How to Believe God for a Spouse? 

It's nice that you want to help singles. However, many singles are hurting deeply. So many like me have waited for years trusting God. The advice is very general. Singles need empathy and more recognition and help inside the church especially. Something is wrong when multiples of women in the church are singles for years and years. Mostly no men are in church. Singles are not prayed for in church or supported. Ultimately, only God can do it for a person. There is so much focus on preserving and healing marriages. Rightly so, but would anyone join singles and really, truly see their heartfelt issues and help them in their struggles? There is deep loneliness for years and weariness waiting for years. Also singles shouldn't be shamed and always telling singles that they shouldn't make marriage an idol. That is so unfair when many singles have waited for years and years and many others waited 2-5 years to get married with much less waiting.

"Everybody has a list for the spouse they want. Nobody has a list about the kind of spouse they want to be." 🤯 #GEM

8 years ago I made a list of characteristics that I wanted in a husband it was characteristics that my great grandfather had and I prayed over it for 8 months and I believed God would answer those prayers and he did. My husband and I have been together for 8 years out of those 8 years we've been married for 3 years and he is everything that I prayed for.

1) Ask God for a spouse 2) BE a wife/husband NOW!! a. Learn to cook/clean b. Do your hair c. Dress the part d. Start your business e. Get out of debt d. LIVE NOW!!! 4) Spend time to determine whether to Date; keep it holy 5) NO pressure 6) Have standards

You're not reading this by accident this is a confirmation that everything is going to be alright GOD is making a way for you right now at this moment!GOD is working on your behalf. He is orchestrating things in your favor. There are blessings lined up just for you!GOD is so Good all the time GOD is so good!Get some Rest!GOD isn't going wreck His reputation on you.He's going to come through. It Will all work out!

Just subscribed! I’m still single at 44 and holding on! Pray for me y’all! 🙏🏾❤️💃🏾💍

Very good topic. As a 45 year old single and saved woman, I’m still believing God for the spouse He has for me.

Ladies be patient and wait on God! Marriage does not have to only be for the young!!!!

I pray for a spouse, but fix me first during this time so I’m ready for who you bring

I’m 38 and trusting God for my Husband

God..."What did you say that you want?" Me..."Well, I want..." God..."Never mind, I'll give you what you need!"🥰

I remember the day I gave up and gave it to God!! I was treated with so much disrespectful from the age of 4, the day I gave God control of my love life. I sit down outside on a sunny day in 2009 I was crying and I started to pray, "God, I am tired. Please help me, help me to be with a man that will love me and not hurt me. God I give you control of my life. Lord, send me a man that you want me to be with?! In your name Lord Jesus, I pray. Amen!" I gave it all to God to send me a husband and a man to treat me the way I should be treated. I met my husband in 2012, we started off as friends because, I was dating his old roommate. Then, the day that my old boy friend kicked me out of my car with my one year old at the police station, told me to fine my way home. I lived 4 hours from my parents house. I called my dad what happened and he dropped everything to come. It was going to be a long wait. So I texted my friend ( now husband) and he was going to drop everything to take me home. I told him that it was fine and my dad was on the way. He waited with me until my dad showed up. From that day, we started dating. He would drive that 4 hours to see me every weekend. Long story short we got married in 2015 and have been married 8 years now. So that day I gave God control, He open my eyes to a great man and husband. ❤

How is it that every Christian content creator found their spouse within months after praying. But so many others are begging God for years and nothing lol

Am 25 and trusting God for my husband 🤲 God bless this union.

I had a long list. And I prayed for 10 years. God sent me that person . I knew right away when I met him. He was also a very devoted christian. We had a heavenly relationship. But the 3 years into my marriage my husband died of sickness. I am doing very well right now thanks to the grace of god. But I sometimes wonder what it was God was trying to do..

Perspective - I want to have a husband I can submit to and help as intended by God, and a husband I can do kingdom business with ❤

Please Please please do not settle. Not worth it! Someone i know married this man she settled. Found out 1 year later this guys entire life was a lie. I do believe God cares about our lives. I remember Hannah crying out to the Lord for a baby her husband thought she was loosing it. God fulfilled her desire. He will do the same for us. I feel for all of us singles. I will be 60 this month. 60 and waiting on the Lord some days i feel like Hannah and others days i feel so honored that i am married to the King of Kings. God Bless all of you Beautiful Kingdom Women! I declare your day is coming in Jesus Name!!❤❤

I told God I gave my heart to you. So tired with dating now a days, it so ghetto. I ask God to prepare me for my husband. Teach me how you want to love and handle your son God. Because I do have certain qualities I ask God for! I just know and trust God! I know God got me. He knew me before I was born. So my abba father knows what I need. So surrender to God. Continue to let him mold you. Heal, grow, and desire what God wants for you.

Been praying for the right woman to come into my life who will be equally yoked with me in Christ.

Watching you guys for the first time...I'm so blessed. Thanks a lot . I'm 50 and trusting God for my Man....❤

I made a list but not a shallow list mine included integrity, patient, kind , loyal, god fearing etc But I always prayed Lord mold me for my husband and mold my husband for me . God gave me my desires and check every box on my list 🙂

I'm open for restoration, I am ready for restoration, and I receive restoration in Jesus' Name. Amen.

I'm single at 54 and trying to hold for God timing for me 😢🙏🏾

I'm so blessed with this episode. I'm 31 believing God for a husband🙏

“God, let me like whatever You bring into my life.” WOOOOOW 🤯🤯🤯 That’s IT! 💜

Lord send me some one in due TIME with the LOVE OF GOD. The one that you Created only for me.

Actually, I had a list of the kind of husband I'd become since I was 15 (currently 39)!!! I also worked on becoming that man since.

Being desperate can also open you up to counterfeits as well...That's why Paul says to be anxious for nothing...

I am a divorced a year now. My ex husband left the marriage but I have always known I was a wife and believe the Lord will bless me with a believing life partner/husband . I want my children to see what a Godly marriage looks like

I’m 42 and trusting God for my husband. I’m praying that God send me who he has for me. I’m praying for him just as much as he’s praying for me.

I loved this! I think shifting the focus from “this is the husband/wife I want” to “this is the partner/spouse I want to be” is an amazing shift of perspective. To add to one of the topics you covered- being pressed can look like only focusing on or over emphasizing being in a relationship so much so that you’re willing to date just anybody/someone well under your standards and/or it’s all you talk about. In my waiting season, I don’t want to always talk or focus on my “singleness.”

I've felt ashamed to ask God for a spouse because i feel like im betraying God because He literally satisfies all my needs 😢 But I've been able to discern by the Grace of God that that feeling of shame is from the enemy. So im pushing myself to pray more intentional for a husband.

I loved this conversation Pastors. As a [soon to be] 37 year old single woman, I definitely agree with the "don't be pressed" sentiment. A few years ago, shortly after coming out of a toxic relationship, I met a guy while hanging out with a friend. He seemed nice, but I knew I neither wanted a relationship, nor was I ready for it. I made that known to him, because I'm strongly against wasting people's time in that manner, but did offer friendship, as that is all I had the capacity for. The guy flipped out on me...and that turned me off from even thinking of him as a potential in the future. I think when one doesn't respect your boundaries, it demonstrates desperation, and that is never good. Thank you so much for this. Been following your ministry for about 3 years now and have grown in my walk with God, and I'm very excited about this extension!

This is such a blessing for me to hear. I'm single 44 yrs old. I trust God totally to grant me a Godly husband for me if it is only in his will. The marriage will glorify and honor him. In Jesus name. Amen

I think i will come back when i will have somebody in perspective. For now it's make me feel more single!!! I am in a covenant with God to stay pure before marriage but the struggle is real. I have cut so many things in my live in order not to fall into temptation. I don't like this version of me now. Few months before i was pretty confortable with this singleness. I don't know what have change but now i am unconfortable and don't like the fact of not being confortable. Lord i need your help!! Edit: i am back 3 weeks after to do an update. The Lord is so goooood!! He restore my mind. First of all he shows me that it was a wafare in my mind and then he brings me into his Peace. What a wonderful and mighty God we serve!!! ❤😊

I'm 46 and still believing God for a husband. A man who will love me.

I've been trusting God for a spouse for a very longtime. Have mercy Abba Father 🙏🏾

Man! Thanks guys! The “you’re too old now” lie is one the enemy keeps trying. I KNOW satan IS A LIAR! Thank you guys for calling these lies out. I just became a subscriber and I truly believe you all are blessed and anointed to do this. BLESS THE LORD!!! ☝🏽🙏🏽✝️

Just came across this video. I needed this encouragement. I'm 53 and still waiting. Thanks for sharing these tools.

Her hair looks fantastic!

Thank you for this topic, I’m in a season of self-discovery and have really been praying for change and a wife whenever God feels i’m ready. In the meantime i’m gonna keep doing my best to be better and wiser

God know what I need more than I know what I need🙏🙏

I didn’t at first but now I def have a list of things that I think will make me an ideal wife in the future.

This was good!! No disrespect but Ken be over talking a bit though. Just a little feedback🙂His wife is so patient. Great content!

I have a list but what’s on my list are the same things I bring to the table. My list consists of negotiables, nonnegotiables, what I’m open to, and preferences. However, I believe age and experience plays a big part in your desires. I’ve been married before so I know what I bring to the table and the things I’ve had to work on to be a better spouse the next time. It’s my desire to be married again and I pray for all those who want the same🙏🏽.

Yes Lord❤The Lord put two people together for his purpose. I don’t have no list. I trust the Lord to give me what will work to accomplish his will😊I trust my Daddy.

Singles that are weary...if you have not done this, then fast and ask God if your hand is free because a lot of people have spirit spouses hindering their earthly marriages - the marine kingdom is real

He must be bold enough and confident enough to approach me.

I’m currently at @3:11 I have to say…a list is nothing but standards, boundaries, and expectations. Black women should have MORE of it and actually enforce it. Please don’t discourage black women from practicing discernment when it comes to men. Historically we haven’t and look where that’s gotten us today. If men don’t meet those standards, that’s their problem that they need to confront.

I love the introduction: best friends 21 years but married 23. This is my first time watching you all and you have an instant new subscriber here!

I agree with Tabitha. The word “date” seems to come with expectation versus “hanging out” or “Meeting-up” gives buddy vibes with no romantic expectations. I like to think of it as a buddy outing as I am showing up for the experience and the opportunity to get to know you better. Changing the term simply takes the pressure off.

I want to be the best version of myself, in order to be the best partner I can be. Everything I want in a partner, I also want to be that for my partner. I ask God to help me to love, honor and support my mate the way that God intended.

I am single. Really enjoyed this session. God bless this union.

I agree with Tabitha when describing dates and going on a date.

God woke me up on May 23,2023 at midnight and told me I was going to get married in 2024. I am not in a relationship currently and don’t have any prospects. I considered on-line dating, but I feel he is telling me I will meet him at church. I see guys at church that I find attractive. But the frustrating thing is, some of the married guys don’t wear wedding rings. So it makes it more challenging to know which guys are single. I have asked some friends at church, but they don’t know any my age(49). Is also challenging when there is around 1,000 people that go to our church and there are 3 different services. I have a type of guy I find attractive, but I am praying that God guides me to the man He created for me!

EXACTLY- I SUBMIT MYSELF (MY BODY) TO HOLINESS- AMEN

This dating thing 😂😂😂 Date to me is gathering data… If we find we’re moving forward, with intentions on marriage we are exclusive ❤ Most people do not like the dating word, I see it as just what it is. Singles should be dating with a purpose anyway. Loved this episode

Yes I don’t go on dates too! I go to meet up but not dates. I feel uncomfortable when they call it late I can’t loosen up. My bday is in January and God has it in my heart that I should go out and date! This video is what I needed to hear God is good.

I am 66 years old and divorced but praying for God to send someone into my life if it is His will.

I love Tabatha’s idea- just going out, going for coffee, etc. That also takes the pressure and nerves off what comes along with dates/dating- until you know it’s actual dating. And right, who wants to say/think I been on all these “dates”. ❤

I'ma admit i definitely ain't ready for a wife still! Gotta alot to heal from work on and change so this is inspiring cz we singles aren't preached to so thank y'all!!

Man this was soooo good. Thank you ❤

Great word🙌!

Hei Fam...I am 33 and a single parent.Still Praying for my spouse and I love your podcast.Bless the Lord🙏🙏🙏

So good! I’m married and so many of these principles are still so true for a healthy strong marriage. Thank you Pastors❤

This was so good!

Yes, yes, yes! I needed to hear all of this❤

I never had a list before I became a beleiver even now. I just pray for a man who loves God and carries a good character. Also, I look at energies,compatibility connection, humbleness and knows how to lead. Btw, I enjoyed your video. Keep it up. God Bless🙏

Ken, brother you have a gift. Solid teacher voice of a wise kind hearted father, the delivery of your messages and points hit like thunder. I pray God continues to bless y'all & y'all marriage.

Thank you for this video!

This was beautiful, thanks for sharing ❤ !!

I love when Tab shares her life experiences. The are right on

AMEN! All marriages can succeed if we have the right foundation, culture nd identity!

I love the nuggets you are dropping!!! Thank you!!

Very much an on time word!! Thank you for your ministry. This was a good discussion and great balance of perspectives between you two. God Bless!! ❤

I do have a list but it took me several years to develop. The things that are on it are not superficial or frivolous. I have given each item a lot of thought (why do I want this quality? Do I have this quality myself?). I find that it helps me stay intentional when dating and I am much better about discerning people who aren't right for me. For example one item is "honors God and honors me". I had gone out with a guy that was sexually aggressive in his communications with me. Clearly not a guy who was honoring God or me. So he had to go. So I'm a fan of the list as long as it's prepared with intention and serious thought.

i am so blessed to find this conversation. love this already! 🙌🏻

THIS REALLY BLESSED ME

I love this couple! Thank you for posting this ❤

Thank you Ken & Tabatha for this! Also, Tabatha, your hair is absolutely gorgeous. You're beautiful! Thank you both for loving and serving God and the saints in this way. "Iron your pants" got me. 😂 True.

Thank you guys so much for Being Transparent and Really ministering To Me threw my single season even The Series behind closed doors 🚪 you guys are helping me prepare for My Kingdom Marriage that’s ordained By The Lord

So much valuable nuggets. Thank you

God bless you both.Much love💕

I made a list this year, but like a month later, flipped it around and started praying those things on myself. Why would I ask God for someone with qualities I dont realistically have myself? I'd love to be a good number of those things, before my king finally arrives.

First time viewer and the authenticity, transparency, and the realness of this conversation just landed you two another follower! And I would like to add, my list actually list character, morals, and values. I through out the physical list (mentally) a long time ago! lol. I'm open to whoever God has for me. Just let whoever you have for me be fine please and thank you 😂🙏🏽💛

Beautiful 🙌🏾 thank you

Dope conversation… thank you both 🙏🏾❤️💪🏾

As a single Christian this was so good to come across. Seeing the love and respect you have for each other is what I strive to have in my next relationship. Thank you so much for bringing yourselves out to benefit men and women like myself. 💖

Sooo cute. I am 22 years old live in The Netherlands and we need this

Wow, Waiting and praying Becoming 👏💞

Thank you so much you are such a big blessing Ken and Tab

This is beautiful. Marriage in and of itself is a ministry. Serving each other.

This was really good! I cried so hard when ya'll talk about the club story of meeting. I think I cried so because I closed off my mind in thinking that God works in mysterious ways and places. I was thinking "my meeting" will make sense when sometimes God's ways will shock us and not make sense. Thank you both for sharing and opening my mind to God's wonderfully mysterious ways for bringing people together. 🙏❤

First time watcher and I loved it! Thanks and be blessed ❤

Wow....this has been so encouraging thanks to both of you!

Lord thank you for this. I am believing that God will send me my King!! 🙏🏾❤️

Y'all are a beautiful couple God always knows what's best for us.

This was so encouraging and more important maybe true

In my walk with God, I have created a list of things that I would like to be when I get married...How I want to speak, love, pray, disagree, communicate, etc. With growth in Christ your wants begin to be less selfish, and more serving...

Thank you for sharing ❤ this has really blessed me. My marriage is suffering and I just don’t these days,but I am encouraged and now you just gave me some good nuggets. I truly appreciate you guys being so transparent. ❤ God bless you both 🙏🏽