How To Overcome The Feeling Of Never Being Good Enough 

JorgeAlberto Herrera Takes alot of practicing

Also, no annoying music, no jump cuts or visual aids--just him being honest and vulnerable. Subscribed.

Gender Equality 1:24

Gender Equality i wish I could go that long without saying "ummm" "like" and "you Know" >.

+EagLe He was trying to say I'm but accidentally said um.

Very wise

That’s amazing!

Thanks Jane's Mum ♥

Wow , thank you

I love this quote! Thanks for sharing!

nikeyathepoet .__ no love is umconditional

Me too, bud. Me too... This was such an amazingly informative and well articulated video. Wishing the best for you in your journey!

@@aviationenthusiast3060 I agree with you in the way that what we call love is extremely conditioned. I love you usually means "I need you"... So yes, no 'human' love is unconditional... But don't you think you can genuinely want the best for someone you really care, no matter what? Like he said in the video... If you doubt you can, imagine you feel loved like never, by all kind if people. Could you feel unconditional love then? I believe, like he said in the video, that we must feel love in order to love unconditionally.

Beautiful

For real. I took it like this - just like you don't need a reason to love someone else, you don't need one to love yourself either.

Thank you!

Thank you!!

That's really sweet if u

thank you so much bro!

You are an amazing person. This is legit super awesome lol

Why you think that?

well it's here for you too now!

@@frankiegunnz8066 He's saying he's very wise now, even though he's so young.

Age has nothing to do with anything, you may know things that he doesn't, he may know things that you don't, life isn't linear 🙃🖤

Ozzy true but doesn't having more experiences make you wore wise? because you learn a lot through your experiences. young people have less experience of life

Happy to share :-)

Thaddeus Black just turned 15. I hope I have good chances in not screwing up. I'm Greek btw so excuse any grammar mistakes

Some things you have to experience yourself

Thaddeus Black good on you for aspiring to make good choices. It's okay if you make mistakes, just own up to it and resolve to make better choices. You're learning and that's good. Best to you!

Thaddeus Black i screwed things up and i found this video. Really describe what ive been feeling about lately. It's a really inspiring video, i feel better

This is special can work with anger although anger is an innate human trait And here comes from fear self-loathing or not getting what you expected. If you can control that you can control yourself as an animal

It’s true .... emotional intelligence is learned

That must mean I've been practicing being a depressed jerk. Lol Not on purpose...

What an amazing channel for sociopaths

This isn’t true whatsoever. Emotions are chemical triggers in your brain and CANNOT be controlled, they can only be suppressed. Bottled up. Which is incredibly unhealthy.

Me too. The moment he said mirror, I couldn't stop.

Emotions are strong but being emotional can slow u down if u are not disiplined And just think with your emotions. Rational thought should lead your actions. After you Cried in the mirror what did you do? Was it actually profound n life changing or did u slip back into ur confort zone after? Dont let emotions dictare ur actions.

How can i love myself i have never ever ever being loved by anyone except my parent, and that is mostly instict

@Jeff Gee how exactly is that ignorant

@Jeff Gee What makes Martins comment any different from what charisma on command is telling people to do lol

Hey man, how are you? I believe you can do this! :)

Next step, consistency. You got this!!

@@venusawaken6656 👊

i guess I'm just an oddball, but i really just don't feel the need to be loved.

Live The Future are you asexual?

I just came across this and it has given me so much to think about. I am hoping to put this stuff in to practice! If anyone knows of any other videos that talk about this kind of stuff let me know

Just now seeing it & feel the same way Janine, Bless you Charlie

It may be old, but the info is timeless.

Same for me. At the moment I have problems with self doubt and insecurity. I am in my early 20s and at the point of finishing university and applying for a job in a company I work for 1 year already. I know the people and they know me but I struggled with the decision whether to apply or not as I thought that I have way better chances than other applicants what would be unfair as I have few experience and others might fit much better. And I started feeling guilty for maybe destroying the opportunity for other people to work there on the one hand and preventing my colleagues from having someone better than me on the other hand. I know this seems weird but well... And now I have to talk with HR and my boss in a couple of days and am scared that they could reject me because I am less experienced etc. I mean I know they wanted me to apply and were happy when I told them I did but still I have these feelings and it drives me crazy 😅

Nini lol wow, 3 1/2 years is “really old” nowadays.

Naw he’s a simp she belongs to the streets

Why ? Who cares if he still loves her. It’s over.

The OP woman doesn't literally care about the relationship, but the story stirs up her emotions due to her empathy. This is why women love watching romance movies that we just don't get: they enjoy being made to feel a certain way. Bear this in mind, and stop trying to understand women on a rational level. That's as bad as them trying treating us like defective women...

@@solhamer3502 Love is beautiful and desirable. For tragic hopeless romantic aspects, the beauty in pain. Thats the whole allure of romanticism. Men and women are actually not that different in this way, most people like to see that in movies. Art and movies are all like this. No one wants to watch a movie and have nothing happen to their emotions.

@@alangwhiteTheBoss and you are a parrot by repeating whatever a dude says in his youtube channel in order to extract money from guys like you.

TekaiGuy a

John Smith man really out here quoting yoda

@@milesbizon8624 lmao

My back yard had a path to the dark side; I avoided it mostly, but went there on Friday and Saturday nites.

powergirl901 ok boomer

Peace is a lie. There is only passion. Through passion I gain strength. Through strength I gain power. Through power, I gain victory. Through victory, my chains are broken. The force shall set me free. -Sith Code.

You seem pretty cool to me😎

Agreed with all this. I have also struggled with this. He really simplified this to understand in a very practical way. That being said we are all special. Please believe that deep down. I know it is hard with all the media being thrown at us but all of our strength and love can only come from within. 🫂

You should see actualized.org's videos if you think 22 minutes is impressive 😁... 4h+

You have good taste in music

@@J031w yep Leo's video are excellent too

Leo could be talking for hours X)

Hes speaking truth from the heart especially with a personal story which doesn't require jump cuts or umm's/ahh's.

But the problem is if people dont unconditionally love themselves then they wont be able to recieve our unconditional love and thus we wont be able to financially provide for us anymore because they will take us for granted.

Great book!

You are very brave

I hope you're doing well, sir.

Hahah Ikr XD that's what I was thinking

Same

Hacker

Right there with you.

I thought the same thing.

It just takes a lot of work. I'm going through the same thing with my ex right now and it's really painful, especially when you find out from everyone else that you don't have a girlfriend anymore before you hear from you're girlfriend.

Strange how selflessness and self love are being put into the same metaphor. Perhaps they can coexist, but one does not force the other. To be selfless is to be happy for everyone else without needing their happiness in return. To have self love is to love yourself. To value who you are, and to never let anyone take you for granted. It's the complete opposite in my opinion. Yes, you can feel happy for someone when you love yourself, but you will never let that person take advantage of you. When you love yourself, you can be happy moving on from that person, and will not need to know what they're doing, or what path they are taking in life. You do not need to be happy for them. What they do doesn't have anything to do with how much you love yourself. You can love yourself, and love others. You can love yourself, and not love others. They are separate. Just because I love myself, and make myself happy does not mean that I have to love you, or anyone else in this comment section. I can choose to love you as well, but that's a separate choice. One that has to be added onto the initial choice of choosing to love myself. It's important this gets mentioned, because I'm seeing a lot of confusion from a lot of people thinking these things are one and the same, or at the very least coexist indefinitely, which isn't entirely true. Either or can be exercised, or both can be exercised, or none can be exercised. It's a matter of choice, and expanding those levels of consciousness. I would even go as far as to argue that selflessness does not equate to loving others either. Even these are separate. You can be selfless, and be content with anything while loving others. You can even be selfless, and be content with anything while not loving others. These are three different things. Loving others, loving yourself, and not needing anything at all. All three should be exercised to reach the general picture depicted within this video.

James Latsko, I hope you’re still here dude.

Hope you are okay now

Stay strong

Wow

He's still here, he still actively uses RU-vid and adds favorite videos in his video tab haha But in all honesty, it is a great video.

I would chage "even though" to "even with". Otherwise it sends false signals.

I just feel like I would be dead every one would be happyer

Crushing it Kid...Yeah Huh, You are.

@@RxKRT your family wouldnt be...and i shouldnt have to tell ya that...dont forget your Father in Heaven.

Thank You

EMDR is incredible and real

So now I think that when you meditate, the reason why they ask you stop you from.moving your eyes around, even though your eyes are shut is because of something connected to this. And tbh I've experienced it myself, like when I'm moving my.eyes around, I really.can think faster.

That's very interesting!

It is found to be the only therapy that works for CPTSD. Between EDMR and going within/without ( aka deep breathing) You’re Golden. Detox every once in a while. It’s good for cleaning out your cells. You are entirely lovable. You should wife shorty, tho. She’s only managed to keep 2 friends since childhood and 1 is very close to an early death. I don’t know her, obvi, but she ain’t sound like a hoe.

What does edmr stand for

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I felt that too. I’m going through the same as him and this video was just empowering and insightful for me honestly

Thank the lord I wasn’t the only person who almost cried at the very end.

Glad to see how many people felt the same as well.

How you holding up, my dude?

Unless, it was all fabricated for views because he knows what people wants to hear...

I remember a certain middle eastern carpenter pretty big on that approach but the name escapes me

Jess Moss even if that’s true, does that take away from his point or the fact that he’s helping people that he doesn’t even know overcome their weaknesses and achieve their goals? No doubt he wants people to see this, but wouldn’t you if you made something that you thought could help people? Even if it’s for monetary gain, which I’m sure is just an added bonus that comes with doing what he loves, I still respect him for putting something that’s helpful into the world and getting payed for it rather than selfishly putting garbage nonsense that only serves to benefit him into the world and getting payed just the same, the point I’m trying to make is people shouldn’t have to feel ashamed for doing something for money if it’s valuable or helpful to someone, especially when we live in a world where money is necessary to live, you see films which make money and are viewed and enjoyed by people and we have no problem with it because the film is a source of entertainment, so how is this any different?

@@jessmoss9130 You clicked for a reason

Opps

Then you should change your profile pic to a happy face instead of a sad one!

Truth

can you recommend anyone else? I seriously have not found anyone who knows as much as Charisma on Command.

@@urbanizedpizza Try "Prince EA" ! Even though he makes shorter videos, he is truly conscious about true happiness, the human soul and connection - and he is really motivational...

Wish you all the best. You deserve it. Hope you're doing better and better each day. ❤

@michael larocca thank you so much x means a lot x

Brave woman, bless you

stay off the junk

@PollyPhonic81 Good to hear, but I hope you stopped with the heroin for you own sake.

Nope... not brave... it is his job to put and maybe make this stuff up. All he is doing is taking. Brave is not sharing a break up with thousands of ppl you will never meet. There are so many more examples of ppl that show bravery. Like the millions and millions that voted against Hillary. Today's society is split between followers and people who think for themselves. Followers are people who voted for Hillary or Bernie. They want government to take care of them. Are you a follower?

@@pwba312 Don't drag your political agenda into this.

@@pwba312 why do you even exist?

Pw Ba LOL you’ve just seen a video of Ben Shapiro, didn’t you😂

@@pwba312 Sharing a political agenda with people you will never meet is so brave.

@Jennica Morrison He's name is Charlie lool , and I'm having this treatment too for my anxiety soon it's going to be my first one and I'm kind of nervous as well as looking forward to it at the same time I know anxiety can't be cured and I doubt this therapy thing will also help me but this guy definitely is better then the therapist I will be having when I have my first one with the therapist. I also believe one thing which is don't care what people think of you because they will judge you either way and don't expect too much from other people either because they will let you down and always be helpful don't change that about yourself.

Thank you for making this comment. This proved something for me, and I can't explain how yet, but one day, I hope you will be one of the people to understand as well. Either if it's from me, or someone else. I believe Jordan Petersson might get there before me.

There are probably plenty of women in your country who are perfect for you that you haven’t met yet. Work on loving yourself and accepting yourself and feeling whole as an individual and the rest will naturally fall into place

You have to stop putting people on a pedestal man. Stop feeling like your life will be better just cause a certain person is in it cause otherwise you always gonna get hurt cause lot of people come and go in our lives and things don’t go the way we want you have be happy with yourself and just focus on your goals and spend time with your homies and just try and forget about this chick

Just imagine her taking a massive dump :J

Glad you like it, thanks!

Charisma on Command Thank you!

Thanks so much - I really appreciate that!

Charisma on Command Thanks for the video, the eye scramble I thought was an interesting idea. I have huge problems with jealousy, which I know comes from a lack of self-esteem. It is particularly bad if I feel threatened by colleagues I think are performing better than I am. It doesn't help that our bonus scheme is based on comparing peers, however I'd like to feel genuinely happy when people succeed. Is there an alternative to humming you have tried to break the thought cycle as I don't really want to do that if I'm in front of people?

@@catshaveteats lip sync the words to your favorite song but with your mouth closed. It’ll be just your tongue moving and no one will notice.

annxhilation how are you doing 9 months later

you are loved brotha

We love you brother, I sent you a hug from mexico!

That's really beautiful. and sad.

I wasn't sad really I was glad. I wasn't planning on hitting on her because she has a boyfriend got to respect limits. I also wasn't willing to let go of it before I saw this. I would have waited for them to break up and it probably wouldn't happen anyway. life goes on.

Dude this is awesome. I feel like I'd be able to let someone go like that too - we always have to keep moving forward.

What was it that you realized why she was with him?

+Linus Herr -- He made her happy.

I agree screw all that nonsense.

Coward

It's just needless. Want to fuck? Fuck a hooker Want to eat? Go to cafe Want to speak with someone? Go to 4chan...

+Giorgi Kenchiashvili But you aren't gonna be happy just consuming are you? Are you happy just staying in the same place? truly happy? ;)

😂😂😂

i cried lol

@@SenpaiStories me too 😭

Me too . . .

I always wanted to ask someone like you. Why the hell did you dump him then? If you love him work at it do bizarre things like communicate what wrong. But why? Men don’t dump women they love. I never did it’s just a female thing. I guess.

@@christopherthomas8421 This takes me back, it’s been nearly 2 years so my memory of my emotions could be clouded. I was a sophomore in HS, and as time passed we just didn’t click. We couldn’t hang out, paths diverged, and I realized it’d be better to leave before we hated eachother. Ages later, I thought maybe everything was all in my head and I’d lost something perfect. So we got back together, realized that was not the case, broke it off, and we’re best friends now. Sometimes you think about love so much you think you don’t know what it is, though you do. But hell, I’m just 17, take my words with a grain of salt. :)

@Christopher Thomas I know cisgendered, heterosexual men who have been the ones to break it off with women they loved. It's NOT a behavior determined by gender. One very recent example I can think of cried on the final day that he walked out the door. He had tried years of attempting to fix his unhappy home environment without success. I don't know what was in the counseling sessions that he and they had gone thru before that final day, but I support his personal decision to finally move out and move on. I'm pretty certain no scientific study has ever shown a difference in strength of love, or loyalty, or whatever between genders. Women are NOT the only ones to make the decision to break off a relationship with someone they love, and men are NOT the only ones to choose to remain within a turbulent relationship "for the sake of love."

@@dusty_sea330 cisgendered, heterosexual men.... aka men?

Shadow only exists in the presence of light

Appreciate that. All good over on my end. After a few days I am feeling quite happy and she and I are on solid non-boyfriend/girlfriend terms

Charisma on Command this is kinda fitting lol, I feel happy for you. I know it's painful, seeing that you're making the best of it is very relieving to see.

+Charisma on Command Subscribed because of this video. Just wondering if the 4 steps you mention decrease motivation.

+Charisma on Command This video touch my heart in so many ways ty (though personally I'm not sure I'll be able to put it into practice since the only people I want happiness for the least are the very few people I HATE XD )

+Charisma on Command Sorry, but I don't buy that revised definition of love for a second. If she hypothetically got happiness from screwing other guys while you were still together, that doesn't mean you should thank the dudes just because she's happy. There are natural reasons for your initial negative feelings. And if someone wants to travel the world without you, and you don't like that, there are valid reasons for that too. It's not that you'd be wrong for feeling negatively, but you could say that there is an incompatibility there.

So is die, it tends to go both ways

Love is a noun too.

to add to it, love is an intransitive verb. no preposition required ;-)

I just have a question. if you love yourself just the way you are and believe that no matter what you're great...then how will you improve ? and what if someone are a serial killer or a horrible person ? are they allowed to love themselves despite are the awful awfuuull things they have done ??

@@huluhulu6009 My current understanding is that love is not simply a lens or feeling that labels someone as perfect, free of flaws and worthy of affection. Unconditional love is a continuous belief backed up by one's actions that says " your flaws, insecurities, and areas for improvement do exist, but they do not define you and do not mean your not worthy of affection and support." I would go as far as to say that without the acknowledgment of these flaws, love can not truly be called love.This is why i believe when he says to "stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself even though [insert negative thoughts], i love you“ he includes the [insert negative thoughts] part. Regarding the "what if someone is a serial killer or a horrible person" question, I would say that true unconditional love is not something that can be allowed or undeserved. I am no expert in psychology but if i were to hazard a guess, for them to honestly "love" themselves would require some form of acknowledgement of the horrible atrocities they've committed as well as an understanding of the personal struggles and insecurities that caused their actions in the first place. I believe that with a sincere desire to change and reflect, they can truly love themselves in a healthy way that fosters positivity and improvement. I hope that helped answer your questions. Have a nice day :)

But according to him you can't love yourself unless other people love you first

Internet Gas NO have you watched the Video?

Haha my church preached this since the start🤣🤣 except our secure never ending source of love in God:) and we dont have to earn his love nor workkk or do good and get right, but accept his gift of righteousness:) and the perfomance on us to God will be based of the performance of jesus which is blameless:) our performance really is crap HAHAH cant pray all the time, love god all the time etc etc, so thank god he judges us by jesus:)

@@meow9874 you're preachin !

Hello fellow nugget :)

burnt chicken nugget gang checking in lol

omg i laughed so hard

i quote this meme all the time

😂 😂

~ Appreciate it Matthew!

Hey, it's been a year since you made this comment. How was 2018? What do you want to see happening in 2019, and what are you working towards? Tell me.

This comment said everything i was thinking almost to the letter!

Exactly

Yes! Beefis99 thanks for writing this. It's unfortunate so many people don't recognize Charlie's insight. Great video, keep them coming.

Couldn't say it in a better way. Really awesome video. This hits me really hard right now. This must be my biggest realization in years. So much enlightment in one video. One of the best content in the youtube.

Just wanted to chime in and support you Beefis99 in your support of Charlie. You spoke my thoughts in a clear and good way.

Woke

Thanks!

Appreciate that!

thank you

thank you

"If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm." Last words of teh buddhist monk before getting shot in the neck by a raider

Seems that Self love - was the only love you ever had - hence that was a cause of your bitterness , you love only yourself - selfish egoist.

Pfff, I feel you love. It sucks to not be able to self-love yourself. See what I did there? :D Let's learn how to do it.

lol you're pathetic.

@@OP-hu7ve stop spreading all that negative energy, please. Why can't you just enjoy the video?

@@OP-hu7ve how is he pathetic for saying that?

@O P You’re really a miserable creature, arent you?

I’m sorry to hear that