I’m a 20 year old who’s just deleted her instagram and facebook an hour ago and I can’t wait to start feeling the little and ‘mundane’ positive life aftermaths.
Cloudy Azi oh boy… after 29 days, i got back on and i am sadly still on. the addiction is worse than ever, i suppose, because i keep convincing myself i need it to keep friends and socialise. my city has been in lockdown since the end of june and will be until at least the end of august
These ‘conveniences’ have made our society sick & isolated/separated ~ I wish people focused & cared more about each other ‘in person’ like we used to do!
Social media is like a person who is thinking of playing guitar is talking to a person who is thinking of cooking....They dont see each other so they dont know what the person wants to talk about or how much....and they talk of topics not of themselves socializing.
Interestingly, this talk was viewed so far by only 29K from 346K subscribers of this channel. And, if you look at other Cal Newport's talks, you will observe the same. His talks are definitely not for all, and never will be viewed by millions. But, in fact, they have much, much more value that 99% of other staff one can find on RU-vid.
Cal Newport is an amazing mind. This video/podcast is brilliant. The younger generations should absolutely hear what Cal, or others like him, has to say on this issue. Cal presents it perfectly. It’s heartbreaking that there are; and will continue to be if it doesn’t stop….generations of young people that were born into a world never knowing what it’s like NOT to have social media; or that life is not meant to be lived through thier phone apps. We need to show them that life is out here; not in there. STAT.
I got mentally ill bad!! I started to compare myself and was constantly doin that and beating myself up and becoming jealous and hating people i really likked and loved whem they started posting things for likes and sympathy. Litterally beocme addicted craving my phone and craving notifications. I quit for 5 months but went back becuse i hosted an event. The 5 months gone i got my health back and it was so nice to live my life and not others. I juust left again for 4 weeks and stilll off with no intent to return. RU-vid is good enough for me. Ive gained so much time back with my life and feeels so right to actually live life in real time. Social media is a waste of life, exactly what the enemy wants us doing. But not me!! Im spending the rest of my life looking up at the sky instead of down at my screen 🙏
true. They don't even make an effort anymore to do basic things like text back or end a text conversation properly because apparently, now, we are 'always connected'
It's lonely at the top. Listen to him. "Friends" on social media are not real friends, period. Take feelings of isolation and get to know yourself. "To thine own self be true." Love yourself and you will attract real friends because you will be mentally healthy. Social media is an addiction!!!
Twitter is 8th grade note passing and Facebook/Instagram is like a high school year book. Can be interesting but have become way to much. One word: Immature These things have taken the term "Couch Potato" to new highs. Used to be just TV now you never have to leave home to do anything. Just sit there and swipe away. Gained some weight? No worries, just post a picture of yourself from 10 years ago when you were thin. As long as you get the likes that is all that matters. We can all just pretend.
On social media, you are trying to get attention. You have to ask yourself whether it is genuine. Many of my posts are ignored. People attention is focused on virtual. I left many groups furious.
Dr Hyman always giving the most up to date info. He is a pleasure to listen to and has great interactions with his guests. Thanks for doing another fantastic interview.
Reddit was my biggest culprit. I've quit that and deleted it off my phone, and there's a noticeable increase in my attention span and a decrease in my time spent staring at my phone.
You should know better if you are in your 80s. I'm 77 and I've never had a smart phone (I have an old flip cell phone only, no texting, no carrying around with me, etc) or social media account. I'm an artist who intuitively knew how damaging all this tech was for the human spirit. I'm so grateful I listened to my inner wisdom.
Ok Boomer...🤪 Facebook is BOOMERS, that's why I got off. Now they are trying to keep up on instagram, so I deleted that, too 😂😂😂. Who wants to be friends with their granny or great grandma? 👊😂💀
@@freedomisthechoicesyoumake8594 You speak as though they are following you around...you also speak like someone that parrots social media "insults" 'coz you think you sound cool...you either don't know what a boomer is or can't do basic math...neither Julie nor Rita are boomers. Now run along and delete RU-vid coz people of older generations are here too...'coz you're just that special!
@ 29: 30 Digital Minimalism Philosophy. "This is my philosophy towards my digital tools. I've thought about it. It's based on my values. And, I can follow it. I can use it to pushback, make a bulwark against these...addictive forces trying to get at my attention. And, so that's the motivation." *Digital minimalism: start with your VALUES, figure out how to use technology to help them. IGNORE THE REST.* ... and turn your phone back into a phone. (@ 33:42)
Use technology and don't let it use you ❤ everything has positives and negatives. I don't think we need to quit social media, we just need to know what is too much
Tell an alcoholic not to drink some much.... Doesn't work. They make social media addictive. Maybe some can resist the addiction, but in reality most teenagers can't. It's just a fact. Best solution for most people is no social media.
Whenever Cal said “Social Media”, I heard “Sugar”. Abstinence from carbs is most effective in the presence of fat, and the two mixed ad libitum is deleterious. So then what is the digital equivalent of dietary fat, 🤔 ? Newspapers? Television? Books? He’s more correct than not, but there’s more to this equation than saying don’t eat ... There’s got to be a “Eat this...”
Good point! Maybe though swopping carb age with fats ( keto movement doesn't say no carbage just very limited eg 50g or less a day) equates with digital by limiting usesage to what develops your path / values , using it for what jobs had in mind in 2007 and swop it with analogue ( books papers ,radio ,learn an instrument, volunteer , sports,family/partner friends conversation, basically get a real life !!) The real life analogue activities are the beneficial fats . Much more fulfilling and satiating ( like fats )
Thank you so much, Dr. Hyman; I loved your interview, and I loved hearing what Cal Newport had to say! I didn't hear the word "luddite" until very near the end. I have been afraid for several years that I am indeed a luddite where social media is concerned, but today I learned that I am a digital minimalist instead! Sounds much better :) I never have any trouble finding your content. I do have a Facebook account, which I access once a day, for 15 minutes to half an hour, usually listening to music. Thanks again to both of you!
What I dont like about youtube or social media that I write my thought or opinion feeling, but then I want to delete it, because no matter how thoughtful the message is.... we shouldn't spend time writting some mesages that some unknown person will read....it may be inspirational but it shouldn't be a purpose spend time to write opinions all the time. It's not productive..... What´s is the point that thousand people will write 1000 opinions under some photo or video. The people don't know each other. Maybe writing the blog is better or more healthy as he said.....It seems like I write the comment just to satisfy the subconscious mind or the ego-mind... or to get some dopamine... but it's not so important because it may be an inspiration for someone, to read it, but it's short, the person has to create his/her own ideas or rules, his her mind will forget all stuff he or she read and will remember only a few of them.
Thing I noticed with social media is. Everyone on social media even RU-vidrs are about validation was a valuable today on social media.. vs in person you putting in allot of work into hobbies things you love hard work often times being hired versus putting up an easy post on social media seeking attention validation.
I think Instagram has bigger pictures that can be zoomed in to make them bigger so you will look at them often..... Pinterest has smaller pictures, you can't zoom it for the reason that you can zoom them only by clicking on it to visit some store or website.. But I didn't think about how Pinterest earns money from it..But I like the fact that Pinterest offers inspirational artistic pictures that are hard to find through google.. like some provision from the stores or websites.. I don't use Pinterest often, I don't have a smartphone only a computer. Facebook is based on shared sites it shows you not only groups you follow but also groups that are followed by your friends or even by people who you don't follow but they follow the groups you follow.... it like some playing ping pong with your mind.... You would go to a store or restaurant.... and the store doesn't show pictures of 100 similar stores and restaurants and recommendations of hundreds of people you don't know who visited the store.. It's a weird system that makes no sense... If I already visit my favorite store and have a limited amount of money why I should go to multiple recommended stores ... if I already ate my food in my favorite store. It just teaches you to have no opinion or to be hesitant about things you want or need....If I already visit one club of some group of people why I should visit multiple similar clubs and groups.... if I didn't give value to the first one. It should teach you to stay in the first group and then follow multiple groups and not be tempted all the time to enter other groups and clubs.... You can not do 10 things at the same time.
I’m doing it but I need to stay on market place because I’m a reseller. I have been off Fb I haven’t posted anything becuase I remember I would already be planning to post on whatever I was doing that was fun. I wanted to show it off but I felt like such a fake person I didn’t feel real. Today I had dinner with friend and her family and we talked I didn’t care about posting about us I just enjoyed the moment. But I do want to get off completely cuAse it affects my mental health watching people having fun all the time and going on vacations and that crazy cuAse I compare myself. Thankyou so much and God bless hope this gets to my sons
Facebook catches attention to distract you for 90 percent..... Your feelings, you feel distracted, bored You ay only 10 percent to yourself.... Facebook recommends groups that are the same, of topic you follow....your feelings are you feel the same, no matter what you follow ...... Facebook recommends people you don't know personally.... your feelings are that you feel confused, you don't know who you are, you don't know who they are.... You seek approval about what you do is right to satisfy some algorithm. If you don't get the approval you do other stuff, you never feel satisfied, because your mind is not designed for this way of social interactions.....You feel confused distracted and don't pay attention to your own feelings. You just stimulate the brain with dopamine coming from overconsumption and approvals and recomendations.
@38:53 yes, they still make paper maps and they are very helpful! I was travelling in a city and instead of wasting battery and data, the map was very helpful! Very interesting discussion. Thanks for sharing! I just deleted my Facebook. 48 hours without.. my 3rd attempt in the last few years. Hopefully it will last longer than a week.
The sad thing is I still get lost even with gps. Before I didn’t because I would ask for directions and pay real good attention and now I want the gps to maybe get me there without me thinking so crazy
To answer your question Dr. Hyman about social media use and your platform. I found you from a deliberate search, not from an app. People will find out what is good, and if you create good products they will self promote.
What about people that kind of rely on social media for their career - I'm an artist and want to quit social media but I know it will hurt my business as an indie creator. My goal in art is not to be an influencer in fact I hate that idea instead I am using it as a means to get eyes on my work. I do keep it as professional as I can but I still find it to be terribly distracting and hurting my mental health. But I can'y just stop using it nor can I afford a social media company to do it for me. Any suggestions form anyone in a similar situation?
i understand that completely; i'm an artist as well, but i'm a graphic designer full-time, so i don't rely on my art to pay my bills. however it is something that i've wanted to grow into a passive source of additional income over the last few years. what's worked for me is doing more in-person networking, like attending classes and workshops, as well as going to local galleries, museums, and art shows. i still use instagram, but i don't keep it on my phone, and i relegate "browsing" to my desktop computer only (which i'm almost never around.) it's been the most helpful to establish an intention about how i'm going to use the app. i only follow artists that inspire me. it might sound cruel, but i stopped following "friends" or other artists just for the sake of "supporting" them, because it ended up just being mental clutter. i've curated my feed to only be work that inspires me, by artists generally far above me. and when i do check in on their work, i try to leave long, thoughtful comments that usually always include a question about their process or materials. this way, if they do respond, i'm gaining a small insight that's beneficial to me. as far as sharing my work, i used to snap photos of things and immediately share them to my stories while i was working on them. it took my attention away from my work and put it onto "i have to show my followers that i'm being productive" -- that couldn't be further from the truth. now, i still take photos of works in progress, but i save them up and then write a blog post about whatever it was i was working on...even it was months after the fact. i've never had a ton of traffic, and i honestly don't want it. but i understand that you're in a different situation -- my best advice is remove the stuff from your phone, and get yourself out there to in-person events (: (and if you ever want to reach out and chat, feel free!) - Renn
I dont have social media anymore except youtube. RU-vid is more addicting to me. 😐 after listening to your podcasts I'm just going to have a few months off here. Thank you
I so wish that this could get out to the world now days becuase these phones social media has taken over our lives. Listening to this I think about my sons and me how lately we are tigether but all of us in the phone at home in the car and when we use to go for walks that was the only time we would put them away. Si sad
Subtraction not addition. Adding things your life in the pursuit of peace or happiness will cause transient dopamine spikes of perceived happiness once gone the cycle repeats. Never ending. Subtraction not addition
Don’t keep it for business either! Trust me, you don’t need it to succeed there. I just deleted mine. If anything it was hindering me in major ways. Can only imagine how much further ahead I would be had I not wasted a year trying to make it work for me.
Had an epiphany in late 2016 and deleted all social media. It was the right choice. People always try to say "why don't you have Instagram?". So many sheep out there.
Social media is a disruptive world. I want to live in.a world where we do activities that matter the most like meeting people and not let social media distract our focus..we cannot achieve everything with social media.. Social media led to jeously and a license for people to be nasty. It turns people nasty. Meeting real people is important ..social media is unfruitful.. Reading books is fulfilling.. social media is not
I'm not convinced. What would you replace it its? Going to the pup? Pointing out an. Issue without offering a solution is non productive on one level. I do agree however on the anxiety/ cell phones anxiety. Whole heartedly!
He's never had a social media account, but we shouldn't use it? Real world interaction is wonderful, but until I learn to teleport, I'll continue to use social media to keep in touch with my far-flung friends and family. Before that, we used letters. It didn't work as well. Phones? Calling can be intrusive, while texting is more considerate. Or text and say when's a good time to call. I think what's harmful is the constant barrage of advertising that comes with social media, and the sites that keep us from being able to efficiently manage our social media contacts.
