How I Overcame Being A Child Bride! 

It's because they were looking for a marriage partner for her, in other words, when they let him move in, they were (in their minds) already trying to re-home her. I am sorry, it's harsh, it's unbelievable, it's hard to imagine, but it's how some cults and backwards religious people operate to keep their child from becoming a free thinking adult.

Don’t feel sorry for her no one forced her and still defended him after everything she’s the problem

Why wouldn’t we feel sorry for her? She’s a victim of statutory rape because she was 14.

She continued with it she could’ve told someone, and at that age you know right from wrong. She now what’s to blame him now that things aren’t going her ways why not say something before? Both are in the wrong

She was 14. He was an adult. Her parents were idiots for letting her go to the movies with him and then inviting him to live in their home. Your teen years can be confusing. Yes, you know right and wrong, however you can feel “pressured” into doing things you might not normally do if you don’t have friends and parents to turn to for advice. Her parents were useless - they pretty much forced her into marriage rather than kicking the guy out!

Her mother and father were the one who groomed her AND that got… Kept inviting him…the kid wanted to go to school…. And the parents planned it. She thinks it was secret but I bet anything, it wasn’t. Nobody, specially religious people would move in a single guy with a teen girl in the house. The father just used the mother to be the face and the mother just made it look like a natural meet. I bet they learned from those who married off underage girls, how to do it and not be in the line of fire. They all should be locked up!

So you saying women are so stupid that they continue to stay with "abusive" men who can easily "groom" them? Seriously? You think girls & women like they're little brainless kids who cannot make their own decision, and any man can abuse them easily. Women have to take some responsibility. It's easy to blame it all on the man. I'm not justifying anything. I'm just saying.

she was groomed by christians.

her parents didn't fail her, they TAUGHT her not to have sex until AFTER she was married. You cannot always control children, but it's not the parents fault that she decided to disobey them.

​@@Amygondorthe mom invited him to live with them. The mom threatened to ground her brother if he spoke of them and their relationship. You bet her family failed her. She was definitely groomed by a man 10yrs older. Technically he's a pedophile and the mom chose not to see or hear about what was happening in her home.

Her mom really sucks.

Totally agree!

Why her mom only?

Some of the replies on this video makes my blood boil, there are people here blaming her

@@tazylab6233 I didn't look through every last comment, but I read many of them and didn't see one negative comment towards her. People can see this for what it is - an adult man who groomed and exploited a child. Her story of how she took her life back is truly inspiring. She REFUSED to stay a victim. She deserves a lot of credit.

​@@GTX1123look for the comments in @denisebenedict6102 thread, I don't understand how some people like jimmy Chavez and other think that she has any fault

@@tazylab6233 Because they would do it too in a heartbeat if they had the opportunity.

​@@tazylab6233those are the type of ppl who prey on innocent victims

How old was Mary when she gave birth to Jesus? She was only 12, right?

@@micdeymearstienbeiger37 wrong. 14

Source?

No idea why folks always believe the obvious lie of: She told me she was 18, and I believed her. She looked 18, how could I know she wasn't? Like, is always the same lie smh

​@@aditacruz75it doesn't matter her age! Age is only a number😂

Yeah and she was in his middle school youth group, not his high school group with her brother. I feel like that's all the proof the courts would need to see to know he's lying and that he KNEW her real age.

Right?!!!!

👏🏼

I never had these types of problems with my parents, but ive also been rejected and abandoned by them like she had. It’s easy to flash a smile and pretend all is well, but here I am in my 50’s still wrought with all sorts of unresolved issues. Those people potentially caused life long trauma for this beautiful young lady too

In Afghanistan and Pakistan this is rampant and the girls are much younger. It's completely sickening.

@@trisha9894 Pakistani here and no lol

@@trisha9894 it happens ALL OVER THE WORLD

And boy Sexist

It's SA not marriage.

Right!!! Especially with a young daughter in the home!!! What were the parents thinking?!!

So why did you stay with him "every single day at the age of 15"? So you saying girls and women are so stupid that they continue to stay with "abusive" men? Seriously? You treat women like they're little brainless kids who cannot make their own decision, and any man can abuse them easily. You have to take some responsibility. It's easy to blame it all on the man.

@@micdeymearstienbeiger37 She was 14 and a child. Children don't know how those things are supposed to work and can be manipulated very easily. Just because somebody makes you think you want it, it doesn't mean that you want it and it's not going to lead to trauma. And even adults are often manipulated to stay in an abusive relationship. That's nothing new and it has nothing to do with being like a "brainless kid" , it can happen to everybody.

Predators seek those positions on purpose. Christians don’t have sex outside marriage. He was simply a predator looking for prey.

The pastor was doing exactly what the Bible allowed. There's no minimum age in the Bible. Jesus never spoke against child marriage though it was prevalent in his time. It was perfectly normal practice for people two centuries ago. How was she abused? She was old enough to know what she's doing. Now that she changed her mind, she's not all of a sudden "abused" and "raped"? Come on!

A man of faith is another word for pervert. i don't trust the church, i've met kinder, more moral people at a death metal concert then i ever had at a church. the church is corrupt and Morally Decrepit, honestly they should just turn them all into condos.

She was a minor! After her divorce she was almost put into the foster care system because she was a MINOR! I hope you do not have access to children.

@@micdeymearstienbeiger37 Oh another pedo publicly outing himself....

@@alexharney3269 Parents consented. Parents can and do consent on behalf of minors. Parents make life-changing decisions for their children. You've been brainwashed by a modern liberal indoctrination system. You cannot think straight. I hope you have access to people with BRAINS! Maybe you didn't get access to thinking skills as a child.

It makes my heart happy to know you have a lovely relationship now❤️❤️

My mom married dad when she was 16 and loved him passionately until she died. I know a couple who got married when she was 14 and they are in their 70s and do everything together. I know plenty of people who didn't get married until much older and their marriage failed. It's the person not the age.

That’s exactly what I was thinking!

And she was homeschooled so he knew she was young enough to be in school

@@Abbyonice he literally could have asked her parents what her age was. It’s not that difficult to find out.

Like he didn’t know her and her brother were almost the same age. My kids are also 15 months apart and it’s always a topic of discussion how close they are in age.

How was she abused? She was old enough to know what she's doing. Now that she changed her mind, she's now all of a sudden "abused" and "raped"? Come on!

@@micdeymearstienbeiger37 a teenager has absolutely no idea what he or she is doing. Two teenagers the same age is innocent foolishness. A young teen and a fully grown man is nothing but predatory on his part. The brain isn't fully formed until age 25 or 26. Forget 15. What a joke.

@@micdeymearstienbeiger37 sounds like you feel guilty and are trying to justify your own actions, but hey, that’s just what it sounds like to me. Regardless, you just won’t convince me it’s ok for an adult should sleep with a teen he’s a number of years older than.

​@@TheCerealluvr The person behind that name is assuming different aliases while trolling all over the comments section. He is just a hungry bored troll.

​@@micdeymearstienbeiger37He should have been responsible enough not to do that with a child at all

Gosh, I'm so sorry. I sincerely hope that your son has all the help that he needs. Luckily, he has you

How old was the farther?

@@alexlewis8143 17, he was a family “friend”. I got pregnant at 12.

I am so sorry that happened to you. Sending you lots of love and strength.

@@jomomma1512I’m so sorry. That is absolutely terrible

I think she just wanted him for her daughter. If she were having an affair with him, I doubt she would have pressed them to marry. It seems she set her daughter up to be w/ him bc she though he was perfect for her- religious, responsible, and handsome? Obviously he was anything but righteous and clearly her mom couldn't see that.

I wouldn't doubt it, from her description of everything that happened. It is quite suspicious. Then her mom acted so hateful of her, almost as if she was jealous of her or something.

@@GameChanger597 I actually disagree, if they got married than no one would expect a thing and the mom could have a close relationship and affair going on without anyone being suspicious

​@@GameChanger597 you'd be surprised how evil some people truly are. It's really suspicious how her mom is still sticking by his side without a care for her daughter.

Wow, I'm so sorry. Are you still married to the same person?

@@briellejacobs1045 no he abandoned me 2 states away from anyone I knew, and I just made a life for myself on my own. Finally got my divorce 5 years later.

You got out. Good for you. A child is someone who has not reached the age of puberty. After puberty, you're a biological adult. So at 16, technically, you're an adult. The legal age of 18 is an artificial social construct.

More like teen brides. There's actual child brides out there sadly.

@@HIGHER7RUTH I was a CHILD. I will not let anyone diminish what happened to me or any other victim of being a child bride. Unless you yourself have walked it, kindly sit down and leave it to those of us with personal experience. What you fail to realize is that we were groomed for years if not our whole lives before we are married off. And no where did anyone in this video or comment thread say there weren’t younger victims out there, we know from (again) PERSONAL experience that there are. So, just who is it that you think you’re commenting to?

So you saying women are so stupid that they continue to stay with "abusive" men? Seriously? You treat women like they're little brainless kids who cannot make their own decision, and any man can abuse them easily.

Cant lie i thought the same thing. What did she say about him saying the daughter lied about her age. He knew she was in middle school. Smh. Shame on all the adults that were around her.

Yep

Ewwww I think so too

There's no minimum age in the Bible. Jesus never spoke against child marriage though it was prevalent in his time. It was perfectly normal practice for people throughout the ENTIRE history of humanity. But then something changed due to industrialization and liberalism and somehow, the minimum age was randomly determined to be 18.

​@micdeymearstienbeiger37 you are a pedophile, I've seen multiple comments with you defending such barbaric behavior. A book does not dictate whether you can rape a child. And comparing our laws to a time where people were not educated at all is so ridiculous.

@@micdeymearstienbeiger37 nahh u gross

​@@micdeymearstienbeiger37 Barf.

Well she did get pregnant and married as a child basically... Just glad no further abuse or anything violent followed. After so many on here I was scared halfway through...

She does look very young. People in general seem to be staying much younger looking these days vs. how they looked in the early to mid 1900s. It is noticable in old pictures. If you Google highschool yearbook pics from the 1930s-40s, some of them look so much older than their actual age. The lady in this video does look great though. She probably gets mistaken for being a sibling of her child rather than the mom very often. I mean that as a compliment. She is very pretty. Edit: Good for her for getting out of a horrible situation. I can't believe her parents put her in that position. They really f*cked up big time. IMO

Your dad is a good guy deep down. It must take a lot to admit this .. You are so strong! It is a travesty of the justice system you have to meet your convicted abuser every week ! Glad you were able to make a good life for yourself and your daughter ! I’m sure she adores her strong and wise mother

@@dinavienna He abandoned his teenage daughter after inviting a predator to live in their home…not a good guy.

@@nariosei4765 yeah that’s true .. he didn’t know he was a predator when he first invited him in, but you mean when he let The abuser live with him later still right ?

Right!? I had boys and never dated because of this stuff.

Exactly i don't care how religious the man is. He is still a man.

Yeah the lawyers aren't too bright if they couldn't figure out how to prove he knew she was underage. It's either that or they didn't want to work too hard probono.

My exact thoughts I mean really how did that flow well mmm shit happens ..

Plus he was her youth pastor! That’s for teenagers in high school. They could have easily verified that with the church. Over 18s go to home groups or young-Adult fellowship. Every Christian church luckily has the same structures around this. So he knew! And she’s looked like a child on those pictures. She was in Home school when he was leaving with them. I don’t know how this passed in court other than, the judge is shady and the lawyers are shady on this kind of stuff. I know there is towns where this is rampant only because it’s in the leadership as well. So no Justice or protection is offered even when the young people get the courage to fight for it.

Especially stupid excuse given that she joined his MIDDLE SCHOOL bible group.

​​@@GameChanger597 Her lawyers really kind of sucked. She definitely should have gotten some child support (at the very least). It's insane that after everything he did, he did not even have to pay child support. The children should not have had to suffer because the father wanted to be cheap.

My guess would be the offenders dont go to jail for long in cases like this Maybe a couple years

How old was the guy at the time?

Thank you!! ❤ When I was 15 I had a big crush on my Karate teacher’s assistant who was 25 at the time. Spend a lot of time daydreaming about him 😂 but yeah when you’ll grow out of it. I’m now 25 and my partner is 26, NOW I am glad that he didn’t used his position in any way

@@vessagroker98 Oof, with that thank you Idk how to write now. Eh fuck it. The reason I asked was because you made it sound like he was 40. 25 isn't 40 and 15 isn't 12, and on top, only a 10 year difference, hardly a reason to call him perverted if he asked you out. It's called consent, if you say no, it's a no. I doubt 15 year olds aren't able to say no, especially if the guy is totally chill about it. It turned out to be a good thing he didn't since you don't like him anymore, he dodged a bullet just as much as you did, but none of it would be perverted per se. I know people, including my boss, and also my cousin who married at 15, still married to her first husband 18-19 years later with 3 kids, and every time they visited, they were happy, while most other marriages between 30yo dont last a year. Imagine calling someone who loves a woman who btw looked 20-25 a perv only because they married young. Your personal experience isn't everyone's is all I'm saying. It should be judged on a case by case basis, not blanket. It was right what happened, but not because of age, but because of you and that coach.

@@IRussian007 No, I don’t think so.

@@vessagroker98 Kind of a vague answer, but look, it's the way it is- legal age of consent in most european countries is 14-16. And in many states in the US, 16. In fact, even cousin marriages are allowed assuming there is least amount of consanguinity. The more you know. Btw, you're not religious right? I think this why we're not on the same page, different upbringing.

The thing is, none of these ppl are real Christians or Muslims or wtv, they aren’t following their religions. This is why it pisses me off. Look at right wingers, pretending to be Christians in North America, reciting Bible verses, fighting to own guns… they’d be the first ppl to stone Jesus if he came back. They don’t follow his commandments what so ever.

Your daughter is lucky to have a mom like you.

They didn’t bring him into the house bc of their religion. The father should have said hell no to the man living with them. The mother seems to be sadistic. Mine is similar. Seems she was trying to put me in harms way, setting the stage. Just want you to know it has nothing to do with their religion. It’s antiChristian. Sex before marriage, causing a child to stumble, the father not running the household, etc.

It's because they don't know what normal is. They were raised in the same environment

@@1984watchr There's no minimum age in the Bible. Jesus never spoke against child marriage though it was prevalent in his time. It was perfectly normal practice for people throughout the ENTIRE history of humanity. But then something changed due to industrialization and liberalism and somehow, the minimum age was randomly determined to be 18.

The teenage girl doesn't have to be beautiful to be SA .The ugly girls get treated badly than the pretty ones

And it’s good for her because bitterness only steals away more of your life.