How To Be Confident Without Being Arrogant 

*learning on youtube > learning at school*

You should definitely cover Gordon Ramsay sometime

"Confidence does not need to shout to be heard" amen

Confidence says "I can win." Arrogance says "There's no way I could possibly lose."

Arrogance to me is thinking you can do anything without making mistakes. Confidence is thinking you can do anything even while making mistakes.

I just can't trust Conor, an Irish, MMA fighting, UFC champion, and he's got perfect teeth?!? WTF is up with that? It's just not natural.

Could you do a breakdown video on zlatan ibrahimovic

You uploaded a Connor Mc Gregor video exactly one year ago. Included visualization and back then you had just reached 10 000 subs

Conor is so confident because he believes in his skills and abilities that took him years of hard work and dedication.

do a video on harvey spectre.

McGregor is confident but acts arrogant to build up fights.

don't ever put Connor McGregor and kanye West on the same room please

Great video, as always! I 100% realize you guys get a bunch of requests for videos, but I have a topic for you that has not been covered. It is also not about a person (which most requests are about). It is VERY personal and yet I think it could be helpful to a lot of people It is kind of hard to put into words, but I'll do my best..... Since I was a kid, I have strived to be a good person. By my definition, a good person is one who is kind, well-mannered, generous, etc. Basically someone who follows the "golden rule" (do unto others, etc). But almost as far back as I can remember, something about the way I present myself gives people the impression that I am a weak person. ....or at least that is how it seems. I seem to have a target on my back, because people seem to take advantage of my kindness, steal from me, act disrespectful towards me, act inconsiderately, etc often. More often than other people deal with, so it seems (unless most people just "bottle up" getting screwed over by miscellaneous people?). At one point in my life, my family told me that I complained too much, too often. So I made an active effort to not do that, and I don't complain at all nowadays, for the most part. I am generally a happy person, even when circumstances are not the best. I joke all the time, and I am often smiling (even when alone... lol). So at one time, I thought my attitude might have been the reason for the "target" on me. I don't subscribe to a "victim" mentality nowadays, as far as I know. But that begs the question, why do I seem to have the problem I mentioned? Why do I deal with people walking over me, treating me as an inferior, stealing, blah blah blah blah? Am I demonstrating weakness? Should I be more concerned with how to fix whatever is causing it or should I be trying to have thicker skin about it (recently got conned out of $300, hard to have thick skin about that... taking the guy to court, but still)? Is this a common issue with other people? If so, how to fix it? One thought of mine is that I am TOO nice, making people think I have ulterior motives.. In that case, how does one tone that down? It is kind of "embedded" in who I am, it is a fundamental part of all my values, beliefs, etc. I can't really even fathom not being kind to people, but I also can't imagine what toning it down would even look like. I also don't want to deal with this crap from people for decades and decades until I die (assuming I am lucky enough to live that long). So anyways, I guess the video would be something along the lines of "How To Be Nice (But Not Too Nice)" or something. Excited to hear your tips/thoughts, see the vid (if you happen to make it). or check out any books/articles/other videos you might be able to recommend about this. Hope to hear back, and much appreciated! -EJ

Conor McGregor is a VERY clever individual. He realises that confidence (and building confidence through practice, hard work and skill) is the key to winning a fight, but arrogance (or perceived arrogance in this case) is an unbelievably powerful tool for selling and promoting a fight. He can flit between the two in a heartbeat to achieve his desired outcome and it's served him very well. Underneath it all though, I think his natural state is confidence rather than arrogance. Lot of respect for him.

thank you so much, it means so much, i just realized i'm arrogant..

"Confidence isn’t walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than everyone else. It’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone else in the first place."

Could you please do a breakdown on James "Sawyer" Ford from Lost! He is a such cool and badass guy, in a very unique way. I believe that many would enjoy a deep analysis of him :)

*Hello dude. Please do a Charisma breakdown of Adolf Hitler.*

A Muhammad Ali video would be perfect with this channel.

Great video! I really needed this. I've always admired the look of a confident woman who isn't afraid to speak her mind but was always afraid to be that woman out of the fear that people would view me as being arrogant or bossy.

At Press Conference he is arrogant because he wants to hype his fans up. Sometimes he does that by throwing someone under the bus, but press conferences are kind of boring if you don't have someone to hype you up. Press conferences are supossed to be boring, but it's still nice if you have someone that gets you hyped. I'm not the biggest McGregor fan, but he truly is confident in what he says and does. And now that he has himself in such a position where the UFC needs him, almost as much as he needs an organization like the UFC, he can start calling the shots.

you can't believe how relevant this is to my current situation. I feel like I am slipping into arrogance, when all my life I have been struggeling to accomplish confidence. I am looking foreward to more!

I've recently changed my attitude towards life thanks to Conor

every time i'm confident i get anxiety and mistake it for arrogance

Hello I am someone who really enjoys your videos and bought one of your books. I have a problem with being very monotone when I speak and I don't know how to fix it. Can you please make a video on this subject?

I been going through a tough time in my life and I just watched two of your videos and it's has boosted my self believe. Thank you you earn yourself a subscriber.

conor has had some arrogant moments. but haven't we all?

so who's here after the khabib mccgregor fight

Please please do an analysis of Ragnor Lothbrok from Vikings, what is it that makes him radiate so much power and his smile while he is confronting enemies

This video is invalid since Conor is extremely arrogant

conor may be arrogant. but a I'm confident hes a beast

You have a great channel going here. I can not count how many times I have gotten trough horrible days with the inspiration from your videos. You are helping a lot of people.

THE GREATEST ! CONOR MCGREGOR HE IS THE GREAT

Remember, competence is always more important than confidence.

i’m an arrogant person and he nailed exactly how i feel. Anyone got advice as to how i can improve myself?

Confidence is knowing you put in the work to get the results you desire.

You need to learn arrogance to become confident the 2 go hand in hand you cant tell if someone is arrogant or not only you know yourself what you are.. a confident guy can appear arrogant to people that have alot of self doubt in themselves

Confidence is the realisation that everyone is equal and you have no need to compare yourself to others. Arrogance is thinking you are better than others, and you compare to others in order to make yourself feel better. Confidence: I can do it Arrogance: I can do it better than you

HUGE bias. I am a McGregor fan, but lots of these videos aren't from the same fight or event. You cut out the part when he grabbed Eddies belt from the table etc

Hey Charlie! What's your opinion on social media and how it's affecting your self-esteem and your state of mind. Because sometimes i catch myself really comparing to other people or wasting time scrolling. Then i'll just delete Instagram and Snapchat for a couple of days to stop doing that. I'm really curious about your point of view on social media. Have a great day. ✌️️

Can you do one on Jeff Mayweather? He's an extremely likable, genuine character

Connor has threatened and belittled many athletes even outside his sport. The guy is pure Arrogance for pay. youre a fan huh.

Arrogance: I'm better than you Confidence: I'm better than you because *insert truth*

Are you going to do another video on Donald Trump? Thanks for the video bro!

50 seconds in and you already summarized the whole topic accurately, good job man! I just subscribed.

Hi, excellent video ty so much, your absolutely right, arrogance is loud and seeks external validation, confidence is quiet and speaks for itself, internal validation, love this video ty, regards, Bob,

What about when you stop giving a fuck? because that's when I'm the happiest...

I would love to see David Blaine or Johnny Depp charisma break down

Hard to evaluate cause Connor is portraying something to fill seats....and Kanye is just crazy

Hey, man! I've watched this video several times since it was released. Your simplicity and precision on explaining a difficult topic is impeccable. I wonder if you can do the same analysis on Lebron James though. He's one of those superstars whom fans are greatly divided on whether they love him or hate him, so I'd like to hear what's your take if he's arrogant or just confident. Thanks!

Ain't no better words to describe Conor McGregor aside from Villainous Hero

Visualization is so important! One of the best ways to calm yourself or inspire yourself. This is why creativity is such an important skill to develop. By developing your creativity it will improve your visualization skills and so much more! Awesome video Charlie! Keep up the amazing work brother :)

Some people define themselves by what they have and by their past. Others define themselves by their abilities and decisions. Guess who's happier at the end and more liked...

Being arrogant makes me feel confident.

You'll do nothing

Arrogance is good. You can destroy someone (mentally of course) with arrogance. But it is not a trait for everyone.

Confident and arrogant is almost the same

Hey, Charlie! Could you tell what to do, if you love, and love is not mutual? It seems to me, this feeling is familiar to everyone. I am sure you will be able to give advice. If you need details of my story, or do you just want to hear it, please reply to this comment, and we will find a way to contact. I am Andrew, your Russian subscriber (so sorry for my english, I translate with Google). I look your channel for a month, and incredibly admire you. Thank you for sharing this valuable experience with ordinary people. Good luck and success in the development of themselves and their creativity :)

How to be confident with being arrogant *Uses McGreggor as an example* ok 🙄

This video did not age well after 💎💎🦶

Awesome job Charisma on Command! Self-worth is identified by your skills (reality) and your opinions (perception), Low-Self-esteem (lacking skills) + Big Ego (Imagining you’re superior) = Arrogance (lying to oneself to feel better and not acknowledging ones weaknesses and insecurities), Solid-Self-esteem (having skills) + Ego (Knowing that you’re trying your best) = Confidence (Being honest with oneself, discovering your problems and always improving on them), Once you are confident, don’t think you’re better than others but mentor and give good advice's in a kind and humble way like this guy on Charisma on Command. (Girls love that as well! they like it when you can guide them to be better versions of them self, but improve yourself first lol) One thing to increase your confidence is to be harsh with yourself, talk aloud to yourself (on a walk or something) and then go and improve on your problems that you want to fix. When others will be harsh with you, you’ll try to be defensive and be all arrogant. Develop a habit of listening, everyone can help you improve, just ask the right question and learn from them instead of being jealous. Ask Indirect questions and be appreciative when you see someone who you like and learn from them.

Be humble (In reciprocity)

I'm glad that you pointed out that arrogance is really a response to insecurity, well done!

Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom! I feel like it's slowly reshaping my way of thinking and I hope that before I realise it I'll be able approach things/situations/myself more rationally while respecting everyone's emotions, including my own and I know for a fact that I'm not the only one. I'm so glad I found this channel and I really wish you to be able to reach out to more and more people because after all it's quid pro quo 😏

Wow, this is a much-needed wake up call for me. I wouldn't say that I am fully arrogant, I definitely don't go around with bravado, im usually pretty chill. I think that have a balance of both of these traits though. I am very willing to admit being wrong about things if proven to be wrong, but i have caught my self having a moral superiority to people when it comes to politics, which isn't the right mind set. I often place my self-worth in my opinions and skills, and as a result I often feel threatened when i see some one doing better than me in my field instead of just feeling happy for that persons success and focusing on what i could learn from them. I don't think i would ever become arrogant in the loud and brash sort of way, but i can recognise the fact that i don't have very good self-esteem, and as a result I may sometimes lean towards arrogant mentalities and thoughts.

A confident person is able to admit his weaknesses and his dependency on others. An arrogant person tries to make himself look as important and as great as possible.

With me I'm pretty sure it's a lack of confidence that leads to shyness, which leads to people thinking I'm arrogant :-(

Very interesting video, considering that I watched McGregor's win recently and heard, prior to the fight, of my friends' opinions of him and how cocky he is. It's easy to dislike his arrogant persona, but it's clear that he respects his opponent in the ring and after the fight. And he does back up what he says with real skill. I don't necessarily agree with his choice to become bombastic before fights to promote them, however I respect the hard work he has clearly put in to be at the top. Thanks for the food for thought!

Conor does seem to be that combination of arrogance and confidence and they both play a part in his success. In an interview, one on one, with Ariel Helwani, pre fight against Diego, he said something to the effect, that he struggled with being a "role" model, because his goal was to go into the octagon and destroy another man's dreams. That must be weird to reconcile, that other's have to be "destroyed" for your own success. But that's the fight game.

Conor McGregor is the definition of arrogance....

You have tripled your subscribers since the last time I came here...good job!

Conor synthesizes his own behavior: _"I'm cocky in prediction, confident in preparation, but always humble in victory or defeat"_

this video is exactly for me!!!! I prefer to be less confident, for the fear of being arrogant

Can you please do a video on how to become a good orator

After watching this video I realized how arrogant I really am...Not pleasant but it did help me learn. Thanks for making this.

He's confident, but being part of UFC he has to act too. Like Brock Lesnar for example. It's all for the show.

confidence is cool but arrogance is entertaining.. Ali.. floyd..conor kanye west..all legends..

Confidence can turn into arrogance pretty easily, i experienced on myself. If you get really fkn good at something at some point you can feel like you can conquer the world, and it can boost your ego really quickly, which turns into lack of respect of the competitors, therefore lack of results and then all you're left with is what you were and you brag about that to just hide what you are.

Where I can, I am confident. Where I can't, im arrogant.

Also great video and channel as always, later buddy.

Fanks for the video! I love practicing social skills. Charisma and confidence really do get you ahead in life.

Confidence is often mistaken for arrogance.Depending on the situation. Many people would label you as arrogant just because you don't act like they want you to.

Conner keeps getting beat yet still boasts. I think he is an arrogant clown anymore....like a baby seeking constant attention. Def. not a manly quality.

I will like to see a video of young Hugh Heffner

I believe the arrogance is a persona to draw in the fans , the man is truly confident and quite a humble man just acts arrogant to draw publicity, completely agree great vid

I hope you should have made one more video after the kisses he received from Khabib to explain in depth of arrogance philosophy

Please do Ragnor Lothbrok

The balance of Conor's confidence and arrogance is what makes him so entertaining. Also, a big part of it are all marketing. This is how he sells himself, by being himself.

IM A FUCKING PIMP !! ROCKING GUCCI MINK !!!! AN WITHOUT ME, THIS WHOLE SHIT SINK!!!!!!!!!!!!

Conor is Confident in the ring, and Arrogant outside the ring. He is one of the greatest though.

Conor has to say some stuff to create a good built up for the fight.......he seems to be arrogant for that part...but when it comes to work ethic no one currently can match with him and also he says whatever he want's ,,,the king speaks as he wants ;) XD

"im fucking better than you, much better than you. Ana Kasparian

talk about Marlon Brandos charisma

I love Conor and all, but he's definitely arrogant. In a good way of course

Do a harvey specter from suits !!!!

I think Fedor Emilianko is very humble man.

I'm new to your channel.... it's terrific.

I LOVE this video. Fantastic content.

The following is my opinion, and it might easily be wrong, however I made sure to base my claims on the sources like dictionary.com to make sure that my arguments have an objective base. 1.the line between confidence and arrogance is not blurry at all, it's a rather crisp, straight, fat black line. I believe that people who think otherwise probably have never read the definition of the term "confidence" and the term "arrogance" respectively. Whether one is able to back up his talk or not has nothing to do with the difference between confidence and arrogance, it has to do with a third term unrelated to these two, called "success". Confidence - "belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities" (does not include flaunting it outside and bragging about it nor whether one has ultimately succeeded in backing it up or not, just the simple state of belief) Arrogance - "offensive display of superiority or self-importance". (it says DISPLAY, and an offensive one at that, so it clearly includes the flaunting and bragging, yet it does not include the success state of backing it up). So THAT'S the difference between the two - the public display of it, not "being able to back it up". All in all, one is to say "I believe in myself and I think I can win, but we will see what happens" and other is to say "I'mma beat the heck out of him, I'mma KO him cold in 20 seconds, I'mma make his fans cry and clean up the arena, I'mma do this, I'mma do that...". 2.Conor McGregor is a great example of the most negative version of arrogance there is, so I find the title of this video a bit absurd. No offense meant, I'm just trying to fight for truth with arguments. 3.In my opinion, there is no such a thing as "a nice guy who's just acting like an arrogant one to promote the fight". I believe that that's got to be one of the biggest and most absurd myths ever. The reason is simple and logical - if you are willing to throw away your dignity, humbleness, respect and moral values in order to promote the fight, then you never were a good and a nice guy in the first place. Good and nice guys (like Fedor Emelianenko, for example) simply do not throw away their dignity and moral values for fame and money. That's what prostitutes usually do. Conclusion: Is Conor confident? - obviously to some extent. Is Conor arrogant? - Oh yes! In my opinion he might easily be the third most arrogant guy in the entire MMA world (the #1 is Dana White and the #2 is Chael Sonnen, in my opinion). Is Connor a great fighter? - Yes definitely! Certainly not the best in LW division, in my opinion, and has certainly not deserved his title shot, but a great fighter nonetheless. Do I want to see him getting ragdolled and badly beaten so he could finally eat all his arrogant and insulting words? - Yes :) Sincerely yours, -Fan of Khabib Nurmagomedov ;)

I would highly recommend this video to Conor Mcgregor