My Deaf Boyfriend: Why He Doesn’t Use His Voice 

I'm also going to school for Speech Language Pathology. Getting ready to apply for grad school . There's so much to learn, but so fascinating. Good luck in your courses!

🙌😄👍🏻 you get it!

Stephanie S thanks! you too!!

Try teaching English to non-native speakers and you'll get the same effect! I've come to realize that English is such a stupid language and prefer speaking Japanese all day if I could. :D

@@JennyA I took 2 years of Spanish in high school but I guess being in school, I didn't really care about learning another language. I started studying Japanese a few years later in college on my own and I also realized how stupid English is. It must be so confusing for a non-native English speaker to learn English.

Twenty Paphonies I SEE YOU EVERYWHERE WTF

found the clikkie :P ||-//

agreed

ayyyy ||-//

I dated a deaf guy for 2 years and learned sign language quite easy. When you are interested in someone like that and that's all you have it surprisingly makes it so much easier. Also we used alot of slang sign language (that's what we called it) at first and wrote things if we couldn't understand. Ugh watching these videos always reminds me of that time and makes me miss him a little. He was my first love.

I am engaged. And I am learning arabic because of my fiance. He really appreciates it and I can really say that I love talking Arabic! :D (UPDATE: We are married now!!)💍❤

@@lizzyc8911 Aww! So cute, thank you so so much! 😍🙈

Kristin Ha wishing the both of you the best ❤️

@@gabrield.h3785 Thank you so much. 😊

Kristin Ha that’s so cute! I speak Arabic and I can definitely say it’s not an easy language so the fact that you’re learning it or even figuring out some vocabulary is so sweet

My most relaxing times are when I have a deaf person doing the service. They are so respectful.

I know some ASL but I'm better at signing than translating what is being signed. His quiet vocalizations and mouthing the words definitely helps me understand him.

Same here ✌🏻

Agreed

Typical Life at my school I’m currently learning sign language and we never learned cursive so I taught myself haha

Maggie Pummill cool

that would make so much more sense because cursive is just fancy and sign language is actually useful

Olivia_47 not disagreeing on learning sign language in school but cursive is actually really important. You need it to write checks, buy certain things, basically it’s more important than it seems. Most schools don’t implement cursive anyway though, but it would be cool if they taught both (but more sign language).

I'd love that! i've always wanted to learn sign language to communicate to the deaf.

Just casually flexing that he can talk with his mouth full just as well as he can with his mouth empty. not even ventrilloquisting.

Mexicans

@@catphat7912 What??

Cat Phat que carajos!?

@@reneflores5976 omg😂😂

I was just thinking this! Honestly it’s so soothing.

And also, how come his mouth knows how the words should be speaked, its like he is speaking but without voice, im sorry i dunno much about deaf persons and this is the frist tym i watched them, they are so perfect.

Poggo doggo. I don’t know much either but I’m pretty sure deaf people can say words fine they just don’t want to talk because it’s harder without hearing yourself say the words so it’s just easy to do sign language and sound out the word maybe it helps them out 🤷🏼‍♀️

When i first watching their video which was the mcdonalds one i keep hearing that clicking sound amd mistook it as car signal sound🙂 gosh I'm so stupid

@@poggodoggo5838 basically people who were born deaf or lost hearing very early in life, without speech therapy, can't talk at all. Since majority of them can read lips just a little bit, they know how the mouth movement for that specific word. However, that's it. They don't know how it sounds like, so majority of the time they just voice the word out and without hearing themselves, makes it even harder to speak or even know if you're actually speaking.

that's how you need to do it :) I'm a sign language interpreting major and honestly that's kinda what you have to do to unterstand anyone who's signing because in a lot of sign languages the signer will not only sign but also mouth the word for the sign if there is one, so it really is just necessary to fully understand what's being signed! also sometimes one sign might be used for different words that mean completely different things so mouthing is really helpful and necessary for that too!

burrheadjr she can rewatch the camera and edit it out but maybe she doesn’t

I noticed that too, so amazing!

Laura J I want to become a sign language interpreter. Do you mind if we exchange emails so I can ask you questions ?

@@michaylagallacher9264 you might want to ask someone studying ASL if you're from the US :) I'm German so I'm studying German Sign Language Interpreting and the courses really do differ from country to country, so unless you're also German I'm afraid I won't be of much help

Love deaf jokes. I know a couple :0 but I'd have to show it order to tell it in the funniest way. :3

r00d.

Yeah I feel like deaf jokes are different from regular ones cause most regular jokes rely on the way you say it

@@noahparker50 :3 while some rely on the way you show it, and it's really funny. XD I could show some jokes on my channel... (A million thoughts mostly on animation.)

@Alvin Junior I honestly don't know.

Fact: chinese isn’t actually that hard (Yes I can speak Chinese)

@@mukbanglover8345 same I’m Chinese so I can speak chinese. Most of my friends say chinese is easy and English is hard but for me it’s the opposite. Probably because I don’t bother revising my Chinese that’s why I find it hard. Instead I’m learning Japanese right now and I think Japanese is a lot easier than Korean because I learnt Korean faster

@@joshi7434 how did you learn those languages?

@@rockandfashion7207 my school offered third languages where I chose Japanese. And because everyone in my country MUST learn a second language in school and because I’m Chinese I will learn Chinese as my mother tongue language. and outside of school I learnt Korean at the same time when I was learning Japanese. Because I know Chinese, Korean and Japanese were related to Chinese and I could learn it much quicker. I started learning French a few years after I’ve finished learning Korean and Japanese and malay I learnt it at a very young age from my grandparents

I also know Chinese and I agree on it not being that hard

I died there too because the way he did it

Yes, I also believe that, but I am curious why you think so though. I think that a deaf person more or less relies on self confidence and what he or she been taught. For a hearing person, you only need to listen and see the signs/gestures and while you are practising you will be used to it. Am I clear enough? (Sorry if I wrote bad. I am not a native English speaker. English is my second language). By the way, good damn answer there. Most of the people might consider the opposite, I mean hearing people. I am hearing but I am trying to imagine how it is to be deaf sometimes. Just to get a perspective.

@@eliasnjetski1146 Hearing people often expect the Deaf to accommodate them, instead of the other way around. Use this for perspective. If you were born blind and I asked you to describe that tree for me without touching it, would you be able to? Asking a person born deaf to make a sound with their mouth when they never heard a sound before or even if they weren't born deaf, they haven't heard a sound in a long time and possibly can't even image it is a very difficult task. It's not even in the same orbit as learning a different language.

It is harder to learn to speak without hearing than it is to learn sign language. My boyfriend told me the other day he thought he heard a man in the house but it was me talking (LOL) and I said babe I have a super girly voice... and he said “I’ve never heard a woman’s voice before so I don’t really know” like they depend fully on vibrations, mastering reading lips etc. they have to learn so many different things when a hearing person only has to learn one new language.

@@FredDarnell I agree with you! You made a good point there! I will keep it in my mind. Good night, very late here. ☺️ You are clever!

@@kaceface3277 Yes indeed. Thank you for sharing that. ☺️

she has too look at him when he’s doing ASL bc he doesn’t want too use his voice so she looks at him too see what he is saying in ASL. That’s how they communicate

@@savageoop1382 yeah I think he knows that but just look at the way she looks at him. You can tell in her eyes and nice smile she enjoys his company and loves him for who is is

She looks like she’s saying UGH in her mind

@@tannerwharam6578 thanks for replying for me

How do u know how much she love him ?

It's not words it's like whispering sounds.

it’s called morphemes

Part of some signs are blowing air or popping of the lips.

@@krynmcpromotions4025 i see the sense now.

@@misonly5496 same thing genius

Thank you for that! I'm new here and was just like "I have no idea what he's saying "

bruh yaa same :'D thank god for comment section

Genius comment 😂

🤣🤣

Lmao same

Liesl Tunnah Ikr! It’s polar opposite to all other youtubers out there who are screaming on top of aggressively loud background music))

@Deafprincess Deafprincess if you're on a mobile device: pause the video, click on the three dots in a vertical line located in the top right corner, click on the option titled "captions", and choose the language that you need. If you're on a desktop the three dots are located in the bottom left corner I believe. Hope this helped.

How do you turn them on. I switched on my settings and still don't see the words on the screen.

@Ari Diane thanks

No worries y'all. Glad I could help 🤍

how!

Interesting and cool

It is actually a handy skill if you are deaf

Same

*Me too, I thought everyone could?... apparently not*

They pretend they can't understand the cop to get out of a ticket lol

Most likely have a disability card. Didn't even know deaf people were allowed to drive seeing as they wouldn't be able to hear other vehicles coming, seems pretty dangerous for other drivers.

Sorry I only say that because it's illegal to drive with headphones on because it impairs your hearing so that's why lol not to sound like a dick

Sea Wagon Driving w/ headphones isn’t illegal everywhere.

@@jademccall4195 Seems like most states allow it as long as 1 ear isn't covered but a few don't allow it at all, I mean he seems like a pretty responsible person so I can see why they'd allow him to drive.

Cheyenne Andrews its the rain

Muffinvolador I dunno

Muffinvolador It really isn’t, it’s just because of how he moves his mouth to mime the words. It’s in pretty much every video so it isn’t just the rain

It's like asmr to me

Eddie Rivera bro for real! 👌🏽😂

That’s normal for ASL - and as far as I know, any sign language (tho there are probably some exceptions - tactile, obviously). You focus on the face (which conveys NMM/grammatical information) and rely on your peripheral vision for the rest

@Axel Martinez ?

@Axel Martinez not that part, I think u meant to say “I like how she actually learned sign language just for him”

@@crisramirez6504 she doesnt talk much when she communicates with him with signs is what he meant, so shes learned to.. in a way, be deaf, but not actually, if that makes sense, and she did it because she loved him that much, she was willing to change her whole life style for him and I just think thats so wholesome

Actually in deaf culture you aren't supposed to be looking at the signers hands. Im in my last course in university and I am still having trouble with this! He really is a clear and intentional signer though so it's pretty easy to follow along! I love watching their videos to help me learn new signs and keep up practice in watching people sign too 😀 this couple is amazing! ❤ i love their videos! Oh let me add that the reason why you're supposed to pay attention to the face more so than the hands is because signing is a lot deeper than just signs with your hands. Facial expressions are a big if not bigger representation of what the person signing is trying to say! Sorry just wanted to clarify lol

I was thinking there is the camera's screen while recording on front that kinda show her what is he signing

In my Swedish Sign Language classes I've learned that the mouth helps A LOT to show what they're saying, it's not just the hands... I usually tend to look at the mouth, because I can still see the movement of the hands as well as facial expressions.. By just looking at the hands you miss out on a lot!

I was just going to chalk it up to the simple fact that she knows the story already. He isn't explaining it to her, he's explaining it to us, so i would assume, especially considering how much of an impact this seems to have had on his life, that he would have told her this story already.

Well, they’ve been together for quite some time so they’ve developed a sort of telepathy. They learned how to communicate so effectively to the point where they don’t even need to rely on the hand gestures as much in order to understand. And Ryan also said that he does speak at home on occasion, but the majority of the time he doesn’t need to, because Ellen will understand regardless.

Agreed

I can! His voice how me is medium pitched

No, I do that too. I see his mouth movements. It appears that he is saying those words but just without his voice. Yeah I can hear him speak. My mind has automatically given him the most suitable voice ever.

That happens to me too...a similar thing happens when I read comics of a show or movie franchise and the words simply morph into voices . Also while I watch a subbed series like in anime, my brain sort of morphes the Japanese into english while I'm skimming through the subtitles.

@@sumedhasharma1984 same!

Hi yes I know what you mean. I'm hearing impaired can only hear very loud sounds if up close to my ears and I do believe my brain makes voices for people.

Yes they can talk while eating. So cool.

This is LITERALLY one of the best parts about learning sign. I can talk with my friends while eating without stopping.

yes it is lol

😂 i mean, why not just be honest while we're here?

veevee306 I just found this channel and agree.

It is like asmr

Me too

Thing One Go How about you go be insulting somewhere else. Nobody asked for your attitude.

Hahaha truuuue

But imagine being deaf, I talk so much and I like to have long conversations. It would be so hard to do that because it takes so long to sign it seems

Fuck u

It seems a lot because it takes a lot of movement to sign compared to just spitting words plus she has to wait for him to finish as opposed to a normal conversation ppl can easily interrupt eachother...idk maybe consider these things before trying to crack a joke?

thanks!!!

Rima Akter Lmaoo wow thank you

I was literally sitting here like “???” Thanks for that!

What story? We all know,For asian wahmen nothing matters, as long as it's white man

Rima Akter A better understanding? I'd say an understanding at all, I was so dumb just sitting there without captions for a bit

Labroidas sa lamp he does.

dont say "normal" human. its rude. :}

@@tabithalee6926 it's not rude. She meant average, dont be so negative .

MaryFaith Mobley exactly

@@tabithalee6926 Don't say "Human" . Its rude :}

Daniel S 💀💀💀

Xd

Talent

😂😂that’s not funny 😂 😂

@@lulucharaye it kinda is doe

lake 1862 you can hear him use it when he told her that the brownie is all his. He didn’t use his voice too much, just very faintly.

@@andrewestes7593 yeah. I guess.

Also laughed a little when his phone was dead

@@goldeng3541 your right.

lake 1862 probably like a chad

Kaila Smith that’s amazing!

hahaha!

You should try reading russian words with him they are extremely difficult even in phonetic form instead of cylliric but i think it could be fun for you two

Adorable lol

Jake Hoot haha we have trouble with American words- I can’t Imagine if we tried Russian words! But maybe we’ll see. He loves talking and being on camera, I keep telling him to start a RU-vid channel! He’s so funny and his dream is to be a comedian. He’s the best honestly. Our lives are insane lol

Kace face pleeeaase make a channel u guys sound awesome

Jesus Morales it does say it at the start of the video , at 0:49 but Oki ^^ (Not trying to be rude )

I thought it was only me 😭😭

How did you not see that I-

*Lol*

Xx Moshi xX yeah it does, but I didn’t read that as well and the 3rd video I watched of them I saw the intro video and then i turned on captions 😂🤣😉 (also not trying to be rude)

Omg i missed that! It was so cute

I know right?? I loved it so much’

Truth_is_the _new_hate precisely 😁👌

Do you think a good representation of a deaf person speaking would be; instead of plugging your ears to make no sound, make a lot of it so you can't hear yourself talk? Like a really loud drone? I think that might accurately simulate what it would be like.

Azure Kuzma WHAT

Azure Kuzma you think a good representation of a deaf person is making a loud sound so you can’t hear

My parents are deaf and what you just said was amazing. You dont need to read this if you want to My dads story: He was born and he could hear but then he got something in his brain that maked him deaf *i dont know the fever in english, i am Dutch* that happenend when my dad was 2 months My moms story: She was born with a great hear but she became deaf cause she got a infection that went wrong. As a baby you get infections in the netherlands against, Rode Hond, Kanker (cancer) and more but my mom had a cold so she got deaf. She was 4 months. They both can hear, my mom better than my dad. My mom was send to a school with hearing people, she got bullied and it was hard for her but she can speak very good!! My dad was sent to a school where they need to stay the whole week. In the weekend they could go home. They only used sign language so it was harder for my dad to hear but he got to a therapist. He can speak but he speaks very loud and sometimes he says words wrong but thats okay. I can hear good, and i can speak sign language Also my parents met each other in a deaf cafe. A cafe for deaf people. Well that was all

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, Clara, especially when being 14, which as I remember well, is hard as it is. I'm not deaf and I don't know sign language, but I think that you should learn ASL, or PSE, or SEE, or all of them. Here's a link to a youtube channel of a young hearing girl who learned sign language on the internet. She primarily signs in PSE but she seems to have some knowledge of the other languages as well: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-rp4-m8Ih6QQ.html And here's a list of the top 5 deaf universities in the US ( I'd heard of Gallaudet in Washington D.C.- which is very famous) but here are some others: www.healthyhearing.com/report/52682-Top-universities-for-deaf-students And finally, about 7 years ago, I got super into the series "Switched at Birth" which deals with hearing impaired and deaf kids and the hearing world. There's a lot of signing and at least one episode is completely in ASL with no speaking. I think Netflix has the series, and I think you can watch the first season for free here on Freeform: freeform.go.com/shows/switched-at-birth/episodes/season-5 And one more thing, I can only imagine how frustrating and emotionally upsetting it is to not be able to do things you used to do in the same way you used to do them, but if you love the violin, take out your hearing aids so they don't ring, and just play- for the feeling of it; for yourself, and who cares if it's not exactly in tune? Do what makes you happy and feel sane. Also, since you are an artist, perhaps this is a time you can explore other creative outlets such as the visual arts... Just a thought. I'm wishing you luck, Clara, and if I were you I'd throw myself into exploring deaf culture, I'd get excited about immersing myself in a whole new world and with it new possibilities, and I'd get excited by the heightening of your other senses, which people say happens when you don't have or lose one of them. I'm sending you much, much love and well wishes for your brand new adventure.

So sorry that you have to go through this when you are 14. I can even imagine how hard it might be. Though if you look at the bright side, technology is advancing and some crazy smart person in this world might find a way to cure deafness and make ppl hear again or for some ppl make them hear for the first time.

That honestly sounds horrible. Like I could never imagine giving up violin and music. It really sucks that this happened to you but I hope maybe slowly learning ASL will help.

If you ever lose your hearing you could get a cochlear implant and there are other ways. Since you weren’t born deaf you could be a good candidate. I’m sorry for what you’re going through and I wish all the best to you. Sending you love 💕

@@banixoidle U are a day of sunshine

Good luck Abdul!

Oddly that was also the first video I saw

same

Same here with watching the first video and wanting to learn ASL best of luck to us all 👍

Me too. I am hearing person but I geusture a lot and don't know why. I drive school bus and geusture with my deaf and autistic students. I want to learn ASL better. I took a Summer class years ago and we learned by learning songs 😁.

Yo i didnt even realize he laughed lol

That was really nc to hear though...

@@Kay-kd4hy I think the person is trying to say that they didn't realise he laughed not that he didn't realise he could laugh

I him saying app but not him laughing. It was cute

Stivin (haben girma) she just graduated from Harvard law school . deaf-blind . Unbelievable

Probably because back in the day there was the "deaf and dumb" or "mute" descriptions that were assigned to deaf people. They were seen as stupid for some reason even though the loss of hearing has nothing to do with your logical brain though lol

QueenOfRed look her up ! Have a good weekend !

@@hagosmtewolde7438 ok thanks!

Black panthaa

7:16

Jennyy :D thank u :)

right!

What is uwu

Alvin Junior chill tf out he was juss asking

aray

reminds me of asmr 💕

Listening doesn’t mean hearing, they are very different things

Itsyahboi_ali that movie made me cry 😭 its so sad

@@SuggestAUsernameForMe same

@@SuggestAUsernameForMe no, don't do that to me. My feelings qwq

• шаfflеZ • omg It did how the guy was so mean and he turned so nice and it was emotional I cried

Official_Bismah Tbh his friends influenced him and he got all the blame 😔

I appreciate how you appreciate this! hahah!

Danielle Winn yet people go and take French when there is more people that speak Spanish. So it’s not about not having the option sometimes people don’t have the interest to communicate with the rest.

I wish my school still did French but there weren’t enough people willing to take it, which is disappointing because I really wanted to learn French before I went to Paris

My school only has Latin. ASL is an after school club that I do not have tile for

And the way they teach the languages they don’t take it seriously compared to other countries (idk if you’re from the US but that’s how it is here) but I agree there needs to be other languages represented

my school only offers spanish which is the only other language i know :/ so i’m taking a second year of spanish speaker but instead i’m learning asl online during the class

i'm sooo lucky to have her 😍

For a min I thought u ment Ellen Ellen I was like where ?! Lol then It clicked her name is ellen

She so pretty

She looks like Pocahontas

They’re a beautiful couple 💕

*God 💕

NYC Entrepreneur thats because shes stunning😍

she be glowing for real

she's crazy fast at fingerspelling now! i taught her well 😁

@J B oh that's an awesome idea, thank you so much!!

@@SignDuoChannel haha she prob practiced herself too haha

How do I turn the captions on? Because I can't understand anything he's saying

Sandy Fritz if you are on mobile you press the 3 dots at the top right and you should see captions.

im glad its educational while entertaining! :D

I'm hard of hearing and had to get hearing aids because I finally got tired of telling people to speak up. Now I can just turn up the aids when I need to. I would like to start learning ASL and become a part of the deaf community, because it seems they know how to communicate with each other. It will be nice to be around people who can speak to my face and actually interact with me.

If you want to learn sign language there’s also a free website called ASL university. If you search for it, it’s great and easy to understand. You can learn the basics quickly if you put in the work! That’s how I’m learning!

Kamil S You obviously do not understand what I mean by the comment and are just looking for a negative reaction. Just because you feel upset doesn’t mean that you have to take it out on people like me

@@ayeeitsmaddie759 ignore this fool. I totally understood what you meant and I'm not deaf.

As a hearing person who doesn't know ASL (or any sign language, even the one used in my country 'cause I'm not American), I can even "visualize" the intonation by his signing. This is very interesting, how even without sound we can understand the emphasis in a sonorous-visual way (?)

@Kamil S Yes very much a bullshit reply of yours in many peoples opinion.

I had a gf that her sister has autism, so she needed to learn to sign. I have been exposed to this off and on since but mostly during 3rd grade. So when she would not sign properly I would ask her to stop slurring or mumbling as that is how I learned to talk to them. Even though there are ways to say it that for signing, I find it easier to refer to it as talking and they understand what you mean.

Exactly. I learned fluent Greek for my ex-husband and now that we've been divorced over 16 years, I've forgotten so much of it because I don't speak it every day. In high school there was an exchange student from France who was actually forgetting words in her native language because she was speaking English every day.

Cassandra Miller exactly. I speak mandarin as my 1st language, a Chinese dialect as the 2nd, then English as the 3rd. Since I moved to US for college, my Chinese is only used for casual talking while English is used in professional occasions. Nobody talks the dialect to me except my mom and we talk once every 2 weeks. Now I can’t do anything professional or interview in Chinese - Idk the words and how to describe my work. My 1st and 2nd languages are native languages but English is learned in school after 7 yrs old.

Shengyu Yao I’m sorry you’ve lost your dialect to that degree. Languages need to be preserved as English is moving across the world replacing them. I hope you will make an effort to find someone near you who speaks both of the dialects you speak and become friends to practice with. My step-mother is Chinese, and when her family came to the US it was very important for them to “assimilate” and so she speaks no Chinese at all & that makes me so sad. The West just has no guilt about erasing people’s heritage & it’s awful.

Cassandra Miller yeah it was difficult for your stepmom when she moved there. The discrimination to Asian people was way worse than today (still pretty bad today). I know many parents only allowed English at home so their kids could get the “authentic accent” aka white people accent. Plus Chinese is way more difficult to learn than other asian languages like Korean. Fortunately many of my Chinese Americans friends are trying to get their language back or at least the culture back.

@@JY0520IC1 I'm sure it was. She's in her 70s now and I'm actually not sure if she was brought here as a child or if she was born here. (She doesn't talk about it much) She and her siblings may have been born here because they all have very American names. Regardless, the world was a very different place for all immigrants, but especially Asian immigrants back then. It definitely has gotten better, and good people are working to make it even better every day, but it's not anywhere near where it should be. Sadly, the work to stamp out hate is never done.