What to say Sir- Simply, Generic matters & insights of how it affect conscious of human being. Wonderful .. !! Really- 'Aapke Analysis Bhagwan Che' ..Dhanya hain guru ji aap💐💐💐💐
आप सही बोल रहे हैं जब मेरी शादी हुईं तो मेरी जेठानियों ने भी मुझे ऐसे ही कहा था कि काम बहुत धीरे धीरे करती है और मैं थोड़ा सा मुस्कुराई ,मन मे सोचा कि जितना टाइम आपकी शादी को हो चुका उतना होने पर जवाब मिल जाएगा सही में मैने सब करके दिखाया और आज मैं स्कूल लेक्चरर हूँ।घर भी खुद मेन्टेन करती हूँ ओर जॉब भी करती हूँ।
Sir, usually it's not the wife who mollycoddles the son. It's his mother. Wives want the man to grow up. But his mother won't allow it. The mothers over pamper him, put him on a pedestal and want to do every small chore for him. They don't let the son grow up emotionally. And make him dependent on them, so that the mothers can feel useful. In this process they ruin their sons life. May be this is something you should address.
It is mother's of girls who hv pampered their daughters so much that they neither know nor willing to learn cooking or other house works.These so called working girls don't do much in office either n r busy mostly on gossiping.
@@jeetindersinghsaluja it's people with a mind set like yours that are such a disaster to the society sir. I pity the women in your life. I hope someday you will grow up and not try to get defensive about the gender. instead understand the genuine concern and reality in my comment . Get well soon sir.
Sir, i only like to say MOST MEN ARE THREATENED BY STRONG INTELLIGENT WOMEN, due to which it creates a lot of friction in day to day life, I'm married for 50 years and this has been my experience
I agree too. Men are very suspicious towards their wives.. where did you go? Whom were you talking to? why are you so late? And this happens to every second woman. I've experienced it. So behind every unsuccessful woman, who could have been successful, there is a man.
Reason is that so called women who earn well are usually annoying and possess masculine traits....they won't even marry a guy who earns less than them n then expect rational thinking from men.
I can resonate with these insights in your most precious video series. Shared with my husband and my only child a son . Thank you for sharing this educative video ....🙏🌺
Very true sir . Ultimately marriage is a contract duly registered with the government ...governed by laws set in place to maintain that contract . Dissolution of marriage is also governed by a set of laws similar to insolvency / dissolution of partnership laws ..... While romance / affairs are not . The law moves in the moment marriage takes place . Because marriages make society . People involved must first introspect and then decide . It is the SINGLE most important decision of their lives . I am married to a strong independant Lady and I respect her .... PS : never let her "baby" me 😂😂
Mine and your thinking is exactly same but your presentation with example is different. I am a bit straight forward and have provided suggestions to many friends at the age of 29 which helped them in solving their marriage related problems.
बहुत से लोग हर रिश्ते में पावर गेम खेलते रहते हैं। चाहे वे पति हों पत्नियां हों या ससुराली परिवार। ये लोग हर रिश्ते को नियंत्रित करने की विषैली मानसिकता वाले होते हैं। इनको पहचान कर इनको इनकी सही जगह पर रखना बहुत जरूरी होता है। अन्यथा इनको दूसरों का जीवन नष्ट करने में कोई गुरेज़ नहीँ होता।
Aur Kuch rishteydar, like bade tauji, bina kuch matlab ke, Sirf unki chalani chahiye, bade bujurg hai ise ego se bahut sare newly married girls ko bina vajah takleef mabaap ko nicha dikhana karate hai.. agar ab sab kharab cheeze challenge ho rahi hai, to good thing..
Gurumantra is to think that you have to choose carefully the battles you have to fight in your life :)... definitely they should not be with your immediate family
Very well and smartly explained sir...Guru gyan for newly married bahu specially... Bina issue banaye sasu ma se nipatne k dono tarike ...really mind blowing... Its really a big contribution to the society as well.. Further ., Please do the video with ten new tips as discussed in this video ..
Strong women say: Every strong women should marry a strong man who can multitask like them, stay calm and composed, be righteous and just, can take up challenges with ease like we do. 🙏
@@lonewolf-ok3vy I understand why it is difficult for you to understand this.... You probably never did...Real life tasks are not where you have to apply 100% of attention all the time to complete it...there are gaps in between which you can fill with doing prep work for other tasks (instead of waiting) - you just need to keep your brain in high performance mode and it will just help you identify those gaps in between and plan other activities in between... You know how computers work with single core...they can't do multi processing in single core but they can do multitasking, and actually save time...but then they have to be good at breaking the tasks and doing them in between those gaps. See...if to do a thing you need 20% of attention and it takes 1 hour to complete and another one requires 30% and also takes one hour. If you do them one by one, you end up using 2 hours while if you multitask, you would probably not do it in an hour but still may be 1 h 10 minute.... That was response to your comment...however, in my comment I was not talking about this multitasking... Above all, I was not even emphasizing on multitasking... I was emphasizing on a strong women marrying a strong man....coz sir was again and again saying "man should marry strong woman"... Like its all about man....
@@priyasophi yes u r right. sangwan is always concerned only about men. like women jaye bhad me. he never says to marry strong man. he wants to hide weakness of men n teach men to b selfish
Sir, koi aurat apni marzi se naukri nahi chodti... Aaj kal parivaar wale chahte hai ki ladki ladko ki tarah bahar jaake 8-9 gante kaam karke kamake laye aur paise unko haath me saup de , fir ghar athe hai hiusewife ki bhi duty nibhaye aur fir sabka khayal bhi rakhe ...
The other option is to give up the job entirely because you cannot manage it all, is another grave mistake. Now, you get a lot of time but no respect and total dependency on others for your every need. Instead, stay in the job, hire as much of help as possible, enjoy your weekends relaxed, stay away from in laws for 10+ hrs, and once they get taste of your salary, you can roll them into helping you. You can help your parents by keeping some money aside.
Please make a video on job options for women who are currently in the 40 to 45 age group. How good are the online working options? Is it possible for educated women of this age to find jobs in big cities, even when they have never held any?
Hi Sir, video topic suggestion: Long term relationship that is very genuine .. 10-15 years as bf and gf .. But unable to get married even if wanting to .. Case 1. Either girl or boy has elder sibling ... case 2. Very high career aspiration ... Please make this video .. Your perspective is great and eye opening .. Thanks
Yes sir I want to know more about working women and also option available for 40+ ladies to earn money and to be independent Also few basic tips for men to how to support there wifes to do so
I saw several of ur videos n heard about how u advocate working women in the family. I m an MBA but I chose to be a homemaker for my kids. I had no family support n I never wanted to leave my kids whole day with helpers. It is important to run ur home like business too. There are several people living under a roof for good halves of their lives. They need clean space, good food on table, clean laundry in wardrobe, stocked fridge n pantry n clean dishes n relaxing time with kids n family. U can’t depend on servants for running ur homes n bringing up kids. No employer gives salary muft mai. They need dedication n long hours. Working women has to really gheesofy on all sides to get it all done. If she is earning too little but out of house whole day .. how does it makes sense to hire help n pay so much to them ? Ya to aap itna kama rahe ho that u can hire really good help n ard ok to let them run ur homes n bring up kids or u are doing something amazing to help this world. No third reason to harass urself whole day( not easy to go out n earn) n have no time for home n family. Rather I would say it’s duty of every lady to save n run home efficiently on any budget. 90s ke model nahi karenge is a lame excuse. People in western countries do everything themselves. It will become very hard to get good helpers in future. Everyone will need to do chores themselves as sab maids ke bache are going to English school n no one wants their kids to become servants now. Or they will demand huge pay. Aap bhi Iss line par soch kar dekhein .
@@sonalsharma5293glad to read about you ma'am, maids can't be trusted for everything , we are going on the path of home sufficiency, multitasking is the new way, AI will help with daily chores and life will be easy wrt physical work.
Sir unfortunately Indian males have still not grown enough for their ego to accept fulltime working partner. I am talking about urban educated males here
@@jeetvishnoi3770 try to understand whst the video is saying. Why wud any women leave comforts of her home, family and go to a unknoen house for life?
I also surprise that some educated girl choose to be housewife even in 2023 .At least they should think of being financial crisis that may occur in future .Because it is very difficult to start at a later stage
Sir I don't really subscribe any channel and this was the first channel which I have subscribed just going through the content. Now I find all the other content bullshit infront of your content. Sir you are like giving us real life lessons which was not even given by our parents or grandparents as even they were only asking us Marks and then after marriage they ask about children's mask. I share all your videos with my parents and family.
Please don't undermine a women/housewives contribution in a family or household. Although I'm completely in favour of women earning their own money or making a career...but I'm definitely taken aback by the definition of what women at home do! Of course we aren't doing jhadoo bartan but right from cooking, cleaning,driving kids to school and other classes, being there for them when they get back so you can ask and know what's happening in their lives, the peer group they associate with or seeing the small changes at their different stages of growing up... addressing it etc. Etc. Actually I mean all that isn't tangible and monetary is what matters in life . So stay at home mom's earlier had better behaved and more sensitive and sensible children.....just running after money isn't going to make our society better....in fact it makes people selfish.....the Tera mera bit starts. Obviously no two houses or families are the same but to give a blanket statement like you did is demeaning and out of line. I definitely don't know the kind of women you've dealt with....but in any case you should present it in a better way.... mummy se husband ki burai karna aur kaam ko kheech ke time laga ke karna. !! Do you see that in most families it's the women who get up first and still don't go for a morning walk or to the gym etc. Because PRIORITY is given to the needs of OTHERS. And they are usually the last to sleep...or wake up a number of times to look after someone not well. I know you are trying to persuade women to earn for themselves or/and contribute to the expenses....but just be kind in expressing the same .....don't club everyone together. And I'm sure since you are a counselor you will take this comment positively.
Well said. I have seen very closely that girls do job n manage career only till the time they are unmarried because the support they get isn't possible once they are married. Husbands don't want to do his one single work or contribute in household work. That's why women have to take a backseat. Not even husbands but also in-laws. Women of the house is by default employed to do every work. And nobody can ever take double load. Work life balance is a total myth. It's a life long struggle. Even if she is working, she's not allowed to take her own decisions be it financially or personally. People in a family ask too many questions like where are going, why are you going, how much you are earning, give your salary to in-laws or husband. What a pathetic situation women go through. I hope society need to understand first before expecting anything from a housewife
@@shikhachauhan6948 I'm aware that a lot of women are like this but to say it flippantly as a general thing isn't fair on the innumerable women who struggle with multiple tasks day in and day out. Housewives ARE working...sadly society and families don't give her monetary compensation for the hard work and constant involvement put in making a home.
@@ruchikasharma4808 Yes, the house wives are treated as free maids... And it is these women who are definitely going to turn into evil mother in laws. The best inspiration for house wives should be Sudha Murthy. Just have a look at her amazing journey inspite of being a house wife.
don't glorify housewvs.. they do nothing except for thinking and watching tv serials.. modern men don't want them.. if they start earning then those tangible things you mentioned you do, can be outsourced with money.. if your husband won't be earning you won't be mrrying him in the first place.. so money is the most important thing, especially for wymn
Umm. Cleaning without jhadu pocha, I think you mean dusting.. also driving kids to classes. First off, these activities don't exactly take a lot of time. Yes they're physically exhaustive and mentally taxing if done daily, but then you don't need to follow your kids everywhere once they're say 7 years of age. I do agree there's a load while the kids are very young (say less than 5 years). But once they're school going, things can be managed especially in India with drivers, maids and shared public transport. Cooking is a task in itself especially if living with parents and cooking for everyone. Therefore, his advice is more applicable to educated wives with no kids, with household help, and maybe not so much in your case.
Housewives are wasting time? Me bhi ghar ka kam korti hu,Thora vegetable gardening korti hu, mother -in-law,father-law, bachhe sabko apna time dia,take care korna,baccho ko parana,motivate korna.... housewives cook ka kam,Aya ka kam,kuch kuch tution ka kam sab kuch to korti hai but without any salary and appreciation
She is indeed his audience. He clearly mentioned in other videos that in-laws should take care of themselves. Cooking and taking care of kids is a joint responsibility of husband and wife. So she should actually push things in that direction and get a freaking job.
