How I Became a Sociopath 

‘But I can’t help who I am as a person, all I can do is make good choices.’ You are brilliant.

You can't judge people for what they feel, only how they behave.

I had a close friend who was a diagnosed sociopath, and I loved how she described it “i don’t really feel emotions, but when I do they are far too extreme” she was never hurtful, she was compassionate and protective

"I CHOOSE" EXACTLY. I love this. I'm a neurodivergent empath married to a recovering semi narc who was raised by a family of vicious, full fledged narcs. He makes cognitive decisions every day to be a good person inside and out. I have more empathy, love and respect for someone like that than I do for the average human being. I think people who develop free will and use it to the health of all are heroes... and in my eyes, 95% of human beings fall terribly short of that.

Honestly, to choose to be a good person is better than being a good person because you're driven by guilt

I think becoming a sociopath is a kind of a survival mechanism.

You are different because you seek to do better. I am in an NPD fb group and many of the narcissists there glorify their toxic behavior and love to mock empathic people. There is definitly a difference...

Fighting the urge to send this to my narcissistic step-mom that abused me and say, “see. Abuse is a CHOICE.”

“I think compassion is something we can choose”. A word!!!

My dad was the same. A tyrant who had zero tolerance for emotional expression. “Quit crying, or I’ll give you something to cry about!” He was also angry and very critical. It is a horrible way to grow up, I feel ya. I’m sorry that you also experience the emptiness. I really like how you say how people with disorders are just desperately trying to be loved by someone finally. They weren’t valued for who they were, only if they act as directed. Conditional love at its worst…

I've noticed that I have trouble crying and feeling because my mother would get angry when I cried as a child. My sadness more often than not turns to rage because of how I have had to suppress it. 'If you're going to cry, go to your room!' I'll give you something to cry about!' This has devastating consequences on a child.

As someone who is autistic with high empathy I'm hypersensitive to other people's emotions. That doesn't make me a good person. I can empathize with anyone, wether 'good' or 'bad'. I can still choose a side to be on. Empathy doesn't give moral high ground

It’s funny to me that people think all sociopaths are the exact same person. All people with bipolar are the same person. All people with narcissism are the same person. Etc. I hope your videos can help educate those types of people who believe that!

This is why when my daughter gets hurt I tell her it’s ok to be sad and hold her while she cry’s and help her calm her body slowly. It’s ok to feel.

I think she’s a good person with her struggles. I’m proud she’s getting treatment. These people need a safe space to heal and grow.

I was raised by a destructive narcissist. I was scapegoated and subjected to all manner of abuse throughout my life. If my Dad had even half the self awareness that you have we might be able to have a relationship. But I doubt he ever will. He is a full on shadow player. Well done to you

I don't have a pd but I can really relate to the validation part. I was always "the smart one", so much so that other people (family, teachers, friends) made it my identity and it became the source of my self-worth. Because of that and inherent perfectionism I put very high emphasis on getting academic recognition, and I find it quite shattering to not come out at the top of the top.

I know people with massive empathy who are still selfish and emotionally abusive. An empathetic person looking down on someone because they don’t have much empathy is already being abusive.

When I was diagnosed with ASPD I was also appalled... my first reaction was "I want to get better..." So we are not all bad people. Love that you are speaking out on it! Thank you!

Not getting attention when you're happy & healthy is heartbreaking. Feeling like you're supposed to be sick but not show emotion is SOOO hard.

There are millions of people with empathy that still hurt people it is definitely a choice!!!

There are so many bad people who have empathy and still choose to harm. People make choices.

“We’re already in the shadows” that’s powerful 🦋

I feel you Kanika. I went through very abusive experience as a child, to the point that I did not feel anything. Physically and emotionally. I did not feel physical pain after I was but by a dog and was stitched, or when I fell really hard from my bicycle and hit my head really bad… later as a teenager I realised that I don’t feel any emotions and was severely depressed. I felt empty inside and did not understand what was happening to me. But later I started seeing a therapist and been in therapy since. It turns out that my real self is actually very, very sensitive and I am an empath. Therefore I strongly believe that we can change once we truly connect with ourselves. The difficult part is that connection but once you get there, life changes. I wish everyone to be able to connect with themselves. Life will become beautiful instantly.

Oh my gosh yes. I have bipolar disorder, someone very close to me has borderline personality disorder, and we are absolutely villainized. Even though I personally have extreme extreme empathy. To the point it is a huge burden. I actually can have a hard time making decisions because my feelings are so overwhelming. But I don’t always tell people I have bipolar disorder because I assume that means I am nuts and every time I get mad that it’s irrational. Like my feelings are no longer valid just because I have a disorder. It’s so weird.

"I choose not to be a shitty person. " Yes!!! This is everything. I've been thinking a lot about people who are sociopaths and how there's a mob mentality when it comes to them. Which is disgusting. I applaud you for coming out and speaking about it. It's very brave of you and I think you're amazing.

As a psychologist, who works with violent offenders, I thank you for this video! I like your perspective on choice. Well done for destigmatising personality issues!

In my early twenties I went through a stage where I thought I might be a sociopath, that journey of self-discovery eventually lead me to realise that while I was entirely cut off from my emotions as a way to survive in a neurotypical world (and a few other traumatic circumstances growing up), I am not a sociopath. It definitely gave me a better understanding and appreciation for the experience of people with ASPD. Now almost 10 years later I've been diagnosed with ADHD and ASD, and things make a lot more sense. Thank you so much for sharing some of your story, bringing light to the reality of other ways of being is so valuable.

I appreciate your courage to use your voice! I am a therapist that wants to help and find a way to support and help those with pd.

My boyfriend is a diagnosed sociopath. Going on four years and he has never mistreated me. As a matter of fact he's one of the best things that's ever happened to me. Thank you so much for speaking out about this, so many people have the wrong idea

Kanika, I think you are brave. There have always been people who are like you and who have adapted as best they can to live their best life. It is not like sociopaths or other personality disorders just appeared in modern days; it is that they are being diagnosed. And also, there is now social media to share your stories. Every person has value and no one is perfect. We're all working on something. Just keep it up, you are making a positive difference.

It takes courage to admit being a sociopath. You have more feelings than most people I know and I give you immense credit for seeking healthy ways to cope❤

My ex-sister-in-law has NPD and she talked openly about it with me and it opened my eyes to how much anxiety was involved. How devastating it felt for her to receive minor criticism or feel like she wasn’t the best at something. She and my brother didn’t end up staying married, but they still co-parent well and treat each other with respect. I love when you said compassion is a choice, because truly it is. The ability to feel empathy doesn’t miraculously make someone a saint.

I have PTSD and have been in trauma therapy and medicated for 6 years after several long term (23 years, 4 years, 1 year) abusive relationships with narcissists and sociopaths. I didn't know what I had been dealing with until 2015 when I escaped the last one and then... proceeded to have a nervous breakdown. 😔 I'm 52 now and don't date anymore. I've dealt with a pattern of toxic relationships and simply can't handle one more. Unfortunately, I seem to attract them more often than not. That never works in my favor, so I stay single. I stumbled upon your channel last year and find you are interesting, smart, (of course also a beautiful young woman) but you made me want to hear you out. To hear your experience. I want to understand how it happened that you became a Sociopath and what that means to you. So thank you. I hope you'll continue educating us and sharing your story. 👍❤

Honestly, watching your videos has helped me realize I probably have ASPD. I've suspected it for a long time, but because ASPD's so poorly understood by wider society, people wouldn't take me seriously if I ever tried to talk about it. They'd insist the fact I experience depression, anxiety, rage, etc. proves I'm not a sociopath because they think sociopaths can't experience ANY emotion whatsoever, so I kept talking myself out of thinking I have it. However, after I took a slew of ASPD tests recently and kept getting the same score that put me JUUUST over the threshold, I started looking into it more. After finding you and watching you describe your ASPD, I'm pretty certain I do have it. I use cognitive empathy+a moral code I created to dictate my behavior rather than emotional empathy. I feel numb the vast majority of the time and find it extremely difficult to connect to others on an emotional level. I can feel love, but it's a much more subtle version than what others experience and I only feel it towards a few select people (I do love my cats very much, far more than I love any human). I can turn on charm at will, which has helped me become a successful salesperson and avoid consequences. Most of my facial expressions and mannerisms are performative. I can be very cruel and cold, but due to my personal code, I only do it to people who I decide deserve it. I get a vicious thrill from humiliating, grifting, intimidating, etc. these people. I don't care when people I know die and resent the fact I have to put on a sad act when they do. I only follow rules if I think they're worth following and will break laws as long as I think I can get away with it. I genuinely think I could kill someone and feel fine about it. I never would but that's almost entirely due to a desire to avoid prison. I've been accused of being sadistic, arrogant and manipulative by multiple people throughout my life. I can do bad things and just...push it to the back of my mind like it never happened. I DESPISE weakness. I automatically catalogue people's insecurities, weaknesses, secrets, etc. in case I need to weaponize them at a later date. I clock whether or not somebody can be exploited and used to take advantage of people quite a lot before I made the conscious decision to be a better person. So on and so forth.

When I first came a cross your channel I really didn't know what to think. I was interested and wanted to learn. I'm so happy I stuck around. I have BPD and when you talked about it on one of your videos I thought "OMG! Here someone who gets me! Finally " I am sorry for all the mean and awful things people say to you. It isn't right. You or I didn't choose to be this way but we did choose to get help and that's a big thing. Please keep doing what your doing. There are so many people who appreciate you. I hope your Dad and your partners Grandma will be healthy and strong again. Lots of hugs from Canada 🇨🇦🤗

I agree. The word narcissist is flung around with abandon these days. A guy you're casually dating does something slightly selfish, he's got to be a narcissist. It's so harmful. I am sorry you need to deal with judgemental, moronic people. I really enjoy listening to you and hearing a new perspective!

Personally I have TOO much empathy. So much so that I can basically feel other people's emotions as my own and it affects me very negatively. Causes me anxiety attacks and pre-syncope episodes, amongst other things. So I'm learning to detach my emotions when they're not necessary. I'm sorry that people are so mean and not able to understand you.

I have BPD, bipolar II and MDD. Thank you for helping break the stigma, I’m so glad I found your channel

Something people forget is that NO ONE does anything that doesn’t benefit them in some way, be it to reduce your own pain, to gain a sense of satisfaction in helping someone else, to feel an oxytocin rush when being intimate with a loved one, etc. It’s also interesting because even empaths have limits-anyone within YOUR group is deserving of love and affection and care, but as soon as you’re “other,” hoo boy, watch out!

You are so brave being so open and candid on the internet, hope you just receive love in your channel because you deserve it, thanks for sharing ❤️

It's so awesome to hear this perspective!! I'm a therapist and have worked with NPD and ASPD clients who were wonderful to get to know. Keep being yourself and congratulations on your book ❤ look forward to more content!!

Self honesty and trying to do the next right thing on a daily basis. Forgiving our past and trying to love unconditionally 💕

Thank you! Listening to you have helped me gain insight and compassion for the sociopath narcissists that I dated for four years. I am a year or so out of the relationship now but this channels helps me understand his side of things. I may have been damaged and hurt by him but I’m able to also understand why that happened and having empathy for someone who really hurt you is very healing. So thank you! Keep doing this for the people who appreciate it!

It's crazy to me that people will actually be like "you don't look____" and then turn around and discriminate against people who look/act that way. I'm autistic, and I put a ton of effort into masking autistic traits to avoid bullying, but then people are like "you don't look autistic," like they expect me to be stimming 24/7 or something. Absolutely wild that people are also saying you don't "look" like your diagnosis, like wtf??! Neurodiversity doesn't have a look!

You know you're a sociopath and Kanika's a sociopath when she's said the exact same shit you say. Choosing to be a good person. Choosing to have morals. Choosing to be compassionate, etc. Girl stole all my lines! Love you, my new favorite youtuber.

You are my new hero. I'm proud of you for your channel, for helping destigmatize ASPD and providing a safe space for neuro-diverse and neuro-typical people to get together, share and grow.

I couldn't explain how grateful i feel for what you've done for people especially those who suffer from ASPD like me. This place isn't an easy place for us to live in, the struggles and stigma are real. Thanks to people like you who speak up and clear the air for us to finally speak up for ourselves. Love you Kanika

Hi! My dad is a sociopath and was mentally, physically and sextually absuive my whole childhood, and I would just like to say I deeply appreciate your honesty and the way you talk about your life

My dad would yell at me for crying when I was a kid. He thought I was trying to manipulate him because me crying made him feel bad and he got super mad about it.

The fact that you even came to realize and admit this is an absolute breakthrough

You’re a very brave girl & I applaud you for educating us as to the real challenges of living with ASPD. You’re right, there are a lot of stereotypes re: those Cluster B personality disorders & we need to just listen to those living with these disorders. You didn’t become this way in a vacuum, certain life circumstances & experiences influenced who you ultimately became. It’s very easy to judge what you don’t understand. It’s a lot harder to openly listen to those who are neurotypically divergent & educate yourself to understand where they’re coming from. You’re a really great person & have much to offer the world. The fact that you CHOOSE to do right says a lot about your character. Keep going, Kanika & just be yourself. So many people are superficial & fake. You, my dear & authentically yourself. I’m really glad I stumbled upon your channel. Blessings to you. 💕

Welcome back. The more I think about all of the Narcissists I've known, the more I see how self sabotaging they are. How they process information differently than Neurotypicals do. Much of their abuse is off handed. They're reacting to intense feelings inside of themselves - Not so much the reality of what other people are actually doing. I feel more pity for them than hatred these days. But for a long time I hated Narcissists. I was so consumed in my own pain and hyper-vigilance that I had no empathy left for them. I didn't see the bigger picture of how much pain they were in too. Now if I see someone being manipulative, rageful, vindictive, dishonest, arrogant, predatory etc - I recognize that they already have enough emotional problems without me demonizing them. And unless they become self aware they'll experience many more problems. I don't need to add to people's burdens. Neurotypicals can be self righteous bullies all in the name of empathy . . . Or a lack thereof . . . ??? =)

I became a sociopath because of trauma. Not blaming anyone for who I am but my experiences made me who i am. There is so much wrong with me and no one understands. I block feelings because I feel them harder than everyone else. Sounds corny but true.

I’m new to your channel. I can relate to this. I am currently going through a autism assessment because how others perceive me and I’m not the norm. I actually see the way i am as a valuable asset and tool. I use my weirdness to my advantage. I wasn’t diagnosed as a kid because I hid the way I was, and i copied other people’s reactions to fit in. But now as an adult, I’m not afraid and not being normal is a benefit because it allows me to think outside the box I love your channel and never stop making content to educate the weak minded. You are brilliant x

Exactly. I've always felt like empathy is important. And it is to a degree, but compassion is where it's at. Compassion is what saves lives and changes the world for the better. Compassion over empathy. Compassion over everything.

BPD also started off being highly stigmatized but with a brave few coming out and quashing all the myths, it’s helped to put faces to something that was once deemed so horrible by society.

Let me just say I’m a cat rescuer and my biggest pet peeve is when people hold their cats while they don’t want to be held. I smiled when you said “imma let him run away” 🤌 good job cat mama, what a monster u r huh 🤣🖤🖤 much love

You did your makeup beautifully!! You were born beautiful!! Thank you for your channel! I'm learning so much more now because you get to the point, I appreciate you very much!

Thank you for your amazing honesty and your willingness to heal, breaking the stigma ❤ you choose to be good and that means you are good. I have just been diagnosed with BPD recently and know a few others with the same, i have done and said things I’m not proud of, i do feel tremendous guilt and empathy but also compassion and the choice to get help is a good nature more than the others. ❤you have accountability which means you are good. You know there are so called empaths who pretend they are empaths. Empath means feeling the energy of another that it becomes your energy but it doesn’t necessarily mean they do good. Honesty, accountability, truth, growth, healing, compassion, dedication and trust is what is good. I have people in my life with NPD and know a friend with ASPD and they do have vulnerabilities and layers of emotions, compassion and awareness. Thank you so much for this ❤

I always felt bad when people called me out for having compassion to those with NPD or ASD. I genuinely love psychology and disorders, and I love helping people who are battling a mental disorder: no one deserves to go through what you or anyone goes through. It makes me so sick that people bully people just because of a disorder and throw around diagnostic terms which is unethical and psychologically damaging. Much love to you and healing vibes ❤️

I grew up learning to put my emotions in a compartment because if my feelings were shown my family and “friends” would try to Abuse and control me emotionally. When I would use logic instead I was called a cold bitch. You are amazing and fabulous in sharing your life and being vulnerable.

Firstly thank you for putting yourself out there to educate people on this as you said a social path is so misunderstood and not much is out there besides crime stuff. The fact you sort help and choose speaks volumes to me and should d to many others. Of course, many people behind the keyboard think they can type anything. I am learning a lot and I enjoy learning from you. Thank you. I wish you nothing but love, and good health. Thank you again.

Thank you so much for your videos. I’m also diagnosed a sociopath and it really bridges the gap for me mentally to hear others discuss it.

I honestly didn’t even know that sociopaths or narcissists had this much self awareness. Incredible ❤️ Thank you for speaking out and doing this work.

I have BPD and I already feel judged - people aussuming I'm manipulative and a bad person - I can't imagine living with NPD and then talking about it openly. People love to judge. Thank you for shedding light on a topic that is so often misunderstood!

Kanika, I've been binge watching your shorts but haven't actually checked out your channel until now. You're very sweet, articulate, and have actually opened my eyes to the disorder. I believe being self aware is the best thing anyone can do, not only for oneself but for those around us. Getting the help you want and need to even just understand yourself is responsible. There should be a safe space for anyone to express themselves with whatever they struggle with. It's sad that people see people with mental/personality disorders be seen as pariahs of our society. I respect you for sharing your story. You're pretty funny and cool ✨️

I like your channel, Kanika. It helps me accept myself less, and hate myself less for struggling to feel empathy, remorse, guilt etc. I don't know if it's just that emotions are blocked due to trauma but they're still there in some form, or if they genuinely are not present *at all* ... but I do know that this channel makes me feel less alone and hate myself less for who I am. So thanks. :)

I have Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and have very high empathy for certain things (like animals and experiences other people are having that I’ve also experienced so understand), but also low/no empathy for others things (generally things I can’t understand or wrap my head around). But I, like you, still show respect and compassion most of the time. We can choose to be kind no matter your neurotype. Your videos are very informative and I can kind of relate with quite a few things you’ve talked about 💙

I’m someone with BPD who’s suffered from narc abuse & I think everyone has a part in society, we’re all different for a reason, to thrive in different ways. I want to see everyone get better & be their best selves. The stigma leads to people not getting better and the guilt leads to self destruction and destruction around them. End the stigma of all mental illness not just depression & anxiety

love your energy toward this. most people think of us as heartless and cold blooded but this gives a new perspective. i hope this video reaches more than just us. we’re humans too and the same messages go to other(insert word) -paths

It's interesting how people respond to trauma differently. I also had a father who did not allow emotions. I grew up in an emotionally neglectful and abusive family. As a result, I have felt invisible and a burden to others. I'm sensitive and feel emotions intensely, and my parents made me feel bad about this. It's obvious to me that I have a hyperactive autonomic nervous system. Being "too sensitive" has been a negative experience for me and has been treated as weakness. I often operate from shame and a need for validation. I find myself masking my emotions and opinions from many people as a result. I seem to align with traits of internalized BPD. I've noticed that society criticizes both too much empathy and expression of emotion, as well as impaired empathy and expression of emotion. Accountability and wanting to do better is what matters. Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective.

One of my sisters have socipathic traits, and she's actually really nice, she may not feel empathy like me, but that doesn't mean she doesn't care about others well being, she does. She may not be able to put herself in others shoes, but she does care to help you feel better. She does feel compassion.

What you said about moral code is so SPOT ON. I've always wanted to be with someone who does the right thing because of what they believe, not how they feel because feelings are unreliable, illogical. I was never the most empathetic but have become increasingly more so over the past several years. I think all these views fall along a spectrum.

You’ve brought up very valid cohesive points with this video. You’ve given insight those of us who may not otherwise know a person with the personality disorder. Thank you for your transparency and honesty. We ALL can appreciate and relate your statement “I choose to be a good person.” You’re bridging the gap between those living with the stigma, and those who know little about it.

You're very intelligent. You understand things that most people don't. I understand that depression is so debilitating that, if someone has not experienced it for a long period of time and lived, they would not be able to understand what that means. It's like already being dead but your heart didn't know to stop beating. I was married to a narcissist and I was with him for 27 years all together. The thing is, I met him when I was 15 years old. I saw the abuse. I saw that he was not allowed to show emotion in front of his dad. I saw that his mother rejected him all together. They called him fat and fed him fattening foods. They purposely dressed him in ridiculous clothes. I fell in love with him anyway because, he was intelligent and interesting. And, one day I saw his father humiliate him. I had never seen anyone humiliated before. I took his hand and said come with me and I took him to my house. I made a promise to myself that I would never let another person humiliate him again. By then, he was sort of broken. He didn't know who he was and he didn't know why he was valuable. He was mimicking other people in order to have a personality. I still loved him. I truly believed he loved me. Even if he lost this temper. I didn't believe that he didn't care for me until I found out that he had been with women and women and women. And, he even had another family that he used to spend time with when he told me he was at University. I was at home trying to raise two children in a very deep state of clinical depression and he was spending money that our children needed for milk on this other family. I don't have any bad feelings about him. I got divorced from him 16 years ago. It's just one of those things. If I saw him abusing animals or something that I saw with my own eyes I would have stopped it. I had no idea he was abusing one of our children and probably both. They were afraid to tell me because they saw how much I loved him and they were afraid I would believe him over them. It breaks my heart. They are both messed up now. Anyway, I'm finding that people are really good at judging. And, very bad at looking at themselves. I swear, there are nuns that have done worse things than you probably have done in your life. Certainly priests. I'm not trying to put them down because I was raised Catholic. But I also went to private school and I saw the abuse. I did get to have someone in my life who loved me for 14 years and then he died on our kitchen floor on his birthday. Now, I'm back to you no one and nothing. Trying my hardest not to ever let myself slip into a long season of depression. There's no one here to protect me from me. I do have faith and that is what keeps me going. Take care of yourself. No one should say a word about what you look like or what you say. It isn't their business. If you don't have something nice to say to someone, you should just keep it to yourself. Sincerely, Carly

Love your content. Thank you for being awesome. I have BPD, which I know isn’t the same, but as a personality disorder, I know the struggles and the awful things people throw at others for simply existing, and for having a diagnosis that we didn’t choose. The stigma is only that, stigma. It will never define anyone.

My brother is a Narcissist, not diagnosed, because he never cared to seek treatment and when younger my parents didn't force him to go to therapy. I always thought he was a psychopath, but later I learned the difference and it was truly eye opening. As he cares so much how people see him. He was always cruel to me, I grew up with my an enemy at home, and even when we are siblings and I care for his well being, he is not really part of my life, and it's best that way. I can't say he's incapable of having feelings, or loving, that's not true, but he can be a wreaking ball and I choose not to have him in my life. I feel just for the fact that you go to therapy, that you are open with who you are and why you're different makes you honest, and very human. So wish you all the best.

I think it's wonderful that you are bringing awareness, & while a lot of ppl may respond negatively i think it would be best to handle things as you do in these types of videos & separate the truth from the myths. Most ppl have never met a diagnosed sociopath so they don't know how to interact with that personality trait. It's like when a person has anxiety you have to ask what triggers it & how they can best react.

I absolute love that she shared this story! We have a young family member that has anti social behaviors and we would never throw her away like she doesn't matter. Because she does matter to us and she is loved!

Abuse is abuse, and occurs with or without a personality disorder diagnosis.

I just found you, and my life has been harmed greatly by people with various cluster B traits and diagnoses. None of the aforementioned people are in therapy or trying to really work on who they are. They'd rather be who they are and torment who they choose to torment. The key with you and what sets you apart is that you care about who you are and what you do and how it affects others. Good on you. Thank you for sharing and being willing to be honest about your diagnosis and how you choose to operate in the world.

So I've had people tell me I'm an empath and I probably agree. My Mom, a therapist, has informed me of who are the narcissist family members, and I have been impacted. Sociopaths, I don't know if that holds as well. I don't know about Sociopaths as well. I really want to thank you for coming out in the open. You are giving me a new perspective on Sociopaths. I do believe you are sincerely trying to be a good person. One key area you discussed was developing values to conduct your behavior. That really jumped out at me, because for me as an empath that was just naturally intuitive. So it taught me that some people have a much harder time learning values like I have had a hard time learning to have boundaries. I'm still a work in progress there. Again, thank you for your videos. I hope you are encouraged to continue.

I have BPD, , Schizoaffective Disrder, ADHD, and C-PTSD, and this truly resonated with me. I want to buy your book. Thank you for speaking out for Cluster B folks!

I became a both parent orphan since 11. Two of my aunts took custody of me. What your father did to you is what my younger aunt done to me since forever since before my mother died. I'm 33 and she still does not care and puts me down in any way possible and I will not fight back just because traditional family respect. I know that I am a borderline and antisocial person. I know that I am angry and manic and miserable and depressed. I also know that my wounds will NEVER heal. No family. No love. Being mistreated neglected abandoned and raped at 15. NOBODY can judge me because I am a product of society.

As someone who went through narcissistic abuse i used to look down and hate narcissists because of what i went through and just did not think positively when hearing the word “narcissist” but this is very eyeopening and i have respect for those who are aware and try to better themselves and be good people

I found your channel thanks to your shorts popping up in my feed, but this is the video that made me sub to your channel. All of this is very well said and I appreciate your desire to change the narrative on cluster b’s. There is SO much INACCURATE and BIASED information on personality disorders and I’m so glad someone is finally giving ACTUAL information that can help people with personality disorders, their loved ones, and the random people who have no clue of the actual reality for those people.

i appreciate your rawness and i believe everything you’ve said. i’m incredibly proud of you for your self awareness and discipline. it must be so hard battling with something inside of you that doesn’t want you to care

Thanks for returning and updating us and major CONGRATS on your book! You do a great service for us as a community of people just trying extra hard to find our way in life. Thanks!!!

As someone who has faced narcissist abuse from a former partner, I know and understand that not every sociopath or narcissist is abusive. Even now, I can see that some of the abusive behaviors they showed me were most likely because they didn't understand they're own feelings and how to deal with them in a healthy way so they lashed out. I think the stigma is keeping a lot of people from getting help and developing healthier happier lives. You're really brave for making these videos and educating those without aspd or npd❤

so true about "the people with empathy" being the standard, when you actually make a concious choice to be moral while most people are just being led by what ever the flow of the moment is in society

I have a feeling that I was 🤏🏻 from becoming a narcissistic person (not NPD, I can really good and feel others emotions). I got perfect conditions in my childhood but I remember that I always have had that in mind and started to go in the better direction but your videos touch this side of me. I have always dark thoughts by every decision, but I just always choose do the good because I see it gives me better benefits and it makes other people feel good and it makes me feel good with myself. I’m glad that u have also choosen this path, it is really good both for you and the world. And by having this other shady side of me, I just feel I can protect me and the people I care the most about. Thank you for sharing everything! I always ensure as much as I can that my behavior is not hurting someone. It’s so overhelming, but I feel like no one can see this side of me, because I had so many situations that I was misjudged and people can be really, really mean. This comment is the first time I’ve ever told this about myself to other people. Thanks

A lot of people forget that empathy is not the only way a person can care about someone. You may not be able to feel others' emotions, but you can still choose to care about how they feel.

This is so informative. Your humanity lies in your choice to do better and no one can take that away from you.

Thank you for coming forward and making this video.

Thank you for educating others on this ASPD. It is brave of you to come out and share your journey.

i have borderline personality disorder and i'm so happy to have found this channel.

A bunch of Nerotypicals telling someone they don’t have ASPD because of a misconception or a stigma they follow from google is not credible. I love your videos and I have never heard anyone make more sense about this subject and the motives behind aspd and narcissistic behavior.

That was eye opening. Thank you for coming forward and being so open ❤️🙏

As someone who has suffered at the hand of sociopaths throughout my entire life I completely understand the feeling of wanting to just shun all of them out of society one way or another…however….I also understand that we are all just trying to figure things out as we go and I truly applaud you for being so open and honest about it. I hope you will always find the strength and courage to keep on doing what you’re doing! I subscribed to your channel! All the best to you ❤