I have a strong reservation about this method. Sometimes when you tell others what you don't mean, it will actually trigger the audience to interpret in that VERY way. Like you give yourself away by concealing the truth. When people say "No offense...", it means they are about to say something offensive. When people say "Don't take it personally...", it means the following messages are personally targeted. When Lincoln said this is a caution, not a censure, readers know he meant both.
Interesting observation. I think the success of a technique like this depends on the skill of the delivery and on the personal character of the speaker.
Much appreciated, especially as I recently find myself convoluting intentional action with hypothetical discourse, and adding humor as I go, effectively compounding my apparent intentions. (Thank you 🥵 Words are hard)
That's exactly it! that's why Abe Lincoln was such a great statesman! I'm going to work this style into my own...it'll take awhile....keep giving us your knowledge. I put this vid on my bookmarks bar for easy recall.
I really love this video I am boutique owner and it’s so frustrating when customer gives me a bad review knowing my intentions is not the way they interpreted it😢
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I'm here because I'm having difficulties communicate to anyone correctly :)
i loved this video it connect to many of orther tings you have in your videos as politeness and not to lose face . i have done it a habit to watch one of your videos every day
I think it's situational. Sometimes it's very clear whether the person would like that clarification or not. Using indiscriminately would for sure make you look like you have something to hide.
I just hope I can keep up with my brain when adding this new technique. I believe, the only reason we do not do this all the time any more is basically because people now days are time poor. We have been searching for ever for faster ways to relay our opinions.
I misunderstood a coworker today. I had two shifts today, one starting at 5:30AM, the other starting at 9:30 (though it's not like I would remember the latter, given the former would just extend beyond and merge so that I would predictably be there the whole time). At 915, give or take, my coworker told me to wipe tables and, as far as I can remember _"then we're/we'll be good",_ possibly even _"to go."_ This (I guess subconsciously) triggered my mind to think the other shift is 10, the time this particular type often does start at. After I wiped the tables, I left slightly before 9:28 and came back at 9:57 but when I did, he was surprised and wondered where I had been. It turns out not only did I misinterpret his words, the other shift started at 9:30. I explained what happened, and he said he understood. Still, what do you guys think? Do you think it was an innocent, honest mistake? I feel kinda bad (and dumb) for clocking out for about 30 minutes. My brain works differently, to be honest.
They're going to bring this up I like how you do what you do with Abraham Lincoln but I'm wanting to bring this up to you to let you know that we really aren't meant to understand each other that's why there's always miscommunications misunderstanding and I got this from my pastor he says that once we accept that we're not supposed to understand each other that is when we will be accepted by God
It's f'ing insane how via texting you can write "LOL", a "...." after an ambiguous statement, etc. And they don't get it, yet others offer Absolutely no context clues and expect us to know they're joking. Humanity is doomed for sure, raising and upholding mainly sheeple
"Communication is inferential" combined with "me thinks the lady doth protest too much", makes me wonder if Lincoln was actually obliquely trying to tell some of these generals that he thinks they SHOULD be censured or criticized, etc., and wants them to know that if it wouldn't hurt the war effort, he'd lay into them. Could be very clever use of irony or sarcasm.
I know someone pretty must anything you tell her directly she always comes up does that mean you’re saying so and so ? When you are a speaking clearly to them they still find a different meaning to your clear cut statement.
@@HowCommunicationWorks But how to develop the ability to continuously think all the possible inferences of what we are speaking while speaking. My intention here is to learn the art of conversation both commercially and non commercially. I am often misunderstood.
I would say first think of the worst possible misinterpretation of what you said, and explicitly deny that intention. That seems like a good place to start.
I just hope I can keep up with my brain when adding this new technique. I believe, the only reason we do not do this all the time any more is basically because people now days are time poor. We have been searching for ever for faster ways to relay our opinions.
