Mihai Andrei Anghei. It depends on what you need to change about yourself. Physically, mentally, etc..then I would recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
At the end of the day you should not think about your ex coming back I know it’s hard but the path to getting your ex back and the path to moving on is the same. Walk away and don’t turn around to see if she’s following you
You're right man, it's hard. A part of me can't believe that it has been 3 months since our break up and about 30 days since we last had a conversation.. I still have dreams and it sucks, I'm confused and traumatised.
@@MonkeyDLuffy60073 Bro I’m in the exact same boat I broke up with my ex girlfriend for months ago but we really only stopped talking three months ago it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to Indore other than losing a family member
@@kcash6359 Listen brother I feel your pain but don’t hate her if you love her you want what’s best for her even if she was wrong I think my ex has someone else abs to be honest I was so angry at the beginning but holding on to anger makes the pain worse and it creates deep resentment. Let it go pray for her and become the best version of yourself so when the right person comes you don’t carry on the same traits that ended this relationship. Look in the mirror and ask yourself what you need to change and change it . Because I can promise you if she don’t change too she will never be happy eaither 🙏🏻❤️ best of luck pal
@@gramafrita my pleasure I’m fighting the heartbreak as we speak it’s the hardest pain to endure besides losing a loved one I was with my ex 8 years. Good luck
I'd want to know why she broke up with me, That conversation needs to happen for clarity. I'm not going to tread on eggshells so as not to upset her after she upset me. If we say nothing and carry on she could dump me again. Once bitten twice shy as they say.
@@nidgeontour257 You should go into no contact. I tried to get closure and I can tell you it did not work. It makes them repel you more and makes them think they’re more attractive than you, that they don’t need you around.
If you ask why they broke up with you they’ll probably not be honest with you, they might give you some white lies to spare your feelings. Edit; asking for closure usually doesn’t work.
This is one of the best videos I’ve seen so far. I‘m in no contact for 8 days now, and I‘m struggling. But every day, I push myself physically, emotionally and mentally. I‘m in the gym daily, I’m working on my business daily, I‘m eating healthy, and I’m reflecting on what makes a great relationship. Thanks Coach Lee for guiding me through those dark times!
She came back after more than 5 months of no contact. After her new relationship didn't work for her. But I'm over it. No more interested. Don't won't someone who will leave me for another guy and then when things don't work for her she wants to come back. That is not loyalty
@@asmrsleep3079 I would have given it a try. But the fact that she left because she taught she got someone better than me is a no nonsense for me to tolerate it
hello coach and viewers, it's been a while since I watched one of your videos... just wanted to comeback and thank you for your helpful advices for the after breakup period. I'm currently back with my ex since 4 months (after three of no contact) and we are happier than ever. So guys pls, even tho this period might feel like shit keep on going and you will either heal and move on or get your ex back TRUST ME 🙏. I wish the best for all of you and remember that you're not alone. Breakups are an important step in everyone's life!
I'm using NC but she keeps on calling me then after conversation she'll ask for apologies for calling.. it's hard for me to understand because I stay with our daughter..I sometimes think she's calling because the of child .. even though she sometimes prefer talking to me not the child even if she's around?
Damn that’s awesome! I rarely see people return to his channel to give updates after getting their partner back. I’m doing no contact with my ex of 11 years, was about to married and depression hit her. Hopefully she comes back. I’m barely on day 7 of NC 🤣
How do you feel about the possibility that she may have slept with someone else during that period of no contact with her before you guys got back together?
I have felt the same and done the same chasing for two weeks. And here I am three weeks later feeling so much better. He contacted me a few times. I am still in NC as it is not the right timing right now.
Guys !! Listen and believe to evry word coach lee says I suffered from a breakup and i followed him blindly.. i also made many mistakes after breakup but no contact really works .. he is back!!! And ik this phase was so bad for me too but it will get better eventually. If you really wnt him back .. and you guys are meant to be.. HE WILL COME BACK JUST STAY STRONG GUYS❤
Some more informations would be nice. How long did you guys were together, how long did you break up. How long was the no contact time and what is the current situation?
It is more than 12 months for me now and recently a mutual friend of ours told me that she just engaged with another dude. I was so heartbroken the day I heard that and lost my momentum I built in a year. Then again this very incident sparked my pride in a way I could not spark it myself: It really is about finding my own way, regardless of what happens outside of me. Because life is short and if I am not fighting for my future, who else will? All the people that turned their back on me, including several ex partners? Hell no. To all of you people out there who are suffering from a breakup: Keep fighting! Don’t give up because you never know what will be around the next corner.
I wanna say thanks for all your help getting through a breakup. In the past I made mistakes during a breakup. This time I employed no contact. Sure enough she wouldn’t leave me alone. In the end decided against taking her back. Your videos helped me realize my strength and value. Now I’m seeing someone else, big upgrade.
It worked!!! I did everything what you said and it worked!! We were only on a break, but still. It wasn’t sure if he wanted to continue or not, and first he wanted to break up, but he saw that I worked on myself and developed a lot in the break, and now he wants to continue our relationship! I instantly started to work on myself, so I recommend everyone to not give up and put yourself first, be your own priority! I send positive energy to everyone here, keep going!!🥰❤️🥳
I’m going through that now...on a break because they need to get over something to more forward into a relationship...it’s been 6 days nc for me...prior I asked her did she not wanna speak to me during the break.,and she told me not rn...
@@Carlywind didn’t really have a time frame for the break we haven’t seen each other in two weeks hoping that the time away brings us closer it’s hard to go from talking daily to not talking at all
@@Carlywind we spoke on Wednesday and she said she still was in the same feeling and it’s something she has to get past to move forward so like now everything is at standstill
I can't focus on anything else after breakup. It was so sudden and I can't stop thinking about him. Even when I sleep, my heart feels so heavy and feel like it's going to explode.
@@suetoohey3139 don't worry dear... U might be feel like lost ur apetite, don't want to talk to anyone or feel like no one can make you happy... But let me tell you, u will get out of all these maximum of 2 months.. And also, my ex did texted me after 2 months... I was listening to some manifestation those times. However, God blessed me with another amazing guy who treating me like a queen. So, when my ex texted me i was in a state where I don't need him. In other words, I was completely detached from that person.. Love u dear☺❤u deserve better... Take care.. Don't hurt ur self for some asshole who don't value u.. 😌👍
I can’t believe this actually worked 😮 My ex reached out after 10 days nc. It was so hard to not tell him how much I missed him but I took your advice and played it cool. I even waited a bit to reply to not look like I was desperately waiting by the phone. This conversation was light but he was the one who kept it going. He was so curious about what I had been up to. Hoping he will reach out again but back to no contact for now.
I want to say thank you to Coach Lee and offer some encouragement to viewers that NC works if you follow his instructions. My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years. About 2 weeks ago we had a HUGE blow up. He left and went to his parent’s house and did not communicate with me. I cried, I begged, and called repeatedly. I found Coach Lee and tried to follow NC but kept reaching out. Yesterday was Day 4 of NC and early this morning he came home. We spoke and agreed to start counseling next week to work on our issues before they become major again. Coach Lee, I’ve learned a lot about myself from discovering your channel. ❤❤❤
You're so lucky! This is similar to my case but I left for my parents & came back 2 weeks after. We talked about counselling too and he was down for it. I was shocked and heartbroken when he called me a couple of days after to change his mind and he's gone radio silence ever since. I've never been so heartbroken in my life... and worse I feel terrible & guilty for leaving but smth was always off and I needed us to sort it out no matter what it took. He was stubborn and in denial
Your videos have replaced my workout songs. It's been 8 days since the breakup. 11 years of relationship. I'm hoping to come back with a success story in a few months.
theizza68. I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent and it will help you immensely. It's a POWERFUL Kit that has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@sukritinigam yea. It ended in a divorce and it's best for me and her. I'm about to start my own business I'm dating someone much better looking and nicer now and I'm absolutely obsessed.
I believe she thinks I will reach out to her because she absolutely knows how much I love and care about her. I won’t give in though. As much as it hurts and it painful it is, this is all I feel I have left and that’s my self respect. Besides it’s not in my heart to go where I’m not welcomed. Thanks Coach Lee. I’m learning
Same here, it wasn’t easy especially since we talked almost everyday for so long it felt like I was going through a withdrawal 😭 but time heals and by staying away from someone who doesn’t care to leave and hurt you, you got your self respect intact. So far it’s been 2 months for me of no contact.
Its tough the first few months but im on a year and like 4 months of NC and gets way easier. You realize your value and become more confident and end up enjoying being single… you end up thinking people in relationships are weak… GL
2 months in here and some days are good, others not as much. But I do know one thing and that is if I could see my future I'd be smiling ear to ear. Stay strong and you're absolutely right to stay away
Same here. its been almost 3 months of no contact and I'm sure she thinks I will reach out. I was so needy and clingy that I begged, cried spoke to her parents and brothers and she couldn't care. I'm regretting doing all of that but my emotions were all over the place. It's hard to throw 7 years just like that. Now I'm rebuilding myself even though I'm still not ok and I won't reach out to save the little respect I have.
This is the best advice ever!!! 💯 percent to the inside jokes... my ex and I shared great laughs and I still make him laugh by bringing up some past comments or allude to the jokes we shared. I can still make him blush. Humour is a major part of building intimacy and attraction. New or old
NC working after 9 weeks. Fortunately, he realized he had issues too through his Own self reflection and was listening to relationship podcasts! The growth both of us had and our whirlwind past has brought us back ❤. These videos were almost a blueprint !
I know these videos are generally “ how to get your ex back “ but I still find them soothing to watch even tho I know I could never get back with a cheating ex. I feel like a sucker for even still feeling hurt despite the massive disrespect that comes from cheating . And wished they reach out but for what
Coach Lee It's been 5 weeks and I'm doing my best to work on myself .. we had a strong love an a good thing for the most part ...I have a tendency to let the little things bother me some but I was never abusive to her ...I DID give her respectful love ... I could use a little encouragement looking forward to this one .. I'm very grateful I found your channel as are many ...
M. Alexander, it’s been 7 weeks of No Contact for me.. and i just won’t break it.. the more i think about it, the more i realize i know I’m doing what is right.. stay strong man.. if she wants to walk, let her walk man.. trust me, i know it hurts.. hurt me too.. but i am worth more than that.. you are too.. i know..
@@chriscoleman8015 thank you, bro.. the ironic part is when I look back? There times when I knew I was feeling disregarded by her emotionally anyway.. coach says seperate the loss from the relationship.. thank you for the kind words . Hang in there Chris ..
@@m.alexander7865 because you got a lot of spam responses. Love spells etc. Stay in no contact. Listen to videos. If you had a good relationship, time will be your friend
@@fj4731 i think she is "bread crumbing" you, with little tid bits of contact, i suggest try to be secure with yourself that you are the quality person that she does want, but show you are strong, and only make small conversation, then pull back again in no contact for a week or two, or til she gives in to sends a bit of talk, but dont over do it on your side, pull back for two weeks and see what her move is, keep doing this, for two weeks every time, it makes you look strong in my opinion
@@fj4731 WE spoke before. I suggested that you NOT associate with her. I will tell you again. NO CONTACT is the best solution for you. Even though she contacted you, avoid her. I would BLOCK HER, and not attend anything that she's involved in. You need to GROW- MOVE FORWARD. Do this for your own peace of mind. Good luck, fj...⚘️
My ex said...I expected you to chase me! Lol. She was used to that from past relationships. Not this guy sister!!! This is a great video. 90 days no contact and she came back.
@@losbanos999 thanks bro, I was just wondering if she reached out any time within that 90 days with other stuff like getting her stuff back or getting closure etc. before she fully came back? And are yall still together now?
@@rxsx123 she did reach out, then left again .. breadcrumbs. She just wanted to know that I'm still there. So we are not together. A month ago I told her I am blocking her everywhere and have a nice life. I must keep her blocked now and try to move on. It sucks bad. If she really wanted me, she could email me or come see me. She doesn't respect me enough. You have to really show them that you are moving on, or they won't get scared and fear losing you. Go watch Lucia of The Art of Love. She shows you how to stay in no contact and wait for something significant from your ex. Lucia's way is the only way for most couples. Sorry coach Lee.
It is amazing how anger can help you get over someone. Someone who ghosts is cruel.Why go back to a sadist. It is over.Case closed.Do not want them back.
Susan Ars, Anger is Hurt turned inside out. I understand the feeling. You will be fine. Sometimes we let people annoy us, but this will pass. We've ALL been there. Take care of yourself. I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which has EVERYTHING in it. It even has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
She left me in February after 10 years of what I believed and was told by her was a beautiful marriage. I have sense learned She is a narcissist, she was cheating, using me, planned on taking everything from me because she had gotten all she could. Therapy, and listening to Coach Lee... growing and working on me, staying in no contact, learning and so much more. Coach Lee's advice and videos has helped me to become a better man. I have more growth and healing to do. Living my life as I choose. She threw us away, she is a full blown narcissist, why would I ever allow that back in my life. I didn't do what she expected. I didn't contact, didn't block her on social media. I did not prove her right. I am better than what I have ever known.
I wouldn't call her a friend. She is a clinical narcissist. A scammer. The plot from the beginning was to take away all she could. In my own blindness, I ignored the signs, I wanted to believe the best. Coach Lee's advice of no contact and self focus gave me the tools to see the truth. This was an experience i had to go through ti learn and embrace myself. To find my self respect without disrespecting others. Coach Lee is absolutely spot on.
Thank you for sharing those kind words. I appreciate it. I thought I'd just mention that I'm doing a workshop soon where you get 12 hours with me. It's limited in number so that you can get the most help possible and includes "after care" of 6 months of coaching. You can get more information on that at RelationshipReignite.com.
I got through the hardest part. I’m satisfied with a friendship knowing there are no bad terms between us. I think I wanted things to progress more quickly and pulled back on having sex. It was very difficult but I couldn’t compromise my values and my faith. I was miserable. Knowing I can be friends and only that eases my inner turmoil. He did try to engage romantically in his texts but I changed the subject or ignored them. I don’t reply immediately and can actually step back and see things for what they really were. I’m so much in a better place. I do have a major surgery coming up, he seems very concerned. That was touching. My health is my priority. I gave it to God. ❤
Basically, get your sh.t together. If they come back they’ll see the bigger better version of you. If they don’t come back it’s because they’re not good enough for the bigger better version of you.
I definitely made some of the mistakes during the break up itself that you mention like arguing and crying but we lived together at the time so I guess it was unavoidable. I quickly searched for help from sources like you and then gave her the breakup and have been in no contact for over a month. I’m hoping she’s thought about me and missed me during this time.
Keep going. And don’t just do it for getting her back. You need to grow alone. I’ve been through it and we all been there. Same thing happened to me last week. Haven’t talked since. But therapy and being honest with yourself will help and do things for you and work on yourself. You may end up not wanting her after you build up yourself.
@Thomas Fanelli, yes, she thinks about you and misses you. I broke up with my boyfriend because he hurt me. He was having lunch with a woman who has proven to be an enemy of mine and lied about it and was exposed. SO, even though HE was in the wrong and hurt me, my pride would not allow me to stay. YES, I broke up with him, went no contact, and have not reached out since, but I love and miss him dearly. I think about him, I cry about our relationship, and I think about him every single day. So, YES, she thinks about you and she misses you. That's just how women are...even if we have been hurt by the man we love and left.
I know how dire this situation is for some of you, because of how it was for me. For me, it was early October 3 years ago in 2019. I am not back with my ex. And it is NOT because I didn't want to get back with her. I followed Coach Lee like a lifeline for quite some time. It DID help with certain things. One big thing I noticed for the longest time was that I was dangerously balancing between severe anxiety and severe depression. The anxiety EVENTUALLY eased off somewhat. It does get easier. Not perfect or great, but better.
Thanks coach Lee, your videos have helped me through depression. Me and my ex split a week ago after almost 4 years. It’s been extremely tough. We had some ugly moments but never nothing physical or cheating. She has a daughter and she allowed me to come to her softball game and her daughter cried in my arms saying she missed me. I just pray we can fix this for good. I still want the relationship but she wants the space. She says she needs time to process.
Im literally trying to keep myself busy at all times lol like go to the gym, clean, stay busy with work, or even sometimes I have to let it out and cry but becoming a better version of myself is priority !
Thank you, your advice makes loads of sense. The break up has been a wake up call on how much I have to learn about relationships and how much I have room for improvement I need to do on myself. Thank you soooooo much again 😃
Defy their expectations I love that! I’m definitely sure she believes I will reach out . Imma hold off and give my ex what she wanted . I won’t hit her up , I’ll be back with an update
Rewatching this video 5x since the last night i saw this post until now it is morning. Cause i really wanna absorb all the information and insights of coach Lee. I really admire how he put all his heart into explaining why is it important to prioritize your well being. That is why he is my fave and only one fave out of the coaches here in youtube. The explanation is always on point, very informative and realistic. I cant describe well enough how coach Lee helps me to thrive and stay in NC…. Thank you so mucj, Coach Lee. If im not here in the 🇵🇭 and if we live in the same country i will really do mu best to have an appointment with you in person. ✨
Hey just dont give up… and i used to do the same and wanted to come here again and tell ppl that it works .. im back with my ex .. all thanks to coach lee advice
@@sarakiara3470 thank you. But recently i’ve found out that he has a new partner 🙃 so im not waiting anymore. But still rewatching coach lee’s vids to make me stronger
Not gone lie I been on your videos ever since January when I got dumped, I started taking your advice and giving no contact. After 3 months of no contact she video chatted me randomly on messenger even though she has another man. We were on the phone for about 40 mins I wasn't tryna to give her much attention bc I'm sure that's what she expected but she was asking how was my well being and it surprised me bc of all the hurt she caused me I never expected
It’s been the same time for me, we talked before but I totally messed up. She lured me into arguments and like a dummy I fell for it. Got even so far as to calling her new guy a POS! Yea, I messed up there. But that’s the guy she monkey branched with. But I’m happy for you and I hope you do get your ex back…
Been separated over 2 yrs, and I all about my son now. I just got home from over seas work and she went off on telling me how we are never getting back together and to move on and how I broke her heart. She even said she can not be my wife-i said ok. I said yeah sorry it wasn’t intentional, but why is she still telling me all this now?? I know this already. Im not perfect but on my purpose and did the work to fix me 💪🏻.
Listen to Coach Lee, beautiful people, and take notes at the same time. Everything he explains happened exactly as he said it would. It was very difficult because in my case it took quite a bit of time - but it was worth being patient for months. Good luck!
@@mamoud6648 In short, he wanted the break-up last November, I tried to fight to save it for two weeks or so, but then went NC - as advised by Coach Lee, only replying when he would ask me for something, being polite, positive and keeping messages short. He kept in touch this way ever since then - sometimes only once in two weeks but no more than that. By 6th month, he said he wanted to meet up - which was a bit shocking and unexpected to me - and I said (honestly) that I couldn't. We finally had a phone conversation by the 10th month. He admitted (just as Coach Lee said) that only after 3 months, all the negativity disappeared and he could only remember the good stuff, and he would have wanted to reconnect earlier. However, he realised that would ruin my process of finding my peace, so he tried to approach carefully. We are still at that stage. I appreciate him for being slow - perhaps a bit too slow but... hey! - I admit that it is better this way. Every relationship has its own dynamics. At first, I was really against the idea of meeting him - after such a long time - but I am gradually warming up to it, as we communicate a lot more via text and phone. Our lives are quite busy at the moment, too, so that is a bit in the way as well - but in a way, it also works for us, keeping us occupied. Not sure if it helps - but this is my experience: I feel that in some cases, a lot of time and distance is needed to process our feelings, both as a dumper and as a dumpee. In my case, NC cleared up what was cloudy between us, gave me back my dignity and peace, and helped him clarify what he feared. A win-win. Not sure where this will go now, as this clarification also made me see why we are not good for each other - but not worried about it either. Hope this makes sense.
@@livbeyond I’m just curious so I’m the dumper and I recently told my ex at the six months of trying to get her back. That I’m moving on and if she considers working things out she can contact me but her birthday is in a few weeks. She did send me a little gift, on my birthday. Should I send her something for her birthday we recently stopped talking, but still on good terms. What’s your thoughts
@@mamoud6648 I cannot remember what Coach Lee says that the dumper should do. In a way, after 6 months of trying to get her back, the situation is changed a bit. But are you sure you did everything you could? As I said, sometimes things take more time than we think. But ... if you have initiated NC, then the rules of NC say 'No Happy Birthday, no gifts'. You said you want to move on. Perhaps not sending a gift would be the proof of that? I did not wish my ex Happy Birthday back in September, I was super quiet on social media, too.I know it hurt him quite a lot but he also understood why I had to do it. I really don't know what is best as your situation is a bit different - are you aware of her feelings? What did she say? Why can't she give another try ?
I've been studying your videos the past while, hoping to get back to things and get her back. Thank you so much for this information, this is gonna work.
After 7 months of NC, nothing changed. It feels and it hurts like first day. Life will never be the same anymore. My heart is completely broken, and I can’t do anything about it…. True love will never pass.
Just K how are you 2day? I had the same problem, lost everything in one year. My job(15 years) Friends A good friend of mine died in front of me... I felt sad Than my lover (2 and half years) broke up with me. I am always in the light and love life .. but at that time (last year) i had a nerveus break down. Couldn't eat, Couldn't sleep! I started 2 write everyday the last couple of weeks .. about how i feel, what in want in life and what i deserve. I am taking walks, start with a new job in a month and i found peace in Robert who has the you tube channel law of atraction. And yes off course Coach Lee!! Find out what the other person did 2 lower you.. but even more important.. find out what you are that you allowing them 2 give you rhis feeling! What happend in you past... I also had a psychologist and a therapist that gave me the strenght 2 move forword. When you are dealing with a fight in life... understand you will be better afther the victory 🎉 Hang in there lovley people ❤❤
Leading to the break up my wife of 27 years recently started calling me all kinds of names, accusing me of being a narcissist and continuing bringing up things from the past. No real forgiveness no letting go. That’s not to say she’s completely innocent put I chose to not go into the garbage can. I’ve supported her through her MS and multiple surgeries for amputation, with trips to NYC hospitals, Baltimore and most recently Mayo Clinic. I’ve been ghosted by her and until I found your videos, I had made the mistake of sending her flowers calling her and texting her. Now I’ve gone no contact and will continue to stay that way, because I totally agree with you that it is the mature way to handle this situation it’s not like I don’t have other options, if she wants to leave, I’m gonna let her go in peace. If she comes back, we will obviously need some counseling and therapy. As for myself, I’m going to continue to work on being the best human being, I can possibly be. strength, courage and faith in the process. Thank you for this solid advice. I will continue to listen to your suggestions and follow through with them.
Today I hit my 30 days of no contact. After two years I was ghosted. After a few days I called and called and all I got was her degrading me and screaming attention me. I cried for days and days. But what I realized is nobody should be called the horrible things she called. And in front of co-workers. I would never do that to anybody. I know I am a kind, loving, and giving person. I will never let anybody make me think differently about my self-worth. And if somebody does not want to be with me then let them go.
I will never reach out. I reached out the first time we broke up and we got back together. But since he broke my heart a second time, it’s not my job to fix what he broke again
Hi I need women advice if can help me out I am in Day 38 No Contact I cant take NC no more .I need to seek advice 3 weeks ago she forwarded a church activity zoom talk to me without saying Hi….I didn't reply since she didnt "How are you " would I regret Not replying to her forwarded email? I am so weak man Can I ask should I reach out and apologise I am the root cause of her mental illness and to agree to her term to meet her Less frequently so that she has more time on her own or is this Bad idea to be apologise and accepting her condition ..giving her the power she has me under her power? So dont break No contact to outwait her let her miss me ..If I want to get her back
Another Great video Coach lee Thankyou 🙏🏻👌🏻 I am investing my time in you, and phycology. For me you are by far the best I have listened to. You make so much sense of all the confusion, anxiety, and heartbreak. Not to mention how two people should be in a healthy relationship. I could go on about you’re fantastic work you are doing right now, but your videos speaks volumes. Right now I am in day 7 of no contact, I can’t express the pain I have had to put myself through to get to this day, but I do feel better by the day. It’s all starting to make much more sense as I am reflecting and being patient towards the situation. I’m so proud of myself for taking the mature approach to all this, as this will be a reflection of me that maybe my ex will no doubt think about after and maybe in the relief period. I sent my ex a clean slate message 7 days ago after a little dialogue with her. She did not reply to the message and I have just let it be, as this will hopefully show her that I can be mature and sensible to the whole break up. Not only that but by doing this, if we should talk in the future (maybe) there is no bitterness or any kind of friction between us. Maybe she will reach out maybe she won’t, but I know I have given myself the best possible position to be in for myself in the future. This could be with my ex or this could be a future with someone else, who knows, but I have done all I can within my power to be the best possible version of my self. Still learning for ever evolving through this difficult stage in my life. Thankyou again coach Lee.💔💙🙏🏻🙂
Same here, the last message I sent.. he didn’t even reply and just ghosted. Well good riddance! Imagine that’s how he’d later on during the relationship as well.
@@annemarie7203 it’s horrible isn’t it!? Proper gut wrenching, when you have put so much time into the relationship. I’m not perfect and I know where I have made my mistakes, and would love to make a go and start over again to regain the emotional attraction and physical. The last message I sent was just read and ignored and so that itself speaks volumes. It just hurts that she is not willing to put the effort in to the relationship, that’s why it’s much better for me and her that I give her the break up to hopefully make her realise. I do have faith,and positivity but I’m not holding my breath for too long. I hope you the person reaches out to you or even better for you if you have changed your mind on the idea of getting the person back.
I'm on my 2nd week of no contact. It gets easier with time. It still hurts though. Even though I wasn't contacting her, and our last interaction was amicable (we literally wished each other the best), she blocked me out of the blue, but not on Facebook, where she's been posting stuff full of hate, like "not one man I've known has been useful" and "I've been cured of the impulse of getting back with my ex". She even posted a story of her dancing and singing with another guy. So I just gave up. I will no longer pursue her and as someone said: staying in no contact means keeping the little dignity you have left. That's all I have left: a little, tiny amount of self-respect that my ex will look back to and she can be angry, petty, mean, but I won't fall to her level. I'll keep on moving. No matter what. My life is no longer dependant on her. It's over.
It feels like all the work has to be done by the dumpee. At what point do they ever have to do the work and heal all the parts of themselves that need healing? They are not perfect but they are quick to judge. And yet we stayed because we still loved them through all their imperfections. I am ready to give up. If they do not see our worth now, they never will
I could beat myself up for nor knowing these information long time ago. I had a very short term relationship but it meant so much to me. I made all the mistakes you pointed out when my partner stopped taking my calls or returning my text messages. Because I wanted to know why. This was since the beginning of Nov it was just last Monday that he actually tells me why and told me to moved on. I was still begging from a place of emotional weakness. Until I finally decided to go NC a week now. I am in live with him and want him back. I cried every day. We spent every weekend together since we met going out having lots of laughter and non stop fun A silly business difference of opinion cause him to just walked away without even discussing it. It hurts
Did anyone else really mess up during the break up event? 😔 I was so emotional, crying, I got angry, I said things I don’t mean such as I don’t even want to be here anymore. I feel so ashamed for saying those things but it was such a blindside and I couldn’t control myself at the time. I went straight into NC since then and am on day 45 but now worried I should have apologised sooner for saying those things but jeez I was just in a total state of shock and despair. I hope he understands that too😣 I know I did the right thing by going into NC straight away, but so worried I damaged my chances.
As a man who was a victim of such a girl's behaviour, you only destroy your chances if you don't go back to truly show you are sorry for what you did to him (unless he is a narcissistic). We get hurt way worse than what you can imagine when the girl brings us down and the only way to get healed is to self improve and truly move on from that girl and most men fail to do this and fall for depression.
Yes i messed it all up 😢 he gave me the silent treatment and ghosting and i went so mad.... It took me a few months to calm down. I felt used by him and then dumped. He had a rebound very soon... I went to a coach for help. After two years we met again and had a good talk about it. We are in contact again. He looks after my dog one day a week, he wants that... I didn't ask for it... So he jumped back into my life himself. But he is too scared to be more connected to me. He is avoidant... Push and pull at the same time. I am giving him space now. Oh, and he lives almost next door to me... Two houses between us. That made it so hard all these years.
Your guidance is on point. She has broken up with me twice. The first time, I gave her the break. Pretty much told her. thank for the time we had and ill see ya around. 2 days later she was back. The 2nd time she called it off. I implemented NC. She's been texting with just normal hi, how are you. It was nice to see you today you look great in passing. One month to the day she broke up with me, she's wanting to meet. I'm skeptical but still want her back. I've been told that break ups where a defense mechanism because of commitment issues. She's had some pretty bad relationships and break ups. She's told others that it's not me and that she has f***** up.
I reconnected with my ex after 30 years! We lived together back then and had loving relationship that organically ended can we were young. Over calls we vowed rekindled everything through memories and residual love felt. Imagine then that after a meeting and a couple of lovely days spent together he’s gone again. Not through emotional connection I genuinely feel but perhaps the physical attraction dropping through ageing I guess. I’ve texted but had them ignored. I’m broken but I know that no contact is the only way forward 😢
My ex is a narcissist witch I recently discovered and I am grateful that they are out of my life. I had a wish of them reaching out, but that was my ego talking. Now No Contact all the way! 🙂
I broke up with my narc after 5 years. I was FUTURE FAKED, Gaslighted, etc. I ended up in the Hospital. I found Coach Lee's 2 videos on Narcissists, he opened my eyes. I went into Therapy and read a lot of books. This was over 11 years ago. Coach Lee explained what a narc is in his 2 videos. Good luck to you..♥️
@@jannlewandowski5540 Thank you for your message. It maybe a scar for life but I am dedicated to healing and day by day I feel better. Understanding what was a real cause of relationship failure really helped me to cope. Hope you are fully recovered by now and thriving! ❤️
@@igakoperska9082 it takes TIME to get over them, and I did it. So many years went by. I never saw him again. He probably has many supplies. I wish you well also. ⚘️
After a few months of NC I just contacted my ex yesterday and she replied that she was surprised and assumed I already moved on and appreciate my message reaching out now Im on the stage of getting her back again and taking it one day at a time. I think the timing is crucial after the NC and when is the right time to talk to your ex. I just watched all the videos of coach lee and I hope this works out this time. Thank you coach lee
My Ex Reach out to me last saturday, she say hello and told me that she hope i can find peace, and that she doesnt hate me, that she only have great memories! I replied with the same nothing more and nothing less!
Yes, I think ex is expecting me to reach out. For 3 years I invested in relationship more then him. I was always for him, made him a priority with honest intentions. He decided to breakup out of the blue. I was in shock, calling him 9 times that night and he didn’t answer. My world fall apart. After he told me, he can’t love me (can’t? What a excuse) I went totally in NC. It’s more then 3 months. A month ago I meet younger man, warm and caring. We slowly start spending time together and he’s so lovely. I go step by step. I’m focused on my work and spending great time with my friends and family. I started to travel after many years. I’m learning new things and discovering world. I slowly feel I’m getting stronger. And let my ex sit down with his decision. I will never reach out and fix his mess!
Your insight is becoming more and more clear for me. I don't know what the future holds, but I know I tried with the best methods and goals. (Thanks to you)
My former fiancé is well aware that I will NEVER contact him and attempt to get him back. After proposing and living together for 5 months, he suggested that we “date” and exclusively for the next 2-3 years and live in our own places… That was equivalent to disrespect by going back on his immense wish to be with me through thick and thin.. He said he has lots of fears and financially not in the best place and it stresses him out.
It’s been 6 month’s no contact. I been working on my self. I miss him a little. I realize now we were never meant to be together. I’m moving on. I don’t want him back. It’s not worth it to me anymore.
No contact works well for me. They always come back. It is extremely difficult but it works magnificently. Through experience, I have realized that if you break up during the silent treatment, and then go straight to no contact, within a short period they will be contacting you. This time around it took 7 days with that strategy for her to contact me. No attempt to make up, but I can see she is feeling less attractive already and she is definitely beginning to question the breakup. It's unbelievable how it works and very predictable. Some may take much longer to contact. I would say the average is 60-90 days no contact. Almost guaranteed to show up somewhere, probably knocking on your door with a sad face. Unbelievable stuff.
U are the best coach ever I followed ur teachings and I stayed strong she watch her beg for me to take her back... We are now together again and so happy together thank u so much once again coach Lee 💪💪🙌
Since my ex (10years and 2 kids) broke up with me I have been trying to eat better, drink more water and exercise more; I feel like I'm in good shape physically but mentally it's quite rough!
The great Jacko willinx, i suggest all of us heart broken men go watch him as well. He said after a break up wish them well, turn around and don't look back. If she wants to or needs to she will reach out to you.. eventually. Hard pill to swallow but it's the only road to go down.
Hi from India. Met in sept 22 on tinder. 2 months bliss. Never met physically. I was head over heels. He sd he loved me too. He was egoistic but genuine person as he never backed out from reprimanding when I was at fault. Then after 2 months his attraction fell. Then he sd he doesn't have free time for me as with family. Work etc..then asked for time. I gave a month. Then he sd he cant take it forward but never ever told me the reason for breakup apart from saying I was going crazy in love he only wanted "good time". Stopped taking my calls. Just answered to my txt readily. I stopped pursuing 10 days ago after watching your videos. I love him and want him back. He is lonely n sad I know that.
Did no contact my ex came back twice the third time I told him to leave me alone. I knew a cycle was beginning and I deserve better I was in a better place mentally and physically
Hi Coach, great content as usual! No, my ex does not expect me to reach out. Can you do a video about the thoughts of an ex who reached out just to confirm their stance on the break up?
Looking forward to it coach even thought my ex has not come back I'm not sure if she ever will since it's been more than 3 months of no contact 5 months cuz I harassed her and begged her for 2 months sigh i regret that so much knowing what I know now and what I feel right now but I definitely still miss her and I love her even thought she might never come back I can continue to learn from your videos about relationships and how to have a stronger relationship the next time preventing breakups with as much insurance as I can get for my emotions XD
Coach Lee, you re amazing. The only true and logical one out there. Can I ask you something please, because, I noticed its the only part missing on your channel ? Can you make a video about PHASE TWO of no contact that you mentioned in one of your videos ? About what to do and why not to initiate after they break no contact. Can you make that video and explain a bit more about it? Greetings from Norway !
Kirito, Coach Lee does have videos on these topics. They are all in his collection in You Tube. You'll find them all. He has videos on every aspect of love and dating, marriage, anxiety, narcissism, etc...👍
This will sound weird and outrageous but it's something that happened last weekend. I spoke to a psychic out of mere curiosity. I was really low and seeking answers no matter where they came from. This is what the psychic told me... "Gerardo, I'm seeing someone in the picture. Someone whom you've had a strong connection with. You two became romantically and intimately involved. A strong force brought you two together. Everything was going great until she hit a few bumps on the road. Shortly thereafter it became difficult for her to give you her all. She had to let go of you so she can rid herself of the extra baggage that stresses her and no longer serves her. But she still thinks about you and even dreams about you. She's thinking of ways to rid herself of this weight to focus on you because you two were meant together. You have to be patient and be ready for when she contacts you back because she will". I don't think she told me this because it's what I want to hear. How is that possible if I never mentioned her? I only asked her to give me some kind of reading. I don't even post my problems on any social media. What she told me was definitely on point. Thoughts?
My opinion only. I DO not believe in these people. They have ways of finding things out. My cousin, and 2 of my gfriends went to them. THEY ARE FAKE! MY PERSONAL OPINION ONLY.
@@jannlewandowski5540 I wouldn't know about this one being fake. There's people out there with these types of gifts. Everything she read about me was right on the dot. She nailed everything on the head. I was overwhelmed at how accurate her reading came out.
Been 4 calendar months since the breakup and 3 in a half months since NC. Lol she ain't coming back 🤣 It's all good, I've learned alot and I know that just because was good for me doesn't mean she was right for me in the longterm. Had to accept but it's for the best. She set me free. I honestly hope she's happy and is safe ❤ I will always carry a piece of her with me.
I agree. The thing if she doesn't break down soon after NC and get in touch, if it goes longer than say a few weeks I wouldn't be interested in getting back anyway. I had a woman try to get in touch like a year later, I just blocked her without hesitation. As time apart increases, attraction decreases. At least after the initial break up phase where emotions are high.
met with my ex yesterday for our OBGYN appointment and i followed your advice to a T. we aren’t back together yet but i kept it fun and lighthearted and it seemed to go great! Thanks Coach
How long were you both together? Shes breaks up with after she gets pregnant? Really? I don't know any details but get a paternity test if shes says its yours.
Currently in this situation. My wife told me she wants me but doesn't know how to be a wife to me right now with everything that has happened between us. Said she would figure out a schedule for the children so we can separate. Days later she loses that compassion and expects me to stay at home with children in the home I paid for while she's always gone. I cant fuckin stay here. She's so indecisive which is why my emotions all over the place. She over thinks everything. One minute its she wants next minute she doesn't know what she wants or doesn't want me. I have to get away from here cuz its killin me and she's so selfish right now she doesn't care that I'm hurting, and I cant deal with this just cuz we have children I have to go but not sure how to go about it. Thanks for your videos man you are blessed and favored. Much success to you.
I needed this video today (11/1/22). I’ve become a girly man / beta male. Twice in two weeks she has sent me ugly texts about physical things. I wanted to write back and defend myself. I wanted to say “sorry”, I’ll jump through hoops for you. Nope. I said nothing. Day 39.5. Tired of being a girly/man. I don’t care if it lasts 300 days. I’m tired.
Thanx couch Lee for this video. It helps me a lot. I wentvout with an awesome girl which just felt right from the beginning. She introduced me to her friends and twice to her family. I got along very well with them all especially with her daughter, 12 , and son 16. He adores me , Im his teacher as well. I think ,as always overdone it, Too many whatsups, too much continious attention. So I think I "choked" the attention. On breakup she told me that she is crazy about me but not in love. I obviously tried so talk to her, begging that we talk about it and sort it out, no answer from her. She will answer on anything else. So now I am at the 21 days no contact but have seen her at sport just before it. I did keep my cool and ttalked to her a bit and then cheering her son. She also just before that she dis whatsup me that she will bring plates to a braai, which I just thanked her. Her son's birthday is soon. Do you think I can give him a present? I also would like him to join my son and myself later the month for go cart racing. Is it a good idea? She keeps on looking at my whatup status where Ive been etc. So surely she is still interested in a way?
Since I went into nc, he always reached out every 4/5 days. At first it was to take his stuff back, then it was to say hello, then to talk about us, then to see if we can save the 7 years relationship, BUT he said is not ready to commit 100% yet. I told him that I don’t want friendship or halfways (one of our problems was that he was never 100% sure about us),so I asked him not to reach out again since I don’t deserve his doubts anymore. I think that once they come back it’s okay to take it slowly, but don’t ignore your needs in order to have them back. If they don’t want to do the work, let them have the break up again
Coach Lee, how should we go about our ex CONSTANTLY texting us? I'm doing no contact again (I caved in and broke it too early a few days ago, huge regret) but as per your advice, I know I shouldn't ignore them. However, I also don't want my constant replies to serve them as consolation and make the break up easy for them so they never feel the consequences. They reach out almost daily and it's just casual. I don't know how to proceed. Thank you for the magnificent work you do!
Thank you Coach Lee. My ex and I broke up at the end of May, but lived together until October 1'st because neither of us could afford to move out. It was rough and absolute hell, and I did everything wrong for the first 2 months or so until I finally found your videos and have been watching them every day since, multiple videos a day. Thank you so much for all your help. She's been moved out for 3 weeks now, and I miss her and my step-daughter a lot, we were together for 6 years. But, she still texts, and I maintain no-contact unless she initiates it, and I only match the level of energy she puts forward. She went from not even looking at me when we would talk while we living together broken up, to now since no-contact and she moved out, she looks me in the eye when we talk and she smiles. She kisses me goodbye now and gives me hugs like we were still a family. I'm doing my best to focus on myself and to make myself better for myself, but I do notice a big change in her through this so far. I look forward to your next video, and all the rest to come. Guys, listen to Coach Lee, and pass the word on to your friends to listen and learn from him, it'll give them a good set of skills to succeed with relationships by bettering the self!
Wishing you the best of luck. I hope she comes back and stays with you forever. I just don't know how these people do this. Leaving after 6 years together and building a family together? Give me a break! Good luck 🍀
Your story doesn't make any sense. You're broken up and shes moves out. You're in no contact. How are you both still seeing each other face to face? Is this consistent or a one time thing? Theres more to -no contact- than not being the one to make contact. It requires absence and silence for a length of time. Why did you both break up? What caused it? That can determine if you're wasting your time. In any case, she seems to be in a better mood without you. Where did she move to? By her self. With friends or family or another man? I'm just curious.
I wouldn't want to make my ex change their mind about me. I helped him, got food, helped towards the cost of bills, stayed with him, gave him all my time, cleaned up and washed and in return I got nothing back, no thanks, no time alone together and always on the go. Its best to let them meet someone else and realise the person who cares for them has gone and no contact means the person who has gone will think more negatively about them.
Oh yeah, they're gonna think that I'm gonna break NC. I mean, my body screams at me to, but I'm not gonna. I'm not going to beg anymore. I am beautiful, amazing, loved, and working on myself always. I can fucking do this, and I am AWESOME! 😁✨
A friend recommended me to your channel yesterday and I am happy they did! I am 20 or so videos in, so very new. If there isn't one already, can you do a video on the person leaving for someone else? If there is one similar, may someone share the link? We didn't have that "boyfriend/girlfriend" title, but I thought we were close... in the beginning at least. These videos are helping me to treat it as a breakup and hopefully heal soon. But I'm wondering if him ending with me to instantly go to someone else has any difference in whether he could come back via the NC rule etc. In this case, would purchasing the emergency breakup kit be beneficial with knowing that he's already with someone else? And I'm 99.9% sure he was already talking to her while I thought we were working towards a future together. 😐💔
What the right way and the right time then?? I get what you’re saying to a degree…but for me now it’s gotten to the point, especially me as the man, have to be a man and step up and make it clear I know what I want and I’m going to do whatever it takes to get her back. I’ve done NC for 2 months plus. I’ve never begged. I’ve worked on myself a lot. But just sitting here at this point doing nothing now seems weak. I did everything in your course too. Made some mistakes in the very beginning but nothing major. But now 6 months later she reaches out still testing the waters and then ghosts. I do nothing. Seems weak at this point just waiting. And now she’s with someone else. Has been for months now too. Clearly a rebound but still. Feel I should have stepped up by now.
Coach lee can you make a video on if you broke no contact, weather it was 4 days after the break up or something a little longer like 20 days after the break up? Your videos are really reassuring and I feel stupid because I broke no contact. Are my chances completely gone? or have they just lowered and by how much? I know it all depends and isnt black and white but it just seems so hopeless even though I know there is still a chance. I've seen a lot of other coaches videos on this but yours always seem like the best.
