I found it helpful to write either on paper or my notes app anything I wanted to text my ex. I’d write it exactly as if I were texting them. It can be healing and can help you realize what kinds of things you’re constantly wanting to reach out about/ what state of mind you’re in when you’re wanting to talk to them.
This is a good idea,because, I keep going between a ton of emotions, sad, anger, happy, and I keep texting things I regret so that would be very helpful, thank u
I'm 8 months into healing from a 2.3 years relationship. It gets better. You learn to live with the pain. We are only human processing a loss and facing our emotions is so important when healing. There will be days where you will feel great and days were you will mourn and wish it for them to be back, it's all part of the process :') it's a journey x
Two days ago ,I made the biggest mistake and that is hurting the most precious man I've ever met...thought he didn't care much of me but then I realized I was too numb that he's only doing those things because he respected me so much that whatever I want he will do. He deserves someone better and I accept that ...I need to heal and make myself stable and I pray to God,He will guide that boy to heal as well..I love him..💖
I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago today. It was so hard because we both thought we would be with each other forever. I know that's juvenile but it's how we felt. Then I started seeing red flags and things about his personality that didn't sit well with me. I was depressed for weeks and I knew I had to do it. Hardest thing ever and he blames me for ending it and that he would've changed. Yesterday he unfollowed me and was guilt tripping me to try and get me to stay with him...just been rough. I have no motivation now and feel so negative
Five days ago I broke up with my boyfriend. .I was in denial and acted like nothing affected me... I found out some real messed up stuff about him. Anytime I consulted him about an issue he always dismissed me and said I was childish and petty... I'm at a point where I feel this pain in my chest... I'm trying to act strong and be occupied but it's not so easy... All of us going through this we can do it... Just because their time in your life is over doesn't mean your life is over...You're strong and you're worth all the love and affection in this world♥️♥️
@@elkartoutihafssa7629 actually I am going through some sort of things. This phase is really difficult like you try to feel strong in a moment & later you feel completely broken other moment . But this frustration will be blur with time. Just go outside walk & pray . And you feel completely shattered just cry & cry until you feel tired to cry. Time will make you better . Just don’t give up on you. If they can’t do enough to have you, it’s their misfortune. You lost a person who doesn’t know how to keep you. I hope that you will get an amazing person in future
Honestly I feel a lot of bitterness towards him... But I'm progressing well I'm focusing on me and allowing myself to feel all emotions as much as they may hurt me it's for my own good
I cried doing everything for the first time after my 6 year relationship ended. We lived together too…it’s been a little over 3 years and I finally feel good. I feel like starting a new real relationship/partnership. Take your time and know we are here to watch you cry, thrive, and whatever you need!
omg babe , if you don’t mind me asking why did y’all break up ? (i’m in an almost 6 yr relationship ) and things have been a little less than perfect lately to say the least..
@@cottoncandyflake I relate to the person who wrote this comment. I ended my 6 year relationship (and we lived together) a little over a month ago. It wasn’t because of just one reason, it was built up over time. But mainly because I felt held back almost. Like I wasn’t becoming a better person and neither was he so I needed to make the decision for both him and myself. I had felt like it was a decision that needed to be made for a while and at times i regret it because what we had was almost perfect. We had been together from 16-22 and I felt like I needed to grow more individually and make decisions for myself so i could become a better person. Still in my heart i hope we can come back together in the future, but that’s not promised. Hope you’re okay. Relationships are hard especially 6 years in it becomes a bit stagnant. You need to remember that it’s important to keep dating the person. And that effort needs to be present on both sides. Best wishes.
@@sevgi6482i am back together with him 😂. we broke up for 3 months and then we ended up rekindling. have been together since and have never been happier. sometimes you just need time to remember who you are.
This is day 2 for me. We were in a relationship for 3 years and we lived together for 2 of those 3 years. This is really hard!! Emotions are crazy.... but being strong and I'm not texting him. Period.
i see your pain even while talking about the good things happening, because i've been there. i am nearly 5 months post break up after a 2 year relationship. i still think about her every day. i lost more than a girlfriend, i lost my best friend, family and home in one. what has helped me is to see that grief comes from love, and to have loved is never a bad thing. and that all the good experiences i made for the first time with my past partner are experiences that show me what good the future can hold again, even if that's not my life right now. also, shaving my head and boxing classes had me feeling like i am owning my life again. sending hugs to all of you! we got this. ⚡🧡
Wow. Thank you for creating this safe space. I’m currently transitioning out of a living situation with someone I’ve dated for almost 5 years and was my best friend first since I was 17 (I’m 24 now) I quite literally can’t imagine adulthood without him as the last time I didn’t have him in my life I was a teenager. This video made me feel normal amidst all of these crazy emotions. You’re motivating me to be excited for when I’m finally moved out so I can start actually healing and growing into my own life. Thank you girl!!
i can’t believe u posted 3 weeks ago. that’s also how long i dated my ex who became my fiancé early this year… i broke up w him cuz i couldn’t take the verbal abuse anymore… 4 years together anniversary of 4 years is coming up and also watching this almost under a month after. thank u for sharing this. i am crying the same way everyday trying so hard to fight thru this but it’s so hard and painful i cannot deal w it
Natalie, I can’t begin to imagine the emotional roller coaster you’ve been on since your unfortunate breakup. I’m so very sorry and I pray that you two will ultimately find your way back to each other. How many people could or even would show such tremendous vulnerability at a time when they are hurting from the inside out. You are an Amazingly successful and caring person who I wish nothing but the very best for moving forward. Thank you for sharing what obviously took a lot of strength to do. Hope you feel better soon. Btw, you have an awesome beautiful smile so please stop crying. 😇🙏🏾💐
seeing you like this was heart breaking. I went through a breakup after a 6 year relationship in 2020 and another one exactly a year ago. Its so rough going through it. But as you know it gets better. WAY better. You seem like you are handling it really well, taking care of yourself, and not being afraid to deal with your emotions head on right now. I look up to your strength!! you got this
*i was in a relationship for 3 years and today we broke up i don’t think i’ll ever be able to heal from it i’ll miss him so much* 😭💗
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Tysm for sharing❤ it’s amazing we can be vulnerable for an online community. I recently broke up as well and the best advice I got was from my therapist who reminded me I don’t have to escape/ distract myself from the pain. It seems like it’s top big and it’s scary to let ourselves feel it. But it’s not bigger than us and feeling will hurt but it won’t kill us. Feeling pain is necessary to feel joy as well. Distraction society isn’t all good… Let us make peace with hurting, knowing it’ll pass. We’re together!
What helped me so much after a very longterm rltp breakup is reminding myself of the many reasons why I deserve better. If your reasons for the breakup were different, then remind yourself that God has a better partner out there for you and He wants you to find him
this is so helpful to know that i'm not the only one who is going through some rough patch at the moment. this gave me so much comfort knowing that it's totally normal to have the random breakdowns when you suddenly miss your ex-bf, and indeed, healing is not linear. hoping that all of you here will get better and will be able to appreciate life even more, in a new norm :)
Natalie, thank you so much for making a video like this in an such difficult moment. I just broked up with my bf a week ago and I fell terrible, but sometimes I fell awesome about it. I also texted him and then he made it clear that we had to move on (he was nice about it). I am in pain, but I understand why is it necessary... We glow, we just forgot how to do it alone.
i never comment on videos but this is exactly how my emotions have been (up and down) and to be honest i did not know if it was normal or not. Me and my boyfriend were together 3 years and a half, we started dating when i was 13 and him 14 (i know young), i am now 17. We broke up on Thursday night the 27th of October so it has only been a few days and honestly i still feel like texting him, i feel that i miss him but then i just need to remind myself that it is just the memories i miss. i am finding it really difficult to distract myself, honestly i seem to be thinking about it all the time and having my break downs almost daily ever since. Its odd being on my own now but i know i will get used to the independence. Just right now to be dramatic it feels like the end of the world😂. This video has really made me realise that these emotions i am feeling is normal and i thank you for that you done a good and brave thing showing how you are coping.
I had a feeling from your last video. I’m sorry sis. Break ups are never easy. Give yourself permission to feel all the feels. The waves will come. You’re so right you will be okay!! More than okay. We love and support you girl!! Try switching your furniture around. a drastic change can sometimes make spaces feel new again, may help with always being reminded of him. Affirmations on the wall, more plants to remind you to keep watering you. You got this Natalie. Doors close so new ones can open!
Thank you for making this video. I just got out of an 11-year relationship, and you're right, healing is not linear. There are days when I'm not crying and feeling excited to live my new normal and there are days when sadness hits me. To think that we almost got married. We are good friends but it is still so hard to start over since I'm not young anymore. And I feel envious of my friends that are still in their respective relationships and settling down while here I am in a failed one. But I know I will get better even if it takes time.
It's not failure just because it ended. You lived a good chunk of your lives together and you'll always share that. And just because you see other people settling down doesn't mean they are necessarily happy. They may just be trying to avoid "failure."
hello thanks a lot for that video, it really helps realizing that it's okay to feel sad. that it can get better even if you feel like it won't ! To all the people that dumped or have been dumped you deserve to be happy :) Moving on takes time don't feel bad for that. For some it takes weeks, months, years... Don't compare yourself with others. If you feel like you can't go through this alone don't be afraid of going to a psychologist it might help, and there's nothing to be ashamed of.
I am watching your videos from past 3 years and let me tell you you are a boss girl, i re watch your old vlogs whenever i feel demotivated and i instantly feel productive. Your vlogs are so honest and real. ❤
Me and him were best friends then dated and once we broke up we were friends again, we are finally giving each other some space and going to give it some time before we text again but what hurts the most is the fact I feel like I’ve lost a relationship but I’ve also lost a friendship, I still love him and care about him but need to give myself some time to recover. I don’t think our story has ended yet.
Natalie I’m so sorry. Last week made a year since me and my ex ended our engagement and I still get choked up here and there. Please be kind to yourself. Sending lots of love ❤
Omg I guess we allll going through it ): Im on month 7 & its STILL hard. Definitely a rollercoaster of emotions. Just know its okay & its a journey that takes time. You got this babygirl♥️
i just miss the memories and the love not him as a person. i made the mistake of trying to stay friends with my ex and its a huge mistake. cut contacts off honey, he's just going to hurt you more. this is day 1 of him out of my life and it hurts. it will get better
I ended a 7 year relationship back in febuary, even if its a healthy break up its still very sad and hard, but i can tell you Im happy and ok now, hope you feel better soon too. Therapy, praying and writing helps so much! And taylor Swift too of course 😹
I'm so sorry, Natalie... I'm actually STILL not over MY breakup, and I don't know if I ever WILL get over it. I'm sending you the BIGGEST hugs imaginable. You're amazing, you're beautiful, you're a kind person, and you shouldn't have to go through this alone. We're with you now and forever, queen. We love you so friggin' much. 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗
It’s been 5+ years and counting, still waiting for the day where I’m no longer impacted so deeply by it. It really sucks, I hope it gets better for you very soon!
@@luc2571 It's sort of the opposite for me. I feel like I'm a mistake and a failure that doesn't even deserve love... 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭 💔 💔 💔 💔 💔 💔 💔 💔 💔 💔
@@tudoounada2763 DID YOU REALLY THINK I'D LET YOU TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME!?!?!? BETTER THINK AGAIN, SCAMMER!!! I'M GONNA SAY THIS ONLY ONCE: GO AWAY OR ELSE!!!
@@EntertainmentFan11 I know this means little coming from an internet stranger, but you’re so worthy of love. Those thoughts are lying to you! You are NOT a mistake. Sending you hugs
Praying for the Lords peace and tranquility over you during this time! It's hard to mourn relationships, but you'll get to the other side❤️ God makes everything work together for good, for those who love and cherish him 🫶🏽
Girl, going through breakup awoken Taylor Swift fan in me. Like i got you. It's been three months and I listen to her songs like every day. And if not, I sing them. I frigging sing them. That's addiction at this point 😂
5 hours ago my boyfriend blocked me on everything with no explanation whatsoever. I was in denial, I’m currently being bullied at school and now I don’t even have someone who can comfort me. I’m trying to keep occupied but it’s not exactly easy. my mindset was if it wasn’t him it was nobody, but ig it was never the same.
Natalie, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can definitely relate and I really admire your vulnerability in this vlog. Keep your head up, everything happens for a reason. 💫
I’m so grateful for this. My ex just sent an email to my dad and accidentally ccd me, telling my dad why they were breaking up with me which has been an ongoing process for the last month. He said how sad he was to leave our family and it made it all real. I still have hope for reconciliation and I feel stupid and crazy for that. Finding this video has helped me so much. The first time grocery shopping alone is so oddly difficult. Exactly what you said, wanting to get something you know they’d love and just the heartbreak of that. I know I’ll be okay but I don’t want to be, because then it means it’s done.
Me too...just ended a 6 years relationship.. Cheated on me the 2nd time and out he goes ... It is so heartbreaking, you thought they've changed....but they never do.. Im trying so hard not to text him... But I understand no matter how hard it is, I have to go through this on my own... Hope time will heal my broken heart..
Sending you so, so much love! It does get easier & better, but that doesn't mean it's not INCREDIBLY painful right now. Cry at the grocery store, cry anywhere, do whatever you need to do to get through those painful moments and before you know it, there will be less and less of them
Just like you said, you’ll be okay bc you’ve been okay before. Sending you so many positive vibes, healing vibes and happy vibes. You can do this 💪🏽 keep busy and keep your head up! Pressure makes diamonds bby! 💎💎💎
I’m late to watch this video, but I just broke up with my long term boyfriend a month ago now and I can confidently say that this video was so validating. Thank you for sharing your experiences in such a vulnerable way, it really did make an impact for me ❤
I broke up with my bf 3 weeks ago we talked for 3 years and dated for 7 months. It has been really really hard for me but watching this video has encouraged me and made me feel not so alone lol . Thank you for uploading this I love you and I love your channel. You are in charge of your own heart so remember to fill it with positivity 🫶🏼
just went through a situationship a couple months ago and it still hurts to this day like an open wound.. watching this honestly got my day out of a gloomy dark place ❤ honestly thank you for sharing and if you ever decide to move to nyc girl lmk we can be single roomies lol
Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable with us❤️❤️ you have a huge support system here💞💞 let yourself feel and take time for yourself!! And Taylor Swift will get anyone through anything. We all love you!! Also just thought about it- but Happiness by Taylor Swift is a good one
My boyfriend of 5 years and 7 months broke up with me last night im utterly crushed I can't do anything I havent eaten and when I'm awake I can only think of all the things he said and when I'm asleep I dream of him I feel like my heart is shattered I feel like I've hit rock-bottom I don't have motivation for anything I barely want to go to the bathroom I feel so fucking horrible
Am so sorry to hear the break up news. Sending you a huge hug. I know its hard and difficult now, but it will help you grow stronger in the long run. Keep the Faith.
Hey, im new to your channel but I feel like we are a family from way before.......I've been struggling to get over my break up for 12 months now it hurts but God is with us.......we can do it through Christ who strengthens us
watching this having been with someone for 4 years, I honestly thought they were my person... but looking back now realized he wasn't as he was confused about us and I know in the long run its for the best but it still pains me
Natalie I’m so sorry I went through a breakup in Feb and I lived with my boyfriend and I ended up moving back home for a bit and just moved back to the city we lived in together after 6 months of healing and I feel so much better. You will get through this, but allow yourself to be sad and vulnerable and heal ❤
I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, i met him when i was 14 and we broke up on my 18th, he walked out and i knew i needed to end it, i went into a weird stage if denail for 2 months where i just didnt actually react, but now in the past 2 weeks ive fallen into the worst depression of my life. Im looking for him everywhere i go, im thinking of him my heart hurts. I know ill get over this but my god this is horrible
I'm here because my ex and I broke up last sunday, I don't even know what is happening I'm just not accepting that now we're not still together and it hurts so much. I can't even explain if we exactly broke up, I can't imagine a life without him, we were to be married at some point and now everything sucks. We were dating for 4 years and I fell for him 7 years ago and it was my first big love and now I don't know what to do..
It's so funny I'm going through a breakup too. Sept 23 would be 5 years. And I saw this yesterday and couldn't watch it because I was bawling my eyes out yesterday. I'm feeling better today so I decided to see if I could watch this. I WILL NOT CRY
😢 I’m going through this now. It does hurt. 😞 I was with my now ex for almost 2yrs he broke up with me and did the ultimate betrayal by posting his new lady on his social media so I could “see” who he left me for. It hurts like hell 💔💔🥀🥀🥀
Be strong Pray 🙏 God can help you out. Healing is a must. If you can be strong without a person for strength and happiness from there you'll be on your way to healthy relationships ✨️
Allow yourself to heal and to feel. I'm going through the same thing. You need to find God in all this! Seek God above all and look to him to fill the holes in your heart!
