How do you move forward after an emotional affair? 

An emotional affair, which is actually a friendship with another person, is not adultery. Get over being jealous

@@vanessaverner8480weird definition. Emotional affair is not merely a “friendship”. An emotional affair is more when a person (other than the partner) is fulfilling the emotional needs that a partner would fulfill, and that is being hidden from the partner. It is a partner surrogate emotionally, where romantic feelings often arise and it is not just a friendship. This is where things easily blur and then that connection can turn physical. I’m curious why you seem to be defending it, as well as labeling someone jealous for their comment? It indicates deeper issues, denial maybe?

@@Alphacentauri819 even a best friend of the same sex then could be considered an emotional affair

@@vanessaverner8480 nope, not even. It’s not the same. If you are hiding things, that should be revealed to your spouse, and having romantic feelings towards your same sex friend…than that would be the same…but it’s not. A best friend, is a different bond. There isn’t a risk of it blurring boundaries. This isn’t saying that opposite sex people can’t be friends, but it’s all individual. If there is complete transparency, and intimacy isn’t shared (that should be saved for a spouse), and the spouse comes first, and you have clear, defined, boundaries, of what that friendship is (and isn’t), that’s not an emotional affair. It seems that you are confusing any friendship with an emotional affair. That’s far from the case, and is indicative of simplistic thinking…like thinking influenced by cognitive distortions. Cognitive distortions make us think dualistically, black/white, all/nothing, always/never…it is a way that people, with unmitigated anxiety approach the world. Life is far more complex, layered, and nuanced. Each relationship and potential “friendship” has to be approached individually, with awareness of each partners attachment wounds, prior history, and more.

Matthew 18, make another person aware then…

@@julianoppong7539 what if you have bought it to their attention and to another person and pastors and it continues

You decide to stay or divorce

It is simple decide to stay or go

Either get out or stay. What is going to make you happy

You clearly do not understand marriage or intimate relationships