How To Be Desired By Your Wife Again 

What if your leadership isn't valued, respected, and is neglected (turned down)…?

It could be the problem is with her and not with him. 🤷‍♂️ It really is too simple to say one thing will solve the problem. This might work in some situations. However if a guy starts doing everything that she asks she might see him as not a man. It is way more complicated than one video or a series of videos. I'll point you to evolutionary biology. It also helps when the woman is available and makes herself available to the man.

Facts.

Okay, give her a monster drink mixed with coffee, and trust be she was jumping literally.

Exactly. How many times does a husband have to be turned down before he gives up? I’m hearing this and saying, “nah” this is just textbook psycho-babble, you’re obviously not talking about any woman I know.

Then tell her that - as soon as the conversation becomes about her - tell her that once again we're talking only about you and you're tuning me out like a radio

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We gotta ask ourselves did we stop being the man she fell in love with or she may unfortunately not be the one for you. That's hard when you have a family but accepting less is not an option.

I don’t think he is saying accepting less is okay. I think what he’s trying to say is what I feel as well and live everyday. My wife doesn’t want to sleep with me. And she doesn’t want to approach me and after a while it gets tiring of always following like a sad puppy and we’ll I think he’s just saying get used to it. So until something changes guess sex is just whenever.

Sometimes it’s true, once dysfunction has gone on too long it’s almost impossible to get it back. However, it’s not always impossible. This woman actually hit the nail on the head, and I am not kidding. I tried having an intimate moment tonight with my husband myself, and it was terrible. But he if he had done any one of these things, I would’ve been so much more turned on then I was tonight. I have not mentioned the fact that I am the one to initiate sex in several years. But I Truly am always the one to initiate it. I just can’t do it anymore. I absolutely do need him to take charge. Not every time but at least once a freaking blue moon. I can’t just jump and want it. I need him to make me want it. Otherwise I just don’t want it at all and I’m just having sex to please him. But it always ends up as bad sex with me getting nothing out of it. Why? Because he did absolutely nothing to turn me on. And this is not to mention the fact that every time I try to have a discussion with my husband, about anything that I am feeling, he constantly tells me, “ I said that,” about something he absolutely never said. I thought it was just me for my husband. Now I’m finding out it’s just all men. And then when I try to discuss it with him, all he wants to do is stop the conversation and stop me from talking as quickly as he possibly can because he is uncomfortable talking about it. There’s only so much a woman can take. We need to discuss things. I’m sorry, men, we just do. And if you cannot talk to us about things then guess what? You are not going to be able to turn us on.

Its a two way street. Remember that

When that happens, it's time to ditch the bitch.

This, right here. Nail on the head.

It's a combination of things not just thinking about yourself. You have to be more attentive to her needs also is how you get some sorry hun. 😊

Number 3 is illegal BTW

Exactly man. The only way to get her to fuck is hand her divorce papers to sign. She'll either sign or fuck. You get laid one way or another.

I feel for you. Mobile phones and, the Internet, fucked society AND individuals up in many many ways.

Leave her

Male her chase you. Do things around the house just because it needs to be done. Not expecting anything in return. Don't make sexual advances but do flirt with her. When she wants sex turn her down. Turn her down a few times in a row. It will drive her crazy and she'll want to jump your bones.

@@Diesel-hq4yl No she won’t. I know, because I’ve tried that. Backing off and letting her take the lead is a tactic proven to fail, because many women’s drive is reactive and not proactive. Lately, though, things have gotten a bit better. It’s every week or so, instead of monthly at best.

@@mikem6176 If things got better for you can I ask what advise could you share?

@@testchannel3187 After >20 years of once-a-month, and several times hearing it from me that it’s just not enough, she (get this) saw in a goddam TicToc video that guys need it every few days. I mean, holy shit, what a f*king epiphany.

@@mikem6176 Shit... I was expecting a different answer hahaha! Anyways thanks for answering!

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Do the dishes! 🤣

re-think marrying her..

Divorce pure and simple.

Eye opener seeing how many husbands are being sidelined and I speak from experience . Looks like women have become indifferent to chivalry devotion love respect in fact they are too comfortable to a point of boredom. A good struggle gives them a wake up call. Defining the struggle is for each man to decide. Ignore her and focus on your desires hobbies motivations. Rent out a spare room to a sexi pole dancer. Tell her it's to cover your therapiest fees. Who incidently has just started out fresh from uni. we are just want reciprocation and if it's not forth coming get it elsewhere. I married you we took vows that cannot be fulfilled so there shouldn't be a problem having some fulfilment from a willing participant. A rigid frigid doesn't want to find pleasure so it's her problem to solve or accept there is an alternative that shouldn't be upsetting for her. No need for her to deny you that if she anyway doesn't need pleasuring. From you. 2 extremes in women. If she can't accept she can file for divorce. Keep the house and fill it with vibrant tenants . Reserve 1 room for the ex.

Get her to cognitive behavioral counseling. See if she has lack of empathy tied to personality disorder. She needs to understand that intimacy for a man and woman are not always the same. If you begin to shut down in your responsibilities to her, she will get angry. Sex is a duty of a wife to her husband and vice versa. This is a form of high disrespect. Create boundaries and you will see hire fast She beginnings to change. Go to the gym and prioritize your health, and friendly interactions over her. See how fast she changes

Cuz we are always wrong

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Women go through this as well

@@AricaAngelo 💕 love your content!

@@KimRope Ah thank you I'm so grateful you are here!

I know it sucks, but she might be saying she's shy and doesn't want sex, for the following reasons : 1 she might feel that you're not doing enough around the house. I would ask her if she would like you to do more around the house, and then do things she'd like you to do. 2 reintroduce romance in the relationship. Buy her flowers on a random day, tell her how much she means to you,plan spontaneous dates doing things she likes to do. Run a bath for her when she's tired 3 when you make love to her, make sure you spend plenty of time on foreplay before you start with penetrative sex. By foreplay I mean, among other things, kissing, giving massages, roleplay and phone sex. In general, women need more stimulation than men to be ready for sex. The reason i'm suggesting all of this to you is that i'm guessing that your roots are in a non western country. I'm of indian origin myself. I grew up in the west, and i've found out from experience that many of these things work. Part of the problem in indian culture is that, since dating before marriage is uncommon, indian men don't know what women want before marriage, and often don't know what women want after marriage, because there's no culture of openness on issues of romance and sex. Part of the reason why your wife might not be initiating sex is the fact that she would like, or expect you, to do the things I mentioned, and is too shy to say it. Another thing which I think you should know is that 80 percent of women don't climax from penetrative sex. They need to stimulated orally or with your fingers. By oral stimulation, I mean that you lick and suck the clitoris. I know this sounds disgusting, but if you do it gently, there's a very high likelihood she'll enjoy it. I'm speaking from experience. Also, if you're not doing this, i'd try fingering your wife. By that I mean stimulation of the clitoris with and vagina with no more than two fingers. I'd make sure that your finger nails are cut before you do this. I'd start with slowly inserting your index finger in her vagina and stimulating her clitoris. When she's reasonably wet, i,d slowly stick my middle finger in her vagina, and stimulate the rest of her vagina, while you're stimulating her clitoris with the other finger. I'm sorry if my post might seem slightly offensive or graphic. I'm genuinely trying to help you, and I feel that talking about the way men approach love making can be part of the problem at times. In my opinion, if you do.most of the things I mentioned, your wife will feel so free with you,that there's a good chance she'll slowly start initiating sex with you. Hope this helps.

Same here buddy I’m married for 2 years now never has she once asked me haha😂 I’m not bad looking either in a lot of girls opinions but I guess im not good looking enough for her anymore smh😰

How long have you been married?

@@michaelreynolds4.0 By the grace of God coming up on 6 years. 8 years together.

@@Electronicsflippa Amen brother. 10 here!

The problem is when it's literally every fucking time you even try you get rejected. That shit gets old after a while and you think well why even fucking try.

Eventually you get tired of the BS. In other words, why be with someone who does not want to be with you? Life is too short.

Then you're the woman

@@fordshojoe8080 sad mindset. Humans should know how to clean. 🤷🏿‍♂️

@@uglyskateboards4457 if you do all of it then you are taking on that roll and she doesn't open up or clean she's taking the other. Not being an asshole just speaking from exp. You need to talk to her and tell her you can't be the man she wants you to be if she doesn't let herself go around you and open up to you.

Arica Angelo Thank you for your advice. I will give that a try. Whenever I have communicated my feelings on this issue with her in the past she tells me that talking about it puts pressure on her and that she has a low sex drive. That response from her doesn’t make sense to me given how active our sex life was before. I’ve flat out asked her before if I’m doing something wrong and she always tells me I’m doing nothing wrong. It’s extremely hurtful to feel so powerless in this situation. I am an in shape attractive man in my thirties. I’m a good husband, father and provider with a great professional career. I know I can get sex with little to no effort elsewhere but that’s not what I need. I need my spouse. She just thinks all I want is sex when in reality all I want is her to be intimate with me. If all I wanted was sex I could get that. I do so much for her and our family without her asking and without me pointing out all I do. I don’t ask for recognition. I take care of her because I love her and I just wish she’d reciprocate that. Isn’t that what a marriage is suppose to be? Not having to worry about taking care of everything you need because your spouse should be fulfilling those needs giving you the time and energy to focus on fulfilling the needs of your spouse?

Arica Angelo I tried what you said and I’m getting a lot of pushback. Again, she’s saying it’s not me and that her sex drive just isn’t there. That she’s always been like this. It hurts that I’m somehow no different than anyone else she’s been with... I asked her to compromise with me on the matter as I don’t expect her to be sexually active with me 100% of the time that I want. I recognize that she obviously gets to choose what she does with her body. She seems completely against foreplay as alternatives to sex and ask that I find other ways that she can satisfy my need to feel desired by her without any of that. I’m at a complete loss as I don’t even know if that’s possible. What do I do?

Why would a woman tolerate having a “low sex drive”? Get her to a doctor she needs to have her hormone levels checked. If she doesn’t want to see a doctor then you have a scary situation on your hands.

Joe Mancini yup I think it’s time to jump ship if your issue has not been resolved??

Maybe she doesn't want pussy

This is just superb, I've been looking for "my wife came back" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Jenaniel Forgiveness Blueprint - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my brother in law got great results with it.

Yea and then she succeeds at changing him and then wonders why he's not the bad boy she fell in love with

Lol did it work

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Yes. She has another career.

Hey I just want to let you know on the lube thing don't be embarrassed. Trust me coming from a man that has to use numbing cream we have things that embarrass us as well. But if you find the right thing that helps omg it will do a 180 after we figured out what was wrong with me it was literally the best in years. So it's ok to need a little help if he really loves you he won't care and will still love you the same.

Or the worst " I need you to be a man"

Sure enough, they seem to be unable to resist increasing amounts of disrespect as they get comfortable with you over the years. I’m becoming convinced that dating them, and never marrying them, is the only way to get them to act right. The moment to marry you they begin a path toward not acting right.

The millennials of which my sons belong have a strong bias to never marry but carry on as if that was the case. This is very common now. It puts women at a big disadvantage as they do not have the protections marriage affords, IE division of assets, alimony, so they will treat you better. That is for sure. Humm @@GuruOfwisdom

I have been married 31 years. We have a daily sex life. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. Don't marry people who are not your soul mate. Choosing a mate is the most important decision you will make in life.

They never answer this question.

Gross lol. I never understood how some men just don't care about hygiene or appearance.

Ask a man instead. Women don’t even know where they want to eat, how can they tell you to be a man?

Bro, do your own thing. Don’t ever let a woman dictate what you do and feel. This is called a low value man. Think about it she doesn’t need your attention because you have already given it to her. Back away and do your own thing or bring it up to her if it bothers you but don’t act needy.

@@KickingIt-In-the-Kitchen No worries mate. I just get on the Harley and do my own thing.

@@KickingIt-In-the-Kitchen really good advice. I let my wife know early on that i don't need her in my life. I want her. as soon as a woman gets a hint that you NEED her, she will view it as weakness weather she's actively thinking it or not and that's unattractive to women.

Bring home a babe and start banging her in front of your wife. See if THAT gets her damn head out of the phone!

@@billelliotdalton9730 hell yeah brother 😎