How Do We Deal with Unconscious People? 

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I love philosophy, but our philosophy for Western. If you were living here in China, like me, you really would knew the meaning that Chinese people give to philosophical sentences like that, it's not the same that we give them, trust me, and the use in their daily live that they give to that is not a good one either. This Chinese proverb, specially I don't like!

I had a yoga teacher from India who said "people are your friend and your enemy" i think that's more like it. But learn from them.

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Still the question, how do you treat your teacher?

There are people out there. Just slowly surround yourself with like minded people

Your consciousness makes the sleep think that you are crazy. But you are not. I know what you mean. I just keep quiet until I'm able to speak with people like you.

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Absolutely! Even with those who, at the drop of a hat, do get so offended! we can remain calm! HalleluYah

The Internal must be a disciplined place, affected by the External as little as possible yet never blind. You speak with wisdom friend

Agreed! Word brother, amen!

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love the way you stated it

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Nice work! Kinda jealous, I’m 43 and still enmeshed. Happy for you though. 💗✌️

@@CrazyCoon100 Working out, Kundalini yoga, mantras and meditation help me! It’s never to late to create a better life for yourself! One step at a time.🌟💜

Im so glad to hear that. I know your pain. The manipulative and the dysfunctional have a corrosive effect. Truly a testiment to hope but not ignorance. Best of wishes friend, for you and you newfound kin

I can see much of my own relationship with my mother growing up and now my spouse in this, but I had that ‘snapping point’ with my spouse. Once I saw it, I realized the same and changed how I reacted (or didn’t) and they didn’t like it and I think that was because they couldn’t get that rise out of me like they did before so easily and couldn’t pull me in and I wouldn’t engage how I used to with them. It was almost as if they’d say, ‘what’s wrong with you?! Why doesn’t this piss you off?!’ without saying it because that trigger for me was no longer there. It’s also been mentioned recently that they will more-so bring up conversations/things they know will (used to) trigger me just to have a conversation with me because having those engagements with me aren’t worth it much any more unless I’m getting fired up like I used to hoping to get a stir from me any way they can because drama is apparently better that boring conversations about things they don’t care much about that I bring up. I feel a change in myself as well were I will just observe the conversation. They’ll say something and I will just look at them and take it all in. I can see much of where they get frustrated and think of how many times that was me before and how unnecessary and useless it was flying off the handle like that and how I wish they could see it from my point of view so they hopefully can find the same peace in it all like I did. Sometimes it’s harder to connect with them on that level because they can’t see things like that and don’t want to because it’s better to have an irrational justifiable response according to them to keep the conversation full of something that is far more interesting than just having no response…or reaction at all. It’s hard when you’re on two different levels there and can’t relate to that at the same time. And in many ways, I feel like life is going to be a pretty lonely place waiting around looking for someone who IS on that same level as you because the majority people out there are much happier living in drama mode and don’t want to wake up.

@@Lacroix999 Yes it is very lonely........ I have even stopped looking now and my life has become more peaceful but sadder than ever!......

my relationship with my mother is the exact same way. with bickering and intense arguments that constantly test me. while i learned how not to engage in arguments with her, we recently had another one that triggered a very very intense reaction from me. it has made me very disappointed in myself in a way… because i expected more from myself. right now i just want to get away from her or any person that triggers that version of me to come out. i feel a bit humiliated that i let myself be that way.

​@@olive4093 Life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you're not free. Everytime someone triggers a reaction in you that in an indicator of a space inside you where you are not free internally (yet). Try to work with it and be mindfull of the situation when a trigger happens. If you can create a space for yourself of consciouss awareness AFTER or during the trigger and BEFORE your reaction. Then that opens up a window of oppertunity to choose a adequate response instead of a reaction out fear/anger or sadness. This requires you to step out of the emotion of hurt/saddness of anger though. Through meditation you can learn to observe that you are just a witness of this emotion rather that being the emotion. and you will see as soon as you are done catching your mothers verbal fireballs. That she will stop throwing them because there aint anybody there to catch that fireball anymore. and Dont be too hard on yourself this is your work, you are fighting years and years of conditioning here. Good luck to you ! feel free to DM me if you want help or advice.

@@Lacroix999 thats a HUGE step, that you managed to step out of that. I believe this is apart of the spiritual path..(the loneliness) you lose some people because you are simply not engaging in the old games they played with you. With family for me this was quite hard and I had to re-develop a new way of interaction with them, with some that went better than others. thats okay. Even with the ones that did not manage to adjust so well to my new way of being, I still have a profound deep love for them and hope they manage to wake up one day. I know they are not interested in such a thing, they are completely emerged in the newtonian world. As you are coming closer to your true self and start to experience peace with what this. Then people will either start gravitating from or towards you. This is a process that can take some time (years). As you become more peacefull yourself , toxic people won't like being around you anymore. Where as before they had a grip on you and maybe had a good use to be around you (party friends for example). I lost many friends due to this transition. I lost some simply because I became more spiritual and they found it weird. Others I lost because they lost grip on me as I became more empowered and unshakeable as my true nature revealed. The closer i got to my true self the more they got disturbed by me. Its sadd in a way but the way i see it these people were never ment to be in my life for a long time anyway. They were passengers.

I cant imagine what its like to live in such a blind world.

@nobody special, I really like your comment, I never thought of that. I’m dealing with an extremely unconscious next door neighbor. He’s part of a drug cartel and I was telling a friend yesterday that my neighbor sold his soul to the devil to be part of the cartel and that’s why he’s so desperate, irrational and unconscious.

Maybe, but it’s still a choice

Me too

This can be is detrimental to your spiritual awakening. This is going to be long, but I hope this helps you and I wish you well!: Remember, we are not separate from anyone despite consciousness. Separating yourself from others is disregarding that our outer experience is, us. We must ascend past the false illusion that life happens to us. We only receive lower vibrations because we allow ourselves to make the excuse of acting on a lower vibration. We do not need to consume the lower vibration of our family. We must not see ourselves as individuals where things happen to us. We can shift our view and realize that our outer experience is, us. We are not exclusively defined. In consciousness, as stated by Alan Watts, "our consciousness is caught by the figure, not the background". The figure is conflict, new or unusual, different things in our life that stick out. It could be either negative or positive. However, when we focus only on the figure, we ignore the background. One way to focus on the back ground is this exercise I do every morning. I think, "what are 10 things I have gratitude for" and then I take 15 minutes to just sit up, look around and be mindful. Whether it be appreciating the weather or the comfort of my bed. This seems totally unrelated, however, it will help shift your mind from focusing on difference/conflict and separation. Focusing on only conflict and difference, invites your mind to separate itself from life. To stop the cycle, mindfulness plays a huge role, as the difference in the grand scheme, would not bother us, and we would not allow ourselves to absorb lower vibrations. We could still be around family, but we do not have to absorb their vibration when it is low. We are not hopeless little beings. We are not "too woke" for others either, or we are not these exceptions where we are better than others. The reason we can not relate to others and situations, is because separate ourselves from life. We may be lacking consciousness and awareness of the background, or the things we have in a constant, ex. unconditional love, food, technology, opportunity, etc. Gain tactfulness and understanding. Life is not an event that happens to us. You regard yourself as everything vent to happen to you. Shift your view and act as if the external world is you, because the external world, is you. Your family members are not the cause. Once you focus, on not separating yourself and on differences and become mindful of the similarities, see yourself as one with them, your bond and love will grow with them. Understand and try to be empathetic as to why they may be acting on a lower vibration, and fuel your thoughts into *not reacting, but rather responding with a higher vibration regardless. Do not let yourself absorb the lower vibration. Once you express your higher vibration it will become contagious once they become aware that acting on a low vibration around you does not serve them.* Of course, set healthy boundaries but always respond from a understanding pov. Your bond should grow with family once you stop separating yourself. We need to ascend this myopic view that life and our outer experience is the problem. Maybe you have developed a spiritual ego? Spirituality in fact is not about separation, it is about realizing and focusing the similarity of everything. Maybe mindfulness would help. Gratitude lists, as we tend to focus on the differences in our life that separates us more than the things we disregard in the background, that is all the same and constant. ex. I used to focus on all the problems in my life, and disregarded the things I had. Expand your awareness to focus on the things that do not separate you from life, and you will find yourself harmonizing with people and family. Remember, what is disorganization and conflict on one level, is peace, harmony and love on a higher level. Overcome the idea that difference in level, equals separation. Space does not mean separation. Be mindful of what is in a constant. We must not create s=this spiritual ego, or spiritual identity where we feel and act as if the world around us is the problem. Once we ascend that view, we can progress. But do not worry, this set back, is an opportunity to receive life long wisdom. If anything, view this setback as an opportunity to learn how to be unity with family, strengthen bonds, and improve.What is a set back now, which is being unable to relate with family and seeing them as if they lowering your vibration, is wisdom on a higher level, where we come to terms that we do not have to attach ourselves to the lower vibration, or separate ourselves from others in order to ascend in our spiritual path, I hope and wish you well on your spiritual journey sending lots of positivity man!

its a lonely road

On a different*

Your on a different frequency or vibration. Its possible for anybody to tune their mind and body to a different one. I once was tuned in to a different one before and i didn't even know it was a frequency. I got tuned back onto the old one , now im constantly working everyday to get my mind amd body back onto that frequency. If you ever get your mind and body to a place where you haven't been before, stay there until you die. Don't slack off bc once you slack off its hard to get back right

Childhood traumas are overrated! What about the trauma of birth? That must have truly been really a terrifying experience! And also the trauma of being a separate self that is going to die?What a shock to the system, only to be fought with denial. And then there are all the traumas of the collective human and even prehuman experiences that we all carry around as our human conditioning. I not trying to diminish ugly personal experiences. I am only pointing out what we are dealing with here - a huge chunk of work that usually won't vanish in an instant as often promised by the self help industry. 😘

Those in the know, mostly the elites, use the fact that you are unconscious to their advantage to manipulate you every day of your life... It's actually fairly easy for the conscious to manipulate the unconscious its done every minute of every day. Solution: everyone needs to be conscious... he knows not what consciousness is!

So true

it may be more than childhood traumas.

@@edzardpiltz6348 Dead center bullseye...!!! ⚡👍👍🥴👍👍⚡

Well said. Thank for that additional perspective

and to Know and not do is not to know.

Do you mean to keep your own sanity in check or that instead of it being others losing it is really yourself?

@@TheFos88 It doesn't have to be either or, no-one has a monopoly on sanity or lack thereof. one could be losing ones mind right along with the others, and just because one is crazy doesn't mean the others aren't that way as well, and vice versa. The fact that you can ask says something pretty good about you though, just do a fearless self inventory once in a while and don't get overconfident. Ill do the same.

@@laserbrain7774 hear hear

@@laserbrain7774Maybe "fearless" isn't the right word. More like courageous.

@@laserbrain7774 hey friend of bill’s

Or they are just abusive and stomping all over our boundaries. But the best way is always calm and peaceful ways. We don’t have to be cruel or nasty but we can draw boundaries... with love and compassion.

Becca Reynolds oh yes, there is a difference between being aggressive & being assertive. poor boundaries & guilt about standing strong are actually facets of the shadow side

@@beccareynolds4625 YES, YES, YES!

@Graeme Skye Babylon. Sounds like a perfect alternative name for London.

@Graeme Skye interesting. I know who I am but currently only know where I 'don't' stand.

@Graeme Skye give me a lead and we'll see

Me too.

I can relate to your anger..Trump and some of the other billionaires can cause the same sort of feelings for me...but if the world only had loving ,unselfish, awake people in it how would we work out the karma we've all got? You wouldn't even be watching this video if you weren't trying to keep walking your path..so please don't be too hard on yourself..and " calmly back awaY" from that fight/defense mode (unless somebody's trying to steal your purse or kick your dog- it's only useful in real emergencies)..peace and love to you!

It is a long precess, the mind never give up, just a break and come back the same, it life time, the only tool that was created to break it, weak it and one take charge, is dinamic meditation. That really break the pattern deep, the mind will not be the same anymore. It hard to do but the most worse thing a divine tool.

So honest, insightful and hilarious. Keep up that humor. Eventually we will be able to just smile at the "collective buttwads." And thanks for sharing.

I appreciate your honesty, which is just going to keep you so much more real and perhaps, more conscious....I think it's true 95% of change is just realizing your patterns, that's big, and then you can just keep practicing over and over....I think you definitely want to be more conscious, and there are always going to be more unconscious people than us....The more conscious I become, the more I want to keep working on it! That's the most important thing in my life now, and living in this world, gives us plenty of experiences to help us become more conscious..... or unconscious.... wah wah

😆 and now i got it

You’re so patient but you can remove the person from your life, no need to sit thru the dissertation he presents?

@We The North - It was interesting to read your story and I agree on most points. The one thing I'm not so sure about is the idea of " ....we are all exactly where we are meant to be and move along evolving at the pace that is our own".......On the surface this sounds nice and may be somewhat true for the average person. However, we must remember that we have some very evil behaving people in this world who will kill you for your shoes and wallet, and others who r*pe children and kill people for fun. We can't possibly say that "they are exactly where they are meant to be". Yes, they are deeply unconscious to be harming people so severely like this, but we must be careful to not whitewash people's bad behavior. We need to call out bad things and correct people's behavior too.

@@IKARIANOFFICIAL Thank you for your reply. I totally understand where your coming form. Yes there is a lot of ugliness here and it all comes from pain and choices. When I was young both of my parents were abusive . My father made my mother , my brother and I live in fear of his temper and we would be hit if he felt we got in his way. My brother and I are half brothers with different fathers. My blood father is the man I’m speaking of here, he adopted my brother before I was born. My brother never met his blood father, my father was the only father he ever knew. My mother hated my father and never treated me with love because she hated my father and I was the product of that bad relationship. She poured all her love on my brother and and never approved of me. As you can imagine this made me grow up feeling unloved and unwanted. My parents divorced and my dad moved far away and didn’t bother with me much at all to this day, and my mother lives in complete denial of her neglect too me. When she was angry she’d say “your just like your father”with disgust in her voice. Because I knew how much she hated him it was the meanest thing she could say too me. I tell you all of this because I went through tremendous pain all my life by feeling completely alone and unwanted. It took many many years for me to recover and let go of all the pain inside me. All though my teenage years I acted out and got into trouble a lot. But when I had my kids I swore to myself that I would never be like either one of my parents..... and I wasn’t . I never raised a hand too them and I tell them I love them all the time. They are all grown up now and live healthy lives. I guess my point is that there is ugliness and pain everywhere and we are victimized through no fault of our own which can turn us into people we don’t want to be and essentially become like those who harmed us. All I did was make the decision not to be a victim and it broke the cycle of hurt that surely would have continued if I had not. We have no control on what others do, we only have control of what we do.I am not sitting here blowing my own horn by any means, it’s just how it worked out. My point is that no one is born evil, they become that way through cause and effect of their environment. Everyone has a choice even if at the time they can’t see it. I believe everyone is worthy of redemption and happiness. Even though I suffered a lot of pain and to this day neither one of my parents acknowledge what they did too me I feel that I am free and always was. I learned a lot about myself and how “life” here really works. I was where I was meant to be and I still am. There is a beautiful movie I saw a couple of years ago that deals with this very topic . It’s called “the shack”. I highly recommend it because it makes it easier to understand. Thank you again for your feedback, I appreciate it. I hope everyone living in pain out there can find the path out of it and live the lives they deserve. ❤️

The ultimate issue here is the epic battle we all fight every moment, which is .... DUALITY...... once we come to terms with it there is peace and understanding. But it’s never going to be easy, because for “existence “ to be we must resist what we are...✌️

We The north Sounds about right.... we are still evolving as a species. Greetings from southern Ontario.

That's my comment too.

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@@landofknowledgeandfaith Why?

@@danielr3522 dive deeper. THATS WHY !

@@landofknowledgeandfaith I'm fine thanks.

I never understood why people call it the dark night of the soul. Your soul doesn’t have to go through any darkness as your soul is pure, infinite, divine love and light. Your soul doesn’t go through enlightenment because your soul has always been, is, and will continue to be the pure essence love and light. Instead, I like to call the process of awakening; the dark night of the ego.

I would distinguish between love and acceptance. I love my daughter. I think that statement would be diminished by saying, "I use to hate X, but now with compassion I have come to love X." "I now love X," seems to cheapen, "I love my daughter." For me, I love my daughter and accept X for who they are. That fits better for me.

@@diegooland1261 I didn’t experience that. Detached compassion enlarged the love I already felt for my sons, my granddaughter, etc. Two+ years of daily practice - which I thought would benefit them - ended up light up me & everyone else in ways, at depths, I could never have imagined. But I have to touch base with the Diamond Sutra regularly; it’s not easy. Goes against American social training.

@@jeanhelms2621 Thanks for getting back to me Jean. Perhaps it's word choice and our understanding of them. Detached compassion means nothing to me. I feel compassion toward a bunny. My compassion is attached to a little, cute rabbit. My distain toward a person who shows hatred toward women is direct, specific. I do not want to see harn come to someone who shows hatred toward women. But I will not extend to the my love. I will show them compassion as a living being on this planet, but not my love.

@@diegooland1261 Your notes tell me you are a compassionate, loving, moral & ethical person. I believe it. And, you’re correct “detached” compassion IS different. It’s tricky & takes determined intention. It’s not for everybody. But I needed it. Your daughter is fortunate to have you as her parent - IMHO.

Groovy

Sweetheart11 Arn’t we placing a judgment on those we say are unconscious?

"your silence is like water to their fire "

I was just rear-ended and had the same reaction. Totaled my car, thankfully I practice yoga daily and just brushed it off with no physical issues. I acted with grace with the other driver.

Great advice I will try to follow, fake it till you make it.

2000%. This is my driving force when I am around people I don't effortlessly enjoy

Yes so thankful the power of awareness of self

I wish this wasn't so true 😫

@@polyglotta1 it’s really a good thing. Not easy not fun, but I think it’s a good thing . Don’t label it as bad . It’ll make it worse . See it as it is . Neutral

soo true

I feel you!!

I feel it for 26 years

same i could sleep to it

Yes but I hope you don't forget to also drag them down to the basement, pop them in the freezer and quickly scamper away promising never NEVER to do it again... or is that just me...

Lol

I roared at that! :D

The Unconcious love snakeoil

@@Iwazgonnasaythat You're NEVER alone in that regard.....

Very well said! You seem to have a great deal of clarity on this. May you be a blessing to others!

@@AwakenInsight Thank you! I have that intention!

True....i took it upon myself to help a really unconscious neighbour as she had been very helpful in practical matters....but I ended up being exhausted as i realised i was entertaining her....like the tv she watches every day......this came from my childhood...........so I stop entertaining her and answer her shallow self absorbed questions without embelishment........so we both sit there without talking...and she mumbles as she is so uncomfortable,,,,,,,,,,,not sure how this will go as I've only just started doing it........

Depends on why they are unconscious. They can move and make noises.

I think hes making a joke. Nice one!

Me to

That’s the most human feeling you can have

@@kaylasheehan2167 But humans are supposed to be all similar and social together in communities Kayla .

Well You are also going through an extended period of isolation right now so

@@kaylasheehan2167 So ?

Love and Light to You!!✨💜✨🌿

lol

Maybe once I have a cabin in the woods. For now, I have to walk around in public in crowded spaces. Kind of hard to avoid people lol

My philosophy when I am too tired🤣

Lol 😂

The universe will bring you more of what you fear / avoid as a test to improve yourself

six unconscious people didn't learn anything.

Its not your place to make them aware💓 I say that with the most love and as a reminder to my own self. As he mentions sometimes your passing on judgement of what u think they need will influence them.

@@manfaamarie understood. ...now but I had to learn thru trying I guess

There are two kinds of understanding. There is the intellectual understanding, which is very useful, but also quite limited. And then there is a deeper understanding which comes from awareness. And there is also some degree between the two. But the deeper the awareness, the deeper the understanding. And from that level of understanding our illusions fall away naturally. We often begin with just the intellectual understanding, having read or heard some explanation from someone, but sometimes we confuse this for that deeper knowing. Once the mind has grasped some idea or concept, we tend to think we have fully understood it. But we need to go beyond that and see by our own observation and awareness. Sometimes this can be an ongoing process, in the sense that awareness is gradually deepening. So we may not understand it fully all at once. We just have to stay with it, coming back to it again and again, going more deeply each time. Sometimes letting go happens in segments. We let go a little more each time. And each time our understanding deepens a little more. The important thing is to be patient with the process... to be gentle.. to be relaxed with it. The more we relax with it, the deeper we go.

I feel the same lol

Oh yeah i got it now more, and specially the last part I know I need to be patient and gentle but sometimes the ego wants the process to be over coz he's in the unknown zone, but healing takes time and it's done in layers, thank you so much again for ur light and and reply, sending u love and light ♥️🙏

.. dont be selfish and it will perish..

Yep, it is a very lonely existence. I wish I had at least one like minded friend, but just like you I don't know anyone except here on RU-vid.

In some ways yes, or you can be that gift to yourself, I love my space, I love my life without people. I have a job currently but when I'm not working I'm in my sanctuary and intimate with the brilliance of the universe.

Same here but don't forget that fear of being alone is what keeps many people in dreadful relationships. As a bonus I would say that I've noticed there's more and more like us now though.

same, just waiting for my twin flame at this point🤞

@@wes_1001 I've been waiting 48 years for my twin flame.

Great point, we learn our most important lessons through our biggest struggles.