I'm Irish with paper white pale skin, freckles and chestnut hair colour. Here all women try to be tan by applying that orange rubbish. 90% of men here dont like my look but when I go on holidays to other countries, boy does that percentage swap around real fast lol. No one is unattractive, they're just in the wrong place on the globe 😫.
Yes that is very true …no one is unattractive like I live in Alabama it seemed that people were not checking for me but when I visited Orlando I was considering “attractive”
Men comment how beautiful I am because of my freckles. But I love to smile, and chit-chat it up a bit.i never meet a stranger, just a friend I need to get to know.
The fact that everybody else on RU-vid make their videos edited and try to be perfect to the T, then theirs Tony, he check the mail, check the door, workout, walks off when he hear noises in the house and we just sit and wait for him to come back as if it’s a commercial 🤓 Mannnn 😌🤣
Tony, your words have helped me filter as I was in the dating scene. I've since found my husband. Your words were the teaching I needed to be successful in this stage and part of my life. I appreciate you. I still watch your videos to be able to relate your perspective to others as they deal with relationships... Thank you again. God bless you and your family.
When you pay attention to his messages there is so much to learn. Sometimes you need to watch the video multiple times for the message to sink in God bless you Tony Gaskins.
From what I have learned is that a Wife must first want to be a Wife. You cannot change her mind, you can give her the 🌎 but if her mind is still not made up, you can’t wife her up. Listen when they talk about their future, their goals, for example if they plan on moving to a bigger city one day, are kids involved , their parenting skills, etc. Thank you Mr. Gaskins as always have a blessed weekend!
This is a great point, Tony. I noticed that when I wear braids/extensions I get approached by certain types of men, but then when I wear my naturally curly pixie cut, the men who approach are completely different. Trends really do play a role. Thanks for this insightful video!
I noticed this too last year. And when I lost some weight I was always approach then i gained and now my goal is to get back to my previous size and weight.
I thank God for you and your wife! I have learned so much from you. Because I’m married now, and I’m in a healthy relationship. Because of all the information you have shared. 😊
You will always win by being authentic! My nails are thick and grow long naturally. I keep them neatly manicured but rarely polish them. I have an hour glass figure thanks to my genetics. And I’m often complimented on my natural, full lips. Yes, I wear high quality make up but I’m not into lashes, just some really nice mascara works for me. I am certainly no plain Jane. I definitely do not have an issue attracting men. However, my self-respect has always kept me in check as far as dating/relationships. I am successful and looking forward to being called Dr. Brock this time next year. Honestly, how a woman carries herself tells the world what she thinks of herself. We communicate mostly with nonverbal behaviors. From my experience, men know which women they can try and which ones they know will not entertain their foolishness. So, I say be you but be aware of the way you’re communicating with others with your dress, appearance and mannerisms. Most importantly be who you want to attract!
A man must seek & allow God to help him choose a wife. The human eye will sometimes focus on physical beauty & body, which is good, but it goes much deeper than that. In time beauty & body change. Man must look at the heart & soul of a woman, her morals & values, if she has patience, faithful, has good parenting skills, if she's good at saving money, paying bills on time, a good support system to her husband, submissive, & will allow the man to be the head of the home. All of these are very important in choosing a good wife.
@ShereeWhite Amen! You speak 🗣 the truth. As a wife, I 💯 approve of your message. Lol I often say the sad reality is that most women want to be a bride not a wife. There’s a difference and you breakdown here what “being a wife” should consist of. IF we go back to the garden, to Eden, to Genesis, God “presented” Eve to Adam as “a wife” not “friends with benefits” not a “shacking buddy” but as a wife. God had already equipped her with what she needed to do so. She already had it in her to be a help meet. That’s what she was created for. That was her purpose. Now that may have evolved over time but the very essence of a wife if nothing else is to be “helpful”to her husband and be his companion (which is why God said it is not good that man should be alone) UNTIL God calls one or the other home to heaven. Lastly, the book of Proverbs WARNS men what kind of women to avoid. In a nutshell, they are the kind of women a man should not make his wife, IF he wants to avoid chaos and confusion and worse, hell on earth. Some women make a man’s life a living hell. Again, Proverbs speaks of the virtuous woman. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. It doesn’t say “his life” but her life. Blessings to you 🤗
Great advice Tony Gaskins. I'm that plain Jane. I've never been a lady who has followed the trends. I'm glad to hear that you encourage women to be their authentic selves. We need more of that. Keep up the great content. It's a blessing as always. God bless you and your family
Tony you the realest for this 🙌🏽 I clicked on this video not really know what to expect but this made a whole lot of sense. Thank You for your transparency as always! 99% of men are just not giving out the game like this out of loyalty to men but this truly does level the playing field for women with very real information on what’s what and what’s going on in the dating world and in the minds of men💯
Thank you Tony Gaskins , glad I caught you before my hiatus starts , these dating streets are not designed for a lady like me , a persons outside appearance has nothing to do with who they are, or nor the contents of heart ,nor the experiences they been through , However there is always room for improvement , but not at the expense of self , because then you not being real , Love your breakdown of man/ woman Brother Tony Gaskin . Bless
Tony I thank you SO MUCH for what you do!!! You changed my life around and brought me back to the Lord and to true Womanhood, I can’t thank you enough.
Love videos like this! I’m in a rebuilding season and I want to make sure I’m building purposefully for my truth and the life I really want which does include marriage
This is a great point I have always keep myself healthy at my goal weight, eats healthy , keeps my hair done nails and up and general . Thank you again uncle tony for this video I have been applying this to the dating scene I am starting to date again .
Tony, I watched some old videos, I might not always agree with you all the tine, but I am a big supporter even if we agree to disagree about some things. Keep up the good work!!♥♥♥ Excited about my classes!!!
Exactly! Social media, marketing, consumerism,etc., can heavily influence trends and women succumb to them over time. Thanks Tony for your observations and teachings.
I loved this video Tony!! Thank you!! This provided such a clear descriptive understanding of the man’s mind and how they select their partner. This really helped me out because I was feeling dizzy trying to think of these things you mentioned. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤
This is so good and also so true. We want to be free as women, but the reality is a lot of men who are disciplined enough to provide for a family and raise kids want a woman who is comfortable in her true essence. As a 28 year old who’s worked in education for 7 years, I have friends across all ages and spectrums-married, divorced, dating, single. What I am realizing is those who are married or dating men that I actually respect are often bare-faced and chill. Now they still indulge and have a good time but they are not afraid to show who they are. Whereas those who are normally dolled to the 9 and abreast of all the trends are not always dating men who have the same values they have. Even though they have the same beliefs, morals and personality types of the other women in my circle. This was eye-opening and quite interesting and could highlight the difference in what I want, and what I’m attracting.
So true. I was just thinking of this this morning! Of all of my male cousins that have been married 15-20 years their wives are actually quite plain by today's standards and always have been. They may wear a little makeup for a special occasion but other than that it's just a little lip gloss. And no weaves to be seen except the occasional braids.
@@khloe38 and it’s so strange because what we still think is not doing much, is sometimes much for the conservative man lol. I was dating an engineer and I thought I was being quite natural by wearing my natural hair, lip gloss and lash extensions.. about two months in it came up that he had never seen me without my lashes. Here I am thinking that I’m showing you my natural essence but he’s thinking dang I still want to see the real her lol. So that coupled with this message shows that MEN really want to see you be authentic in the most complete way.
@@drekathigpen4869 LMAOOOO I wear lash extensions but it’s usually the natural looking ones . Most of the time I wear my own lashes . I agree with you on the rest .
@@Sandrinarhonda I felt the same way 😂. Like this is my natural sir, especially at 28. I like a little pop. But my brothers are the same way. They want to see the woman they are dating without any of our fixes. I just assume it’s their way of seeing if they can wake up to you every day 🤷🏽♀️. When I was in between appointments, I FaceTimed like “heyyyy” lol
Long story short men are choosing a wife according to their belief system which ever it may be. And women if you plain Jane that's dope. If your a unicorn that lacks go all out with your looks that dope. But at the end of the day God told HIS children to seek him first and everything will be added. My hopes is that all who belong to father God what truly see themselves as he sees you first. And whomever you partner with as a husband or wife would see the vision when he puts a man and woman together. It's about legacy...
Do you mean conservative older female because my older girlfriends only date men in their twenties, thirties, forties, and maybe fifty if he healthy. Grandma likes to drink and party, it's a different world.
All men aren't the same people either like others that's different from them or the same my use to say their is a lid for every pot. I truly believe you attract what's within, don't ignore red flags set boundaries, and let things happen naturally, know what you truly want.
This video made me smile. Love the lightheartedness here. The smells down there and the lashes looking like a baby chick . I’ve noticed in my experience, the men I have dealt with appreciated me in my natural state. (Including my ex husband) 🙌🙏🏻😅
I love this video… I would like add that it also depends on the season of life you are in. Growing together is great , you should. But in your 20s you are in a very different place than you are in your 30s and 40s. There are some things men and women should have in place as individuals by that time. After you see they are “fine” ask yourself what is their heart like ?
Had to comment because when Tony said a women can dress seductively an make you work hard for it is true am a living witness an I don’t play about me but I love to dress an express myself in fashion an just have fun💯 I’m glad others can relate !
How much each of you give and how little each of you take for granted, will determine the success of a relationship. 💙RU-vidr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
I've always been my authentic self and followed my own style and trends whether they are what's popular or not and have found men actually appreciated that about me, js
Hehe, I'll say it for TG: SERENA girlll!!! I loved her before all the fillers. Well I still LOVE her, but I really do hope she rescinds moving forward 😭❤️❤️
I had absolutely no business getting engaged at 18 years old and marrying exactly a month after turning 19. Fast forward 43 years, I am right now as I type this comment sitting at my divorce attorney's office lobby waiting to get together to finish my divorce documents. He said he was not ready to get married and proved it with infidelities. He was the one who asked me to marry. Now we are divorcing and I guess none of the women want to get involved with him and he is regretting the divorce. No turning back for me.
Mr. Gaskins, on behalf of one human being for another, I ask if you would please reach out to a young man named "Kenneth," on the OWN network show "Put a Ring On It." This young man is lost and seem to want to be a grown man but has no idea of how not to be a grown boy. He needs guidance and is in desperate need of your help. I would just love to see him grow but he need the tools. Thank you and God Bless You.🙏
I needed this video Tony. It’s been 1 month I’m dating a guy with the intention of being in a committed relationship. He’s 45 never been married and a great father to his daughter. He was consistent with checking on me and providing emotional support. He doesn’t smoke nor does porn or illegal activities. I thought I could be comfortable enough to have sex. He does curses a lot and drink to have fun. He drank that evening, Now during the act I stopped him and required he uses a rubber as it was the first time we had sex. He refused to do so and started shouting at me and telling me he’s not sick, I messed up the moment and even said « You’re not the one » he wanted to drive me back home right away. He did calm down after and told me to sit down and chill but I was already offended. I called an Uber and left while he was asleep. I don’t understand how the sexual thing could make him lose his temper that much even though everything else was going well. He never tried to control me. I can’t help but thinking I did something wrong even though I know I was right. I did told him he had anger issues as it’s the 2nd time he’s mad at me because I’m not in tune with his sexual needs at a particular moment.
A month isn't a long time. His irrate reaction to your request during that intimate moment told you everything you need to know about that man. Don't be confused, be thankful and cut off all communication immediately. HE'S NOT THE ONE. He was doing what he thought he had to, to get you in *that* situation, using protection wasn't apart of his fantasy and what *he* wanted. Leave him sleep sis.
@@blueseptember2174 Exactly it’s a big health issue plus we’re in a pandemic. So many beautiful women are walking around with Covid under their acrylic nails & don’t even know it 😬
I'm definitely a plain jane...no nails..no eyelashes...i have makeup but I dont use it...I dont care about designer or handbags but I love Shake Shack...men seem to want the glamorous exotic woman u see on IG...where I'm from you don't see these 'ig women' at the grocery store. Its pretty normal looking women n men around here. I barely ever see a bbl and when I do I do double take.
Men that I've dated in the past preferred women to be natural. I must confess that I never had a manicure, pedicure, eyelashes, sew in, or wore a lace front wig, or false nails and I had to become ok with that and still is. That's probably why I don't fit in with female social groups. But I will get a facial one day.