@@deepakjena3628 My mother told me to get out of home after i got job , I was also having health issues , No problem , I am thankful to my mom , It made me even stronger mentally.
I am coming from a Bengali middle class family, my father was WBCS officer of A grade now retired and my mother was a high school teacher of Sanskrit and political science. And I am working in a primary school as assistant teacher because I love this profession so much under govt of West Bengal. I am 34 still unmarried and facing troubles to choose life partner. I find myself similar to the character Gourav of your story because I am not IITian or similar category. Your video is making my day , sir. Many many thanks. I am from the land of Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar and Raja Rammohan Roy . Very happy to hear the names from you😊
One of my friend who is a khandani raees married a dentist girl who married him hoping to cash in on his riches. Soon she realized that the control is in the hand of sasur. She left him in 3 months.
Trust me! Unmarried is better than married! Only money is required to be happy in life, rest is man made misconceptions. However our body will function the way it has been made. World is not best place to live 😂😂
Sir kyaa video bnai hai, kitni jgh to same meri family condition btaa di aapne, kmaal observation hai aapka har topic pr, mai shehmati rkhta hu aapki baato se ladki kmane wali jarur honi chahiye no matter kitna kmaa rhii hai and agr nhi kmaa rhii to ghr ko smbhal ske itni capabilities hone chahiye, sabse khtrnak chiz jo aapne boli ki 1993 ke baad wali ladkiya nhi krngi ghr ka sara kaam sahi se, ekdum satik bool gye aap, maan gya mai aapki sense of humor ko great, keep coming those topics bahit faiyda kra rhee ho aap smaj ka, lots of love and respect from New Delhi 😊
Sir, you are showing the mirror 🪞 to us about the real society in present times, if by 👀 seeing the mirror some people realize what they are wearing 😀 and blame you then so be it 😀
Aap hamesha ladaki o ko kaam karne ke liye bol rahe ho. Agree. But what about house responsibilities? Middle class logo k pass 24 hrs k nokar chakar nahi rehete, aur bahot logo ko khana to kisi cook ke hath ka pasand nahi aata. In that situation what should be done? Wo 8-10 hrs ki job karke ghar pe aane k baad bhi kaam to khatam hi nahi hota. Women are changing, earning but a man still expects a glass of water in his hand as he returns from his work. When men will start working in kitchen?
@@adityakapoor2714 I am working, earing and taking care of my home and kid really well. And I have achieved it with support of my husband. But when i see people around me, I feel bad. Aur teri aukaat kya hai mujhe batane ki mujhe kya karna chahiye ya kya nahi? apne ghar ka haal sudhar sakta hai to sudhar.
45 lpa CTC on Microsoft is around. 1 lac per month don't fell in trap of CTC it is highly inflated by adding 4 years component of stocks in single year
People who are just not ready to change their ancient backward mindset to move forward, will not agree to your words. I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls. I worked as a teacher in a Birla school for many years. My everyday mantra to my daughters is that they must earn their own living. My elder one has already started working in an US based company. 😊
Look for a partner who treats others the way that they want to be treated. A person who has a kind character is more likely to treat you with care and respect. A partner who is thoughtful, empathetic, and compassionate is more likely to take the time to try and understand how other people are feeling.
Aisa bhi nahi hai ki ladki shadi ke time naa kama rahi ho toh kamayegi hi nahi .I was not earning at the time of marriage but after marriage cleared exams and now I am in govt job.
Bhai aap larke ho, shadi ke baad larki pe bahut Jimmedari aur bojh aa jata hain toh unko jyada muskil hoti hain clear karne mein. Haan phir bhi kuch job le sakti hain par tabhi jab Husband supportive tab possibility banta hain.
You're definitely an exception bro. Many of friends got married with plans to clear govt exam after. Nothing. They didnt even put 1 ounce of effort into studying only used it as an excuse to avoid work.
Working wife is good until baby comes around. Uske bad mommy brain doesnt want to leave the child behind and psychological consequences of missing mother and childhood neglect are immense. Most of the psychologically sick/ socially unsuccessful kids come from working mom family. Best case is to marry a smart woman who is capable of working. Later as she has kids, let the mom focus on and raise helathy kids till they are teenagers and then if needed/desired she can start her own business that can be passed down. Also girls, you will be lucky if your family lets you keep your work earnings. Sara paisa le leti hai "supportive" in-law family. Even the grocieries, bills will be paid for by your salary. Degree of freedom will depend on family to family, irrespective of your salary. Also, you will 100% feel resentment towards your husband and his family for making you work when you dont want to (esp when baby arrives). Also the ego battles will be full on. Source- I have closely seen and counselled many working women in my life. Intelligent housewifes family is better/healthier than working wife's family.
Additionally background checks kii importance hai yaa nahi?...character..nature..education n where from...social standing ( confirmed thru verification as good), stability of economy...liabilities of siblings...are some other factors important
The way you promoting girl education and self dependency is great. Parents should also learn a huge lesson from your video.. or sabse badi baat ye bhi hai ki jinko sikhna chahiye woi nhi sunenge😂😂
Also make a video on 2 more conditions:- In laws well settled, husband earning well but wife is on career break due to motherhood and no support from family members for job in future
Yes very necessary...I think join your job asap after baby becomes little big....or join now and keep a maid for day time....my relatives are doing same
A simple fact of life, look for simplicity rather than material pleasures. And score higher on the happiness index. Quality education is still very rare in India, mind you, even IITians, IIM graduates have only learnt how to be gainfully employed, but that's not helping their marriage life, because of zero experience/ knowledge about how family & marriage as institutions work.
Your words are full of wisdom. Forty years back when I got married, my grandmother advised me to keep working and earning. It helped me a lot in being level headed .
Really good advice, job is not only for money buy it teaches lot to a person. If a women does job her family supports her in household work, she gets her own identity also office meine dimag kharab karne k baad she starts loving her family more ghar pe rehke ghar k log hi kharab lagne lagte hai. Also, our life is more disciplined we become more proactive the approach of our children also changes towards there mother.... I'm working and also taking financial responsibility so both me and my husband can fulfill our dreams.
10:18 sir I am agree with you 🙏 But I want to let you know that in our society if girl's money earning capabilitie is more than boys then girls do not respect her husband and family of her husband ..... Sir I want to know in this situation what should we do 🙏🙏🙏
A home and family can work better with equal division of labour. Its good if girl is working and adding to the total income of the house. What about other things. pls do make a video that if a boy wants a working girl, he should be prepare to share the household chores , taking care of children etc too. The two wheels of a marriage should be equally balanced. So a working girl should also ask before marriage whether the boy is ready to share the house hold chores or not. Nahi to ek thaka rahega aur doosra doston ke saath sharab peeta rahega. I am sorry if I am too harsh.
Hello sir, I'm a girl and I'm earning well also. But problem hai ek, wo ye ki ab to shadi ki baat ho rhi Or ek ldka v dekha gya hai, mai ladke se mili v hu, baat wagerh bhi kiaa hai but uske ghr mai maid allow nhi hai..sab kuch sahi hai bt ye ek baat aakr atak gai hai, may be sabko funny lage but mai iss wajh se na krne waali hu😑Kya ye krna sahi hoga?
Are tu pagal aurat hai kya isse to saaf pata chalta hai ki tu kaam Krna ni chathi ghar ka ... Jaadu pocha .. to shadi kr kyu ri hai.. teri kya responsibility hai fir
Hats of to you sir, you hard hit the facts, without any fear, but you were wrong only in one aspect gudiya will always harass budiya and that too very effectively, in whatever may be the scenario😁
sir mere ek bhaiya hai jo MNC me as a engineer job krte hai unki shadi bhi ek engineer ldki se hui fr bhi dono me divorce hui coz ghar ka kaam koi nhi krna chah rha tha ghar me maid bhi nkhre wali hi hoti aaj kal...
Sir i am always listen your advice and it really meaningful, But you always give example of income of a person 80k or 1 llakh per month and always give a rich society people case study example. But please think more practically about the lower class about who are in the wor professon of carpenter, welder, chef, plumber, a marketing agent, a pharmasiat, an office boy, peon, a delivery boy, a hotel steward etc... etc... etc. Who earn money in between 15 k to 25 k in month, and this category is the vast number than upper middle class and higger middle class. So please sir think their life problems and help them with understanding their case study of their life because in this time they want more consultant for grow their lives
Udhar yeh issue hai bhi nahi most lower class mein dono hi kaam karte hai jaldi shadi karte hai and unke bache hi Ghar sambhal lete hai 14 15 se waha sorted hai yeh sab
But sir if both husband and wife work full time, there is not much time to take care of home needs, parents, children, cooking etc.. Both of them have to work in office and share household responsibilities, even if they hire a helper.. so is it worth to live such a stressful life.. May be the middle path is one of them husband or wife should be having a job with flexible less hours like 5 to 6 hrs per day other person can have 8 to 9 hrs then it is balanced...in villages ot is like that only women work part time outside in their own field or farm
Loan will be cleared in some years then situation will improve. If both are in service they can together clear the loan by giving more amount of instalments.
My daughter is married to a Marathi and after producing a child he has left my daughter in my house. I am retired without pension and I dont know what to do.
One of your case is relatable to my neighbours Case 1- The boy was IITian and girl was normal btech but doing job in good company. Boy family having medical shop with one sister unmarried , girl family middle class ( Father A class officer) brother is also Iitian unmarried. There marriage was Arranged marriage. Both party equally Invested in marriage. But after one year they got divorced. Girl side Reason- The boy family asked for money every month (they were totally dependent) ( free ka pesa aa rha hai toh medical shop mai kamane ku jaye hum bi ash krnge ) . The boy give half of his salary to his parents or more sometimes. He dont save anything likeFD or mutual fund. The boy want to run his house from girl salary. He restricted girl not to buy expensive things. (Like saying pese ki barbaadi) . So the girl family give her plan to save his 75% of salary on FD and 20% keep with you. So that boy stopped giving his half salary to his family. Unfortunately plan doesn’t worked and fights was continued. Boy Reason - Girl dont cook food. (Inlaws side) and fight with them. They got divorced after one year of marriage. (No settlement happened) both working on bangluru with reputed companies.
Yes ...life mai overqualified hona bhi galat hai .. Iitian ..and engineering background have no respect now . People are fond of high salry only in pvt . But ek jagah bcom wale ne sbi po ki job crack karli , he is much good and decent . Low investment high return (govt employee). But in case of pvt high investment high return until and unless corona virus comes to lay off employees 😄
In this case its better for parents to sell their assets and put in fd for regular income instead of giving to their children they should enjoy their life. Let children earn and build their own empire.
I myself being doctor mbbs Joining my Md at 28years.. i m into court marriage instead use the money for house. Being buddhist and from vidharbha we have no dowry custom. But still why marry a working women you want ur wife to be with you all time and do household chores then marry a housewife. Why boys parents want everything educated, good looking earning and you want to have your daughter in law to pay her income to u. Equal share in finance responsibity is right. But as being girl who taught to focus heavily on career i prefer earning I don't know why even doctor i talk they want there wife to cook everyday how that's possible for a doctor considering working hours. I find myself so frustrated that feels being single is much better
Yes you are accurate... I am ca student. And in final stages I am not working due to study. Meri saas ko wahi lagta hai... Ki kyu layi hai gudiya.? Is chakkar me meri padhai bhi nahi ho rahi
Agreed with everything sir -- just a change recommended for boys - if you are looking for a working wife, please be ready to help in some way with housework
Sir Salute to you !!!Very wise words and Lesson for life.Indian parents are so negative that many times they do not appreciate whatever we do for them.Seriously Sir it’s very difficult to deal with their restricted mindset.Please make more videos for families and younger generations..Thanks 🙏
Points not considered Bache kon paida karega Bache kon sambhalega Child abused and child rape are increasing. Possessive men ka kya kare Most of the men are possessive and insecure specially if wife works.
Are there so many jobs that all brides and bridegrooms are employed . Though I agree with what u saying. Practical from micro point of view but not from macro point.😁
Sir how do you judge a prospective groom or bride n parent for their nature. If they have a nature to fight or are peaceful how do we get to know. Pls guide as thus us very important. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@abhinashsinghania440 I make 4 times the money that a iit iim guy would make in india and I'm a girl.. I don't need his money but all I want is respect and love. What's the solution then??
sahi bat hai..job me challenges family changes se kam lgte hai after marriage, specially for girls bcz shadi k bad you are never perfect for everyone evrytime. Job gives you space and peace for womens individual personality.
Sorry to tell you that I have recently seen many working girls, mostly not in sync with their husbands. Sometimes I feel that if the boy is getting a good package, he should marry a girl prepared to be a home maker. My intention is not to contradict, but to correct myself and my opinions. Please elaborate
Another major problem arising is related to cooking. These days girls are less interested in cooking than before.(might be due to work pressure). And by nature, boys are also less interested in cooking. Not everyone prefer to get food cooked by a cook. If both are working then anyone of bride or groom should know cooking to make life easier.
@@cauliflowerhead2735 yes, its a good to have skill, makes a person independent. But a person who is not interested in cooking cant become a good cook.
First of all we all need to understand (commentator) that he is not pointing out someone's individual personality, he is just talking about the biggest ratio of so called married society, where people (man & women) faces some issues, they are not happy and after being married. So who wants to marry they should understand that the marriage is not a "baccho ka khel" it's a matter of whole life. So be careful and try to understand. Anylase yourself what you actually want. Lastly, I would like to say Thank you so much for your guidance. I hope it will definitely be beneficial for our society. 🙏😊
This is really important to understand as a youth and I must say this is the only channel which talks about one of the major issue of society. I am really thankful that You Tube has recommended me your channel Sir.
Sir lekin gaurav ki family ne bete ke liye assets toh ikathhe kar liye honge, sarr pe chatt toh leke de di, aur kuch toh property ikathi ki hogi. Gaurav ko sirf abhi jo kamana hai pait bharne ke liye kamana hai, kisi aur ki zimmedari nahi puri karni. Kuch toh kiraya aa raha hoga gaurav ke gharwalo ko b jo gaurav ka hoga
Sir, good to hear you mentioning Sri Vidyasagar & Sri Rammohan from Bengal whose thoughts were v advanced. But me a bengali feel in case of marriages we look for a good family meaning which carries good value system and is educated. Wealth comes after that for security. Our girls also we feel need to be well educated so that they are independent yet are polite and respectful due to their good background. Even if they earn more than their husbands they will still respect their husbands provided he behaves well with her. So also our boys are thought to respect their wives whether working or not as their children later will learn a lot from their mother. Wealth is a requirement and in these times it's better if both earn. It is for the husband to see that his wife does not face any insults from anyone. Once the wife really gets annoyed as she is independent she can take steps not good for the couple. So it's best all stay peacefully without any unnecessary demand. 26th Oct.
@@nainakmk9941 Please do not spoil that child's future for the sake of your convenience or selfishness. A young child needs a Dad while growing up, and for that matter both parents. Fatherless children grow up to have a lot of issues especially girl children, best example is the USA. You might be oblivious to this blaring truth because of the fog of feminism blinding you .I respect your decision and apologies for the earlier joke , but please don't adopt that child if you don't have a man in your life.
Sir but ladki earn karti hai toh ye log sochte hai ek or earning hand hai and uska bhi paise le lege ya khud kuch nahi karege ki tum toh khud kamati ho ...😢 I am facing....mana karo apni salary dene ko....toh roj kalesh
What if the groom's family is well settled and the groom is also earning a decent salary, the other side bride is from a middle class family and earning a decent salary, but when there's a marriage proposal from a groom why are they asking for 500 grams of gold and marriage expenditure ....
Sir please make a video on extra merital affair. Due to the women employment extra marital affair is increasing according to my observation and explain how to handel it
Jb admi extramarital affair krta h evn sadi k phle dus dus aurato k sath physical hota h to chalta h wo to dude h normal h....ab ladki krri to tmlg ki fatt k hanth me ari....are tm v nibhao ek cheater k sath jaise itne saal auratein nibhate ayi h piggy pati / man k sath...sb ladko ko aisehi milni chahiye🤣🤣 Bhot sahi hogyi h ajkl ladkiya..
@@ezhioauditore8638so what lady 😂😂😂😂 before men did it because we girls don't have rights na just because some men kept affairs that don't mean we should do the same lol
Sir, You told that plz look girl who r doing job for marriage.its good.but some girls has tendency that she should doing job,she will ean salary,earn lot of money.but she has tendency that no single rupee will spend for own family. All salary amount only deposite to her bank account.then what is ur opinion about it?
@@aartinayak1714maayke me dene me kya dikkat hai? Ladka bhi to apne hi ghar me paise deta hai, apne sasural walon ko deta hai kya?? Change your thinking madam!!
