It is true to listen actively and carefully, however these days, I am encountering so many people who ramble speak on and on and on. I would like to learn ways to politely but effectively break the conversation, when this happens.
A couple years back, I was the grumpiest bastard you could possibly meet. I don't know how many people I turned off by being that way - a lot probably - but at some point, the light bulb lit up over my head and realized what I was doing was just killing my charisma. I hadn't always been like that either. I'd let things get to me. I'd soured on myself. Along with turning my health and fitness around (along with my style - thank you very much Style O.G.!) I've made an effort to find my old more cheerful, non-grumpy old bastard self. And it works!
As a Political science student I had read about Charismatic leaders during my college days and without doubt I can say that you are a perfect example of Charismatic leader....Salute brother Jeff.....👍🏿🙏🏿👌🏿
Style OG your right on point with these tips. Being positive is a huge tip and I advise my team to always bring a solution. Also add smile when you greet people. Another tip is smile prior to taking or making a phone call. It puts you in a positive state. Greet people with a "good morning", "good afternoon" or a "good evening". Another tip for the gents is open doors for women especially car doors.
I LOVED this video!! Even at my age, I thought charisma was really about being a smooth talker. After watching this three times, I'm realizing it's really about being a smooth listener. Thank you, G. Very very nice. Salute.
Thx playa. Your videos are already making a positive impact on my life. I quit smoking cigarettes 7 months ago after smoking for over 40 yrs and your advice is right on time brother. Thx again. Salut!
All right now! I use all of those traits to make myself a better person. I am reserved by nature, so I am ok with not being overly charismatic. Great points and advice good Sir! You can not go wrong with anything you said. Awesome content for this video!!!
Jeff, no way I’m I perfect. That why I say. All of my pencils have erases on them. I agree the ability to communicate and and listen to others. Make you Charismatic. At work my team is the best. They get all of the credit. Thanks for the helpful tips.
Thank you style O.G. this is the channel every man needs for real. This channel could literally be a course in college. 😄😄 Update: The advice and situations on this channel are tackled appropriately and can be a valuable resource to all guys. 👊🏿
Great subject and great tips, Jeff. I have always strived to display three qualities that have always made me approachable to anyone; dressing well, being positive in my attitude and speech, and listening more than talking. But, Jeff. "Negative Nelson"? Really? 😀
Who better to outline charisma than the most charismatic man on the internet? 💯 You give off such strength and masculinity yet also seem very kind and smart too. Thanks for always demonstrating what to wear on the inside in addition to the outside.
Negative Nelson lol, that’s funny. I’m a new viewer and subscriber, as of this past Monday. Came across your channel by accident and I’m glad it happened!! Best channel on RU-vid and I’m already implementing what you’re saying into my everyday life. Thanks bro, you’re definitely appreciated by me.
Nice video and shirt jacket! My grandfather told me most of getting along in life was to be on time, iron your shirt, put on lotion and don’t talk too much.
I stole a line from Duke Ellington. When he would compliment a lady on her outfit. Duke Ellington would say: "You make that outfit look good!" The first time I used it, worked like a charm. Now it is in my arsenal.
I 'm glade I came across this video this what to help me build to improve my people skils at work and outside of work cause sometimes is struggle but I trying my best.
All Great stuff Jeff very classy that name thing is true for me also if I don't call their name in a while especially 1st meeting them it's trouble unless something I can relate and also many people say they don't want to be used if we can't then we're useless it's being abused that hurts all Great stuff thanks
Solid content 👌... You gave the Style O.G family the blueprint to being more charismatic... We can all take notes on this video... Thanks again Jeff. Salute.
One of the points that I picked up are being reliable . Sometimes we are but we want to be reliable but don't want to attract the wrong people who start using you. How do you mitigate this if you can't get rid of it completely?
That’s a great point imho. I’ve always heard it’s about boundaries and using the greatest word in the English language: No. I am a hardened people-pleaser so I am forever working on this.
Hey Jeff my apologies for the late comment this was great video I will definitely following some of these tips as some time I can tune someone out my bad . PEACE AND BLESSINGS OG
The older I get the easier it is to talk to people. I just treat people especially in business like an old friend. Treat them the same way I want to be treated. All I do is be myself and go out of my way to be nice to people. It also helps when you have grey hair and wrinkles. People take you a lot more serious. I love being in my 40s
Decisive, Positive outlook, sense of humor, Listen more and twice as much and eye contact, dress well, increase your strengths and showcase that you are useful, lead with your strengths, shine spotlight on others. (NOTES)
What technique do I use to help me remember names? Let's say that I meet a guy named Homer. In my brain, I replace Homer's head, with Homer Simpson's. The next time I see Homer, I see Homer Simpson. Boom, Homer feels important because I remembered him!
I don’t agree with #5(Be less perfect).Sometimes peoples perception of others is that other person is perfect.Example;If your a man,6’4”240 pounds,good hair,good teeth and well spoken,that’s who you are,it’s not an act.But,the person who feels less than,may dislike you simply because THEIR PERCEPTION tells them you are better than them.And because of that,they avoid you,sometimes even hate you,and they don’t know why,and you don’t know why because you’ve never done anything to that person.There’s a reason good looking,we’ll spoken people have less friends; Jealousy…. No matter how much you listen,help them & Support them,they will still dislike you because your presence(and they don’t have to know you)reminds them of what they are not…
