How To Connect With People If You Have Anxiety 

Time of the video when that's said?

Same

Librimix 2:30 ish

Relatable

oof that hits hard

Yes you do, remember the Mandalore war just after meeting Qui Gon

@@griever2017 If you are referring to Satine, I am afraid our relationship was greatly exaggerated. To be clear, I was never in love with the Duchess. Love takes time and I only knew her for a bit on Mandalore before I left. Our lives moved in different directions after that. We were friends by that point nothing more.

Anyone else read it in Obi-Wans voice😂😂

You seem very attached to the high ground though

@@aadityamurali18 👏🏽😂

this hit me hard

Yo rogers was bullied contantly for his height wtf

@@Sally-uu3yt I’m going off the video, I don’t watch Marvel movies.

@@Sally-uu3yt Yes but he also had bucky to be in his corner. Bucky was a good fighter and a supporting friend and basically a brother to steve. Not everyone has that.

ouch.

I’m anxious.

I don't even know why I'm avoidant but I am... I would say my childhood wasn't missing parents and they were emotionally there but WTH

I’m a mix of all of them and also a little crazy

Nah I used to be an anxious but am now much more secure. I'm happily married and watching this while folding laundry 🤣

anxious!

can you blame them? its corase its iritating and it get everywhere.

@@hexazalea1793 ya

MinnesotaWeLit not soft like your skin ✋🏼

I recommend moving to the high ground

As someone with an anxious attachment, can confirm. Sand sucks

I experienced the same thing while watching this video. Here I was thinking I had a great sense of humor! Turns out, I'm just avoidant.

fearful

chandler

Facts🤣🤣🤣

Hahaha you thought wrong!!

I freaking love theatre and It’s my dream but for so many deep fears inside me don’t gives me possibilty to open up , and it’s not only in the large audience but with every single relationship with person

@@courtneymalkin1225 you need to.. You need to just take that first step... I know you can. For any embarrassment that might occur, you'll be ten times prouder of yourself. Things are always going to be challenging, but at least then you'll have gained confidence as your ally. You CAN do it.

@@solaire7046 Thank you so much 💜🔆

​@@solaire7046 "Things are always going to be challenging." In other words, you will fundamentally never change your attachment style. Just become better at compensating. We are who we are, my friend, and at some point, it's better to own it and play to the strengths of the avoidant - stability in crisis - than to beg for the acceptance from secure types or vow to become better. There are strengths and weaknesses to every attachment type; honestly, that's the main reason I do not agree with the majority of these personality type assessments on youtube. They all insist that if you're not secure, you need to become secure. But I don't think people should try to change in that sense, I think they should learn what type they are and work within the boundaries of that type to become more balanced. If someone else cannot accept you for who you are, it is not worthwhile to make long-term commitments to them in the first place, because no matter how good things may seem, you will always be living an illusion, and one where you constantly accept the short end of the stick to maintain the status quo of another. To change on an essential level how you connect with others is just not realistic. I believe it is actually impossible, or at the least, supremely unhealthy, because these attachment styles are deeply ingrained by upbringing and cannot be revoked without the annihilation of motivation and all self identity. In my opinion, you are setting yourself up for martyrdom with that kind of thinking, which as I'm sure you're aware is a dangerous predisposition of our type. Throwing yourself headlong into the world of the secure, desperately desiring acknowledgment, is not a sure path to growth. Furthermore, and on a more personal note, I do not think you should be so quick to apologize for your essential nature. There are benefits to be had from regulating carefully one's emotions, after all, and this is a truth other types ignore at their own peril. After all, Stoicism is what keeps the world from collapsing in times of crisis. But, like a warrior in times of peace, avoidants in neurotypical settings must bide their time and energy to await tasks worthy of their ability and benefiting of the ones they love. After all, the secure is already secure, the neurotypical is already typical. Let them be. And let's all just take a moment to remember who beat Thanos. Because I think we all know it wasn't Captain America. It was Tony Stark. Much like that fictional hero, whose distance afforded him time and the perspective necessary to overcome a cosmic threat, real life avoidants, with their similar predispositions to distant, calculating observance and sacrificial exertion develop paradoxically but inevitably a deep affinity for the working of emotion and the power to master and guide empathy, in themselves and in others. Above and beyond, by far, the perspective of a secure, indeed, like channeling the Infinity Stones themselves. For, as children born into bliss, the secure type lacks necessary experience to empathize with those survivors who have battled their way up from the dark depths of neglect. Rather than viewing secure types as the standard of transformation, I view them as children in need of protection and guidance. In other words, secure types are who I fight for, but not who I want to be. It is complicated, and avoidants must learn as much as they teach, much as adults must always be humbled by their children. Because the world needs visionaries to secure peace and to create new order, an order in which all types can thrive and grow. And I believe this is a responsibility, more than any other, that falls to the lot of the avoidant. Nevertheless, even as we monitor emotion and keep it under control, without emotion entirely, we cannot build a firm foundation of resolve to do what must be done. One of my favorite quotes from entertainment comes from Kentaro Miura's Berserk: "The power to be with someone and the power to protect them is not always the same thing." I think the primary difference between avoidance and secure types lies in this statement. Secure types would rather be with the ones they love, to provide for them, to make memories with them, to experience life with them. They will fight to defend their circle, of course, but because of their limited perspective, they sometimes lack the necessary detachment to make sacrifices or to see the bigger picture. Avoidants, by contrast, would rather protect the ones they love, even if that means an inability to be with them. Indeed, in many cases, this is precisely the lesson they had modeled to them by their own parents, who sacrificed their time to have and raise them, even if that ultimately meant they were not able to directly invest in them. Why should that sacrifice be frowned on? Should it not be instead passed forward to the next generation? Avoidants can be vigilant watchers, willing to do what needs to be done to see those they love protected, and I think that is a wonderful thing.

@@dontforget3113 too long my guy. I'm sure you have a wealth of knowledge on the subject but ppl aren't gonna read that. Thanks for sharing tho

because fearful attachment is a mix of anxious and avoidant, a person can definitely be on a scale either leaning more towards anxious or leaning more towards avoidant

Same

It's like a voice in your head that says: You should know better by now. Don't trust anyone too much ever

I cried too.

Yep. I cried at “It’s not your fault”. I did the same when the professional help I sought said the same thing, I’m 100% a Fearful type due to childhood trauma.

xD

Is there an option for all of the above

Majority Secure but with occasional Avoidance. Good video on the topics discussed. Ive adopted a life of self reliance and assigning affirmations to conducting my life style in ways that I choose to excell. Continuosly learning, improvement, accepting loss/failure as normal fair to an eventual success, patience, confidence. Took some time to understand but I understand its a continuos development to becoming fulfilled.

lol you COMPLETELY made my morning with this comment....:-D

Cody McGrew I'm anxious, and fearful

And the Cap’n’s shield...

It's securely strapped to his wrist LOL

Yeah that's actually really fucking good symbolism. Maybe I haven't been giving these marvel movies enough credit

SUPER FISHER LMAO

@@saintsfps5348 for real. I always try to explain to people the actual depth of these characters and their stories and interactions if you look past the Disney campiness. Plus, I think a lot of people skipped around on the movies so they never got the FULL picture that comes when you've actually seen them all and in the order of release. I never cared much about comics but I genuinely want to start reading marvel comics becuase I fell so much in love with all the characters.

So true

I've been feeling that with this new girl I met, but I also got fears that that her interest in me is waning. Every time I suspect it she somehow turns it around, I wish this didn't feel like such an emotional rollercoaster.

​@@jamesklark6562 what about now ? Was the girl sincère ?

Awesome how

That’s incredible man. It might mean nothing but a stranger on the Internet is looking at what you just said and hope for the same to happen to them lol.

how tho

For me, it was Jordan Peterson.

That's the case for me also, it helped forming clear goals of what i want to achieve in my life and pursuing those goals, i used to rely on other people to make me happy but now i know that i am the one who should make myself happy and when you are fully content with yourself and all of the outcomes with a relationship then you can have a healthy relationship you just need to find the right person and it will all workout

Namely Toxic people.

100% agree A lot of people are blaming their past for their present situation

Deep shit right there

I never quite realized this a couple of years back, but it's quite true. The friends I've met who's appeared the most destructive and toxic to other people (despite being very nice to me as I've been nice to them), seem to do so when things don't go as they expect it, that they don't have control or get what they want. They get frustrated at things, drink a lot, has depression and gets on the bad side of people, often the topic for behind-the-back gossip. I'm glad I feel I learned early on to never live that way, I came to accept that a lot of attachments I had I couldn't control nor should I. I always preferred being adaptable to rigid and stubborn, as the saying goes "flow like water" and in a way I can welcome change than fear losing the past. There's always bad and good moments, both will come and pass, however small or big they may be, and there's no point in getting stuck chasing happiness nor escaping sadness, both will come and pass, it's best to be content with how things goes and take it from there. Ofcourse you could easily take my words out of context, to see the extreme and bad side in those words, I'm not perfect nor a saint, but I've never had many internal struggles or torments with myself nor felt I've had the same with people around me, which in turn makes me feel better too. I feel there's a merit to that. Being adaptable and bendable doesn't mean you have to be a push over or "wimp", nor that relishing in change means you need to ruin good relationships or get tired of them, as well as it doesn't mean you have to stop striving for happiness or dealing out happinnes. But that's one of the big lessons in life, imo, to find balance within yourself and those around you, take things in moderation and as they come, instead of leaning too much to any extreme or ideal life you think you should have.

Correct.

This is outrageous. It's unfair.

😂😂

Hi there, i relate to you alot

Fuck Sand.

OMFG XD

It’s not your fault

It's not your fault -This is gonna turn into a zombie apocalypse at this point-

Sounds like my last relationship. I'm slightly anxious but it gets worse with time apart, and she was super avoidant. ...I'm doing myself right at least. I have good hobbies and usually express plenty of individuality.

I’m in this right now.

By the descriptions in the video, I'm avoidant to the core. The only relationship I ever really had was with an insanely anxious person. She wound up being incredibly abusive to me to try to keep me around, and I put up with it for much longer than I should have - and that relationship lasted all of 10 weeks, give or take a day. It all started because she approached me, I tried to give her a soft no, and then she came back later putting on this emotional crisis that nothing was going well in her life and she was implicitly going to seriously harm herself if just one thing (me) didn't work out. I caved and gave it a try for HER sake, but after about a week or so the novelty of being in my first actual relationship evaporated and I was backed up into a corner by this psycho who would threaten to hurt herself every other day when she didn't have her way and even in some instances came after me physically. The lack of emotional investment on my part is probably the only reason the relationship didn't end in a nuclear detonation when I finally managed to call the breakup. At that point I was so uninvested in the relationship I had become by and large indifferent to whether she actually followed through on her constant threats. It was basically a week of her throwing a fit and me more or less saying "I don't care, go away." The optics were horrible with her acting completely devastated while I just tried to resume my own life without any drama. I lost a lot of friends, but I immediately stopped caring about anyone who sided with her as well. I've lost the taste for even trying to enter relationships after that. I was clearly not cut out for intimacy even taking the abuse out of the picture. I plan to cruise through the bachelor life for the rest of my days. Not that I have a problem with that, I'm just saying I've found priorities in life other than the biological imperative.

@@theworldofnexttuesday2802 It looks like she damaged you in the process, but maybe it is better than getting into a relationship and getting divorced with a good chance.

@@theworldofnexttuesday2802 Damn, I can't imagine what that relationship put you through. I think you went about it the best way, though. Setting your priorities straight and leaving that hellhole. Do what you want, work on yourself, and you'll come out confident as hell. Give it time.

@HalaL true...

haha

Fighting to save the world from the greatest enemy of all: Sand

Godly comment man, Genuinely made me laugh.

Me:Yes

He also said 2%, so about 1 in 50.

Welcome to the party pal!

Hellooo my fellow fearful people!

Yea, I think that's why I can't form romantic relationships, and why I never have

@JT sounds like you don't know much of what any of them are it's hard to follow poorly punctuated and not very accurate especially if you go by the book

I feel that. I'm probably a mix of 2 and 3 due to pretty much experiencing abandonment throughout my life from father, friends, and past loves so I'm constantly feeling like either they don't truly feel that way about me or like "so when are they gonna inevitably leave me?"

If you're mix of 1 and 2, you're effectively a #3...

@@rey_nemaattori good point

I can hardly look my dad in the eye. He's never been emotionally there for me or my family

I love you 😳

@@MsElinorh I love u too

ive been emotionally aviodant with everyone just so I don't have to say that or express any emotion at all

@@generaldream6206 👁️💋👁️ I love you

Careful about the expression though, just in case you end up looking confrontational...🤣🤣🤣

bandwagon haters would have you believe otherwise but almost everything in the prequels that people hate on was intentional and has a logic consistent with all the characters and lore.

@@Ziggerath I will preach Phantom Menace Binks as the best plot twist we never got until I die.

Honest trailers

Prequels werent that bad, only the first one.

There had to be a reason he turned into Darth Vader.

Me: *N O P E*

I just said : n o 👎

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i was cringing when he said that

@@dorian_tihi5869 doooooon't

Omg this!!!! Like securely attached types suffer because of the insecurely attached ones. This happens in friendships all the time too.

True, which is why people should try to be more knowledgeable of these things for their own well-being

pretty sure you're right. Working 2 jobs previously to support my driving to see my ex every weekend. So when I was working I wasn't talking as much because ya know, tired. And even tho this was explained a few times she still had the anxious thing going strong. Eventually tells me she is feeling single even tho we are together, so I told her she was then. I was busy at work and cared more for the job (that laid me off not long after) than I did for fixing the relationship. thats the TLDR version lol.

Thats not a pitfall for the secure type, that is a pitfall of the other 3. In life for the most part, how you feel is your responsibility. I fit into the secure type, with a dash of avoidant. If the woman Im with feels uneasy because Im okay when she isnt around(which has happened), then that is HER problem that she has to deal with. Its like if a secure person has to "act" insecure when the other isnt around just to make the other feel better. Thats just being disingenuous to myself. If you are jumping to conclusions, then that is YOUR problem.

So trueeee

What are the first 100 rules

@@samualcalnan4774 101 reference to the term "beginner or introductory"

@@SednovaNova I know I'm just jokin

It's not unfixable if you said that before

It is ok to say that they complete you, or that they make your life more fulfilled in such a way that they understand they are cherished.But forcing the other party into a position of being the sole source of your happiness is deadly.

and how well all these characters are written.

uh huh

@@dwzenix7954 no, but he was extremely well written in The Clone Wars

robert is a good actor, but he isnt a real skilled actor, tony stark and robert downey jr share the same personality, so thats why robert can act as good as he does when he portrays him, if you see other movies where is he you will notice that his characters share a LOT of characteristics between them, because he always puts some of his real personality on them. and im not saying its bad, but theres actors that can really forget who they are and give their hundred percent to become their character, and thats what a really skilled actor is

Ivan Cuartas perhaps he isn't pretending

Haha just literally did the same thing Oh fuck . Conclusion according to video: seek professional help 😐

Joe Jarvis SAME

Joe Jarvis gahhh ik same now I’m scared

Well... Shit.

Same. And it’s terrifying.

don't worry. it's not breaking down. it's s truly excellent film. enjoy

@@nabinnyc they meant analyze its/ study it

YES IT IS A GREAT MOVIE DO IT

It’s been 8 months, how was it?

@@pearl.8551 lmao it's on my to do list

Absolutely :v it seems art it's not that worthless after all :D

Doesn't look like they acted though

More like the writters

@@seigfried3682 Both

@@MariahIsolated nah

im avoiding the avoidance gang

Avoidant and anxious

What up fam! Cool, cool. Aight ima head out.

Macho Supremo sup

What? Wym don’t be weird!

EMOTIONAL STABILITY IS HOT

That's great. I think it means you developed right

I want that, but it's hard to find.

a secure man that is

Wtf Im having the same issue, its so weird

Why cant we all just die already..

You need to seek closure. I got over her after 8 years since the beginning of highschool. You need to seek her and really just talk to her one last time. Get it all out of your chest, that’ll set you free.

​@@Realivangarcia I appreciate your advice and I think you are correct. I have been thinking of what to say to her for awhile now. Thank you for suggesting the healthy thing to do. I don't really have anyone to talk about this with.

Your comment reminds me of myself. I'm sorry if this is a bother, but I have to get this off my chest. I met a girl at a family friend's birthday party once. She's one of the few who showed true interest in me back when I was not confident and insecure(still am to an extent, but hey, I've made serious strides). I was a freshman in highschool, was picked on, and if I wasn't being picked on I was being shunned. This girl was likely slightly older than me as she could drive, and I had just started to think about getting my temporary license. Due to me being an avoidant(might have been a fearful type back then), I couldn't look her in the eyes. Her social advances made me withdraw more into my shell. She didn't leave when I got awkward though. Instead she joined me and my sisters and played foosball and ice hockey with us. When I saw she didn't judge me, I settled in a bit and was able to talk to her, still didn't look her in the eyes much, other than to steal a quick glance here and there. We ended up teaming up against my sisters on foosball. Little mannerisms and awkward interactions still cropped up as we played for a few hours...but she still didn't leave. It was quite obvious she had an interest in me. My sisters, and mother, both commented on it and even the pastor at the church made a comment. It didn't last for long though. Fear started to grip me as we continued to play and eventually when it was time to leave I didn't have the courage to say anything to her. I didn't ask for her number. I didn't ask her name. I didn't ask where she was from. Today, I don't even remember what she looks like, what her voice sounds like, or even her hair color. It doesn't matter really. That's not what I was attracted to. Not the shell. It was *her.* Her kindness was, in my experience, a rare thing. I think she was my soulmate, but maybe I'm just being dramatic. This party happened in the state of Ohio, in a small church with a beaten up white painted gym, and it was about 3-5 years ago. If you're out there and happen to see this, I hope you know I regret everything about that day. I'm still looking for you, and hope I find you some day, even if it's just to talk. I've changed alot. I'm sure you have too. I hope you feel the same way about me, that I feel about you. Sorry for the book, but I feel much better now. TLDR: Hey kind girl, I met 3-5 years ago, I miss you alot.

A 22 catch

That’s fearful

I think you mean a catch 22 😂

Hey I think I'm in this picture, I don't like it...

same lmao

describes secure Yeah... that's not me

😂😂☠️☠️🤙🏼🤙🏼for real

Fearful is a mix of the negative parts of the first two, so that makes sense.

Lol me too

Same lmao

i was anxious but i frequented some avoidant people in college and step by step i learned to be in the middle, neither anxious, nor avoidant, i became secure and can now stand between the most awful people in my workplace

@@slash6686 I have an anxious style too, I'm happy to hear about someone's improvement.

It can be good for film as shown by cap. Its harder to pull off, but probably is one of the most interesting character styles when done right also shown by captain america

It’s fine because the drama can just come from the other lover.

that's because your life is more like a yankee comedy in vhs with white background; i'm more like James Cameron before doing Avatar.

That's a very good awareness and solution, you're doing admirably.

same here bro. Fearful to the bone.

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Fearful gang 4 life!

Thanks, I guess I'm fearful (:(:

Thats my girlfriend. She is a fearful attachment type. It is very difficult. I was a secure type, went through the anxious type, working my way back to secure. You never know what emotional feed back you will get, from day,to day. 7 years, wow.

Was anticipating that, with some dread.

/Please don't let this guy be right, Please don't let this guy be right . . ./

What do you mean?

moon child Star Wars reference 🤣

After they're severely burned? Of course!

This literally makes no sense

Also me: "BABY DON'T HURT ME!

@@Some_One_One no more

@@Some_One_One nailed it!

@@Some_One_One I thought it then had to see if someone wrote it. You made me laugh.

Love is that half sister & them pack of dogs. Even if that love ain't there anymore, that was it. If you still have that platonic love with her, glad that you've still got it. As to romantic love, If such a love exists, it's so rare that it's not worth lookin' for; at least, that is for me.

That's the fearful type, both anxious and avoidant. I have a sick feeling that's what I am too :(

@@ivymichelle891 if you want to do something about it, check out Thais Gibbson or Teal Swan on you Tube

I'm the same but I'm it's not bad enough to be considered a fearful type

@@ivymichelle891 I feel like I'm 80% avoidant and like 20% anxious. Does this still fall under fearful or just not a perfect of avoidant?

I'm probably the same. Wait... I should know this from past relationships? -_-

*sigh* yes......yes it does.

They're called "niceguys" or "the crazy ex girlfriend"

@@shannenlibres2365 I feel like the term nice guy gets consistently misused. Anakin was obviously a people pleaser and hugely insecure.

@@hodgindaylon what would you call him then? At least in my opinion r/niceguys are anxious ambivalents all the way

@@shannenlibres2365 it definitely leads to being a nice guy but not everyone is. I think these sort of people always put their partner on a pedestal and can't handle it when they can't fit the ideal they made for them. It's like idealization but to varying degrees. I used to approach relationships like this but it's really bad once you start feeling insecure because you think they are perfect. It's not fair to your partner or to yourself.

@@shannenlibres2365 I certainly wouldn't call Ani a "nice guy"

Naru that has Mr Sakamoto the talking cat (your avatar) down to a tee! 🙂🐱

me: *avoids eye contact*

clash of clans?

😂😂😂😂😂

It impacts that and even MORE ! Childhood is so extremely important, that's why good parenthood is very important.

Any idea how I can find out or read how my childhood could have impacted the way I love? I understand it has an impact but what impact? And based on what?

Who Da Fook Is That Guy Start with just getting a general idea of classical conditioning, then you can go on to Attachment Theory and Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development, both are well-established theories in the field of Psychology.

Yes I too watched the video

@@LucidNyte Thank you very much I appreciate it. I will look into those.

toxic mindset, work on fixing that make it a more optimistic one

@@ap3xls329 im tony stark without dang it tony stark your evrthing is great

Me too

@Reinert Zerker Tony Stark is also a fiction genius i.e he doesn't exist.

Then you're Tony Stank 😉. Excelsior

😂😭

I am the Senate

@@TheKvltSith No you WERE the senate

Literally

@@sighofrelief3466 HE IS THE SENATE AND HE ALWAYS WILL BE THE SENATE!!!

Why did I just see this at exactly 11pm

LOL

Hahah right bro 10pm for me.... Now I can't sleep so more self-deprecating videos it is lol

Woah, I just read your comment, looked down at the time, and it's 11pm on the dot, lol.

Same. It just feels awkward

your sun is probably in virgo, or your venus. yes you probably dont know what the hell im saying but google "venus in virgo"

ikr but im Capricorn...

Same i never even told anyone that i loved them, even my own mom

Same

Quite sure Robert Downey Jr. put a lot of himself in that character. Remember he has been an alcoholic for a long time

Possibly... there might be next level casting directors that totally get these concepts and don't just try to hire a pretty face/voice. This might also explain why actors get type casted into certain roles. Sometimes it's a magical alligment and sometimes its destiny :)

Same.

s a m e

Did you also identify with the Fearful type, because I sure did. And yeah, I still got the waterworks going.

probably because you're too perfeccionist. I felt idientified with that scene but because I'm perfeccionist.

Because... I T ' S N O T Y O U R F A U L T ! ! !

Wooh! %2. You're special.

Pardon me, thanks mom 💜

Same lol

...same

@@Katya_Lastochka well, not really, if the "secure" type (AKA: "normal" people) is even more rare. Although if that's the case, then they're not really "normal" are they? That means the rest of us (the fucked up ones) are the norm! OMG I'm normal! Finally!

l o l

Same here

My condolences. I cannot imagine the pain you must have went through. My brothers are everything for me. Without them I am nothing.

@@walkingalive1093 lol. You really had to remind the guy whose brother died, how important the brotherly bond is? :D

Sorry your Bub died. Cry privately. Like a man.

Sorry for your loss @Sloop. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.

Orestis Palampougioukis You just perfectly conveyed an avoidant trait, congrats

Same. I'm generally acting really similar to Tony.

@@ballislife9924 We like to think we're like Tony Stark. In reality we probably come across as more Squidward Tentacles.

@@DrDeathpwnsu And truer word will never be spoken

@@DrDeathpwnsu That's probably true

@@DrDeathpwnsu i'm only like tony in all of the fucked up aspects

Now your talking, life is the sauce of all those chemical elements. Living it doesn't always feels great. But when we need to grow out of ourselves, life happens ;) Enjoy while you still can !

oh hell yes.

I'm the anxious type...all my best friends are avoidant. They left me and it broke me

Hell yeah damn it

I think that I am avoidant and all my girlfriends were anxious hahaha But I can say anxious are nightmares for everyone, especially themselves. Hot mess.

I had to go through a similar discovery to get to where I am now. I’m glad I’m here, and I know the journey isn’t over yet.

I definitely feel you. I am the same way. I have a lot of anxious tendencies and that disrupted my first relationship. Still working on the whole independent thing. I'm young and I'll get there with time. Best wishes to everyone who reads this and I believe you all can overcome anything you set your mind to

You must also hate sand right?

Awwwe, true. You've got to deliberately choose to change. 😍👌

@@liamg9334 yeah... I don't like sand... it's coarse and it's rough and it's irritating and it gets everywhere

Have you watched "In Treatment"?

It's not your fault!

Watch Trash Humpers. Same director as Good Will Hunting

Its a great movie

Oh my goodness. I watched the movie after being fired. I was back home, unemployed and depressed. First time I cried while watching a movie. It definitely struck a nerve.

craved and feared attachment....sound like me....it may not mean much from a stranger but i feel sorry for the pain it caused you bieng with such a person and i hope your next relationship is less confussing

Right? Like, which one are we? XD

What my feel like for every videos from him

I think the labels are incredibly fluid. I felt like I had traits of 3 of the 4

I know, all those people joking about being an avoidant. I have some of the avoidant traits and I’ve known this for a while. I’m trying my best to change it, not making it my personality.

This 100%. I don't find it funny at all. I'm a fearful type and would really like to have a proper relationship. Even though I am working on changing it, I'd kill to naturally be a secure type. They're so lucky!

And REALLY looks down on anxious types.

It usually means that the majority that makes fun of secured people tends to be avoidants to their own selves.

@@aquilliusranger2137 they particularly despise anxious attachment types. It’s because they are projecting their own fear of abandonment.

"Holy carp that was a powerful preformance" is basically how all of good will hunting plays out.

I found that part of the video uncomfortable to watch

Take some time to watch it. Good Will Hunting is a phenomenal movie. 👍🏻

@@r.a.fraley1616 lol. Yup you definitely avoidant.

The movie is very powerful!

Avoidant and secure seem to be the most healthy love languages, secure more so. So if even if you land in between those two, you seem to be doing well for yourself

@@cantthinkofaname5046 :)))

You're into zodiac astrology stuff aren't you lol

you can't be the secure type and the insecure types at the same time

@@daisies4dae but I believe you can shift from one to another withing longtime period. I've been in pretty unhealthy relationship with some girl, started as secure, within next 3 years shifted first towards anxious/fearful, had a heartbreaking ending to this relationship (almost like in a "last Christmas I gave you my heart" lol) then for 2 years became kinda avoidant, if I can say that, cuz I've been afraid of any romantic action so to say, and here I am, slowly crawling back to my older self (hopefully), yet, lesson is learned.

Daisy Katz but I am

@@daisies4dae logic and emotions don't always line up and that's where the issue is.

Hey :) what film is that?

@@CLEFT3000 Guardians of the Galaxy

Only because her dad programmed her to need it from him by denying it..

WHACKA!

How but she died if she did she would of accepted

Watching Guardians 2 right now! That line was their turning point . Go Nebula!

That line made me start to love Nebula

i cried like a baby

that means your anxious (pre-occupied attachment), you want and enjoy closeness but worry that your partner will discover flaws and faults.

Sara Benavides or they’re avoidant, avoidant act in similar ways. I’m anxious and I have no problem saying I love someone because I believe it makes the connection stronger and lessens the chance of it dissipating

Sara Benavides my girlfriend is avoidant and had a super hard time saying she loved me despite knowing she loves me lots

I only told people that I loved them a handful of times. Most of them was my host mom when I lived abroad because she unlike my parents was emotionally present, once was during this time abroad when I texted my parents that I love them (they did not reply so I never did it again) and once was to my friend group when I was extremely drunk. So what does that say about me haha...

Nice

Anakin’s development as a character is one of the few things the prequels did right.

I guess we just didn’t want to root or feel sorry for a guy like that. Or we thought the great Darth Vader was too macho badass for such an arc

From the point of view of a drama it's actually great

Luz Puebla Lara Force awakens and the last Jedi were so bad now people think the prequels were good

@@loor4753 I don't really care about the Star Wars saga... I just like the actor and I saw some of his movies

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Don't worry. More videos are coming. Your anxiety can fade away. Have you considered making videos? You can release them privately for your eyes only.

#metoo

Btw is your name Carlos ?

Can you spot the Avoidants in these reply comments?