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How To Change A Narcissist - Your Love Can't Do It, But This Can!

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Have you ever been told that ‘“All you need is love”? While these make for great song lyrics, they also make for great gaslighting weapons designed to shame you into believing that it’s your biblical responsibility transform the narcissist through your love. In today's video we talk about how your love can't change a narcissist, but there is something that can.
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@Kris_Reece 11 месяцев назад

Grab your FREE Toxic People Survival Guide krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guide

@lorettamcgee969 11 месяцев назад

I'll respond..WHAT?!?!??? Lions den? How about the devils den! God's love IS conditional. Thank you Kris

@beloveddaughter717 11 месяцев назад

Dear KrisReeceMinistries , you are an answer to prayers! God’s LOVE is holy, healing and purifying, but NOT ENABLING.. thank you with all my heart for sharing the gifts God has given you, and MANY BLESSINGS abound to you and yours in Jesus name♥️

@tyese3394 11 месяцев назад

YES I KNEW SHE LOVE ME .......Erik Reply I LOVE YOU PALEWHITE SKIN I'M IN LOVE A 👑 QUEEN 👑 JUST THE WAY SHE TALK.............. NICELY. WHEN SHE TALK SHE PUT ME SLEEP AND THAT ..FEEL FREE NICE.

@tyese3394 11 месяцев назад

@@Jon-tr3fp Erik said. Yes! You are great and you are amazing people here kissing to white skin⛲️👠🩰😤😤😤

@tirsamazariegos4867 9 месяцев назад

Jesus came for the sinners, including the narcisists and even if we are Not narcisists, we've all fallen short from the Glory of God. So, I agree that consequences change a narcisist, Yet there Is something else. Repentance. And there Is nothing imposible for God. Before the fall comes an increase in pride and haughtiness. Then, come the consequences. Only God can change, transform and turn lives around. The only thing I can advise Is prayer, mercy and compassion, from a distance. Even if there Is no change. God breaks hearts of stone. But unfortunately not all of them. Don't over think about the narcisist. Pray for them and ask for God to have mercy.

@angelmd43 11 месяцев назад

Only Jesus can change a narcissist. I was one but God changed me and yes he had to whip me to do it because now I have a blood disease. God loved me enough to get my attention so I wouldn't go to hell.He takes care of me as I follow Jesus. All glory to God!

@Kris_Reece 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing.

@mirnacudiczgela1963 11 месяцев назад

Praise the Lord! Some narcissists don't change even in their illness.

@Alexandra-ou6lw 11 месяцев назад

Same here. I was not a full blown narcissist but high on the scale .i met narcissist greater than me and got sick .God wiped my eyes, i am still struggling quite often but i stick to God

@timiburke7133 11 месяцев назад

When a NPD seeks Jesus hard… Holy Spirit Delivers from demons that hold personalities stuck, & a Specialized Counselor CBT can Assust in Retraining the Brain-Behavior week by week. Personality-Brain can be Healed by Jesus after Deliverence.

@babybellamy4589 11 месяцев назад

I am praying for my husband we are living in seperation he is abusive

@peggybreaux8973 11 месяцев назад

Love means to pray for their conversion. Not to put us with evil.

@sheiladay-od2me 11 месяцев назад

Only Jesus can change a narcissist.

@kshaw9179 11 месяцев назад

Absolutely!

@jun1448 11 месяцев назад

Amen to that!

@mtets2459 11 месяцев назад

Why is it him alone that can change the world and individuals in it? I am asking a sincere question here. I do fully believe in God, Christ, and the Holy Spirit. Ultimately the reason we believe that Jesus can heal a narcissist is because the power of God resided within Jesus (his son). Are we not all children of God? Jesus was the first and purest, but should we not follow Jesus, yield to the Holy Spirit, and trust that God will turn every thing the enemy (devil, narcissist) intended for evil and use it for our benefit? We should love like Jesus loved, as the only thing we are afraid of is a toxic/narcissistic person taking advantage of us and hurting us. To me this is not fully believing that God has true power over everything and me judging my pain, as too much, and thus allows me to not love somebody as Jesus would.

@darlenelivergood5518 11 месяцев назад

I agree fully. If we've been doing our best being Christians and pray for things to change with full Faith believing He can and Will.... why does it never happen? We are human and can only take so much. We do everything in our power to go to God for his healing and power. It's made me feel like giving up on my Faith because I never get answers to this situation. I hang on by saying, I know it's in God's timing, all things work together for good, if God is with us, who can be against us, no weapon formed against us shall prosper. But years of this is draining me. I want to have friends to do things with and just go on my marry way enjoying life like he does. What friends I do have work and enjoy things with their families. I just joined a couple groups looking for woman friends. It's nice being on line with them but I want close friends who I can hang out with and have fun instead of setting home. Everything I do, I do alone most of the time. How do we find friends to get away from this stuff. It sure would be nice to be normal again. When my husband was saved he wasn't like this but that only lasted for about 5 years. I wish and pray the Holy Spirit would hit him like a rock 😂 knock some since in him 😅🤣😅 all kidding aside I do wish the Holy Spirit would come on him and change him like he's never been before to where you know something happened to him. Or I'll even take him coming on me that I would be filled with so much joy nothing would ever bother me and I would just go around speaking Godly things to better this world. God where are you when we REALLY REALLY NEED YOU. I pray things will turn around for you cause I know your pain. ❤ love you in Christ Jesus

@fortheladies771 11 месяцев назад

@@mtets2459 God does not want us to dwell with unbelievers ( narcissists). If God can see in that person’s heart that they want to repent, then he will send them to get the help and wisdom they need

@JennyLynnMinistries 11 месяцев назад

They won't change until they receive deliverance from the demonic spirits! Pray for their deliverance ❤

@donnadallariva8377 11 месяцев назад

Praying for their deliverance. . On Jesus name Amen 🙏

@darlenelivergood5518 11 месяцев назад

Doesn't happen for everyone. Been praying for years. I'm ready to give ip on a lot of things and sometimes find my faith getting weaker. Not good!

@JennyLynnMinistries 11 месяцев назад

@darlenelivergood5518 there is freedom in Jesus name! Seek the Lord for wisdom and understanding in your deliverance journey. Sometimes there is a root or open door we must repent of/renounce prior to getting rid of that spirit. I pray for you my friend ❤️🙏

@darlenelivergood5518 8 месяцев назад

@JennyLynnMinistries ty, I've repented, I've grown closer to God, prayed more, read Bible more, given it all to the Lord, been patient and waiting on his timing, done all I can for years and if your spouse doesn't want to change it doesn't matter how much you change its not going to get better. I'm tired, I don't know how much more I can deal with life. Thanks for your prayers.

@JennyLynnMinistries 8 месяцев назад

@darlenelivergood5518 it's not easy, I pray the Lord gives you the peace and grace to endure this. Sending prayers and hugs in Jesus name ❤️⚘️🫶

@24comendador 11 месяцев назад

I agree with you, sister Kris! The Bible does not teach love and tolerance. The Bible teaches love and repentance. We need to understand discernment in relationships because, let's face it, the devil often uses those closest to us to derail us from our God ordained path (Matthew 7:15-20). We need to be mindful of the company we keep because relationships have a way of affecting us, whether we realize it or not (1 Corinthians 15:33). Discernment is about being wise. It's about knowing who to let into your inner circle and who to keep at arm's length. Great examples of this are Samson and Delilah.

@Kris_Reece 11 месяцев назад

So true, my friend!

@gloryfavorforeverwchristje9343 11 месяцев назад

❤❤❤❤ALSO, IN 2023 AND BEYOND, STEVE AND MAJORIE HARVEY . MODERN DAY SAMSON AND DELIAH.

@user-qr1kl6jw2p 11 месяцев назад

🙏🙏🙏

@1timeslime971 11 месяцев назад

I’m really really struggling with this right now…my husband and I moved too far away from our home church of 22years where we served and had koinania(fellowship) mostly with just believers….until moving away and since then we’ve made our blood family our source of fellowship, but they’re NOT true believers….a few are Jesus admirers, a few say they believe in God, but the vast majority of our family havnt read or studied the word, nor ever attended church. Some of them have fallen prey to what the woke say Christianity is, while others have fallen prey to other false teachings. We also have to deal with several narcissists in the family….I feel SO OPPRESSED since leaving my church community….I’m sent out amoungst the wolves…..Lord HELP US!!!

@user-qr1kl6jw2p 11 месяцев назад

@@1timeslime971 🙏🙏🙏

@user-ev2bc9nw4k 3 месяца назад

I hate living with my guard up

@user-pk8wq9pu1p 2 месяца назад

We CANNOT love God & His Son, YeshuaJesus if we don’t TRUST His Word His Ways His intent. And we won’t want to understand or be able to OBEY if we can’t trust. It’s not about being tense & in fear it’s the PEACE that comes after doing the work of self confrontation & REPENTANCE. It’s the New Birth of RESTING the joy of God’s protective boundaries. Anyone who is truly God’s child will think see hear walk talk & look like Jesus in their way of doing things, just like kids may resemble their physical fathers. So NO we are definitely NOT ALL GOD’S kids. Sadly most prefer & adopt HaSatan’s ways, become his & choose to live in his burning house If they don’t reject it & escape they share his fate.

@letmebeyourocd 11 месяцев назад

God’s love is unconditional. His presence is not. We can love someone and keep our distance until things change in a positive manner.

@thebibleuniverseity4388 11 месяцев назад

Amen.

@amarachichima7981 11 месяцев назад

Exactly!

@tirsamazariegos4867 9 месяцев назад

Sometimes they won't change. But we need to love and pray for them at a distance.

@beloved999 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for this! People who haven't dealt with narcissistic abuse can be foolish in giving "biblical advice". I appreciate you!!!

@FaithfulandTrue949 7 месяцев назад

🎯🙏😘

@MPA111 6 месяцев назад

Love doesn't lead to destruction. We don't love at the expense of our own well-being. It's easy to advice about love when we haven't experienced the destructive ways narcissists deal and relate with people. God has boundaries while creating the earth and humanity. What makes us think that we can't have boundaries? We were commanded to be gentle as doves but be wise as serpents. We won't finish the race that we have to run if we allow a demonically infiltrated narcissist to take us out ahead of our time. This is intense spiritual warfare and many people don't know what they're talking about until the time they encounter the narcissist.

@texaslovelylady 11 месяцев назад

Everything she said is correct, you can't change a Narcissist, and some Narcissist are borderline psychopath why because of the demons they entertain.

@jewishbride5010 11 месяцев назад

I am gone, no narcissists in my life, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah ❤!

@sunshine-db2zm 11 месяцев назад

Omg the timing... my mother in law just called me and told to let my narcissistic mother to have relationship with my children no matter what because she keeps crying to everyone about my children and how she wants to be with them...i stood my ground that no narcissist will come near my children...

@mirnacudiczgela1963 11 месяцев назад

Exactly. I have the same issue with my mother and I have children too.

@sunshine-db2zm 11 месяцев назад

@mirnacudiczgela1963 she keeps sending people my way saying how much she loves them and blab blab but its all a lie she is doing this to get revenge on me as i walked away from her unable to tolerate the emotional abuse and manipulations...am scared that she ll use my children against me...she used me against my dad when i was young and naive...

@lesliedavis4366 11 месяцев назад

Yikes. Your mother got it MIL to be a flying monkey to guilt trip you.

@kurthanke5788 11 месяцев назад

Good for you, Sunshine. Your mother sounds like a narcissistic moron, and does not deserve to be around your children. Good for you. Stand your ground!!

@leticiaaguilar154 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for your freeing message! I have had a narcissist or two in my life and for years I thought I could help them change. The only one that changed was me and allowed them to belittle me over and over. I finally came to a realization that God loved me and would not want anyone to abuse me. As I get closer to God, I feel strength to say “no more!”. We only have one life to live and deserve to be treated with love and respect. 🙏

@daizy8009 6 месяцев назад

This was my story with my 20 year younger half sister. I finally went no contact and it was such a freeing feeling 🎉

@changeme8035 11 месяцев назад

I was married for twenty years before I realized all of this that you are saying. This is all true.

@KayQhosa 10 месяцев назад

20 years, just figuring it out too.

@marysmith4811 8 месяцев назад

@@KayQhosa 20 years, and always knew something wasn't right with him. It's mental and emotional abuse. The gaslighting is unending. And he will argue and debate something like it's true. I kept trying to make this a healthy marriage, but I'm finally at a point where he will just be here sharing this house. That's all. I'm just sorry that it was him, sharing all the big moments in my life. My child's birth, and my parents passing. I'm also angry with myself for thinking so little of myself that I continued to date him. After reading about Narcissism, I learn that his characteristics align with most of it. Just staying for my child.

@FaithfulandTrue949 7 месяцев назад

@@marysmith4811seek God's direction, a narc father can damage children for life... God told me to flee, to choose life or death! I confirmed His Word after a rucus that let me see under his mask- a terrifying evil void - i then fled with my 9m old baby and a few carrier bags, left the house, sentimental items the lot, I was helped by a refuge. The dad then really tried to destroy us as the mask was off, after 25 years and 4 miscarried babies I finally saw what this husband actually was. Terrifying that I allowed such mistreatment for all those years, once the baby was at risk momma bear was born!! 🙏 years later I thank God every day for saving our lives✝️ 🕊

@theartzscientist8012 11 месяцев назад

God can’t change a narcissist unless it’s in their free will.

@prudencek7087 11 месяцев назад

In my opinion, God's love is unconditional; however God has boundaries, and rightfully so. We can still love someone, yet still set boundaries in place.

@catherineclinton911 11 месяцев назад

Jesus sure did. As Kris has pointed out in another video, Jesus was not codependent.

@daizy8009 6 месяцев назад

Love doesn't force people into heaven who don't want to be there.

@carolpowell2199 11 месяцев назад

My husband of 51 yr was a narcissist. I didn’t know anything about narcissistic behaviors and was so young when we married and had 3 children also. He died this year with a heart attack. I prayed always, but never could get away from him. God kept me strong, but my self esteem needs healing. The suffering changed me as a result of that marriage and what I endured. I have carried my cross.

@SherryONeill 11 месяцев назад

May Our Savior Heal your Heart And Fill your Life With Joy!

@PBAdventures146 11 месяцев назад

The apostle Paul said we are to turn certain people over to Satan so they their bodies may be destroyed and their souls saved... Many Christians now days would call that hate... But it's the most loving thing you can sometimes do under the Biblical reasons. Love is often a very hard action we must take. A very misunderstood truth in today's contemporary New age theology. Thank you for shedding the truth about "true" love in this video.

@brigitteludwig4572 11 месяцев назад

Oh,yes.

@Kris_Reece 11 месяцев назад

Exactly. Unfortunately, many consider that "unloving" but Paul did it out of love. Thanks for sharing.

@darlenelivergood5518 11 месяцев назад

You mean jyst stop praying for them and let the devil do what he wants until they get so bad all they can do is bow to Jesus and know he is their only hope? Should I stop praying and just let Satan have his way?

@PBAdventures146 11 месяцев назад

@darlenelivergood5518 The Bible doesn't say anything about not praying for someone turned over to satan. I think based on the overarching teaching of prayer in the Bible, someone in that state should probably be prayed for more. That being an open door for satan to wreak havoc in someone's life, God will use it to open their eyes and bring them to repentance. I'm not sure there is a scripture in the Bible that says we should stop praying for anyone. But based on each situation, how we pray and what we ask for does matter.

@cailewilkinson8362 11 месяцев назад

After being in a narcissistic marriage I’m finding that the best thing for me to do is to just work on me. I have my moments where I miss her and blame myself but it seems that she’s happy when I’m down and out but as soon as I started looking after myself going to the gym working on my business and church life she didn’t like it and completely disappeared. I’m not going to stop working on myself and becoming a driven person with purpose regardless of how hard this break up is I won’t let it break me and God is working everything together for good so I’m good

@KrafTlady61 11 месяцев назад

There is a wonderful book you could read that helped me immensely. I don't remember the authors name but the book is called 'Lord, Change Me'. I can't recommend it enough. Prayers!

@jessicagillespie7385 11 месяцев назад

Sometimes loving a narcissist means walking away from the narcissist for a time or even forever and trusting God to do the work He never intended for you to do. I am utterly amazed at how well this has been working in my life. Narcissists can change but it is God who changes them in His timing and by His means…so love God, yourself and the narcissist in your life by giving all control over to God. Trust God! I have been doing that and now I am seeing what most people thought was completely impossible.

@stoundingresults 11 месяцев назад

When I left an old employer it felt absolutely great. He was a narcistic person, making snide remarks about my financial savings, work ethic and no sympathy to hear him whine about his problems. I ghosted him to get him to understand the message, and it was fun seeing him in the future with his devious face as he realized I want nothing to do with him. He knew not to approach and say hello. Stay away from people that make you miserable.

@daizy8009 6 месяцев назад

"Stay away from people that make you miserable." I've finally learned that lesson!❤

@livingstrategically 11 месяцев назад

Well said! Wolves need consequences, that is for sure! And it is out of love that we set boundaries...love for those they want to devour.🐺 🛑 The Bible's "love chapter" says, "Love...does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth..." (1 Cor. 13:6) The truth is that God does not delight in wolves!

@janieceballinger9272 2 месяца назад

Let us remember to be wise as a serpent yet gentle as a dove. No one should allow themselves to be reduced as an individual that God created you to be.

@ancientclown 6 месяцев назад

Love...like Truth is a double edged sword. It brings discipline as well as forgiveness. It is neither loving nor kind to support lies & delusions. Only liars think the Truth hurts because it destroys their illusions and delusions...To those that 'Seek it' it is music to their ears. The Truth shall set you free.

@annamarietaljaard1193 11 месяцев назад

There are so many demonic spirits working through them....your unconditional love do not change them..I can testify about it!!! After 43 years nothing has changed. My hope that he may change made me carry on...until I realized that I have suffered enough pain and that he is nothing going to change...

@Tucker777888 11 месяцев назад

I agree Kris. I think what you were saying is, "What is the definition of love?" Love often says "No" to the toddler who wants to run into the street. Love also will leave the drunk to wake up on the morning grass in the front lawn, in hope they "will come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil..." 2Tim. 2:26.

@1timeslime971 11 месяцев назад

Love is NOT self seeking….love rejoices in truth….love perseveres…..

@rg-mi5hh 11 месяцев назад

No tolerance for them is the only way to deal with them. Spending your time trying to get them to see God through you is a waste of time. They understand lawyers.

@julieelizabeth4856 11 месяцев назад

Please say more about when the narcissist is your own child. Many of us parents are experiencing this and there is little help to know how to cope. And many on the outside want to blame parents for their kids' personalities, which makes no sense because we can have several children and they are all different.

@Corinna_Schuett_GER 11 месяцев назад

Me and my husband are Christians since our only son was 7yo (there was an incident he was also involved which God used) and have raised him according to the Bible since then. Perhaps not perfect but we did all we could in a "crash course" like walking with Christ. After all, he would sadly develop covert narcissist traits as a teenager and even manifesting in his 20s. In 2019 my atheist father died and our son would take the "chance" to choose the side of my narcissistic mother who hates Jesus and ist highly manipulative. As I had an ongoing lawsuit with her about my fathers legacy it was not possible to have explained the situation to my son. I prayed for him since then but after four years of silence and ghosting have to acknowledge that he most probably wouldn't have been chastised by God (Hebrews 12) to find his way home as a prodigal. I certainly suffer loss but on the other hand would NOT want him to come back in the condition he left because this behaviour of his was unbearable in our home. It might just have increased and he's "not from us" (1 John 2:19) and never will. 🙏👰💖 MARANATHA Gods will be done! Blessings your way from Germany, hang in there!

@freshliving4199 8 месяцев назад

Different personalities but the same spirit. And you don’t want to cope, you want to understand. This way you can be free even if they are not. Remember, while it is not your fault it is your responsibility up until your child is 18 and becomes a supposedly independent adult. Depending on how well you raised them.

@Corinna_Schuett_GER 8 месяцев назад

@@freshliving4199 Ezekiel chapter 18, read it to yourself.

@CaseyLee-bd5fi 11 месяцев назад

That's right! Punishment is love, it's called the rod. God disciplines those he LOVES. CONSEQUENCES. Are real. Amen Kris. Thank you for the confirmation.

@christinadavidson7936 11 месяцев назад

Thank you Jesus for my sister in the Lord! I am very grateful for your messages they're just filled with God's presence and spirit and ministered to me in a mighty way thank you thank you thank you you!❤

@unwoke1652 11 месяцев назад

God expects from us to avoid toxic people. We have no need to French kiss His enemies.

@melissamccaffery6683 11 месяцев назад

Well said kris, I think alot people need to hear this, they are dangerous people and trying to change them with love only helps them to destroy you. staying emotionally detached from such people is vital. sometimes you have to love from a distance even it's your 10 year old niece you've been so close to because her 2 narcissistic parents are using her as a "flying monkey "and she's become like them.( yes still pray for them and care about them but don't try to change them and be careful how much information you share with them.)

@Mira-gu6we Месяц назад

I was like the lady in the message. I was non judgemental, did not label and was open hearted. Ended up with a narc who derailed me spiritually. Only God can save the narcs. We cant. Problem is narcs dont think there is anything wrong with themselves.

@GiantSlayer-rr1vu 11 месяцев назад

There is this scripture that says "All things are impossible, (and folks stop there)...nope. It says all things are possible to them that BELIEVE. Unfortunately, the covert religious narcissists do not believe they can change. And you definitely can not change them. They don't have the capacity to love so how can you think they will see and hear your frequency of "love"? I say to everyone from my own experience, do not lose yourself trying to find someone who can never never never be found,

@iudeleiudele 11 месяцев назад

I understood this a lot of time ago , and good that I did ! Love is not sentiments , love is not emotions , love is not sensations . The most important components in love are Truth and Loyalty ( fidelity ) ; love have nothing to do with lies or with treason . And those who love lies and treasons have nothing to do with love . I am sure that this is the reason why in the King of Kings thigh is written Loyal and True .

@nanettesmith9234 11 месяцев назад

Oh my Gosh! Spot on....i have felt guilt anout my narcissist daughter. Thank you, Kris.

@DrPhilGoode 11 месяцев назад

That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Guilt can help sharpen our discernment.

@timothyrday1390 11 месяцев назад

That's the best definition of narcisssistic laziness I have heard. When people described narcissists as such, it was one point that didn't seem to fit the profile of my narc ex-gf. HOWEVER, what you said is right on point! She was hardworking in the independent sphere of life, but when it came to the relationship, she would barely lift a finger. She would even ask me to do things for her that were absurdly trivial, things she could have easily done for herself. I got the impression that for her, being served was one source of supply. It gave her some kind of weird comfort or validation knowing she had someone at her beck and call.

@aclaar877 8 месяцев назад

Yes, that's exactly my experience - my wife likes asking for help and favors for trivial things. Things so small that you can't really say no, but I've been trained to always be ready when she is around, like I can't really relax. In her mind it's a type of bonding and leaning on each other.

@timothyrday1390 8 месяцев назад

@@aclaar877 Yea, it would also make me tense up a bit. Also, many women don't seem to understand that it takes a lot of effort for men to get into their concentration zone, so what seems like a trivial task to women can actually break the concentration and cause men to lose their productivity, which is demoralizing.

@bmlove81 11 месяцев назад

We must love like Jesus did indeed. But we must also have discernment like Jesus had as well! And discernment maybe even more important.💯

@ChiefCedricJohnson 2 месяца назад

Proverbs 29:9 If a wise man contendeth with a foolish man, whether he rage or laugh, there is no rest.

@paola-pd4xl 11 месяцев назад

Reece i agree with you proverbs 22:24-25 is one of many parts in the Bible that is clear in that we should not accept all people

@richardjohanson6421 6 месяцев назад

Exactly where im stuck... consequences. Boundaries can cause Narcissistic Rage. It can be nasty!!

@richardjohanson6421 6 месяцев назад

Jerry Wise Narcissistic parents emotional manipulation from childhood ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-T5R0U4qEjRA.htmlsi=cyo5ey0K3Yuf8aMn

@jimmeylelo4694 11 месяцев назад

Jesus Christ sent kreece to open our eyes and learn more for freedom. My people suffer due to lack of knowledge. Let's be equipped so we don't have christians being emotionally abused. The notion that Jesus Christ brings healing, freedom is truth but we should allow us to get spiritual education. Narrcist are lazy lovers

@masoodpervaiz6044 11 месяцев назад

God bless you my dear Kris. Yes we have to love and pray but also we have to keep distance we have to protect ourselves.

@user-yz2lx3br7r 11 месяцев назад

This is so biblical and helpful to me. My sister is stonewalling me and expects me to chase after her instead of apologize. I need to stay strong instead of enable her evil behavior.

@andreapantel3085 11 месяцев назад

One can love a person - from far away!!

@gracebetou 11 месяцев назад

I tried that approach also in my marriage, nope, don't work, you only have so much to give. I prayed for God to help me love him, give me the love I need to be a good wife. I was drained and tired, I couldn't sleep, eat or think straight. Then a switch turned off in me. I didn't have the desire to talk, just listen and nothing more, he started to say strange things, nobody else could believe either. I called for help because I was way over my head. Now, he has put out a death threat on me. No contact only makes him more sneaky. And the lies, he wants others to believe are astronomical and he's been stating them under oath. Pray God exposes every lie

@darlenelivergood5518 11 месяцев назад

I'm with you sister. Nothing has worked for me. Mine lies all the time and very sneaky. I hardley talk any more either and I just feel Numb. I use to cry all the time but I don't have any feelings left in me most the time. He's so nice to everyone but me so no one else sees it. My kids who are adults don't even see it. I've wanted to end my life different times but now I realize I deserve better then this, I just don't know how to get it and still stay in the same house. If I just had people to get out with more often I'd be much better. That's my goal now is find more friends and go more places. I just started looking for groups on line and my town but not much here in my area.

@gracebetou 11 месяцев назад

@darlenelivergood5518 I was able to pretty much take over the bedroom, since he had never slept in the same bed, he always slept on the couch.i put a comfy chair in there and that is where I spent most my time, during the winter months, spring summer and fall I kept to myself and busy taking care of the garden and yard. Ignoring him, like he did me. I planned my exit and thought I had everything almost done.Guess God had a different idea. Prayers for you too.

@unchained8 11 месяцев назад

Jesus said you will know a tree by its fruit.

@haileybut 11 месяцев назад

Matthew 25 cleared things up for me.

@olgamoraiti 11 месяцев назад

That “Pollyanna type of love” you said… So true…! It destroys lives! Consequences is keyword… So helpful video, thank u 🙏

@luzdubon8996 11 месяцев назад

So glad I found you sister, God does not want us to be used and abused by wolfs, that is not wisdom.

@daisyjanellepumwa2539 7 месяцев назад

They need deliverance from the spirit that leads and drives them

@JS-hb8nk 3 месяца назад

You have a wonderful gift of communicating, Kris. I would say you belong on network tv programming but that would prevent your sharing God's word. Thank you for your meaningful insight.

@user-onyoutube868 11 месяцев назад

We do love like Jesus when we refuse to allow others to use and abuse us. We remove ourselves from enabling ungodly behavior, and that has often been referred to as tough love. It's the same principle in which children learn what is acceptable and what will not be tolerated so they don't grow up to have a sense of entitlement to treat others however they want to.

@andreeaciobanuc404 17 дней назад

I have given so many chances to my narcissistic father until one day I drew the line and said: That's it! One more time you are hurting me, humiliating me, insulting me, gossiping about me, turning ppl against me, offend me emotionally, I am out of your life forever. I swear! And indeed, he continued to harm me without the slightest guilt. Like I had promised him, I kept my word and went no contact. After 5 years he phoned me to ask me a favour, as he knew he was dying. Only then did he contact me, 2 weeks before his death, but not to apologize or make amends, but for me to serve him as a nurse, a cleaner and a servant.

@priscilafelicidadebemestar 4 месяца назад

CONGRATULATIONS for your courage and discernment! Thanks!

@infantkumarg2957 4 месяца назад

Thank you Sister... You're really giving good advice.. May our God bless you to rescue more people like me ❤❤❤

@sherridean657 11 месяцев назад

You beautifully and absolutely scripturally handled this response well. Bless you🎉

@Kris_Reece 11 месяцев назад

Thank you :)

@dancingram79 11 месяцев назад

I absolutly agree! 😊 Just have to add. If you suffer from codependency, already struggle with boundaries or just dont want to loose your sanity and health trying. RUN!

@sleepytimeshecomes 11 месяцев назад

love the way you started this video by speaking on the ignorant idea ppl have in christianity

@kathygross6911 11 месяцев назад

Gracefully said and very true. Bad company corrupts. Thank you for your teaching.

@justice8563 9 месяцев назад

Loving my family unrconditionalliy, is what caused the excruciating trauma that I’ve lived with my whole life. Boundaries do not work with dark empaths who are hell bent to destroy your life. Even no contact is safe enough, because it turns into a war of one, against many.

@maryl9180 11 месяцев назад

please read 2 Timothy chapter 3 versus 1-7 and 1 Corinthians chapter 5 verse 11 wherein God warns us to STAY AWAY from such people. Narcissist often quote scriptures as did Satan.

@fayray9544 11 месяцев назад

If the narcissist loved God or his neighbor as himself, the world would be a better place. Such great content Kris. Words of wisdom. Like apples of gold in settings of silver….beautiful and valuable. 🙏

@yarash3354 11 месяцев назад

I don't think a narcissist is capable of love. They'll fake it with learned words and certain behaviors, enough to keep you begging for the crumbs thrown your way. I often wonder if they are soulless.

@SheilaTrueLove 11 месяцев назад

New Subscriber - I LOVE you. Thank you for all that you do. I also LOVE Joyce Meyers. She has helped me through so much. I'm so happy I found your Channel. Again, thank you.

@beautyshines2124 11 месяцев назад

We can't change anyone except themselves. Change is good if they are willing to change for own good.

@gwendolynwehage6336 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for this, it is exactly what I have experienced all of my life with a narcissistic family. It is so freeing to know we can follow God without guilt about moving on without them.

@cschipor86 10 месяцев назад

My mom has never cared if she lost me. She’s too far gone. Doesn’t even care to change so she can see her grandkids. She has too many people in her life that support who she is as a narcissist. Very sad

@karinasadal1618 11 месяцев назад

Hi Kris..I recently started watching your vids and the messages are very encouraging..I suffered narcissistic abuse when I was married to a narcissist 2 years ago, not knowing anything about narcissism when I met my ex...about 4 years of hard lessons with that relationship as I met him in church and I am now a happy divorcee..keep up the great content!🎉❤

@bethtaylor9773 11 месяцев назад

Reminds me of Rebecca Davis's book, 'Untangling Toxic Teachings on Suffering.' Good read and totally supports Kris's talks. She's spot on.

@zabraarms3865 8 месяцев назад

you can't change a narcissistic. They've to want to change. Most of them, who are a narcissistic absolutely won't change. They've to be in Control at all time.

@myINFJlife 8 месяцев назад

Amen! The only way to deal with narcissists is outlined in Matthew 18, I Timothy 5, and just look at the interactions Jesus had with the Pharisees! God HATES the evil that narcissists heep on this world. People have tried to label me toxic for pointing out lies, hypocrisy, and abusive behavior, saying I am the most toxic person they’ve ever met. Yet they’re the ones defending church leaders who have, I kid you not, told me it would have been better to neglect my mother than to not work for them (I asked for extended time off because she broke her knee and my dad couldn’t take time off); who told me I sinned because I promptly ended a phone call that was becoming unrighteous (I said as much and hung up); who said my dad should quit his job to take care of my mom (so you want them to starve and be homeless??); who has, from the pulpit, said that pride and hypocrisy can be good things 🤯; who refused to do Matthew 18 and told me to forgive because I would never receive an apology; who told me I needed to act as though nothing happened and act well emotionally at church if I wanted to stay there… It’s true that the world calls good bad and bad good, and that they’ll hate us on account of Him; that men will walk around as wolves among sheep, devouring Jesus’ followers if given the chance; and that others will most often choose to be like every other passerby but the Good Samaritan in these situations.

@matthewwozniak9138 7 месяцев назад

It's not your job to try and change anyone else. That's up to them if they want to change. You can however show them the way. If they reject you, walk away.✌

@mrbb.business7281 10 месяцев назад

I am really glad that too see that some sects of Christianity is publicly helping their members protect themselves for being damaged because of their good, loving and trusting nature.

@lorenaestay8087 11 месяцев назад

Only Jesus can change them, if they renounce it.

@user-pv7cc9yo9x 11 месяцев назад

My sins have weighed me down everything around me in my family is falling apart,my disgrace has led my family to hate me,if thouest choose Lord Jesus,Only You Can Put All The Broken Pieces Togeher,bring Deliverance and Restoration,if this is truly to happen i can say this can Only Be God.😢😢

@LALady1 10 месяцев назад

I learned a lot but still confused on certain things. But since I found Kris I realized there are so many more scriptures on protecting ourselves from harm.

@teddiallen3325 11 месяцев назад

“POSSIBLY” is the key word.

@Amada_porDios 11 месяцев назад

Amén! Guard up and boundaries in place! 🙏yesss! ❤❤❤❤

@patacan7 11 месяцев назад

Great thoughts indeed. Interesting from the person's comments, it's a one sided love versus seeing and realizing ALL should be loving within any relationship and when feedback is given that what was said or done was unacceptable, the true heart will care about that and heartfeltly desire change. No relationship can work on a one sided feed of love.

@1timeslime971 11 месяцев назад

John 3:16 actually TRULY has a condition….to Believe In Him, confess with your mouth He is Lord, repent, etc etc etc

@aradhanamila4579 4 месяца назад

Jesus also said to be Wise as a serpent and harmless as a Dove.

@Gimo76 11 месяцев назад

That gal you quoted must have never had a narcissist in her life. I spent 23 years and each time I fled my family would shun me until I went back each time I escaped. Then I finally got out, he fell for my BF and I left the state. I then got married again to yet another narcissist. This time I ran at 11 years. I didn’t know they were narcissist.

@darlenelivergood5518 11 месяцев назад

Sounds like me. I didn't know mine was either(still is) and took me 30 years before I even knew what one was. After I found out I did a lot of searching and realized that's what I am dealing with. For once I know it's not me causing the problems. I always blamed myself trying to change all the time. No more, I know it's hi. Now.

@Gimo76 11 месяцев назад

@@darlenelivergood5518 I was finally on my own at 45. Now 72 and just found out about Narcissist. Once I realized that it is an illness I was able to forgive because how can you hate them when they have a mental illness. It really changed my head and heart. I now live content and happy. The Lord has provided me with all I need.

@AleksandraAltynai 2 месяца назад

Dear Kris! Your video is just on time for me. Unfortunately, my husband is a narcissist and there is no way for me to escape this marriage. All I can do is to set my boundaries. And I hope that God will help me do this.

@cherjimenez3261 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for responding to that comment. I so agree with you. I left my narcissistic husband who’s also a serial domestic abuser after 11 years of being manipulated. He basically used me for his own miracle and took advantage of my faith to continue controlling me until God revealed to me that this was not the life that He wanted for me and my boy.

@johnkrywicki 11 месяцев назад

Dear @KrisReeceMinistries I just wanted to say how much you help me the last 7 months of my life. I was in a very bad company with people and I had to walk away it wasn't pretty, but everything you said in this video reassured me that I am in the right and I did what God wanted me to do as he help me every step of the way to end that bad group of people. Thank you so much!!!

@rodneyyurkiw3743 7 месяцев назад

Yeah even for me as a Christian I was drained by a narcissistic woman and now I didn’t know it carried into my 5 years engagement with Tammy and she pointed out my scars and I actually thought I was healed and delivered from it! I was blind and want to heal from all the anger and bitterness that gets triggered and me I may have lost Tammy but I accept that I rather win in Jesus than please people or my ex fiancée and be authentic in myself

@sonalib1224 10 месяцев назад

God and people generally don't love thosr who lie, cheat and try to destroy another's character for fun as people with narcissistic personality disorder do to those who are more ethically minded and genuinely care for others. Consequences is what leads to repenting and fear of loss in the future which people without the disorder have. Its recognizing the wolves and then learning how to protect yourself for the long term and not getting triggered by complex ptsd symptoms and suffering in the hands of callous people

@estera6001 3 дня назад

You are a gift from God! Thank you soooo much for you’re teaching! ❤

@petriebezuidenhout2953 11 месяцев назад

You preach it sister!!!

@beautifulbuds 11 месяцев назад

This is the best you tube I've ever watched on Narcs!!

@drsr2 10 месяцев назад

Thank You I've been on this topic with someone for some time now; my words along with yours was almost identical; I will soon share this video with them maybe their hearing from you will suit them better than hearing it from me. Blessings to you and yours in Christ Jesus of whom we have to do.

@julienatoli8561 11 месяцев назад

Kris I am soo grateful for your content. You're biblical, practical and I for one am so grateful for your heart!! Thank you 🙏🙏😘 God bless you Kris, you help me immensely with perspective. 🙌✝️🕊️

@Kris_Reece 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for taking the time to share Julie. You touched my heart.

@melissamccaffery6683 11 месяцев назад

I second that, so well said julie, you have a beautiful soul kris and it shows.

@maggielucy9824 Месяц назад

Kris Reece, you are God sent. The messages you convey are extremely insightful. Keep doing the good work.

@alisonmorris4444 11 месяцев назад

I totally agree 😊, thank you Kris , gaslighting shaming and blaming victims / targets / survivors not only adds to their misery and abuse but can also have serious consequences. Thank you for your video 💡🙏❤️⚖️ x

@jlew87 7 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for this video!!! I have been trying to explain this for years!!! I sometimes questioned myself if I was wrong and was going against God, to the point I thought God didn't love me and I was going to hell. It was tormenting to say the least. Thank God he helped me through it and has shown me the truth! I needed to be reminded of this now more than ever!

@jbevolve2023 11 месяцев назад

I love your videos! You are such a good speaker and I love your insight. Keep putting out fantastic videos!

@sissysp8924 5 месяцев назад

Their evil teaching will spread like a sickness inside the body. Hymenaus and Philetus are men like that. They have left the true teaching. They say that the raising from death of all men are destroying the faith of some people. But God’s strong foundation continues to stand.These words are written on that foundation. The Lord knows those who belong to him. And also these words are written on that foundation. Everyone who says that he believes in the Lord must stop doing wrong. 2 Timothy2:17. 2;16 stay away from those who talk about useless worldly things. That kind of talk will lead a person more and more away from God…. Because they think they are their own God. It’s all about themselves. Control makes us lose ourselves. Thank you ❤

@unchained8 11 месяцев назад

Thank you kris. Really appreciate your ministry.