How I Communicate With My Deaf Boyfriend In the Dark 

I thought the answer was glow in the dark gloves

“Sorry i dont want to talk to you right now” *closes eyes *

Here’s an advantage to being deaf: you can’t hear snoring while trying to sleep :) (Just trying to brighten your day a bit)

I love it when I got to hear his voice a little when he said "like that" when gesturing her 🙂

i love how he helps her when she doesn’t know the sign it’s so cute to me i don’t know why

Ahhh, the RU-vid algorithm has brought me some wholesome content

I absolutely love Ryan's patience with her and her process of still learning sign language.

I'm sure You've thought of this already and I'm obviously late to the show here, but my Military husband is up at unholy hours AND I HATE LIGHT TOO, and so the way we have worked around that is a RED LIGHTBULB! Red light does not travel through your eyelids unless you're right up in there because it has the longest wavelength and, therefore, the least amount of energy in the visible spectrum. SO, we have a light he can turn on that is red and it won't wake me up and if I open my eyes there is no glare or squint-inducing light, but he can move around to get ready for work! Hope that was helpful! :)

The beginning said to turn on captions and I thought to myself “I’m not deaf, I don’t need captions” and then the video started and I was like “Oh. Right. I don’t know sign language”

Patrick: "its too dark i cant hear you"

Makes sense what he's saying about a sense of security. It can be scary to have one sense gone, plus another, esp3cially sleeping. So many things we don't think about as a hearing person.

dude I’m so dumb I didn’t have my subtitles on and I thought that she was gonna translate after he was done so I was just watching him sign for like a solid minute

My older sister's deaf and to this day whenever we have a heated argument with eachother, one of us will try to turn the lights off to end the argument or block the light switch to make sure we get our point across😂😂

Him: walks in on gf making TikTok Her: hits woah Him: wtf is this demon language

“Sorry you have to put down your food” aww 🥺 I just realized how much I want more people like these two in Earth, like they are so generous and humble, it makes me cry seeing such a cute and awesome couple.. keep up the good work guys ! I love your videos already even thought I’m still new :)

3:48 Her: “Something very simple, like I love you-“ Him: 👊👀

Her: we would communicate by touch- Him: *SHOVE*

Me: *doesn't know what he's saying Also me: "I completely agree" Edit: I do know that there's captions

He looks at her so lovingly sometimes, they are just so cute. My heart can't handle it. 🥺🥺❤️❤️

2 questions for Ellen: 1) Is it strange to have arguments in silence? I guess you’re probably used to it by now but I think that must be so strange as a hearing person 2) Does your house feel very silent because Ryan prefers not to us his voice? If so, do you like to have music or some background noise just to make it less silent for you? Really love your videos by the way I really like how you both answer questions so open and honestly thank you both !

Think about this for a moment: what would the world for deaf people look like if we were all taught sign language in school vs learning cursive writing.

Ryan talking about what sleeping in the dark is like for a deaf person was so interesting. Never thought about that before, totally made me see things differently!

When she compliments him his eyes sparkle... I love that.

Three things - 1. You can tell the chemistry is amazing between you two! 2. I found this video by searching for videos to learn sign. 3. This video was published on my birthday. Bonus thing - I think I might try to learn ASL now.

I like how she doesn’t look at his gestures but just stares into his eyes

I think it’s so cool how when she doesn’t know how to sign something she has no problem asking how to do it and if she needs it again she will just simply ask

I’m currently learning ASL. It’s been a real hands-on experience. Got a laugh from my prof when he asked if I was deaf. I said “I’m not deaf, but sometimes I just choose not to listen”

When I did a little bit of research a while back, I discovered there's a phobia of the dark. I cannot remember the name, but I remember reading how most people who have the phobia are deaf. This was actually reassuring for me, because I am deaf and all of my life, I have had this intense fear of the dark. I grew up being taught that only little children are scared of the dark and everyone grows out of it. I felt like something was wrong with me, as here I am an adult, and I still sleep with a light on. But after learning this and growing into my deaf identity, it does not bother me anymore, and I have learned why I am scared of the dark. Like Ryan explained, deaf people rely on their eyes and not their ears. We already don't have one sense. Taking away another is terrifying. I never go anywhere after dark, and always try to get home before the sun goes down. I am the world's heaviest sleeper, as having slept through tornados and a drunk person going through the yard and taking out a tree and fence, yet if the light gets turned off, I wake up immediately and go into a panic when I cannot see anything. I use the salt lamps with the adjustable light setting, so I have a nice low red glow in my room when I sleep. Funny thing is, my dog is scared of the dark too, so we both sleep with a light on.

I had the captions off for a solid 2 minutes and I was just staring at the screen confused as to why I wasn’t understanding it

I wonder... Ellen do people ever assume you're Deaf when you're out with Ryan since you are signing together?

At 3:51 when he said “like that” quietly in his own voice I kinda stopped for a moment and then thought it was so cute

He's young but then I'm 62 so... OMG, my daughter's fiance recommended your channel and I'm loving it but reason he did is he has deaf family members and I'm writing a story about a deaf dairy farmer who marries a hearing woman. He figured I could learn a lot from your channel on how those dynamics work. But right now I'm grinning because I have the hearing wife do that same thing all the time - the I love you sign on his chest/heart. He's ill for a few days in the story and while she's nursing him and he's out of it, she does it too. Guess who taught her that sign? One of the first he teaches her. I'm totally subbed. Love the dog too.

Me: I really want to learn sign language Quarantine: Well now is the time

“I’m sorry you have to put your food down.” That part just made me sad for some reason :(

Her patient is so sweet you can tell she genuinely loves him

Man I have never felt so good at any time before..this channel is on whole another level of wholesomeness.....One day I wish I will be able to see the video without turning the captions on! :D

The saying “Don’t talk with your mouth full!” Can also be “Don’t sign with your hands full!” 😂 Edit: Thanks everyone for the likes. I’ve never commented on a video before. Lol.

I like how she still learns from him and wants to make sure shes doing everything correctly 🥺

I am just in awe of you two! My son was born 40% deaf so I learned basics when I was teaching him language, but Unfortunately I lost him at the age of 5, So I stopped learning. But I always felt the need to learn more… several years later.. while I was in prison.. I had my dad send me an asl book and I learned what I could from that book while I was there. Now that I am in the free world again, and changed my life back to the way it was before I lost my son, I have a great job now, and I just got promoted as a trainer. The 19yr old I am training right now is hard of hearing. And the skills I learned from that book have came in good use for us. I seem to be the only one in the warehouse that knows any asl however I am still a serious beginner but he commended me for my signing and it filled me with so much joy. I just found you two while I was searching to expand my knowledge of asl and watching these vids has helped me so much already I have even signed up with skill share to improve my signing ability. Thank you so so much for existing!

I'm learning ASL and I'm watching your hands so hard it's hilarious. Trying to see how many words I can make out. You guys are a beautiful couple!

i just wanna know how y’all argue like does it get hella heated and serious

I feel like everyone should learn sign language. My aunt is currently teaching my 2 year old cousin sign to the point where she sometimes only responds with sign lol Ps. If you don’t feel like you need to learn it that’s cool! It’s just my opinion thanks

I have been slowly going deaf on my right side and have been forced to learn to talk in different ways so your guys videos have helped me so much, thank you for what you do I love and support you guys so much ❤️

I’ve never enjoyed reading subtitles until today!! I love you guys🤟🏽

"Sorry you had to put down your food" dangg sooo kindddd and perfecttttttttt

I love that she signed, "No barking" to Java over her shoulder (2:03). That made me smile! :)

So I started the journey of getting my Deaf studies minor at the beginning of this year. I am absolutely in love with it and a few days ago I came across your channel. I love your guys videos and I want to say thank you for posting, spreading awareness, and making content with signs and captions. I feel as if I am learning so many more things just from your videos and it really fills me with joy!!

I just found your channel! I’ve always wanted to learn ASL and recently, I had a student ( I teach baking at a community college) who was deaf. She was accompanied by interpreters, but having her in my class made me a better teacher! I had to re-think how I spoke to the class (she could read lips pretty well), but I also had to re-evaluate how I presented my demos to the class. I will never forget that!

This is a beautiful relationship but I can’t imagine how sassy she must get with the sign language when they are arguing Check out my RU-vid channel feel free to subscribe and if you don’t want to then that’s fine 😂 but it would be Massively appreciated

I have a lot of respect for his girlfriend you can tell she loves him a lot and he deserves someone as dedicated and willing as her fr

This made me cry. We all take all we have for granted. So sweet and beautiful that you both communicate with love. Thank you so much for sharing.

You guys are such a blessed couple. You can see the respect you have for each other - a match made in heaven!!

4:04 “And that means she loves me a lot” that was so freaking cute 😭💕

“ sorry you have to put down your food “ omg he’s so cute !!💘😭

When RU-vid finally gives you some good wholesome content 😌😮 -I subscribed

what i really enjoy about your videos is when you guys sign the audience is learning different signs. ive picked up a few signs from watching a few videos and I've learned a lot about the deaf community and how to probably communicate. I really love your videos!

Boyfriend speaks to us thru sign language: *Me not knowing anything* ah yes of course Edit: i shouldve turn on cc earlier

Aw I never thought about how deaf people would be afraid to sleep in the dark but that makes total sense. I love how much I've learned watching your videos! (:

Best intro ever suggesting Closed Captions. Thank you. Incredible video!

He’s young. I love these videos. Very eye opening. Thank you.

He's 100% old old man

I feel like being in a relationship like theirs encourages more engaged communication, like no ones gonna ever be on their phones during a conversation. That’s something every relationship should practice

I don't know how but I love your channel! Your relationship is the best.

I still love watching y’all’s videos when they pop up. So wholesome

This is literary the cutest thing in the whole wide world 💖

I actually really like the little sounds he make when he's talking, they are very asmr-ish

Every single video of yours i am smiling, thank you 🧡

You are not old and a wonderful video. Thank you and wish the best for the both of you.

This is the calmest “story telling” and couple channel I’ve visited. And cutest ngl

I read “deaf” as dead and I was quite confused.

Awwww, I just found this channel and I love it so so much. Yall are the best and keep teaching.

Just discovered you guys, and I think you’re both amazing humans! So kind and compassionate. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’ve already really opened my eyes and inspired me to start learning ASL 🥰much love! 💗

Hey, you are a huge inspiration, i am a sophomore in high school taking ASL, my teacher uses your videos all of the time!

I seriously thing this shows how love is so strong I love how hard she is trying to learn how to talk to him cuz she loves him. The world needs more love and nice people. One love guys

Just found your channel, you guys are so cute together!! I never thought about a lot of these video topics, so thank you for bringing more awareness about the deaf community. New subscriber!

I was bored during quarantine when I stumbled your videos. It seems nice to learn asl so signed up for online classes. It's been less than a week and I just learned the basics but I enjoy it very much. So now I watch your videos to revise the lesson and learning new words.

I know a deaf family who has one hearing daughter and when they go out to eat and sign, people would talk about them being deaf and then their daughter turns and says “hello” and the people start apologizing because they were talking about them does anything like that ever happen to you guys?

1:11 when he says "this morning started off a little rough" she was looking down in the bag the whole time but looked up and agreed how the heck did she know what he said when she didn't even look at his hands!?

You two are so wholesome ❤❤❤ You are both so nice and i get to learn while watching your videos!

I love how y’all compromise and work at the relationship! #GOALS 🤍🤟🏼

It's like therapeutic hearing him making like clicking noises when signing lol Edit: someone said eww what I meant is that it’s like ASMR 😂😂😂

I agree with what someone else said - I feel like I’m sitting and listening to friends tell me something. You guys have great vibes.

Sooo cute.please never leave him ever.i thank youtube for recommending this on my feed.god bless u guys.love u ❤

You guys are lovely! I love the way you look at each other, this is my third video in a row, you’re so calming and you give such a “big love” vibe. Bellissimi ❤️🇮🇹

At least they never have to worry about who’s on aux

*turn on captions* Me: psh I don’t need that I know sign language Also me: *realises I’m not american*

You two are amazing and so sweet. Just wholesome people. God bless

I love these videos so much and I'm SO glad you guys do these videos! I know it says to turn on closed captioning, but I don't... And I don't understand everything he is saying, but it forces me to practice. I am committed to learning sign language because I have a deaf cousin that I see at every family reunion, and she seems like a fun person, but I have never been able to talk to her! Now, she is married to someone who is also deaf... I failed Spanish in high school because I never had anyone to practice with and I thought I was just awful with languages! Fast forward 11yrs; not only do I have 2 deaf cousins, but I communicate with 2 other cousins (hearing) that are fluent, my sister (hearing) learned, and I met my best friend (hearing) who has been fluent in sign language since high school. Turns out I just needed practice buddies.... I am definitely behind cause I'm now in my mid 20's... BUT, my thought process is that if I watch these videos enough without closed captioning, I'll be able to pick up and understand what is being said, even if I haven't learned enough sign language yet to sign a response. :)

I love how she always gives eye contact when he is speaking/signing. I don’t understand how she does it because I’d have to be staring at the hand signs! But it’s really nice watching them communicate

how is it you can understand without even looking at this hands.

I can’t stop watching your videos. I find myself using my hands a lot more when I talk. And I’m actually using sign language. It’s crazy. I love it. You are a wonderful couple. Thank you for the great videos. Stay safe.

When I was in my old school we learned sign language for a school play and we went to this place and it was for deaf people we singing out loud and doing sign language for the deaf people and I cried at the end because it was so cute it was for older people younger people in middle age people I just want to say you guys are such a cute couple I hope you guys stay healthy and positive thank you have a good day!

She said "I never did that" and then he was like "yes in the bathroom" and her face went 😳

In the dark with my boyfriend, for *I love you* we grab each other’s hands and squeeze three times. Or throughout the day, if I’m busy and can’t sign, he’ll squeeze my hip or tap my shoulder three times as an I love you.

Ryan: I'm old Us: you're a handsome and adorable man 😂❤

i have been blessed when he was talking about hearing in the dark he makes the mouth sound and i heard the park quietist sound that sounded like a word i am now blessed 😇

His little giggles were precious aww.

Ryan is interesting. He IS an old soul and yet a kid at the same time

I turned on captions for the first time today, idk y I got emotional 😭 😭🥰love you guys

I just found this channel today and you guys are so wholesome.. I know some basic ASL but I'm a bit rusty as I haven't used sign in years. This makes me want to brush back up on sign so I am better prepared. Thank you both for this wholesome educational fun