How Long Can Someone Be Alone? w/ Jae (DAY6) I HDIGH Ep. #19 

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Diane knows him so much better than he knows himself. Just need a friend like diane.

the people watching HDIGH for a long time can already recite jae's whole intro

The worst kind of lonely is when you're surrounded by people but still feel alone. It sucks

I can listen to him speaking for hours without gettin bored. His voice is just nice to listen to.

I feel like Diane says what I would have said to Jae every time he talks about a sad thing or a bad habit or something, and I have to thank Diane bc sometimes you don't even realise what you're doing wrong and you need someone to tell you, "hey be mindful, hey get some sleep, hey try meditating". It can make a world of a difference when you have this person and they make a positive impact on your life.

Introvert nation can relate this

Diane is like a mentor/ mom to Jae.. This boy needs someone to constantly remind him to chill more & think less.

Alone time because being with other people doesn't help fill that void. Most people want to be listened to and it rare to find people who will listen...or at least people who have both ability to open up and to listen.

jae: guys get some sleep me (and i guess everyone) at 2 a.m watching this: I-

Diane and Jae's friendship is so cool. I love the advice she gives, I need to apply this to my life as well. But as Jae has says "It's just so hard!!!"

My first semester at college was the first time I was alone. I was hours away from my family and I had a dorm room to myself. I’ve always been introverted and I had the opportunity to have my own room so I took it. Little did I know being alone in my own room with my own thoughts got to me. Alone time was always important to me but being alone all in my room all the time made it harder to leave my room. This increased my anxiety whenever I had to leave my room for class and at night before bed. It eventually caused extreme insomnia, like so bad that I would try to sleep for 8-10 hours, tossing and turning, and then do the same the next night. I’d go weeks with an average of 1-4 hours a night. What got me through this moment was actually Jae and DAY6. Every morning, whether I slept or not, I would play their music and it helped me through the day. After a few months I finally got over most of it but I still have trouble staying asleep. What I’ve learned is that anxiety manifests in your mind and being alone with your mind can do two things: 1. More often, you will overthink and your anxiety will grow exponentially 2. This happens after months of the first, but you finally think out of your anxiety. I now know that the anxiety that affects me and even you will fade with time as you figure things out, but being alone will make it harder to figure it out. Try to talk to others for advice and THEN try figuring it out. Sorry for typing I just felt like this was the perfect place to type this because Jae helped me through this exact topic. :)

i live for diane's thoughts and opinions that was so 💯

I feel like Diane's breakthrough is understanding jae on a spiritual level

And this episode is one of my favorite hdigh thus far. And i really love this part; “so basically today we learn that people can’t be alone. make genuine friends, good connections, equals great life”. BROOO THIS PART REALLY HITS ME SO HARD😭😭😭

jae sings in cursive but speaks so clearly huh

Ngl the spotlight effect hits me when I’m lit with my friends. I over analyze myself because I had a friend point out something weird that I did so it really made me think people are watching me and makes me self conscious. I think it’s wild how what people do and say to you can really effect your self confidence

I really really really Miss Jae's iNtErEsTiNg... With his satisfying voice And omg thankgod tonight i can hear that think from his mouth

Coming September, It'll be 6 months since I've been at home. Only talked (in person) to my family members. And honestly...I don't feel lonely at all. I think I could go another solid year without mingling with others in person. Maybe it's because I communicated through text anyway with friends and the fact that I'm very introverted. I guess it all depends on the person.

This episode left such a huge impact on me. I listened to it more than once and it made me think a lot. Thank you Jae and Diane. “be a listener. be a good audience for each other”

"Be a good audience to each other" :)

I also talk to myself whenever I need to cheer up, remind not to overthink, remind on my to do list, need some discipline, or sometimes laugh/scold at my clumsiness etc. My inner voice is not just always in my head. As in I talk to myself out loud and address myself depends on my mood (ie. by my full name if i'm scolding or disciplining myself). It kinda helps me hear my thoughts sometimes so as not to overwhelm my brain.

i almost started crying when they started speaking about meditation for anxiety and insomnia. we love you Jae, we are rooting for you and your health!!!

Every Sunday I am alone for 8 hours while my daughter goes to work and I freaking love it, blast my kpop, dance, exercise💕💕💕

I can listen jae’s podcast for all day long, cuz the tone of his voice just too calming

I use to have panic attacks along with anxiety and insomnia and i agree with diane, meditation is SUPER helpful, along with exercise, proper eating habits and self care. Im reluctant to bring astrology into this but its also very common amongst us virgos because we’re naturally very hard on ourselves. And i didnt know i had anxiety either until the panic attacks because overthinking has always been a state of mind. I really hope you listen to diane’s advice jay and try it because ive stopped having panic attacks since then and have been a lot more mentally stable. I do get anxious time to time but i know my thoughts/anxiety aren’t me and you can do it too 😊

omg thank u dive for the serotonin

20:51 Awwwwww!!! it’s chills me out! i like it Jea add to my list song❤️‍🩹

I can 100% relate. This topic is soo interesting. When Diane talk about sleeping and anxiety, Jae nods and so do I

this is like crash course psychology but like deep vibes and feels

I've been listening to him for 3 days straight. I don't ever feel bored hearing his voice.

Diane is a type of friend that everyone should have. 🥺🤍

one of my fav episodes. enjoyed the topic :) thanks dive studios we appreciate your works

I love that he puts his songs in here! I'm obsessed with like all his songs that have come out so far. Sometimes I play them on repeat

i feel like being alone doesn't feel like a waste of time for me and i think i overdo it to a place that i'm too comfortable with being alone and i feel like being with friends is a waste of time.

a lot of people doing quarantine🤔 so that's why all people must watch/listen to this podcasts^^ It is the most relevant topic 😙 thx you diane...

‪Jae’s voice is so soothing. Probably the only reason why I listen to the podcast 🥰‬

Ive been listening to this podcast since the first episode and I am so grateful for everything I have learned. LOVE LOVE LOVE THESE TALKS!!

You guuuuuuys, having the realization that many of the things I’ve been struggling with in patterns is stemming from anxiety and the inability to allow my mind to be in the moment-a lack of mindfulness-has hit me really hard recently. Thank you guys always for the valuable conversation💛

Didn't expect to get tears running down my cheeks while watching this. The topic reminds me of the 2 weeks period where I isolated myself due to a problem. Thank you Jae, thank you Diane, thank you Dive, for the reassurance and encouragement you give through this podcast.

The way he asked diane," have you been lonely recently?" I'm gonna cry now

Didn't know I needed this! Haha. Finally more content!

Love LOVE LOVE this!😍😍 I can relate so much to all of them😂😩 this's my first eps of hdigh btw 😚 keep going guys! Good job ✨🎉

Love this podcast, I leave learning something new

this year is just so hard for me, for everybody. I used to be alone but this kind of situation drove me crazy. Thank you so much for this episode. dealing with my report while listening to this podcast make me feel less lonely. Thank you and please be happy

14:53 "we sound so old" I'm like 17 and can totally relate to what you guys are saying, TOTALLY. Just sayin

FIRST. jae i love you and i miss u thats all

I really enjoy Jae's episodes. People of all ages can relate to many of his questions and topics.

Jae always delivers always does a great job🤩🤩

im really like your podcast jae, your voice like a cure if i can't sleep. fighting 🔥🔥

I've been waiting for this 😍. I soooo love it

This episode so relate with me 😣😣😣 Thank u Jae 😢💕

I'm so thankful to be one of his fans

"Let's be happy" Diane ya genius ❤️ Trying super hard to live in the moment.

soo grateful that I've been learning in this podcast p.s I can relate with this two (but more on Diane even though I'm not brainy~)

I love Jae and Diane's back and forthing

Im energized everytime i listen to jae's podcasts😊🤗

I think some celebrities enjoy being alone because they can get away from the media and people judgements. But at the same time they feel lonely. The dilemma tho...

MIND BLOWN!! I have so much difficulty sleeping sometimes falling asleep at 5am or not at all and I never linked it to my anxiety!! I'm right there with you had, know exactly how you feel 😑

thank you dive!! thank you jae!! ❤️

Never clicked on a notification so fast

Finally we got the eaJ music in the video too!! Yayyy 💖 And my fave song from him too omg 🤧

this is very relatable, hundred percent.

This was a really interesting a relative topic to the current situation! Even though this is the more extreme or serious side of the question, there's actually been studies done on the effect of solitary confinement on prisoners and how it can actually drive them insane (due to not have social interaction or a concept of time). Similarly, people admitted to hospitals for long periods of time are prone to delirium if they can't go out, so it's recommended to have windows or a TV in the room so that they are able to see night/day or have an idea of what's happening to the world outside. I think those examples and the current quarantine situation really shows how important it is to stay connected to others and how sometimes we take it for granted I love Diane's rule of three! It's a really great way of giving people enough chances, while making sure you give your time, energy and care to people that will give it back to you! I ALSO LOVE 50 PROOF A LOT AND PAC MAN IS AMAZING AS WELL

I really enjoy his work😭😭😭💛💛💛

I wish these dive studios podcasts return again. I've had much fun watching them. Returning to the busy life now that the excessive quarantine is no more is just so stressful. Wish we could enjoy other episode of the special gatherings you made (Eric/JAE/amber/ BM/Alexa/ ....)

Ugh. Your voice really is so soothing even if you're just talking 😭 The topic is very interesting but as for me, an introvert, being alone doesn't bother me, i enjoyed it, but I also doesn't mind the attention from the people I care about like my family.

great conversation material!

man I looove your topics and uestions. reminds me of shower thoughts on twt. for someone who's eager to know things but is somewhat lazy to do research, I love it here lol.

Keep your circle small and genuine. 👌

I like daine and jae here ..so cool and mind blowing conversation of the topic..

i keep sending these videos to my friends they ain't complaining 👍

I could listen to him talk all day , everyday man

Also, Jae, waiting to see eaJ make it to Spotify🙏🏻 excited to hear more from you!!

I can also relate to that moment where I didn't know or remember what date is it like all the time LOL

that fact about the 5 mins to count those seconds is soooo cool wow

After watching this I've come to conclusion that we should stream Day6's Zombie 😌✌🏾 What they're talking about and what the song says fits so well

I’m glad Jae and Diane decided to talk about this topic

so you can also get to listen to jae's song in the middle of the podcast?? this podcast is life. 🤩🤟🏻

I miss this podcast❤

24:57 Me at job interviews like

Jae voice is just really nice

I haven't hung out with someone since November since I moved for college and I relate to everything Jae said :')

I wasn't listening a lot to podcasts but now i can't live without hearing hdigh

I relate to the struggle of trying to hangout with friends; sometimes i cant help but take it personally tho i understand life is busy. But the Rule of 3 is a good suggestion; thanks Diane!!

"not YOU listening you JAE..." me watching this at 4am waiting for my anxiety to go to bed: *still feels attacked*

Omg im early, just because i woke up earlier for school

Welcome back Jae.. 🤟

dayum I didn't know I was this curious about things until I heard hdigh podcasts...

Enjoing the podcast and I am smiles because they're playing eaJ's 50 Proof.

Your both old souls with your inner child still beaming. ^~^

Thankyou Jae 😊💙

It´s somehow strange to hear jae/dive staff motivating me in the middle of the night.

I did a research paper for my AP Lang class a few months ago as a final about how it’s actually beneficial to spend time by yourself, and not just for introverts. I actually used the first 1 article Jay talked about. A big part of solitude depends on how you’re spending it, you need to enjoy it whatever activity you’re doing whether it’s meditation or yoga, or something like reading, listening to music, and jogging. If you’re forcing yourself to be secluded, or genuinely don’t want to, that’s when it could be harmful. Also, if you’re new to trying to spend time by yourself, then take it slow. I personally know someone who has been meditating everyday for the past 5 years, but when she first started couldn’t even last for a few minutes. So don’t put yourself in the deep end so quickly. It’s about patience and actually wanting to spend time by yourself. So yeah, you can go crazy or feel more anxious after a certain amount of time depending on what you’re doing and how much “experience” I guess you have, but you’re able to improve it.

Aquí reflexionando con Jae y Diana

i got so immersed with this talk that I forgot to do my homework while listening. i mean, im thinking, it'd be really cool to be talking with someone like this, sharing each your opinions and talking abt it. but I have no one so I'll just appreciate being an editorial and feature writer at school, it's still sharing my opinion ig.

JAE!!! 🤗 and this topic 🥰

My introverted ass could relate to every word they were saying more than anything else.

I listened to this while folding clothes for a family of 9 people, I'm a daughter by the way but I enjoy cleaning, this podcast made this 9x easier!

llegué al punto en el q escuché tantas veces la intro de hdigh q me identifico con ella a un nivel espiritual