how to ACTUALLY CHANGE your life in 2023 (step by step guide) 

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It's only been half the first month, and I'm already burn out.

"It doesn't get easier, but we get stronger." The best mindset to have 💪

I’ve come to realize that having discipline and structure in your daily routine is the most important factor to accomplish your goals and actually feel happy and confident. Because when you don’t have a routine, your mind wanders from one thing to another, but you’re never able to complete a task till the end. You give in to your temptations and eventually lose your discipline. Let’s focus on having a daily routine that we follow religiously and let’s make 2023 a year of change 💪🏼

I think I didn't waste 2022 completely, I did challenge myself with a few things, wrote a (almost full) draft of my urban fantasy novel, read 33 books, tried learning some Japanese and even edited a novel... it was a rollercoaster. But in 2023, I hope to keep at it, and work towards my goals. :)

"We need to normalize doing thing that we dont enjoy if we want to achieve our goals.". That is my motto this year. You are such a strong and inspiring girl. I am learning English by watching you and I am striving for a purpose. I wish you good luck for the rest of your life.

"Pain of discipline and the pain of regret" Damn, that really put things into perspective. Thanks a lot for making this video Ruri! The quality in your videos has immensely progressed throughout the years, and I'm really proud of your effort. Watching your vids brings me so much peace after a tiring day. 3:27 - I started improving my WPM last year, (from an ave. of 110 wpm to 145 wpm) and lost 28+ pounds. The pain of discipline is a pain I would take every time. Would love for you to make a vid on typing faster since I think increasing WPM overall would add a lot of productivity in our daily lives.

i want to thank u for these videos. im 19, a college dropout and someone who focuses too much on the negative. trying to change my mindset is my first goal but watching these videos have helped me somewhat bring some order into my life, or at least it will soon. ive gathered a lot of notes and i am planning to make some small changes. sending love.

Happy New Year, Ruri! This a great video; I know what I should plan, not just plan but actually step out doing stuff while in school. Thank you, and I hope you have a successful year!! Things will all work out for you!

I am also a firm believer of what Jim Rohn’s phrase says and I’m glad to know people are watching someone who encourages others to make big efforts into their goals . In this cruel world, we cannot expect to sit down and and wait for things to change automatically, and it’s easier said than done though.

Thank you!! Slowly I'm trying to become who I want to be, and I feel that in 2023 I will progress much more faster and become much closer to my goals. I absolutely agree with you about exercising. In January it finally became my habit to workout every day consistently. Now I feel that my body is more strengthened, and it's amazing. I also like to dance, and now my movements became way more light and liberated. It just brings so much joy. Working out was something I couldn't make a habit of for several years honestly, but now when I started to do it consistently, I see the positive changes it does to me. At the beginning, simple routines are enough, you don't have to go to the gym or have any equipment. I love watching workout videos and move along with them, there are plenty of these videos on RU-vid. I'm glad I made a new habit that makes a huge impact on me. Now I'm trying to get rid of my social media addiction, become more disciplined and be more focused on my main goals. Wishing luck to everyone who's on their journey to become better 💗

Thanks Ruri. May the pleasure and satisfaction you receive increase exponentially every year! Happy 2023!

The way the video was organized was great in my opinion, I actually struggle a lot with my focus, and you managed to keep me on tracks the whole video. I think 2022 was already a great improvement compared to covid times ! I went to the climbing gym a lot, and got a pretty good shape quickly while having fun. Launched back my instagram, showing exclusively my hobbies (climbing, rollerskate, juggling and music), not only it was rewarding showing this to other people, even strangers, but it also made me work them more than before, because now I have progress to show. Got a pretty nice job in engeenering, even though I still lack a little bit a discipline in it. This video was the little push I needed to get further. I still struggle with sleep disorder, procrastination, and keeping in touch with people online. I don't comment often online, but I felt like it today. Thanks a lot !

Ruri I wish you success in both your personal life and your RU-vid channel. I wish more people can see your videos and learn from you. Our world needs more like you.

Since I found this channel, I have been motivated to work on myself more than ever, I like the way you break things down plus the research. Thanks for all your hard work!

I totally agree with you about going to the gym and seeing myself progress. I love seeing myself get stronger, and it motivates me to go back each time.

1. Find your keystone habit. Habits that are more important than others since they’re correlated with other good habits: sleeping enough and working out and these made her productive. 2. How to start: working out. - Do Anything you enjoy. The key is to enjoy. - Pretend to be confident at the gym. - Starting small. (At the gym) - We can’t fully control the outcome (how much we’re gonna lose weight), but we can control the input (how much we eat, how often we exercise) 3. Hot or build self-discipline/ confidence: - enjoy small successes. Accomplish every day. - Normalize doing things that you don’t enjoy if you want to Practice self-discipline Follow inspirations Podcasts 4. Get inspired by: reading! - Books on som subjects - “maybe ur current mindset or your concern is not aligns with that book. “ - SHORTFORM- to get key idea of a book. Book guide. 5. Get inspired by: RU-vid. - write down smth from videos. - create Instagram- share the things you learn, document your day. 6. How to start: waking up early. - identify the reason why I struggle waking up early( go to sleep soon). How to change old habits: • Cue- a trigger that kicks off the habitual Behavior. To change cue you must keep the old cue deliver to the old reward insert new routine. Her cue-goin to bed; routine-scrolling social media ; reward- consuming content and getting a spike of dopamine. So she had to change the routine part where she grab her phone and decided to swap it reading books - charging station far from a bed - waking 15 minutes earlier in morning

I've been following your channel for almost 2 years now and I have to say, you are so good at this. Especially you're great at choosing subjects and developing them. I just wanna say congratulation and wish you the best in your journey.

I only found your channel a month ago but it's been great, and gives brilliant advice thank you.

Your videos is sooooooo helpful, thanks for the guides

Ruri you are amazing, thank you for your videos!

Ruri, thanks a lot for these motivations! This phrase is kind of a game changer: “We all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”

Hey I would just love to say thank you!!! I've watched many of your videos and learned many flaws with solutions to fix them, I'm grateful for your experience and how you're able to share it with everyone.

Your videos r so meaningful and simple. They’ve changed my life 😊

Thanks for sharing your tips , will use them!

You’re amazing Ruri 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Thanks for your effort to make this great video. I have followed you for more than 1 year and your vids about learning language, productivity, making habits are my favorite ones. I've remembered some techniques, also learn new ones through your videos and I am appreciate about that. I've started to read The power of habits book in English, switched to kindle, improving my English skills by commenting ,shadowing ,recording my speaking and … , that your videos have had a considerable portion on some of my new habits. I hope my speaking skills in English and actually my fluency reach to a acceptable level this year. Also I wish you all the best in 2023

pls make detailed vid of each topic! your vids r rlly helpful!!

I really love the calm you transmit 🥰

You see, I don't know how i found your channel but...I feel so lucky and Happy that I did, cause I can relate to your every video and trying to change my mindset.Thank you so much 🥰 glad to be your new subscriber

いつも動画みてます！2023も頑張ります

Fantastic advice thank you!

Hi Ruri, currently I found you on RU-vid and You have inspired me a lot through your videos. I’m gonna be like you as soon as possible and exceed you someday!

Happy new year Rurii!! I'm waiting this video since 2022 😂

Thank you , Ruri - i starting my video channel and glad to be there in time

Thanks so much for sharing! What a good guide!

Ruri - I appreciate you style and content. I appreciate your sharing your story authentically.

This video is one of the rare long form content pieces that kept me hooked till the end. Thank you ❤

thank you for sharing your experiences! your videos always help me a lot

This is such a motivating and practical guide to making real changes in 2023! I appreciate the step-by-step approach, which makes it feel achievable. Setting clear intentions, breaking goals into smaller tasks, and focusing on consistency are key takeaways for me. Here's to a transformative year ahead.

I think 2023 ll change my life and I believe I ll able to become the much better, thank you for your videos!

I love you Ruri, thanks so much

Ruri, this is probably the best video you've ever made. Maybe I am biased seeing as how this video came at the perfect time for me and I share a very similar philosophy on dealing with life, but you nailed all your points very well. Edit: I hope you have very successful year as well and a big thank you for sharing your wisdom.

this video just tell the detaillllll down to little things act. LOVE this😍

I really do love your channel! Such a treasure

I just can't stop loving your look. just cool

Thank you for this video! It was very interesting and useful ❤

Yes, great channel, thank you.

I love your content, it's really helping me a lot.

Your videos are so inspirational and well-made.. this is exactly the sort of motivation and energy I need in my life right now. Thank you so much :)

I am Mohamed from Egypt. I came across your content, and here everything I love has come together in one person. Japan. Knowledge and practice of the English language from useful content. I will support you with everything I can to spread what works, and thank you❤

Thank you so much! It help a lot!

working out help me a lot in my self esteem and humor, in my sleep, in my discipline and that all reflect in my productivity. I just stopped complaining and started working out, today I can do things I don't like much easier than a year ago

This was really good. I think both working out & the revenge bedtime procrastination so doing the 3 step loop and changing the routine are my keystone habits I need to work on because I'm literally both lol. I'm glad I saw this on my recommendations. I needed this. I subscribed ^_^

thanks Ruri, you've been the only 'self-improvement' channel that feel genuine and substantial. happy new year.

Great video Ruri, thank you for this

omg the revenge bedtime procrastination is something i struggle with so much, i always end up on my phone up until at least 1 am. This was a new thing, i didn't even know it has a name and that I am not the only one doing this. Thank you so much Ruri, for introducing this to me.

Thank you so much ! It help a lot ❤

You are such an inspirational and awesome person! Thank you for being you! And your accent is really beautiful and you are very pretty! Just thankful for the simple, smart and cool character that you have and how you speak of the things everyone goes through but no one wants to admit and learn to deal with. I also like to deal with things the way you do.

Congrats!! This video is amazing! 😁

There is just so much to learn, so much to improve on, so much to read and so much to worry about. It doesn't make me feel motivated or empowered, it makes me feel constantly overwhelmed and it just fills me with dread that i can't seem to pick a goal and truly stick with it.

It's always good to see you Ms. Ohama.

So glad you're back!

I came across with your channel for the first time in 2021. I remember watching your videos with eng subtitles bcus I was not fluent in it. I could barely understand even with subtitles on. A few weeks ago, again, I saw your video on my fyp and I was like, omg I remember this girll, then tapped. I watched the whole video without subtitles on and understood everything. My English level is b2 yet still seeing improvement with a real based proof made me realize how much it has gotten better. Thank you for this quality content.

Man, i need to get my life together. Thanks Miss Ruri

Great stuff ruri

I love you Ruri ♥️

She's right. Fitness is the keystone 💯💪🏽

Thank you Ruhi

I'm learning English with what you speak in all your videos and learning new things about improving myself too :)

in my opinion this video is really brilliant just because of idea about key stone habits. this is so essential, yet many people and even myself before did not recognise it. the fact that you mention it in such positive way is truly astonishing. much love

Hi Ruri your videos are so helpful 💜

Great video had remind me something ❤

Gorgeous mix 🥰

I love the gym. It keeps you focused, it keeps you fit/healthy, and even if you didn't do anything all day, just the fact that you went to the gym means that the day was a success regardless of whatever happens in the day.

I'm 43 years old, and broken and depressed. Your videos gives me hope! Thank you.

Well said. My goodness you are perfect. Your body is pefect. Your discipline is impressive. Most people are lazy.

I really appreciate your work, you are a desciplined, hardworking, smart and intelligent person. Millions of people are getting inspiration from your valuable work.

Ruri I love you please do video how to throw away unnecessary things(but not Maria Kondo, I read her book and my room is still a mess) but your own perspective! I love your advice about investing in bed and working space!! Doing this now!

*The habits and routine are nothing, the will and discipline are the Key, no matter how painful you feel and you still carry on that's the warrior mindset, do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it, we'll all gonna make it brah 💪*

Hi Ruri I saw your donation button. Thanks your support from Turkiye

SO AMAZING ,GREAT TIPS

Watching this video and another recent one I can see you have made a tremendous progression in the quality of your videos vs 3 years ago. I will watch other videos such as the one of procrastinating productively or the one about not forgetting languages previously learned. I've just resubscribe your channel. It's a gift for all us to have to have your videos on RU-vid. Now it's up for everyone to do something, to profiting, and not just consuming. All the best, Ruri.

You are very important for me, I thanks you for everything for be here

This is the reminder I need to hear myself today!!!!

Great video. It's hard, to break out of your daily habits & life situations.

Thanks for the tips. In the reality, motivation comes after the action, not before! I liked it! Best wishes. ❤❤❤

Thank you for your videos, they are really important. You are literally changing my life, you are giving me motivation and helpful information. Ruri, you are an amazing and great person, I want to say more about you and your videos but my english is a2

heey im really thankful to you 🙏 i haven't watched the most of your videos but your video about adhd helped me a lot. i am not only learning new information, i am improving my English listening as well. thanks!!

I've been waiting for this video ❤ Thanks for everything 🥰

Thanks for successifying stories.

I started this year by learning 5 Kanji a day, had some shortcomings, but proud to say I can identify and read 71 as of today

Tq ruri❤️❤️❤️, hope i can apply this routine. I procrastinate a lot but after watching this i feel like i can change 2023

Thanks for sharing!

Realy good video! Thanks!

Thank you so much for this video. I really do need to actually change my life. I'm tired of being tired and tired of struggling. Thanks for giving me a bit of motivation for the year. Hoping it goes well. All the best for you and your journey ahead. I just really wish I could get to meet you one day.

Great tips, Ruri! Keep up the awesome work! I think most people drop their resolutions because they try to do way to much. I like your point of tackling one goal at a time until they become a habit, and then moving on to the next goal. Very good!

i'm gonna try to break my bad habits, thank u very much ms, your motivation can boost my daily mood to learn english more and more

Thank you.

Thanks!