@@flt31 I'm personally learning to let go of the need to pass judgement on others. I want to make correct observations but theres really no need to pass judgement. It doesn't really benefit anyone. it's really hard not to tho because the ego wants to feel morally superior to everyone in every way. You should check out this audio book here on yt called "33 steps to the infinite self" by Stuart Wilde it's really helping me with this concept of observation vs judgement. Thanks for the reply friend❤🤗
@@priscillaalexander498 Yes, that is largely true, Priscilla. If the egocentric one is really truthful at getting rid of ego, he will judge truthfully. There are universal truths on everything; it's just that people twist a universal truth to suit their own lusts and thus feel self-righteous in continuing in those untruths. Love you, too.
It's hard for me to hear about how to attract someone from a person who obviously never had to work at attracting someone. Seriously though,what would a beautiful woman know about being alone?
Towallomee sgel Not from any planet. From a federation which runs throughout all the existing galaxies. At any rate, I'm well experience in the realities of Earth and human behaviour - I know many gorgeous woman this entire planet over, and they are very lonely. Sarah Dunbar The act of sex cannot be separated from spiritual experience anymore than breathing can.
This is gold. When the student is ready.. the teacher appears and I am so grateful. To show up for myself and others is like winning the lottery over and over again 💛✨
I. suffered from P.T.S.D. for 17 yrs.and anxiety and my life has changed in just the last month since watching your videos! You are a beautiful woman, soul and teacher. Infinite blessings~
My ex spent a good part of his time withdrawn from me, especially after a long week at the office. He needed space to recharge right when I needed to connect. He had no idea he was emotionally shut down with his walls up. I immediately felt this as withdrawal and would ask him if everything was alright and he would appear puzzled and say yes, I’m just tired and maybe he was but there was zero connection. I felt so lonely. I felt more lonely with him than when I was alone. After listening to this I understand why. He said I was over reacting and imagining things, even when all I did was ask him if everything was alright. He always denied that he was anything but tired, which I now understand was burned out to the point connection was painful, I suspect from trying to be an extrovert all week. Thank you Teal.
I’ve seen teal swan pop up on my feed a few times and categorized in with all of the other mystic beliefs that seem like they have no footing in reality. This video is remarkable. Not only can I tell she’s studied these things very in depth but she also has a keen understanding of human nature. This video should be seen by every human on the planet. What kind of world would we live in if everybody practiced this video as a mantra towards life everyday? I personally think the world would be so much more connected and passionate. Thank you teal swan!
"Be Honest, Genuine, and Authentic! Transparency rules the day when it comes to connection." Outstanding advice and thank you so so much for helping so many people to have honest relationships with other people.
Dear Teal, I've been watching a lot of your videos and so grateful for your sharing your wisdom us all. Personally I feel connection is way more important and valuable than communication. I've learned that communication is superficial unless it accompanies connection. We all have the ability to connect in a meaningful way to each other. This is one of the critical life skills that we should all have and be taught!
I love you for taking your suffering and learning from it. I love you for taking that wisdom and sharing it to save others from suffering needlessly. I love you for that.
This is great. I"m high functioning asd and having been through kundalini, lost all my programming about how to function socially. You have a very clear and enjoyable teaching style, thank you.
i love how you look intently into the camera and each word that dances across your tongue is full of life force. it shows that you put every part of you into reaching every part of us, the viewer. i love you for that.
I love that you commented in the style of Teal Swan's exercise, because it shows that not only did you listen very well, but you also put the advice into practice. Also there's a loving vibe coming from what you said. I love you for that.
The tone of her voice touches me. The truth in her words resonates with me. I've only watched 3 videos - subscribed already. Keep up this awesome work.
I am healing from the fear of intimacy after a painful breakup and friendship betrayal...this video and others have helped me tremendously and words cannot describe my gratefulness. I still somewhat fear being vulnerable, but the video and comments give me hope. i love you all, and you also Teal. Thank you
What a BRILLIANT technique!!! Focus on a person you don't know in the street and give them positive energy by saying "I love you for...". Genius! What better way than to spread love without them being aware of it. P.S. Thank you for allowing us to keep our clothes on for the friends soul connection #laughinghystericallyhere
Teal, I just wanted to thank you so much everything you share with the world. I'm a psychotherapist, and I use so many of your insights and exercises with my clients. It has been extremely helpful! You also explain shadow work, boundaries, and shame so well... And the way you describe the deepest childhood traumatic wound did make my skin crawl, lol. The vibrational universe is such a useful spiritual map. Again, THANK YOU for shining your light.
My big problem with connecting with people is that while I can make the effort, I often feel ignored or unwanted by other people, like they have no actual interest in me and brush me aside. And because of that, it likes to turn into resentment on my end.
Thanks for sharing? Some thing you can work with is make an effort to connect with yourself so that I don’t wanted or ignored or have you done that to yourself feel the impact so the wall could come down. Good luck.
ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-aXD7yWr_Cmw.html Some of this man's videos about how to be with other people, and insights are fab. I don't agree with everything he says (the man in the white shirt) but a lot of what he says makes sense. I hope you find good friends; you deserve at least one good friend 💖
Same. I do have a genuine interest in people, but it isn't shared. People don't listen to me with their heart, like I do. They don't take me in. I don't know how to change that.
Great video Teal, connections is something I really struggle with. I want to connect with people, all people in my life, however it is extremly difficult because of a huge amount of resistance. In my experience people build walls around themselves to kept people out so that others are not able to hurt them. Once you open yourself to connecting with people you are open to being hurt by them. This is a very difficult thing to overcome.
Richard T agree, how can we open ourselves when we live in a world of constant psychological war? keeping our walls up is important because it protects us from predators. life is a wonder.
Teal, I am astonished that someone seemingly so young, has such deep understandings. Your voice is hypnotic, your gaze captures me, your words resonate with the things I've learned on my own...the more I watch of your videos, the more impressed I am. How do you have the time to learn these things, to make these videos, to develop the strength to reveal your own (apparent) vulnerabilities to complete strangers? I admire you. :) Namaste, hugs and love!
I've felt genuine connection so sparely in my life. Not even with my family. When I let down my guard with them, they hurt me in one way or another. I've almost given up completely on that front. I think I have to go looking for a stranger who is appropiate to share such intimacy with. Maybe I could find someone, maybe not. Better to try
What she's describing is basically meditating together with a person and experiencing merging with one another. It's difficult enough to do this with just yourself, from my understanding it can take decades. It could probably take just as long with two people.
I just came across teal yesterday and already i feel the deep shifts in my core. First I am being more honest with myself. Instead of avoiding my reality & trying to change it before I even try to understand it. I’m choosing to be more curious about myself than to feel guilty for being the way I am.. I watched videos about Carl Jung for years, I have listened to different people speak, different gurus and wisdom speakers, philosophers and other people on RU-vid give advice but none have had the influence Teal has had on me. I’ve watched her videos, I take notes, and I am actually practicing. She’s made it very practical which is something I am finally accepting in myself. I need practical because it’s hard for me to do anything. I love to be entertained by personal growth and development and just watching was enough satisfaction for me to feel as if I’m putting in effort..it’s time to be real lol I’m not getting anywhere my life has been the same no matter how many enlightening videos I watch. I end up ruminating instead of taking action and after coming across Teal I was able to tap into my curiosity rather than self shame and bash…it feels great! :) im excited to continue on this journey every single day. Im excited to getting to know myself and ask questions and look deeper into my own psyche instead of regurgitating the same process I’ve been stuck in/ Im ready for true change and that will only happen when I put in work - and for me that work is being curious of myself and my tendencies. Simply questioning why I feel some way before telling myself to stop. Im starting to validate myself by acknowledging this is what it is, and then asking why and where do these feelings come from. Thank you teal/ thank you community. Im grateful for having come across her and im excited to continue the process 🤟🏽
Intimacy is not just about the other person, it's also about knowing yourself and being able to share that with others. Trying to be intimate with someone that is running away from themself is nearly impossible. Intimacy can also be broken down to 'Into-Me-I-See', for measuring any characteristic about human is how well do they treat themself? One's self-respect determines how much respect they can have for others.
Ohhhhhhh…that IS scary! To fully open myself to another soul?! I’ve been lied to and let down and betrayed so many times in the past that the exercise you describe here frightens me to even consider doing.
It's 2015 and time for me to open myself fully, to take people more seriously that are actually making an effort. There is a part of me where the fear is off the scale, it's hard to trust anyone, because it's humiliating for me. When I used to visit the eye doctors and they shone a light into my pupil, it would cause a physical reaction from my body and I would actually shake. I dreaded going because I knew it would happen every time. Anyway, thanks for the video Teal.
I was thinking maybe i shouldn’t watch this particular video right now simply because i don’t need any distractions. This video i can not apply to myself at the moment. I need to connect with myself.
This video has taught me many things, and one of those being that I have been a great friend who naturally connects with people. Yet, because of my no knowledge permission about and to boundaries I resulted in being used and abused. A garbage can for people to offload, a feast for people to feed their ego, or a punching bag for people to release their aggression (verbally). No more. I know my boundaries now. And, I ask for and respect others boundaries.
i do all the excersises before i see this video with a very important person to me in a phase of my teenage years...i feel so lucky so happy im in tears. how beautiful can be the life and how when youre in love of someone can do things even without know ...connect with all it is.
Woooooooooooowwwwwwwww i was wondering how I could connect with someone as deeply as possible and be appreciated fully for who I was down to my very core and do the same for them and this video is exactly what I was looking for. Thank you thank you thank you!!
I also found many answers, good luck to you experimenting with it. What I learned is that it would be best to find people who are willing to connect first with words and afterwards on a deeper level...let's see what happens :-)
There is something we do in my culture. We smile and do a head nod whenever we see another Puerto Rican. The new generation does not do that. But I use it with people in the street when I see them looking at me. I do not walk with my head in my phone or in the ground.
This easy on the eyes lady, with a mothery voice grabs my full attention. Her words spoken is as if she could read my mind or may have actually experienced and relates to many of my human sicknesses and flaws. We all struggle with things. I'm very greatful, blessed, but still have so much to learn about myself. Changing my Perception, and reinventing how I see myself, helping me also understand. Very interesting, powerful and control you gain in your life.
I am grateful for your deep, loving wisdom you share - an immense gift! In regards to encountering "walls"-"Consciousness dissolves subconscious walls"- my favorite quote in this message Peace-Blessings-Laughter
Wow, I didn't expect this to be SO in-depth. I don't know if there is anybody who would do that with me. No worries though, there's time. Cool video, thank you!
I realized while watching this that I have a wall that has been keeping me separated from people which is a fear of intimacy, because I avoid intimacy with myself, because I do not like myself, because I feel like I have a lot of potential and I'm not doing enough or even anything with it and combined with the fear of uncertainty of which path to take because I see so many in front of me and I don't know which one to take, so I end up avoiding myself and others, but I think a good resolution to that would be to take all the things I'd like to do and see which ones I can do right now from where I am and go down the list until other things can come into the spectrum of "ok what can I do now" and keep expanding on that, I've have a problem connecting to my own pain from things in my life as well and I can say just watching this made me cry sometimes because I was starting to connect to myself more and feel that pain and process it, thank you for helping me Teal
Throughout my life. I have been the one trying to connect, but as you say Teal, those who are not willing/ready can make it much worse. So when I have tried to connect, I have ended up hurting myself further, and ended up completely isolating myself. As I have done now. But recently, I asked the Universe for someone who will unconditionally love and understand me, and very quickly my wish was answered. Perhaps in not the most perfect way, but close enough! Lol I just want you to know Teal I love you so very much, and I STILL want to see you and connect with you. I am not scared. As you said I am not scared of death, just the rejection. Because rejection is like death. But the more I follow your teachings, the more my consciousness opens and recognizes. I experienced a lot of those walls you were mentioning WHILE watching your video. Because I have an intense attraction towards you, towards your soul, towards your energy. It is like a magnet, and my own fears and ego try to give negative meaning to those fears, such as rejection. But the truth is I love you and everything you have done for me and everyone! I admire you so very very greatly. I cried when I saw your trailer that looked like a movie about your life. I even showed it to someone who is not particularly fond of me, and cried in front of them without the fear of rejection. I express my emotions and energy in the way you described, to approach someone fully open, just to be cast away, can be as painful as death. and yes it does end up in isolation which is very painful. I will try my best to continue trying to connect, instead of isolating myself. My desire to connect with YOU has not changed and hopefully we will one day have the chance to perform the connection ritual you described ( doesn't have to be naked) lol but yes, I crave that, my soul craves it, thank you for yet another wonderful guidance and lesson to my soul spirit. You are the universe as so am I, You are in me, and I am in you. whether i feel it or not. Its real, and it is stronger than any ego or wall! LOVE!
Thank you Teal. I resonate very much with this. But I guess I'm still at the stage where I'm not yet ready to connect. I personally feel much more comfortable when I'm alone and don't have to connect with anyone. I don't suffer when I'm separated. But I feel the truth in what you say about connection.
Lots of people these days tend to try and take advantage of openess. If everyone was open like I am (ahem WE ARE), then we would not have this problem. Just remember that when you notice someone is starting to take advantage of you, remember to ask them why they feel the need to do that and then move on, and don't hate or be angry for they know no better. Be forgiving, people.
I haven’t watched Teal Swan in months. Currently, I’m trying to open myself up in a relationship and I’ve been struggling with feeling “connected”. And then I saw this video and hesitated before I clicked. Okay, okay, I’ll take the sign.
Imagine world in witch everybody and I mean literary anybody and everybody could connect to one another at sutch a deep level that would be like haeven on earth. Great video I just started watching you and already I know I will learn lot from you ^^ and I love you for that
This is common sense. I am glad I know all of this without having someone tell me it. Unfortunately, majority of people just want to talk, talk, and talk and no one wants to listen or even care about what you have to say. What's more important is what THEY have to say.
I have no problems connecting with people. The only problem for me is that when i give my full attention to someone, they feel good and then they start talking about their dreams and problems but without asking me any questions... So i feel like a garbage bin and i have no interest in connecting with people most of the time
this is where I get lost too. not a garbage bin but I do an awful lot of listening and reaching out. guess i shouldn't expect people to do the same with me but I find myself exhausted and still unable to connect myself to them and get really nervous too.
This happens so often. I wish I had an answer for it, but unfortunately my answer so far has been limiting my time with the people who behave this way. In some cases, cutting them out completely. Of course, I only do so with fair warning, letting them know I don't feel heard or cared for. Unfortunately, the ones I had to have this sort of conversation with were unwilling or unable to step up their game, so out they went.
Hey everyone, interested in the laws of attraction the best results that i've had was by using the Max Miracle Method (just google it) definately the most incredible website that I've used.
1. Give the person your unconditional attention present 2. Use body language that are open be open to them 3. Be interested in them learn about them 4. Seek out common things OPINIONS . Common things tennis 5. Pay attention 6. Aim for intimacy for who they are see them understand them 7. ASK questions That reveal opinions dreams deep questions 8. Don't try to fix them change they mind only connect treat them importantly 9. Initiate start you start connecting you begin go to people 10. Be honest genuine and authentic people can sense your energy if you are not .. 11. Be open be an open book let them come and be themselves be vulnerable isolation is painful 12. Relate to people validate them feel their feelings walk in their shoes 13. Be thoughtful show them that you care about them remember things things learn about them and memorise them 14. Practice spreading warmth and love to people because they are really sensitive give not to get just give for giving
the very best thing about you Teal, is your ability to humbly admit your struggles and to relate your pain to others for healing and growth. I cannot fathom one to down you, for you are truly helping so many. your words are alive and penetrate understanding to the deepest. keep healing :)
HI Teal :) I love your videos so much . You're so enlightened and beautiful 😇❤️ my name is karla I'm 20 yrs old . I relate to this video so much that I feel compelled to ask for your help . The thing that really use to hold me back from connecting with people is the scars that are on my arm from self harm . That's what I'm ashamed of .. It's especially hard because it's so visible so when I wear long sleeves I feel different . I'm so loving with people and love to talk to people and get to know them . They say that they love my presence and I'm happy that they feel that way . I'm doing a lot better socially .. I use to be very isolated . I recently started to go on medication called Prozac which increases the chemical in my brain called seratonin. It's really helped me . I kind of do my own therapy . I've always read a lot of books so I learn a lot every day. You're also my form of therapy . I've always wanted to get tattoos or something to cover my arm up but recently I've just been wearing short sleeves proudly and staying the same way as if I were wearing long sleeves. Somebody has noticed them and I just said that they're old . How should I really feel about my scars ? I try so hard to maintain my positivity and it gets hard sometimes . I don't like the idea of being judged. It's a fear of mine .. How do I explain something like that . Do I make up an excuse ? Or proudly say that I survived depression for 7 years of being left untreated ? I feel proud but also ashamed so it's difficult for me to know how to really feel about it . I'm going to continue learning from you while simultaneously feeding my soul . 💕💕🙏🏽🙌🏽
+Karlita Flores, Dear Karlita i really want to say you should be proud of your past it is not something you are but something you went through and if you embrace it, it only makes you stronger and more beautiful today and almost everyone has scares and if people judge you then they are really judging themselves because of their own scars within, the only difference is they dont wear their´s on their body,but the people that are connected to themselves will see you for who you are today, a beautiful being that faces her problems but i think you already know this, hope this helps, light and love :)
