How I Handle Two Year Old Toddler Tantrums | Discipline and Behavior Management 

This is really dangerous. Shutting down a child’s emotions is not how to deal with very small human beings. How would you like it if you were upset - yes adults still get upset - and someone grabbed you told you to stop and put you away in other room. You would feel so abandoned and shamed, even violated. What your daughter is feeling is totally normal. Honour her feelings, giver her boundaries if she tries to hit or hurt or throw, and BE THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEED YOU MOST. The tantrum or big feelings will subside when she’s got the emotions out. Shutting down children when they cry, which is normal , leads to personality disorders such as narcissism and borderline disorders. Please have a look at Janet Landsbury or Mama Mannon or Maggie Dent or Gabor Mate who are education and leading the way in respectful and gentle parenting, which has strong boundaries and allows the children to feel their feelings. Gentle and respectful parenting without timeouts (that don’t work other than to scare a child into submitting to a much bigger and powerful person) are proving to produce children who when grown have the best and closest relationships with their parents. This style of shutting down and timeouts drives your child away from from and teaches her that she cannot trust you to be there when she has problems or big emotions. Do you think a teenager will want to go to a parent for comfort and advice if they were raised in an environment where they were shut down and shut away when having normal emotions.

This is a great video! As an educator it’s best to pick your battles with toddlers.These are some Suggestions that may also help. You could have made this experience into a fun activity with water (sensory explore with water and bubbles). Getting on her eye level is a great idea because it helps with communication and great social skills. Time out is a old school Language.. using words transitioning or redirecting helps better. It’s always better to redirect the children with a Activity such as puzzle or a short book to read. Make sure when the transition time is up you have a conversation with you children on why they needed to walk a way to a doing activity and let them tell you that they are ready to come back with everyone else. No timer ! Great video Mom keep up the good work

Thank you for this GREAT video.. my husband and I watched it several times and now we are doing the same method with our 2 years old son and it’s works .. I’m so glad I found you because it helped us a lot.

Kids at this age need to realise what they feel and why. They need mommy’s attention and love. And explanation what is happening to them now. Not just blocking their feeling by : stop or I will leave . “If I am not okay, mommy will leave” - that will teach a kid that she needs to please everyone. Finally she can loose herself not knowing what she wants, what she feels, what she likes and not. Only - what people expect her to do

I think your technique is excellent for an unprovoked tantrum or a kid just being a brat... But she just wanted to try doing something independently .. why wasnt she allowed to try?

So you're going to provoke a tantrum out of an extremely bright 2 yo and then make her sit in timeout to think about the emotion that you manipulated out of her to create a video? 🥴 this girl was literally communicating with you that she wanted to do it by herself and you said "all done?" & she said "no" and you completely ignored her, didn't even let her rinse her hands by herself for like half a second. Plus she saw the camera recording her the whole time which she seemed confused about and hurt by. This girl is only 2 yo, she needs help identifying her emotions, not telling her "oh don't stomp your foot" Instead, it's better to say: "you seem mad, come sit on my lap and let's talk about what you're feeling" This whole video was really done the wrong way, just the sheer fact that you have a camera in her face the whole time is cruel.

Why not just let her wash her hands after you have washed them correctly ? It’s prevents the entire tantrum and she also is learning how to wash them properly to no longer need your assistance? Isnt that the goal to let them be independent individuals in the future? A time out for her just wanting to wash her hands by herself ? Seems a bit much 🙄

I am impressed 🎉😊 she is just a well paid actress

Thank you for this, my almost 2 year old is just starting this and the way you approach tantrums is something I think I can do, as well as feel good implementing. Congratulations on Hudson as well ❤️

For the first video: Your behavior towards her is super controlling. Let her wash her hands on her own, or else how would she learn? Washing hands should be a possible task for her age with a little bit of practice. Also, you can't just place her in time-out for every negative emotion she has. Time-out is not for emotions. If she had started throwing throwing things or hitting her sibling, that's when you should use time-out. A child that little needs your comfort. Physical and emotional comfort. She's too little to regulate all by herself. She can't do it without you and she's scared and lonely. By not validating her emotions, you're teaching her to just suppress them to avoid punishment. This will most likely lead to trouble when dealing with emotions when she becomes a teen, the most apparent will be uncontrollable anger issues. She's also gonna have trust issues because you're extremely untrustworthy. The second video was okay.

I want you as a mom😭🥺

That’s correct, some times toddlers have tantrums when they don’t get there way all the time!

Great video, how would you get them to sit down initially?- i feel like my daughter is in such a state that she won’t sit but instead she throws herself around. What’s the best method to get her sitting for time out? X

Filming your toddler having a difficult moment & crying is crazy. Putting it on the internet for literally everybody & anybody to see is even crazier. She’s a human. What if someone filmed you without your consent in this emotional state & then posted it for the world to see whether you wanted it or not? Shameful. Had to stop 3 minutes in because I’m not here to privately view a little girl in a vulnerable state. Just wanted tantrums tips. Very weird of you.

She's so adorable!

Hi! thank you SO MUCH i really need this video cuz i'm the big sister and my mom and dad is never around so i gotta take care of my 2 year old little sister and my 7 year old lilttle sister thanks again!

I don’t agree with your method from the beginning the child was humiliated. That’s why she displayed the temper tantrum because there’s no other way she can communicate humiliation by a parent and then you continue to humiliate her by putting her in time out.

Time outs don’t work. No child in a timeout is thinking about what they have done wrong. Their brains are not developed enough or even wires to do that. They are simply thinking how unfair it is and how mean their parent is. Making her hold her hands is like torture to a young child. Toddlers flail, wale and move about CONSTANTLY. You are isolating her quite violently my making her sit and hold her own hands. My god, imagine if someone told you to do that when you were upset. Ask her if she wants a hug. Or just sit and wait and tell her you understand she’s upset but you can’t let her do a,b,c… Wait for her to get it all out and when she has she will come in for a hug on her own. CONNECT FIRST whenever a child is upset, then go from there. If you disconnect from her when she needs you the most, then punish her for being totally normal, you are headed down a really dangerous path. What you can do is just sit with her a minute. Let her express, ask her to take a few breaths with you if she can, without forcing it, see if you can make her laugh to move her on to something else but not to push her feelings away.

Ava you are so cute dont cry

What do you do if you have a 2 year old that isn’t quite talking yet and throws himself all over the place and screaming and cried the more you try to talk to them? My son’s tantrums have just been getting worse and worse and I am at a loss

My Google heard you and set a timer for 2 minutes too.

she is so adorable:)

I’d love to have these tantrums lol my 2 year old is off the charts wild. Bangs her head against the walls, screams so loud your ears will ring afterwards. Usually it’s over absolutely nothing. Your daughter is very smart for her age. Her vocabulary is very good. I am going to try some of these methods. Also, my daughter does not have this sort of vocabulary, I wonder if she’d even be able to understand.

a problem here is the baby girl knows she is being filmed, daddy is standing there with a camera and she doesn't understand why he doesn't say anything nor defend her when she is just trying to be independant and do things herself. if i was upset and somebody had a camera in my face, i would get more upset. she is feeling frustration and shame, and doesn't understand why now that she wants to be independent she can't, when that is what is usually asked of her. She didn't do anything wrong. This seems more like controlling behavior from the mother.

This is the right education for children, congratulations to you 😘😘😘👍🏻

I don't agree with the phrasing: are you ready to be nice...

So you put the little human in timeout for experiencing her emotions and making her apologize about experiencing that "bad" emotion.

can always help make sure her hands washed properly then she can do it herself for a min then dry? mum first then daughter?

lol you have not experienced tantrums =)) also timeout doesn't teach dealing with emotions

I dont agree with this method. And she is not processing her emotions on her own, in general, let alone in "time out" . Also, I really dont like you using the words "are you ready to be nice?". I commend the effort and respect your way of parenting if you find it fit,but I dont agree with you on this one.

NICE!!!

Thank you! :) xxx

When I was new to your channal!

The baby is just 2. How can she understand all this ? This conditioning is cruel.

My 2 year old daughter just started throwing tantrums when time to put her down for a nap. Have you ever experienced this before or do you think I should use this same approach?

This is excellent information. I have a 18 month old daughter. Do you relay the same info to babysitters (grandparents) when we are not with her. Just be consistent right? Thanks in advance for posting!

My daughter isn’t two just yet but she throws herself back when being sat down during a tantrum any tips on that?

I seen that channel

How do you do this with a almost two year old toddler?

Why can’t they cry ?

Haha, why are people so strict on little children? Just because you can't go on with your selfish life?

My baby is 2 years old and she doesnt melt down even after an hour.. she just stay at floor and bang her head and cry her heart out… what to do mam … plz help

My 23 month old just throws himself on the floor and cries, before I even know what the issue is. Not sure this will help yet as I'm not sure how much he would understand or be able to listen to. Any other tips that may be helpful? I know you said your daughter is two, but has she recently turned two or is she more like two and a half or older? Thanks. I don't know where to begin 🙁

Dose spanking work or no time outs dont work

She is so cute

I get spankings for discipline i just got spanked yesterday

My 2 children never had a tantrum. The best thing to do is know how to distract your child.

This is not even a tantrum, it's a fair upset of not being able to show independence. I am sorry, I normally agree with a lot of the videos, but for me this is a bit abusive. Also, why should she appologize, no offence, I think you as am adult and a mum could even appologize for not letting her try for herself, be independent and validating her need - "all done?" "No." (no, mum I told you I want to try). I feel like you have improved your empathy and mum skills, which is normal, over the time, as I find the newer videos more validating and emotionally empathetic.