Sir, whatever u said is 100 percent right….i am working as gov servant in extreme rural area in uttarakhand for past 7 years…i have good salary and everything but the location is very bad… there is no transparent transfer policy… thinking of leaving the job….but because its gov its not easy…very relevant topic…
Really every line you said is true. I have faced it for 5 years. husband is unemployed since 12 years.not doing anything just want to live with his parents and bhai bhabhi. I am working as govt primary teacher. Transfers are not happening due to govt policies. I am earning, having 2 daughters 11, 5 years old. But he refuse to live with us. And the distance is 110 km . I bought him a car so that he can go to his parents when they need. But in lockdown he sold it.he never lived with us.Now when i asked him to get divorce then he use the efforts to have a temporary adjustment for me 6-6 months in his village govt school. Now my health is just hell. Physically and mentally i was tortured. But everyone said in family ki ladki ko hi adjust krna pdta h. But now i have no feeling for him or his family.
Same story here......unemployed husband lives with bhai bhabhi. When I fight, he tries to do some patchwork then starts complaining and goes back. My health go affected, so have asked him for a divorce. Better no husband than a long distance one.
Sir really thankful to you aap apni responsibility samaz ke gian bhant rahe ho. All that topics that parents should think and educate their kids . Mein to aap ko father ka darza (designation ) deti houn. Vo Sare topic jo life mein discuss hone chahian finally someone at least bringing. Really heartily thanks
Absolutely right sir... Government jobs are very hard to get and extremely hard to leave now a days.. It is affecting marital life wife's job and children's education very badly.. I see this things happens as many of my relatives are government employee.. Hope people will understand the curse of being a government job holder or being a spouse of government employee.
Every single long distance relationship I had, the guy expected me to leave MY career to support his. Yes, men deserve this. They got to stop viewing themselves as a "provider". Financial provision is not a big deal. Everyone makes money these days. Its not difficult to sit behind a computer in an office and make money. You got to bring other things to the table. Career gives us respect in society, an identity. Everyone needs it.
I left my job in Noida 3 years back. Started my business in my hometown. It needs lots of courage to leave job. But it's worth, I am living much better life and feeling relaxed, free, more savings, Live with my family, Etc. But being an Entrepreneur I agree that girl's parent wants Government employees > Private Employees than last priority to Entrepreneur in marriage market.
bcz villagers mindset is more popular where job security is most imp than quality of life. Even if you had govt job your life will be dull after marriage. Thats why never marry a someone with dehati mindset
@@settingprolink126 even in the big city people have same mindset. Metro city girls also do not want entrepreneur. Unless they are a business community like marwari or baniya.
Cost of two establishments also adds up, have gone through. Sacrifices made are ignored and Very true husband becomes irrelevant and unwanted over a period of time. Weekend father This happens in Mumbai even for people commuting daily from pune Or far off distances for work
🙏Bhagwun as usual Unimaginable, Real time, superbly accurate, assessment of a very alarming situation. I was stuck in this UGLIEST of situations (That too because one of my very close friend a Member of Parliament promised me 15 days reverse transfer back to Delhi) However things did not turn out as planned. I was stuck in Alwar just 160kms away with excellent Rail and Road connectivity. Adverse variables were just 5% as described in this video. But pain faced by me was 100 times as elaborated by you. That was the day I decided for a VRS. Which drastically changed my life, for far far better and beyond wildest of my imaginations! 🙏
Guruji i feel so lucky that i found u early in life and gaining so much from your experience and knowledge. You saved me from learning so many things the hard way! Dil se thank you sir aapko🙏🙏
I m in LDR with a girl in Australia for 7 years now. She is amazing but the conclusion is your peace of mind affects a lot. Everyday frustrations/bikkering/no physical intimacy/constant video calls/timezone issue so this isn't realistic and worth it like you said. Save your self guys, it's not worth it if you are not under one roof. LOVE goes out of the window if you aren't together. I m now hunting a partner who isn't even in another city, that's non negotiable.
G Love ur content. My husband is in govt job and although we live together, but I have started feeling that there is no future for our kids in this place. There is not even a dance class fr my daughter nd all good schools r in the city. Takes 1hr daily for kids to commute one side. So frustration is there!!
I require your detailed opinion on this matter. Please give a webinar on the same topic. Suffering from this problem of long distance and I am newly married
Sir I am newly married girl..my husband is in Australia and he went there just 10 days after marriage...i live alone due to my job and had a mental breakdown after marriage...and now recovered i don't want to be with him anymore..
Very true sir ji. I left my Govt. job with lot of resistance from my family. But I am so glad I did. We need to get out of the mentality that govt. jobs are great which is not the case like you point out. The courage one needs is to come out of this mindset and take the leap of faith.
Ya I am facing this situation after 10 years of my marriage... Initially it didn't mattered as we had good bonding over the years but now after an year I feel how long we can continue like this...but still don't want to leave my job...🙁
Absolutely right sir. But for many who work in Dubai, Kuwait and wife stays in India,its a functional marriage. Husband comes for one month and then wife is free for the rest of the time. So many marriages survived only because of long distance.The only sufferer is the husband who gets used to a poor lifestyle though free and independent.Many such immigrant husband don’t even realize what they are losing.
My father is government employee and I have seen it’s so difficult to be with family.. my father wanted to me do government job but I strictly denied because I want to stay with my kids and stay in same city.. it’s so difficult to change cities and schools.. I have seen it and didn’t want my kids to go through same
Sir i am from ktm Nepal. Yes,it happens we are three sisters and my younger brother is facing same problem since 8 years .My sister in laws has gov.job . She is a primary teacher She doesn't want to take transfer in our village now . ( But before her marriage she promised to do ) .Due to this my old aged Vidow mother is really mentally disturbed .
तो भाई को भेज दो। आप अपनी शादी में घर जलाई लाओ। घर बहु बुरी नही तो घर जमाई कैसे बुरा हुआ। बेटियां मां बाप की सेवा कार्तिभाईं तो मां बाप के पास रह सकती हैं. बेटे घर में कुछ नहीं करते तो वे घर छोड़ कर जय तो क्या बुरा है? नए तरीके से सोचो।
@@ninanani4085 हम बहने भाई और बहु की खुशी मे खुश है। लेकिन अगर एक विधवा मां जिसने वर्षो से दुखकष्ट सहकर बेटे को पाला अगर वो बेटे को रीती रिवाज और परंपरा विपरीत जाने की अनुमति न दे तो ? परिवर्तन के नाम में बुजुर्ग को अकेला छोडना सही होगा
@@vinitanepal283 अकेला छोड़ने की क्या बात है? बेटियां ही मां बाप की करती हैं, बेटे या बहू नहीं। इसलिए बेटियों को ही घर में होना चाहिए और बेटों को ससुराल में। अगर ऐसा हो तो सास बहू वाले न कोई झगड़े होंगे, न ही मां बापंको सेवा की मुश्किल होगी, और न ही परिवार बर्बाद होंगे। या तो बेटे खुद अपने मां बापोँ की सेवा करें, खिलाना, पिलाना, धोना और हर तरह की सेवा। पर वे करते नही, उन्हें आता ही नहीं। इसलिए ये परंपरा ही गलत है। बिल्कुल गलत.
Sir one question regarding astrology with this topic. Some people have combinations in their chart where they are ment to stay away from family or partner be it for work or any other thing, how do you look into this on the behalf of astrology.
Mon to Friday bahar job karte hai and sat Sunday ikhthe milte hai.e.g husband working in ggn and wife in rohtak and husband come on Saturday sunday.what abt that relationship
We are facing the same situation as we both are in central and state govt job but posted in different states. Husband is in Arunachal Pradesh while I am in Jharkhand remote area. Even in vacation of 2-3 days, it is not possible to travel and meet. I dont know how in the long run its going to function.
Gggggggg Sir kash ye video apne parso daal di hoti😭 Kal mera dv tha cgst inspector (ghumi ghumi in Z cities) 1st choice deke aa gya, pehle ye video dekh leta to ASO (permanent posting) le leta delhi me... Pls isko leke 1 webinar type kuchh kariye otherwise pata nhi age kya hoga... Sunn ke hi itna darr laga 😖
@@ArjunSingh1988 hyderabad to bada shehar hai bhai aur maine to suna hai iti mei bahut paisa hai. Humare pados ka ek ladke ko 2 saal hue hai Mumbai mei usne ek fortuner bhi kharid li.
Girls ke liye govt job thik hai kyuki baad mein unko leaves ki jarurat hoti hai ,agar private mein hai to job hi chali jayegi aur baad mein bachchon ke liye bhi leave ki jarurat hoti hai to I think govt job is best for girls
please is topic mei bhi video bana dejiye--> 1. maximum time for government job preparation. (health issue if he study at night) 2. how to control street food. 3. gym/ yoga ke lea kitna time de, is it worth it for some one who is preparing for competitive exam. 4. One should spend time on prayer (pooja) or not? (like meditaion video) 5. SIP / mutul fund / share market / FD / land where one should invest ? according to his age? 6. how much money one should have in his bank account and in reserve form etc. 7. Is social media/ print media/ electronic media worth it? because we are seeing lot of faltu thing in TV. 8. One should watch web series for fun or should cut off completely. 9. should one believe in wearing gem stone (especially emerald) or not? does it works or not? 10. some times we feel lonely, sad, depressed how to over come such problems. 11. should having fun (DJ/comedy show/ bar) is ok or not? 12. making weekly, yearly, daily planner is worth it or not? we should preplan our day or just go with a flow? 13. How can we get free access to your course (happiness course) if possible can you please give access to me *****3330. thanks in advance. :)
True I am in sbi posted in tier 3 city and husband is in Delhi. My life have been very hectic struggling to balance job,in laws,husband and household chores At last I am on leave without pay from last one year
Hello sir main 26 saal ka hu and I'm in merchant navy officer hu or mujhe 5-6 months ke liye ship's pr jana padta hai so kya mere liye marriage ke baad problem aayengi jaise aapne address kiya ki long distance worth it nhi hai itna because meri gf thi hamara 5 saal ka relationship tha ghar pr baat bhi ho gyi thi marriage le liye but suddenly jab uski job lagi to uska behaviour against me change hone laga and kuch time pehele usne breakup kr liya and she said that ki main door rhunga or wo nhi kr payegi . Yeh sb mere liye bahut difficult tha itne time ka relationship zhatke se toot gya . Maine usko smjhaya bhi ki we will manage and future main I'll manage my job on shore but usko nhi krna tha bharosa nhi kiya . Sir aapka kya kehna hai iss pr please guide kriye aapki videos dekhne ke baad life jo ki future main aane wale time ka soch kr kabhi kabhi confusion aane lagta hai.
Please don’t be offended, I think she took her decision.. n u should be glad dat she didn’t raise this issue after marriage, I am married to a per person who lives in abroad it was ok before but after baby it was horrible, as new mother I feel unsupported n overworked n he doesn’t give a damn about it , nobody helps a single mother wen required, I don’t know your situation at home but I was left completely on my own after childbirth, marry a woman who is completely ok with your job
Sir koi Apna peso ka laalchi h ye kaise pata Kare...jaise do bhai h Badawala chhote ko emotional blackmail kar k pese le leta h usko rokey kaise ispe Ek video banao na aap.
Sir please help me. Bohot intzar ke bad 5 saal bad government ne posting di h wo bhi trible area me de di teaching job h .husband or bachhe Ahemdabad me h beti 10th me h uska bhi career banane ka time h samajh nahi aa raha job Karu ya nahi Luxury life thi tribe jaisi ho gai h bus government job ka laalach h Lagta h kahin job se resign karke pachhtava hua to pls suggest accordingly
Hona shuru ho gaya hai....girls jo metro city me mnc me thik thak job karti hai...sarkari tier b/c city posting gvt job walo se shadi karna ni chahti....qki wahan unki job ke options kam honge...
