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How Men Fall In Love - Psychology of the Male Brain in Love 

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How Men Fall In Love - Psychology of the Male Brain in Love
Relationship Advice for Women
Falling in love is a complex and multi-faceted experience that varies from person to person. However, researchers and psychologists have proposed theories to understand the stages of love, which often include lust, attraction, and attachment. These stages can help explain the progression of romantic feelings and behaviors between men and women.
In today's video, I will go over these stages and specifically focus on how men fall in love and the psychology of a man's brain when he develops genuine feelings for you.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Starting
00:42 Stages of Falling in Love
03:35 Quick Relationship Advice for Women
04:17 How Men Fall in Love
05:16 Does Se-x Make Man Fall in Love
07:57 Closing
01. Lust
Lust is the initial stage of romantic attraction and is primarily driven by sexual desire. It involves intense physical attraction and is often characterized by fantasies and a strong desire for sexual intimacy. Lust is influenced mainly by hormones and physical attraction rather than emotional connection or compatibility. Many men actually confuse this with a genuine relationship with a woman, and once the initial infatuation fades out, they move on to find new partners.
02. Attraction
The attraction stage occurs when individuals develop a strong emotional and psychological connection with someone. It involves infatuation, heightened interest, and a desire to spend time with the person of interest. During this stage, people experience euphoria, increased energy, and a sense of excitement when they are around their romantic partners.
03. Romantic Attraction
This is the phase where people experience intense feelings of romantic love, often accompanied by the idealization of the partner. There is a focus on getting to know each other better, engaging in shared activities, and experiencing the thrill of new love.
04. Cognitive Attraction
At this stage, individuals become preoccupied with their partners and tend to think about them constantly. They may overlook their partner's flaws or have an idealized perception of the relationship.
05. Emotional Attraction
Emotional Attraction involves the development of strong emotional bonds and deepening feelings of love and affection. There is a growing sense of intimacy and emotional connection, which goes beyond the initial physical attraction.
06. Attachment
The Attachment stage represents the long-term commitment and emotional bond between partners. It is characterized by a deep sense of security, trust, and a willingness to support and care for each other. Attachment is based on emotional intimacy and involves a feeling of stability and comfort in the relationship.
07. Secure Attachment
This is a healthy attachment characterized by trust, open communication, and a balanced sense of independence and togetherness. Individuals feel confident in their relationship and can rely on their partner for support.
08. Anxious Attachment
People with anxious attachment styles may experience fear of rejection or abandonment and exhibit clingy or needy behavior in relationships. They may have difficulty trusting their partner's love and require constant reassurance.
09. Avoidant Attachment
Individuals with avoidant attachment styles may have intimacy, commitment, and vulnerability difficulties. They may prioritize independence and have difficulty fully opening up and expressing their emotions.
It is important to note that these stages are not necessarily linear and can overlap or occur simultaneously. Additionally, each individual and relationship may progress through these stages at different speeds or experience them differently.
Ismael Gomez III
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@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger Год назад
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@hekimauelewa
@hekimauelewa 10 месяцев назад
Hi 👋 … would like to get to know you. Am single n interested to talk to u
@harshhita16
@harshhita16 5 месяцев назад
😊
@leislsmith4293
@leislsmith4293 Месяц назад
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@petulaclarke9088
@petulaclarke9088 22 дня назад
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@zanna9857
@zanna9857 10 месяцев назад
My husband & I were love at first sight. His idea to make us wait (4 months!) to have sex b/c he wanted us to mean more to eachother. That made our first time sooo special. And here we are 23yrs later still honeymooning. 💞
@amako6837
@amako6837 10 месяцев назад
that’s so beautiful 😻
@alytaylor8974
@alytaylor8974 10 месяцев назад
Thank you, so true it’s so easy to rush and jump right in the sack. But the truth is for me, sex and money. Do not bring us everlasting love. Friendship and really knowing each other and excepting each other for who we are. I like to say you can bend but don’t break. The same goes for them. Going into relationship trying to change them does not work. Just my opinion.
@zanna9857
@zanna9857 10 месяцев назад
@@alytaylor8974 You're absolutely right! Neither does jealousy. Jealousy is absolutely evil. It's the root of everything bad.
@alytaylor8974
@alytaylor8974 10 месяцев назад
@@zanna9857 thank you for reaching out. Jealousy is something that I don’t find attractive. And actually, it brings me anxiety if someone gets easily jealous. I don’t consider myself a jealous person. I believe we all have tendencies at one point to become jealous. But I have never been in that situation. Also, it’s not one of my traits.
@zanna9857
@zanna9857 10 месяцев назад
@@alytaylor8974 Sounds like your pretty level headed & confident. There is so much more freedom, happiness & joy in a relationship that does not tolerate jealousy. My husband & I laugh & have fun w/people, even our Exs! Glad you don't tolerate it either. So many people think it's 'love' but honestly it's just childish insecurities.
@NorahsYarnArt
@NorahsYarnArt 10 месяцев назад
My mom and my grandma told me men love their wives whom they had build houses for. I remember reading letters between Samih Algaasim and Mahmoud Darwish, two famous Arab poets, one wrote to the other “….we don’t love those who help us; we love those we help.” I’m not an expert am still looking for answers but it seems to me that we in general love what we invest in and invest in what we love.
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
We certainly invest in the things we love and care about. Thanks for sharing your insights.
@DiamondsRexpensive
@DiamondsRexpensive 10 месяцев назад
Yeah, men love women they spend money on. The end. Anyone who claims gold diggers are bad is a liar.
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
@tintinesk5 that happens in both directions I feel. It always depends on the people involved.
@nanaa428
@nanaa428 10 месяцев назад
@@SaveTheMessengeryes. I think its more of a human nature where we tend to chase those that pull away.
@peekaboots01
@peekaboots01 10 месяцев назад
Unfortunately I wasted my youth not knowing or understanding how men love. That's how they love by providing. How else? It makes sense. I've wanted a marriage home and security my whole life. Never happened.
@ne3371
@ne3371 10 месяцев назад
I always tell my female friends that men falling in love takes time because they fall in love when they make memories with you, spend time with you etc. and this video proves that right
@augustek5382
@augustek5382 10 месяцев назад
same applies to women, but people are different
@ne3371
@ne3371 10 месяцев назад
@@augustek5382 Yeah everyone’s different for sure! But from my experience women can fall for the person you are or who they think you are and that’s why they sometimes fall in love quicker than men I think.
@rahatzaman8120
@rahatzaman8120 10 месяцев назад
​@@augustek5382people are different .. yet they are the same. All humans have some common basic charecteristics.
@erinb9647
@erinb9647 10 месяцев назад
☺️
@phamsumi8867
@phamsumi8867 10 месяцев назад
Time, money, attention👍
@bigbanktai8204
@bigbanktai8204 10 месяцев назад
You are so right especially on the chasing part. Men who chase you never know how to keep you. The man I currently like right now and who likes/loves me back .. went after me ...but he never chased. And if he did feel like I was playing games he fell back and waited for me. A man who is interested/serious won't chase. He will express his interest and wants of you but won't compete nor chase after you.and that's the key. You don't won't a chaser ladies they are temporary
@jiminjamless2465
@jiminjamless2465 10 месяцев назад
But If u don't play hard to get doesn't that make u kinda easy ?
@purgeyy
@purgeyy 10 месяцев назад
Lol play hard to get, keep living in ur games/fantasies. Being easy is abt opening ur legs to unknown guys without any emotional connection/feelings. Thats called being easy. Not some girl who is getting with a guy she likes and is direct abt her emotions instead of playing stupid games. Mature males r not into all that nonsense nor do they gaf abt chasing someone. Romantic movies and K dramas aren’t real life sweetheart.
@anchan_dulal
@anchan_dulal 10 месяцев назад
💯💯💯
@bigbanktai8204
@bigbanktai8204 10 месяцев назад
@jiminjamless2465 not necessarily I call it reciprocating interest. Men need to know you want them as well.
@devashrijoshi9079
@devashrijoshi9079 10 месяцев назад
May I know how "chasing" feels like? Like is it normal in the beginning? After yk when we've confessed to e/o?
@Imp-ij9nu
@Imp-ij9nu 8 месяцев назад
Stages 3 1) lust 2) attraction 3) attachment Never make man chase you A secure man never chase 2) how men fall in love Build strong emotional connection It took time to develope genuine love
@augustinefaithdefender
@augustinefaithdefender 6 месяцев назад
Never chase but does not mean giving mixed signals. A lot of guys think never chase is giving mixed uninterested signals!
@brigeetalight4394
@brigeetalight4394 4 месяца назад
Thanks for the summary
@lovelyrookie3368
@lovelyrookie3368 3 месяца назад
what's the difference between chasing and going after?
@Imp-ij9nu
@Imp-ij9nu 2 месяца назад
@@lovelyrookie3368 no difference
@sorrywhoareyou887
@sorrywhoareyou887 29 дней назад
@@augustinefaithdefenderthank you! Like don’t have me confused because you don’t wanna chase me .
@KaylaNoelle1
@KaylaNoelle1 10 месяцев назад
He got to the attachment stage SUPER fast and I think it was because there was a lot of non-sexual physical contact which was giving him oxytocin. I’m very cautious about letting myself get attached so I was a bit anxious about it but he was so patient with me and now I feel safe to let myself fall for him completely. He was just so sure about me so early on. The first night we spent together we didn’t have sex but he fell asleep holding my hand as if I was going to get away if he didn’t! 😂
@Shavarmaisvegetarian
@Shavarmaisvegetarian 10 месяцев назад
Awww this is soooo cute
@strawberryme08
@strawberryme08 10 месяцев назад
Healthy masculine energy creates a safe place for women and that’s what we need is to feel safe.
@jonathannkuwi5654
@jonathannkuwi5654 10 месяцев назад
What were some of these 'non-sexual physical contacts'?. I just met someone and I really like him. Please Help a sister
@Yvonne17
@Yvonne17 10 месяцев назад
That's really cute 🥲
@jonathannkuwi5654
@jonathannkuwi5654 10 месяцев назад
@@rahatzaman8120 thanks 🙏
@viviennedunbar3374
@viviennedunbar3374 10 месяцев назад
I didn’t attempt to “make men chase me” I just needed convincing that they were worth my while and wanted more than just a fling which I was never interested in. A few men chased me and asked me to marry them, but my husband was besotted with me and 27 years later he is still crazy about me. I love him very much and we are deeply attached but often he still seems to be in the lust stage 😂😂! He still tells me every day how beautiful I am and I appreciate everything he does so much. He is a great husband and father.
@carmenaranjita5321
@carmenaranjita5321 10 месяцев назад
❤❤
@Communitychoud
@Communitychoud 10 месяцев назад
Oh you’re so lucky ! I can only dream
@shamailarizwan4083
@shamailarizwan4083 9 месяцев назад
Uuu...the lucky one
@elsagrace3893
@elsagrace3893 8 месяцев назад
Gosh, I wish I knew you as a girlfriend.
@yasmina3999
@yasmina3999 7 месяцев назад
What a lucky woman! I'm so happy for both of you
@uberbabe585
@uberbabe585 10 месяцев назад
A healthy man loves one woman, he knows she is not perfect, but loves her because she puts effort and makes him feel wanted and needed. An unhealthy man does not love.
@TheUnique69able
@TheUnique69able 10 месяцев назад
Women sure love fairytales
@samreenfatima2551
@samreenfatima2551 10 месяцев назад
​@@TheUnique69ablehow's that a fairy tale?
@TheUnique69able
@TheUnique69able 10 месяцев назад
@@samreenfatima2551 the fairytale of a healthy man wants one woman. Us men are biologically programmed to want multiple women, no matter how much we love our woman. There’s nothing wrong in us men for wanting to have multiple women.
@kali7055
@kali7055 10 месяцев назад
@@TheUnique69ableOh please most men on the internet cry about being virgins and not getting women. And if they do, they whine about how horrible they are. If y‘all struggle to pull one girl and not even a good one, what makes you think you can get multiple women? 😂 You‘re setting yourself up for a life of stress and misery, if you want to pursue multiple women. Most want one partner to grow old and have a family with (As do most men). The promiscuous guys and girls just end up played, used and lonely
@liliaxo3136
@liliaxo3136 10 месяцев назад
@@TheUnique69ablelike the original comment said, sounds like you’re an unhealthy man that cannot love
@TG-nh6ni
@TG-nh6ni 10 месяцев назад
That's why it takes years to see if the person is for you or not...def agree on not sleeping with someone too quickly
@christinarichie6171
@christinarichie6171 10 месяцев назад
It doesn't take years. Once you do the work and mature and ask the right, crucial questions at the start you will get to know that person quite quickly. You have to click into your instincts. Depending on the person of course. Women. don't have years and years. Use your common sense.
@elsie4802
@elsie4802 10 месяцев назад
@@christinarichie6171 What questions should you ask early on to know if you are compatible?
@valentinleguizamon9957
@valentinleguizamon9957 10 месяцев назад
@@elsie4802 try something like, "Are we compatible?" Sounds pretty accurate to me, I don't know!
@mind.body.creative
@mind.body.creative 10 месяцев назад
I mean honestly, ask them how they spend their time.. it shows what they give energy to. Ask them about their friends.. it shows the qualities that influence them.. ask them about how they spend money.. it shows what they value.
@im26c4u5
@im26c4u5 10 месяцев назад
​@@elsie4802​ Ask them what their views are regarding marriage, but don't give away the way you feel/don't make it seem like you want marriage because men will lie (subconsciously or willfully), if you're a woman whose into men ofc. Ask them how many kids they want. Observe who their friends are (they will turn into their friends especially if they're men), the music they listen to and the fans of their favorite artists/bands (to know their mindset). Everything has an influence so just observe, you don't need to ask so many questions just let people talk without interruption.
@channel6732982943
@channel6732982943 10 месяцев назад
@6:31 If a man admits to me that he lost interest immediately after sex with some past woman, I immediately view him as low value. He's immediately and totally off the table for me in any sexual or romantic regard.
@sloeberdoet
@sloeberdoet 10 месяцев назад
At least he will be honest about it and i think it is something biological. Jonathan Ashley says the same so a man really can easily seperate love and sex it is just his nature. He just has to be honest about it and don't give the woman hope but the woman who gives her flower to easy away musn't be suprized he loses interest quick.
@bunnyboo6295
@bunnyboo6295 10 месяцев назад
@@devra5186 That is disrespectful right there if the man did not have those feelings why did he sleep with that woman. I have no respect for a person that can do that.
@jalaaaah
@jalaaaah 10 месяцев назад
not necessarily; because i can understand not feeling sexually compatible with someone and not wanting to waste the both of your time.. don’t get me wrong, it sucks, but it’s better someone admits sexually they didn’t feel a spark w/ you vs. dragging it out. granted, as women we have way less orgasms and have pretty much normalized not being fully satisfied by our partners but if we put as much emphasis on it as men then a lot of us would be moving on or stepping out as just as much too. and it doesn’t make you “low value” to not want to settle in that area if you deem it important to your relationship. now yes, you can try to get better but it’s really up to that person if they want to continue the relationship and try, but at least they were a decent enough person to be honest about why they’re not interested imo.
@bunnyboo6295
@bunnyboo6295 10 месяцев назад
@@SigmaINFJFemale There is always the town whore for hire but men are the one's choosing to entertain majority of women would not entertain these men
@mulanhei893
@mulanhei893 10 месяцев назад
@@sloeberdoetwhat a flower … sounds so cringe….
@gluckskeks2593
@gluckskeks2593 9 месяцев назад
Love is like a whisper in the wind which cannot be heard or seen with our eyes. It can only be recognized by two people who are ancient enough to take the courage to open up for each other and who constantly invest in each other. Love is like a tree. It only gets deeper and better the longer the journey takes.
@mariaestelle3108
@mariaestelle3108 7 месяцев назад
You need to write more! This is a beautiful comment ❤
@seirc5876
@seirc5876 6 месяцев назад
sooo idealistic
@LulluNatic
@LulluNatic 2 месяца назад
Love is like a whisper in the wind which cannot be heard??? Omg this is so cheesy. What does it even mean? 🙃
@sumitrabehera2003
@sumitrabehera2003 2 месяца назад
Well said ❤
@alchemicalsoul
@alchemicalsoul 10 месяцев назад
When you level up on the spiritual path, you learn the wisdom of love. It's a force that exists like gravity and it starts within. If you have a healthy connection to yourself, you are only able to truly connect with others who share love for themselves. That includes family or friends, or romantic partners. We share the love of self (essentially the Divine) with others. Everything else is just attachment. When we are able to detach from connections and reconnect with self, we know love in its purest form.
@ladyofspa
@ladyofspa 10 месяцев назад
So lovely.
@hms9782
@hms9782 10 месяцев назад
How do we get to that point?
@alchemicalsoul
@alchemicalsoul 10 месяцев назад
@@hms9782 It's been a slow process of learning to meditate, addressing my own trauma and attachment issues. Find out your attachment style and shift all your focus on evaluating your relationships with your parents, your negative beliefs about yourself, how you've reacted in relationships. Lastly you set goals for the abundant life you want, and the steps to get there. You'll begin the process of falling in love with yourself. Anyone who joins you thereafter, needs to add to your life. You develop stronger standards and boundaries. It's a process. Then you'll be able to only allow men or anyone who love themselves into your special world.
@shataracurry2890
@shataracurry2890 10 месяцев назад
Wow thank you. I needed to see this
@333houseoflight
@333houseoflight 10 месяцев назад
Beautifully said and so true. ❤❤❤
@BarbaraMarieLouise
@BarbaraMarieLouise 10 месяцев назад
Yes, that’s totally accurate! In reality it’s women who fall in love with a man they sleep with. Men normally don’t fall in love with a woman they sleep too early! To be honest: it’s much more interesting not to sleep together immediately. It makes little things much more thrilling and you get to know each other much better and like this you also learn to talk about what you like much better. And: what I realized as well: when a man loves a woman deeply he can even have an emotional orgasm like we woman have when we love someone totally and give us fully! So it helps to increase intimacy on all levels, intellectually, emotionally and also physically.
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I agree wholeheartedly.
@aylex1974
@aylex1974 9 месяцев назад
Sex ruined everything
@Sarah-kv3qs
@Sarah-kv3qs 9 месяцев назад
Usually women fall for a man they see as a potential partner and sleep with if there’s no connection…it just won’t work the same. Yet it depends on the woman
@akankshatiwari8113
@akankshatiwari8113 8 месяцев назад
No buddy...women also doesn't fall in love with the person they sleep with. It's a misconception about women. 👍
@celestialys
@celestialys 8 месяцев назад
​@@akankshatiwari8113hum no it is biological. But with the hook up culture, it changes the brain of these people and get less and less attached to people. They will end up alone or with someone they don't care just to not be alone
@zelik654
@zelik654 10 месяцев назад
Just let love happen plz people! Stop trying to control or manifest or whatsoever!!! LOVE just happens or it doesn’t! Period! Thank You
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner 10 месяцев назад
That approach is very naive. Educate yourself about traumabonding instead of soreading this immature nonsense.
@zelik654
@zelik654 10 месяцев назад
@@CordeliaWagner Are AI or human being? How letting feelings flow is a naive approach?! This truly shows you never experienced true love in life… sadly. Love happens dear, you can’t force Love. At least the true one.
@stylinson.9839
@stylinson.9839 10 месяцев назад
EXACTLY!
@demmyk
@demmyk 10 месяцев назад
Very well said! 👏🏼👏🏼 you can’t force love, only the lucky ones experience it and from what I’ve seen it is rare.
@Im.justjo
@Im.justjo 8 месяцев назад
🎯
@Minyadagniriel
@Minyadagniriel 10 месяцев назад
been with my guy 21.5 years :) dated for 1, engaged for 5, married 16, 1 kiddo :) happy life.
@porchiajohnson1441
@porchiajohnson1441 7 месяцев назад
🤔 I've always wondered why people in happy relationships come under relationship advice videos to let everyone know how perfectly happy they are. Girl are you really okay? 😅
@Adelina24244
@Adelina24244 4 месяца назад
@@porchiajohnson1441 😂😂🙈🤭I have no idea
@sarajune444
@sarajune444 Месяц назад
When l read this l always remember that thousand men, happilly married, with kiddo, contact me and asking for sex😢😢😢
@UnsuspectingCommenterPassingBy
@UnsuspectingCommenterPassingBy 10 месяцев назад
I don’t know, this doesn’t sound like falling in love at all. If anything, I think anyone who still feels the urge to be with other people while in a relationship, is someone who isn’t or has probably never fallen in love. When it happens, you seriously just want that person (not that you can’t see others as attractive, you’re just not tempted by them) and don’t even think about risk losing them for something that you’re already getting from them. It’s waaaay deeper than chemistry, and honestly, more about them than it is about you. And it also doesn’t feel like you’re suppressing yourself or losing your freedom, because you could be with anyone else, but it still feels right to just be with them. Or at least that’s what I came to discover after years of relationships based on lust and infatuation. I thought that was love because I had never experienced it, but this year it finally happened and it’s unlike anything I’ve felt before.
@sonofhibbs4425
@sonofhibbs4425 10 месяцев назад
Thank you. I’m tired of hearing about how men fall in love because it sounds nothing about actual love and more like a decision of a well played and well planned scheme for self benefits . That’s not love at all. It’s still usage even if the both of them are satisfied and happy in the relationship. Thank you for speaking on behalf of real love.
@shivanithakur179
@shivanithakur179 10 месяцев назад
Oh that means I never fell in love 😮
@koronaantwon
@koronaantwon 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing.
@SerenaCavanaugh
@SerenaCavanaugh 10 месяцев назад
I can't thank you enough for this comment. Because I've never been in love and that's my only dream I get to someday. But every corner of the internet there is some man saying how women are delusional and men will always want to f*ck other women 😪it's so depressing. Your comment is a diamond amongst turds
@erinmctague7188
@erinmctague7188 10 месяцев назад
It makes all men sound like a flight risk which is definitely not true. Sure some men are all their lives others grow out of it and others never are. My partner has never been like that he knew how he felt about me before we were ever together and I’ve never had to question it.
@Smughyorita
@Smughyorita 10 месяцев назад
The connection shouldn't end because you got intimate too soon, just as "don't let the man chase you," idea...😅. It's compatibility issues regarding values, etc. that usually end the connection. Because in the long run; it's the loyalty and respect for each other that count the most. Being honest is key as our character determines our destiny...😊.
@MR-ec7og
@MR-ec7og 9 месяцев назад
Communication about those intentions red flags would help greatly you'll never find d exactly what you want at first relation requires compromise that's acceptable to both partners.
@bluelotus9654
@bluelotus9654 6 месяцев назад
Right. And too soon is different for many people, that could be 3 dates, 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 yrs. Etc
@speedythings7396
@speedythings7396 Месяц назад
Degenerate women gonna justify any bs
@user-qz4vb1ts2e
@user-qz4vb1ts2e 10 месяцев назад
We been together for 7 years now we have 3 children, and he says he loves me and adores me still after all these years 💜
@christinarichie6171
@christinarichie6171 10 месяцев назад
7 years is nothing. Come back to us after 20 years.
@loryjones7220
@loryjones7220 10 месяцев назад
​@@christinarichie6171Exactly what I was thinking.
@Mscavalli2
@Mscavalli2 10 месяцев назад
😂 it’s only 7 years ! Lol
@luzguerrero1530
@luzguerrero1530 10 месяцев назад
Do you feel loved? 😊
@johannarose8466
@johannarose8466 10 месяцев назад
.....and why do u feel the need to tell this on the internet in this random video...lol
@user-lp5yv7gb2y
@user-lp5yv7gb2y 10 месяцев назад
I married my child hood friend after 65 n I realized we always loved each other unknowingly even though we never saw each other for over 40years
@apoorvasrivastava0706
@apoorvasrivastava0706 3 месяца назад
Bruh... I was like "I married my child......hood" I was scared because of first 4 words of yours
@Fit-Fatima
@Fit-Fatima 3 месяца назад
Omg that’s so cute!!
@LulluNatic
@LulluNatic 2 месяца назад
​@@apoorvasrivastava0706😂
@shellaayres3619
@shellaayres3619 Месяц назад
omg...i have my Childhood bestfriend who always there for me..showed care now i am widow he is more sweet and caring...but never told me he loves me...
@yzma6142
@yzma6142 25 дней назад
That’s so sweet!!!
@WhyAmIHere...
@WhyAmIHere... 7 месяцев назад
I totally agree with your quick tip! I'm a girl, and I really think that 'playing hard-to-get' can be so cruel! I mean, I get really upset and confused when I get mixed signals, it's not funny at all, why would I do that to him? Like, I had a friend that fell victim of the hard-to-get game, and I felt really bad, cuz he really seemed hurt, and eventually came to the conclussion that he deserved better and moved on. Honestly, best decision ever. But SHE came back, and called me crying because HE wouldn't meet up with her anymore and I was like "you did that to yourself, gurl-"
@TatianaSidorova
@TatianaSidorova 6 дней назад
I used to think like yourself when I was very young, and I know exactly that I wasn't right. The expression 'playing hard to get' means not exactly the same for different people. You have to learn to value yourself, that's the most important when you are looking for someone who is right for you. Don't feel sorry for your boyfriend when you set boundaries, don't think you are acting cruel (some men would intentionally use this "acting cruel" thing to get their way).
@ciggytwiggy
@ciggytwiggy 10 месяцев назад
My bf is the kind who won't be intimate with someone until he is in love. ❤
@valentinleguizamon9957
@valentinleguizamon9957 10 месяцев назад
isn't that demisexuality?
@juaniterndlovu9185
@juaniterndlovu9185 10 месяцев назад
😂
@minniemin1324
@minniemin1324 10 месяцев назад
@@valentinleguizamon9957 no it's called being smart and respecting yourself
@valentinleguizamon9957
@valentinleguizamon9957 10 месяцев назад
@@minniemin1324 yeah and being demisexualbasically
@ishu2798
@ishu2798 10 месяцев назад
And its a lie
@jennifers1040
@jennifers1040 10 месяцев назад
So, it has been studied and proven that the attraction stage (romantic love) does not have the end over time. Romantic love can last a lifetime.
@cheriekat
@cheriekat 10 месяцев назад
Yeah it kind of evolves during time
@grapefanta5975
@grapefanta5975 15 дней назад
Whats the name of the study?
@kanikamaheshwari9732
@kanikamaheshwari9732 10 месяцев назад
First of all I appreciate your honesty and transparency as a man. Secondly, this video has been saved for future reference 😅
@annawolnik3312
@annawolnik3312 6 месяцев назад
As a woman and a sexual abuse victim since young age, the first stage of falling in love you presented got me shaking. It honestly paralizes me that it has psychologial and biological confirmation. A lot of my ""romantic"" experiences proved to me "no matter how interesting and beautifull person you see in the mirror, you will always be just a body to men" - this thought is (and probably always will) haunt me. It will take quite a time for me to process and accept what i heard in this video. I would love to predend your wrong and i really really hope you are.
@androow1983
@androow1983 6 месяцев назад
Its sexist to think "you're only a body to men". Cuz that is obviously not true. Yes alot of men go off physical appearance and that is normal and okay, women do that too. But that doesn't mean they do not care about your personality.
@annawolnik3312
@annawolnik3312 6 месяцев назад
@@androow1983 Yes im aware of that. I agree with you it is sexsist to say "all men" are like that but that's also part of my inner conflict - i really don't want to think that way of men and myself. Yet on bad days i sometimes do. My thoughts and feelings are valid as result of abuse BUT that doesnt mean they are a right thing to believe in.
@androow1983
@androow1983 6 месяцев назад
@@annawolnik3312 They aren't valid. I got abused by a woman when I was 15, but that doesn't give me a right to feel like all women are bad or something like that. Because I know they aren't. One person did that, not the whole gender. What some people do, doesn't make up for the whole group. I am sorry that you got abused. It must have been very traumatizing and my sincerest apologies.
@annawolnik3312
@annawolnik3312 6 месяцев назад
@@androow1983 First of all, we have the full right to FEEL anything, even something thats not moral - suppressing emotions is not healthy. Second, Theres a diffrence between feeling, thinking and acting - your personal feelings don't harm anyone. I think we have similar experiences to this topic (sadly) so please dont invalidate fellings i shared saying they are sexsist or i have no right to feel them. Those arent beliefs they are emotions !!! In the end we both share simiar opinion I just feel like u missunderstood me using the word "valid" Everyting you pointed out in your second reply i already said above, just with my own words. Im also sorry you had to experience this, I think its brave of you to say it as a man. take care
@androow1983
@androow1983 6 месяцев назад
@@annawolnik3312 If you have emotions which is basically disliking all men, that is sexist, but you can get rid of that. You gotta go to therapy and get rid of that, or something else that can help you. Maybe a male close friend? It's not healthy to have such a hatred. Trust me, it's going to affect you if you don't get help for it. I am not trying to invalidate your feelings, I am just saying that you gotta work on them. It will feel so much better.
@Dil.Careem
@Dil.Careem 8 месяцев назад
Such an intriguing video! Exploring the psychology behind how men fall in love is fascinating. It's amazing how understanding these aspects of the male brain can help build stronger, healthier relationships. The emphasis on emotional connection and communication resonates deeply.
@CeciledeLuire
@CeciledeLuire 2 месяца назад
Wow, *this here is rare to hear from a man* in such a clear and reflected way: not only scientifically accurate, but also honest and with a responsible and honest approach. So many more men and women should get that we need *time* in order to have love. We would have much more happiness and far less pain in this world. Thank you!
@annetteespinoza842
@annetteespinoza842 8 месяцев назад
This man actually Makes a lot of valid points I didn’t think I’d come out of this understanding and agreeing with him. Everything he said was true and it all happened to me…I didn’t even have to wait for him to finish saying his sentences because I already knew what he was gonna say. I already knew the answer I just didn’t have anyone to confirm it. I am amazed! Great video!
@marijaadamovic6235
@marijaadamovic6235 Год назад
Dear Ismael,it was a such pleausure to heard this video.tnx a lot.especially I appreciate your honesty in last one,two Minutes! And it is good from one male to hear that. All the best! ❤
@secilperkins
@secilperkins 10 месяцев назад
I don’t believe in the commentary on chasing. It’s true there are several types of chasing and some of them toxic too. But if the man is not pursuing the situation when the ball is in his court aka when you showed him interest back and make it obvious that it is mutual and all of a sudden they’re expecting you to call/text/make plans first it’s a big red flag. A man needs to be a man to have a foundation.
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
Chasing and pursuing are two different things though.
@secilperkins
@secilperkins 10 месяцев назад
@@SaveTheMessenger intensely pursuing can be seen and called as chasing and in that case i will always love being chased because that’s what real men do.
@hisato1998
@hisato1998 10 месяцев назад
@@secilperkins Do you believe the man should chase you even after start of dating?
@Zero-0o0250
@Zero-0o0250 5 месяцев назад
The question is what do you bring to the table? Please don’t say give you love and a child because all woman can do that and I have to say you need a man to get pregnant. So what have you done to deserve to get chase ? Are you special ? What makes you special over the others? Being good looking is not enough because there always going to be other woman better looking and sexier than you. Yheaa I know why you want to be chase, is because you want to feel special but you are not. I will give you the secret of the majority of men that “ chase” woman 1- they start to accumulate the “ cattle” 2 -after getting all the cattle ( woman, let’s say 10 woman) then they start to “chase” all of them. They call, text all of them. 3- when the first one shows that she is interested in him and confirms it, he will stop chasing the other ones, unless if he sees that the “favorite one” is showing strong signals. He picks the first one that shows interest. The men who “ chase” do this. You really think they are chasing you because you are special? You are not, you are one of the 10 he is chasing, is an illusion of chasing. Please don’t ask them if it’s true because they will not put at risk the time they have invested. Are you going to tell the man you are with that he is not your first choice ? This man of this video is telling the truth. A real man will respect himself and will not chase a woman or play stupid games. If he sees participation he will do something about it. You are one of those girls like to be chased . Are you one of those that play hard to get? If you are, the type of man you are getting are the ones that use the cattle strategies. I have to ask how your life is going? Are you getting the man you want? If you want the man you like do something about it. This is the reason why a lot of woman are unhappy they are not with they guy they like. Stop seen Disney movies do something about it or end up with the cattle man You say need to bee a man. I have to ask ¿what’s to be a woman? I think both should do something . If he text you. Do the same, start a conversation don’t be like ( he most always start the conversation) I will give you an example there is a woman she have feelings for me. I know this because all her friends told me and I have seen it to. I have to say I like her personality but she is a 4 I am a 7. This mean I can get a better looking woman than her. I have texted her 4 times and she always super available but she never start a conversation because she is afraid or woman ego. Due to the her low attractiveness and low self esteem, I decide to be with a sexier, funnier, better looking and a confident woman than her. ¿Who is the one that lose? I find out the more insecure the woman is, the play harder to get and want to get chase due to the low self esteem.
@secilperkins
@secilperkins 5 месяцев назад
Oh boy please. After reading the first sentence i didn’t even continue. This comment was not for you you can keep it going with your life in the red pill content creator’s pages. Ain’t nothing for you
@TheSuperk25
@TheSuperk25 10 месяцев назад
Matthew Hussey said the same thing about the chase part. I respectfully disagree. Relationship coaches who do not agree in the chase part are not even married themselves. Making a man chase you does not mean it's ONLY man who is making the effort. It's not like men chasing women looking like a puppy. Men and women show interest in different ways. A man initiates while the woman must display interest, appreciation, and availability. If the woman rejects all the attempts to connect, the man should stop, or else that's already pestering and borderline stalking. A man can sense it if he can move forward. A man should not play mind games with this. It is a man's job to pursue a woman. In the EARLY stages, the man SHOULD initiate most of the effort and interactions, while the woman responds and shows interest. Women can start on some, but most of it should come from the man. Men should remember that a lot of times, the woman is just not sure about men. The good-looking man seems good on paper, but she asks herself, "Am I going to like him?"; "Should I have a relationship with this man?" This is when the man can chase. Attraction is not a choice, but a relationship is, especially if you are thinking about marriage. "Chasing" is how a woman can measure and test a man's genuine interest. A man who gives up early because a woman is "hard to get" means he does not like her enough. He does not have enough fuel to go on. When a woman senses this, she should let him go. He is not in it for good. Oprah said, "If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay."
@thomaskatt4450
@thomaskatt4450 10 месяцев назад
Hussey is a grifter who panders to women. There is a difference between 'chase' and pursue. The connection should be effortless, organic, and mutual. If a women is making rules for you, understand that she has had men in her life that she did NOT make rules for and you are NOT one of them. She has just spoken to you, so you must listen. Women make rules for unattractive men and they break rules for attractive ones. Dont waste your time, it's better spent pursuing new opportunities with women who show genuine, unmitigated, desire for you.
@TheSuperk25
@TheSuperk25 10 месяцев назад
@@thomaskatt4450 Pursuing and chasing overlap and are used interchangeably in the dating world. If you want a woman who is marriage material, go after a woman who values her womanhood and femininity. Go after someone who does not just go out with someone because they are good on paper. To a woman who needs to be chased, the man's biggest competition is not other men but the woman's childhood, upbringing, family values, past relationships, moral compass, and standards. There are a lot of things going on in a woman's brain and inner circle, why it's not always easy to date these kinds of women. If a woman had sex with a man she met within 24 hours, do you think that man would not have any questions about how many times she'd done that? If you are in it for the fun and sex part only, go for the no chasing.
@TravisBickle58
@TravisBickle58 10 месяцев назад
So, basically when it comes men they have to be traditional. While women can be modern, feminist and take all the privilege. "It's the men's job to chase". No it is not. Not to these modern feminists who are just so full of themselves and despise men yet want to be chased by them. Women have to have that feminine quality that will attract genuine men. All high value men despise feminists. So good luck with your thought process.
@bive4167
@bive4167 9 месяцев назад
​@@thomaskatt4450the same could be said about men, they too treat attractive and unattractive women differently. This means a man setting boundaries like that has similar experiences and hence must be avoided. That's the most stupid and one sided logic that you can only find in those alpha podcasts with pimps. You'd call a woman without rules ( standards) easy and disrespect her and you have problem with her boundaries too. As op said, it's not that only the man makes the effort. But if men want feminine women, they have to take on masculine roles without whining too. Everything can't be in your favor.
@Yomomma-jf9iy
@Yomomma-jf9iy 8 месяцев назад
@@thomaskatt4450 You like your women naive, easy prey and that never learn. You like them easy to use, exploit and abuse.
@forreal1276
@forreal1276 10 месяцев назад
Kind of a weird block in the brain people have when it comes to the whole “getting intimate too soon” and sounds just like an excuse maybe because you realize you don’t feel the vibe. And just because she slept with you so soon doesn’t mean she does it with every single guy, you should be happy she is attracted to you in the first place to sleep with you! if you’re both feeling the vibe and the connection then be open about what you want from the start. If you don’t want to sleep with her/him too soon, don’t go to a place that has 4 walls and a bed. Grown people are able to talk. But to make someone purposely wait… also sounds like a game
@krystalmartinez1244
@krystalmartinez1244 10 месяцев назад
This was very nicely explained, thank you !
@alytaylor8974
@alytaylor8974 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for your time. Love how you cover a lot of different situations. Not all men or women be exactly the same. My basic Takeaway is for me. To be aware of how fast certain steps take or certain steps that are missed. I want to learn as much as I can. I will listen to TED talk and you referred to as well as the author. Again, thank you for putting goodness out there
@commecicommeca9944
@commecicommeca9944 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for these profound insights! 🙏 And I really love your approach to the chasing matter. This POV is so overdue and really should be spreaded in order to inhibit this toxic dating culture which gets provided everywhere! You should make some extra videos on this topic :)
@chatwithcatt
@chatwithcatt 9 месяцев назад
Thank you for being so open, honest, and vulnerable; in sharing your personal information with us. Your videos are fantastic. I definitely learn a lot!
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 9 месяцев назад
You're very welcome dear.
@manyaverma64
@manyaverma64 6 месяцев назад
I love this person, he is someone who is so different in my life. So caring, so supportive, and so good and humble. He flirts with me and also when m in Trouble, listens to me, makes me thing understand. I know it's one sided but, I love him..alot..have been since 2 yrs...
@francescaolson2872
@francescaolson2872 9 месяцев назад
My Nonna had this analogy she shared with all her granddaughters. It was "The Rose in the Wind". Basically talking about how the rose was too easy to allow her petals to be blown away with the wind (boys). Eventually she looses all her petals. Now theres probably better ways to communicate the same values she tried to install into us but I got the message and since I trusted her I listened. It was a powerful imagery that kept me vigilant. I ended up meeting my husband of 20years when I was 18 years old. We were both virgins and waited until our wedding night. It was so beautiful and I am so glad we did that. We've built a beautiful life together.
@user-rz2vw2yj8b
@user-rz2vw2yj8b 7 месяцев назад
I like the way how genuine you are about your past experiences...
@yessievillanueva1766
@yessievillanueva1766 10 месяцев назад
A lot of relationship coaches teach on letting a man chase you. I understand the whole concept of a man being high valued, but shouldn’t it be a mutual give and take? I mean a woman shouldn’t being doing all the reaching out contacting first/texting and calling all the time. Because if he doesn’t make any effort whatsoever ever back then he’s plainly just “not that interested “
@TheSuperk25
@TheSuperk25 10 месяцев назад
Matt Hussey said the same thing about the chase part. I respectfully disagree. Relationship coaches who do not agree in the chase part are not even married themselves. Making a man chase you does not mean it's ONLY man who is making the effort. Men and women show interest in different ways. A man asks and invites while the woman must display interest, appreciation, and availability. If the woman rejects all the attempts to connect, the man should stop, or else that's already pestering and borderline stalking. A man can sense it if he can move forward. A man should not play mind games with this. It is a man's job to pursue a woman. In the EARLY stages, the man SHOULD initiate most of the effort and interactions, while the woman responds and shows interest. Women, of course, can start on some, but most of it should come from the man. A lot of times, the woman is just not sure. The good-looking man seems good on paper, but she asks herself, "Should I have a relationship with this man?" This is when the man can chase. Attraction is not a choice but a relationship is. This is how a woman can measure and test a man's genuine interest. A man who gives up early because a woman is "hard to get" means he does not like her enough. He does not have enough fuel to go on. When a woman senses this, she should let him go. He is not in it for good. Oprah said, "If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay."
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
Like I told someone else here, chasing and pursuing are two different things. Pursuing is a man showing consistent interest in you, as long as he sees you're engaged. Chasing is a man heavily trying to convince you to like him back.
@TheSuperk25
@TheSuperk25 10 месяцев назад
@@SaveTheMessenger Pursuing and chasing overlap and are used interchangeably in the dating world. Here is the thing: The woman may like and be interested in a man but may have reservations. A man may experience feeling breadcrumbed at this point because of that reservation, whatever that is. Is he going to pursue or chase her? No problem here being liked. It's her trust that needs to be earned. Either or, a man who does not have marriage in mind and just wants booty will lose patience. Easy. Next!
@annado3885
@annado3885 10 месяцев назад
@@TheSuperk25well said!!!
@lmoney751
@lmoney751 10 месяцев назад
You make a good point. A man should reach out. But a man after a while he feels rejected if he puts in a lot of effort and it doesn’t lead anywhere. In a guys head it’s like she doesn’t even like me let me just stop bothering her
@Missburrataprosciutto
@Missburrataprosciutto 5 месяцев назад
Wow that explanation on “Never get a man to chase you” was probably one of the phrases that completely changed my mindset the moment you said it. That’s absolutely spot on. I never thought of that! Thank you! I’m currently dating this guy who I feel so compatible and safe with. I’ve constantly expressed my interest without the fear of expecting him to chase me. And he reciprocates with showing me interest. Hope this works out ❤😊
@twilight592
@twilight592 10 месяцев назад
The chase should never end in a relationship, partners should always aim to put their best foot forward.
@lindziep6319
@lindziep6319 9 месяцев назад
U have a point me and my present bf started with a lust then became interested then became attached and now were heading towards planning for our future together 😊 it takes longer but the important thing i learned from my past experience is communication is a must, and being true to yourself be honest to him makes it much clearer and also respect for both parties must be involved 😊
@Yomomma-jf9iy
@Yomomma-jf9iy 8 месяцев назад
He sure milked(used) you.
@serena5863
@serena5863 2 дня назад
Even if english is not my mother tongue (because i'm italian), it's the First time i can understand EVERYTHING without even subtitles. You have this power
@falconandthemoon
@falconandthemoon 10 месяцев назад
Wow… the info you provide here SO needs to become common knowledge!! Very helpful! 🙏🏻
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
That's very sweet of you. Thank you.
@oumaimaabouihia4550
@oumaimaabouihia4550 10 месяцев назад
I totally agree sex should never appear on a relationship at all not only first date because a relationship supposed to mean a-lot more than that, it should be built for a strong bond.
@carlaalmonte6788
@carlaalmonte6788 10 месяцев назад
Thank you Ismael for sharing and opening up to us!
@brigeetalight4394
@brigeetalight4394 4 месяца назад
Wonderful clarity you gave me here Ismael. So simple and yet so clear. Thank you. I am applying this straight away with a situation I'm in right now
@TheAttractionTriggers
@TheAttractionTriggers 8 месяцев назад
*Discovering how men fall in love helps us navigate our own relationships better. Let's celebrate the intricacies of love and strive to create a world filled with genuine connections.*
@AretiFani
@AretiFani 10 месяцев назад
I love your calm tone
@anabolano_
@anabolano_ 9 месяцев назад
You are amazing! Thank you for this video. I completely agree with you. We need more videos like this one. Love it!
@Degen_Damsel
@Degen_Damsel 10 месяцев назад
Amazing, insightful and honest video. Thank you!
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
I appreciate your kind words. Thanks for watching.
@millievanillie9700
@millievanillie9700 10 месяцев назад
💚so well explained, thank you 🧡
@maryesquilin2526
@maryesquilin2526 Год назад
I truly enjoy all the advice you’ve given, thank you 🥰
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 11 месяцев назад
thank you for the lovely comment.
@riyabanarjee1145
@riyabanarjee1145 5 месяцев назад
Thanks a lot for making this video and I really glad to see that you have also shared your personal experience with honest advices.
@justnakas
@justnakas 10 месяцев назад
First time watching you and loving it already
@DoodlePoodle199
@DoodlePoodle199 3 месяца назад
My husband and I met when he was 17 and I was 18. It was instant attraction and definitely lust at the beginning. We made each other wait a few months before we crossed the line into bed. It was obviously the right thing to do for many reasons. But it was tough as hell at the time 😂 Been together 24 years/married 17!
@LifeandLoveTarot
@LifeandLoveTarot Год назад
Thank you for the info. ❤
@hudycat
@hudycat 3 месяца назад
As a psychologist and a wife, this is a must watch for me. Thank you for sharing something important.
@julianasharma762
@julianasharma762 4 месяца назад
I never believed in making a man I like to chase me. I don't believe in that kind of process where we are only obsessing over what the other person wants, we should look out for ourselves too. Do "I" feel good around him, do I want this guy , am I happy with him, does he make me happy? This video has answered that part perfectly.
@palee8928
@palee8928 10 месяцев назад
You goes against your own experience. You said you lost interest after sex. Well that’s why “hard to get” women don’t sleep with men who don’t love them. Men do not run from women who “play hard to get.” Men chase women who they are attracted to and want to commit to. Men who run away from hard to get women (aka women who are not easy) are not men but boys.
@alexialira3839
@alexialira3839 10 месяцев назад
I took it that he lost interest after sex because he slept with her/them before getting to know her/them. After the act, he got to really know her better and realized they were actually incompatible. I mean, I think we've all been there (especially when we're young) that we see someone attractive, hype them up in our mind, our hormones are going off, but then we REALLY start talking and getting to know them more, but then realize they're nothing like we imagined...in a bad way 😖 Some people (again especially young ones) just end up sleeping with people they don't really know well...others of us don't do this...but both categories of ppl have the same experience of being attracted to an incompatible person. It's life. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Not everyone we date or sleep with is or has to be the "forever" person. In fact, only one (maybe 2 if you're a divorcee) will make the cut for becoming the wife/husband. Nobody is "bad" for realizing incompatibility and calling it quits. Side note, "playing hard to get"...idk if your mind equates this phrase to just having sex "early" or not, but let me just say that games attract players. Players are attracted to chasing, not you. Men interested in genuine healthy relationships are not going to take games. They'll smell them a mile away and peace out. They'll know you're trying to manipulate them and have unresolved psychological issues such as attachment issues brought on by childhood traumas, by choosing bad men to be in a relationship with, etc. My advice in dating is that people should 1. Have a healthy mind: a good self esteem, confidence and at least be working on psych issues 2. Get to really know the individual you're dating before you sleep with them and/or marry them.
@Disorrder
@Disorrder 10 месяцев назад
But what if she start to play hard-to-get after 3 days after meeting? And all these time before was nice and a lot of feedback.
@jamiemohan2049
@jamiemohan2049 10 месяцев назад
​@@Disorrderno not true. There is a difference between not sleeping with you quickly and acting completely uninterested and making no effort back. Most girls just don't make an effort back and are too hard to get along with. Playing games is something boys like more then men. Biggest players I know love the chase and will chase until they get it, then bounce.
@ChocoParfaitFra
@ChocoParfaitFra 10 месяцев назад
That’s true but I can tell u that my ex didn’t run away from me, I was hard to get because I wasn’t sure of being in a relationship and guess what? I’m sure he’s never loved me, he used me, betrayed me, lied to me and so on. It’s hard for me to accept that I lived all of this when he seemed so sure of wanting me. Toxic men go after hard to get women because they know they’re safe with them but have no heart and no intelligence to give them love and respect And with hard to get women I mean women who don’t jump immediately in a relationship or bed but want to know the person
@LNerys
@LNerys 9 месяцев назад
It's funny how women make all these rules and make the idiots who are stupid enough to love and respect them jump trough hoops, while spreading their buttcheeks wide open the moment they meet a guy that makes their pussy tingle... 😈 Keep them working, girls. 😂😂😂
@elenarotestan5823
@elenarotestan5823 10 месяцев назад
Love your honest message on this video. 👏
@thatAncientArtist
@thatAncientArtist 9 месяцев назад
Love how you explained this!! Thank you for sharing!! Definitely very helpful message!! 🙏🏾
@mariapescifeltri953
@mariapescifeltri953 10 месяцев назад
Hello. Never watched you on RU-vid. I follow you by Instagram. Thanks for those tips. Definitely men and women have different energies. I love my femenine energy and you are right; men doesn't fall in love by sex.❤
@Atlin.
@Atlin. 10 месяцев назад
so mens love is always temporary? damn no wonder ive been thinking they are a waste of time
@aaminaha1633
@aaminaha1633 10 месяцев назад
😂😂😂😂
@moonshinemermaid
@moonshinemermaid 10 месяцев назад
That's why not last long
@ARajantara777
@ARajantara777 10 месяцев назад
Yep. And actually they don't fall in love
@cyberninjasworld
@cyberninjasworld 10 месяцев назад
X2 😎
@smollilbean
@smollilbean 10 месяцев назад
True. I'd rather die a virgin than marry a man that's going to want to have segs with other women anyway and is actually "tolerating" me. No thank you.
@anthonyszymon3032
@anthonyszymon3032 5 месяцев назад
Living with an incurable disease is so hard, but you just have to live life day by day as it goes by (Cancer sucks)...
@nancysainhigh1354
@nancysainhigh1354 5 месяцев назад
It’s never the end of the world, but all problems can be solved. I never believed in miracles until Monica Erlene Mora helped me save my son.
@anthonyszymon3032
@anthonyszymon3032 5 месяцев назад
Who is this Monica Erlene Mora? And how can I get in touch?
@nancysainhigh1354
@nancysainhigh1354 5 месяцев назад
please check her on the web.
@susanhampton9671
@susanhampton9671 4 месяца назад
Hi. I prayed for your comfort and care. Most importantly, you are loved. We are rooting for your success. I have Heart Failure. I don't know everything you are going through, yet I am sympathetic.
@berfiinnnn
@berfiinnnn 3 месяца назад
Hello, I hope you’re doing okay. I hope you don’t mind me recommending for you to look up Innerspeak healing by Jean Adrienne. I am sure it will help you on your journey, if you’re alive now, your journey is till going on and you need healing (even if science says it’s not possible for your body) at least for your soul. I did not experience what you’re going through right now, but it was very serious that I don’t wanna share here. Innerspeak was the best thing to help me. I hope you find comfort in what’s best for you ❤
@julijajelic2953
@julijajelic2953 10 месяцев назад
wow its actually all chemistry…what a hot water discovery we have here…bravo, maestro!
@mairimcgonigill4347
@mairimcgonigill4347 3 месяца назад
Very helpful, thank you Ismael. ❤
@lheiachoi4506
@lheiachoi4506 10 месяцев назад
There's a saying that goes like this ... " Easy to get , easy to forget " , then it's true . 👍👍👍llee
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
or "you lose them how you catch them."
@alytaylor8974
@alytaylor8974 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing wisdom is powerful and is most important to have knowledge. Best to you on your adventure.
@enrikadaubaris
@enrikadaubaris 10 месяцев назад
very good thoughts, especially at the beginning of the vid, Many thanks!
@NikkiAquarius-wc8vj
@NikkiAquarius-wc8vj 8 месяцев назад
Thank you for this video .I really needed this .I truly understand better now.
@biuvalle
@biuvalle 9 месяцев назад
We just fall in love with people that feel familiar to us. They trigger something in us. It’s about behavior, hormones comes second to this.
@whyjustwhy2168
@whyjustwhy2168 6 месяцев назад
And what if we have abandonment as a child and so every guy that doesn't show they like u then u like them. I have given up and just am a bachelorette and like having seggs
@Julie_loves_YHVH
@Julie_loves_YHVH 9 месяцев назад
I have made those mistakes in my life but thankfully have abstained for the last almost 4 years. I now appreciate wanting to wait until I’m married instead of getting involved with someone that doesn’t want to commit to being married. I have chosen to honor the LORD with my life and my choices. I pray more people can come to that decision.
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 9 месяцев назад
I admire you for the new path you've chosen for yourself.
@Julie_loves_YHVH
@Julie_loves_YHVH 9 месяцев назад
@@SaveTheMessengerThank you! 😊
@Shinobu2506.
@Shinobu2506. 3 месяца назад
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️
@TeeAhhhna
@TeeAhhhna 2 месяца назад
@speedythings7396
@speedythings7396 Месяц назад
Lmao, what bs😂. Ain't no man wants it someone else got for free😂 Womyn suddenly find religion when they become powerless 😂
@dianadias3
@dianadias3 6 месяцев назад
This video was super important 🙏❤️ thank you
@NimishaChakma
@NimishaChakma 10 месяцев назад
This broked me even more when you said I had only lust for them ! 😐
@magdalenamm216
@magdalenamm216 10 месяцев назад
I like Your way of thinking :)) the older i get i feel less attracted to stranger - it takes time to build intimacy
@ninjaloverose8326
@ninjaloverose8326 10 месяцев назад
First time being on your yt chanal. You did a well explanation and I love how honesty you were telling us about this theme. Thank you so much for making this video😊. As a young woman in my early 20s I haven‘t been really dating any guys. Sometimes I just feel it is hard to keep up with a man when I realize they either getting of me, losing interest in me or just not my type after talking to them. Is there any advice how to make a comfortable conversation with a man... i feel sometimes I have to talk or come up with any stories in first place in order to keep a convo.
@softiiyahtoldyoutosmile
@softiiyahtoldyoutosmile 10 месяцев назад
If you’re the one who has to keep up the conversation going, then that guy is not for you. I think the guy who handles you with ease and you not really having to think much abt the conversation, etc. is the one for you.
@Choukobunbun
@Choukobunbun 9 месяцев назад
@@softiiyahtoldyoutosmileso true. When I first went out with my guy I was so nervous and worried about what to talk about and how to have a good conversation. But within the first couple of minutes of talking to him it just melted away. I’ve never been able to talk to someone who I just met like that before. Everything just flowed so naturally, and there were even moments where neither of us knew what to talk about, but it wasn’t awkward or uncomfortable at all. I never felt like I was forced to come up with something to make conversation, just felt at ease enjoying each other’s company even when there was nothing to be said.
@rosepeck9986
@rosepeck9986 10 месяцев назад
This makes so much sence, thank you
@joliecag4450
@joliecag4450 8 месяцев назад
Scrolling and reading through comment sections sharing with their Love story is making me Jealous 😂 not jealous in a negative way.
@nanetteconcepcion2502
@nanetteconcepcion2502 10 месяцев назад
Thnks for sharing it..I do understand fully wat u've just explain or try to deeply had a good way of telling it ..Well mostly attraction first comes along , it's definitely ryt..But it's more beyond the attraction only..If u wanna go more we nid to know more each other and it takes time..A lot of men always goes on the list level knowingly that they seem to be focusing on themselves not being aware of the womans feeling..It is also very impt.that we know our worth and be values in life..Don't just settle for less, instead for more deeper kind of relationship..
@michaelahrinco79
@michaelahrinco79 10 месяцев назад
I so agree with everything you have said I never developed anything for anyone if I slept with them it happened wen I didn’t sleep with someone ( I deliberately did that and feelings developed from it )
@a.c528
@a.c528 10 месяцев назад
That’s the point, people are just sleeping around and sex should be sacred only for our life spouse, this way you love this person truly
@irisfababeir9309
@irisfababeir9309 9 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing this info.
@crystalrangel4329
@crystalrangel4329 9 месяцев назад
Thank you so much Ismael this information I will take it to heart. I’m glad I found your channel and thank you for being transparent with us.
@sweetcupomom
@sweetcupomom 9 месяцев назад
Been getting to know this one guy, it's been 8 months, we haven't had sex yet and I'm glad that we haven't, the urge is there obviously but we do enjoy each other's company outdoors and all... I hope it'll be magical when we get to that stage
@lizannegarcia
@lizannegarcia Год назад
Knowledge is power💪🏽Love your videos❤
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger Год назад
That's exactly right Lizanne. Thanks for watching.
@lizannegarcia
@lizannegarcia Год назад
@@SaveTheMessenger I will keep following your posts on IG too😘where do you live?
@carlosam23282
@carlosam23282 7 месяцев назад
Appreciate your honesty. Btw I love your hair 😂
@hgo772
@hgo772 10 месяцев назад
absolutely great video! please keep them coming. I agree 100% that abstaining can be rewarding. Too much casual sex rewires our brain, so we become addicted to the 'pump and dump' feeling. In return, that'd jeopardize our future possibilities to fall in love or even feel it. People should stop throwing away right and left advice about 'yeah girl go for the hoephase' because sex does not equal empowerment
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner 10 месяцев назад
That's total nonsense to quildtrip women who enjoy sex.
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner 10 месяцев назад
Every fourth men buys a prostitute at least once a month. Do they loose their ability to build long term relationshis?
@hgo772
@hgo772 10 месяцев назад
@@CordeliaWagner please stop promoting the "hoe mentality" it's hurting young girls and women. men who sleep with many prostitutes of course end up struggling in a relationship, coz they will long for the pump and dump feeling. This leads to cheating as sleeping with strangers turns to an addiction. women can enjoy sex with a serious partner. Often one night stands are sloppy, the women dont even climax, dont even remember the guy's name. With a serious partner u can talk about fantasies, what u like, when someone loves u they put effort to pleasing u and making it feel amazing. This is not the case with casual sex. there are studies about the harmful effects of numerous sexual partners. The more partners one has, the more they lose the ability to feel a strong loving intimate bond with someone. This damage may be permanent too as it rewires the brain. i used to think like u, i used to think my friend raising awareness about this is dumb and backwards. It took me over 6 years to realize how damaging casual sex with random people is.
@haddaouichaimaa3379
@haddaouichaimaa3379 10 месяцев назад
​@@CordeliaWagnerbeing sexual all the time does not mean you're a strong independent women that's bullshit fucking everybody everywhere just means you're a hoe have some respect for yourself girls like you are the one who degenerated our society
@Chanoli
@Chanoli 10 месяцев назад
@@CordeliaWagneryou don’t understand that we are different? And the situation of getting a prostitute and ONS is different?
@fashion_and_stitching_idea3598
@fashion_and_stitching_idea3598 10 месяцев назад
Respect your honesty .❤
@Aarci2001
@Aarci2001 3 месяца назад
Great video! Thank you! ❤
@tatianapereira703
@tatianapereira703 7 месяцев назад
Thank you ! Very well explained
@ineslight5153
@ineslight5153 Год назад
So true ❤
@swedenisthebest01
@swedenisthebest01 10 месяцев назад
When I was 18 I saw this boy at my school and fell in love instantly. I sent him a letter and we were together for 10 months and then he broke up with me. I was devastated. It’s been 13 years now and I am still in love with him. I’ve never felt this about anyone else. I can’t forget about him, it feels like I’m living in a nightmare. Miss him so much. He was a very sweet, shy and adorable boy. The kind of boy you never notice, he had no friends. He’s still single today. The only thing I know is that I want to see him again, but I don’t know how 😔 My heart is forever bound to him 🥺💔
@zevirra4494
@zevirra4494 10 месяцев назад
Im so sorry to hear that, may I ask why the breakup? (If you dont mind, sorry, Im simply curious). Wishing you all the best, and I hope that your hearts will heal one way or another
@forreal1276
@forreal1276 10 месяцев назад
If you still feel that way , I say this is your sign to reach out…
@swedenisthebest01
@swedenisthebest01 10 месяцев назад
@@zevirra4494 He said his feelings had changed and he wanted to "take a break” or just end it. But that's what I still keep wondering about, I don't really remeber why his feelings changed or maybe if he didn't say why.. It just happend so fast, only weeks before he said he loved me and missed me and we spent everyday together almost, and then he just started getting distant. I guess that's why I clicked on this video, I need to understand why he fell out of love and maybe how to get his attention somehow again 😊 which probably won't happen, but the last thing you lose is hope I guess. Thank you for your kind words, wishing you all the best too
@MA-2020
@MA-2020 9 месяцев назад
Maybe, just maybe, after 10 months being together, he realized, he didn't love you as much as you loved him. So, receiving your love felt kinda heavy to him (he felt guilt for he couldn't reciprocate your love the way you deserved) If that was the case, don't worry sweetheart, he just isn't the one for you. It's not your fault. You deserve someone who wants you as much as you want him. 💕
@Mynameisdarkxxo
@Mynameisdarkxxo 9 месяцев назад
This is honestly my biggest fear. Being in love with someone for that long, but in certain cases, it’s obsession
@magdalenamm216
@magdalenamm216 5 месяцев назад
Ismael ! That’s such a a beautiful message!!!! Especially from someone good looking and young ! I think u are really good human being :)))
@Godsgrace222
@Godsgrace222 4 месяца назад
You are so on point and honest too about your own experiences 👍
@curaturable
@curaturable 10 месяцев назад
Very good informative video Should be. Learned in schools and college ❤❤❤
@soomelamoosamoghadam9286
@soomelamoosamoghadam9286 10 месяцев назад
Yes! Early sex ruins the relationship or dating process
@kbar6644
@kbar6644 2 месяца назад
great ideas. one thing about making men chase me, i always thought that it didnt mean women should be hard to get, instead it was more about letting the guy work for your trust and pursue you
@dirahhopelamont2734
@dirahhopelamont2734 3 месяца назад
Im so glad I listened to this because I never thought that a husband providing for his household is his way of love. I was never told to work since we got married and I had an option to do so if I wanted to, so I prefer to serve him at home and our household and loving it. He provided everything and never complained. We're married almost 19 years now and we're also bf so it helps a lot in a relationship that you also want to do things together because you enjoy each other's company.
@SuraDoes
@SuraDoes 10 месяцев назад
Currently, I am in a relationship with a man 6 years younger than me, something I thought wouldn’t happen at my age of 27. He is kind, ambitious and we have respect for each other. He is so patient as well and great with children. I worry he is focusing more on our physical connection and not enough on our emotional connection. Any advice on how to deepen our emotional connection in a natural and healthy way?
@devashrijoshi9079
@devashrijoshi9079 10 месяцев назад
My ex was like this too. 3 years younger than me. The quickest way is honestly to ask him how he views you. If he's really a man & really in love with you, he wouldn't avoid critical discussions like these unlike my ex did
@SaveTheMessenger
@SaveTheMessenger 10 месяцев назад
Try to find moments where you are completely focused on each other. No distractions. No TV, no phones, nothing. And then try to have a conversation about the things you like about him. Wait to see if he reciprocates the comments.
@Yomomma-jf9iy
@Yomomma-jf9iy 8 месяцев назад
He is using you. Most men are ephebophiles.
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