It kind of sucks to be honest. Although I always knew something was wrong. I did not realize until I went through a bad break up with someone who was similar to my mom. No I live alone and I might have to go no contact with my family of origin after my mom threaten to stab me. I called myself trying to expose the family dynamic of the golden child Invisible child and me the scapegoat… Bad idea. But I did not watch any of these videos on RU-vid before… if I did I would have known that I should not have done that. You live and learn. Now I have to create a community of people who are my family I guess 🤷🏽♂️
Sometimes family does not have to be blood … All “black sheep” are tribe and understand we have a real connection No matter if we are black/ white / brown / red or yellow ~ we are connected We are the meek that are not weak and will create a new earth 🌍 One with compassion / empathy and love 💕 Blessing to my tribe ~ love you all
I'm the black sheep in my family. I was always told that I would not amount to anything or be successful in life. I proved them all wrong. I'm a college grad and I now have 3 careers, and I've written and published 21 ebooks on Amazon. Now, none of them have anything to say to me.
So true sometimes I truly believe I’m not related to the family I always asked my self if they switched me in the hospital when I was born. I never belonged with them!
Being a black sheep is like a curse. But, once you come out of that trauma that built up for years, you find a new level of strength inside yourself. To be a black sheep is not easy.
As an adult I am so grateful that I am the black sheep! The strength that I have, after some very deep insight has become a true blessing!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us ⚘
Thissss! And I indeed discovered that i was also the black sheep of my friendgroups.. I quit the narcissistic family and friendgroups, am a loner now a days... Thank you! 💫
Hi, I too feel like a loner. I am wondering how to go about it. I have such a deep heart and soul, and have rarely come across others I truly connect with, least of all my blood relatives. Are we meant to remain hermits or what? It's hard because I have so much healing energy, and I suppose I am not sure what to do with it. Any insight you have is great
@@intangiblyeternal Sorry, was thinking about how to react to your comment and then forgot 😅 I feel the same, but, I no longer have the feeling/urge that I have to use my own healing power, especially to help others heal. I dont believe we are here to help others heal with our own energy, our energy can trigger others wanting heal but it will always cost us our inner peace, at least with me it does.. so i end up feel their unhealed trauma as my own. I feel There is a cluster b epidemic going on. The healing light you, we, posses is really not in Everybody... I wish it was, I thought it was.. unfortunately there are also people who are programmed (because I think we are all programmed one way or the other) to always destroy the light of other people.. cluster b personality disorder people, they enjoy hurting others and seeing other hurt fail etc. (I'm Dutch btw so I hope I make sense haha) I am a hermit, living in a city, since 5 years, biggest mistake I ever made 😅 but waiting for a house to go back to a small town, I know I will always be a kind of a hermit, but I am slowely withering away now because I cant go outside much, dont have a garden, mean judgemental people in the neighborhood. And i am not really ok right now, i got labeled adhd/autism and ptsd, but because of my own healing power i know and believe that once i am out of the city i will instantly heal from all of that. Am also thinking about connecting with like minded people a lot, maybe start a group somewhere, but untill I move I can only focus on myself 😄 I have to work hard not to be in survival mode all the time 😅 I want to go for long walks in the middle of nowhere, talk to cows, sheep and horses, dammit hahaha but I expect to be out of this city in a few months 😅
@@Cazi1111 it took me awhile to figure things out but once you educate yourself / work hard to heal from their toxic damage You may be able to find your power / your lion. This is what the narc wants to keep you from doing Waking up and finding your power … You had the power all along .. wizard of Oz 🌹♥️💫 sending much love and light
Most of my problems with my family have been when my family dosent understand that I do things my way. I make mistakes but I cannot make them visualized my opinions. That has gotten me in trouble, judged, misinterpreted. Black sheep are the ones who carry the torch, they step into the places where the flock is scared to go the black sheep will go.
I feel unimportant around the people I love. It makes me mad at them and it’s hard to not show that. It makes me look even worse. I don’t know what to do.
I'd say a few things here; 1. The way you feel is controlled by you, not the people around you. 2. Can you talk about your feelings with those people? 3. Is it really true you are not important to them, or is it just your perception? 4. If true, why do you love them? And do you really love them?
Subconsciencely, i always knew i was the black sheep of my family. However, it wasn't until i sat down and written down my personal values that i realize just how much of a black sheep i was. Lately , through therapy, ive been learning to embrace being the black sheep and all that it entails, learning to be comfortable in my skin and walking the path i've chosen for myself. I love my family, despite all the hurt they' ve put me through, and i want to be there for them. But, probably due to the hurt i went through, i prefer to help them from afar, just to protect myself. I know what i want in life, and i dont have to allow people, no matter who they are, make me feel bad for the choices i make. So, with all that said, im learning to move forward and embrace myself.
I love this video first one I came across that not just talked about the emotions of “being a black sheep” but HOW to deal with it because you can’t change it .
@@taoofmiracles your welcome , I be getting spiritually attacked, I have a RU-vid channel but my toxic family harass me and tell I tell my truth for attention. My life is alone by myself going through obstacles to overcome to be better. In silence I’m still working on but I want to change the story line . I’m start from the bottom. It can be hard to watch it. When I would post my job will fire me , people work where I am . Your video gave me some light . I’m accepting that I’m different . As a women I was not here to be a mother , have a spouse , friend . I was put her to break my family course and do what is extremely hard. Most of the time I’m alone. I have a lot of wisdom. In my situation “RU-vid” is my best bet to live the human experience. I would like to share my thoughts , talk and so on. When I’m ready i definitely want to convert my channel being topic like this 🤎.
After listening to your message, I have started to embrace the fact that i’m the black sheep. I have always felt defeated but now I feel empowered. Thank you 🙏😊
I’m 37 yrs old, I’ve been noticing things since I was kid but I was naive I accepted it about 7 yrs ago. It’s really tough but I believe I’m here for a bigger reason than I can imagine myself.
Being told by my significant others over and over again, " that's what you get and you deserve it, you're a loner because everybody hates you, because you're bad, and what did you said a while ago? Your patients keep on telling that You're a kind Nurse?, liar...". Hits me hard still as if it was only yesterday... When I knew and it was my sincere decision to be a good human being, taming my dark side and made peace with my demons for years in the making... A sad memories, weird as it seems, always happens on my birthday, could not recalled any happy memories during my birthday even at home, it's always sad, physically and mentally painful, full of sarcasms... That's why I like to celebrate my birthday at hospital/rehabilitation center where I work, much fulfilling and I'm not alone...
I don’t have the freedom to choose my friends either. No one is worth the effort any longer, and I’m not sure how long I will have such a “sense” of self worth to rely on.
It really depends on what you believe in Paul. If you believe noone is worth the effort, you will see that confirmed day after day. And, although I agree with you that in today's world it's not easy, there are beautiful and like-minded people in more places and spaces than you might think. Don't give up on the world! And, more important, don't give up on yourself! 🙏🏻🤗❤️
I can relate on about all that you talk about. I am a Spiritualist and a Empath. I believe in Reincarnation and our Soul's plans on the physical plane on earth. I am a old Soul with many past lives. My wife and mine Spiritual Healer and Psychic medium did a Past life Regression which my last past life I was a Ascended Master which I reincarnated in my present life to rescue and help my wife. Which her past life she was an Angel too. In my present life, growing up my family picked me as the Black Sheep on our Family. Everything that you said you tell the truth. Thank you!
Cool. It is almost identical to my own beliefs about this topic. Also Thank you: you are one of the few people to mention the past lives and the connections we have made with the souls of some of the people in our lives. ❤️🙏😇
Holy shit I just found this video and I heard about 14 seconds of it I’m gearing up and my heart is racing I don’t know what you say in this video but thank you for existing
@@taoofmiracles I meant to say tearing up ... thanks so much it really brought me clarity, I sent it to my sister. Told her we were all the black sheeps of our families. She said she didn't understand, but she was glad I was expressing myself to her lmaoo. Felt good to send your video over, even if I don't know all the answers yet, at least im not alone.
@@taoofmiracles I just subscribed, i dont know what you sell but ill buy it if its less than $2CAD/month - I support you but i dont have htaaaaat much hahahah
🙏🏻😃 I appreciate that a lot but I create this content for free, so there really is no need for that! I do have a book published for sale on amazon, you might be interested in that. Thank you for the support! 🙏🏻🤗❤️
I knew I was the {Black Sheep} a long time ago like about 9 years old ~ but I don't care and they know I can do the { MOST} but they doubt me Now I have a lot of power
I do feel “ wrong “ and I believe that I need to try harder to fit in. Afraid of feeling out of place with finding my own tribe - while I love my family so intensely .
Love does not depend on belonging or not, love is love, it goes wherever it's allowed to go. Fear of feeling out of place prevents love to rise to the surface. 🙏🏻🤗❤
I’m the black sheep of my family. Always blamed for everything and I am walking away from them. I will not continue this verbal abuse of cutting me down all the time. I don’t fit in. It has nothing to do with me.
I was with you all the way until you started talking about “past lives.” We don’t have “past lives.” Past lives can’t be proven, it’s complete nonsense!
I think there are two ends of a pole in life. You get people who are "born" to get on with others around them and then on the other end of the pole are people who are born not to get on with the people around them (you also get a middle and above or below middle on the pole of acceptance). Either one of these groups can be intelligent or not etc. Nothing can be done to change how ones environment will respond to them. What is important to note is that a bad action can be done by those who get on with others and still feel part of those around them be it in the same circles or new social ones. A good action can be done by those who are born not to get on with those around them and still suffer how their environment responds to them. I believe there are different levels of severity for those on the black sheep spectrum/end. There are those (1 group) that are isolated in the family unit but outside this they are able to socialise to an extent. The most severe of black sheep is experiencing hostility around those you do not know (strangers) a form of isolation or animosity without uttering a word or bad a action and on top of that the isolation at home from those you know.
you all are better than your abuser. to be clear , some people are better than other people. I am better than any person that says "you think you are better than everyone"
I am definetly I broke the generational curse , by becoming saved and learning new styles of living , I’m like my upbringing and parents tho still in ways lol 😂. But I found my true identity in the father in heaven , not necessarily by my Upbringing as a ti . Once u find your identity in Jesus ur changed forever . Our father in heaven wants souls to turn to him . Interesting times ain’t it ?
i found out i was the black sheep when i was 8 years old. my father had just broken my arm, was beating me with a belt while my Brother and Sister watched from the corner of the room holding each other pressed into the corner of the room as if they might pass through the paint to safety....my father would have us pull our pants down to our ankles and lay on our stomach on the bed and hold the railing with both hands...if we let go to cover ourselves from the belt buckle, he would hit us 5 times more. if we cried out for help, he would add another 5... 🤐 despite my brother and sister crying out, "stop Matthew! hes going to keep going!!" i continuously kept crying out and covering my butt. at this point i was numb to the situation and detached enough to see that he was getting tired. i thought if i could hold strong he wouldn't have the energy to beat my siblings as well.. and i was right! :) he dropped the belt, face red, brow sweaty, and arm exaughstedly hanging to his side as he stood over me, i was bleeding on my rear and lower back while he asked... he asked... "you Dumbass, you know the rules, you knew i would keep going, what's wrong with you?! .... i looked him Deeply in the eyes and said, "i just want you to be happy daddy"🤧 he dropped the belt, and with a look of confusion walked out of the room never to beat any of us again... (physically at least. luckily he abandoned the family shortly after that and oddly enough since that day, the relationship with my father became more non existent. my mother avoided me more as her display of respect as my fathers wife, and my brother and sister from then on used the extra energy stored for lack of violence to deplete it, as an opportunity to treat me as someone who confused them and triggered feelings of shame, but of course that was projected toward myself. ii literally became a walking trigger for the memories of the times my family members could have stood up for themselves and did not. since then, i knew i was different. i was only 8, and i managed to sway the man i most loved, And Feared, while embracing my ability to feel whole while being surrounded by those you love most, and still feeling so alone... to this day i still walk along side myself. as a friend, protector, and whiteness to how strangely beautiful life is. it felt great to share this. i love you brother! thank you for your sacrifice 👽
they dont talk to me. they have dinner without me and not even my own mother greets me when she sees me in person. i still live with my family but im building my credit hopefully soon i can move out and yes, cut my mother and my brother off. they are super toxic and havwnt grown. theyve become a team against me... i will leave !!!🥹🥹🥹🥹🙌🙌🙌🙌
Sending you love and healing energy as you transition towards independence. As soon as you are away from them, cut them off completely. It may seem hard, but truly, real love and connection is out there. Your soul tribe is out there. I know you will find them.
Yes. I moved 3 states away from my large family three years ago. It was the best thing I could have done for myself. I feel so much healthier now. I don’t miss them one bit
