Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair

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The wreckage of an emotional affair is no less devastating than that of a physical affair, but it involves a few specific nuances that must be addressed strategically. After all, how do you actually define what an emotional affair is in the first place? How do you distinguish between an emotional affair and a mere ‘friendship’? And, what if the unfaithful doesn’t believe that their behavior is inappropriate to begin with? Today, I’ll help both the unfaithful and betrayed find clarity and strategy.
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@lynette599 3 года назад

An emotional affair is if you are communicating to somebody OTHER than your partner something you would not say or express IN FRONT of your partner.

@syttorak7629 3 года назад

that is a big part, but i would imagine it isn't the only way to have or start one.

@raia9 2 года назад

I get what your saying - but that's not 100% if I'm struggling with my husband and confide in my best female friend to get her perspective and I wouldn't do that in front of him - it can help and don't regard it as having an emotional affair. But yes if I was talking to a male Id met online say and saying things behind his back that would hurt my partner - then yes.

@Burps___ 2 года назад

@Lynette I discuss with my accountant how to cut corners on my business write-offs and wouldn’t tell my wife, but I’m not having an emotional affair with my accountant.

@l.adcock Год назад

@@Burps___ Would your discussion with your accountant make you or your wife uncomfortable if your wife was sitting beside you? Surely you are not so ignorant that you don't understand what Lynette is talking about?

@iridescentsquids Год назад

@@Burps___ "wouldn't tell" means, I think, that you're hiding it...as in it's off limits to your spouse, but not others. If there's an understanding with your spouse that some of your business relationships need to be confidential, then it's not hiding. The understanding between you covers that you don't disclose details.

@gailcole9913 2 года назад

Some people are too weak to get a divorce when needed. They married people with no spark because they are afraid to be alone. They are with someone they never should have been.

@user-ds8fq8cp2f 3 месяца назад

Some cant,for health n financial.reasons

@kommoncents6873 3 месяца назад

@@user-ds8fq8cp2f💯

@battlevain 17 дней назад

Great points. I believe that when we "settle" with a partner rather than seek out a more authentic connection, we often underestimate the power of attraction. It's an unfulfilled desire that only needs a spark from a connection with somebody that ignites our passions effortlessly.

@jeanjoseph7905 10 месяцев назад

they always say "we are just good friends" and they just met.

@susanita123villa5 Месяц назад

mine is 54 yr old man with a 24 yr old woman

@lindamateri9906 Год назад

Yes texting other women and getting angry at me when I point it out,, he feels like he is justified in doing it

@user-ds8fq8cp2f 3 месяца назад

Exactly

@JohnnyJitsu11 2 года назад

I knew I wasn’t crazy by the feeling of doom and craziness in my head..

@petekdemircioglu 2 года назад

Me too

@raia9 2 года назад

1) Intimacy avoidance 2) Seeking approval and validation 3) Pimping tenderness 4) Relational lethargy 5) Objectification - only seeing the negative aspects of your spouse to justify your behavior and seeing emotional affair partner as greater than your spouse magnify their great points 6) minimization 7) self deception that you are great as your emotional affair partner thinks, would have been better if I had married them, they see us as great our partner doesn'interests

@BadddDoggg-id4po 5 месяцев назад

The guy worked with my wife, he would call the house and they would talk for hours right in front of me. She would go to his house, just the two of them alone. They would go out to eat. This went on for years until he finally moved away. I asked her about it tonight, asked if they ever kissed or held hands or if he made a move. She said none of that happened, and after 30 years of marriage I think I believe her. She had never heard of an emotional affair, she said yes, she is guilty. Feels like a stone in my gut. I thought for sure she was going to leave, I told her I almost stated looking for another girl because I thought she was a goner. I told her I stayed faithful through it all. I have been working on repairing our relationship for about a month now and yes we have 30 years of baggage we are working through. It sucks but we are getting closer than we ever have been. This month has been an intense roller coaster.

@RachelJane101 2 месяца назад

John Gottman has some great resources for couples going through this sort of thing. Check out his books.

@suzanahas4740 Месяц назад

Yes… as painful as it is, without this experience you wouldn’t have reached these heights of connection with your wife. Things are happening for a reason.. my suggestion: look into the attachment theory. This would save a tone of misunderstanding.. good luck!

@joannamulthauf-fuller7293 2 года назад

My husband continues to have theses affairs. He doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. I’m at my limit.

@apco1752 2 года назад

Me too. My husband has had at least 3 that I know of.

@ninababy8 Год назад

It’s madding

@iridescentsquids Год назад

I can't tell if my wife has had them or not...but it sure looked(s) that way to me. My problem is that the topic is off-limits...very hard to talk about with her. She insists nothing of the sort has happened, but is also deeply hurt and extremely angry if I continue to express that I doubt her. I can't tell if I'm unreasonably jealous and paranoid or if I'm being gas-lit. Strictly facts...I know that a woman she had to work with for years had an obsessive crush on her (admitted by this woman), and they continued to meet, go to lunches, exchange "professional" gifts on holidays, etc. My wife has some bi tendencies, she admits...but also likes attention generally. On the one hand...at least this woman can admit it to my wife, and my wife did tell me... and doesn't that transparency suggest nothing is going on? On the other...it just feels like....allowing an on-going boundary issue to me. I feel disrespected when my concerns are not met with empathy or reassurance. This woman was brazen enough to give me a big hug at a public event and gush about how wonderful my wife was in front of her...with all of us knowing about this crush. I'm thinking..."if she were a man...think how incredibly inappropriate that would be". Nobody saw that as inappropriate but me. My wife conceded afterwards that maybe it was. She didn't seem to be hiding anything from me. The second instance was a very close, same age, handsome, tall professional...office next to hers...same fields of interest...close allies for years with office politics...traveled with him even over seas twice....many conferences together.... I felt uneasy about him generally...tried to express it to her...and she defended him vehemently and could not acknowledge my concerns about him. The way she put it "I need to get along with people at work, and your paranoia and jealousy threatens my work life". Again...gas lighting or me being too sensitive? Hard to tell. Eventually this guy left his wife, hooked with one of his younger post-docs, married her and ran off to the other side of the country. Now my wife concedes that maybe my intuition about him was somewhat correct. She has since told me that he shared with her many confidential things about himself, and that she felt at the time it was inappropriate to in turn share those with me. I told her that I generally feel like if you tell a married person something, you can't expect them to keep it secret from their spouse...that spousal trust must come first. She was not convinced, but accepted that I feel that way. But still...she insists there was no emotional affair. Better, more trusting and mutually empathetic communication with my wife is key to my piece of mind, and obviously there's work to be done.

@annmarie8788 Год назад

Mine too with the same woman. He doesn't see anything wrong with it and says emotional affairs is foolishness. What hurts is that he puts this woman's feeling above mine and shouts at me on the phone when he's around her. He claims he loves me and wants our marriage to work but he still keeps in touch with her and lies to me about it. I don't trust him and I am honestly wondering what to do. Our kids are under 10yrs old. I know God is able to make the impossible possible but my husband doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.

@c.j.9248 3 года назад

My wife pretty much didn't miss a best in her relationship with our children after she admitted to her 2-year emotional affair with their married church youth pastor. And 5 years later she still has strong relationships with all 3 of our kids. I took it harder and still am trying to reconnect 5 years later as she has put in a million times more effort in reconciling with our kids and her friends than she ever has with me.

@battlevain 17 дней назад

Trust your gut instincts. If you feel that something is off, it usually is in a relationship.

@staceyward8316 Год назад

Going through this right now my partner has been secretly playing online with a girl she calls him cutie vice versa and then calls me paranoid

@Water2Waver 3 года назад

I just discover my wife is having an emotional affair, her behavior checks out all nine point.

@davidjohnson7987 3 года назад

pray and trust in Jesus. i know your pain, you will be ok

@JohnnyJitsu11 2 года назад

Wishing you happy healing and great energy, you can pull through.

@dh8787 Год назад

Thank you! This video helped me tremendously in understanding what I was going through. I also asked my husband to listen to it and even though at first he said he was thrown by the term “emotional affair” he said he couldn’t deny that it was spot on. This has been a useful tool in encouraging more honest conversations between us. More healing to go, but this has definitely helped.

@chet5862 3 года назад

This is spot on. He had emotional and physical affair with co worker. It is 15 months past first d day but he kept contact until 9/19 and then kept working with her... today he still has head space for her..... we did all the recovery stuff on here but that can’t change him. 😢 thank you for posting

@AL_FARID_23 3 года назад

Keep the faith friend

@CaToRi- 3 года назад

Katrina, it’s look like you are way more recovered than him. A pray for you and your relationship

@dinaespinoza7828 3 года назад

@@AL_FARID_23 , that''s right!

@dawnbruce2145 3 года назад

Grr

@cjotz6599 3 года назад

My husband had an emotional affair with a lady from church. He ended it and she called me and told me. He says it was nothing but I keep finding out things that prove otherwise. I will never trust him again

@ping7364 3 года назад

Even church’s people can not trust .

@mihaelar7080 3 года назад

My ex had too with a girl from curch until I exploded so many times that he left me because now i'm too broken and not holy enough for him anymore💔. How can I do to not repeat this situation in a future relationship ?

@noneofyourbuizness 3 года назад

@@ping7364 people from church doesnt mean they come from heaven . They are humans But that is messed up

@sherryhart519 3 года назад

I am so sorry.

@deepa0706 5 месяцев назад

Did you leave?

@martyedwards1531 Год назад

My husband often told women untrue things about me. I'm guessing so they would feel sorry for him. Poor guy has a horrible wife who made him have sex with her 3 times in one weekend. I asked him why he would discuss with another woman untrue things in such a personal nature. He didn't have an answer.

@jensbornagain 3 года назад

My husband had an affair with w friend from the bar. I used to argue with him about my dad saying not to be friends with women and turns out everything my dad says is right. I let him live like he was single I’ll be broken for the rest of my life.

@cjotz6599 3 года назад

Don’t let this destroy you. Is your husband truly sorry? Mine isn’t and I won’t trust again. Change the game and don’t allow him to call the shots

@bethaddis4377 3 года назад

Jen you can get through this and be better then you ever have. I’m going through it right now. You can take this and make you so strong and amazing

@JohnnyJitsu11 2 года назад

I’m about to watch and listen and I’m afraid because I already KNOW.

@petekdemircioglu 2 года назад

I know that feeling

@HonorMom Год назад

Painful...

@stuartlincoln4943 11 месяцев назад

If your gut instinct is telling you something trust it

@abhijitmajumder9278 9 месяцев назад

You are absolutely superb. Your analysis, your brilliant in-depth articulation: are simply amazing....

@renaeepler1372 3 года назад

Thank you! This video makes, those of us betrayed, not feel so crazy for our thoughts and feelings in an emotional affair!

@JohnnyJitsu11 2 года назад

Amen to this

@billysantiago6016 2 года назад

Exactly

@PaperclipProphets Год назад

Great video, thank you 🙏

@imlistening3218 Год назад

My husband had an emotional affair 8 years ago that lasted 9 months, as well as his addiction to porn, masturbation, flirting, .... The night I found out was sincerely the worst day of my life, and I drove to the country to kill myself. The thought of him getting away with this relationship and my kids never knowing why their mom would take her life is what stopped me. I forgave him, and for the following 3 years we became very close. Sadly we did not get help, and he so desperately needed it. Then I found out he was once again fooling around online 3 years ago. I caught him. Again. No confession. No shame. No guilt. He moved out of our bedroom, confessed to our children and members of our church, and after working through a lot with a pathetic counselor. I thought, stupidly, that his behavior was finally done and now we could heal. Fast forward to now. I'm 99% sure he's having an emotional affair with a woman from work. He thinks because he hasn't bought porn in a year that we're good, but I know he knows he's lying to himself. He constantly lies to me, withholds compliments, will not take spiritual leadership, is paranoid of me going to his workplace... And he still watches inappropriate stuff online, it's just not 'porn', and he is still addicted to masturbation. I want to die. I hate it, and although I pray for him constantly, I can't see how we can heal and move forward. Our kids will be devastated. This is not the life I've so desperately prayed for and worked for. I can't do it anymore

@manuelsantos3779 2 года назад

I saw all this signs but refuse to believe but my gut was always alerting me we are currently getting divorce not before the backlash from my lawyers because before she abandon her home she didn't take in calculation the ripple effect it was gonna create in my and her life.

@steveklemettisdragracingvi8861 3 месяца назад

Should you be emotionally connected to your spouse? What if there is no connection?

@eileenmolina9152 Год назад

My husband cheated on me by always communicating with his co wroker reason is just for work follow up but he hides his phone see all their messages exchanging words of affection.. He blamed me and physically hurt me and emotionally intended to hurt me more.. And till now he is protecting his mistress....

@SuperBrilliantbrunet Год назад

How do you get your spouse/ husband to admit this emotional affair is happening? I can see it plainly but he only denies it and gets very defensive when I have said anything to him. :(

@nickhartman6372 Год назад

I don't know your situation, but I would say getting defensive isn't something a truly honest person would do. That's the thing about liars...they feel absolutely no guilt about lying to people and sometimes even delude themselves into believing their own lies.

@maylynbayani 9 месяцев назад

If you find yourself hiding a communication with someone from your spouse then you have no business talking to that person in such manner. My closest friend is male. We have been friends since we were in preschool or first grade? A long time. We always put the speaker on when we talk when my husband is around. I also make a rule to never share anything about my spouse or marriage to anyone.

@pdm8446 8 месяцев назад

You are right.

@joannedobkin3363 Год назад

Interesting point if they are sharing time doing things like walking together alone that qualifies as cheating. Finding what might look harmless but it’s not harmless. Pointing out how great they see the other person when they don’t live with them. Everyone can put on a show at work or in small time frames. Live with them day to day and they aren’t “nice” like you say. It’s a mask like makeup 💄

@rhdtv2002 9 месяцев назад

Can you do a video about a male and female friendships that would NOT be an emotional affair. My wife thinks I had an emotional affair with someone I never shared a personal thing with and never invited them anywhere. I ate lunch with this person twice by ourselves in the year I knew them and both times I NEVER invited them. Once I was was eating lunch by myself at a food court and 15 min before my lunch was over they saw me and sat during those times then another time I went to lunch again by myself and as I was headed that way they invited themselves and the moment we sat down I told her Hey did I ever tell you how I met my wife and I showed my wife’s picture because I adore her. We did maintain a friendship through chats but never did I feel I crossed any line or said anything I couldn’t say in front of my wife. When my wife and I talked about it and I showed her he chats she immediately went to Emotional Affair however the WORST thing I said in the chat was “there is beer in the kitchen” and she said “ I’ll fight you for it” and I said “no thanks. I’ll just let you win so take it”. The longer version of that story was that I told that girl I got beers because my wife and the kids were staying at a downtown room that I got. That’s it. That’s the WORST and now 2 years later she yells at me at least 75% of the month in and out about it. I’m so tired and burnt out. She wants me to confess to an Emotional Affair and I will NOT because I had no emotion or said anything that it’s suspect. I did joke BUT my personality with EVERYONE is that. Nevertheless for the sake of my love for my wife I immediately stopped talking to her and even got a new job. I’m at a wits end. There is a another significant part of this story I won’t bring in BUT it won’t help her it will actually make it look worse for her and for that part I’m 100% accountable for but my life is upside down and now I preach to other guys to never even have any friendship with any girl. I never even saw it coming like that and I regret taking to that girl even if I’m innocent- I feel shameful because my wife didn’t like it and I can understand that. This friendship never was extended out of work or behind with nobody knowing. I showed my wife anything and everything immediately. I’m close to getting a divorced. GUYS don’t even have even a lady work friend or even share your number with them EVER. It’s bad enough marriages are being attacked

@MrUpministries 3 года назад

Thank you!

@dianakendros5279 Год назад

Thank You!

@BadddDoggg-id4po 5 месяцев назад

Our pastor wont ride in a car with a woman other than his wife unless there is a third person because of this.

@unidentified113 3 года назад

Hey Wayne! This is Bao. Appreciate you!

@theresawilliamson5426 2 года назад

My husband had a emotional affair that was turning physical.

@sanzrel4392 2 месяца назад

My husband is a pastor and he is messaging the girl at church telling her about gis blood sugar what on earth I am the wife does not know what is going on with him.I knew my husband have emotional affair it is very inetense in my gut.He is a liar Pastor.I am praying the Lord will take him out from the church where he us affeliated.

@smokedawg9371 3 года назад

Pin point ! Thank you 👍👍👍

@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 3 года назад

Spot on ! My husband and his “friend” are stupid!

@alyssamcmillen9722 8 месяцев назад

I met a seemingly great guy. He lied with a woman and her husband all saying that she was his biological sister and that their mother had an affair with another man so she has a different father., that they have some mother issues. This woman was very unhappily married. Very awkward brother and sister relationship, like damn near emotional incest. Met his mother about 10 months in, found out from her that she is actually his brother's ex, and his cousin's ex and she is a devil who should stay away. The thing is that they just didn't want to scare me off with the way they interact as "just close friends". Now I'm geeking on narcissistic recovery insights. Recovering trauma, considering ways to live better in time.

@Larry21924 3 месяца назад

This is top-of-the-line. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and it was top-of-the-line. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

@greeneyedparadox6609 3 года назад

This makes so much sense.

@nn9617 9 месяцев назад

I can relate to some aspects of this video and agree with the importance of having opposite-sex friends. However, my personal experience has been challenging, as my partner maintains close relationships with six of their exes. One of them, in particular, communicates with my partner extensively, including daily 7-hour chats, and with another ex, they converse every other day. This situation has taken a toll on my mental health, as I found their interactions uncomfortable and concerning, especially when the nature of their conversations appeared to go beyond what I would consider a normal friendship. My partner, on the other hand, insists that it's entirely normal to maintain these relationships and regularly meet and talk to their exes. It has left me wondering how to navigate this situation. Can anyone relate?

@pdm8446 8 месяцев назад

Nope! There is nothing normal about what’s she’s doing ! Please both of you should seek counseling.

@percystreet Год назад

How about your wife wanting to spend three weeks on holiday with her “very good (female) friend” during the year, meaning that I will have to spend a similar amount of time holidaying by myself - but according to her she is not having an affair…..if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck

@lastnameunknown3762 3 года назад

Hi Wayne. We are 7 months post D day and have each completed the HH and HFH. We have had our share ebbs and flows through the recovery. My unfaithful refuses to acknowledge that he had an emotional and sexual affair with his AP to this day. I feel because of that and coupled with statements that he made about her, that there may still be an emotional connection on his part. He has not had any contact (I am trusting him at his word) with his AP. He says he doesn’t need to detox and she was just a willing person to have sec with. Should a therapist who says they specialize in infidelity counseling be able to identify whether my unfaithful spouse is still emotionally holding on?

@davidjohnson7987 3 года назад

put your trust in Jesus, not in him

@sc10vy1979 2 года назад

My wife had one I feel….it didn’t get far because I found it but I need help dealing with just texting not calling or even meeting up AP lives in a different country

@ashtonridgway9233 2 года назад

My husband had one with a woman who lives across the country. I just found out. They met in a group chat while online gaming. And it escalated from there. Never got physical but he admitted that if she lived in our town it would have been physical. I also need help. I keep re-reading the private messages I saw between them. He wants to work on things but likes to pretend everything is back to normal which is hard for me. We start counseling next week.

@marvthedog1972 6 месяцев назад

so.. in other words.. men and women shouldn't be friends because it will often end up becoming an emotional affair. Mainly because eventually, one or more of these 9 ways will eventually happen.

@cegiehd 3 года назад

I was involved in an emotional affair which ended a month ago. I was the affair partner. I had fallen into depression since and it's a struggle every day.

@maralizeanderson7530 3 года назад

I would definitely recommend this article and the 45 min talk at the end! Although AR puts out material primarily for married couples, there's a lot of good information for APs also. Praying you can find healing as you let go. www.affairrecovery.com/newsletter/founder/limerence-infatuation-how-works

@mr.fettesq.7705 3 года назад

Same with me...only our emotional affair turned in to full blow physical for a month....I'm dealing with the fall out right now. Ended three months ago, and I'm all good on the outside, but hurting on the inside. I'm so mad at myself for letting myself even go there. It's like I couldn't stop myself while simultaneously knowing the hurt I was causing myself and the hurt I was going to have to deal with. I'm with you...

@samanthamorrison4274 3 года назад

@@mr.fettesq.7705 That how mines started aswell. I started talking to someone else about what was bothering me and my stresses instead of with my husband. Ive messed up so much and just want to make it all right and fix the damage i have caused

@michellerichardson3090 3 года назад

Someone had brought up the term "emotional affair" to me recently. I never heard of it before. They think a co worker and I are having one. We both explained that we're just friends but apparently they think something is going on. We usually talk about our families and partners

@andrewclayton7542 2 года назад

That’s emotionally cheating. You’re connecting on an emotional level with someone who is not your partner. You’re speaking badly about your partner to this other person.

@arianbyw3819 2 года назад

It's still a form of cheating

@NewZealandallblacks627 2 года назад

@@andrewclayton7542 how do you know Michelle and co worker is saying something bad about family and partners?

@mightyea Год назад

I was here once. My husband had an affair a couple of times. Eventually, I started sharing my pain with a male coworker…after a year of sharing we were at our XMAs for work where I avoided my coworker. That’s when I realized that I now had feelings for him and he had for me because he realized that I avoided him. The problem was the sharing of intimate home drama that creates a bond.

@khadijahadebayo 10 месяцев назад

@@mightyeawow😮

@user-mz8wt7bq7y 2 года назад

You gotta be sure

@obaidpayenda9245 2 года назад

you are so right

@billysantiago6016 2 года назад

It’s too bad I cannot post a video of my girlfriend flirting with my neighbor on this post

@hcc7691 2 года назад

What if they never express any romantic interest and that makes them say they truly are just friends?

@AffairrecoveryLLC 2 года назад

Hey HCC thank you for taking the time to ask this question. Please reach out to info@hope-now.com for any questions you have for our therapists. To healing!

@MusicForTheBroken Год назад

They’re deluded and dishonest with themselves. It’s completely unnecessary to be close to the opposite sex if you’re married. Friends (3or4 people hanging out together but never alone) in the presence of your spouse shouldn’t cause frustration. If it does and you feel the need to be alone with your “friend,” there is an affair present.

@tb3006 3 года назад

Wow!!!🎯 my husband...💔 🙏🏻💔➡️❤️💖

@stockgrain8653 Месяц назад

You're right about the signs but it doesn't guarantees you get the truth when you bring it up to them , love clouds the judgement one makes when it come's to making the right decisions in that failling relationship and i won't judge because i have been there before and couldn't act only on the signs i saw even when i comfronted my ex all i got were lies and they doubled down on their story until i got the help of a programmer to give me access to all the footprint of the phone used in commiting infidelity , the truth matters more in situations like this

@LollyQ. 7 месяцев назад

What if your partner says “men flirt”?! Like no biggie…😢

@pipergunderson-swaney4539 2 года назад

On complete accident i found the texts. My husband and a woman I didn’t know sharing day to day events and ending with - i love you- meanwhile my husband had been hypercritical of everything i did, how i talked on the phone, remarking on a bad song on an add. The kicker cane though when i saved a seat for our kids concert and he never showed, a week later as his buddy and him drank and talked I realized he had went with her to the hospital because her daughter tried committing suicide. Later i found the text. I know women as he knows men- she was onto him- i do not think anything physical had yet happened but it was only time. It took him a month to finally admit it was wrong. Fast forward 2 yrs, he had cut her out, his brother died and she found me on fb. She told me to give him hugs and how she thought of our family. Well then he got a fb and then he liked a breasty pic of her but had liked nothing on my page as we struggled through the death of his brother. It all blew up again, why is she on your fb if it almost ruined our marriage. Because nothing happened- and i was to blame. Me and my ideas.. a year later now she still comes up. Not by me, him, he suddenly will bring up being angry that i ever would think he could do that. I am over it. The more it comes up the more i only confirm that i was on to something. I no longer care. She isn’t the wife and mother of his kids and personally she is nothing. I just in my heart wish he could admit, what he did was wrong. We all F up and i told him this, until we admit and stop blaming another( me) we cannot make progress. Again i am over it, he wants her have her- she will never be me, and i know this.

@wang220 2 года назад

Facebook kills marriages. Mine of 29 years is over due to emotional affairs she had. I told her that it’s like I maintained a car for 29 years and now another guy gets to drive it.

@l.adcock Год назад

@@wang220 100% true. Me & my ex-wife use to agree about the dangers of Facebook. Then she got a Facebook account behind my back and 7 months later she was having an emotional affair with her ex-boyfriend from high school. 25 years of marriage shot to hell because of all the people that Facebook practically forces you to interact with, just for their own greedy purposes.

@katia.luna213 Месяц назад

What wound up happening? He chose her over you each time he continued to mention her.

@syttorak7629 3 года назад

this is all so obvious to me, I hated women that did this type of stuff even before I knew that "emotional infidelity" even existed in science.. if my girl is talking with everyone else about our small disputes chances are they end up being bigger problems. if she is seeking conversation about our problems with a man THAT DEFINITELY LIKES HER (which is the case 75% of the time if a man is spending excess time out of his life for a woman he isn't with)

@americanexpat8792 4 месяца назад

My experience in life is that the majority of so-called ‘cheating’ is because a person’s Needs are not being met. The person that does the cheating always gets blamed, but I think it’s more complicated. For example, the person doing the cheating may have already discussed with their partner why they are unhappy, yet nothing ever happens. In fact, the conversations often occur many times. So, they end up between a rock and a hard place. That is, cheat or get divorced. Two rotten choices, with cheating being the lesser of the two evils. Bottom line is that cheating usually doesn’t occur within a thriving relationship, where each person’s Needs are being met.

@user-co7ph1rm9z 3 месяца назад

Cheating is a betrayal. No one wants to get stabbed in the back like Caesar by someone they trust! But the real question is why would someone lie and create a persona just to get married? If your spouse was honest about who they were but you were a "pretending Paul or Paulina", then the blame is on you. And now, you have the spouse angry and holding on because they've wasted the best years of their life with a "pretender" who only wanted a placeholder. Now the outcome is no one's needs are met.