How to Avoid Unladylike Style Mistakes... 

Yes, and to think that since the 1970s the U.S. uniform/"iconic" outfit has been the blue jeans and a white T-shirt..I mean, really, people? That's not bad, it's minimalist and versatile, but is it really the best we can do as casual dressing? I'm not saying we all have to be as committed as Dita von Teese, but come on now.

Depends on the city... I live in a small town in Italy and here everything looks "overdressed" and you will get looks if you wear something a bit more sophisticated...

dizzy365 My thoughts exactly! I’d love to see more well dressed people!

Same here, but in a small town in Finland. Sweatpants and hoodies are way to go

@@s.v.4786 😣

That is true, I'm so glad she is talking about it

So true. I wore a very elegant dress at a wedding and I was better dressed than the bride. Even the groom said it (he’s my cousin so no weird drama).

@@leila_de_hautjardin+ Oh, Jesus Christ, that's awkward. I fear to ask, but what was she wearing?

Thrift stores my friend! They have nice name brand things for cheap. Lots of feminine clothing there.

Thank you for the suggestions! I will look into both of them!

I have found some great dresses on Amazon for $30 or $40. They have a great and easy return policy so you can try it on at home and then send it back if it's not just right for you. Only keep what is perfect. Lark and Ro has done great dresses on Amazon that are great fit and flattering on a budget.

Have you tried Chicwish and Shein? Chicwish is a little more expensive, but they have sales! With Shein I am just extremely careful and always look at the fabric/material of the clothes I'd be buying. I actually shop by material, not style, color, etc. Because I know that if it's not good material (pure, 100% cotton, for example), it's not going to last me and it's likely to not be good for my skin (polyester, and cheap poly blends, I'm looking at you). And of course, thrift stores, thrift stores, thrift stores.. especially those in affluent areas where people give away designer or vintage clothing because of minimal flaws (a present they didn't like, in a color/material they didn't like, etc).

If you live by a Dillard’s Clearance Center - they have amazing finds if you have time to hunt. Thrift stores and consignment stores are also good. These you will need time to hunt, but it is also fun. Fashion doesn’t have to cost a lot. I never buy full price. Clearance racks are also amazing. I buy winter stuff in the beginning of summer - cheap deals!

Awww how cute. I hope you have a wonderful school year and thrive in your femininity

All the best dear ❤

You go girl!! I like your attitude 😉!

You are very mature for an 11 year old. Good attitude.

@Angela Dan haha

Yes! I am about to move to college and want to look ladylike but not super stand out.

Hannah Riddle AND HIGH SCHOOL PLEASE

Yessss, My clothes are mostly very feminine and I am wondering if I need to where more casual at the univ

No one cares how you dress in Uni. So dressing modestly and feminine, you won't be ostracized; but You'll look better than most students. If you follow what she said in the video, you'll be great

Yes please!!♥️

I love thrift shop finds. Sometimes I get it home and it doesn't fit right but with the money I've saved I can afford to get it tailored to fit my body do it looks do much better ❤️

True

Omg yes

What's so bad about finding someone with the same clothes?

Denim jackets. I work at a thrift store and those sell like crazy for both men and women.

R/tradwife on reddit could be a place to contribute? Look on reddit for a sub! I'm sure there would be one for this.

Sabrina H true, she does have a blog though.

Claudean Hart It’s at least a year after your comment....but I just now read it and want to say I hope you’re doing well!

Abbey Murphy that’s awesome! ☺️

Same here..i am 25 years old..i hv been thinking all my life why doesn't anyone take me serious?

Thank you for this very matured feedback 😁

Funny you say that, there was this girl in my college class her wardrobe was all black but her poise, speech, her style was soooooo nice that she made it work. She would use platform shoes and earrings but she always look put together. And you know what's funny? I'm more in the colorful side and we'd sit next to each other in class and upfront so it was always a ying-yang moment in class.

What a cute message lol

romantic goth style can be very feminine with dresses, corsets, etc.

Don‘t be too harsh on yourself...mistakes happen to everybody 💕

Dropping a fork at a restaurant is nothing to worry about. There’s an etiquette rule for that, and it’s that you should never pick it up from the floor; instead you should call the waiter, tell what happened and ask politely for another fork. The waiter will pick it up.

I read many books on etiquette when I was in high school. You might be able to find some in your public library. I learned that tip from one of those books :)

NotYourTypicalMidwife hi there!! I’m a college student loving Mrs. Midwest’s channel and trying to improve my overall image and just be more ladylike. Now although I understand there’s all these rules for proper etiquette I simply disagree with making a waiter do something I can easily do myself. I love helping servers out and being polite to everyone and for example in the grocery store I hate workers having to bag my stuff, sure if they have nothing else to do but really that’s a task I can easily do on my own. Do you have any thoughts on this? I’m sure you may disagree but is it that bad if you just pick up the fork? I mean it takes two seconds and I’m not sure I would agree with these rules if they simply make it difficult for everyone involved

NotYourTypicalMidwife oh my goodness ! But based on your name, I'd love videos from you!!!!

Love this comment. I feel like different people have different perceptions of what being/acting like/dressing like a lady means, and each one of us should try our best to honor 'our' perception rather than buying into someone else's perception of what being a lady entails. A lot of people 'subconsciously' do certain things because it gets them a stamp of approval from those around. My point is, we shouldn't be scared of facing disapproval. We should try our best to live in alignment with our authentic selves :)

I like that you added this perspective. As someone who wears only black & white (kind of in a mod 60’s style) it’s refreshing to hear another woman speak on this also being feminine. I’m the girliest girly girl in the world but just feel more comfortable in this palette.✨

Marina m I love Aly, her voice so soothing to.

chilloften yeah I found her because her video about bangs was recommended to me, and I of course ended up finding her Kibbe videos and now I’m hooked! Fashion makes so makes so much more sense now. It made me understand why sometimes dressing up like a minimalist made me look completely boring or why too much overt femininity makes me look like I’m playing dress up. I’m a soft gamine, and finding out what lines work for me allowed me to finally dress how I want to dress and be perceived how I want to in a way that actually looks good on me. Mrs Midwest I’m almost sure is a soft dramatic, and it’s amazing how she seems to already gravitate towards what looks good for her type. I suppose we all do to some degree, but it really changes everything when you understand why something works instead of just knowing it does. There’s some other channels that also talk about Kibbe, but Aly I think is one of the women who explains it best. And she has a lovely personality too, which helps :)

I agree, I love Aly Art and the Kibbe Body type series! But personally, I think Mrs Midwest is rather a classic or even a romantic body type. Her features are to round and soft to be a soft dramatic :D

Julia D This is what finishing school was for many years ago. Slowly over the years it’s become a lost style.

You're gorgeous girl!

Kendra Johnson Thank you!💓💓

She’s so Lucky Thank you! And I’m also a sucker for well dressed children. I do find that people seem so happy and surprised by my kids appearance and manners. My kids say please and thank you and shake hands and always say “have a nice day” when they are done interacting with someone. I’m told all the time “you are doing a great job” strangers just walk up to me and say it out of the blue. I think society is starved for it to be honest. I always tell people I wanted 10 kids and feel bad I stopped at 4 and I ask if they have kids or just say “wait till you have kids, it’s the best” I try to acknowledge that I see what I do as different, that raising kids doesn’t have to be the way it’s currently seen. I have an Instagram account called @raisingtradkids I post their outfits and book recommendations and things we do with our kids that are pretty much the things Mrs Midwest says. I can see my children developing self respect. They don’t have a huge wardrobe and we don’t emphasis things over experiences and I think that’s the difference between raising vain and self important kids vs kids with manners and good self respect ❤️

Really though... you'll be asleep and no one can see you unless you're still 15 and have sleepovers

@@noellabezzle3044 unless ur married... and even if someone is not they might be one day its great practice 😊

@Princess EXACTLY 😆 all I’m saying is there probably wouldn’t be a video out there like it 👚🧦🤷🏽‍♀️

Emily Jusell Yes! I sleep in old clothes. Would love something nicer for my partner.

School of affluence has a good video about this. She recommends silk or satin, a nice rob, or feminine pajama sets.

Recently I have gotten rid of all of my black because it is just not a feminine color. Remember they used to wear all black to funerals and afterwords. I now wear lighter colors that are uplifting

You don't have to wear total black. You can, for example, wear a feminine black skirt with some pastel colored or bright blouse

Actually black can also be a very alluring, chic, mysterious color if paired nicely. For example, a black turtleneck paired witht dainty jewelry such as earings and a necklace, and a nice bottom looks gorgeous with some heels.

definitely agree w adding some color, but i wouldn't count black out entirely! even a red lip can punch up a black outfit.

Hi Kaite, if you love your black and you want to look ladylike, you can opt for black fashions in very feminine and classy cuts and/or incorporates a bit of lace or ruching, silk, bows, all can 'soften' black attire. And a nude shoe always helps ❤😘

Ruth E same here, I'd love a video on this

Same need a video all about this please! I’m tired of doing my hair just to step outside and have it poof because of humidity

Exactly!

Ruth E in summer here I usually go for an updo because of frizz (i have 3a shoulder length hair) and avoid foundation sticking with waterproof breathable make up instead. I also prefer light summer dresses buuut for practically i think shorts are probably your best option as im sure you figured out. I try to lean towadd extremely feminine cloths. So yes im wearing shorts but theyre a floral or darkwash and they pair well with a flowy girly top. I hope that helped a little im obviously not at all an expert

@@faithsimmerman5352 thank you! My hair is alwaysss in an updo, but I definitely need to learn a few new ways to style it besides a frizzy bun :D Light summer dresses are my current obsession but I'm cycling through the same three - deff need to get a few more when I can afford it. Flowy tops are a must with shorts for sure!

Combinations of ladylike and something else a little spicy can be really intriguing and beautiful IMO 😊😘😘

Jamie Germaniuk I wish I could find clothes like this!!

@@julia9557 me too. I quickly try to find something similar online after i saw her wearing it.

Fiqa Feminine Hijabi did you find?

Allison at Home but you have gorgeous red hair! I’ve always wanted that!!!

Check out two channels. Mirium Style, and Alley Art. Kibbe style is the game changer.

I have a small chest too, 32a,and I found that Wiggle dresses make me look and feel very nice and feminine :)

I also have a small chest and I find that the most flattering tops/dresses for small chest are with a turtleneck, I'm wearing a turtle neck tops all year round [in the summer crop tops with a turtleneck]

I have the opposite problem. I’ve always thought people with smaller chests have it easier because everything fits. I have such hard luck trying to find things that fit my 40G chest and 26” waist :( nothing that fits my waist will go up over my chest, and nothing that fits my chest cinches in at the waist. Us women have it hard in the clothes department finding things that work!!! Lol

I have spent years dressing really casual/with a masculine/dark edge, and for me I was dealing with a lot of emotional issues - I didn't care or respect myself enough to take care of myself, but also I didn't think I deserved to look nice or feel good. It gave me anxiety to feel noticed so I wore baggy clothes, mens shirts, just tied my hair back etc. Any time I attended a party I'd be a tiny step more casual than everyone else so I wouldn't be noticed because I couldn't handle feeling vulnerable. So I can't speak for everyone, but you're spot on from my perspective. Since Christmas I've been massively working on myself, and I'm to the point now where I'm starting to re-vamp my style, I'm trying to figure out my colours/my more feminine look :)

Marissa Anderson thank you for your very personal response. I hope you’re feeling better with every step you take! It is not easy... but I wish you all the courage and hope you need!! For my part: I always used to adapt clothing/style-wise to my peers, even as adult. I just wanted to fit in. During my depression I kinda broke out and wore whatever 😅 Now that I am better and also not in my old environment anymore I’m trying to figure out who I want to be.

totally at least that was the case for me

i love wearing navy, olive green, and mustard/brown. i love going for that ugly-pretty style, where it's a feminine cut w a less feminine/more earthy color, or a masculine cut w pretty embroidery or feminine details.

Yuck. Feminine and edgy don't mix. You probably think your style looks good, but it most likely looks off.

Knowing your style personality is key. Large ruffles and lots of lace look frumpy on me. The garment wears me verses me wearing the garment. On the other spectrum, I look childish with tiny details such as pin tucks and small prints like calico or tiny ginham checks. What I look best in is a true classic style solids, tweeds, herringbone, balanced symmetrical prints not too tiny and not too large. Clean lines. Also modern minimalistic styles look very chic on me. Think Audrey Hepburn, Katharine Hepburn,1940's 50's style. That's me. However, what looks classy, sophisticated and feminine on me for instance, would look boring on Mrs. Midwest, who is more of what is called a 'romantic' personality style. More Marilyn Monroe or Mae West. I can combine some 'town and country' elements when I want certain casual or flirty dressy feel. Knowing your 'style personality' and combing with everything Mrs. Midwest says here is a winning formula for a positive feminine presence. 💞

@@racheid77 sounds lovely! I love that "ugly pretty" style!

@@riacraig526 yes!!! This is such an important point. Our clothes should compliment us, not over power us. There are many versions of feminine/lady-like style. We each have to find what works for us and conveys our personalities :)

Theresa Pueyo she prob got it from the thrift store lol

Theresa Pueyo she prob got it from the thrift store lol

Amazing

surprisingly I find a lot of feminine clothes in thrift stores

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Omg i feel u sis 😓