How I Manage Loneliness Living in Toronto | Moving Across Canadian Provinces

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Given the recent news on the rise in loneliness in Toronto, I wanted to create a video discussing the hurdles I encountered with loneliness-from my move to Toronto at 18 to my current solo living and rent responsibilities. While I'm fortunate to now have a great support system now, that wasn't always the case. I get into the strategies I used to navigate solitary days, how I naturally formed connections through activities I genuinely enjoyed, and my initial experience trying therapy.
At the end, I touch on the ongoing challenge of dealing with loneliness, stressing that even with people around, one can still feel lonely-and that's perfectly fine. It's crucial to understand that what works for me may not be a universal solution.
I'll see you all in the next one,
-Frank
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🕒 TIMELINE
0:00 INTRO
1:23 STAYING IN TOUCH WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS
3:01 DO ACTIVITIES - NOT FORCING RELATIONSHIPS
4:48 TRYING THERAPY
6:48 CONCLUSION
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@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Sort of nervous posting this one... hope u guys enjoy ✌

@tns-rox 7 месяцев назад

No need to be nervous. You're a great, empathetic and motivational speaker, and you have the ability to connect with people on an emotional level with your open and honest sharing of your own personal perspective and experience. I'd welcome more videos designed to help people through these challenging times. 👍

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

@@tns-roxAppreciate the kind words - will consider creating more vids like this in the future

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

Dude its true

@Sc00terNut 7 месяцев назад

The older I get, the more I value solitude. I have very few friends nowadays, but this is how I like it. I no longer have the energy to deal with so many people.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Agreed and I feel that's how it naturally flows as you get older.

@niccotancredi3985 4 месяца назад

Born & raised in Toronto...I realized as an adult, that I didn't, have anyone outside of my Mom, that I could ask for much help from. Even after years of having ok longer-term friends, most of them were, superficial friends that stopped having time for me or outgrew me. People are so, caught up in their own lives and their cell phones too, I dont feel like people care, when I talk to them, as they're often multitasking, with a phone. Even the only person, I have gotten close to, in a relationship is on his phone around me. It feels like everyone is like this, will I ever be more important than somebody's phone ?

@FrankHuynh 4 месяца назад

I hear you. It can be tough when it feels like people are more focused on their phones than on you. Sometimes, opening up can lead to deeper connections. Remember, you're not alone in feeling this way.

@hbbstn 7 месяцев назад

I can't complain about people in Toronto. They've generally been nice to me. However, I've never felt as lonely in a city as I do in Toronto. I previously lived in Boston, the mean capital in the U.S., for ten years, and I had such a blast. I think it has to do with introversion and extroversion. Canadians are self-contained and discreet, while Americans are expressive and open.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

sorry to hear about your mix feelings about toronto - hope you're doing better

@Doug-zl8nb 7 месяцев назад

Hang on for the ride

@wallacerangel616 7 месяцев назад

That’s mainly why I’m moving to the US soon. I’m aware of the risks that comes with it but I’ll take the risk

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

AGREED. The strangers i connect with are always americans

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

AND IM A HUGE EXTROVERT, but feel so stifled from the stale introvertness of torontonians.

@altay4room 7 месяцев назад

Great video! Being vulnerable when exposing yourself on the video is not easy; great job for being honest!

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Thank you! Just getting more comfortable for who I am as a person and just showing I ain't perfect despite what I may portray on camera.

@Mark.t.harrison 7 месяцев назад

Great video, Frank. Feels like a good message for those out there that are feeling lonely. I think we all feel that way sometimes.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Thank you! Glad you enjoyed the video.

@tns-rox 7 месяцев назад

Great, compassionate video, Frank. Thanks for taking on a universal topic that affects so many young and senior adults living on their own. Glad you recommended therapy. I agree that it can help alleviate loneliness. It's good to know that you've been able to make valuable friendships through your own efforts to meet people. I hope it will inspire others to take a risk and do the same. 👍

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Glad you resonated with the video! Therapy can make a positive difference in combating loneliness and in general. Thanks for the support.

@user-gn8eb4ii9p 7 месяцев назад

LOOL, lonely for who? There are tons of couples and friends enjoying events, you can talk to anybody at a bar, club, community services, schools, churches, and at their jobs so if any elderly person feels lonely they can be encouraged to get that advice! It's cheaper to buy house instead of renting. There are interesting ways to do it.@@FrankHuynh

@duncanmac2195 7 месяцев назад

I volunteered at a kitchen. Met a great girl. Toronto is more stuck up.

@Happy..Laura.. 7 месяцев назад

Great video Frank! It really hit home as I was soul-crushingly lonely when I was in the GTA. Your honesty is appreciated. Please come back to Calgary! I've been here for 1.5 years now and life has changed in every area for the better. Come on and give it another try, pandemic is gone. We'll go for a healthy hike in the beautiful mountains and grab some tasty food downtown as I've scoped out tons of restaurants. Calgary chapter 2....just sayin'....

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Thanks Laura - Glad the video resonated with you! Tbh, Calgary does sound pretty intriguing, especially with the positive changes you've experienced in the last 1.5 years (post pandemic). Appreciate the offer as well!

@monarch1957 7 месяцев назад

I had the same thing, feeling lonely when I moved to Calgary a month before the pandemic but thing are getting better now that I,m meeting peopkle now and that everything is open now and meeting people at church.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Nice - that's good to hear things are getting better and that you're meeting people at church, etc.

@willam007ca 2 месяца назад

Thank you for all the good advice Frank ….

@FrankHuynh 2 месяца назад

No worries, thanks for watching William!

@romeoandjuliet6522 7 месяцев назад

Western culture is designed to be lonely its based on meterialism and indivisialism in india you will never feel Alone

@victorrivera1606 7 месяцев назад

In my early age, I found out that no matter if you are with your family, with your community, in a stadium surrounded by thousands of people, we always will be alone. Fifty years later I still acknowledge this fact. It is important to notice that there is a big difference being alone than feeling alone. I have been alone and not a problem with that. The problem is when I feel alone. That is sick. The crude fact in life, weather in Toronto or any other city, is that Nobody gives a damn about your existence. Probably the only one who does is your mother. We are all surrounded by predators, utilitarians and narcissist who just want your attention. If you are in an accident, the government will try to save you because you still can pay taxes, if not then good luck. See the elder population in Canada? They no longer pay taxes so, by the instrument of Covi they were swiped by the government. In that way it kept unclaimed pensions.

@spartjovic 6 дней назад

Born and raised Torontonian and I crave human interactions (with intelligent conversations). Unfortunately I find it lacking here. Don't get me wrong, I love my me time, but it's difficult having conversations here.

@HuatulcoGuy 7 месяцев назад

Any people I have let into my life seem to be only interested in what I can give them. I do a lot of favours and help them as much as I can. The truth is, if I ever need help or a favour, I am 100% positive that no one will be there for me. So I have decided that I will stop trying to make friends and enjoy a peaceful life all alone.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Sorry to hear that happens

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

Even my own family wouldnt help me when i was in need. And friends? I would always help them. And go out of my way. Without being even asked. But it was rarely reciprocated.

@christianlumberpondmachado4721 6 месяцев назад

No need to be nervous. I’m from Winnipeg and I mostly do feel alone 99% of the time. 1% is just work friends but no deep or meaningful friendships. Turning a year older next month. It does get lonely as I got older.

@FrankHuynh 6 месяцев назад

Thanks! Sorry to hear about your experience. If you're open to the idea - I'm confident if you're willing to work on yourself, while putting yourself more out there -- friendships will tend to naturally form. Happy early birthday and hello to another Winnipeg-er.

@christianlumberpondmachado4721 6 месяцев назад

@@FrankHuynh thanks man. Currently just building up on myself. Full disclosure I’m filipino born and raised. I moved here by myself hoping for a better life and opportunities in March 2020 got to study just a year, got a job, and got my PR in May 2023. Winnipeg’s given me a smooth process but you know when life started to plateau, I’m starting to feel that loneliness. On the other hand, I’ve been keeping myself busy like improving my health and body, working out to avoid being “idle” especially on winter months. Can’t wait for Spring and summer. Hope you’re doing well out there, yeah? Cheers

@j1mster3 7 месяцев назад

This issue kinda reminds me of when someone says they are "bored" if you are always bored then you are probably a boring person... I think the key is to find your purpose in life, eventually the right people will naturally surround you. You might feel lonely at times but there is nothing with that because in the real world no one cares about your life or goals or interests deep down and other than your own bloodline and why would you in the first palce. Once you have found your purpose whether is career or outside of work through personal interests or hobbies these negativity and self pity will go away. Keep in mind alot of people around you might not be deep down have your best interest at heart so you will learn that through your own experiences. Like kevin o'leary once said 3 things in life can change(gain or lost) over night 1.Money 2.women 3.friends. The sooner you accept these the better off you are. I find that through my experience, staying busy(work, excersise), always learning, get out of comfort zone at times keeps your life in balance.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Tend to mostly agree - as you find a 'greater' thing to do in general, you tend to also care a lot less about things you normally would have.

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

Im not boring. Yet im bored. TORONTO SUCKS

@olive4naito 2 месяца назад

@@barthalomeowthegreat8470 I think being creative has it's limits when you live in Toronto. There aren't a lot of hobby shops compared to Asian countries. If you're a creative person, I found Japan was a paradise because of all the stores that sell crafting supplies. It's a tiny island but they also have tons of mountain biking trails. It's also cheaper to buy supplies than Toronto. Toronto also suffers from bad public transportation compared to most advanced cities and that hugely contributes to boredom because you can't get to where you want to be quickly. This has led to many people not feeling like it's worth leaving their own homes because they don't want to spend most of their day commuting to someplace fun instead of having fun. While I was in Japan I didn't think twice about setting foot outside but in Toronto with all this car dependency and bad transit, I have also felt the decreased sense of fun. I wouldn't call it boredom but I've had to simply rely on finding ways to have fun at home. So while it isn't boring, it is definitely more lonely than Japan where I could go anywhere anytime.

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 2 месяца назад

@@olive4naito the way this place is designed really suck. I first noticed it at york university, where majority of ppl would commute. And being a commuter university, ppl would often be in a rush to get to their bus. Really ruined the feel of what a college life should feel like

@Mikemathews33 7 месяцев назад

Did you go to JH bruns in winnipeg

@Snookyboo 7 месяцев назад

A lot of people who are surrounded by friends and family and still feel lonely are people who manipulated all of those friends and family members to be in their lives. They developed a bunch of superficial relationships without actually allowing people to get to know themselves because they didn’t even want to get to know themselves. There are a lot of people like that, and they need to be acknowledged. Probably a lot of people in echo chambers right now. The law attraction suggests that people are solely responsible for their negative experiences, which can overlook factors beyond their control but it can be effective with hobbies. So this idea that one attracts what they are worth, or what they emit into the world can have consequences like people who have experienced degradation or have been made to feel worthless may find it challenging to emit positivity, leading to our harmful cycle, where they might believe they DESERVE their miss fortune. We are all in one big cycle and I’m wondering who is going to break it

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Always best to be honest with others from the start. Thanks for watching!

@asadb1990 7 месяцев назад

The only people who don't think toronto is lonely are mostly immigrant families with social circle from their home countries or families with kids who become friends. Or those they grow up with them if they were born in that city. I lived in many cities across in canada and despite begging people to hangout outside school, work, etc. But most people are polite but don't even want to share personal cell number for the occasional text. After a while i just gave up. My solution will be to sponsor my wife's family and get them to move to canada and we can become the social circle.

@idreesk7826 7 месяцев назад

I was born and raised in toronto with a huge circle and believe me it still feels lonely

@asadb1990 7 месяцев назад

@idreesk7826 yeah totally agree but i feel even in a big circle you need people you can genuinely connect with. My personal story is that when i was small until i entered university my parents kept moving all over. We moved within gta, calgary, edmonton, pakistan, etc. So much moving that i barely hung out with anyone regularly within walking distance for more than year max. This made maintaining relationships specially pre smart phone era near impossible. Also the big circle is more for activites or hangouts at parties. The real connection part is still a challenge and finding someone who genuinely likes you enough to be real friend.

@idreesk7826 7 месяцев назад

@@asadb1990 yeah that is a challenge. In the end I decided I will leave this city for good and maybe come back on occasion

@Todd.T 7 месяцев назад

After going there for years, the problem IS the social circles or silos. Nobody wants to talk to anybody different if the don't HAVE to. Remove the need to speak or read English and it gets worse. In some areas, people beleive that that laws are what they say they are because of how many people in the immediate area share the same ideals. And they believe that the other different people are out to steal from them, so lock up the doors and don't talk to anybody. I find the USA for all of it's faults seems to have more polite people, even in the redneck states and I'm a visible minority that they are supposed to not want to interact with.

@YokubouTenshi 7 месяцев назад

Hello this is Chef John, from Food Wishes

@anees.saeed33 7 месяцев назад

Great video! Takes a real one to be open. Let's link up sometime 😊

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Thanks dude. I'm pretty open book. That'd be fun - hope all is well.

@joept333 7 месяцев назад

Its hard but i know there are meet up groups and similar hobby groups you can attend to meet new people or just do frequent travelling 😊

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

good suggestion - ideally ensure they're hobbies u personally enjoy

@rmkolesnik 7 месяцев назад

man, we should hang out some time! I work in IT as well.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

appreciate the offer - that's cool you're in the same field!

@DazzTO 7 месяцев назад

Ewwwww people...😜 Honestly I love being alone, never lonely ❤ You really have to chose wisely as to who you let into your life. There seems to be more takers.... Born n Raised Torontonian ❤

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Nice that's awesome - good on you :)

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

Phone calls are good too. But i always feel like im taking that first step

@FrankHuynh 2 месяца назад

yes phone calls are great! sorry to hear that too.

@romeoandjuliet6522 7 месяцев назад

You should keep one cute Dog and one Cat they will make your life less lonely and they also enjoy company human biengs demand are too high you can't make humans happy this is my Advise

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Pets are a great option!

@romeoandjuliet6522 7 месяцев назад

@@FrankHuynh so true back in the days when we lived in small villages life so simple needs were so little our expectations and demands were also very low but now days if you need company you need to provide lot of stuff but people are still not happy and then social media plus car bills they all.make us lonely but pets animals they are more pure spend time in nature sun or may be if you get friendship with international student they might give good company ride a bicyle city life not good go to village side city life is not natural

@Doug-zl8nb 7 месяцев назад

Or have justin trudeau' as a snake for a pet

@romeoandjuliet6522 7 месяцев назад

@@Doug-zl8nb Hahaha ok thanks i will think about it to keep Trudeau as a snake in my balcony

@romeoandjuliet6522 7 месяцев назад

@@Doug-zl8nb 😝😝😝

@mikamee5459 6 месяцев назад

I've lived in Europe Asia and grew up in Toronto. Hands down Toronto is the loneliest city. I find other countries have lots of small talk in stores lineups with strangers. People here are reserved snd many have said unfriendly Yhrow in the cold westher and high rise condos its inbearable.

@FrankHuynh 6 месяцев назад

Toronto can feel a bit reserved, especially with the cold weather. Small talk in other places does add a different vibe. Stay warm out there

@nikaa4237 Месяц назад

Definitely other cultures are so different. Thanks for the video.

@duaneowens7777 7 месяцев назад

great video. Are you chinese? Just curious. See your last time. Also how are the expenses in Canada as a student

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Thanks - and part!

@charlieleone 7 месяцев назад

Is bad here! I live here all my life! As the years go by, it gets worse year by year. I just think that all the real Canadians are gone, and with all the new Canadians from other countries, they don't trust anyone here in Toronto. That's why!

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

Sorry to hear, I hope things will get better.

@asadb1990 7 месяцев назад

Who are "real canadians"?

@bskinny9009 7 месяцев назад

So true

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

Isnt the anglo saxxans who made it so unfriendly to begin with?

@barthalomeowthegreat8470 3 месяца назад

Utilize those bennefits!!! Many ppl don’t

@FrankHuynh 2 месяца назад

nice!

@dealman3312 7 месяцев назад

You’ll never feel that way in a small town

@edwardlin 7 месяцев назад

Law of attraction is goated

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

you bet!

@luiscarlosgcanton7651 7 месяцев назад

I liked your video until you mentioned the "Law of Attraction" ( speaking of brutally honest like you are..lol -- you may dislike me by now for saying it t and I totally understand you and feel fine with it), although I know what you meant within your context. I find also the "law of attraction types" very clicheed and some ultra fake and boring trying to pretend that is all perfect and positive. I really never felt lonely in Toronto and I liked the city very much. However; each person's reality is different and I am also not into the quest of friends or approval from other people. I always had the chance to talk to people if I wanted to plus my jobs are very social, so being left alone is also something I cherish very much. Nice to see people like you that talk about Law of Attraction but also show vulnerability and speak about something we all have faced from time to time if not in Toronto, maybe in another city.

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

thats ok you're open to your opinion - thanks for watching!

@user-gn1qo6cu1n 7 месяцев назад

Get a small dog, that's what I did, cure my loneliness problem completely,

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

nice!

@joerocket1977 Месяц назад

It’s not you, it’s the modern world. We are all just cogs in a wheel. There are no more third places because land values are to expensive.

@Euphorica 7 месяцев назад

I thought I was watching foodwishes

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

nope!

@craigs1437 Месяц назад

Toronto isn't even a real city, instead, it's more of an over-sized College & University campus.

@FrankHuynh Месяц назад

overpopulated for canadian standards

@craigs1437 Месяц назад

@@FrankHuynh Glad I don't have kids.

@frankihatch 7 месяцев назад

Vancouver is worse

@FrankHuynh 7 месяцев назад

oh no!

@johnh23z 7 месяцев назад

Just get out of toronto ... u r wasting your life there.

@BelleMorue 7 месяцев назад

Move to NB, they will know the name of your mom's dog and your whole sexual life. You will try to manage that when you are to the gas bar and the dude know the owner of the car you have borrowed. Don't move too much, people observe you although you think to be alone, you are never in this province.