1:16 - Have the right attitude 2:23 - Initiate eye contact 2:53 - Approach right away after eye contact 4:08 - Approach with confident body language 5:15 - What to say/conversation starter 6:35 - No heavy topics/keep convo light 7:31 - Sprinkle in compliments 8:23 - How to get in and get out of convo 9:24 - Make sure you’re ok with rejection/handle with class Appreciate it OG
@@f.k.6151 As for me personally, I just like a man to come over, smile, say hi, give me a compliment, ask how my day is going, let's get into a light conversation and ask for my number. 🙂
1:14 Guys need to understand, its nerve racking for us too. We're not keen on being rejected either. Sometimes what guys see as "arrogance" in women is actually shyness. If you automatically decide we're "stuck up", or on the other hand out of your league, then you've automatically set things up to fail. However the best way to approach us (I try not to speak for every woman lol) is be POLITE, and also be confidant. Be sure of yourself. A sense of humor goes a long way. Compliments are always welcome (give genuine, non-physical ones) and of course have good hygiene. Try it!
When I meet a woman the first thing I usually do is smack her in the face. That way if we do develop a relationship she can never tell me I don’t treat her as well as I used to. 🤣
I wouldn't ask a woman to chat her up a bit a social event . There are some women who instantly think of certain approaches as a " player's approach ". Maybe I would if it's just a one night stand booty call kind of woman. There are some women who are looking for a serious soul mate not just a booty call. I would be very social without getting deep. I wouldn't ask for numbers also. I prefer women giving me their numbers after 3 days or so I would call to say hello. You don't want to sound or appear desperate. No need to be,you have good things going on for you. You are important too.🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
I have recently heard on another video that the thing to work on is courage; be brave approach the job, girl or any task or project with a here goes courage; after a while competency will develope, which in turn bring confidence. A bit like a child learning to ride a bicycle. First he or she gets the here goes attitude (courage), gets on the bike and after a while...give or take a few times falling off gets it and can now cycle (competence). Finally after a while competence grows and cycling becomes second nature (confidence) is achieved.
All great tips -- be CONFIDENT, Y'all! One thing to add: when looking to make eye contact, if you haven't already done a body scan, etc., you need to check for any wedding rings/engagement rings -- especially for older women (i.e, over 30). Will save you instant rejection (if she is faithful) and a lot less smoke if you do.
I never really thought about that aspect of making eye contact first on a cold approach. That'll mitigate her feeling ambushed and give her a small chance to evaluate you first. Even giving you a choosing signal.
This was on time good Sir. I have learned all of those advice tips and so much more through trial and error. The main one I think is in approaching women is to remember your not going to be every ladies cup of tea and therefore you will be rejected, but as O.G. stated "don't take it personally." The more you conquer rejection the easier it becomes to approach women, because you won't feel so uneasy about your pride being hurt due to her not wanting to get to know you. Great topic and fantastic work good Sir!!!
Sometimes she becomes the hunter when a man is sharp, well attired , groomed, not bad looking, has a nice job, lives in a nice neighborhood. I don't have time to chase women. I will be social, professional but I am not going to talk on anything deep.She has to show interest. I am not looking for a 1 night stand. After years of my late teens and 20s, I realized I was pursuing the wrong type of young women. I realize that I should just have a female friendship with someone from similar backgrounds ( social, educational etc) and some who genuinely likes me not for money, job or status.
If she doesn't want to get to know you or enable you to insert yourself in her life--especially if she's single and struggling to find a man herself--then hey, that's her loss, not yours!! Oh well!!!
Whats up jeff how are you doing this is Donald from Cincinnati once again great advice as always you are the truth keep up the great work and as always Salute
My best attribute is humor. Women love subtle approaches mixed with the ability to laugh and compliments like the OG said. I appreciate your channel I'm gonna utilize your tips
Great dialogue OG. For my entrepreneurs One thing that really helped me with the exchange was keeping business cards, especially in the right settings. If she interested she’ll reach out
Good advice, as always. Most of my successes have been with substantially younger women. I make eye contact and smile. You know-the “our eyes met across a crowded room” scenario. In order to NOT look like a “dirty ol’ man”, I don’t approach or send a drink. Give her the decision/choice/power to initiate. If the woman is more near my age, or older, game on.
The line I like to use is "Excuse me, I don't mean to interrupt what you're doing but I think you're attractive. Can I get your number?". Short, polite, and to the point
Great great advice I'm going through this now even though I just met a beautiful Portuguese woman about a week and a half ago and we've really been hitting it off I love intelligent women and she fits the bill I live the fitness lifestyle so at the gym there are tons of women literally all nationalities shapes and sizes but I don't approach them I'm an introvert when it comes to the gym because I'm focused on my workout always have been but they tend to come around me and use the machine right next to me I'll walk right in front of me with their tight outfits on most of them are well built and in shape it's a great atmosphere for a gentleman like myself anyway thanks Jeff great advice keep up the good work and continue to give us tips they're very helpful God bless brother I'm a big fan 🙏👍💪😎🇺🇲
Whats good Jeff. I just wanted to say thank you for the brand referral . I really appreciate it. I emailed your biz email to thank you as well just in case you missed it. I'm not trying to spam you. Just wanted to say thank you. Awesome video as always.
I've followed some of this advice for years. When it comes to rejection, I have been turned down so many times over the past 7 years that it hardly ever bothers me anymore, even though several times in 2019 I have shattered through the ice quite deeply. What I mean by that is that I've mingled with several women, danced with them, had coffee dates or dinner dates with them, and even got laid for the first time ever (although it was with a woman in her 50s)! Despite this, my ultimate goal is to in this segment of my life is to upgrade to a younger, prettier woman, whether it's to pursue a romantic relationship, date casually, or at least get laid. Also, what you could have added in was the inclusion of icebreakers to get a conversation going. For example, compliment her on her shoes if you wish. Also, whatever may be going on at a certain point, like the song that may be playing in whatever location you're at, whatever's on TV at any given point, and so on.
You are definitely not a family man. You are not looking for a life partner or soulmate, you are just playing around. When health starts to decline, it's your soulmate who will be there for you. Younger, prettier girls will always love a younger and handsome guy. Play in your lane brotha.
@@misterlexx2721I don't think anyone asked you anything, smart aleck. You obviously don't know me personally or my situation, so you better stay in YOUR lane and out of my business, PAT'NA.
style O.G. i gotta say you are speaking facts man about style how to what to say appoach women and how man act man this was a greatest wake up call for all bless u man😇🙏
@@anndiestephen7671 have you ever looked back after adverting your eyes? That shows interest. But adverting your eyes and not looking back shows avoiding eye contact. May not be the body language you intend to put off, but you definitely are, if you don’t take a second glance.
Once you do this a few times, you will have some success if you have style and are confident. With that being said, it doesn’t mean much for you just to get a phone number. Many girls will flake after you reach out. It’s the same as online dating. A match doesn’t really mean much.
If you meet in person and have a good conversation w her. It's a lot better chance than online to get that first date. You can tell if she's into you, or just being nice in person.
@@cjstats1514 Its not always that simple bro. Women can change how they feel at the drop of a hat. Yes, you can better tell if a woman likes you in person. But it’s not full proof. Women have so many “options” these days that if you just don’t call for a couple of days, they could lose interest.
@@JohnBeezy3 Def didn't say it was full proof. It's not full proof no matter who you are. But it gives you a better chance. You prob at least get that first date. Yes, woman def change their mind a lot. But if you play it right, and they are attracted to you. The ball is in your court as much as anyone else's. Most guys push too hard and fast. Let them slowly get actual feelings for you. You just show up and have her enjoy a good time and enjoy being around you. Let her bring up the going more serious part.
@@cjstats1514 I agree with everything you said. You typically can lock up a first date if you have your ducks in a row. But from there, it’s anyones guess. I’ve had chicks be hardcore into me one day and then lose interest a week or two later. They get bored easily and have a short attention span.
@@JohnBeezy3 Oh I def agree w that lol. I've had females tell me males do that also. But in my experience. And my male friends experience. Females do that more. But that's where the part of taking it slow and having other options come in. That way your not pursuing too hard. And also not playing games and doing it on purpose. You just have fun w her and let her fall in love w you. Then they won't leave so easy. And don't be boring or be around her too much, so she won't be bored. Of she's emotionally available and a secure attachment. She will stick around. It's about seeing the red flags. Knowing how to spot the Narcs, borderline personalities and avoidant personality traits woman. Stay away from them.
Some good ass tips you got. my approach when I do get the confidence to Holla at somebody I be like my name Chris how you doing what's your name then be like I don't want to take up too much of your time you got a number so I can get to know you better then I say it was nice meeting you. I just always assume woman be in a rush so I try to keep it short and sweet until we talk at a later time
Whats up jeff how are you doing tonight got a question for you.why does it seem like the good guys always finish last.but the bad boys get the girls? I'm asking this because I'm interested in a young lady who has been though a lot but won't give me a chance to show her how she should be treated.i hope you have time to answer my question as always keep up the great advice Ind SALUTE
Build trust through patient and empathetic communication. Be her friend, be there for her. Don't impose yourself and be ready to date others if she's not responding.
Great tips and thank you! I have a question, I agree that you should not be in a woman's face upon greeting her the first time for too long and to exchange contact info if she's interested. But what if the event that we are both at requires me to stay there for a long time after I greet her, especially if I came to the event by myself without friends or associates? Should I still keep my distance from her for the rest of the event, and if so, is it possible for me to still appear high in my masculinity if I came to the event alone with no friends and associates? If it's a small event where there's not much people there the chances are high that we'll notice each other again.
Tip - do not EVER tell a woman you just met that she's "so pretty", especially if she's not really that pretty. To me, "you're so pretty" means "I'm drunk and my beer goggles are fogged up". "I like your eyes", or "your smile was really compelling" or something like that is good.
I usually don’t dress for da Klub. I often go to more elegant restaurant or hotel bars where I dine (so I know some staff by name), charity or the arts events to find types of women I prefer. What are your thoughts on meet-up environments?
I go to the gym and have a pretty good physique. But the thing is that women don't seem to be excited and impressed about it. It is not about that the only reason for me to work out is to impress women. The main reason is of course myself ( feeling good), but anyway we all love being an object of interest of the opposite gender, don't we? So what would you recommend? Maybe the problem is in my way of thinking.
Good advice however I think it is possible that if you are in a setting where the woman is receptive to the conversation there is no reason to dash away.
"get in, and then get out." I'm in sales and I treat approaching the opposite sex like a sales call---it' a numbers game. The more you make calls, the more likely you are to meet your Quota.'
Don't be all wound up to tell them all about you.. especially if they ask all about you...ask all about them and tell them they have beautiful hair.....see if that don't work
