same thing

@DeanaaR 2 года назад

I have therapy in a few but she only talks about stuff relationship and my anxiety and depression went up and I’m not comfortable anymore but I’m super close too her so I don’t know how to say bye to her

@TherapyExplained 2 года назад

I would encourage you to bring this up to her. Let her know that you feel the sessions focus on this and then let her know what you DO want to talk about. In general, therapist just want to help and we welcome back feedback.

@Stayler17 2 месяца назад

Just tell them through text. They aren't your friend

@Pravduh 3 года назад

I appreciate this! I’ve been having a lot of anxiety because today, I will tell my therapist that I would like to start a termination plan. I like my therapist, and she has helped me so much, but I feel like it’s no longer working. Our sessions for the past year have been over the phone (as I have requested), but unable to visit her office because she lives elsewhere. She recommended a hypnotherapist in addition to her help, and she gave me resources. I found a therapist that she recommended, and I see so much more progress just in the last couple of sessions. The fact that I can see her at her office is significant for me. Also, she gives me homework after our visit (which I love). The session is structured very well and will go deep and ask much more questions with constant feedback. My primary therapist has helped me with so much over the year, and it feels like I’m breaking up with a friend. I’ve ultimately opened up because I trust her, and she is always supportive. The fact that she gave me a resource for hypnotherapy and I realized that I like this new therapist (LMFT) hurts because this made me realize that I needed to find another method of help. The phone calls just aren’t working for me anymore, and the way the new therapist structures the sessions had made me realize that I can come out feeling much more accomplished compared to my primary therapist. I love my primary therapist because she helped me during the darkest moment of my life, and I’m heartbroken. I appreciate your advice. It’s helping me better understand how I can effectively and appropriately ask for a termination plan.

@TherapyExplained 3 года назад

You are very welcome! I know it's a bit scary but as therapists, we WANT you to feel confident and capable even if it means it's not with us. Your healing is what matters most 🤎