WHY THE INFJ "REALITY BREAK" IS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE 

Have you experienced some kind of "reality break" that made you change your perspective in a major way?

Going through therapi is nothing but reality breaks if you've been raised in a dysfunctional family, where you have been forced to dissociate from your everyday life for decades. The reality breaking point is brutal, but the clarity you see afterwards is just magical/pure bliss.

for me it's about cutting people out of my life and not doing everything for everyone else, but only for myself. thats not so difficult if you get really betrayed. your videos help me with that soo much💚

My reality break came a few months back. As an INFJ, for most of my life, I've been surrounded by people who've told me about how I need to alter my personality in some way - like how I need to smile more (too serious), how I need to speak up more (too quiet), etc. - in order to exhibit more archetypal proper behavior by societal standards. As a person who has a lot of empathy, I've always tried to be diplomatic and decent to others; the last thing I'd want is to make people around me feel bad or uncomfortable, and I'd feel horrible if I accidently did. However, after having SO MANY negative experiences with toxic people - along with my extensive solitude that I've had over the past year - I've come to embrace myself for who I am. I've come to the realization that I was practically meant to be a lone wolf. Even as a kid, I was often referred to as an "old soul." I'm still decent to people, and I certainly help them if I can, but I put my own needs and wants first and foremost. I also will NEVER again apologize, or feel ashamed, for having this personality. I understand that, for many people, the reality break can be difficult. However, it's easier when you realize that the toxicity is NOT coming from within you, it's being forced upon you by others, and you reach a point that you simply refuse to take it. This helps greatly in achieving optimal self-awareness, and you ultimately realize a sense of confidence that you never knew you had. Now, I couldn't be prouder of who I am! It may be more difficult to see in the darkness, but it's the LIGHT that ultimately blinds you. Don't rely on the proverbial light of "normality" to guide your way. Instead, step into the dark side and guide your OWN WAY!

perfect timing. anyone who goes through that, feel hugged, even when you really don't want to💚

I had a reality break a day for 6 months because i was waiting for something i had to watch unfold, and it didnt't and will not, now im confortable with that and im feeling an alien, no one can touch me anymore

Yes. We are diamonds in making.

Brilliant, brilliant way of expressing what Fe is! I have been so adverse to claiming Fe because it for me has been synonemous with people pleasing and masking, which is a horribly suppressing path to continue down at when you have been forced into that role your entire life (whether I'm an INFJ or not, I have developed a crazy Fe due to my upbringing).

Happened with me a month ago. Because of reality break, I didn’t know what to do and never felt so lost. Understood everything, analysed it. Getting better each day.

Was caught in the fog of an abusive narcissistic relationship for 10 years. Upon reflection I know that I was making excuses for their behaviours. Trying to convince myself that they were a result of deep-rooted past trauma and that it was my life mission to help them overcome their demons. There were numerous times I chose to ignore what was happening, as I knew I was strong emotionally and hung onto what was clearly just a notion that I could fix it all. So many lessons learnt about me and a genuine shift in how I perceive reality. Much love to all

My gosh, my lady. I have no idea how you do this - but you look into my heart and soul, saying EXACTLY what i personally needed to hear... It's more than i could ever ask for from a free RU-vid video. I'm currently going through an excruciating reality break. Yesterday i was full of resolve to take action, and today I've fully dissociated, overwhelmed by doubt. However, you've given me some much needed faith. I'm very terrified... But I'll just watch your videos again and again until i no longer am. Thank You 💖💖💖🙏

Do not underestimate or ignore the mama bear trait. Lots of souls want to co-opt us to make big money and sell out on principles. Mama bears are not just obsessed about how much power and influence they can survive. They are worried about if they and their babies can survive the current season and beyond.

That comment about going to the movies and not caring about what it is... So true with so many things

Yes we are strong. My ESTP spouse has told me more than once that I am the strongest person he knows.

It is through pressure PLUS healing that 'diamonds' are created ❤

Yip, devastating is the perfect word for my first reality break, that was about 10 years ago, it really hit me hard. That one was a toughie because home, work and family were all connected and it left me with depression, anxiety and a bit of PTSD because I literally flash backed all the traumatic moments. It took me 2 or 3 years to fully recover from that one but in that 2 or 3 years I started going to the gym and fixing certain other aspects of my life that I was neglecting hoping that the next time I'd make it through better not realizing that I was surrounded by toxic people in my life which led to the second and I took that one way better I think but it still hit hard realizing that I could not change the mindset of the people around me. I think my Ni might have still been under developed at this stage but it still worked. Best part is the more reality breaks you have the quicker you get over them. I went from years to months(this was last year), weeks and now it seems like only a few days sometimes. Nowadays I just look for certain behaviors or signs from the situation, the people, how they react and I can sort of predict that this is not going to work so it makes me face the truth then and there, deal with it and move on to the next step on my own. Every days a struggle but ya gotta roll on right.

Have I experienced some kind of "reality break" that made me change my perspective in a major way? Yes. I once worked for a company at a nearby regional airport. I had been there for 5 & 1/2 years. During that time, I realized I was in a really dysfunctional & toxic work atmosphere. I needed out. Once I found a position as a mechanic with the public school system, I was gone from that company and those people, and I never looked back. A small time later, that company folded and sold out to a larger company, and it was poetic justice for me. I have excelled since then. My perspective changed once I learned from observing how people manage other people. I found a better opportunity and those people missed me after I left. After I was taken for granted, I have never felt like taking anyone for granted.

I especially appreciated your emphasis on zeroing in on our extroverted functions (Fe & Se) when being a game changer. It reminded me of a reality break I had when, even though I liked my work, my living situation was getting emotionally draining - lots of criticism, social and spiritual pressure. At that time I definitely used Fe and Se - and mostly to make some communication changes in how I worded things and adopting an "own it" attitude which I chose to show and not tell. (It took a lot of self examination and rethinking; I did a lot of reading, journaling and writing out my thoughts and plans.) I ended up moving out, and things did work out for the better. It's been my experience that I have had to have several game changing experiences along the way. I learned from the first one, but things always would come up in the next situation that perhaps needed something different from what I had learned previously. But having the experience taught me that it's okay to have to do game changing once in awhile, and we can learn what needs to be done by drawing from what we acquired from previous experiences.

Had a rough reality break for 2-3 months now due to our stubborn mind, and it honestly feels like I've been ignoring it. But I've learnt things and gotten better. But a lot of things have struck me recently all in one go, confronting my truths I grew with. And breaking out to see another way is getting better, but it still makes me feel rather vulnerable and low. I'm still trying but I've hit a rather big reality break that feels like it's been going on for too long. I'm just lost on ideas.. but I've adopted self care right now. Other than that.. I feel screwed.

What the actual...? Going through this rights now. I have PTSD, cognitive dissonance, and wierd PTSD dreams. So often have to pinch myself. Luckily I don't stay in it long. I have to hide until I've figured stuff out. Thanks good timing.

It’s scary that she always posts a video discussing something that is going on in my life currently

Sri & Kira talk about this stuff a lot. Super relatable.

heheh I love how you framed that our dissociative state actually DOES help us and that we gain strength from it I am having 3 interviews in the following days and they are interviews all in different fields, which is something new altogether. But I definitely have been thinking lately about this, and the fact that now I will soon start in one of these fields and to - when that happens- start living more in the real physical world, accepting reality. But it definitely is good to know that our "addiction"/ bad habit actually will play an important and positive role for us for when we decide to start creating the changes and life that we want. Nice reminder

Absolutely. But my break was from negative things happening in my life, my life was falling apart, friendships, work, me… 😂 I discovered my twin flame and something inside of me instantly got triggered, and I suddenly knew what I wanted out of life. Granted, 5 years later, and we’re still not together, and it’s been a really rough ride, but I have learned to appreciate the journey, and still hope for the outcome I want. And from that point, the awakening and small steps started moving forward. It’s been the best thing that’s ever happened to me. It helped me learn my boundaries with toxic people, find my worth, stand up for myself, my thoughts, my opinions, and to validate myself and my place in this world. A lot of these really big changes happened once I discovered I was an INFJ, and then found your videos. It’s been absolutely invaluable towards my growth. Thank you Wenzes! 😊❤️

I base my FE in my early teenarger, when I was influencial for my friends, I was around 12 years old, and I felt confident being who I was. Somehow this changed but I always think about this season and I know I want to have this feeling of being myself and being liked by this, influencing people with my vision.

I REALLY LOVE UR CHANNEL ! Recently discovered YOU 😚 As An INFJ I am so grateful that though we are the rare 2% of population personality type; that there are so many of us, of Me walking around! That we DO UNDERSTAND US!@!!😉☺☺☺🤗

You know, I don't know if I'm an INFJ. But nonetheless, the advice you give and the insights you give are some of the best I've come across.

I've been going through a much needed transition; Thanks for the encouragement, Wenzes! 💜

Wenzes I feel you! Gorgeous job, you and your channel are just beautiful! Love, Britta

Yes, worked for a nasty Manager who never liked me and I felt I wasn't getting the recognition I deserved. She never gave me the chance to succeed. It has incredibly painful. My Department moved to the city and I went with my Department. The Manager got fired I was so happy ! I learned so many different skills and I was so much happier!

had a reality break about 4 months back , thanks for the videos , its always nice to know we're not alone

Thanks for this. Been going through this too.

This happened to me in early 2021 and it was quite difficult but there were many blessings that came out of it also.

Face reality, and choose better for yourself 💞

Perfect timing, I desperately needed to hear that..

I love your examples of Fe! Super helpful!

My reality break unearthed an entire life of misdirection. My reality break was during the moral breech of maintaining an open adoption...a lawman and d.a. and 3 judges helped cover it up through unwarranted protection orders. My kid and I only spoke 1 tine in 11 years. My reality broke when the local cop I became friends with through local homeless shelter...was simply keeping tabs on me to keep me from the adoption. 2 year friendship and betrayal...ending with inspote of mentioning a daughter adopted by nearby lawman...that he was inlae cousin to my daughter. My reality break closed the first borns 18 year alienation to estrangement. Now, I'm utilizing the art of war, rhetirical analysis, thematic alaysis, 59 laws of power, and subconscience mirroring of narcissistic tactics. I found the cultivation of my intuition being raised by a malignant narcissist mother during a reality break became fragments of my dark side. Before, I manuevered the world minding the deceptions of my mother as preventatives to keep out of dangers. But my entire world down to the actuality of local law functioning corrupt....ive become something I'm even afraid of...and really wish you would interview me. Just as an example or refrence...what I was before all this was hidden. I was working and livibg ib a car wash. I wore furry suites and lived carefree in a 4 block radious known enderingly by all businesses surrounding. Then one night I answered a phone call from my daughter. Entire world flipped upside down ..and even opened up the lingering mysteries of the last 12 years. I know youre very busy though. Thank you for the time you take making these. They've been 1/5 my guide during becoming a whistleblower and i tegrading my dark side during a reality break. P.s. this break has had me incompasitated at a desk for over 3 years. I can answer any brqnching inquiry. It's all fluid for the mention now.

Yes 🤣 Ive been disagreeing with certain professors about my essay answers there assignments. I stand behind my work, and I know that I should have received partial credit. 😂 but all this back-and-forth doesn’t really help my situation I realized the professor is going to do what they are going to do. And I don’t have the power here to change that. I accept that, but that does not mean I won’t question others or stand up for myself again.

Hey is your book still available somewhere? I would like to read it. I can't find it.

Exactly 💯

I feel that it’s just …. that we just might be wrong…. Not some complicated thing that you eluded too… anybody???

total full moon, last night, I couldnt stop!. Now I cant start :(

Do you ever talk about Lightworkers? I am one. Also, I think we don't like being with most people because they are communicating from their false self...from ego...from who they are not...leaving us with no one to talk to.

It was drilled into me from birth that my opinion doesn't matter.

Great video ! 👍🤘😃

Yes ma'am! 🪄

Wenzes, can you do a video on what you think the best types for infj to be in a relationship with?

Fuck you're blowing my mind

I've been slowly trying to move into my FE for about one month, it's something that causes me anxiety and it's been so slow that it seens like I'll end up coming back to my IN, how to move faster to my FE and never come back do IN again?

I blacked out yesterday trying to meet a quota. And it for a lot of cash but I had a black out and somebody had to stop me in the middle of my job, and i forgot what time it was.....15 hours later.

Thank you

Al hamde li Allah الحمد لله

Okay

My INFJ ex best friend became an Antivaxxer and I am praying she finally has a reality break. The funny thing is that she turned on me for being pro vaccines and she did call me a narcissist and every name in the book. It was like a dark version of what you've been talking about in your last two videos. What are we supposed to make of an INFJ who does these behaviors but is actually wrong?* *sidenote: I've since talked to other mutual friends about this person and they've related similar breakups in the friendship because of her views on medicine and other issues.

Narcissist is actually a psycho who thinks he or she isn't aware of his/her craziness

I am curious. Are you married ? if you are married what is his personality type? I think you are single but I might be wrong.

@Wenzes 🤓😆😁 I have a few questions🧐 What is "reality"??? Is there more than 1 "reality"??? Isn't "reality" determined by "environment"??? Isn't pain a part of life(wouldn't know what sunny days are without rainy days)??? Could it be possible that the "world's reality" is actually a dream(the world believed a cloth mask could protect them from an airborne virus)??? #realityisintheeyesofthebeholder Be BLESSED and Stay STRAPPED(with faith)🤠🤓😇👑

You talk at too fast a pace in your videos (for me). Please slow down.

If my new INFJ typing is so problematic, I'm going back to INTP. Life was so much simpler then.

The world is BACKWARDS and much more fun in that dimension 🤍✨️

Social Intereactions. I talk about being a game master. I KNOW you read every comment and heart the best ones. BEING A GAME MASTER is the same as being a coach. Except Its placed in a Reality I create and people CHOOSE to play in it. I am fair.. as a GOD in said game. Why do I do this? Well simple. DND helps me with papwork and abstract though of others. Im alreayd highly empathic, and in some cases, I SWEAR I can hear the thoughts of others and even see thier hallucination when they are having a though playback with video. The reason why I can do all of this, Is because I got over myself for one, but the secondary and also primary reason, Is I took a severe injury that SHOULDA landed me in a wheelchair for the rest of my life. However I refused to give up and IF I CAN MOVE even if its pain. THEN ILL MOVE. So with years of meditation while I was suicidally depressed. I found that the answer was also the problem.. and the problem was its own solutions!!!!!! Basicaly PAIN water marks all my emotions, so I can decern mines from others.. IF they are in pain, I can desern the differance as well. Nobody likes pain. There is plenty of it. "Let the pain wash over you. :)" -j.c.