2nd story- He's NOT the Jerk, SHE is! &She deserved to look &FEEL like a Fool, cuz like you said, how long could the Dad go on &listen to her rambling on about how much of a failure their mutual Son is??! Especially when HE knows it's not at all true?! Yeah, RUB IT IN how well he's actually doing! Make her feel like the Elitist that she's sounding like.🤨
Story one: not a jerk, the daughter would probably buy it herself if he didn't. And its their daughters decision to do what she will in this scenario. Story two: the mom deserved to feel stupid because she was being stupid, and a terrible mom. Story three: They're both jerks and deserve each other. Story four: He seems like he understands its importance to her. And he was just asking for a menu change every now and then. My suggestion, would be the previously suggested middle ground of asking her to cook it less. He seems like he did everything right of just coming to her about it and communicating with her. If she still digs in her heels and calls you a jerk, than stop eating her food as much. And cook your own food when you're just not feeling like eating hers. It might suck a bit, but you married her because you love her, and not for her cooking, so just don't eat it. Make your own food and learn to cook better than her. If she doesn't like that, or it makes her insecure than she knows what she has to do.
The 1st story - I'm surprised they ALLOW the daughter to BE a "Harcore" Atheist! The way the Mom is reacting, she seems like the type that would FORCE her daughter into any religion SHE'S a part of. Not sure what to think about that one. But I'd Love if MY kid wanted to read up &study on ANY topic, especially religion. &Hey, maybe the daughter just hadn't gotten around to reading that OTHER book (the Hindu one), yet.🤷🏾♀️
Story 4 she's not the jerk for saying he has a disorder but the way she said it and the time makes her a jerk. She should have talked to him when he got home about checking it out to see if theres a reason for it. Some people are very grumpy in the morning and she should know her boyfriend is like that if it takes a long time for him to wake up
Story 4: Just stop waking him up and when he wakes up just say I couldnt get you up and had to focus on the kids. Then he either gets that repeated or He gets checked out. Simple ofcourse there is a risk with it but the risk to do nothing is also there of it destroying the whole relationship to the degree that they divorce. So better to go for the chance now to fix it then let it be.
Story 3, jerk. Why would you try to punish your man like that and then expect him not to accept gifts from his ex because you were jealous or insecure?
i know this is an old vid but im watching them all (oldest to newest) but story 4 i can really relate to as i have the same issue with my OH as he will say hes up then he turns over and hes asleep and snoring again within seconds and i end up having to prompt him every 15 minutes for sometimes up to 2 hours sometimes he makes it to the edge of the bed and falls back to sleep sat on the edge in different stages of been dressed and when he does finally wake up he has no recollection of any of it including the attempts to get dressed and any blowouts at me for repeatedly trying to wake him up when he would say "im up" when I know hes still asleep and talking in his sleep which he dose often especially when I ask him to get up or to do something ie to turn his alarms off (we have many set about 22 in total overkil i know but needed to help him wake up) but I know he doesn't mean the things he says when asleep but sometimes i can get really annoyed at him without meaning to
Story 2, the son is probably making more money than his parents, has a far better social life, and is doing a job he actually enjoys, that gets him plenty of exercise. She's trying to look down her nose at someone who's towering above her. What a pathetic joke of a woman.
In the last story he isn't even asking her to full stop cooking the Russian food just to try other recipes there is nothing wrong with some variety in diet. I understand her culture is important to her but she should be considerate of her husband especially when he isn't even asking her to give it up just try something new
With story 2 it's almost like gesturing to a Cirque du Soleil performer and being like "Ah yes that's just some carnie." And the only reason she's crying like that is because she KNOWS what she's doing, what narrative she's given about her son, and now she's sorry she got called out on it. Your husband never called you a horrible mother, YOU said that first, lady.
Story 2: the mom is acting more disrespectful and immature than a 14 year old kid people be becoming more immature as they grow up that's what I'm seeing
Story 1: Not the Jerk, Story 2: Not the Jerk, Story 3: Both people acted kind of jerky, Story 4: It is jerky to tell someone you have a disorder but he probably does so idk, Story 5: The wife has a right to cook what she wants but she shouldn't just cook the same stuff all the time especially if she's asked not to so he's not really the jerk but I can she it being interpreted as rude (also love the videos keep doing what you do!)
Ok,I am a non-believer at a teenage age too,I was born into a christen family too and I hate it,all the homophobia and discrimination for others caused me to stop believing,yet I’m always interested in other religions
1st story, referring to the moms pov I know cause I grew up in that kind of surrounding where I was also the same annoying brat that self proclaimed "atheist" so when that happened I was also forced in to hindu religion, but I was given a chance to read all the holy books, my parents were clever and said you have to choose your belief after you finish reading the holy books so I started Quran and completed it in 6 months and bible in 5 months and finally a problem occurred then I got to know that bhagvat geeta is not "main" holy book of Hindu there is no one holy book there is an uncountable ammount of holy books in Hindu so I guess I'm stuck with Hinduism for the rest of my life, And I don't regret being hindu now
For story #4, even if she stops waking him up, he will blame the mother only that she is irresponsible for not waking him up, because of which he might get scolded by his superior or something. Its a double-edged sword to let him sleep and let him get late for his office.
Good job on the Bible. As a Cristian and mother to 2 aithiest sons I would be happy if one asked me for the Bible. You never know how God will do his work once she is reading His word.
It is ok to buy her a Bible. Because she would buy it herself anyway. It is normal that she wants to learn about other religions.And know about them. I had ethics classes in high scool. And during my second year we learned about other religions, not just mine. I m a chatolic and I can say I m glad I've learnt about other religions.I've had some roomates in the apartmants where we lived during the times we worked seasons on the coasts since I m in catering. Some of my roomates were muslim, some jewish, some orthodox or something else. We were talking about our religions and things we do or that are normal for our religions. It can be great experience to learn about others. It does not harm you. You are still who you are. It wont ruin OP's daughther. In fact just the oposite. It will benefit her
Story 1: Not a jerk, she asked for the Bible, he had every right to get her one. Story 2: Not a jerk, she was the one putting her son down and talking badly about him behind his back, what goes around comes back around. Story 3: Idk if I'd necessarily call OP a jerk, both people are extremely childish and stupid, and the guy seemed like a bit of a jerk, OP kinda is too but idk the full story. Like you said maybe it's worse than OP is making it out to be. I think it's a jerk move to talk to or accept a gift from an ex if you're in a committed relationship regardless of the situation (unless you like have a kid with that ex and are co parenting or something like that), but OP wasn't exactly a Saint either. Story 4: Not the jerk. She seems to genuinely appreciate and care about her husband and it's understandable to be frustrated when she's getting no sleep and he refuses to even wake up in the morning. I get being a little cranky in the morning but the husband seemed a little rude to get that angry that he has to wake up. He probably does have some kind of disorder. Story 5: Not the jerk. I think in a marriage it's important for both people to respect each other and do things the other person likes every once in a while. And I think they should both be able to enjoy their food. Also variety is very important when it comes to food I think, especially because of nutrition. OP didn't even say it in a rude way he just politely asked her to make food he likes sometimes, which is understandable. I love pasta, and I make it for myself a lot, but if my future husband doesn't like it, I'm not gonna make it all the time and I'll make what he likes.
The Christmas gift story seems like everyone involved needs to grow up. Who withholds gifts from their loved ones bcuz they don't like his attitude like he's a kid. Pathetic and shameful.
First story: OP is a great respectful father, not a jerk. The mother tho, is an intolerant freak! Her daughter already knows she is a narcissist and will be ok. I hope the father keeps supporting her until she can have a life on her own. But I must say... As a citizen of a main christian country, I find a bit weird seeing situation inverted haha. My mom acted worse when founded out I am atheist, so I think the daughter went through worse til she could get to the point of just ignoring her mother's karen scandalls
1st story: ofc not an jerk i am also 14 year and hindu as an teenager i also want to understand every religion but i belive in god but i woudnt try to convert anyone into hindu i think your the best dad to get your daugther the bible not in attem to convert but to know the world better so that if she got into some religion fight she can probably get away by sayjng that she knows other person-s religion and appresiat it
Story #3- This guy STILL sounds like the Jerk! WHEN did he get "better"?! So, He'll take a gift from his Ex, if he doesn't get a gift not only from YOU (the OP), but also all the mutual friends, too??! So it can't just be You who fills in, but it takes Every1 to make HIM happy enough. WoW!
The point seems to be that they always give each other gifts for Christmas and they intentionally put him aside for punishment. To intentionally exclude him and only him....a year after he was misbehaving (he admitted to it in her version) would be a problem. It isn't the same if they don't normally give gifts, bit to be intentionally singled out as the only one put out doesn't make him the jerk to ask to be part of the group...it depends on the unknowns about their group dynamic
That was a very poor way to look at it, he seems fine with just receiving one from his ex, and they all did kinda start a plot against him because he was being rude and shit like that, which it also doesnt sound like they tried to find out why
Well I am a indian Hindu and actually I am forbidden to read all religion book even gita cause in Hinduisam parents don't actually allows you to reed books like this until we are 35 cause Young's are to play and take responsibility in general until we are old enough to reed gita because gita generally push you towards sanayas this ops mother has to be either living in different country or has to be racists if you ask me
Whoa!! First of all, you DO have a job. It’s called being a mom and taking care of the house. While yes, this is a privilege, because most families can’t afford to do this, you have a way harder job than him. I would personally tell him that you will only wake a him up from now on if you are up, because you need sleep too. Also, I would resort to waking him up harshly a couple times then just give up. I guarantee, after being late a couple times, he will fix his own issues. He is a grown ass man with a family to support. Try going to bed earlier, and Wake the fuck up!
Well and if the son works at Cirque du Soleil that's awesome but yeah people who work at like Cirque du Soleil don't do birthday parties and he's an aerial artist are they going to have like a trapeze set up at the birthday party doubt it!
OK. The story about Russian food is absurd. BTW, I'm Russian, and I'm very into cooking. Everyone sucks in this situation. Like, there's a TON of traditional Russian dishes and the dishes that are considered Russian (by Russians) that are NOT meat-and-dough combo. The girl is not putting that much effort into cooking because the dishes absolutely don't have to be bland and/or only meat+dough, the guy is a jerk for not asking her if there are more Russian dishes he could try. If he showed interest maybe the menu could change entirely and both of them would be happy.
Im also russian, but i dont really think the guy is a jerk since he might not realize that there is more to russian cuisine, still possible he does though
The actions of the mother in the first story are kind of ironic in a way because even though her daughter identifies as an athiest her daughter's interest in understanding all religions sounds a lot like Gandhi's belief who even though he identified as Hindu strove to understand all religions.
Bruh, Story 1, the fact the daughter wanted to read the Bible to compare religions, kudos. I love people who can compare and poke holes in the subject of religion.
Story 1 - buying it doesn't make him a jerk however knowing his wife is gonna me enraged and going behind her back, going so far as to ask her not to tell mom, means he did this with full awareness of the consequences. I think discussing it with the wife and explaining she's gonna get a Bible and read it (especially if they're in America where you can throw a rock and hit a Christian) so why not let her and discuss it to help her see where the clear man made, in her opinion, parts are and how it's not your belief and why. If you have to ask someone to not tell your spouse because you already know it's gonna upset them you are the asshole
wtf is with the presents for this person's husand? Are they really talking about Christmas gifts?? Wtf is this? Does any adult care that much about getting presents?
I’m a mix of gift guy and sleep guy but I’m not as much of a jerk I work at night and I know I can get angry when something happens but I hold it in and I’m not going to accept a gift from an ex because I don’t have one my wife is the first of everything
Russia wasn't regarded positively for their food even before the war. No way I'd allow that garbage in my house. The desperate reaction over there to McDonald's closing says it all.
sotry 2 : "i made her look like and idiot, and an horrible mother" well you are. you can't call yourself a loving mother and denigrate your son's life choice and job at the same time.
First stories kinda sus. He describes his daughter as Hindu, which is a Religion more than a cultural thing and not an ethnicity, then turns around and says she is atheist.
she is amazingly logical about her standing about religion, but why bother buying book??? why not just download it, its a freakin bible you can get it for free in a billion site
Think about your question for like two minutes andcompare both of those options. The book is definitely better. It’s physically right in your hands, using a bookmark and highlighter is easier than remembering which page you were on in a document that would be hundreds of pages long with with almost 1,000,000 words, 66 books, and over 1000 chapters.
In india, Christianity was introduced by the invaders. The British purtugesr french stc. Far from forgiveness. Don't be surprised if people have negative impression of it
Slavic cousine is not bland! Your wife just doesn't know how to cook. I mean if you're English or American and you call our food bad, you need to check out some mental institution
Um, I’m also an Atheist and have basically no knowledge on Indian culture or more specifically the Hindu religion, but she has already denied all belief in religion so she’s not changing religions at this point, she’s broadening her knowledge as to not be ignorant of other religions. I understand that the mother is trying to keep her tied to her religion because she believes this will be better for her. I very well understand the daughters struggle, as I grew up in a very catholic Central America country and when I came out as Atheist their was very mixed reaction, some similar too her moms. I don’t believe the dad is the jerk because all he is trying to do is let her broaden, as I said before, her knowledge of other religions so she can understand them better.
As Syed said, if you don't live in India, you won't truly understand where this insecurity comes from. Thousands of people convert from Hinduism to other religions each year in india either because money offered to them by Christian missionaries or because they wish to marry someother faith people and thus have to change religion to the nonhindu spouse. Hardly any non hindus convert to hindu. No Christians or muslims convert to hindus. If muslim male or female want to convert their family will disown and punish sometimes even murder their kids. All in all religions and conversion are too sensitive a subject in india.
