How Menopause is Affecting Our Relationship | Fridays with Tab and Chance 

Not the "I was cold when I was anemic when pregnant with your daughter! " "I was cold eating them ice chips when I couldn't eat, having your son! " baby that mama card never declines! No matter the conversation, it applies 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hot flashes literally feels like your body is catching on fire!!! I've literally pulled ALL of my clothes off at some point just to cool off. It's a horrible feeling, and it makes you feel sick until it passes. First years of our life we have to deal with periods, the second half we have to deal with menopause. We can't catch a break!!!

Okay Uncle Chance and Auntie Tab! This is what y'all need! 1. Bed that allows a change in temp for each side and doesn't move the other side when the other person gets up. 2. Maybe heated bathroom floor. 3. Uncle Chance you need a floor heater or suh'n ! 4. Auntie Tab! You need a cooling pad that you can sleep on I loved this episode. I am cracking up.

I had a partial hysterectomy at 30 Menopause is miserable, I wake up every morning at 3.. DRENCHED ..ANXIOUS and Nauseous 😢 daily then I’m FREEZING I’m so freaking tired of this feeling. I m looking into HRT . Nobody talks to you about menopause and they really should, their should be a mandatory class 😂😂😂 ❤. Stay strong ladies

My husband comes in the bedroom and he says he can see the frost coming out of his mouth and I’m asleep ON TOP OF THE COVERS.

I laughed throughout this entire episode 🤣🤣🤣. Laughter is the best medicine ‼️ 💊

I been dealing with menopause since 43 I will be 54 at the end of this month. I been dealing with these hot flashes, mind fog, joint pain, weight gain, I can’t sleep good, no depression or vagina dryness. I would have to say the hot flashes are the worst. I’m glad that I live alone so I can have it as cold as I need it to be. My kids and friends come visit I let them know they have two choices 1. Grab a blanket 2. Leave and go back home. Sorry not sorry! Im praying for us all. 🙏🏼😊I leave my air on 60 year around

Tab said “I ain’t got the problem” I almost choked and just started laughing so hard!!!!

Invest in a heated mattress pad cover! They have dual thermostats where Chance can warm the side of the bed he sleeps on! The best thing ever!

Chance wore his t-shirt, Chance came to tell his story!!!!! I LOVE THIS!!!!! He lives in an igloo with Tab!!!

Hey Tab and ladies going through this. There are natural ways to maneuver this season of our lives. Do your own research and see what works for you. But I microdosed with mushrooms, take magnesium and drink herbs daily. My quality of life has significantly improved. I no longer have hot flashes or insomnia which were my two worst symptoms

Before I finally got a hysterectomy, I bled sooooo much! Its crazy what we have to go through as women!!

I'm no where near menopause lol but I just want to say Ms. Tab looks so beautiful and glowing in this episode 😍skin and Donna looking amazing!

Yes snoring does cause some couples to sleep in separate rooms and are still married

Well, Chance, you may not know it, but I'm 49, and men do go through menopause. We also have hot flashes, cranky, emotional, forgetful, confusing sex drive, and not to mention not being able to be completely empty your blatter. Men aren't allowed to feel anything, so we play strong and keep our emotions and body changes to ourselves. We have to talk and see a doctor you can trust. A doctor who listens and is more holistic than a pill pusher.

Chance didn’t know as soon as we feel heat, we wake up 😂

Chance said, "I feel like you 'bout to be real petty." 😂😂😂

" she gonna burn our dog gone AC Unit out" 😂😂😂😂

My AC is on 68 right now 😂😂😂😂😂 but when Chance said 🗣🗣 If you think your lonely now! I almost feel out the bed laughing so hard Chance was spot on 😂😂😂😂😂

I started having hot flashes when I turned 50 years old. I used to keep our bedroom cold as well at night but then I wanted to compromise with my husband and I purchased a small fan that I keep on my nightstand that blows on me every night that keeps me cool. My parents slept in different rooms. My mom and dad used to say it was the best decision they ever made. They were married for more than 50 years before they passed away.

I understand exactly what Tab is going through. I've gone through menopause myself. Being hot and cold is the worst. Most men don't understand what women be going through.

My husband and I had a heated mattress cover that could heat each side independently so whoever was cold could heat themselves up before getting out of the bed. Worked wonders! And better than any blanket.

I'm a senior who has gone through menopause, and trust me, most senior couples that I have ever known, slept in separate rooms. I'm pretty sure that the wife's menopausal symptoms were one of the reasons why. Another possible reason I've found, is because of a spouse who snores. Usually it would be the husband Sleeping in separate rooms was simply more logical, because it allowed each spouse to get a good, comfortable, and restful night's sleep.

I understand completely...those hot flases are no joke... I sleep alone at night...and I get on my own nerves.. my kids say they don't know how to dress.. they say "should we dress according to the season outdoors or the temperature indoors"... I can't do nothing but laugh and thank them for their understanding.. cause they know Mama going to adjust the temperature.. loved this topic and your channel❤

I’m like Chance I’ve heard a lot of older couples sleep in separate beds too or separate rooms, some even in different homes but are still married. Whatever works 🤟🏽

I would love to see a menopause simulator like they have pregnancy simulators for our fellas. Ya’ll are absolutely amazing! ❤

I so loved this episode, even reached my hand out to the screen when you said let's touch and agree.😅 Sadly I started peri-menopause 3 months into my marriage 5 years ago. LAWD we had a time....but now that I have entered menopause, one year now and I'm 54, some of my symptoms are starting to subside. I do sleep with a fan on every night and I have that one foot that has to be out of the covers most nights. My hubby had to make some adjustments to our "hot & bothered" time, but we're coming around the bend. I love that you two could laugh and be serious at the same time. Menopause is no joke and I would encourage men to really research it and get an understanding about the 46+ symptoms we go through when going through menopause. That understanding can help A LOT, when watching your woman transition into the next season/chapter of her life. Blessings!!!

My grandparents slept in separate. Don’t do it 😆 Men go ahead and know when to pause and support your partner through this season of their life. Adjust 😊

I’m hot and my husband is cold. It’s battle of the thermostat in my house. I love this topic.❤. Thanks for your transparency.

For some women, in addition to the hot flashes, weight gain, etc, emotions can be out of control. I heard of people having mood swings associated with menopause, but when I got it, I didn't realize it. So changes in emotions and moods could be a side effect of menopause and not a mental illness.

Chance looked scared as hell bringing the beat in. 💀😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

I am 49 and have yet to start, thank you lord. My mother was an absolute monster during menopause. Lord give me strength👏🏿

This whole episode is straight comedy.😂 I hope you get some relief soon Tab (you too Chance)!

Thank you for bringing up a touchy topic that’s not spoken about! YALL are too cute! Thank you for the true black love power, the BLP! ❤😂

This is so great. I'm older, i had a hysterectomy at 40 and it put me in hyper menopause. Craziness. Super hot flashing. 🔥 My husband said it was in my head until i put my sweat on him😊

OMG!!! I haven’t laughed this hard in weeks. I needed this! Hang in there Chance:) @TabithaBrown you looked so naturally beautiful. Ur skin was GLOWING…

Men have hormone issues also from low testerone however most men don’t get checked out. Hot flashes, no energy, low sex drive etc. I started having hot flashes the past few years (I’m 41) and would wake up with my neck wet. And I was always in a terrible mood and couldn’t figure out why. I’m on testerone treatment now and it has helped.

I had a partial hysterectomy due to fibroids that put me in early menopause. These hot flashes are no joke. I have to have the ceiling fan on, a little personal fan blowing on me, and a cooling blanket. My husband has a heater, wears his robe, and wrapped in a blanket because I have it cold in our house😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

When the doctor advised me that I was in full blown menopause, I asked my husband if he had ever been around a woman going through menopause. When he said no, I said "well brace yo'self hubby, it's gonna be a hellava ride!!" Yep the temp is 67, our ceiling fan is on full speed, and I'm on the top fo the covers sweating.

Im going through it now, I will be 50 Next month. I had to have Ovarian Torsion Surgery October 1st, now with only ovary, now i feel like I'm in full blown menopause. What we have to go through as Women. Prays to all the Ladies dealing with this. It's no joke! God bless🙏 everyone

The J.R. cam is priceless 😂😂😂

I'm 48, started at 46...I started holding weight (excited about) and irregular monthly cycles...but those hot flashes - OMG - I feel like I'm about to combust ..Like a character from Marvel comics.. I carry a "menopause" fan in my dang purse. I hope she mentions the brain fog and forgetfulness. I get my hormones checked annually - the drop in estrogen can cause pain and symptoms like arthritis... the drop in testosterone has it's challenges.. It's NO DAMN JOKE.

The hollering I did through this episode! WHEW!! LOLLLLL Loved it!

Going through it ALL right now. I keep a remote control fan on my side of the bed that runs all night until I get too cold. The sleepless nights are real emotional roller coaster. We all will get through it. Love you guys. This is real talk, we needed this.

This episode was so so funny to me. I’m 46 and I’m here to say men go through menopause of some dirt too. Their testosterone start dropping. They loose hair, get cranky, be tired, gain weight and they wake up a lot in the muffle of the night. An older later told me this years ago I didn’t believe it. But my hubby start experiencing these symthoms but he refuse to say it’s cause of menopause. And 67 degrees isn’t cold it’s good sleep 🤣👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

That was a great episode.... I believe my peri-menopause started in my late 30's and now that I'm 42 it's showing up and out!!! Everything has changed.... my mood, the desire to be intimate with my husband, my motivation to get out.... I get night sweats in addition to the hot flashes so I can definitely can relate to this and my husband is trying to accommodate all while being confused too!!!

I started menopause at 45 years old. I had my last child at 32. I did not know what it was. I had no idea how to deal with it. Then I had to educate myself and trying to educate. My husband was oh so hard but thank you so much for this video. Man need to look at this everywhere for their wives that's going through it. I love your platform

Interesting, when Tab first started about her hip and other issues I thought peri-menopause. Decreases in estrogen can cause joint issues. Is a normal life transition for women. Sadly, we have started to make it an illness. Keep shining Tab. Your healthy eating will have a positive impact on the process. 💜🙏🏽

I started peri menopause at 53 and menopause the following year, I only get warm for like 2 min and back to normal but I use a tiny fan on my night stand to keep me cool throughout the night. I am blessed no major hot flashes no sweats no mood swings. Thank you Jesus.

OMG...yes my grandparents slept in different rooms and you would never know unless you slept over with them! Wow...never thought that it could have been because of menopause🤔 Thank you so very much for this thought process. I wished they'd been open enough to share especially my grandmother who lived passed my grandfather and her 2nd husband...that would have been some great data🙏 This was such a real episode. I truly thank you both for being oh so real as always🥰😍

The air is on, and the ceiling fan and floor fan is on sometimes. It feels good to me.

When Chance said "I considered peeing on myself..." 😂😂😂

I feelyou Tab. I wake up in a sweat, I can be in a store and comfortable, and all of a sudden, I'm dripping wet. To help with the temperature fluctuations at night, my husband brought me a fan for my nightstand. My daughter also brought me a personal hand-held fan that I take to the stores and church. It has been over 8 years for me.

Tab and chance, I just loss my big sister on Thursday and I have been heartbroken. But Laugh watching this , I really needed that laugh when Tab was sing and said, “I just got hot”😂😂😂❤️

Tab I started menopause at 38yrs old. What I think will help you is a mattress that has separate heating/cooling on each side. That way you can have it cold on your side and not have the AC running 🤷🏽‍♀️ I feel for Chance. I cannot have the house cold, even with flashing

This tickled me y’all too much😂Chance in the bed dressed like an Eskimo ❄️you can feel the love between these two and genuine friendship, all that eye contact is so beautiful ❤

This was the funniest, most truest episode ever! Yall are hilarious!! Chance said If you think you're lonely now...OMG! I wanted to holla!!😂🤣🤣

I love this whole conversation. I’m probably in menopause but I still get dizzy or hot flashes every so often. But the anxiety is real. My grandparents slept in separate beds but same room. I understand completely.

I have a floor fan turned toward me with a small remote control that sleeps on my nightstand and sometimes next to me in bed. I have one in my office and family room ….Get you one Tab …..this menopause can last for years!!! Don’t do him like that…..compromise.

The heat is within, but if you sleep, naked, it helps! that’s what I had to do. My husband was happy about it.

Auntie Tab I started at age 30 and I’m 53 now so I’m menopausal free but gurl I’ll pray that trial is not bad !! I didn’t had flashes or only depression more !! I’ll pray for Auntie ❤🙏🏿

Men, you don't know how easy they got it, all you guys need is a little heating pad. We cramp from age 15-45. Push all our babies out after 6 months of morning sickness, then flashing from age 45-65. It's never ending

Solution - move to the Caribbean. You both will be good to go!

73 is unacceptable at bedtime! I am with you Tab!!! 67 is perfect under the covers.

Ms. Tab, I have been going through menopause for over 16 years! Get ready in the event it lasts longer! And I bought a heating pancho for my husband to help keep him warm!

Chance you should get a heated blanket. They come with two controllers - her side can be off but your side can be on and that way you won’t lose your toes from frostbite

Chance said walk yourself right into it 😂😂😂😂😂

43 and post menopausal😢. I appreciate this conversation cause folks do not get it!! And great to see Mr. Oz (aka JR😅😂).

Tab, I KNOW I KNOW 😂😂😂 Chance said you are trying to get it on record for the people 😂😂😂😂😂

It’s AWeeeeeeamazing what we WOMBMAN have to go through from periods to pregnancy to postpartum to tying tubes or removing them to men a pausssse! Men pause for cause and give your WOMBMAN a salute and GRACE with A/C LOL

Ya'll are sooo adorably cute, funny and the most amazing couple to watch. @Chance if I may suggest, try getting a heating blanket to sleep under for Chance, and cozy warm slippers for Chance to put on when Chance has to walk in the 🥶lol cold to the bathroom, and a cozy fluffy robe to wear when Chance get out of bed. There are so many solutions for you Chance. Don't leave Tab in that bed by herself lol, Ya'll keep being yourself together 4 ever, Ya'll are both simply amazing. We enjoy watching you two be great!!!. I love you both ❤

Thank y’all for this I cried and laughed over and over again! Ive watched this too many times now and I really needed this laughter during this time in my life. Thanks again😂😂

LMBO😂😂 Tab you ain't lying.. my hubby said dang honey, there's heat coming off your body..

Beautiful couple! I love to see you laugh together!

The hot flashes and period irregularities began for me in my late 30s. It was complicated by the growth of fibroids. In 2019, I had a myomectomy to remove the fibroids and that helped put me into early perimenopause. I went into menopause in 2022 being diagnosed as post-menopausal (meaning over 12 months and a day with no period) in 2023. I still have hot flashes at times. But then there are times it’s just hot period. I can tell the difference. But I’ve had the hot flashes, joint pain, and insomnia since my late 30s. The frequent bathroom trips began in the past couple of years. And it is a pain. 😩🥴

Tab, you need the Ooler cooling mat for your side of the bed. You can set the temperature cooler for you. It saved me and helped me sleep better during perimenopause. The temp in the room can be comfortable for Chance and you can be cooler when you have hot flashes.

I’m with you Tab! The first click is to turn the light on the thermostat and the 2nd click is to actually adjust it. 😂 Sorry Chance. lol 😂🤣 #hellflashes 🥵

🙋🏽‍♀️Yes yes sis I understand....my auto immune disease sent me into menopause at 30😢😞...so my chances of being a mom was done...but good topic...my husband of 28 yrs be cold too....thanks for sharing....ya'll hang in there...take care ...ky

You are just starting out girl. I was past 50 and still going through it. You can get through it. You have to be patient. There are hormone free things you can take to help you. Talk to others for ideas. Drinking certain teas can help you relax at night. Give Chance a break at night and try a compromise.

The best Friday with Tab and Chance thus far that I've seen!! I feel you Tab. I'm going to be 61 in 7 days and have hot flashes all day and at night! I wake up with my back soaked, I sleep on my back. I have a tower fan directed at me on high all night and still sweat. I was told menopause never goes away, once your in menopause you are never out of menopause, but symptoms may change. I've had symptoms for over 9 years now and they are not minimizing yet.

Yes the heated blankets are the best and sheets

Physical Changes: Menopause often brings physical changes such as hot flashes, vaginal dryness, and changes in libido. These changes can affect a woman's comfort level and desire for intimacy, which may impact the physical aspect of a relationship. Mood Swings and Emotional Changes: Hormonal fluctuations during menopause can lead to mood swings, irritability, and increased emotional sensitivity. Partners may need to navigate these changes and find ways to support each other emotionally. Communication Challenges: Menopause may come with symptoms like fatigue and difficulty concentrating, which can impact communication. Partners should be patient and understanding, adapting their communication styles to accommodate these changes.

My grand parents slept in different rooms… and the tv shows had parents sleeping in seperate beds…. So I thought that was normal for couples until I got older and seen and know differently now… I learned over the years all those problems the grandparents had in their marriages and they were just in the same house living… grew up found things and talked to other people who saw it as well and listened to how they learned if the marital problems between the grandparents once they got older

I would not have much quality of life without the bio-identical hormone creams that, thankfully, got rid of my hot flashes and other symptoms. It's still not a cake walk but it's so so much better now since I started the creams. THANK YOU for talking about this, Tab. We need to normalize talking about this -- every single woman who lives past 40-50+ will go through this. When I was at the stage you're at, Tab, I just got some progesterone cream from a company called Ona's and started on that -- fixed those hot flashes and other symptoms. I only added estriol/estradiol several years later.

Chance I would suggest you keep your robe next to the bed or wear some thermals. Hot flashes/night sweats are a beast. Wait til Tan has to get up and out a towel down because the sheet and blankets are wet from sweating in 67 degrees 😆

They are so beautiful together ❤😂

Lord knows I feel you Tab! The struggle is reallllll!!!

Thanks for talking about this!

This episode was SOOOO on point! Gurl, I feel your pain, cuz I'm going thru it too and it ain't fun! Thank you both for the laughter and great conversation in this discussion. Blessings and Tab, we'll get thru it! Much love to you both!

😂😂😂you guys are hilarious!! If you think you lonely now… 😂😂😂😂

Tab you are so blessed to have such a cutie supportive husband! Men-o-pause is brutal for all involved lol 😂😂And Chance you are certainly blessed to have Gorgeous, Smart Tab, treat our baby girl great, but we see you do! YALL are the true epitome of BLP Black Love Power! ❤

My emotions have balanced out. In the beginning everything upset me, one day I was happy, the next day I was super sad and emotional

It really is no joke. I am 52 and these “hot” flashes were controlling my life. I can feel them coming on and sometimes I would get nauseous. At times, I get angry. I feel like the Incredible Hulk. I was also sleeping with the AC on 68. That’s the only way I can sleep. Otherwise, I wake up feeling like my life is spiraling out of control 😅. I started taking 100% Black Cohosh and Evening Primrose Oil to help balance me out. It has made a big difference in my life. And I ordered them both from Amazon. Don’t get them from Walmart or the drugstore because they only have a small percentage of the herbs. I also deal with weight gain and joint pain. I recently went vegan per God’s orders. It’s only been one month, but the combination of things are helping.

I love Tab & Chance!!!!!!!!! God please keep them in Your Love❤️🙏🏾

Love the complicity ❤

I love how understanding your husband is 🤍

Hey, I'm 48 and perimenopausal here. I wish us as women talked more about vaginal atrophy. We talk about the hot flashes, which I haven't experienced, yet this vaginal atrophy is trying to take me out! I'm not dry, yet the vaginal walls have thinned out!😢

Great episode. Thanks for being so transparent. Things I wish my elders would have shared.

You are sooo inspirational and I learn so much from all of your conversations here. I hope do you a conversation on how you maintaining healthy boundaries with friends/family at times of tragedy when I think folks tend to break all human laws.. with love.

Y’all are so cute and funny🤣🤣🤣🤣I’m dying laughing watching this episode. Tab, put a personal fan on your side and y’all leave that thermostat at 68 😅