HOW THE PANDEMIC EXPOSED MY INSECURITIES | I HATE THE WAY I LOOK 

This is the last comment I'll leave in this video. Note: you're not ugly!!! Your extremely attractive and definitely rare in every aspect of the word. When I seen your face for the first time I was in awe because your just so beautiful!!!!💯🎯 I'm a man and for me to be subscribed to you sometimes make me feel completely out of place because your channel is based around hair management. My point is: I'm attracted to everything about you...even the way you talk 🤭 I'm just keeping it 💯 And continue to do your thing your doing great!!!! Dont let anyone tell you different.

I completely understand where you are coming from! Never considered myself the best looking person by any means.. not even close and once i started gaining weight it was even worse. Then I’m getting older and AGING, it’s ten times worse. But honestly i think taking sometime for me, pampering myself, daily affirmations, working out.. all of this has helped me so much . I talk to God too

I highly relate to being “ugly” In middle school but then out of nowhere, puberty hits and I’m being asked out by boys in high school. I had no idea how to handle it and the self esteem took forever to rise up.

Well first of all, you are NOT ugly. Not by any means. In fact I personally think you're one of the most beautiful young ladies I've seen here on RU-vid. I'm a lot older than most of your followers I'm sure. In fact I have a daughter around your age. I just started checking out your channel for the hair content but I liked your PERSONALITY which is why I subscribed. I know this may not offer much comfort but you should know that there is not a person alive, male or female, that doesn't have some insecurities about how they look. Most of us just make the best out of what the good Lord gives us and keep pushing on. I have noticed a drastic change in today's standard of beauty though and for the life of me I can't understand it. It's like younger ladies strive to look like these celebrities with the huge chest, tiny waist, huge butt, hair (mostly fake) down to their butt, nails designed to be more of a weapon than a fashion choice and makeup piled on so thick and over exaggerated that they literally look like CLOWNS. Makeup is supposed to enhance a woman's NATURAL beauty, not make her look like a completely different person. But going beyond the superficial, which is where I think your real problem stems from because like you said, nothing you do makes you feel any better right? So you need to dig deeper. What else is going on your life that might contribute to low self esteem? Usually for us women It's a break up. Or we're into someone who's not into us. Or we're just lonely cuz we're single and can't get a date. I don't know you or your life but you strike me as a well rounded, intelligent young lady who was raised well so cudos to your parents! Oh and I was always taught by my parents that the kids who tease you and call you ugly are really just jealous and really just want to BE you. I'm guessing your parents told you something similar. And it's true. Girl misery loves company in childhood AND adulthood. So please don't let the ignorant, meaningless words of children determine who you are as an adult. So now that I have literally broken a record on RU-vid's longest comment, I will leave you with this...True self confidence comes from within. Not in just your physical appearance but in who you are as a person. You have to grow to LOVE YOURSELF and be happy and content with what God gave you. Then it won't matter what anyone else thinks and you won't need outside validation. KNOW THYSELF. Stay blessed and have a wonderful day! 🙂

Tip: Talking to yourself like you would with a friend helps and also giving yourself compliments out loud while looking in the mirror whether it’s about you completing a project/task, seeing a mental improvement or looking good! Thank you for being open and honest about your experience 💕, I could relate especially w/ the “all of sudden you’re pretty now” stage 🥴

Create a vision board of affirmations of how you want to feel about yourself and look at it before logging in to social media or anything. I am beautiful, I am worthy, I am wonderfully made by God and etc

Candi I am truly sorry that you feel that way... Satan is busy and want for us to be under attack with ourselves... You do not need any one approval or validation on how you look. Tell your self daily that you are smart and beautiful because you truly are. Do not allow Satan to have you thinking any differ. Love you and continue to read God words... He will give you the strength you need.

It’s crazy to me.. we never know what people go through. Because I think you’re so gorgeous that for a long time I couldn’t watch your videos because I was envious of your beauty.

I totally relate and understood. You're validated in your feelings. I will say you tripping though haha

You’re my hair twin and it’s crazy how similar our stories are- I was stick skinny my whole life up until my mid to late 20s (metabolism snuck up and finally caught up), I was an ugly duckling growing up and would notice my friends getting attention that I never got. The glow up is so real, ppl stare wherever I go, but the scars remain and it sucks.

I am so intrigued by this title. Thank you so much for your transparency!!!

I understand where you’re coming from completely. I have moments where I feel the same exact way. I’m currently practicing falling in love with myself and the way I look. It is definitely a journey! I hope you share more of yours 🤍

You are taking the right steps to make yourself beautiful in your eyes. It’s definitely going to take as much time as you need it to take and you’ll eventually get there. The only suggestion I have, which it probably won’t help, but when I was looking to build my confidence, I had to literally love on myself. Tell myself I looked good & whatever flaws I had that people made fun of, I loved that x100. Take the negative and turn it into a positive. You’ll eventually get though it! And for those who said you was ugly, too skinny & etc... was projecting their insecurities on you. You’re beautiful.

Thanks for being open and honest. You are beautiful!

I believe any person must love who they are on the inside first. When you love yourself internally, you can then look in the mirror and love what you see. Inner beauty reflect on the outside, to me. Of course we do things to make us feel beautiful ex hair or makeup, but self love is something you will see and feel when you look In the mirror and what people will see when they look at you. I hope you find that self love. You are beautiful and we can tell you that all day, but it don’t matter unless you can see that for yourself. You don’t have to look for that validation from anyone else.

You was never ugly. Those people were jealous of you. They knew you were going to be gorgeous in your future.

I used to get made fun of because of my hair and long neck and being skinny but I'm enough I'm bigger now I'm natural and I love it I'm still progressing my faith in Jesus and family helped me

I understand you ❤ I feel the same way especially after my weight gain and change of lifestyle (staying in most days) nothing but love this way thank you for sharing your heart❤

I can relate 🙋🏽‍♀️ I used to get compliments on my looks a few years back but after 3 kids, a botched haircut and pandemic weight on top of that, I haven't liked how I look for a while and haven't been motivated to change anything. I plan on seeing a therapist soon to talk through it. We all have our struggles. Hang in there ladies!💞

Your realness is sending meeee, thank you for sharing these videos. I feel you 😅

Thank you so much for sharing your story and being REAL!! Crying as I watch ❤️...so relatable

Listen girl...I felt this all the way! It is a process to build your self esteem. I started by telling myself that yeah girl you a baddie! You can have any guy you want! Then I started believing it. After believing that yes I am a beautiful woman, I felt better about myself. I’m still a working progress, but it just takes time hun. Best of luck with your journey.

I have felt the exact same way! I work from home too and I’ve been trynna figure out why my confidence has been so shaky. Your video helped me dig deep and figure out why I’ve been feeling that way. Your so pretty, I really hope you get through this and see the beauty we all see in you 💕

Self love is a journey it's never a one stop destination. Stumbling during makes the journey that much more of a lasting experience. I have self esteem issues that have worsened with the pandemic also and I have been working on feeling good about myself. My goal is to love myself without condition. Like regardless of what I look like I am able to see why I am worthy of feeling good about being me.

Thank you for being brave and honest about how you feel about yourself. I feel the same way about myself, I have low self esteem and I hate the way I look. I try to give myself a compliment every now and then but it doesn't help. Hopefully we both will gradually get to a place where we love and appreciate the way we look flaws and all. BTW you're gorgeous 😍

🎵"Beautiful, I just want you to know, you're my favorite girl." - Pharrell🎶

Thank you for your honesty. I can see how your self esteem happened. I can see how it happens to other people as well through you. Thank you. Keep working on it. It will change.

I wanna hug you!!! Your spirit is so beautiful. I deadass feel like you're my friend in my head. I go through the same thing and have been since I was in elementary school, so I completely understand. I think you goin through the motions and feeling how you do is completely normal and healthy. The only advice that I can say is literally keep doing what you're doing to make steps towards changes. It does take time, but also find things you like about yourself and make that a focus on yourself for a min. You ARE BEAUTIFUL 💛🌻

Thank you for being honest. More people are going through this than you may think, but no one wants to talk about it.

"Woman has stolen my heart, and beauty is her name." - Dru Hill

Thanks you Candi 🥰💕.. luv this video and thank you for being honest! As old as I am .. I can totally relate.. but I really believe that true beauty starts within.. we can wear a lot of make-up to cover up so others can think we are beautiful.. it’s really hard and I’m sure this has helped a lot of people! 😊

Self-esteem is something that I have DEFINITELY struggled with. I created a morning and nighttime affirmation playlist on YT. I listen to the morning playlist while I'm getting ready in the morning and the nighttime one plays the whole night. It has definitely helped with low self-esteem and many other insecurities I've struggled with. I also like the sticky notes around all the mirrors you look in and around your front door. Pick one each day and that's the one you repeat the entire day.

I was going through a bit of a rut crazy enough right after my wedding and honeymoon a few months ago and now Im at the point you are in this video ready to make a change. Change in my look, change in my body change in my self-love/care/talk. I’m working out regularly now and doing the inner work as well and I’m feeling good about where I’m heading. I am literally binge watching all your videos and now follow you on Instagram and have seen the growth you have made since this video! It’s super inspiring and motivating!!✨✨

I really admire how honest you are about everything. You are very pretty and I hope you can see that eventually with out hearing it.

I feel the same way about myself. Thanks for your transparency and having the courage to share.

This video definitely resonates with me. I went through a lot of similar things and heard a lot of the things that were said to you. I feel like I could have felt somewhat better about myself if the negative comments I heard at school weren’t also coming from my family. I managed to overcome this by the time I was 30, but I was a work in progress. And now that I’m older those same family members call me fat because I’ve picked up some weight. I’m good now, but it’s not ok. You are an amazing and beautiful woman. Never let anyone dictate or delegate how YOU should feel about YOU💕

You are the epitome of gorgeous.

Whew girlll I went through this really until recently! I have mad eczema and it really spread throughout my body this and last year. So I wasn't feeling myself at tf all. I relate with the friends getting hit on, I was always the curvier/heavier friend (after college I was at my heaviest). 2020 and this year I had to form my own self-acceptance and self-love. I had to accept my eczema scars, stretch marks, and skin hyperpigmentation. My SO loves the discoloration around my eyes and calls me a cute panda bear lol. I hope you see the beauty in yourself! Literally acceptance is the first step of healing. You're literally so gorgeous!! NGL outside compliments are a nice boost lol

"Don't wake me, I'm dreaming." - Christopher Williams

I know this is an older video but i’ve been binging your channel, I love how you come across so comfortable and natural on camera. Like it doesn’t seem scripted it’s kinda just a convo. Also can relate to your experience, cus i definitely internalized all the funky comments about my appearance from my youth and i’m still unlearning it. Accepting compliments from others and focusing on the parts of you that you do like is definitely a start! And also filling the media u consume with people you feel look kinda similar to and that you can admire instead of envy. Cus I definitely find myself feeling saltier about my flat chest or big nose when I follow people that don’t look that way. I’ve noticed that getting used to your natural face helps too because i’ve just recently learned (and am trying to accept) that sometimes all the extras (lashes, makeup, hair) won’t really boost how you feel much. Then again, I think maybe it’s just important to find which boosts work for you, cus keeping my brows done and exercising actually does help my view of myself. Love the transparency on this issue, cus sometimes it’s easy to see someone you view as pretty and think they’ve never had issues with their esteem and it’s nice to be reminded that most of us have struggled with this. You’re definitely gorgeous though!

You are beautiful! and I am glad that you made a video about this topic because it affects so many women throughout their lives. People really need to stop making negative comments about an adolescent's body type because they are not fully grown at that stage and it is very, very hurtful to their self esteem. We need to normalize accepting all body types and speaking positively about each other. Love people for who they are and not just a body shape.

I’ve never been one to comment often on videos because it’s usually AS IF I’m just watching TV, but you’ve got an interesting introspection of what it is that’s making you feel less than whatever it is you think you should be feeling and personally my experience WITH (not of you) is that it’s AS IF you’re sitting across from me just venting as if we’re homegirls going to brunch 🛍🥂... your demeanor is welcoming despite any negative vibes you might be feeling which is a graceful quality, one that not always mastered by every woman, it exudes naturally from your personality... your personable nature is what makes your viewers wish to ‘connect’ ... the disposition about your personal journey showed that you’ve reflected upon how you didn’t have to agree with the invasive negative commentary from others and that only makes your genuine perspective of yourself honestly shine (= growth) in a way you haven’t quite have realized yet, that you have a more thorough understanding of who you believe you are than you think... self-esteem is not about analysis, it’s about determination after opening your mind that beauty is not an end result to means of achieving a certain look but rather having decided that what the world concludes about you is only in portion to what you know to be true... the outter exterior of your face, body and hair simply displays your softness, your lady-like elegance and lovely energy... just don’t forget to SMIZE 🤩

Say to yourself ‘I am enough’. This goes beyond the need to prove anything to anyone. Say it till you believe it.

You are speaking my truth!

This must’ve been posted when I was taking a break from every type of App…this is so relatable and I get it…most truly beautiful get called ugly…everything you’re saying I definitely experienced….the devil tells us lies about ourselves and he’ll use anyone to destroy the will purpose and plan of God for our lives…the easiest to distract us is to get our minds….thank you for sharing this…it took courage…love you much❤

we are our own worst critics.... and it's hard because I often feel the very same way too.... Sometimes I still do.... loving myself is a struggle... and I'm still trying to figure it out girl... and I guess trying to figure it out is better than not trying at all.... so keep trying.... do whatever you think might help you feel good.... and I hope that you find ways to love yourself and see how beautiful you are without the need for outside validation.... I don't know if it will help with your feels... but watching your videos inspires me to try harder with my hair... and learn to love my hair... you are actually helping me grow to love what comes natural for me....... so thank you for helping me.... I hope you find what you need to feel better about you too :)

I’m a new subscriber and I looked at one of your vids and I was like wow she beautiful what, I love most about the way you look is your beautiful hair, always keep in mind what you like about you and not what you don’t like. I know you think your ugly but I’m telling you, all of your subscribers think your beautiful and if you just keep being yourself and being kind we would love you even more❤️❤️❤️💓

You’re gorgeous ❤️

First, I just want to thank you for sharing your story. That was completely brave of you and I really appreciate it❤️! I think you’re one of the most beautiful people I’ve seen, really because you remind me so much of one of my sisters😂! But I definitely can relate to how you feel. Sometimes I look at myself like, “Ugh!” I love my body but I gained so much weight breastfeeding and being pregnant with my 3 kids back to back. I’m currently working on my weight loss journey now, which I documenting on my channel, but I do struggle sometimes. I almost cried when you were telling your experiences during your childhood😭! You are so so Gorgeous 😍😍😍! Just read these comments whenever you need a pick me up❤️!

One word : GODDESS 💯👌

I was also teased for being super skinny. I didn’t weight over 100 pounds until I was in college. I definitely can relate to this. You should do a gratitude jar. Write things down you love about yourself, and pick through it when you are feeling down. It has helped me a bit.

I suffer from low self esteem too, despite being an attractive person by other people’s standards. I felt the same way you did after college bc I suddenly was at a PWI and my hair was my trademark all throughout campus.

I suggest getting a small notebook that you can carry around with you so you can write down daily what you like about yourself. It doesn't have to be your looks specifically, it can be the way you smell, your outfit, how your hair is looking, your personality. Then at night, talk to yourself in the mirror and tell yourself the things you like about you. Having positive self talk is so important. Also, try unfollowing or muting accounts on social media that make you compare yourself negatively to them. I think looking in the mirror when applying lotion or when you do your skin care makes you have an intimate relationship with your body. I've been using the app headspace for meditation and it's seriously been helping me with blocking out negative thoughts. If I told myself 2 years ago to meditate, I would have laughed, but it really does help. ❤️

Hormones can make you feel ugly as will that happens to me when my estrogen rises up. Just a thought experience helps. And practicing gratitude buy thinking about the functions of my body not how it looks. Your beautiful 🌺

We all be feeling like that from time to time. I don’t have how to get out of that mood solution other than sometimes that thought is for front in our minds and sometimes it doesn’t even cross it… we just got to manage to juggle the bad thoughts we have about ourselves in the back until we can drop them all together.

I know you are struggling with self-esteem and girl me too lol.. But trust when I say you are an angelic goddess and I would die to look like you. Stay strong beautiful girl. We are here for you ❤️❤️❤️

I can also relate but you are so beautiful!

You look and sound pretty, baby girl! Reach out to the kindest elders in your family or support system for encouragement. They've gone through this & can tell you why middle schoolers through adults make cruel comments to others. It does not come from a happy place. They insult others to bring them down and make others feel as low as they do on the inside. Focus on what you can do well. Develop skills and cultivate your talents because youth and beauty is fleeting anyway. Spend time helping other people. Doing things like these will help you develop more self esteem and be less reliant on how others view your appearance. I always thought you were pretty since I found your channel. Yes, everyone goes to this from time to time but it's unhealthy to stay stuck in it.

We are continuously growing and have to keep focused on prospering, giving self love and filling our own cup. Outside compliments are great ego boosts but we have to look at the beauty within and be satisfied with self. Sometimes old negative thoughts can try to creep up and take over but we have to deny old useless programming. Remember who you are not who you were. ❤❤❤❤

Candice, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14

"I get so high, when I'm around you baby. I can touch the sky. You make my temperature riiiise." - Toni Braxton

Realest video on RU-vid!!! We all have our moments

I’m only like 5 minutes into the video and you mentions you have low self esteem.. ok I understand we are hard on ourselves because we are the ones to see ourselves in the mirror day I and day out for the rest of our lives so we are going to notice every flaw but girl you are not ugly, hideous or whatever else you think about yourself. I literally have been binge watching your videos today just because I think your pretty 😆❤️

I definitely understand and I had the same problem in highschool except I was fat so people would be like... why do you eat all the time and actually, I never ate. I would always give my lunch away. Today as a grown adult, people always try to tell me how to eat and that I should eat healthy when I eat healthier than anyone I know but I just keep gaining even when going to the gym... I've also stopped myself from looking in the mirror and I am putting my focus on becoming a. better person inside out because soon, I personally am thinking about getting bariatric surgery. Glad you ended up filling out sis and also, Covid has given everyone depression. I mean the circumstance of covid is depressing. Work from home, no outside interaction, faces need to be covered it's definitely a drastic change from what we were used to

I def understand where your coming from but baby you are gorgeous! You just need to believe it !

"You're a dream that should not have been. A fantasy real." - Maxwell

Sounds like you’re doing great with your self care❤️! Keep it up 👍🏿! And maybe find a new hobby as well can help🤗! All the best, thanks for sharing 🥰!

Very brave of you

Queen the world out here is fake. I will watch your video but I wanted to send you a nice note. You are absolutely beautiful and supposed to look unique how you look. Out in this social media insecure world it's like watching people build their bodies up like Lego. Natural beauty is rare and it's precious. Beauty isn't available as a copy that can't be manufactured or made by any man. X insecurities can be measured by the outside world. Tell each part of your body that it's appreciated. From your toes right up. Your you is what supports you every single minute, second if the day.

Yeah! I totally know what this is!! It's a real part of living in this world. I envy those that can be so secure in their onesies pj's or riding their skateboard to work at age 50. My unbiased view of you is that you are physically beautiful. This is the first video of yours I've seen so I do not know if you are a good person or not. But you are definitely beautiful! Your skin, your face, your eyes, your lips are gorgeous. Hopefully, you are equally beautiful inside. I suspect you just might be.

At first, I was conflicted but you mentioning about admitting the difficult parts of your truth resonated with me. Tfs...I realized one of my triggers is weight too but the opposite of your problem before...I was sitting here like girrrl I wish I WOULD'VE been "too skinny" lbvs. Right now the struggle for me is trying to be happy and healthy wout the approval of my husband or anyone else for that matter. I get what you were saying about going from one spectrum to the other and people being more accepting of you when it aligns w what THEY think is right🤷🤦🤦🤔😶

Lack of self esteem is real. The pandemic made it worse for a lot of people. I always knew that I am pretty. My parents' told me that inner beauty is more important. Be beautiful on the inside and the rest will follow. You will feel better when you do for others. Get outside of yourself. Good luck on your self esteem journey. 🌹

I really wish I had some solutions as a person who has struggled with this and I still do relationship wise (because I constantly wonder, is a dude really into me or passing time with me thinking I may be an easy smash because I might have a weight insecurity; or does he really wanna be with someone thicker/curvier because all men look) but I think it took me talking it out & understanding that being bullied at home & at school broke me in so many ways-- on top of boys who broke up with me because I wouldn't put out... It's a long journey girl.... and there is possibly more damage that you will see/realize the more you dive into it, but I guess just figuring it all out is a start to recovering. I do feel beautiful now although it has never been something I've heard; I had to look long & deep and accept me for who I am in order to kinda take my power- because when people know what hurts/breaks you, they bend it to their leverage. I pray you get to the place you wish to be but please know you are FAR from ugly- mad FAR!! 💯 Sorry I wrote you a whole book girl!

Happy easter 🐰 to everyone ☺️

Shame on those who have shuned you, to put you in this state of mind your entire life. May God break this vanity spirit inside you so you can live the life of tranquility. So deserve so much more and I'm very sorry that you can't see what the world sees. .. Be blessed and embrace your beauty. There are so many that are disfigured, overweight, no hair, etc. .. you are so beautiful 😍

Cuz, I don’t know what mirror you’re looking in but you are beautiful. And I just saw you a couple of weeks ago, NO FILTER!? and I thought you were so beautiful, face ,hair and body. Seriously you made me feel like damn I need to go get my shit back tight.But I feel what you’re saying because I’ve been feeling the same way too. not feeling attractive at all .

I can totally relate! But what helps me is this: Literally Everyone! has insecurities, so seeking the approval of people who don't even like themselves is ridiculous!! No one is an Authority on what real beauty is...like who's standard matters more than God's, because that's who created you...Psalms 139:13,14 says we are Fearfully and Wonderfully made....Solomon 2:23 says you are made in the image of God....Rest in that sis💛

🎶"Isn't she lovely? Isn't she wonderful?" - Stevie Wonder🎵

Honestly you’re beautiful girl

"Because a girl like you is like a dream come true...a real life fantasy." - Bobby Brown

You need to work on your inner self then having to worrying about your outer appearance, i understand how the pandemic makes you feel, but you shouldn't feel that way about yourself. focus on what you need to accomplish first and allowing your peers affect you mentally can do a toll on anyone! Have confidence in working on your inner self esteem

I feel like this too I have not taken pics of myself in a year and don’t dress up because I feel over weight because I want to be skinny but we will be okay😙.

Self love is the hardest thing to do/achieve. I went through the same thing (still going thru it honestly), except mine started in elementary school, grew up during the light skin dark skin wars, where all guys deemed light skinned girls prettier, than dark skinned (and of course i'm dark skinned), and then kids and adults alike are just sooo cruel sometimes for no reason was called ugly, black ugly monkey, African booty scratcher, etc, , so dealt with that almost til college. the guys I was interested in during middle school and high school, were gearing towards the popular girls, and like you i was skinny, til late teens early 20's. And when I would go out with my girls, guys would buy them drinks and not me.. So here I am in my 40's still dealing with this, and trying to also do things like, mani pedi;s (when i can afford to), and just reminding myself, that I am enough, I am pretty enough (not by american beauty standards) but by my own, it's a never ending journey/struggle. And the one thing I hate is when women, who have no problem getting guys, or are deemed pretty, say things like you have to just love yourself, it's easier said than done, when those same women, are getting compliments 24/7. and have never really had the struggle of people putting them down majority of their lives.

Yo this hit home cause I was ALWAYS bullied for being underweight ... Basically I can relate on a huge level!!!! So sorry you had to endure all that. Bless it. People really act like there's no such thing as Skinny Shaming 😔🤦🏾‍♀️ But you are BEAUTIFUL!!! Don't ever forget it!! 💯💕

I don't know what you gon say yet, but come here 🤚🏾🤚🏾 Should've had a V8 ✋🏾- you are gorgeous!! 💯

This pandemic is wreaking havoc on so many of us. Your a beautiful young woman and don't let anyone tell you any different. xoxo

You are gorgeous... surprising you feel insecure...you are absolutely stunning

I encourage you to listen to Joyce Meyer Cure for the Insecure Sermon. I can understand what you’ve been through......... like I totally understand. 💯 The truth is your beauty is not your worth. We were made to be secure in ourselves and comfortable. I pray this for you, other women and myself that we would feel comfortable completely and know that we are beautiful because we are, just because.

I’m actually going through this abs can’t seem to shake it off 😭💔

The pandemic actually made me finally accept how I look and find peace in how I look and find little things I do like.

🎶"You got the look." - Prince🎵

I understand those feelings and thoughts. But sometimes those people who are extremely attractive intimidate other people. Back handed compliments are not about you but instead the person hurling them. Actually the person hurling the comments can see what you are going to grow into when certain life events happen and they are jealous because they wish they had what you have. What I have learned is to seek God for validation. Man has too many rules to follow and they are always changing so it's very unstable. You are validated. Approved. Affirmed. And a beautiful child of the most high. Not ugly. But a reflection, made in the image and likeness of the most high God. KNOW THAT! GET IN YOUR WORD.

Thumbs up and I haven't even seen the video yet. But by the title I know I'm gonna like it!

On a random note: Do you have an eyebrow tutorial??👀

Life is crazy… I’ve always been “thick”… even in high school I was a 34 DD 24in waist and 42in hips and I’ve always hated it HATED IT! I always wanted to be skinny and my body has been nothing but trouble. All the attention was focused on my 🍑 and nothin else. Only sexual. And at 31 I’m still extremely insecure as well. 🤦🏾‍♀️.. but you’re definitely gorgeous.

I feel the same way... I'm trash.

Self acceptance begins with identity and that only comes from a true relationship with the love of Jesus. God heals our hearts, God chooses us, God loves us, God accepts us, and we must humbly and confidently stand on that truth regardless of the fickled feelings of others. You are beautiful. Inside out. God made you beautifully and wonderfully in His image and likeness. Be encouraged beautiful

🎵"The most beautifulist thing in the world, just like that." - Erik Sermon🎶

It sounds as if you had some clowns surrounding you during childhood. I hope I can give my future children the strength and tools to handle the haters and those so-called well intentioned people. Honestly, you’re a pretty girl. You have a fun personality and you’re pretty. I like that you don’t look like a completely different person without makeup (which is how I do my makeup). I quickly unsubscribe from women who look completely different without makeup. She may not look bad without makeup but something about it is disturbing. I like that you don’t look ready to take flight with a whole eagle wing on your eyes. You’re pretty without the artifice. I also have some work to do on myself as well. I think working on affirmations is good. Positive self talk is good. Going to the gym is good too and not just for vanity purposes. Getting stronger physically especially in your core does something. I’m not sure if it’s the improved posture or what. I also recommend developing hobbies or find activities you enjoy. Do you like to quilt, crochet, golf, play tennis, swim, bake, play the piano, garden or sing? Enriching yourself is a good way to help build your self-esteem and relax. I don’t know if you believe in God or a higher power but you should lay this trouble on the altar. You KNOW these thoughts are not true. Pray or meditate on releasing all the untrue garbage that you internalized when you were younger and to find value and confidence in your inner beauty.

🎶"Da, da, da-da, da, da, da, da, da-da, damn!" - Fabolous🎵