how I remain unbothered. 

YES. 🦋✌🏼

I feel like a lot of us feel the same way. Personally, I’m working on this too. Sometimes it can get hard since it’s a habit that we were taught very young. I wish you the best on your journey. Life is going to be amazingly great once we realize it’s not our job to make anyone feel comfortable.

💯💯💯 YES!

PREACH GIRL ❣️

@Ickalocka boobooday no one said it was. It's just a sexism thing that mostly happens to women. Men are not stereotyped as "more maternal" "naturally comforting" or "instinctively nurturing" the way women are and that's just a simple fact. So when women "fail" to fulfill those expectations, they are punished.

Thanku so much❤

❤️

That's me and it bothers others so much but do i care no . I have one life and imma live it the way i want

Legit me, only media I have now is tik tok lmao. I’m so unbothered with life. Anything could get in my way but I couldn’t care less lmfaoo😭😭

Yass!

I’m confused. Did Kelly say that? It must have gone completely over my head.

iconic move Alexandra 🙌🏽❤️

😍🙌🙌🙌

Keiya Hood Noo 😂 Im telling her I’m commenting just to boost her up in the youtube algorithm❤️

Her signature 😂

I was literally going to comment this but you beat me to it

But very stressful.

@@ajl2232 in its essence it shouldn't be stressful cause you shouldn't worry about things that are inevitable

I love the stoics good people.

That's what I was thinking

wish i heard this while i was with my ex LMAO

It's not my job because I do it for free

🤣great quote

YESSS!!! I was coming to the comments to see if anyone else picked up on this gem

i was laughing for straight 5 minutes XD

Woah thank you for that 😅

Unless that person is yourself of course 💙💙💙

Exactly be blessed everyone

@@yall955 yES PREACh

@@minfires7572 Thx lol

Shhhhh, the spatula is the real instrument she uses to remain unbothered

Ah, you are on your way! Lol

Didn't even notice til I read this comment lmao

me too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I didn’t even notice until I read your comment 😭😂

How about when you're truly ok with it but people make a deal of it and then you're indirectly feeling not included when that wasn't your initial feeling...??

@@cherrellbovain9138 if you truly dgaf, nothing anyone says can make you feel no type of way! 💅🏽

@@cherrellbovain9138 confront them, if they don't budge cut them off.

This is the hardest thing, especially when you invite, include and consider everyone. But it needs to be done.

This is so hard tho

Easy to say, hard to put in practice =(

THIS!!!

That is so scary, seeing people everyday treating me as less than them...is terrifying to me

Wendy Yang stay strong cut everybody off and level up😤

Amen

This! You need to realize that someone out there is gonna take care of that for you...

I need this in my life. Thank you

you still need that morons to get shit done for you...

I'm actually putting this sentence on a shirt

@@campkira true, what if they are everywhere around you 😩

What if those people verbally and physically harass you?

So relatable

Relatee

I been doing that since this coronavirus and I’m not graceful so I have a lot of memories 🥴😑

YESS! like i'm a bothered kween 😩

Same! I wish there's a delete button for the memories.

Lacey Carter maybe until she read the comments

First thing that stood out, tbh.

you want spatula holding confidence, lol

Oh, she knew. She just didn't care.

My confidence and self esteem is getting better.

Spill

Like 70% of the population is introverted...? But ok

@@dc9067 idk if that’s true really, but as someone who used to be incredibly socially anxious, a teacher would literally say that being shy will get you no where in life! so yeah ppl are really mean to introverts

@@bunnygutz7884 there's a difference between shyness and introversion, though. I've met shy extroverts and very socially skilled introverts. It is true that being very shy can be a problem in certain areas of life, especially if you combine that shyness with a fear of confrontation (as I did). Introversion and extroversion are a whole different thing. Those just depend on whether you derive energy from being alone or being around people. It's got nothing to do with your level of social skill.

@@zetaforever4953 but introverts *are* looked down at.

right like we can launch a goddamn rocket into space yet we can’t figure out how to just be considerate and accepting of eachother 😔 smh

Not humanity but people and society

Mildly?

C.U.N.Tahiti my thoughts exactly. I’m extremely annoyed with humanity.

Lana Marie deeply.

I need this

Just get smart, rich,help out your friends(people who you feel are worthy) and don't give a shit about anything else

"You'd care alot less about what people think about you when you realise how seldom they do"

Феликс Хазарский, tell me how does one just get smart

Thanks David So

Kelly Stamps your awesome 💛⚡️

I love you girl. Haven’t watched the whole video (cuz it went like 45 seconds ago lol) But you’re so worthy of all the love your getting you’re encouraging so many to become creators and sharing the hope the black community needs! I’m so proud to have found your work! And I also did the same two weeks ago. I deleted all the apps off my phone 2 weeks ago. And I’m so thankful for the focus I have. Yes! Great work!

@@MelitaRichardson whew girl I forgot how to function without constantly checking instagram and citizen, how sad. I feel like a new person!

Love your content kelly!!

All of your videos deserve all the ads!😁👍❤

You mean like the new world order? or the Great Reset? LOL

@@davemwangi05 No, she means our social situations, immediate surroundings and circumstances. Self care!

@@soniamo4139 can we change the great reset? Or we should just let it go, and not bother to put our energy into it?

She wants pasta! This is how she fulfills her desire for her pasta-coitus or something. Her verbatim not mine.

@@nathanboyer7739 she was joking

TRUE

Yes, Kelly should run for 2020.

A strangely convincing comment

IT REALLY IS AND HER VOICE SOUNDS LIKE IT WOULD SPEAK FOR SOME BOMB ASS LEGISLATION

Me too

100% 🎯🎯🎯

I love that!!! 😍

this was such a good quote. it's only the people who think they're the smartest that are the loudest lol

So true! My parents would always say "the emptiest drums make the loudest noise"

ok i love that line

My life’s mantra 💁‍♀️✨

wHY DO YOU ASSUME YOU RE THE SMARTEST IN THE ROOM

holy shit that's been my problem, i'm so insecure I gotta prove myself somewhere somehow. especially when i'm drunk lol

Absolutely yes

Omg, literally same! We got this! 💪🏾 👑

It has been quite a journey but going off social media has helped me so much! Hope you are doing well and hell yeah we do got this! :D

@@krissyleigh8885 I officially deleted Instagram yesterday after months of on & off "relationship" with it...and I already feel so much better! It's truly feels like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It's crazy to realize how addicted I was to social media but I'm finally starting to focus on myself and personal growth...good luck to all of us on our personal journeys. 🙌🏾❤

THANK YOU KRISSY

Same! It’s refreshing not having to see what the world is trying to keep up with.

I died 💀

LMAOOO

Saame

Same I had to go back and reread. I was like "I guess I'll just die then"

Same lmaoo

Me too.

Literally a forever mood

🎯🎯🎯

this comment --- I am glad it was made ^_^

I literally laughed. Keep at it girl!

Kenyatah Austin but you are a human...

Kenyatah Austin guess you're a plant then?

I dont like you too :>

so edgy and cool

@googlesucks ok anything for you babes 😚😉❤

No desire to go back onto it! Being fully present is amazing! It’s so easy and effortless to not even think about going back onto it!

I subscribed after that comment...

Yeah I learned to do this with overbearing classmates as well. Not giving anyone anything to work with. Made my days easier.

@@a.h.5555 I agree, you're generally left alone. However, people still notice you and will probably gossip behind your back, but I don't lose any sleep over it.

Read that right as she said it lol

👏👏 Amen

@@spikey0034 I decided that i am ok with people gossiping behind my back, that means they are wasting their time, it's not productive. I want to use my time in a more productive way.

😭😭😭 DO IT 👏🏾👏🏾

I'd buy that tbh

i like that too TT

I love it!

Ouiiiiii

Yo i have a story about that. So i was having a therapist right? Because i wanted a diagnosis for some medical issue i had. So i talked to her for a while but after a short while i realised she was kinda bad at her job so i put on my polite quietness thing and you know what happened? She completely ignored the issue i had and diagnosed me with some sort of avoidant personality disorder just cause i was distant to her because she annoyed me. So yeah that makes sense because i am totally not the exact opposite. So yeah apparently you need to be your most extroverted self to therapist otherwise they'll diagnose personality traits as a disorder.

Xiahoud assalamu 3alaykom, is that from a hadith or in the quran? :)

I love your username, are you Somali?

Yessss ✌🌻

@@neotyppe4469 That's so shitty! ✌🌻 Hope you finally got good help 💜

Me too!!!...As soon as she said that I hit subscribe 🤣💯🤣

Lmaoooo

THAT’S WHEN I HIT SUBSCRIBE 😭😭😭

Same. I thought i was the only person who was unbothered at this point

Same

Samee

But you are here.. LMMFAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🙌🙌😸🐣

@@TheKonga88 RU-vid isn’t really classed as a social media though, he obviously means like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter so on

@@colz5203 ( a little rant about social media, sorry ) idk, but twitter makes me feel WAY better than instagram or facebook. When i open facebook or instagram i have the feeling of fear that im gonna regret it, and im always right. But on the other side, when i open twitter, i just see what I want to see, nobody there even responds to my comments ( strangely) which is even better because nobody will ,,criticize,, my opinion or expressions. And i always find people who i relate to there. Idk, but twitter and youtube make me happier than ever .. maybe its because i dont go on twitter often, but still.. i like the atmosphere there while the atmosphere ESPECIALLY in insta is making me kinda cry before even opening that app because of the trauma i bear from that app.

@@Teo-eu9cn omg you put it in words! ive been wondering why i don't like instagram these past couple of months and you just spoke my mind. im gonna take a sc of this comment to show anyone who asks for an explanation haha. thank you so much! appreciate it.

not always

It's okay sister. We learn when we learn, not before then. Step 5 NEVER judge yourself!

It's not even about other people. It's about you, first and foremost! You can fake it and no one would know but then would you be happy and fulfilled? If you are only being/doing things cause you wanna fit it and be accepted (which is a normal thing to want) then you'd be missing out on your own gifts and self expression.

I am d opposite actually. I never thought i could be anything other than myself. Just never crossed my mind to act.

Briana Alisa I think that too

yes!! Really made me realize how silly it is to force extroversion.

But is it bad that I want to force myself to be an extrovert because when I’m extroverted I feel excited and when I’m quite I don’t feel so good but at the same time talking does feel draining, I like talking to ppl who are just as excited and interested in the convo as me.

I’m an introvert and recently i decided to go out to my first party and everyone started talking about how much i have changed and how i am now a “clout chaser”💔but i just wanted to get out of my comfort zone. I feel so embarrassed and i regret going out because everyone’s talking about me and i can’t stop overthinking. I should have not went to that party and my life would been easier...any advice?

Kea Mashita Get new friends. Those people aren’t worth your time. And don’t try to be something you’re not. People can sense it and take it the wrong way.

Anaya same, I feel the same, like I like when I push myself a lil and talk to people and have fun but it’s soo hard and I get so anxious when I’m alone in class and have no one to talk to all I think about is having now one and every one thinks I’m a loser or loner whatever it might be, I want to be social but it’s hard:( I try each year and I get a little better but it’s still hard like I’ve said lol.. I do want to have my alone time aswell but that’s when I’m home or something but when I’m in social places like school I don’t want to be alone. I have this vision for myself to be a unbothered badass and lives life to be happy and feel good, I don’t want to feel stuck all the time anymore. Sometimes I can’t get words out and I feel like I might be looked down upon cause I’m quiet sometimes, I want to be the part of the day when people talk to me they feel better not worse. I dunno but I can go on and on about this vision so I hope I can stop being so shy sometimes. Also a step I’m gonna make is my fashion and I’m pretty lowkey about my fashion but in reality I love to style outfits and dress up so I might do that more. (I heard dressing up helps build your character, for awhile it’s like u wear a costume but then it becomes u) I hope dressing up helps me become more bold in my social actions aswell! Anyways this is my little story..

Queeeeen!! or Kinggggg!!

I strive for this

@@eval3509 same, let's reach that level of tranquillity

THIS. this is it

How please?

I wanna serve you. will you waste energy on me?

That sounds antisocial… but more power to you

Same !!! Instantly subbed.

you put my exact thoughts into words

Omar Abdi Abdulla that is very true!

😭😭😭😭 HER READS BE LYFEEEEE 🔥🔥🔥🔥

@JamminJazzie Productions Sorry I'm slow 😂 Please explain. So I know what selfie's are. But does she want us to take our selfie's seriously, or people around us?

Saira Ailia I think what she was trying to say is that people who take selfies usually take great care in taking them, whether they take multiple, look for the best lighting, angle, etc. to get the best shot. Overall, there are some people who take selfies more serious than others and honestly, I take selfies keeping all those things in mind. Black people aren’t treated well in the USA to put it mildly but if people took them as seriously as they take their selfies, then there wouldn’t be this problem. I don’t speak for her but I think she wants people to care for black people at least as much as people care for how they take selfies. The part that got me was the sis was so shook, she shanked part bc that was a hilarious play on words.

@abc defg you're watching someone who's black rn?

@abc defg uhhh 😐 why not

spot on mr. burr

you can't be serious

Are you Aaron Burr, sir?

Rachael Maritim that depends. who’s asking ¿

@@kyliebroome7690 Oh, sure, sir. I'm Alexander Hamilton, I'm at your service, sir

True

“It’s harder loving yourself then loving others.” -BTS “Don’t be trapped in someone else’s dream” -Min Yoongi “Never mind it’s not easy but engrave it on your chest if you feel like your going to crash then accelerate more you idiot” -Min Yoongi “There is beauty in everything it’s just not everyone sees it.” -Park Jimin Some of my favourite quotes ever.

Stoicism 😌

That’s called narcissism right there :/

Beatrice Divina .....or a healthy sense of self esteem😂

we truly are her target audience

Fly swatting.

Ikr

I love u for that comment.... ❤❤❤

:)

I like this! I tend to take things personal so I’ll ask myself this more often lol

@Polaris Star interesting point, but I have no idea how it's relevant lol 😅

🙌🙏👍🏼🙋‍♀️

thank you for this!!!

www.jonak-paris.com/collection/shoes/flats-ballet-flats/mary-janes-with-square-heel/6647.html

@@KellyStamps are they comfy?

@@KellyStamps oh i was gonna say they look like my jonak shoes !

u (mostly) get to choose what u see i love youtube for that

It's for this reason I only kept youtube to connect with the world after deleting Twitter/Instagram.

ayare honestly

samee

Atheer ALmajrashi Me too! 😂

Amen🙏🏽

I was reading about this! It’s in the Proverbs. I love it

@@almondcroissonttt4852 I was just reading that too!! Omg are we...connected 😗💞🧚‍♀️✌🦋

wthxh.tayjaa yeahhh sis!! 😂

I just read this today 😳

"I am what I am, and I do what I do. I accept everything and I expect nothing. And life is so much easier that way". Anthony Hopkins. A motto for Ataraxia.

No it's not

Easier said than done!

Kelly Stamps true😢 I’ll get there someday with practice...maybe

@@crystalliveslife Don't say maybe. Believe it

Same 🥺 I need to meet girls like me

@@leticiaviera1151 she is black 🧍🏾‍♀️

@@kee7374 fr

Why do they have to be skinny though

@@BubbleGumBxtch They don't :) Just was repeating what she said :)

I completely agree with you, I notice the same thing, that by being on social media and witnessing all these violent protesting going on it brings out these negative energy and thoughts , especially I suffer from mild anxiety, so I decided to get off social media except on youtube because I can control what I watch..only God can get us through this.

Me too!!!! I had to get off of Instagram and Facebook!! Omg!!!! What a choice I made for my mental health🙏🏽

I did the same too sis, I was done with social media because I wanted my mental health to be better

If you think watching it is unhealthy, you should try and experiencing it. Interesting how the black girls and the white girls are taking the same approach.

Shelby Wolf I get where you’re coming from. But I just don’t think it’s the best route to tell people what feels to me to essentially be, “oh your mental health is bad? Well black girls’ are worse right now so shut up and keep up.” Yes, a lot of white people are now becoming aware of the immense amount of trauma and pain we have as black women. Yes, us black women have been carrying this immense weight for all our lives. But white women who are just now realizing it and becoming aware and educating themselves (or those who were aware anyway but couldn’t make big changes on their own) are just getting their feet in and it’s hard. It’s really, really hard to enter this kind of awareness and stay hyperalert when you aren’t used to it. We’re all people. I think if white people are a little overwhelmed by this, it’s okay to let em take a break. As long as they remain committed and willing to continue to fight for justice, I don’t see an issue. Hell, I should probably take a break from all this mess too.

I actually gave a lecture (per request from an old professor) on how I make money on instagram before I started youtube. Most students were falling asleep and didn't care. 😂 Now he said I can give a influencer money making crash course on zoom to his class in fall!

@@KellyStamps LMAO, you go, girl!!!💯💯💯 good luck with your course! You'll do great!🔝🔝

@@KellyStamps you're my money making guru

@@KellyStamps Im shocked that they weren't interested considering the new generation seems to be all about working for themselves or making money online. Im a middle school teacher and i actually had a student put RU-vidr on his career interest inventory lol

Shelby Steele right lol

I laughed for a good while with that!! 😆😆😆

eyyyy samehere

thank you Awae

@@KellyStamps Thanks for the algorithm lesson!

Getting onboard that

ight we doing that now

Let me get behind this

My phone broke 2 weeks ago and to be honest i feel amazing without it, not planning on replacing it, i feel happier.

Tina Belcher but your using a phone right now? lmao

@@taehyungloever maybe they're using their computer? lol

@@milkymamio9285 maybe... They're telepathic.. :0

What social medias?

From MTV hahaha

I swear I always think this when watching her videos

SAME.

Oh my goodness your comment is GOLD 😂😂😂😂😂

Oh my goodness

Oh wow

Same, girl! Same.

Yes thank you!! It’s like on the one hand it’s great that there’s so much awareness now but like ... the police killing black people is not new. But now suddenly it’s “trendy” to be outraged. Where was the outrage after any of the other tons of killings ...

Exactly. It should be the time that they do things without advertising it, but they don't know how to do anything unless they turn it into a pr advantage. In a way it is a kind of progress but at the same time, you know that it's only that they're serving the temporary master of immediate profit: i.e., look at how Pride Parades have become advertising campaigns. I am wary of anyone who switches opinion immediately in a way that highlights themselves. Instead of admitting complicity and giving an assurance that they will do more, many brands put up a veiled public favour request all about them in a symbol that has as much depth as the frame of a 2-D square.

Ya because if they do they get shamed obviously looking to avoid that

You’re right, it shouldn’t. It is difficult to shake off a lifetime of learning something one way, but it shouldn’t be that way in the first place. The world really sucks 😞

@@nadineslimane122 there's a huge difference between getting cancelled/shamed and admitting fault but committing legitimately to a cause. The problem is that these brands aren't even admitting past fault but instead are acting as if they were always with black people which is just b.s. Is it still bad if they apoligize due to public pressure, yes, but it is worse to pretend to not be racist via an ad campaign when 40+ years of recent history state otherwise. That's the issue.

Mirrah B oh honey i can only dream

I’m 40 and I’m still struggling to find a happy medium. I expect people to act and react the way I would. Those people who I think have done wrong aren’t losing sleep over their actions, but I am...it’s not worth it.

If everyone was unbothered then I don’t think anyone would really care for each other

Amen!

nah actually. i love being stoic but if everyone was like that, the world wouldn’t function.

@Ummm same

@Ummm it just means to leave people who always give meaningless chatters. Let them talk and just do what you gotta do. 🤩

😂😂😂😂

Thank you ❤️

Same!

I just found her today!8/26/20 😹

StAy WeIrD95 08/30/2020 ❤️😭

9/5/20 😁

Yes ma'am

don't say that in England please. They will seriously SHANK u :|

Hey ur beautiful xx Don't let dick heads Bother u stay happy and do what u want Enjoy...

I’m mixed but this is facts for me as well. 🖤

Same. I hope good for all of us

Proud of you and I’m also trying to do the same ❤️

🙏🙏🙏💛 You might want to check out on You Tube...These Channels.. 1. R.C. Blakes Jr. 2. Sheraseven1 They Both...HELP🙏🙏 But in Different Ways 😊😊👍🏾👍🏾✌

🤟🏾

She got a like from me just off referencing Mudkip lol

🙋🏾‍♂️🙇🏾‍♂️

🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️

Agreed. I will spend me time keeping sane and continuing my online protest as an underrated creator soon to be a household name.

Kelly Stamps *puts in job description* AGREED!

You want to know why black people are getting murdered in the street by cops in full view of the public without a care in the world from police? Read these comments. Shameful.

She watches Hellsing Abridged.

hey yoongi 👁️👄👁️

Your pfp of yoongi 👀

👁👅👁

ARMYY💜

And waste of storage :)

I deleted my clown nose account, I just couldn't keep looking at lollipops anymore 🙌🙌🙌🙌🎅🎅🎄🎄🎤🏭🐸🐸🌙🌕🌜🌛🐦🌎👃👃🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭

This would be funny if it wasn't for real. All I see are people using this battle to earn money, followers ecc... It became a kind of tik tok trend, making everything seem so superficial. Many people are just vultures ready to feed on others' "disgrace"

If we Pokemon I would be Corsola. Pink and pretty. Fragile but now and again I reflect things back.

I tried doing the extroverted thing and talk a lot more, even when I didn´t feel like it. I did this because I hated the fact that people would tell me how quiet and shy I am all the time. But I get the ´´u don´t talk a lot´´ comments to this day and I now just realized maybe I should stop caring about what other people think and just do what makes me happy.

I went through all that too. Not an extroverted person but forced myself to be extroverted and more because others said I should be... I should step out of my comfort zone, stretched myself. I get that, but I just was not myself and at the end of the day, it was forced and I have to say, quite draining for me. Not my happiest moments and so, still made for some awkward interactions with others. Didn't make them gravitate to me any more than when I was being my introverted self🤷. Oh well, I'll keep trying but for the most part, gotta stay true...

I feel the same way, i feel like i am too introverted 😂 but say for example, my friends get into a fight, should i talk up and defend if they are right or should i just stay quiet?

@@Neesha242 yea im talking about verbal accusations, they arent ones to get into fights but one time some older girls started acting big and i felt bad for not saying anything back to them and defending my friends - hopefully i can become as unbothered as kelly

*I was goin for a lil French look because I have an online quarantine husband based in Paris. I want his baguette once the travel ban lifts*

@@KellyStamps lol what

I really want to be sharing *everything* too. I only tell my best friend my business now!

Also smile in silence.😊

Those are the words to follow lmao

Truer words have never been spoken

s t o p l i v i n g

😂😂😂

She's low key serving us

The fact I didn't even question it until I saw your comment...

LOL

I needed another object for my lecture style video 😂

I’m just realizing it’s a spatula at almost 7 minutes in of watching 😂🥴

Same!! Hope things get better for all of us going through this

YOU GOT THISSSS PERIODTTTT

Keep yourself happy in your own space (privately)

Valdus Oswald why privately?

Heyy you've got this! I finally moved out. It takes time but you can do it too!!💕💕

Literally me. 🤣

Don’t worry too much you have 7k subscribers, i only have 100 🤣😂 feel better now.

@@jeenah2219 nice

I hope that the changes you've made helps you feel better Harry Bailey.

Tell me about it, you Will be fine. I'm patiently waiting for mine to grow as I binge Kelly's videos and make two videos per week😂 unborthered that it has less than 100🤣 views. Learning from the Best lol...

This is the best I've felt in a while! I'm actually reading again

My favorite comment on here 🤣🤣🤣

hahaha I'm skinTy because of genetics, I'm sure you're lovely the way you are

@@KellyStamps thank you! ilysm!!!

Whatchu talking bout? You a skinny legend queen✨💅🏼

@@zarceo410 aww thankyou so muchhh!!!

🎯 it’s literally just inhumane

I told her don't bother lol. I said you can be honest, if you don't find black or brown girls attractive don't start now!

@@KellyStamps exactly they shouldn't now if they didn't like us before