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How being heartbroken was the best thing to ever happen to me: Emma Gibbs at TEDxSouthBankWomen 

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Emma Gibbs is a writer, producer, organiser and storyteller.From dystopian futures and undersea adventures to marriage equality and other matters of the heart, Emma's passion is to tell truly great stories across all platforms.
In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

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@MissssTai
@MissssTai 7 лет назад
Wow, dealing with someone who 'does not love you enough to fight for you' really hit me. That type of rejection really HURTS, I'm trying to get past that now. It's heart wrenching
@isabelolivas2721
@isabelolivas2721 7 лет назад
Taiwo Bali , im going through that right now..
@MissssTai
@MissssTai 7 лет назад
Isabel girl!!!! Honestly you'll be just fine. I'm looking back to where I was then compared to where I am now and the difference is astounding. No more tears, no more sleepless nights, no more being a hermit that wants to reside in the dark. A book called 'It's a Breakup because it's broken' really helped me! You will be good soon! Sending you love & light 💫
@isabelolivas2721
@isabelolivas2721 7 лет назад
i just feel sometimes leaving tge realtionship but im scared of tge pain ill go tgrough and scared to do it on my own and wuth my daughter and go through all that pain on my own besides that im almost 18 yrs old...
@katrinase7006
@katrinase7006 7 лет назад
is it okay if you could send me some of the pages of the book that could help me? My boyfriend just decided to end it and I could see that he's really happy now. I tried to save the relationship and I even put the extra effort for it to work. It's just sad how he doesnt even seem to care
@isabelolivas2721
@isabelolivas2721 7 лет назад
Katrina Se I'm so sorry about that ): you'll get through it though. you'll find someone who sees and appreciates your efforts. don't worry. (: for now just focus on how you can better yourself and how you can move forward.
@sondrehansen2547
@sondrehansen2547 8 лет назад
All failed relationships hurt, but losing someone who dosent appreciate and respect u is actually a gain, not a loss. Edit: Old account, you probably won't see this but I'm glad to see this comment helped some of you.
@LoisPalcuMindandBodyHealth
@LoisPalcuMindandBodyHealth 7 лет назад
Thank you for this comment.
@Lauren-ds3vw
@Lauren-ds3vw 7 лет назад
With time and perspective you begin to realize this, but not to start.
@amberbriggs19
@amberbriggs19 7 лет назад
Lois Palcu yjjz. Mlplnmnsr bghhyyawwtueiiiiy
@DAMJULZ
@DAMJULZ 6 лет назад
Sondre ... Very true
@poonamsrivastava4370
@poonamsrivastava4370 6 лет назад
Thanks a lot.
@igelido
@igelido 9 лет назад
"It's really difficult to deal with... Loving someone so much when they don't love you enough to fight for you. It really, it makes you question your own self-worth."
@rickvassell8349
@rickvassell8349 9 лет назад
Makes me wonder about who I've let down
@mschew110
@mschew110 9 лет назад
ixfxlxg Uggh, that got me the feels. I've been working through exactly this feeling. I'm finally learning to be okay with it. He just isn't the one for me. That's not my fault or his.
@naomiestrella8453
@naomiestrella8453 9 лет назад
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@arahkane
@arahkane 9 лет назад
It's so real, I hate it.
@naomiestrella8453
@naomiestrella8453 9 лет назад
Ph ok
@MrsNunya
@MrsNunya 8 лет назад
“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.” That last one. So hard to do.
@LD-mv3bk
@LD-mv3bk 8 лет назад
so touching love that
@ella4mason
@ella4mason 8 лет назад
I definitely agree with. that is wisdom right. Thank you, MrsNunya!
@ella4mason
@ella4mason 8 лет назад
I definitely agree with you. that is wisdom right there. Thank you, MrsNunya!
@Leelz247
@Leelz247 7 лет назад
I'm going through that right now. It's horrible.
@tatoo1901
@tatoo1901 7 лет назад
I agree with this
@emmamgibbs
@emmamgibbs 10 лет назад
Thank you everyone for being so kind and supportive. I am truly touched!
@sexistrabbit
@sexistrabbit 9 лет назад
This speech encapsulated everything I've been through. Truly, thank you for being vulnerable and reminding me how much potential life gives us when we're not distracted by bad relationships.
@mjkittredge
@mjkittredge 9 лет назад
You're so sensitive and emotional
@zakiyzakarya
@zakiyzakarya 9 лет назад
you helped me Emma going through my divorce . I was lying to myself too . I watched your video over and over every day I felt that is me speaking about my relationship .
@Spidouz
@Spidouz 9 лет назад
Jack Penny Seriously? Do you really think it's appropriate to write that way to anyone, just because you're on your keyboard? Or are you also talking that way to women you even don't know? If so, you're just disgusting and a disturbed man that really needs to consult a mental health specialist to get some help to learn to behave properly in society. Otherwise, just get lost...
@Spidouz
@Spidouz 9 лет назад
Jack Penny You seem to be a very nice and educated person deep down... I mean, really really deep down! LOL
@SGKeiana
@SGKeiana 7 лет назад
"When they don't even love you enough to fight for you." killed me.
@isabelolivas2721
@isabelolivas2721 7 лет назад
same. 💔😔
@renzjiutoro7896
@renzjiutoro7896 7 лет назад
SGKeiana same 💔
@timpickering8109
@timpickering8109 7 лет назад
Sums up my current heartbreak. It's a hard pill to swallow.
@SGKeiana
@SGKeiana 7 лет назад
I'm very sorry you, or anyone is going through that right now, hang in there! :(
@chrisssyd
@chrisssyd 7 лет назад
Same
@internatianil
@internatianil 5 лет назад
Being in a breakup is one of the best things that can ever happen to someone. It gives you a moment to reflect on yourself.
@antg4403
@antg4403 3 года назад
69th like as I’m currently shattered with heartbreak. Nice
@danielarodriguez9701
@danielarodriguez9701 3 года назад
I'm so heartbroken right now, hurting so much. I want to believe this is true
@Travelteez
@Travelteez 3 года назад
@@danielarodriguez9701 It's almost impossible to see it now because you're in panic mode and heartbroken. Your brain chemistry is not letting you see clearly so it's very normal to feel the way you're feeling. You will heal and when you do, you'll see the positive. Take this time to focus on yourself and grow. If you ever need someone to reach out to, you're welcome to DM me.
@TheSakufighter
@TheSakufighter 3 года назад
And on the relationship itself without the other person trying to rewrite the narrative all the time.
@Travelteez
@Travelteez 3 года назад
@@antg4403 How do you feel now?
@itsiwhatitsi
@itsiwhatitsi 10 лет назад
Heartbreak is the symptom that you have a soul
@dbsk06
@dbsk06 4 года назад
Itsiwhatitsi so true. It’s a tragedy that it’s often portrayed as weakness
@MrsNunya
@MrsNunya 8 лет назад
He and I do not want the same things. One person cannot be the whole relationship. It takes two. Since he does not love me, that is my proof that he is not the one meant for me. I cut the spiritual ropes that bind us. I free him to fulfill his dreams. I free myself to fulfill my own. I release him with love. I shall love again.
@vathyah5428
@vathyah5428 6 лет назад
Omg this is beautiful.
@gabrieladevecchis813
@gabrieladevecchis813 5 лет назад
where is this from?
@freddiepyramid9868
@freddiepyramid9868 5 лет назад
the last four lines really touched me
@mdg71208
@mdg71208 5 лет назад
I so needed this today!
@voyager7
@voyager7 5 лет назад
Beautiful!
@AdjrianNickelodeon
@AdjrianNickelodeon 8 лет назад
This quote got to me: "It's really difficult to deal with... Loving someone so much when they don't love you enough to fight for you" You can be right (in your own mind) or you could be happy. The world truly DOES need more people to be more honest with themselves.
@beth_9214
@beth_9214 8 лет назад
Felt really touched by that part too!!! #tears
@arieiv5
@arieiv5 8 лет назад
+AdjrianNickelodeon Thats amazing, one of my favorite motovloggers watches the same Ted Talks as me, awesome!
@harwindersingh7944
@harwindersingh7944 8 лет назад
You right sir
@isabelolivas2721
@isabelolivas2721 7 лет назад
so heart breaking honestly...
@daria_avery
@daria_avery 7 лет назад
Yes me too I'm crying..hope I can feel better soon..I'm struggling
@fashfav98
@fashfav98 9 лет назад
This audio is terrible :( please upload a better version TEDx!!!
@katrinas.daydreams
@katrinas.daydreams 3 года назад
And I thought, that was only on my device
@WhentheBehelitScreams
@WhentheBehelitScreams 3 года назад
It gets the job done
@samanthamartins990
@samanthamartins990 8 лет назад
just because he didn't cheat or lie doesn't classify it as being the all time worst heart break. you can still hear the pain in her voice, you can hear how much she suffered from it. when you love someone so much it doesn't matter what they did to end it, it ended, and you're broken. I know the feeling. I went into a deep dark depression, been in a hospital twice, still struggling. this all happened after my heart break. my life started falling apart. I learned he didn't love me enough to fight for me. he did lie to me a lot, when he saw me slipping away he came back into my life and then disappeared again. he treated me so terribly after the relationship I don't know if I'll ever be in another relationship with full trust again... she said even after 2 years of not speaking she fell right back into him. obviously she truly cared for this guy, if she was willing to drop everything for him. I know the feeling. it fucking HURTS when they don't appreciate everything you do for them.
@vickramgrewal
@vickramgrewal 7 лет назад
what do i do if iam on the other side...what shud the guy in emma's case shouldve done...the love wasnt mutual...at some point it has to cause the heartache...the earlier the better...how does one minimise the pain (talking fro the guy's perspective)?
@chicagata
@chicagata 7 лет назад
One can not minimize the pain :( He did the right thing: to be honest. Only through his honesty she could be free from his spell.
@vitalino1981
@vitalino1981 7 лет назад
im male. being left 7 month ago after the 3 yrs relation, Ive put all my effords in. currently drowning down in depression and health slipping away. did U recover in the end?
@chicagata
@chicagata 7 лет назад
I completely understand you. It hurts, not abstractly but it really hurts. :'( Chest pain... always looking down... crying quite often, hard to eat... I was thin like a Spaghetti after my break up. But is went away... slowly, but it did... trust me. Thanks to that break up I met my current boyfriend and can feel the real feeling of love powerful again! What did I learn? That my happiness shouldn't depend on a person, but that I am responsible of my life and my smile. And you know what? You don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you, right? Actually, if you really loved that person you should be happy she can move on freely and seek happiness and that you're not an impediment for it. Love is not to be looked for, but to be given to others. If it comes to you it is a wonderful gift, and it is so precious because it is rare! If you're blessed with it again in the future don't take it for granted, cause it is just a wonderful "extra gift" in your life, if it goes you have to know you don't need it. This will ease your pain and actually realize you were lucky to have experiences it at least for a little while. You'll be fine. Life is short and you're the protagonist of your existence, so don't give up ;)
@sushantbanerji1128
@sushantbanerji1128 6 лет назад
I'm also feeling same....I was loyal for her... I put lots of efforts I did whatever I could but she went with some another guy.... It was 2 years relationship and she is not regret for whatever she did.... M really depressed.... I don't know what to do now....
@susgra21
@susgra21 8 лет назад
The cruel irony is that you must throw yourself fully into a relationship in order for it to thrive, but this leaves you completely vulnerable. It's devastating when it ends after many years together, and it's easy to question why you are so unlovable. Why you gave your all, and it still wasn't enough?! In my experience, it's different for girls than guys, as guys don't like to talk about it..
@GoFredBananass
@GoFredBananass 8 лет назад
+Jane S You are so right. Its horrible to see so many women, myself included, come to this conclusion and know that I should have made better choices and put myself first. Emma is so brave to say this to the world.
@ocriodain
@ocriodain 8 лет назад
Jane why do you say its different for girls than guys? I've just broken up with a girl for the second time, both times she did the breaking up,I did so much for her and gave so much of myself, and got so little back
@GoFredBananass
@GoFredBananass 8 лет назад
+ocriodain hmm i heard something good "nothing good together ever breaks apart". the way i see it, if both people are equally willing and if both are equally emotionally available then it would work out in most circumstances. but if they're not theyre gonna break up or settle for being unfulfilled together. the outcome is always the same. its a lot of ifs.. so thats as much as i understand it atm. but society makes it harder for women to truly determine if their partner is compatible. so we often settle for mr. around at the right time rather than mr.right for me. and our tendancy to fix it makes us internalize it and ask why we can't fix it no matter how hard you try and change to accommodate
@GoFredBananass
@GoFredBananass 8 лет назад
we are not unlovable tho. we just think that as a result of loving incompatible partners and taking on the responsibility of fixing someone else's emotional state... which is not possible.. or something that we should be doing.. creates an imbalance of power and effort
@ocriodain
@ocriodain 8 лет назад
Yes you are right she broke with me the first time even when I was the one making the effort and being emotionally available mistaking ly I agreed to go back the second time thinking she would make a better effort she didn't I did and then yesterday told me she didn't have enough headspace for a relationship right now,I was willing she wasn't period I'm sure it works in reverse also
@britkid182
@britkid182 10 лет назад
Does anyone feel that the sound is breaking up?
@MarilynCrosbie
@MarilynCrosbie 10 лет назад
Yes.
@nollatansey8916
@nollatansey8916 6 лет назад
i'm getting a headache from it
@al3cxa
@al3cxa 5 лет назад
Maybe it’s a metaphor.. haha jk
@tatoo1901
@tatoo1901 7 лет назад
the same thing happened to me. i fell in love so deeply with someone who didn't love me enough to fight for me. when everything fell apart it was like a huge slap in the face. it is painful to have to go through a heartbreak like this, but at the same time I'd like to look at it as a blessing. it pushes me forward and i am so very grateful for it and i know that in a way i was saved from giving myself away too much to someone who won't do the same. it is a blessing in disguise. put yourself first. i discover self love and nothing or no one can take that away from me
@alisamakedonskaya1794
@alisamakedonskaya1794 6 лет назад
:)
@christinabekko6689
@christinabekko6689 6 лет назад
Lily Louise thanks for this😊😊
@markjames8962
@markjames8962 6 лет назад
boo hoo
@tayyibahyussoff5514
@tayyibahyussoff5514 6 лет назад
i wish i can reach that realization
@mzstrwberry3962
@mzstrwberry3962 5 лет назад
@@alisamakedonskaya1794 goin threw this now. Thank u
@jonram7593
@jonram7593 4 года назад
Going through it right now guys, all stages. Disbelief, sadness, anger(the scariest), hopelessness.
@L490sr
@L490sr 4 года назад
Jon Ram you’re not alone buddy, you’re not alone 💔
@rileyo7932
@rileyo7932 4 года назад
Try that at the same time as being diagnosed with a major illness
@SrijanyaVarma
@SrijanyaVarma 4 года назад
Jon Ram you’ll come out of it.. be strong
@walterchabala1569
@walterchabala1569 2 года назад
going through these stages is really raw pain.tough
@jonram7593
@jonram7593 2 года назад
@James Bond way better. I’m happy with myself. Only need myself and family! :)
@Stitches13
@Stitches13 9 лет назад
My ex bf didn't fight for me and that still hurts like fuck. It hurts your self worth, even when you know it says more about them than it does about you. Loved this :)
@xxzxzxzxx6974
@xxzxzxzxx6974 9 лет назад
No one will put up with being tested, you arn't worth it sorry.
@niveditarkarun767
@niveditarkarun767 5 лет назад
Yes it does
@medelinejayasaputra2852
@medelinejayasaputra2852 8 лет назад
You are responsible for your own happiness. Things that don't work out give you better opportunities. Don't be stuck with someone... find your own happiness.
@sararivz668
@sararivz668 7 лет назад
Extra heartbreaking when you're a mother & need to hide your hurt from you kid/s whilst still trying to move on & do all the things she mentions.
@GabrielaCenturionNeumann
@GabrielaCenturionNeumann 7 лет назад
Sarah Schaefer Don't hide your feelings from them. It is good for them to know you hurt too and they will understand the situation better. Don't show them all the pain, but do it in a way they can process it. Please, don't hide it completely. I talk from the kid's perspective. Hugs for you and I really wish you feel like yourself again soon
@isabelolivas2721
@isabelolivas2721 7 лет назад
YES. 😞💔
@vickyeti4029
@vickyeti4029 6 лет назад
Sarah Schaefer Rivilla yes it never goes away. But one day we will find love again ❤
@mr.torres8572
@mr.torres8572 6 лет назад
Sarah Schaefer Rivilla wow I read your response and it really hit me. I’m a single Father raising my 8 yr old and it’s so hard to hide the pain I’m going thru. My daughters Autistic(extremely perceptive) and I never saw myself raising her alone but she’s become my top priority. I have a whole new profound respect for single Mothers. 🙂
@michelletonkin8855
@michelletonkin8855 6 лет назад
Julio Torres Thank you for a guys appreciation of singke mothers. life is tough. People judge. Most of my friends are married. There are some kind people in the community who understand and make you laugh. Holidays are something to look forward to
@ShinkuGouki
@ShinkuGouki 4 года назад
Being heartbroken is no joke
@dianelim1043
@dianelim1043 10 лет назад
It's like a jolt back to my heartbreak when I hear her describe how the person you loved does not make the effort to fight for you makes you feel essentially worthless.
@JacksInn
@JacksInn 9 лет назад
Helps to know that it's pretty much a common thing that happens to everyone, doesn't it?
@CoronaTheVirus
@CoronaTheVirus 9 лет назад
I know what you mean, but I like to think everything happens for a reason
@ila326
@ila326 6 лет назад
Especially the kind of guys of get into a serious relationship with you and when it comes to commitment/marriage - they play the, " my parents won't approve because of your religion/race/community card".
@inshirahashim4444
@inshirahashim4444 3 года назад
@@ila326 oh how trueeeee
@MrsIDKwhattowrite
@MrsIDKwhattowrite 6 лет назад
I remember watching this video on 2015 when my boyfriend and I broke up. It was an awful breakup. We were living together and the process of moving out was excruciating. I had never experienced that much pain in my life. I was 100% convinced that he was the one. But there I was, letting him go because unfortunately I didn't seem to be his "the one". I remember watching this video and sobbing when this girl broke down, right when she said "It's really difficult to deal with... Loving someone so much when they don't love you enough to fight for you" because it really hit home. So I started moving on even though I just knew that I could never love someone as much as I loved him... Fast forward 5 months and I ran into him again, we started talking, we started hanging out and we got back together. I didn't want to go back to what our relationship was in the past so we went to therapy. We got engaged, shortly after we eloped in Vegas. I'm now planning our big wedding abroad (this October) where we can get to celebrate our love with our loved ones. I was right all along, he was, is and will always be THE one. I just had to come back to this video and tell my story. Just because something doesn't seem to go right, doesn't mean you can't fix it. Sometimes taking a step back is all you need to really figure things out. Therapy really helped us, we have never been so happy. We are now trying to bring a baby into this world (wish us luck!). I came across this video after my breakup, I'm sure most people on here are going thru the same thing. Take a step back, take a deep breath and keep fighting for what you want. xoxox!
@mikaelavalete870
@mikaelavalete870 6 лет назад
This is beautiful; thank you for sharing this. Sometimes people are right for each other, but the timing is not right for them. Taking a break or a step back to connect with yourself and see things from a more objective point of view can help you realize what you truly want. I'm so happy life brought you back together and things worked out better, as you both went to therapy as a team and can now build your lives together. Much love.
@ericdean5911
@ericdean5911 6 лет назад
Thank you so much.
@roviep
@roviep 6 лет назад
Happy for you!!
@annanguyen5408
@annanguyen5408 6 лет назад
This truly helped me so much, I’m terrified of losing the person I love but I have trust in the universe that if it’s meant to be well find each other again
@RicardoDinizPortugal
@RicardoDinizPortugal 6 лет назад
MsMakeUpLova O M G ❤ So soooo happy for you!
@nelisiwezulu5360
@nelisiwezulu5360 8 месяцев назад
I’m happy i decided to choose myself over the toxic and empty relationship.he kept saying he loves me but his actions were saying something else!!
@TheChubbyNinja
@TheChubbyNinja 9 лет назад
The people who are whining about her personal heartbreak story is missing the point. It didn't have to be about her boyfriend; it could have been any kind of relationship (parent/friend/etc). It took being battered to your core via questions of self-worth when someone who is 'supposed' to love you doesn't, resulting in feeling naked, vulnerable, and not in control of your emotions anymore... in order to find the real meaning of self-awareness and humility. But from there, it's finally possible to discover who you are and what actually makes you feel fulfilled in life. Thanks for this Emma.
@mjkittredge
@mjkittredge 9 лет назад
Do you feel naked?
@leeorshimhoni8949
@leeorshimhoni8949 9 лет назад
gastronommy. i like what you write. wise.
@stevej4328
@stevej4328 5 лет назад
Beautifully said
@fairelilith
@fairelilith 4 года назад
People are relating to her story with what resonates with them. It's not them "missing" anything. People interpret it with whatever is relatable to them, it's neither right nor wrong.
@raheemgaines3518
@raheemgaines3518 7 лет назад
I love my ex. She dumped me for an old boyfriend who threatened me. She didn't fight for our relationship. Really sucks. Now I have to rebuild, even through my tears.
@Suba932
@Suba932 7 лет назад
Good luck to you man. I hear your pain.
@AD-bp1sl
@AD-bp1sl 7 лет назад
Raheem Gaines I'm going through the exact same thing man, everything will be better!
@paulpena5040
@paulpena5040 7 лет назад
This just happened to me. She used to repeat "I will always fight for you" and when the ex came into her life suddenly she was like "meh, maybe not". Trying to make light of it but I was really wrecked. Only starting to get over it now.
@daria_avery
@daria_avery 7 лет назад
I'm w you Paul..this is the worst I have ever felt..cannot believe how much this hurts..
@dannyj77dj
@dannyj77dj 6 лет назад
Raheem Gaines mine just left me for somebody else after 4 years together, life sucks right now :(
@hinotes815
@hinotes815 6 лет назад
When they don't love you enough to fight for you, it tears at your self-esteem. So true!
@zakiahart3919
@zakiahart3919 4 года назад
yep!
@judegrindvoll8467
@judegrindvoll8467 4 года назад
Twice I’ve rearranged my entire life and moved for a guy (one boyfriend, one husband). Both times it blew up in my face. My advice for anyone would be to treat partners like they’re a part of your life, never your whole life - it’s just not healthy and you’re left with a whole lot of nothing when it ends. Hollywood would have us believe you have to be ‘all in’ but that should not include giving up jobs and homes, etc, if you know deep down you don’t want to give those things up, don’t.
@kaylam2671
@kaylam2671 6 лет назад
7 years in a relationship, and she didn’t want to fight for me when i was fighting for us
@malloryakikonoramiller973
@malloryakikonoramiller973 9 лет назад
Thank you, thank you, thank you. This...wow. I needed to hear this. I went through a terrrrrrrrrrible heartbreak last year, but now my life has taken a beautiful new direction. However, it only started going that way once I realized that my heart had moved on, and my head was the only thing holding me in mopeyland. I feel so good, awesome, and authentic now that I've started being honest with myself, even though at first it was incredibly painful. Push through the bullsh!t ladies!
@nancycamm4888
@nancycamm4888 8 лет назад
+Mallory Akiko Nora Miller Hi Mallory, I am there now, going through a breakup. He broke up with me and I am searching my heart to finally be honest with myself about how I feel and what I want and need, I cry every day, I think this is releasing a lot of pain - not just with him but for a lot of my life. So grateful to Emma for telling her experience to us.
@AmberAmber
@AmberAmber 8 лет назад
+Nancy Camm I'm so sorry for your pain. I wouldn't wish heartbreak on my worst enemy (I'm still grieving despite being currently very much in love with my amazing fiancé-he gets me so it's all good).
@joydelaroca6493
@joydelaroca6493 Год назад
I am dealing with it right now...getting divorce
@kevinyanezmartinez6121
@kevinyanezmartinez6121 8 месяцев назад
I got closer to my friends. To my family. Focused on my goals. I'm going to therapy. She did something I could never do which was leave for good. I am free. She is free. It will get better
@Lulita222
@Lulita222 4 года назад
I’m going through a divorce, and this is something I really needed to hear. I am done lying to myself that it was a loving relationship. I’m done lying that it was true love, bc it really wasn’t. No love is perfect, but I want a genuine imperfect love rather than false love. Thank you 🙏 it is my turn!
@mitzilou9560
@mitzilou9560 4 года назад
I hope you are feeling better now.
@maiko6082
@maiko6082 3 года назад
Can will date?
@maiko6082
@maiko6082 3 года назад
Can will date?
@maiko6082
@maiko6082 3 года назад
Am in Libya and single cause i got no family
@jorod5816
@jorod5816 2 года назад
Yesss!!! This gives me hope because I really needed to read your post 🙌🏼💚
@puzzleperson2007
@puzzleperson2007 Год назад
THAT FEELING…..when u think you are in a relationship equal in love and passion and a desire to be together…..and then are hit by a nuclear blast of it not being reality. When the person you were ready to give your EVERYTHING to, does not see u as worth doing the same….it is too much. It is not recoverable. But it def would have been much worse to have found that out AFTER being with that person longer. So, it is the lesser of two soul poisoning options.
@anewloveofficial9137
@anewloveofficial9137 6 лет назад
Being heartbroken was the hardest part of my life, there were sleepless nights and endless tears coming from my eyes without even noticing it. But I'm still lucky because that pain made me become a completely different person. Time is really an absolute healer because I was able to gather the broken pieces of my life and come back stronger than ever.
@misbahm2560
@misbahm2560 Год назад
Curious to know how it is like today for you? I m sure life is better
@loselacoustics5605
@loselacoustics5605 3 года назад
"When they don't love you enough to fight for you" hit's me hard right now
@smithsage330
@smithsage330 3 года назад
“When we lie to ourselves, we also lie to everyone else, including those that we love and care about the most”
@Raabje98
@Raabje98 6 лет назад
I watched this because my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. I am trying to eat and get out of bed, but the pain is unbearable. I can't stop crying and overthinking. It is hard indeed just like you said, when you love someone that doesn't love you back and doesnt want to fight for the love. Eventhough he hurt me so badly, I still want him back. It's just, everything comes with an ending and so will my heartbreak. But it's hard to believe that's true. Because now it feels like it will never end.
@lysette2381
@lysette2381 5 лет назад
Rabia'sChannel heartbreak sucks!!! Sending you positive energy. Hope you're doing better
@Raabje98
@Raabje98 5 лет назад
lysette2381 your respond is so sweet thank you. I have been doing so much better! It was weird to read back my comment. I cannot really relate anymore. I still think about him though, but the pain is not the same
@lysette2381
@lysette2381 5 лет назад
I understand and relate so much. I'm going through heartbreak myself. It just takes time. I'm glad you're doing so much better!
@Raabje98
@Raabje98 5 лет назад
lysette2381 Oh no. I am so sad to hear that. I hope time will heal your pain. Distractions are very important. Try to go out with friends and family. Try to have fun. And someday somehow you will caught yourself on smiling, without him/her :)
@ioanab9350
@ioanab9350 5 лет назад
When did it get better for you? I am still in a fair amount of pain two months after a sudden-not really explained-text message breakup. I started to function again but...it’s all still very painful.
@sophie1360
@sophie1360 8 лет назад
Loving someone so much when they don't love you enough to fight for you! Amazing
@MBCarine
@MBCarine 5 лет назад
Having to break up with someone you love is terrible. I left everything for my ex. I left my country, my family, my job and my friends, to go live with him after a (almost) 3 years relationship. After 3 months living together, and the last weeks crying almost every day, I realized I deserved better. I discovered a completely different person. Imagine how shook I was and how lost I was feeling, realizing that after almost 3 years I still didn't know that person. I was so so SO disappointed. At him, and at myself. I kept asking myself "how didn't you notice how he really is?" and I realized I just kept ignoring the "red flags". I kept forgiving every little thing that I didn't like because I loved him unconditionally and I wanted to make him forget his past, make him live a better life, and help him becoming a better person. He told me that I deserve better, that he knows he's not good enough for me, that he never loved anyone like he loves me, that I'm the perfect woman... But I guess I wasn't as perfect as he said, because he didn't fight for me. I broke up with him last week and I came back to my country, and he didn't do anything but say sorry. How can you say that someone is the love of your life, but push her to leave? I would've done everything for him (just as I did for 3 years), but I now know that he couldn't do the same. It made me question my self-worth sometimes... But I want to think he did it for me, that he let me go because I deserved better... It's so hard to let go someone you love so much and someone you idealized. I had so many dreams and I couldn't see my future without him. I'm so sad and so disappointed. But even if I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, I know I will feel better, I will be happy again, I will trust again, and I will find someone that will give me the love I keep trying to give everyone else.
@dbsk06
@dbsk06 4 года назад
Carine MB - CarineWithC this is literally me right now. I was happy to leave my country and marry him but he just completely changed as a person. It’s really sad but people change. I am still in denial and so in love with the person he WAS. But sadly that person doesn’t exist anymore. And sometimes it has NOTHING to do with us. For him, it’s his job. But I’m kind of glad I haven’t actually moved yet bc I’m seeing the red flags now already.
@MBCarine
@MBCarine 4 года назад
@@dbsk06 I know how you feel... It's so hard to leave the man you love because he's not the man you fell in love with no more. If you already see the red flags, it's not a good thing. You're the only one that knows what to do, but love should make you happy. If you doubt, there is a problem. "Trust the vibes you get. Energy doesn't lie". Good luck babe. Whatever you do, it will be a good choice. Think about yourself and your happiness.
@dbsk06
@dbsk06 4 года назад
Carine MB - CarineWithC thanks sister! Best of luck to you too! Also on the bright side, at least we didn’t have a child with them or we had nowhere to go back to in our home country. Things could always be worse (it sounds not so positive but life is really unpredictable). We always have something to be grateful for :)
@MBCarine
@MBCarine 4 года назад
@@dbsk06 RIGHT!! I'm so lucky to have a family like mine, they helped me so much and made things easier for me to come back. You know what? The day I came back to my country I was so tired as I had to take a few flights, I almost didn't sleep that night and I was feeling exhausted because I spent that night crying. When I arrived at the airport and the doors opened, I immediately saw my parents and my sister smiling at me, waiting for me with their arms open. And I just thought "look at that, I have people here that REALLY love me, waiting for me, and I left them for someone that didn't appreciate what he had". I'm so grateful because all the months I spent crying made me realize what's really important and what I have home. I feel so much better now, just two weeks after everything. Every time I feel sad, I think about all the nights I felt asleep crying and all the things he told me that made me wanna leave. I now realize AAAALL the red flags I kept ignoring. But the most important thing is that I know HE was the problem, not me. I feel good, because I know what I deserve. I know I will be happy again and I know I have people that love me :)
@MBCarine
@MBCarine 4 года назад
@@dbsk06 By the way, you should watch "Select the right relationship" by Alexandra Redcay. It's another TED Talk. It's so interesting and she talks about red flags and all that stuff! :)
@sharkboy1800
@sharkboy1800 9 лет назад
Man, its hard fighting for someone sometimes. One finds himself wondering if he'd fight for himself.
@Ayesha_F
@Ayesha_F 3 года назад
this 🙌🏼
@noneofyourbusiness8252
@noneofyourbusiness8252 7 лет назад
I have never related to anything more in my life. YES, it's not just the person leaving, it's how our SELF-WORTH comes into play. THAT is what's absolutely crushing. And YES, it's about lying to OURSELVES more than the failed relationship. How we can lie to ourselves for YEARS and endure horrible hardships along the way, desperately sticking a band-aid on everything that is broken. It's the fact that we're CAPABLE of such self-deceit. Who am I if I'm willing to make a fool out of myself only to accept something that is not good enough, that doesn't honour who I am, that does me harm? These thoughts are plaguing my mind as my ex has found new love, not long after our breakup. And I LOVED her to pieces. I would've done anything to be with her, if only she had been as invested as me. All this time she swore I was the love of her life and still believes she won't love anybody this way again, BUT she has some real issues with dealing with long-distance. So I don't really know. I'm sick to my stomach thinking I won't be the one with her AND that I lied to myself all this time. I ignored all the signs. I tried to fix by myself what could only be fixed by two people. It didn't work. It wasn't there. I question my self-worth every day. I don't feel like enough. Like I will never be enough for anyone. It's not in me.
@emeralddreams888
@emeralddreams888 5 лет назад
It's been 2 years so I hope you're onto better things. I relate 100% to your story right now as the girl.
@sumitkumar-el3kc
@sumitkumar-el3kc 4 года назад
I'm going through exactly the same situation.
@lakshmicecelia1078
@lakshmicecelia1078 7 лет назад
Wow. This is my life.....exactly where I am in this moment. Ty for speaking so honestly.
@lakshmicecelia1078
@lakshmicecelia1078 7 лет назад
dude love can be really painful lol
@estephaniezapata4714
@estephaniezapata4714 9 лет назад
I started listening to this video without actually watching it, and as she described her life before... I imagined her; unhappy, messy hair, depressing clothing etc. (It all depends on how you picture it) And then I looked at the video, and I was truly amazed. I look at her and you can't really tell she's been through so much. I've been through something similar as her, and I bet most women have, and it gives me hope. That someday I'll see myself and think, "it was worth it."
@belindacastro3224
@belindacastro3224 4 года назад
I like her style, you'll be surprised how many people look tidy, clean put together etc yet they end up commitimg suicide.
@Anadorado88
@Anadorado88 5 лет назад
Wow I loved this video. I just broke up with my now ex, and this put a smile on my face and my mind at ease. I was totally lying to myself. I felt like I was screaming inside of myself at times... I'll never ignore my intuition again.
@Fifafan117
@Fifafan117 4 года назад
As soon as she said the part of others not willing to fight for you and how it really makes you question your own self worth...as soon as she said that I just started crying...it hurts alot..
@Misslotusification
@Misslotusification 5 лет назад
Challenges (like "I don't want to fight to have you in my life") are blessings in disguise: you've been spared. Nothing to be sad about.
@steenbeans
@steenbeans 7 лет назад
The timing to watching this video couldn't have been more right. Just reconnected with a past relationship after no contact for 2 years. Realizing that I was in denial throughout all these years of closing that chapter in my life and putting it in a box and moving on like it never happened. When it re-opened all these old emotions came back with it but finally this time around, closure was also included. Thank you for re-affirming that the one person I needed to be honest with was myself. Onwards and upwards to greater things.
@KT-pw1cq
@KT-pw1cq 4 года назад
Christine Mangubat I believe the key idea here is closure... some are fortunate to reunite and get that.. others not really....
@zakiahart3919
@zakiahart3919 4 года назад
Good for you sis!
@JB-ue6lf
@JB-ue6lf 8 лет назад
This man was amazing enough to make a girl like this, a girl who is intelligent, incredibly beautiful, extremely motivated fall head over heals for him? He must be a very good looking successful guy himself! He probably didn't fight for her because he was probably seeing another girl she didn't know about or he had options other than her and he knew it. To him he was probably thinking " Why go through all this trouble when I can see someone local?" This guy didn't care because girls were probably always throwing themselves at him and he had no motivation to pursue her and only her. From her perspective she was thinking " I've found the perfect man I'm going to be with forever!" To him it was just another relationship. To him all she was, was an experience and now a memory he'll add to the list of ex girlfriends. To her he was apart of her life.
@francesescape
@francesescape 8 лет назад
Oh well, i think that is the case, or more like the probable explanation why. Tsk.
@JB-ue6lf
@JB-ue6lf 8 лет назад
***** I've seen this situation play out in real life. It's sad, but it happens.
@francesescape
@francesescape 8 лет назад
James Banner I've seen that too. And I wonder why can't they just see that as it is, instead of asking so many irrelevant questions. Maybe for someone like her, it is hard to entertain the idea of a guy just thinking that she is just another girl in his life, like one of those girls he has slept with, and not THE girl who could make him do everything for her.
@eguzkiloreanaglez
@eguzkiloreanaglez 8 лет назад
+James Banner Yes ,that man was , for sure, an amazing jerk
@JB-ue6lf
@JB-ue6lf 8 лет назад
Ann M Call him a jerk, but you girls always fall victim to those types.
@karolinawasowska
@karolinawasowska 6 лет назад
I love what she says about intuition... I always listen to my intuition and it never failed me.
@ruthiehyginius9178
@ruthiehyginius9178 Год назад
what helps me is music,i soak myself in good music and rejuvenate
@shahn.3981
@shahn.3981 6 лет назад
you know, one of my best friends and I actually became so close because of our terrible break-ups. It's like there was mutual understanding, so we just kept talking and sharing until we both felt better. Now we are both happy, healthy individuals leading fulfilling lives. So a big thanks to both of our exes: we would not have met or become best friends if y'all hadn't made us so miserable first.
@Proloco47chev
@Proloco47chev 9 лет назад
my last real heartbreak litterally nearly killed my. the downfall created an emotional black hole and the strength i grew from pulling away from it made me not need anyone which has caused another problem. now i push people away.
@banditosunite2160
@banditosunite2160 4 года назад
“As soon as I saw him I knew I was in real trouble” DANG I FELT THAT
@Pajas15
@Pajas15 4 года назад
It is so hard being broken heart most when your ex is cuddling with another new one while u are crying in the bed
@ruisong4458
@ruisong4458 6 лет назад
She's such an intelligent and honest individual and her speech is really inspiring
@karenlm9062
@karenlm9062 7 лет назад
I keep this quote handy when ever heartbreak happens: you have so many extraordinary gifts; how can you expect to lead an ordinary life? - Little Women It's just a reminder that we are all complicated and special; and meant for greater things. When we hurt it is a signal to us that we have not reached our potential; rather are in the process of obtaining it. I loved this lecture. It really hit home and I was fascinated that someone else could express what I have felt so deeply and personal. There was a strange sort of comfort to have my pain be reflected back in such a safe way so I could gain perspective. Thank you Emma.
@imogeng1246
@imogeng1246 3 года назад
“It’s really hard, loving someone so much when they don’t love you enough to fight for you. It makes you question your own self-worth.” 😔❤️
@WangDianqun
@WangDianqun 8 лет назад
Totally feeling that you love too much and the other one doesn't love the same
@ColourMePeacefull
@ColourMePeacefull 4 года назад
I watched this 3 years ago and this was the video that helped me kickstart my growth
@lucya25vega
@lucya25vega 8 лет назад
One day you'll realize that romantic heartbreaks aren't the worst heartbreaks after all. Romantic heartbreaks are related to one's ego more than anything, unless of course this was your true soulmate. It's nice that you got to tell your story, and clearly you're still hurting but honestly you can't fill the holes in your heart with merit badges.
@habitspinkrabbits4452
@habitspinkrabbits4452 2 года назад
when she says" I thought if I tried hard enough to make things work, they would." I can relate to that on so many levels. I have really been hung up on that belief for the last few days, I keep thinking but I tried so hard, nobody can say I haven't tried, I tried my best, I tried and failed...I shouldn't have tried. Not to say that you don't have to try to make it work occasionally in a good relationship, but the one that just ended for me, wasn't good. I painted a picture of what I was trying to achieve in that relationship, I had a goal, a plan, and I was hyper focused on the end result, I took red flags and turned them into head bands, and scarfs and table napkins and handkerchiefs anything other than what they actually were. I guess I just thought with enough effort on my part, he would start to care about me as much as I had him. Love is a gift. You cant earn it. I know that now.
@LoveLife-ry5mm
@LoveLife-ry5mm 2 года назад
It's works our for me I got my ex lover back within 48 hours I can help you out whatspp me to know how
@anthonyedet9529
@anthonyedet9529 2 года назад
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤
@anthonyedet9529
@anthonyedet9529 2 года назад
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
@anthonyedet9529
@anthonyedet9529 2 года назад
Whtsaap him"**
@anthonyedet9529
@anthonyedet9529 2 года назад
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@LloydieP
@LloydieP 10 лет назад
Those comments bagging Emma cos her heartbreak wasn't bad enough seen to have missed how objectively she dealt with her personnel learning from the event. Here's a gold medal to pin on your chest for having a winning heartbreak! Here's one for Emma actually learning from it, unlike those who think it's some sort of competition.. Thanks Emma!
@priscilla2449
@priscilla2449 5 лет назад
7:01 - 7:15 .. I felt the pain in her throat. I felt those words so deep. I felt that so much. It hurts so much..
@neetykochar1870
@neetykochar1870 7 лет назад
So much of this resonated with me. Such comfort in knowing heartbreak is inevitable in life and the immeasurable strength that is gained from things that initially make us feel so incredibly helpless. Thank you Emma.
@jeanetteperez533
@jeanetteperez533 5 лет назад
I watched this 3 years ago while experiencing my 1st heartbreak. rewatching this today, and while still hurting, i realize how long I've come. thank you, emma, for opening your heart to us. hugs from the states. how i wish to have a coffee and give you a big 'thank you' hug. i wish you much joy in your journey.
@janeclifford519
@janeclifford519 7 лет назад
No one can give you the love that parents and partners couldn't except you! Learning to love yourself the way you would love a child in pain, or a newborn or a puppy. Daily practise of self love is the only solution
@thee_earl
@thee_earl Год назад
watching this 9 years later, I hope she's happy now.
@ColourMePeacefull
@ColourMePeacefull 5 лет назад
This video is what helped me get through my breakup! Love this and a year later I still watch it every now and then :)
@masterartist1025
@masterartist1025 8 лет назад
Emma Gibbs is wonderful. Great speaker! Thanks!
@leaavedon3895
@leaavedon3895 9 лет назад
I couldn't agree more ! I felt so good after my heartbreak, I felt like I finally found the real me. Amazing talk !
@NativeEastLondoner
@NativeEastLondoner 5 лет назад
Such a great talk. When people that are supposed to love you don't even fight for you, it's a clear sign that they just don't love you enough. That means it's not your fault - the relationship was always going to fail because there was not a mutual investment. Realising this is so helpful. I can finally get the closure I need concerning certain relationships. Thank you!
@Aphemeria
@Aphemeria 10 лет назад
I never comment on videos ha. But this one, I had to. I just wanted to say thank you Mrs. Gibbs, for giving me courage and also for making me believe that what I also thought wasn't bullshit. I've had similar issues in the past and still continue to question myself about what I truly want and think. It is difficult, but I want to see it more the way you did. Thank you so much for the inspiration.
@AkshayAradhya
@AkshayAradhya 9 лет назад
:'( 7:08 made me cry when I heard what she said with a shaky voice
@addictwithapen2118
@addictwithapen2118 8 лет назад
Thank you, for making me realise everything I needed to, and for giving me the hope that I'm not alone in how I feel. You are so inspiring and any heartbroken person should see this.
@CavemanJesus4Life
@CavemanJesus4Life 8 лет назад
Heartbreak was the best thing that ever happened to me as well. I learn that I cannot deal or handle a relationship, so I have never gotten into or will get into a relationship anymore. I cannot deal with the emotional baggage after its over. Heartbreak sucks, and I realize I don't need it. I don't need to be a father, I have my niece and nephew that fulfills my heart, that I don't need to have children because I have them. I don't need to be a husband, or boyfriend, fiancee' because I cannot deal with the secrets, truths, and lies we all tell each other, and the ever comprimisng bullshit that follows. I may not be happy, or the way happy is suppose to be. But I no longer have Heartbreak, or Heartache. I have learned that I don't need it, I believe I did. But I don't.
@luismunoz5808
@luismunoz5808 8 лет назад
You're right
@knightsalmon42
@knightsalmon42 7 лет назад
CavemanJesus4Life Totally agree. I have not been in a relationship for years and it's great. Too much garbage to deal with in relationships. Don't know why people have to lie and cheat, being truthful and honest is so much easier and less stressful.
@CavemanJesus4Life
@CavemanJesus4Life 7 лет назад
Thanks for your reply
@SkipleReloading
@SkipleReloading 7 лет назад
dont seek a relationship then. Simply seek best friends.. that are girls and not just guys. its a very do-able thing. Being with your best friend in a loving loyal relationship there is no secrets or lies. we are human beings, we all have feelings. Find a girl you can communicate with and she communicates with you. There is only one life here, there is someone that will spend theirs with you. even if she takes patience to wait for.
@joshmickelson3479
@joshmickelson3479 6 лет назад
CavemanJesus4Life what do you think about your comment now that's a year later? has anything changed?
@savannahwilliams5907
@savannahwilliams5907 6 лет назад
I’m here in 2017 4 days out of a 7 year relationship and it has been an emotional roller coaster!
@johncajahuaringa2326
@johncajahuaringa2326 5 лет назад
I cried throughout all of this! This helped me put my life in a different perspective.
@HangtheGreat
@HangtheGreat 6 лет назад
Thank you for the honest courageous talk. It resonates with me as I went through the exact experience: feeling so free and good when I’m supposed to be devastated after the breakup. Instead, the only thing I’m disappointed about was ignoring my own voice and judgment. You are amazing and brave for fighting for your plans and for sticking with who you are.
@larissajefferies815
@larissajefferies815 6 лет назад
the conflict between head and heart fades when you no longer feel for them as only once has anyone made me so cold towards them due to the realisation that someone doesn't care enough to make time for me when they only live 20 minutes away! I feel like this is a harsher version of what i'm going through.
@jessicahernandez1853
@jessicahernandez1853 4 года назад
I can relate so much, my hearbreak it's been so hard and painful, but I've never felt so empowered and true to myself as right now. The breakup gave me the power that I've lost in all my projects, job and spiritual growth, it made me want to heal myself for real and stop lying to myself. It's giving me the opportunitie to love myself like I never did before and trought the pain it feels so amazing. Can't wait for what is next!
@gaetanokairos2931
@gaetanokairos2931 4 года назад
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@gaetanokairos2931 4 года назад
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@Fit_Philosopher
@Fit_Philosopher 3 года назад
Amazing. I love how she ties together the concepts of relationship heart-break with self-honesty. Its a concept and reality that is hard to confront, but once confronted a lot of the negative emotion seems to release, to allow for a greater clarity and vision of what is truly important
@johndesombre7816
@johndesombre7816 6 лет назад
Wow! When someone can speak from the heart from an experience like Ms. Gibbs describes and be thankful for her misfortune, it really helps me to have hope that I can get through my own heartache and be grateful for the experience. Healing takes time and patience and I feel so sad, but it's talk and wisdom like this that will aid me in getting through another day.
@keighleyhaze
@keighleyhaze 7 лет назад
This is beautiful and amazing. It's inspiring and it connects those of us who are hurting or grieving over a lost relationship alone. Grieving and healing are certainly non-linear. Thank you.
@sparkofedge
@sparkofedge 7 лет назад
This story reminds so much of me, how I felt after my breakup with my ex.. I opted for a quicker method, but you know what... after all it's all about knowing your limits. What are you willing to take? How much integrity do you have with yourself? Thanks for sharing.
@TANYAJOY629
@TANYAJOY629 5 лет назад
I've been lying to myself for so long. I'm so glad things worked out for you! Thanks for the hope!
@NB-jg6fd
@NB-jg6fd 7 лет назад
Thank you for being real and vulnerable and sharing your story. I see a beautiful person here.
@88handsome
@88handsome 5 лет назад
Damn she spoke from her heart 😊 it's painfull when the other half don't correspond to your effort or does not even show signs to try work the realationship ! Good hope you are at a better place Emma Gibbs 💓
@youwouldntgetit3792
@youwouldntgetit3792 4 года назад
I’m completely heartbroken. I did so much for her. I fought battles for her, I was there for her whenever she needed me. I supported her in everything she needed support in. I sacrificed so much for her. I called her beautiful everyday, I said she looked amazing everyday. I was 110 percent committed to her. And she wasn’t. I completely lost myself I’m in so much pain. Hopefully one day I can be like Emma and achieve my goals.
@henrycicacerrilli4643
@henrycicacerrilli4643 4 года назад
he helped me go get back myEx in just 72 hours
@lilyb3165
@lilyb3165 4 года назад
Me to 3 years later still hurt why i dont know in a bad place oh well x
@user-kc3sm2mq1w
@user-kc3sm2mq1w 2 года назад
How are u now?
@babaib3513
@babaib3513 Год назад
Yes u will .of course love is never wasted
@lenoremann7171
@lenoremann7171 4 года назад
Thank you for being so open and real. It was good to hear the real emotion break through in your voice. I have been feeling the exact same way for very similar reasons. Thank you for sharing.
@Jess23icaaci32sseJ
@Jess23icaaci32sseJ 6 лет назад
I've never felt more relieved to hear something. Thank you Emma Gibbs.
@inspirationaltarot876
@inspirationaltarot876 6 лет назад
Thanks I need to hear this! My 2.5 year love didn't want to fight for me either...I'm heartbroken..Your vid has given me hope...thank you!
@stephanroth3170
@stephanroth3170 8 лет назад
this works both way of course. its a horrid feeling, no matter how actually handsome, intelligent and kind you are,you question yourself. its that feeling of loneliness and worthlessness that really bites at me. neither does it help that many stunning women are so self-obsessed and attention seeking it becomes almost impossible to connect yet for some bizzare reason you still chase her. great video and good to hear things like this.
@raynahernandez
@raynahernandez 7 лет назад
Love this! And yes, totally relate to her writer struggle! For me, it's the same as balancing an Artist’s Feel/Musing Creativity with a Graphic Designer’s need to be obsessively detailed, composed and structured.
@amw1029
@amw1029 9 лет назад
A really positive and hopeful message, thank you for being brave enough to be so open.
@ariajohan8838
@ariajohan8838 10 лет назад
Oh my God. You're wonderful. You make me realise that it's all within us, all the answers. All there is left is to discover it.
@mariapulsonicicio4661
@mariapulsonicicio4661 6 лет назад
Just want to say that I just had a very similar breakup, long distance. My first love didn't want to fight for me and bounced. I also watched Lord Of the Rings right after the breakup, you're not alone Emma! The most beautiful things come out of the toughest moments in our lives, go show your swag and your character, you're a kickass girl!
@cjnavarro2998
@cjnavarro2998 3 года назад
hi, I am going through the same thing... I understand your comment was made 3 years ago but I am interested in how you're doing now? When push came to shove after 4 years of long distance my first love couldn't move countries for me after promising it to me, planning it together and romanticising our future (engagement, wedding, travelling together - everything). I would love to chat with you further. Sending love.
@Ipdex
@Ipdex 4 года назад
Just watched this again almost a year after 1st watching it. Now I understand exactly what Emma means. What a powerful and extremely thought provoking piece of work. Thankyou Emma for doing this piece. Truly inspiring and so very helpful. I'm a 62 yr old guy, a Brit, who came out of 18 yrs of trying to make a plan work that I knew I didn't want, and 2 yrs of abuse from a woman with NPD where I again chased a plan I knew a. olden;t work, and b. didn't want it to yet chased it anyway. Tks Emma.
@isaiahmancha17
@isaiahmancha17 7 лет назад
I really love this. Damn... this really hit me... hit me like a damn truck "It's really difficult to deal with loving someone so much.... when they don't love you enough to fight for you. It really makes you question your own self worth."
@PeterPKkent
@PeterPKkent 11 лет назад
Well said, a very touching and thought provoking speech. You're right, it hurts to love someone who won't fight for you. Heartbreaking to watch you reliving that experience. Wonderful though, that your pain has crystallized into self awareness and honesty, driving you to fulfill your dreams and aspirations.
@danielhamilton5094
@danielhamilton5094 Год назад
This hits home, my fiancé broke up with me and started dating her friend who she swore was just her friend. The pain is immense. I feel like I've been in an alternate fog for 3 months. I know it will be okay but damn, it hurts so bad!
@ramnikaghai1706
@ramnikaghai1706 3 года назад
Thank you for your vulnerability. It gave me strength on my journey of heartbreak. I love my heart for loving so much but at the same time, am now chanelling that love into self-acceptance and self-care. ❤️ Anybody who truly deserves you is willing to fight for you and just that realisation is monumental to healing.
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