They gotta fake it for legal purposes because they probably want to get under your skin but not enough for you to report them! That’s what happen to me, feel better than ever to finally left!!
@@AquaBloomStudio can't wait till I have that "finally left" feeling. I've worked at this place 4 years under this Manager who seems insecure. I relate to what you said about avoidance from the boss and this person seems dismissive of me. I'm older and this manager likes younger, newer workers.... there is higher turnover among these employees though. I have a plan and I will leave and, as that time comes closer, I feel better.
I love my job and the boss who is the owner recently installed several ring security camera in the practice without warning. My team and I felt so demoralized and shocked at this behavior. This is a 5 star team that in 3 years has raised the production 2 fold. We all take courses throughout the year to better ourselves and learn new technology. Now no one wants to speak throughout the day. Internal communication is shut down, morale down the tube's and feel as though Dr no longer trust the team. Past 3 1/2 years we have exceeded goals and expectations. We had one rough month in September and now we get security cameras. Very disheartening. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with our boss who is also a micro manager? The team has the best interest in this practice And we truly love that doctor we work with. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thank you
agreed, i experienced it my self now. but he is not actually my boss, hell not in the company i work in . he is just the sister company boss, but acted all high n mighty, trying to deamining me and my team, alway prying our progress event he want me to report him what that actually not his company business/ him in that matter. i got hom in the act of trying to claim achievemnt of my team n company to be his achievement under his company name 🤣🤣🤣. first he look at me at one eye, now he try to claim my team achievement , trying to use me as anyway he could.
Been there. Had a head chef come back of a long holiday to discover i did his job with ease. He went from a good boss to an asshole because he knew I could do his job.
Oooh good addition. If you're so insecure, either maybe you really aren't better at your job and should be replaced, you're spending too much energy holding other people down, and you should work on your own skills. Or, alternatively, the company has a vicious "every man for himself" mentality instead of a team oriented one, so find a better business where your raise and cut of the success is going to be recognized even if you're surrounded by other talent.
I've found out over the years that bosses are biased. They love certain employees and hate certain others. The worst part is it has nothing to do with what kind of employee you are. You can be reliable, dependable, hard working, always on time, never leave early, and get the job done. But if the boss doesn't like you for whatever reason, he will treat you like crap and always look for reasons to chew you out and blame you for anything that goes wrong. On the other hand, if the boss likes you, you can be habitually late, screw off on the job, and make tons of mistakes, and the boss will always make excuses for you.
Hi Dan. I appreciate your comment, but please believe me, there are good bosses out there. There are bosses that strive to create the conditions necessary for all of their employees to thrive. I am sincerely sorry to know that you have had such bad experiences through the years.
This sadly is the rule rather than the exception. First red flag of my last nightmare Supervisor was on my 1st day of training me she looked at me very "matter of fact" like and said "You're here, you work for me and you either like it or you don't. Walmart is always hiring greeters." Once established she would spout off "I'm feeling a write up today-I don't care who or for what." This person was a site manager at a global company for well over a decade and nothing was ever done to curtail or check the abuse of workers and policy. This is so much more common than people realize
If you came to this video because you feel you and your boss aren’t meshing, then you aren’t alone. Hang in there, it’s not you, it’s the ineffective leadership from your boss and organization. Don’t forget, you’re the asset and another employer would love to have you.
Absolutely, theres no reason to stay at a place that doesnt care about you, I've worked in companies that care about their employees and it's a great experience. Unfortunately most companies think that as long as they pay you a salary they can treat you any way they want and you should just put up with it and be grateful for the abuse.
I just got an award for being the best employee. I also got a write up right after because I was “slacking off.” Not joking. Most supervisors are unqualified morons.
I left a toxic work environment 2 weeks ago (not caring whether I found new employment to replace this one) due to my boss having committed over 90% of what was shared in this video. I left work on a friday, and returned on Saturday (when business hours are closed) to leave my resignation on her desk. ZERO notice was what she deserved for the abuse and disrespect she afforded me during my tenure. I have not regretted one ounce of that decision!!
@Maria Kristina Hawl Hi there, I hope you’re doing well after taking this decision and I’m sorry you had to deal with such a situation. I started an initiative to help people deal with emotional abuse at work. Would you be interested in sharing your experience (anonymously if you prefer) on our page or simply provide me permission to add your comment as an example of bas boss behaviour. Your testimony would help and be much appreciated by people stuggling with the same issues. Blessings :)
Same here, I quit my job due to toxic work environment, my previous manager used to write on the board during his meetings" Welcome to Hell" .. overheard him stating to pne of his favourite employees that was asking him if I passed probation that I did not cause I was being a bitch and was playing ping pong with him. I don't believe any of the work ethics and values anymore, I'm used to working as hard as I can to deserve my job and mind my own business but after that experience where no matter what I did to save my job or how much I followed the internal rules and regulations, I was still not enough as oppose to the ones that found a tricky way to get around doing what they are being paid for. I am unable to sit and watch how people scream at me in coffee shops across the building I work at because the boss is in a bad mood, I am unable to understand how someone can bully you in front of everyone and then act as if they are on your side, unable to see how you the verry own rules that are placed for your benefit and the organisation's goals are turned against you for the sake of a drinking work culture that puts mothers out of work and normal families that want to make a living in disgrace.
The person can be replaced yes, but what they don’t think about is the amount of great qualities that person had. They’re not going to always find someone that committed to the job.
Be careful if you hear "we're like a family here"... I heard that at 2 different companies in the past and they were amongst the worst jobs I worked. Never again.
@@taylorjohnson9321 🤣🤣🤣 that's right 👍 you run away from your toxic family of origin by going no contact to safeguard your sanity, so to find another toxic family at work who gives you the same role as the scapegoat or the invisible by treating you in the same way 😬 no thanks 👍 I'll be careful the next time I'll hear this in the work environment.
I left my jobs right in the middle of the most important period where they needed me. I was replaced instantly. Do not be afraid of leaving even though you still have so much to do. You’ll be replaced instantly!
@Seymor Butts EXACTLY what I'm going through. And I don't want to be impulsive and quit my job when I don't have another one but the amount of things employees get away with vs me and some other people are astounding.
I’m going through the same thing!! I started thinking to myself: why is my coworker showing up 30 mins late, but not getting yelled at, but I come in 2 mins late and it’s the end of the universe?
@@elizabethheim1130Literally Me! I need someone to tell me how to handle a situation like this please because everyone else at my job I cant turn to they are so far up managements ass its sickening
@@Thewritingelf Hang in there. Don't leave without giving 2 weeks notice, ever! Don't worry about what people get away with. It's bad practice to do the minimal amount of work possible. It will eventually catch up with you, especially when a company has to lay people off. Plus, it's hard to feel good about yourself when you know you're trying to be lazy out of spite.
@leonor Ballester Hi there, I started an initiative to help people deal with emotional abuse at work. Would you be interested in sharing your experience (if you have one, anonymously if you prefer) on our page or simply provide me permission to add your comment as an example of bas boss behaviour. Your testimony would help and be much appreciated by people stuggling with the same issues. Blessings :)
My former manager did this...it is a control tactic-pit one against the other, and that way you can blame the conflict and dissent in the office on them instead of that manager playing games behind the scenes.
My boss did this to me. I wasn’t being adequately trained and naively voiced this to my coworker...another overheard and told my bosses and they’ve been making fun of me to my face for months now. To every other employee. :(
I experienced this at my last job. Rest assured that if a bad manager is speaking poorly about your teammates to you, they are also speaking poorly about you to your teammates.
A lack of praise/recognition,, micromanagement, over-criticism (coming to me only with things I did wrong or to tell me to do something that diverts from my work) and not listening to feedback (or just dismissing it) are things my new management have done that have tanked my morale and made me way less productive at work. It's hard to push yourself when you feel like your management just doesn't care. I used to go above and beyond for my team under different management. Now I do what's required... I try to push myself to do more but the energy just isn't there.
I once wrote feedback for my manager stating I would like to be designated tasks, ( those were simple things like preparing birthdays or birthday vouchers) to help with team bounding since it was a new team and no one knew one another. He took it as an offence, mastered a diabolical plan where he took us outside the organisation's offices to pay for coffee, thanked us for the feedback and positioning himself right across the table from me screamed outloud "I know I fucking suck at delegating" looking right at me, so he knew that I wrote it, ( altough it was meant to be an anonymous feedback). From that moment on, my life in that organisation was a living HELL and he made sure in his sick and twisted mind to let me know it was my way of paying for what he believed to be criticism to his management style by writing on a chalk board " WELCOME TO HELL" during one of our team meetings. The rest of the team were trying to play along with his sick and twisted games because everyone was afraid of loosing their job, he revenged on everyone that had the guts to talk or even breave in that office. Unfortunately, I was raised to give people the benefit of the doubt and when others told me of how wierd he is acting or that he was high or that he was promoting people based on office " relationships" etc etc, I chose to stay out or took his side in many occasions by stating his wierd behavious could have been down to other factors. But the joke was on me from the moment I met this person to the verry end. I wish nothing as such to anyone in the world. Treating people kindly or minding your own business DOES NOT pay your bills, or save your sanity.
@@sunshinewolf5980 I’m so very sorry to hear about that. I really empathize. I’m still in said environment I mentioned above. I’m here for you. I hope it gets better for you and that you are able to find a better work environment. I know this is very hard.
I just interviewed for a job with a manager who told me she fired the last six people she hired. Guess what? Unfortunately, I won't be available if they call me for a follow up interview!!!
65% of managers add 0 or negative net worth to their organisations. On balance it's not worth employing them; a good team runs itself. There was a case at the Trebor factory in England, the owners noticed managers were demoralizing staff, so they sacked them all, saving themselves the managers salaries and production increased by 200%
Man I wish more companies would realize this. Managers are just there to squeeze employees for labor even when it’s unproductive. It’s just to look/feel busy.
Why would a "boss" need to feel "better" than the people who actually know the job and or the experts they hired? Wouldn't you be "smart" if you knew you hired smart people who know what the hell they are doing?
A coworker and I were recently discussing this very thing. We haven't had a manager in four months or so. As a team, although not perfect or always in sync, collectively, we all care, and are dutiful workers. We get the job done. We pulled the months off without any glitches and thought it was silly that we would be getting a manager eventually. The new hire may need the job, but our needs as an operating team are few.
I am currently working in this environment. Being micromanaged, condescended, treated like the black sheep in the group while the other person is praised and charished, yet that person gossips about every single person in the office and is constantly late for work and leaves early every day. I hate my job!
Bosses are their own worst enemy. They destroy productivity and morale and then complain nobody likes them. A boss should be fair, and understanding and a role model for the team
My boss found out that I have been very disengaged with work and heard from colleagues that I was already looking elsewhere. He took me to lunch and try to tell me how he values me and was willing to give me a higher salary. BUT despite being aware of the problem why I’ve been so demoralised at work, he refuses to make any changes to the way we work and keep it the way it is. Keeping the way it is means, to continue to act like a robot, and get a slightly higher salary to shut up, and be happy to come to work. I told him I quit.
The reason managers dont improve toxic work environments is because it works in their favor, they can surround themselves with yes men and get away with alot of things. Theres no reason to stay in a place like that.
When "feedback" is ONLY ever negative... theres nothing worse for moral. People need to know what they're doing well, they need to feel seen and cared about. If it's only negative, employee's are going to be emotionally burnt out and unmotivated to want to work for you. Why would anyone want to go the extra effort to be exceptional when all they've ever been told is how they keep messing up and only that. Managers undervalue the ROI of treating their team with respect and actually forging healthy relationships. Especially when employee's are genuinely working hard and trying their best, that cant go unnoticed. If you want to coach and develop employee's, it's extremely important to tell them theyre doing a good job or that at least their hard work is appreciated - even if there are small mistakes here and there, allow them to grow, encourage them, and dont beat them down.
I wish my boss could read this. I am only a month into executing my project and have pulled of 3 activities so far but all i hear are all the thinhs that went wrong coupled with insults of all sorts. Its only this weekend that i noticed how unmotivated and beat down i am. I jave lost weight and i look pale anyone can see that i am a shadow of my former self. I often get anxiety and panic attacks plus insomia. Lets not even talk about how my immediate supervisors can actually offer no support and are sometimes surbotagging. I am exhuasted and i dont know what to do.
Yes especially the CO OP in the UK 🇬🇧 Claims to be Ethical, yet treats its staff like slaves. Not only do they regularly breach working time directives on workers hours rules. The stores regularly break health and safety laws. Injuries at the stores are not always recorded in accident books by Supervisors, The CO OP Made millions during Covid 19 lockdown. Yet staff were exposed to the public with no masks or protection for weeks. I know because My wife is a supervisor at said CO OP store. The CO OP are Toxic employers, just look at staff turnover, and problem stores.
The worst is ambiguos “feedback” where they keep telling you “you don’t look comfortable at your job” “you look lost” “you don’t seem happy” completely leaving you gaslighted into feeling insecure of your abilities and really start wondering if that’s the right job for you, to me this is as straight forward a constructive dismissal as it can be.
This is the bane of my existence here. Everything I say is great as long as it comes out of my boss’s mouth who uses me to learn their job and appear intelligent to customers and corporate.
Working for bad companies, coworkers, or bad bosses is a learning experience and good for a person even though it doesn't seem so at the time. Makes you wiser and appreciate the good ones. If you work for good bosses and or coworkers, never ever take them for granted.
I get what you mean, but it is no easy feat to make it through the situation and can be very disruptive to a life over petty things that bosses do. Be better bosses people!!!
Lack of communication. I do most of the communication and when I upset my boss they treat me differently and ignore me more. That is immature to do for a boss. My boss also, out loud in front of the whole team, yell out my mistakes instead of speaking to me privately about them. It creates such a toxic enviornment and she has favorites too. I thought about quitting multiple times just so I dont have to deal with her
How and why do people with anger issues get to manage others? How is that sain for your workplace ? Problem is organisations don't have their employee's interest at heart. In all honesty if they don't need you for a long time they will sack you, blaming it all on you, You were good enough when they hired you but when there is someone more willing to play by the unritten rules and have more fun than work .. you're out the door.
Exactly! I texted boss after she yelled at me and humiliated me in front of junior staff. I listed several instances where I was criticized unjustly. She ignored my text. In person, she acts like I never sent it.
My last boss would tell me he was not going to let any employee hold him hostage and that everyone is replaceable. This guy is the absolute definition of a psychopath boss. The mind games, the making you feel like you should be lucky to have this job, the change your ideas just a little to call them his, the having to justify to him why you deserve your bonus when you outshine everyone. It blows me away that people like that can keep a business going. Let alone sleep at night.
Also,i hate bosses who use this overly abused cliché:Our job is like home,we spend more time in it than home.I hate it!! Those bosses think that we are dumb,emotionless bunch of people.My home is where I have a life.At workplace,is a motley crew of bitches,harpies,an wenches.On top of that,I am the only male between some of the world's most notorious aberrations of human beings,in a Clinical ( or cynical) Pharmacy here in Puerto Rico.They play favorites,stuffs grubs all day,watching Social Media and listening to the most crappiest music genre:Reggaetton.And my boss is nice,but a weaker enabler of this ornery behavior.
God, reminds me of my boss, he told me without him, id be picking potatoes on field and I just dont have enought talent to do anything and he making me favour working for his company. Atleast yours didnt say it that straight...
What I get frustrated with more than anything, and it happens quite frequently, is when a boss says "How long have you been working here, you should know this by now." Keep in mind, this is in the contextual situation of approaching the boss about the self-same issue. So its like being shot down and humiliated at the same time. I want to come back with this "How long have I been working here. You should know how long it takes for me to learn certain things by now. Because if I just was lazy or uncooperative, I would be GONE BY NOW". I may have a learning disability and it takes me longer to learn some things than others but it is never because I am just being lazy. But I am tired of the 'one-size fits all mentality" that many bosses do.
I have had that same issue with my last employer, it's very hard to work with, yet you know you're more than capable doing the job and when you do better they feel threatened!
I have a boss who is just very envious of my professional and personal growth. She conspired with her assistant to be promoting younger staff. Even when it’s obvious that I do everything very well . And go extra mile. They are constantly threatened by my great performance and other team members who performs very better than them .
Divine Chimdiolu Samuel Hi there, I’m sorry you had to deal with such a situation and I hope you’re in a better situation now. I started an initiative to help people deal with emotional abuse at work. Would you be interested in sharing your experience (anonymously if you prefer) on our page or simply provide me permission to add your comment as an example of bas boss behaviour. Your testimony would help and be much appreciated by people stuggling with the same issues. Blessings :)
I always used to go the extra mile. I was fed the belief if I was a hard worker, I would succeed. Some bosses see that, and know they can string you along until you quit or you get hurt. And surprise! They had your replacement at the ready. Yeah, the new guy you were training took your place. Even though he's still not at your level. Nothing against the new guy. Then management is like "why is my store/restaurant/warehouse suffering?" Oh, wait. "YOU ALL NEED TO STOP SLACKING OFF" Yeah, that's it. Not.
My boss promised me a raise to stop me from leaving after several months he never delivered instead he made excuses after excuses and now he is showing me signs he does not need me anymore. What truly amazes he expects everything to be normal between us, what a bitch!
In a job right now, where my boss gets irritated when I assert my rights...he also plays favorites and restricts my advancement. What's more, is that I happen to be the most experienced person there, including my boss and I also get the least hours and clients.
aburningpromise - if you live in a Common Law nation, you could go after them using the implied term of mutual trust and confidence between employer and employee
@aburningpromise Hi there, I’m sorry you had to deal with such a situation and I hope you’re in a better workplace now. I started an initiative to help people deal with emotional abuse at work. Would you be interested in sharing your experience (anonymously if you prefer) on our page or simply provide me permission to add your comment as an example of bas boss behaviour. Your testimony would help and be much appreciated by people stuggling with the same issues. Blessings :)
One of my pet peeves is being told to never have your cell phones out...and having a supervisor or the entire management staff openly using their phones and even flaunting the fact they are somehow above their own rules!
Coworker was written up for having his phone out. He was using the calculator because he needed to for work - the automation had failed, again - but this didn't matter, phone out = written up.
@connie white Hi there, I’m sorry you had to deal with such an annoying situation. I started an initiative to help people deal with emotional abuse at work. Would you be interested in sharing your experience (anonymously if you prefer) on our page or simply provide me permission to add your comment as an example of bas boss behaviour. Your testimony would help and be much appreciated by people stuggling with the same issues. Blessings :)
I've been there over a decade. New person hired who is the new golden child. Boss gives her more hours than me and I believe higher pay (all pay rates are individual deals we are not to disclose so we have no idea the pay rates of other staff. Lots of secrets)
Im still working in a very toxic work place. It effected my self esteem. The main bosses didn't care about the fairy tales the manger told. She got away with everything. Im now looking for another job. Sadly i lost myself because i been in this toxic environment over 12 yrs.
Blah boo - I have just started reading ‘Taming Toxic People’ by David Gillespie - your boss sounds as though they tick the boxes for a psychopath - if you can get your hands on this book you will know what you’re dealing with and hope you’ll be able to build your self esteem knowing in fact your normal and the individual you are dealing with is not. Best wishes
Transferring this "MENTALLY UNSTABLE TOXIC" Who should be FIRED, for stalking, un professionalism, harassment,.. MENTAL EVALUATION AND IMMEDIATE, SEPARATION FROM EMPLOYEE CONTACT!!
Blah.... ..how dare a job, subject you to mental anguish, assigning. A mentally unstable, unevaluated, unsuitable person Manager, causing low esteem, corruption, to an environment they demand you are. Jovial...CUSTOMER SERVICE....
@voodoo doll Hi there, I’m sorry you had to deal with such a situation and I hope you’re in a better workplace now. I started an initiative to help people deal with emotional abuse at work. Would you be interested in sharing your experience (anonymously if you prefer) on our page or simply provide me permission to add your comment as an example of bas boss behaviour. Your testimony would help and be much appreciated by people stuggling with the same issues. Blessings :)
Headquarters sent me a deadline I must complete today. My boss is mad I didn't take part in the Easter egg hunt or drive him to get lunch for the staff. These are grownups.
At my office, there's nepotism, favorites, expectations no one can meet. Employees get away with costly mistakes. They want perfection and high production. The stress and calling out in front of others is a daily thing. Every new hire quits within a year. I survived 25 years. I actually liked my job. I saw through the games and I know how to work the system, not just my job. I refused to let my spirit to be broken. I made the least errors and the most money. I was valuable to them. But I didn't know how valuable until I retired. Now I just pray for my younger co-workers I left behind.....
I'm sorry you faced such a stressful work environment. I hope you are enjoying your retirement. For the sake of your former co-workers, I hope this company learns to adapt, change, and grow. Thanks for watching.
The place I'm currently at (but in the process of quitting) I worked at for 3 years and I felt I knew my job very well. Other co-workers, even supervisors from time to time, would ask me for help with something. However my manager always treated me like I was...well, stupid, to be blunt. She always assumed I needed help and would come over to me herself or send someone else over, only for the other person to end up confused as to why they were sent over when I was perfectly fine. it feels degrading when your manager doesn't trust you to do a job that you're more than capable of doing. She would also separate me from conversations with other co-workers and always had something for me to do or came up with something to keep me away from everyone else. There are several other reasons why I'm leaving but to put it simply, I know I'm not being treated right.
My boss would always have one or two people on the team he would target to really bully and demoralize until they quit/got fired. When they’d leave, he’d just find a new team member as the new victim and start the cycle all over again. Statistically speaking, only 1 out of 3 employees would make it to the 1 year mark.
santacruz474 sucks man, glad I’m no longer there. You become acclimatized to the toxic environment, so you don’t really realize how abnormal/bad it is until you leave.
I think one of the biggest ones mentioned here is that of bosses not wanting employees to learn and ask questions and improve. Asking and answering questions takes time. Nobody has time anymore. If you try to ask questions, often you'll be labeled as troublesome or wearisome.
My last boss would constantly tell me I'm not strong enough, or fast enough, or you're just not a man. The Job was landscaping and I was very green, even though that I'm in college for plant sciences and landscaping and had tons of experience on organic farms. My boss would also constantly tell me that I was stupid, and the tasks where easy enough even a child could do it. He never took the time to explain anything properly, he immediately thought after showing us one time that we would exactly how to do it without making any mistakes, even though neuroscience says it takes one month to get used to doing anything. He would go after us for minor mistakes, or no mistakes a sane person could see, then make us do it all over again, even though it didn't need it. Not to mention if he wants us to be that precise then he should have given us precision tools. Like for instance instead of using a blower around flower beds, just use a push broom, then I wouldn't missed any dirt between the driveway and the flower beds. After a while I would just play it safe, I would just ask him what do you want, or where do you want it, even if I already knew, to avoid him telling me no do it this way, and telling the other employees he's screwing it up again. Its like he wants me to think, and be independent, but give me no opportunity or time to do it. Hell his ability to communicate in general is limited, his vocabulary it is so basic, all it does is confuse me, because I have a terrific vocabulary, and honestly I would have to spend half the time with him just correcting everything he says if I had the time.
I think people managers need to go through a sanity check before they are made responsible for managing people. It can be psychologically damaging for a person to hear that he/she is not good enough every single day for 2 years. I’m a victim. I wake up every day thinking that I should resign. But I don’t :-(
I quit my Job for the following reasons : 1- I have always illogical argument with my Boss 2-being threaten to be replaced or fired 3- not receiving appreciation for my hard work and achievement in the organization 4-unneccessary stress all the time 5-not able to apply my management skills ( I'm PMP certified ) 5-no planning 6-Boss targets are not necessary and just leads to unnecessary overtime 7-unfair and abuse behavior against co workers 8- racism
Talking to your employees like they're children. My boss end runs me every to try to do something to better myself or position in the company. She either sabotages my meetings or puts me in a position where it's nearly impossible to do my job or focus on my commitments in this job. She'll also constantly give me work way below my job skills.
Love it when they refuse to call their own disorganization, poor communication and terrible management skills what it is: CHAOS and incompetence. The label they always give it is, "in process". This is all 'in process'. "You can't expect to get straightforward answers from us because we don't know yet. This is all "IN PROCESS". They tell you to do something exactly a certain way, their way, one day, then later say "oh, we're not doing it that way anymore, we're doing it this way", without ever telling YOU, the person doing it that the method had changed (that they changed their MINDS). CHAOS. But they call it "in process".
When one employee is working hard to close up shop in 90 degree kitchen, and the staff that hasn't left early(even though there is several hours of cleaning to do) is standing around the boss tasting his special desert and says I need to keep working and not worry about other staff because it's good for my character. Then says your young you can handle it. This has gone on for years and am so happy to finally be moving on.
Boss gives me a new project, but before I can even master it, he keeps pulling me back to do my old job, and then wonders why I'm not progressing. I throw my hands up in the air, and am now looking for a new job.
This is the most disappointing when a manager promises an increase in your hourly wage a promotion or to fix a problem and never does anything to make it happen. And it is angering when they keep a toxic employee like you said instead of simply firing them.
Every boss has a scapegoat, and as soon as they fire or drive them out, the vacancy is immediately filled. Sometimes the position is awarded by merit, but whenever you find the position itself to be essential and indispensable to the operation, you can bet your salary you've got a psycho boss and the requirements for the scapegoat position have nothing to do with the job.
Absolutely true. I've witnessed this. There may also be a couple or more scapegoats being forced out silmultaneously. They may not know each other because they are in different offices but have the same boss in common who was at the root of it. In each case, they have gotten new jobs of retired.
I had a quite terrible manager, a very weak man and nightmare-boss. But I always felt it was a positive experience for me overall because I really experienced the full spectrum of what employees can feel. And when I was managing juniors or small teams, I essentially did the opposite of what this boss did with me, and luckily I've had nothing but good feedback. I've had people I worked with stop and chat in the street and say I helped them a lot. But with this old manager of mine, sometimes I see him in the street and I still can't help but laugh as I walk past and ignore him. A bad experience for yourself can turn into great learning opportunity, so long as you focus on taking away the positives.
Had a boss who told me not to question things, who micromanaged and only advanced few of his favorites. Several coworkers left him before I did, but no consequences were taken by senior management even after multiple people left. I am glad that I finally also got out and started fairly late in my career in another work field, but I never looked back and feel much happier now in a more open work culture.
When Bosses don't provide you with the means to live up to their expectations of time limits, and then get funny with you when things aren't done on time. I hate that 😑
I used to work for Wackenhut Security in downtown Houston, the one thing that was most encouraged by management was employees ratting each other out. Every time I turned around I was constantly being called into the office for stupid little things. The manager was keeping lists of everything I was getting ratted out for. I was constantly being written up. This was harassment, intended to drive us out because we weren’t desperately dedicated to the corporate vision.
my boss gaslit me to make me feel bad about my job and accused me for things I did not do. What is worse is he made medical leave so difficult and I felt guilty of taking it. I left this toxic place for good 2 weeks ago and that is one of the best decisions I have ever made:)
Boss: here is this task. It should take you like 2 hours to do it. Employee: okay sir *Boss shows up after an hour and changes key elements to the task initially assigned and throws you back to ground zero and leaves* *After one hour* Boss: So are we done? We should have sent it to the customer already ?!?! Employee: No sir, I need some more time *Boss takes a sigh demonstrating that he is upset* Boss: It should have been done in two hours... alright go ahead ! ** Employees morale, self-belief and confidence shattered and continues**
Firstly I wouldn't call a bad boss Sir unless they are a Knight. Second, I would directly say that by changing the task parameters this is the cause of the extra time needed to complete the task. I, E indirectly blaming the boss for the delay. If they don't catch on then they are too stupid to worry about🙂🙂🙂
Been working hard the past few months on a project, completely swamped and management implied I'm slow. I know I'm not, so I'm handing in my notice tomorrow to go to a company that isn't toxic.
At my retail job been there 20 years and at the point where I almost don't give a shit anymore. I just really don't and looking for any excuse to get out. And many bosses don't care they can have someone filling your job the next day.
As I was watching this is occurred to me that sometimes the "bad apple" employees are, to the management, the ones that want them to actually do something about the problems and relieve workload stress caused by the real bad apples who are often the boss' favorites.
I agree with 100% of what you say of this video but managers that make the workplace toxic is because they have a plan to make that employee leave and some cases the head office higher ups cause a workplace to be toxic.
Don’t forget about the toxic employee farm. That last scenario where you have that one employee that would “make everything better” if he just left? How many of those were previously a productive employee that you never trusted, didn’t notice, never thanked or rewarded, consistently shot down feedback from, and all of a sudden he’s “toxic”. Sure, the symptom will go away when he leaves (he’s probably actively job hunting), but don’t kid yourself that it fixes the problem. Leaders are rare amongst managers.
I tried to talk with my previous manager about how I felt and that he and other people from the office bullyed me by calling me names, screaming mind your fucking templates, saying my oppinion is irrelevant and the manager stating he agrees with the person stating that, not wanting to get involved with people screaming insults during meetings directed to me, etc. etc. He stated" I never tought we have a problem" I then told him I need to talk with his manager in relation to stats and he went ahead and cried like a bitch to his boss saying I was unfairly blaming him of bullying. I quit my job on the day I spoke to his boss because instead of actual concern on the organisation's point of view, they chose to say" you should be greatfull that he extended your probation" and that I was being more than unreasonable for blaming him of bullying. This person has left scars on my self asteem, the ability to speak in front of other people, the ability to function in a normal way, has given me anxiety ( which I NEVER experienced in my life) I now have panic attacks whenever someone resemble him or flashbacks of memories where he called me a" ping pong bitch" sadly there are far less employers or managers left that treat people with respect, dignity or concern to their mental health. I hope someday I and everyone in this chain of people that have been harrased by their employers find their place in the society we live in.
CEO of a major car company once said " Management cant motivate employees they can only demotivate them. " I find this true after 45 years of working. People for the most part are motivated, but get ground down to doing noting or little only enough to get by. I have a supervisor that when he is there everything is chaos, when he's on vacation everything runs smooth. Yeah, one person can make a difference, and not in a good way.
I constantly get nothing but negative feedback from my boss. I know its common to let someone know when they messed up so they can approve, but remaining someone over and over again that your verbal communication sucks because you don’t do it like them is demoralizing and makes my anxiety and stress go through the roof. Every time I send an email out to a group with him on it, I just know one little thing wrong I will be hearing about it for weeks.
I am sorry to hear that your anxiety and stress are through the roof. Have you ever considered sitting down with your boss and talking to him about his feedback? When he provides feedback, does he outline things you can do to improve, or clearly define his expectations? A direct conversation could be the key to improving your overall working relationship.
Do you know how bad I want to forward this to management?? I have been asked to take on management positions. I always have to decline. Why?? Because I can't be like them. I can't disrespect and treat "humans" in the manner they do.
I had a boss who is so incredibly impatient. He had sent me an email about something that I already explained to him earlier - twice. He came to my desk because I had not yet seen his email. I was busy straightening out a spreadsheet. And literally, he had just sent the email seconds ago. When I didn't open the email fast enough for him he grabbed my mouse out of my hand and opened it for me and told me to respond. Mind you, I had already responded earlier and now he's in my office where I could have responded a third time verbally. Craziest thing I ever saw. I only lasted two weeks at this place because when payday came, I didn't get paid. Other reasons too like every meeting I attended devolved into yelling and cursing between my boss and everyone else. I am a professional with several professional certifications in my field and over 25 years experience. I expect a professional workplace and I expect to be paid. Unbelieveable that companies like this even survive.
I had one manager who kept forcing me to work six nights a week while my direct supervisor was hogging every Friday and Saturday night off for herself. When I told the boss I wasn't gonna do it anymore he got mad. After that, I had no passion for the job at all.
Loved the video! 💕 I left my previous job coz my boss made decisions without consulting me (behind my back while I was on vacation) and when I came back I had to apply them to my department, even though I disagreed with them. Plus, they refused to invest on training and fired people they had just hired coz "we realize we can't afford them". Terrible workplace.
I've got a good one. Thank you for your videos. They help a lot! I was attacked by a co-worker. This coworker always calls in. Always has to leave early. They are never really "present." She is also the boss's favorite (why do boss's always pick the lazy ones to be their favorites?) Anyways, this co-worker attacked me. When the boss asked me my side. I explained it. The next day I was told I was disrespectful to my boss for the way I was telling her my side of the story. Nothing was ever fixed about the situation. I'm still upset as the entire situation was turned to make my boss look like the victim. I get so sick of these people in power. It's so discouraging. I feel so stuck. I've also had a boss throw things at me but that's another story for another day. Lol
Oh wow, Im learning to be the victim, turning the tables back on the devil. Um, the new guy told me I had to do something that his position called for and that the person that was in his position used to do. Um, at one point we collaborated on the task but a small correction needed to be made/just adding words to a letter. Um, he wanted me to sit down and help him with that too, although I was telling him in a nice way what to put on the letter. The reason why I was telling him and not sitting down with him was so that he can take responsibility for his work and to not call me, especially on things hed get the credit for. Why did he tell my boss I yelled at him. I didnt. I made sure not to yell because I felt thats what he wanted me to do and actually was talking low to him. The reason why I was talking low was because I emailed my boss asking if she can get him to do the task and I presented a long list of everything else I did to help him. So why would I yell at him when I just emailed my boss? Yelling wouldnt work in my favor so I was actually talking really low to him, nearly whispering saying "ok just put this one line," without sitting down. Do you know my boss, believed him automatically. She didnt ask my side, she told me to go to job site psychologist. By the way this was done 3-4 after "the yelling." To show you how off she is, I ended up doing the important letter that solved an issue and put it on my resume. She signed it, but did not tell the guy. Two months later he asked me if I needed help with it, I told him it was done 2 months ago. She even kept him out of the loop. So now when ppl gv me a hard time (which doesnt happen too often), I cry about it to be the victim and get them in trouble "for yelling at me." Also whatever they ask me to do, even though its not my duty, I do it and put it on my resume. Sometimes bosses become fearful that youre about to move up because youre learning/doing so much. Basically she was trying to send me to psychologist to later use against me to try to get me fired later or hv a bad report on my clean file of 10 years. It didnt work, still standing, file no marks because I turn the tbls on their ass.
It's like you've been watching our org. You hit every nail on the head. I could take up the entire day giving examples of what you are saying. We had one toxic coworker named Alabama Tick because no one could pry her loose even though the blood she was sucking from the staff was crippling the org. We had another guy named Manbaby, who was downright dangerous because he was operating in a hazardous environment using his 2 kB brain running an 8 GB program. We have two bosses, named Captain Ahab and Captain Sobel. Captain Ahab persecuted a female employee because she pointed out an ethical violation on his part. His single-minded drive for retaliation nearly destroyed the group and we were calling the group, The Pequod. Around Ahab, we would loudly say things like, "From Hell's heart, I stab at thee!" but he wouldn't get it. Captain Sobel's unhinged screamfests at women and minorities are legendary as are his false accusations and unreasonable punishments.
I have worked for the Veterans Administration for 13 1/3 years. I have been in the current position for 6 years. 5 years ago, I decided to clean up and try to improve the function of my current position. I identified the issues and then went to management on approval and assistance. 5 years later, I have been ignored and blocked by past and current management on any approval and assistance. I created spreadsheets that identified the issues, only to have management do nothing but ignore me. I enjoy my current position, but am looking at other departments.
I had an office manager back in early 2003 , he brought me into the office and told me and another employee we had to be very committed now to the work, to spend all efforts and concentrate on company goals. At the time I was making 11 bucks an hour, worked an uneven shift of hours, sometimes 6-9 hours, and literally the shift was anti-college. I had no free time for anything. If you're making less than 30k a year and work more than 30 hours a week with no benefits or pitiful benefits, take any advice from management with a grain of salt. They are not for your best interests or future progress, especially if it's a multimillion dollar business and they pay you literally nothing.
Overworking them by treating every situation like an emergency that should already have been handled by you even if it's specifically not your job and specifically is the job of several other employees in a different department
This happened. Because I got so fast at the job I was intended to do just by itself. Well guess what , now they are also expecting me to other shit on top of it
my boss keep saying on me im not capable in my duty and i cannot reach their standard...but im trying so much just to pls her...even my holliday i keep working...im little upset and almost to give up everytime she scold at me even in small things
They are bullies, and probably were at School as well. They will try and dominate you by fear and intimidation. Telling someone they are not good enough, is trying to discourage You. Discourage is 2 words rolled into one. Dis and Courage. Dis is a negative 👎 Courage is a positive 👍 When someone tries to discourage you by criticism or lying about your abilities. They are trying to Rob you of COURAGE. Stay strong and True to yourself. If you are well qualified in your job and know your ability. Reject their criticism. In the end they will try their bullying on someone else. One day they will pick on the Wrong person. Everyone will reap what they Sow.😇😇😇
@@lemonspring6425 One day I am competent and wonderful, and the next day I am a complete failure??? I have started noticing gaslighting and passive aggressive tactics as my boss might be bipolar or narcicistic, or both.... But, mainly very unprofessional and abusive, and desperate to have power and control no matter what! I wont put up with it, I promise.
I just started a new job and my boss threatens to punch employees in the face or throat, she has pinched the back of my neck and has put ice down my back . At first I thought these things were just playfulness and laughed about it but the more she does these things to me the more I try to avoid her now. Apparently she plays these pranks on the other employees as well but I havent seen it yet. She says I'm to "shy" I dont understand what that has to do with cleaning hotel rooms but I'm seriously thinking of finding somewhere else to work because I'm so uncomfortable around her now. And she is not the type to respect your boundaries. It's a shame because I love my job but the tension she causes isnt worth it.
Hello, Ive been working at a hospital for 2 years.ive tried everything I could think of to reason with our fairly new young boss,but she never has anything positive to say,she follows employees around, intimidating them,writing people up for petty things.its not uncommon for a coworker to be seen crying due to her criticism.ive gone to H.R,ive had meetings with her,etc,to no avail.i have to remind myself everyday that were in the field of people and compassion.the list is too long for this message,and gets jaw droppingly worse as it goes on.please help
gesinarenee hello unfortunatley bosses are the depressing Pitts wherever you go I have had bosses who appear all good then they crack it’s like border personality disorder for all of them and I have had heaps of bosses , the politically correct world makes things even dumber where everyone and everyone keeps silent out of fear of warnings and losing their jobs , on the other side in lawless type labouring roles some factory work where work is crap it’s acceptable for everyone to have heated words with each other and no warnings given however which is best a politically correct soft situation where everyone’s afraid to vent or a job where everyone’s at each other’s throats , answer both models don’t work , work is work not because we like doing it we just get it done something to do , I have met bosses that are good sometimes never met any bosses that can ever keep their composure ,?the truth is at work everyone makes mistakes as humans everything is really out of our control we get what we can done in life , the best thing is take up the opportunities yet ignore all the negative bullshit to survive this life in what most call jobs more of it’s like doing time in hell
When bosses call a "brain storming" meeting to "engage" the team in innovative new ideas for improvement, process, PR, etc acting like all of us are worthy to be heard and an important member of our team. After several great ideas are tossed around and everyone worked together to get the kinks out, how to get ideas initiated and set ! up to work for everybody...etc. Then the next company celebration, that boss gets high awards with generous bonus or raise for coming up with such great ways to improve the company and they stand up there and takes all the credit for getting their ideas to their employees in a way they can get the intended goals accomplished smoothly. OVER AND OVER AND OVER again
Damn yes! My boss OWNS the processes to be set for the team. The development of the processes is done with hours and hours of sessions with team seniors like myself. It is a huge time-sucker for me. In the end, it is the Boss's process, her leadership, her initiative. She gets applauded by higher uppers. I ask her for promotion, she tells me you need to create influence with senior management, do something extraordinary. But I don't have time as most of it goes in my projects & her working sessions and neither can I create my own process as I have to implement hers for all my work!! I am losing my sanity!! Developing anxiety, low self esteem and health issues.
I am being judge by my employers that im not doing my work but the fact is every single day i have loads to do. It is really frustrating. With the pandemic that is going on right now its hard to just resign and find a new one. 😓
I’m quitting my job tomorrow. I’m tired of my boss. I never fully understood why my boss was so rude to me, but it’s simple. He’s a bully and this video helped me realize that. So, he can find a new employee cause I’m out. And yes I will let him know why I’m quitting. It’s not the first time a former employee quits on him.
Dear Slayan, I hope you're doing well after taking this drastic decision. I started an initiative to help people deal with emotional abuse at work. Would you like sharing your experience (anonymously if you prefer) on our blog? Your testimony would help and be much appreciated by people stuggling with the same issues. Blessings :)
My boss plays favorite ... no matter how many hours I work and how much efficiency I show he’s always gonna take her side when she gossiping about me and my coworkers... I quit last week but he asked me to stay but she still picking on me and he changes when she’s around I can’t work under this pressure I have so much responsibilities in the company.
I remember feeling like choking, when boss actually came to work, everyone was silent, only thing you could hear was everyones taping at keyboard and noone dared to speak. My boss yelling at me in front on everyone to look him in the eyes when he speaks at me, when i was listening to him, noding and not exactly staring at him. Or him whisthing at me , just like at the dog, when he needed something, even if it was job for a strong man...look he asked me to pack his personal thing wich ha like 70 kilos (some atv thingie) and then laughting at me and yelling ill break it when i could even lift it...it was my first job and itwas humiliating and gross.... and those are just examples of his behaviour. After 4 years, I didnt hate my job, I hated my boss. Sad thing is, I was really motivated and I believe I always did my best. I cared for company, now I see it as hell, thanks to him. Im crushed, it left me with heart issues, bad spine, damaged self esteem and endless negativism.
I had a manager who was a recent immigrant to the US and she tried to impart her "immigrant mentality" onto me. I couldn't ask questions or clarification on anything. "Just do it." "The why is not important." There was no time to learn anything. She just wanted to produce, produce, produce. Even if the assignments came out incorrectly, she was more concerned with the deadlines. She was scared to speak up or ask for help when our team needed it. We were supposed to accept conditions as-is, struggle along and work, work, work. The worst part is that we had a very open-minded and accommodating Director who would've gladly helped us work through the challenges if we had just shared them with him. I tried, but the company was very hierarchy-oriented so SHE needed to be the one to speak up. She made a great worker bee but a horrible leader and manager of people. It was a corporate job with a skilled and educated workforce, but she managed it as if we were working in a factory on an assembly line.
Amen. Not giving me work to do, not standing up for me when I tell him others dont give me work to do. Yet providing a positive feedback. I dont grow in my role and feel like they do that so I dont get promoted as they know I have the abilities.
I'll never forget the day that my coworker was telling his boss about how his home country was literally getting blown up with his family still living there. Our boss's response was and I kid you not: "But you can still work, right?"
