HOW THE INFJ MAKES OR BREAKS EGOS WITHOUT BREAKING A SWEAT 

Are we cursed with the fact that we see more in people than the anyone else can?? Is it because we seek perfection we want to fix others even if it is going to hurt us at the end??

I know what this will be from the first half minute. TIt's not a side of me that makes me proud of. We are best in erasing our personal boundaries in the name of someone else, but then comes the point where our interests begin to split, then the reality break and we all know the feeling of being pointed out as a bad person, obsessive type and things like that. The advice is simple - draw your red lines, let other people know what you really are and what you really want, like you want from them. Because you can read other people with your Ni doesn't mean that they can read you. Don't wait from the other person that you are with, to defend your boundaries. Your boundaries are what you are and there's no way for other people to be you.

Yes I have more times than I want to admit to myself - Even now with your videos bringing this conscious the naysayer in my mind always says "Nobody will like you" or "You won't make friends with just being who you are" and those are like my biggest fears - I do see that I am growing more brave to stand up and say - you right maybe no one will and that may suck yet honoring who I am is starting to matter more and more - This is one of these default states that makes me quiver - but powerful to know that it is better when we face the lion in the mirror (still not easy 😶‍🌫️) - a brave one to discuss no doubt

You certainly were born for this work and we appreciate your thorough and clear insights that so many of us completely relate to....your powerful insights are VERY helpful. As INFJs we all live and breathe these realities already but could not all stand to break it all down and re-address these facts as you manage....then also we do not always realize we are doing all of these things and when we are aware we need reminding how much we do them and how much they matter in the end. We love you girl....never stop your counseling because not many can do it like you. And there I am automatically feeding your ego I suppose but it is accurate to say and I am darn well gonna say it even in light of your discourse here. Love you mucho. I will always be watching your videos as lang as I draw breath and have the internet. And if I ever lose the internet I already saved many offline in my personal archives to review...so as long a sI have electricity I can listen to you. After all as an INFJ I plan things well and plan ahead. Not gonna be without me Wenzes and making sure of that.

@@ambrosearts I second that! Wenzes is a gem.

Said that very well....yeppp.

My god! You just commented my life.

Take it a step further. People with dark shadows and issues who refuse to face what's been causing conflict in their life build false egos which they hold onto dearly. Like the narcissist for example. Manipulation to justify their false persona.

I’m here rn. Moving through this behavior. Growing pains. 🤪

Yes!! And turning the ship around has been tough but you eventually gain momentum. And then you think, "Wtf hv I been doing all of my life!"😭😨 and then you get over it and keep going!😆😆

@@aquariusstar7248 it was very hard, but time and pain teach a lot..

@@lilorphani you gotta stop at some point..

It's difficult to let friends go. I ask myself why I spend so much, time, money, and energy on friends, that wont spend time on themselves, thousands. Locked in their negative beliefs about themselves and usually addiction. I can see the warm, vital light that burns in them. It's too easy. I like helping people and not telling anyone. It's like finding a sick bird and nurturing it back to health, and releasing it when it can fly and live independently. I'm in my usual introverted spot, no lover because I think I read folks so well, that I avoid issues. I can find lots of stuff that defines an INFJ or sigma male, then I say, so what? Doesn't help me cope or find like minded companion. And it's not helping me to stop pushing narcissist buttons, and hurting there feelings.... I was never a bully as a kid, but it is fun sometimes. Feel free to reply. Nothing real happens in isolation and overthinking.

Oh my goodness...they have the biggest ego ever!! You go!!🙌💪😉🤭

@@kimkeck6266 trust me. Everyday is a war in the OR

Now that's got to be fun. How dare you, did she just insult me? Is that true? In their head all day. Or, until you say a little prayer for them...

don't get me started on the people in the medical industry lol🤣🤣 edit: they are all not built for the profession and aren't the nicest when they're not

Take a test and let us know the results.

@@m2pozad I'm on it...

Yes let us know?

I'm an INFJ-A and before 2 days ago I never imagined there was my "personality type". I just knew I took the most unprobable ( path / decisions ) since I was 6. INFJ's are so useful. We may need to relate to each other.

OK! I tested off-the-chart infj. How wonderful to know that I'm not the only one who is this way. I will begin my journey of discovery and healing with the help of this channel and any other that is recommended...

Flies start swarming (haters/devil)

You have the master fly swatter I promise 🤫

@@Human_01 LISTEN! just because youre triggered about something doesnt mean someone else has to be silenced. truth burns before it heals. we are all capable of evil or good. if one is unable to admit the good AND evil within... be sure - only evil can come from them.

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Curious - will you expand on why masculine men like INFJ female"?

@@DearYoungerSelf111 Men especially masculine men generally have egos, at least in this part of the world #Africa. When a man have a submissive woman that massages his ego, it boost his confidence, it make him want to face the world knowing someone got his back. INFJ are good at building people's ego.

If you do not know what she is talking about ...you are not an INFJ.

Read the description 😯

I am married :)

@@Wenzes I know. Sorry, It was a stupid question. I just thought it fit so well on the problematic og today's topic. Like being against alkoholisme, but drinking anyway.

Spotted a mile away 😋