How Eddie got through the ups and downs of insomnia by committing to a workable plan (#46)

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Eddie struggled with sleep for over 10 years. During that time he would experience a lot of ups and downs - whenever he thought his sleep was back on track, things would get difficult again.
The more difficult sleep proved to be, the more he would struggle. And, when he struggled, he found himself doing less of the things that mattered to him.
Eddie’s transformation began when he moved away from chasing after sleep and practiced habits that helped create and maintain good conditions for sleep. Perhaps most importantly, he also took the time to identify what insomnia seemed to be stopping him from doing. What it seemed to be taking from him. And then he started to do those things, to take them back, even after difficult nights.
As Eddie shares in this episode, the process wasn’t easy - but having a clear plan in place and committing to that plan, even when things were difficult and even when his mind was trying to distract him and pull him away from that plan, kept him moving forward.
Eddie now reflects on his experience with insomnia as something that was actually quite empowering. In Eddie’s own words, he’s not happy he went through this experience but he’s not sad that he went through it, either.
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@InsomniaCoach Год назад

All content found on the Insomnia Coach RU-vid channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

@gabrielamailow8526 Год назад

Hi Martin Are there any success stories women who'd gone through insomnia while having menopause

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

@@gabrielamailow8526 Plenty! This might be a good one: insomniacoach.com/gretchen-worst-sleeper-sleep-confidence-ep16/

@gabrielamailow8526 Год назад

@@InsomniaCoach Thank you Martin I know it's a lot questions but Did they beat it while Menopausal And were there any clients who cured their Insomnia while taking medications like (hormonal or vitamins) What i mean is are there any affects on sleep while taking medications

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

@@gabrielamailow8526 You might want to listen to the entire episode to see if you gain any insights! Yes, it's possible to move away from the insomnia struggle while taking medications (hormonal or vitamins).

@absw6129 Год назад

Hey, I wanted to say I found your channel 3 days ago, and I'm happy to say my sleep has improved SO MUCH! I just had to keep a strict 6 hour sleeping window

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

That's great to hear! Thank you for sharing and for being a part of the channel!

@peachmelba1000 Год назад

I really like Martin and what he is doing. I can sort of boil down the basic approach for those wondering (and I am in a bout of insomnia myself at the moment). 1. Do not _try_ to sleep. You are not in control of sleep any more than you are in control of gravity. 2. Forget about sleep hygiene/journaling about sleep etc. 3. Don't go to bed until you are truly sleepy, even if that means you might only get a few hours of sleep, because... 4. You have to stick to the same get up time every day. Maintaining your routine and NOT skipping out on the things you want/love to do is vital. This is an area of your life over which you have control, and you really should continue to exercise it. Martin's program will obviously delve deeper into things but from some deductive reasoning this is the basis.

@InsomniaCoach 2 месяца назад

I like that summary!

@peachmelba1000 2 месяца назад

@InsomniaCoach As I responded to you in the email I got from you a few weeks ago, I have recovered. One could almost call the insights accessed through the program as revelatory, in terms of basic psychological maturation generally, but chiefly in terms of living with anxiety (while quite paradoxically not being affected by it, nearly at all). I have never been calmer, in fact, since passing through the program.

@InsomniaCoach 2 месяца назад

@@peachmelba1000 That is so powerful to hear! You made change happen thanks to your own willingness to explore change and to commit to change - an approach that is not easy! Thank you for sharing your insights, too - you clearly have a growth mindset :)

@agold1702 Год назад

You have no idea how much this has helped. Thank you!

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

Glad to hear it - thanks for letting me know!

@snakedogman Год назад

I've listened to almost all the interviews but I have to say Eddie's story was surprisingly deep and insightful. I feel so much empathy to him from my own experience and I applaud him for turning things around. I'm still on the road to recovery but easily one of the biggest changes I made after listening to your podcast is going to bed later and trying to get up at the same or similar time.

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

I am so grateful to Eddie for coming on - he was a great guest and shared some fantastic insights! Thanks for sharing your thoughts - and I wish you all the best on your journey!

@jeaniepochatko6349 Год назад

Thank you , Eddy and Daniel! Great insights!

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

Glad you enjoyed this one, Jeanie!

@ianvictor2022 Год назад

Eddie had some really good insights that differed from other interviews that I really related to. One thing I would have liked to have known, and maybe a good question for your future interviews Martin, is "what were some things they he was doing that were fueling his insomnia or counterproductive to his sleep hygiene, routine or effort?" I personally have a very hard time with evening routine due to my extreme fatigue. I habitually use the tv and couch to get me tired and most of the time it backfires but my fatigue brain has a hard time doing something more active like reading, breathing exercises or say stretching. Like changing health through diet, we have to first stop consuming foods that are bad for us, so I'm wondering if Eddie had any "insomnia kryptonites" that he overcame and what was a routine that helped him aside from sleep restriction. Great podcast Martin. It's helping me stay motivated and hopeful. Thank you.

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

That's a question I typically do ask - for some reason it wasn't asked this time around or it didn't make the final edit. As you suggested, it's usually the same kind of stuff from person to person - sleep hygiene, supplements, and other rules and rituals that are understandable but, ultimately, not helpful! With sleep, the more we try to make it happen, the more we struggle with it - because sleep cannot be directly controlled.

@ianvictor2022 Год назад

@@InsomniaCoach Thanks for the reply Martin. You're podcast is very important. Thank you for the work you do and sharing it with us :)

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

@@ianvictor2022 I appreciate your kind words. Thank you.

@bennguyen1313 Год назад

I suffer from sleep-maintenance/terminal-insomnia. I've followed the usual sleep hygiene everyone recommends ( Consistent sleep schedule Sunlight upon waking No caffeine after noon, Dinner a few hours at least before bed (including supplementing with Magnesium Glycinate/Calcium/Apple-Cider-Vinegar), Cold Shower before bed Cool Bedroom No [blue] light after dark No electronics in the bedroom except for a Pink-Noise-Machine and a diffuser with Lavender OIl (Sadhguru recommends a lamp burning organic olive) Blackout Curtains Bed should point to the east in the northern hemisphere (never north) ; Sleep on the Left Side Next to the bed, have a glass of water and a notepad (to write down anything you don't want to forget for the next day) ) In addition I have weighted blankets, and sleep with earplugs (30 NRR). I also have oxygen producing plants in the room (Areca Palm, Aloe Vera, Spider Plant, English Ivy, Pothos , Snake Mother-in-Law Tongue Plant) and cover their soil with charged crystals (Amethyst, Quartz, etc). I fall asleep quickly, usually repeating a mantra ("I am not the body, I am not the mind") making a fist with thumb at the base of the ring finger (ala Andrew Holecek protocol). Holding my breath for a few seconds in-between breaths. I try to be conscious at the moment I'm falling asleep. Unfortunately, I wake up after just a few hours, tired and unable to fall back asleep. At this point, I usually put on loose-fitting-socks, and raise the bed temperature by turning on the electric blankets/mattress-pad. The bed has a vibrating feature , so I turn that on as well. If I still can't fall asleep, I place an instant-cold-pack on the forehead and take a supplement (Dream Water / InstaSleep / Som Sleep), although would love to get something a bit stronger (Trazodone , GHB, Belsomra / suvorexant). I've seen some people have had luck with pricey Brain Stimulation (omniperf NeoRhythm, Muse S , Fluxwear Shift, Somnee , etc), but haven't tried that yet. I also tried mewing and wearing 3M tape over the mouth (so that I'm forced to breath thru the nose) but that didn't work for me. Sometimes I try drinking Decaf Coffee with Well Told Health Sleep powder just before bed.. or eating a bowl of oatmeal with warm milk.. but it's hit or miss, like applying sleep lotions (Dr. Teal, OHME, etc).

@InsomniaCoach 2 месяца назад

There are a lot of rules and rituals there - all are evidence of your strengths of problem-solving and self-improvement! Did you have to do all these things in the past, before you found yourself struggling with sleep?

@dwaincaral6152 2 месяца назад

I haven't been able to sleep after training in the gym for 3 months now. I work out 3 times a week, I don't work out in the evening, I don't take any stimulants. I tried taking a break for a week for 14 days, that didn't help either. I can't fall asleep even after a light workout. If I don't exercise, I don't have a problem sleeping, it's just that when I exercise, I don't fall asleep. where is the problem?

@InsomniaCoach 2 месяца назад

Perhaps your brain has made some kind of connection between exercise and sleep, so when you exercise it pays more attention to how you might sleep. This, in turn, might also influence your approach to sleep or response to being awake - and that, in turn, can create a struggle as you get pulled into a battle with wakefulness and whatever your mind is doing.

@melupiano7118 Год назад

Watching many of Martin’s Interviews made me think that insomniacs are very nice and thoughtful people. I am almost proud to be one of the species 😉. I got the impression that working on the problem actively according to Martin’s advice not only improves the client’s sleep but also inspires them to think about life in general and to move towards being the person they really want to be.

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

I think you are absolutely right!

@davidgcrawford6695 Год назад

Martin, I really enjoy your show. May I ask you a question? What happens to someone like me who has suddenly quit sleeping pills, and for the past month is only getting 3-4 hours per night? I'm obviously not filling out a 5 hour bedtime window, and I don't know how to go about increasing sleep pressure other than going to bed later and later each night. I'm trying not to get frustrated with the process. Best, Dave

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

Hard to answer that succinctly, David! It might be worth exploring any actions you're engaged in in an attempt to make sleep happen - quite often, we end up struggling with sleep because we are trying so hard to make it happen. What can sometimes be useful is to reflect on whether there's any difference in our approach to sleep now (when we are struggling) compared to before (when sleep wasn't an issue). I hope there's something useful here.

@David-uf8ex Год назад

Insomnia has robbed me of my life now have ptsd from years ago nothing has helped if I get 2 hours I’m lucky .don’t want to be here anymore

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

That sounds really hard. Perhaps it might be time to start reclaiming your life from insomnia by doing more of the things that matter to you, even when things are really difficult?

@lisagerth5819 Год назад

hey martin. my boyfriend told me he's wondering whether consuming so much insomnia material is helpful because it seems a bit like a coping mechanism that could worsen the anxiety. googling symptoms is basically what got me into that spiral, do you have some thoughts on that? all the best and thank you for your work!

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

I think that, like with most things in life, moderation is key! If we end up doing less of the things that are important to us in order to research insomnia instead, that might not be too helpful!

@BOLLOCKS1968 Год назад

I have been an insomniac most of my life. I have tried exercise before bed, multiple sleep aids, changing rooms and making bedtime as relaxing as possible ... still I can not turn my brain off. It's not worry about things, just random nonsense or how I could be accomplishing something instead of sleeping. I will get up at 3 am and paint or shovel the driveway and then go to work. I seem to be able to function properly with 2 to 3 hours of sleep. I have actually had my neighbors call the police because I was weeding my flower beds at 2 am with a hand held lantern. I have no relatives with this issue so I don't know if it is hereditary or just the way my brain is wired. It is 2 am now and feel the need to get up and empty the dishwasher of all things. Is this normal?

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

Do you feel as though all the trying might be making things more difficult?

@DarkStar1406 Год назад

Hi Martin I hope you read this. I’ve been struggling with insomnia for over 8 months now. For me the issue isn’t staying asleep but being able to fall asleep initially. I usually go to bed around Midnight and try to get up at around 9 but I’m usually tossing and turning for about 4-5 hours just unable to fall asleep until the early hours of the morning. I’ve tried getting up out of the bed after half an hour and going downstairs and wait until I feel drowsy again but no matter how many times I do this it’s still usually around 4-5 o’clock before I fall asleep sometimes it’s even as late as 6.30 AM. Should I implement sleep restriction for this type of insomnia? I’m worried that if I push back my wake-up time I might not be able to get any sleep at all on a night and be totally incapacitated for the next day! Would it be better to just go to bed later in the evening? I’d appreciate any advice you can give me on this.

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

Spending nine hours in bed each night might be setting you up for long periods of nighttime wakefulness - which is fine, unless you find yourself really struggling with that wakefulness. If that's the case, allotting an amount of time that's more aligned with the amount of sleep you're currently generating might be worth an experiment.

@giuglianavaselli5463 Год назад

What about rebound insomnia for getting off antidepressants?

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

Usually, I'd suggest responding to rebound insomnia in the same way as any other form of chronic insomnia because chronic insomnia is the same thing - sleep disruption caused by our ongoing struggle trying to make sleep happen, trying to avoid wakefulness, and/or trying to fight or avoid the difficult thoughts and feelings that come with insomnia.

@RafiurRahman420 Год назад

Hello Martin, I hope you read this please please please can you tell me what do about falling sleep rather then staying sleep. My biggest problem is I can't fall in sleep. You have lots of vedio but I don't know which vedio I have to watch. I am from Bangladesh and our country have worst treatment system. I feel so hopeless. You are my last chance. Please help me brother 3month running of this problem. I just laying in bed and close my eyes can't fall in sleep. Other people sleep but there problem is staying sleep but I can't just fall is sleep. Please suggest me something what vedio should I watch or what I have to do. Sorry for my bad English

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

If you're finding it hard to fall asleep, there's not usually any mystery to that. Either you aren't sleepy enough for sleep or you are trying to make sleep happen. I hope this helps!

@M9Diry Год назад

Im so struggling with anxiety at night, I am on vacation staying st a friends house and I’m just completely destroyed by insomnia

@InsomniaCoach 2 месяца назад

Sorry I missed your comment. How are things going for you now?

@freedomliberty83 Год назад

Hi Martin, do you have any advice for people who use marijuana to sleep. I am not a huge smoker to be honest, but i have been using it to help with my sleep issues. I only smoke it once a day about an hour before bed and it helps me sleep on most nights. I am worried that I will get insomnia again if i stop using it, but I have to stop because i have a trip to Europe planned in 2.5 months. I have fears that I am not capable of sleeping without it because i haven't slept without it in 4 months.

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

All those fears are natural and normal! And you get to decide how to respond to them - do you respond in a way that helps you move toward the life you want to live or do you respond in a way that moves you away from the life you want to live?

@freedomliberty83 Год назад

@Insomnia Coach Since my original comment, i have decided to stop smoking and implement sleep restriction and stimulus control. 6 hour window. The first night was bad. The 2nd night was great i slept the whole 6 hours. But the next few nights were really bad, average 3 hours sleep. This was a difficult decision because i was sleeping just fine with smoking weed. So i am sort of causing self-inflicted pain to stop smoking. I know have to keep going but i seriously feel sleep deprived right now. Even though i know you always say Cbti isn't sleep deprivation, it sure feels like it!

@InsomniaCoach Год назад

@@freedomliberty83 It sounds as though you are committing to actions that are more aligned with the life you want to live. The process isn't easy (especially in the short-term)! If you're giving yourself the opportunity for sleep, then you aren't depriving yourself of sleep: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-_dPWDYW-YgE.html