I think this way about social media and people who try soooo hard to take good pictures. NO ONE CARES. Everyone is too invested in what other people think.
TIP: Watch what you say about yourself TO yourself-- Instead of saying “ I suck at math”, you can say “I’m working on getting better in math” . Or instead of saying “ugh I have anger issues”, you can try saying “ I’m getting better at managing my temper”... You’re not lying, you’re just speaking towards your goals. Simple swaps like that make you feel better about yourself overall. Great job Stamps!
@@GayTiktok then you highlight a subject you like better... “I’m more of an English person” the point is, you don’t have to say anything negative about yourself in the process
"quiet confidence" is a motto, phrase i live by. finally someone has spoken up about it! i think it is the most effective personality statement you could make about yourself, without overdoing it (particularly if you're an introvert)~
I'm glad you liked this one! I fired my managers and I'm doing less ads, but the ads I do pick actually relate to this channel theme. I've had a good experience with Better Help so far. I had to change therapists bc the first guy seemed like he had somewhere better to be lmao. My new lady is great. Edit: Well I did three total this month, but now I don't have to do any more for a long time.
Not “dusty-needy syndrome” 🤣🤣 that is so true tho. Nobody is thinking of you so you really have to stop being a victim. Say your morning affirmations everyone and be confident and know that you really are a 10 and you do look good. Work on your self care self love this year. “I am confident” “I am beautiful” “I am happy” ❤️
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That's how I took it, but honestly ... I kinda liked it that way?? I'd rather have someone close to me bluntly tell me I'm a five (with kindness and good intent of course) so that I could be aware of what I actually have and learn to make the most of it, rather than always feel dysmorphic and confused, pretending I'm an eight or nine when I'm actually not and no one has the guts to tell me. There's a beauty in accepting yourself as you are and making the most of what you do have. And in the end, the confidence fills in the gap of those missing higher numbers. Better a five than a zero!
Same. I used to care so much about what my followers and friends think of my pictures posted on instagram. I was craving for likes. So now fuxk Everybody I'm gonna live for myself
@@XGuessX5 OMG LOVE THAT FOR UU how do u do that tho! i want to start a channel, post on Instagram but I'm just too scared that others will make fun of me
So true, the self deprecating humor is just getting uncomfortable at this point. It's almost like they are fishing for someone to say "no you're not, you're beautiful", but it just comes off cringey.
i wouldn’t say fishing for compliments but it just makes everyone around them feel weird and uncomfortable too.. n then the people around feel the need to over-compliment them to make up for it 😭
Dusty-Needy symptom is a real thing btw, trust me, I’m a neurobiologist. It took me a whole to shift the neural patterns in my brain to be more confident and avoid DUSTY NEEDY syndrome. Edit: Going to make a video looking at the Neuroscience of confidence on my channel. Thanks for the inspo
Oh, and for anyone reading this let me remind you about what Kanye West and Kim Kardashian said when they were asked to rate their attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10. Both said 10 without hesitation and people laughed but that’s the kind of energy we need more of (not in the narcissistic way tho)
@wolf masque That’s fair, lol My overall point is more along the lines of “confidence partially stems from identity.” If you identify as a confident person, it becomes easier to act like one. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
When you're successful and don't need to take shit from anyone, you can get away with calling yourself a 10. Ordinary people have to be more careful because of how others will perceive them, and how that will affect them. This is why I avoid comparison with celebrities. They're being gauged differently.
@@helenatube My counter is that people will perceive you however they want. It doesn’t matter if you’re a celebrity or not lol. Celebs get much more public scrutiny. A 10 is always subjective, so I don’t think ordinary people exist-just people who believe themselves to be.
Was skinny my whole life...finally came into my own and started truly loving my body and dressing in a way that flattered my shape, I even updated my wardrobe to suit...then God was like 'bish you thought!'...and gave me 20+ pounds extra...now I gotta learn to dress and appreciate my new body. Issa lifelong challenge
I think what I don’t like about “fake it till you make it” is the whole idea of “faking it”. I just didn’t like the idea of faking anything or feel like I’m lying or hiding lack of competence - it feels gross/entitled to me. What worked for me was actually just accepting that I’m not “there” yet but I’m working on it and doing what I have to do to get there so just put in the work - and recognize that EVERYBODY STARTS SOMEWHERE. I became confident in being an amateur rather than feeling under-confident that I wasn’t an expert yet.
I'm 40 years old and I've spent my entire life hating myself. Absolutely loathing my own existence. Up until about 2 years ago. When I decided shit needed to change. I'm a work in progress and it takes constant daily sometimes HOURLY work on myself. Reminding myself that I'm good. And that I'm enough and that I deserve kindness and love. Don't wait as long as I have. Take Kelly's advice and start NOW. Because it's necessary. It's vital. I promise things will get better. Thanks Kelly. You are a beautiful soul. 💜💙💚💛❤🖤😘⏳✌
Quarantine/the lockdown did wonders for my self-esteem. I discovered that once removed from the influence of the a-holes that were around me, my confidence grew. I guess social seclusion is my jam. Or I just needed to learn how to be unbothered by others.
Exactly..Like the saying goes.."Before you diagnose yourself with depression, make sure you aren't infact surrounded by assholes." Life is so much better with out the assholes..Aka Narcs..And Quarantine was a Blessing for good hearted people..It was a chance to finally escape the demons.
One thing that really helped me with my confidence is the fact that I forget every thing embarrassing the people around me have done(unless it's someone really close to me,and even then they would have to remind me), but I always end up remembering my embarrassing moments. And that's the thing, you're not the center of the world, and literally NO ONE CARES! And that's why now I rarely consider anything I do cringy or awkward because then you're just bullying yourself for nothing! And I swear owning up to everything you do good or bad is the best way to earn people's respect .I could talk more about this but this comment would be waaaay too long. But trust me, I've come a long way from someone who could barely talk to new people to now being able to have a full on conversation with an audience of 600+ people.
We're always the best kind of customers because we come back for double sessions 😅😂 (Side note, replying with the upmost confidence with my reply to kelly flipping stamps 😅)
I'm in love with the way you speak. It's the epitome of efficiency, only moving your lips as much as possible. You only separate your teeth only when necessary, no wasted movement.
@8:30 mark you are right. I mean, everything you said is great advice, but @8:30 got me. Confidence is key, especially on RU-vid. If you doubt yourself in majority of your videos, people will see it and may get turn off by your vibe. Thank you for the BetterHelp plug and video Kelly😎🔌
I love this♥️ I really like the part where you say if you act like second place people will treat you like it. 🌹 I know there are people like this and it’s a good reminder.
"Honey, you are blessing these viewers with your presence. Have some confidence" Wow! Thank you👍 “All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure"
The tips here are on point! Like... uncomfortably so! But you eventually gotta get uncomfortable to get what you need, want and DESERVE as a human. I put myself in second place all during my teen and young adulthood and a highly emotional situation happened with disloyal people I thought were friends and family members where they took my trust for granted. I mostly disappeared from public life for about 3 years to work on my emotional health and my creative skills and somewhere in that development, I realized I was THE SHIT because I could change my personal reality on my own terms whenever I wanted for the most part. I just had to stop worrying about other people's perception of me. Becoming cognizant of your true potential is one of the most powerful first steps you can take! Second step is to act...SO DO DAT
"stop playing victim cause you're real cute inside and out" - dr. stamps 2021 SAY IT LOUDER!!! but forreal i love your confidence it makes me feel confident too :')
I think now you have come full circle. I remember early on in your videos you did not exude the confidence that you now have. I'm sure you've learned a lot over the years. I'm about the same age as your dad would be (I think) and you remind me so much of my daughter who is a chef and so full of personality and it is amazing to watch her growth. Your dad would be super proud of you Kelly and going to a therapist is awesome! Especially as it is seen as "Tabu" amongst African Americans, but it was the best thing I could have done in my career! Take care of yourself young lady and continue to soar!!!!!!
Girl Ive just decided to start up my channel again and this has literally been one of the biggest reasons why I kept on holding myself back for so long, thank you so much queen 🔥
I personally think it’s a great union 😂 the confidence of the struggle bang and “I ain’t going nowhere” attitude of the lashes really balance each other out
Thank you for this video. There are sooooo many people in the world who struggle with self confidence and don’t know who to talk to and/or what to do. This was very inspirational on so many levels 🙏🏽
You are so loveable. Firstly, simply because you exist. Secondly, your personality, your casual wisdom drops, the way you speak, the funny movements and mannerisms. SO LOVEABLE. Thanks for being brave enough to post on the internet (which frankly, even posting comments scares me cause people can be mean and then I feel sad!!!!) But for realz, youre freaking awesome and im grateful to be experiencing your awesomeness.
I'm so proud of myself for watching a four minute ad , i only watch the ads for like four other youtubers, i love you Professor. Stamps GET DAT MONEYYYYY.
Some people may think ‘success’ is the pinnacle. But it means nothing if you aren’t at peace. Nice to see you doing positive work with yourself Kelly. 😊🙏🏾
You just cured my confidence problem. I have a very important job interview in 2 weeks and I have been looking for THESE answers, you posted this just in time for me to.... literally get that job.
i am working on my catastrophing anxiety and every day i feel more safe about it. it‘s gone more and more every day. so grateful to be able to work on my mental health!
Kelly, What you said about people Not Knowing is very true! They dont know...so let them just assume whatever...but...really nobody cares. All this is true. Its basically the answer to social anxiety. Realizing nobody cares and how good it really is. It really isnt bad. Strangers are strangers. Who cares?
Used betterhelp for a few months when i was in a dark place last fall. It was exactly what i needed, some counseling and someone to talk to. I did get some very great advice throughout my time with my counselor, glad you are promoting the topic of mental health!
a couple years ago, i realized that lack of self confidence held me back from accomplishing things because i’d always stop and listen to my self doubt. then i got mad bc it was taking up too much of my time and i got impatient and realized confidence and independence would actually help me move on in life!!
''You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think and loved more than you'll ever know''. -A.A Milne (from Winnie the Pooh)
I love the combo of humor and serious content. Very well done. Your videos inspire me because I’m hella weird and no one gets my humor, so the fact that it’s working for you gives me hope.
I didn’t watch it to get help ..just loves your acting and openness.. you put all the emotions together in a blender and make it an excellent video, as always ..
