happiness being a skill/choice, remains of one of your earlier videos where you said love was a choice. It makes me feel less guilty and more in control!
I just started watching all of your videos and they are helping me so much thank you I was feeling depressed stressed angry and crying allot as a single mom of two and struggling with discipline but your videos have really turned things around for me thank u!
Hi 👋🏼. I am a single mom of two as well. I feel as though I compromised discipline because of the guilt I had been carrying about not having the family dynamic that would appear to be “healthy”. It’s just been me with them for the last 6 years with not financial, emotional, or physical support. I have so much love for them and I make sure they know that through my words and actions but I know that discipline is directly correlated with love and teaching. I was not guided and taught right from wrong as a girl/teen and fit into a lot of trouble back then when I was out in the world on my own. I want to make sure that if they god forbid make mistakes in life that I know I didn’t raise them that way. I want to make sure they don’t turn into spoiled, entitled, and disrespectful people but I am now having a hard time after trying to be too “soft on them” due to life circumstances. (Sorry this is so long I just do not get much adult interaction 😂) If you ever need to talk I’m here. I know we dont know each other but I know the struggle is real, especially when you stop playing victim and begin to take responsibility. Any advice on cleaning up this mess I made?
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your channel. It's refreshing to find positivity! I work full time, but the best and most important job I have is being a mother of three. I enjoy listening to your tips and explanations.
I'm just thinking if one can master this fully, you will not only be at peace and in control, but a powerful force as a person. I'm grateful that we have the need instilled in us to share knowledge with others. I'm grateful for you guys sharing this beautiful set of life giving tools.
one of my biggest struggles is dealing with being over whelmed. as you know I am a single mom, and I have a difficult child. he currently has to change schools do to behaviors, plus all the other million responsibilities I have to deal with alone. so I slipped up and bought a pack of smokes, another thing I try not to do. but it is all on me. these past few weeks have been crazy! I am try to use you tactics with him and myself, but.......... I have to do ALOT just to get him in the right school, iep meetings etc...... all of witch I just did and I have to do again, plus like I said everything else. then I do things to deal with it I realy don't want to do. so them what? I just want a better way to deal. plus financial whose.
Cyndi here at Live on Purpose. A Mc, first of all, thank you for loving your child no matter what. You have a lot to deal with and it will pay off in the end, just difficult to see that now when you are in the thick of things. Compliment yourself on daily successes, no matter how small. Those successes will build and you will be less likely to turn to unhealthy habits. Honored to be on your team.
Practicing Happiness. Who knew eh! Bookmarked this vid to refer to when needed. Life is a roller coaster ride. 🙃I will be re viewing this vid a lot more in the future 😉 🇨🇦 Stay safe during the pandemic. Please wear a mask. 😷
This would be a helpful distinction for somebody stuck in depression. I agree it is a skill set much more than it is a choice. I did used to feel victimised by circumstance /the universe, and if I'd known that there were skills I didn't have but could GET, that would have helped me more than the instruction to ''choose happiness''. I'm sure I did feel how you implied at the start of your clip when rolled your eyes and said ''what would those two know about hardship''. I would have thought exactly that once.
I’m so curious about this book because one of my favorites is Shawn Achor’s The Happiness Advantage, about how a Harvard researcher discovered that happiness leads to success, not the other way around (which is what people usually think - “if I get more successful, I’ll be happier”, right? Also, somebody I’m close to has been going through that same job discouragement where he can’t seem to find contentment at work and gets increasingly frustrated, angry, and depressed job after job after job. It’s heartbreaking to watch, especially as a wife, and mother of his 4 kids, as you can imagine. And he won’t go in for help, either. Maybe I could bring him this book and hopefully it might help him bust his plateau or whatever. Thank you for all your hard work on this.
How do I stay happy when being attacked by others? I tend to freeze up in these situations. I become saddened by what is being said even though what is being said about me isn’t true. After I end up hating myself for not speaking up which then results in me becoming deeply depressed. This behavior has caused me countless grief along with missed opportunities for a better my life. What should I do to change this destructive behaviors?
Jamela Sullivan. Check out some other videos on my playlist. Here is one for example: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3ZKfunvjwDg.html, There are several that might help.
Thanks Dr. Paul and Mr. Wilhite for making this video. I am grateful that I found this video. These skills and explanations are inspiring and doable. I am going to practice them. I come up a way to memory them. I use GPSwFIB. I read it as "GPS is waiting for FBI (FIB) approval."
Thank you, Benusa Wamilda. It's an honor to be on your team! If you enjoyed this video, you might also enjoy my book, "Pathological Positivity". No pressure at all, but I want you to be aware that I am giving it away for free. I do ask that you pay for the shipping though. If that sounds interesting to you, you can go here to get it: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-rRVXj2dEKEw.html
Kat M, I am not able to give you advice on how to find the right counselor locally, but I do have several Live On Purpose certified coaches, if you want to check them out here: liveonpurpose.coach/. Please also consider a free, 25 minute Breakthrough coaching call at calendly.com/liveonpurpose-team/free?month=2019-12
I have very very unhappy friends.. i tried to help them as much as i can.. being good listener, tell them about your tips (n sending your channel links), etc.. but i dont seem to be able to get in. Its like they choose to be unhappy (despite their advantages and previlages).. Can you help with this? just as first aid for them
dyan sawitri, you sound like a very compassionate person who sincerely wants to help. You just need to get clear on one thing, what you have control over. That is not your friends. The only person you have control over is you and you have chosen to seek positivity and happiness. Set the example but your friends will only change when are ready.
Im from India...I watch your vdos and find them v useful. My problem is that i am v stressed about my son. He wants to persue an occupation that my hubby has failed to be successful at. Dey both are v similar in their personalities too. Therefore im constantly worried dreading what if my son too fails in life. Pl help its spoiling my family life n my mental n physical health.
I can hear how much concern and love you have for your family, Dolla Dutta. Your son is responsible for his happiness and success. Be positive and happy for him. He may decide not to pursue the occupation on his own.