I'm actually kinda glad that I met my psychopath. Sure, they used me, but I've used their behavior to figure out who to leave out of my life and who to let in. It really made me more aware of the state and personalities of people and it also helped me a lot with the psychology of other people as well as my own mentally ill sisters.
Coming back after 3 years that I'm 100% glad I met my psychopath! This is what life gave me and now I'm in the place I'm meant to be. It is through this that I found a renewed understanding and patience for those around me :)
@@plebweeb8868 I'm envy about that. I hope I can notice easily people's manipulations too. As of now, I have a few skills like I can use silence at my advantage with those people but I want more skills
But psychopaths DO have feelings. Just for themselves though. They can feel sadness, anger, excitement, etc. If a person had NO feelings, they would be like a vegetable or catatonic. Psychopaths have no EMPATHY or REMORSE, but they do have personal feelings.
Personal shallow feelings are not the same as emotions their inability to experience love, compassion, harmony, peace or joy ultimately a tragedy for the psychopath. In the end they don't care, *"Mind over matter, I don't mind and you don't matter"*
Oh but there's always an empath who is one step ahead. We see and feel all things that don't seem right. We will hone in and analyze you to a T. We know their next move cause lets face it, THESE parasites have no common sense or intuition. Hence why they target GOOD people. One step ahead.
Thank you. It is imperative to get away from these people with the least amount of drama possible. Show no fear to them even if you are terrified. Do not let them see it at all. They use it.
+Barbara Grace Thank you for the support I need. I am getting away from this person in a foreign country, today, with "the least amount of drama possible". Thank you Barbara Grace for being here right when I needed it.
+Barbara Grace i've watched an read a lot of information on psychopathy. i myself am i psychopath. i am trying understand that i manipulate. it's what i always have done. i am trying to be more aware of how i affect people. why aren't we trying to find a way to live with psychopaths. i don't want to be all alone an bored. we were born this way. you can know i'm a psychopath. i can know you know what i am. we can both agree to live with that. why can't we be friends. i would just have to more aware of what i say and do around you.
I sure don't want you to be lonely. I also can not put myself in a position to be hurt by you. The damage can be permanent. Nothing is worth the damage I've already suffered and I would rather be alone.
Narcissists ARE capable of feelings and remorse... but not for very long. Their trauma/developmental injury occurred late enough that they had already developed some empathy. Sociopaths generally feel very little to no feeling or empathy - their injury occurred very early before they began to develop. I'm not sure about psychopaths ... I'm sure it comes from extreme trauma, making them monstrous. They're not all violent though. They're the most dangerous people though - as they're capable of great evil with NO remorse or care
@@Evajeanfreedom Narcissists are always capable of feelings, and also dont have this high self- esteem deep inside of them. Only that they are focussing so much on themselves...
Excellent advice. Took me a long time to even believe what I was dealing with. At first, I thought he was just an abuser. So, expose the abuser was the advice, only to find out he did exactly what you said - he was so far ahead of the game, he had already gotten to everyone! Right from the beginning when we first started dating! I just looked even crazier than he was telling people I was. However, that's the only way I finally started believe what IT was. It's an insane situation to deal with - and by the way support? HA! He took care of all that right from the beginning - cut me off and isolated me completely. Forgiving yourself - you have to or it will eat you alive. Great vid!
Oh and they will say "I love you" and throw you few crumbs of affection only when you're trying to get away from them, when they know you're serious about ending your relationship. The moment they got you back in the hook, they go back to ignoring you, treating you like you're invisible, unless they need you to do something for them.
@@tabanilla871 just work on yourself and they will run when they can no longer manipulate you then you can find someone better and help raise your kids
Being too quiet to a psychopath after you already made some connection with them will bring up red flags in their mind. not smart...play along and act as you did previously.
+Sarabi Scruggs I tend to agree it's better to cauterize the wound and move on. Slowly ending it may cause more trouble as the resultant exposure may be dangerous.
+Sarabi Scruggs --- in my experience, they would avoid an outburst as much as possible. So if I was to disappear suddenly, they wouldn't act out on the redflags, so as not to create a scene. If they create a scene, it means there is a problem, that they have lost control, and that they are infact, nuts! From my experience, they've always tried to sweet talk their way back by emotional manipulation, guilt tripping, etc. I think it's best to cut away and to not give in to the guilt-tripping (if you have that option!)
I was in a relationship where I had to make up my mind on what I wanted to do with completely shutting the woman off for continuing to text her and this is after we broke up. She would text me thousands of text messages, complete manipulation from a sociopath. Not going to say what she said because some of it is actually rather raunchy, and private however not speaking to her cause me more problems then sending the occasional text back even just the emoji con, she eventually just gave up and left me alone. It took about a total of a month once I found out exactly what kind of person she was to get her off of my back. But as I said when I started to completely cut her off it got worse and she came to my house and was banging on my door literally for hours.
this is right on. my sister is like this. it took me decades to figure it out and the only way I felt better was when I finally cut ties with her. she twisted everything, she lied constantly, she was cruel and hid it from others, she faked emotions, she was cold, she was mean, she was incredibly narcissistic, charismatic, smart, talented. it was absolutely awful dealing with her even for 5 minutes. anyway, it's too bad because I really needed a good sister but it wasn't to be I guess. it's like she really doesn't understand what human feelings are. it's very odd.
1 out of 2000 women is a psychopath, so it's not likely that she is one. The way you describe her sounds very nasty, but it can also suggest NPD or something. I would not assume she is a psychopath but if she's as manipulative as you describe her, do not trust her.
I’m in a very similar situation with my brother. He punches me for no reason the try’s to act like a good brother then sucks up to my parents. He is very academically talented and lies constently. I can relate x
Its so sad dealing with psychopaths especially when they are/were your friends. The reason is that there is no hope to ever change them and break the wall of their cold nature. The only thing to do is to give up and accept and that's what is sad about it. I see mostly the best in every person and that's why it's hard for me understanding and dealing with psychopaths.
***** well that's right, but you got to see for yourself whats a better lifestyle in your eyes. I don't see having most power as a potential life fuel. My fuel is being in balance with my self and so being in harmony with everyone else. From that comes greatness in my eyes, not from might. Not having might doesn't mean you are nothing and worthless. You are a human and you are able to become the best version of yourself without benefiting from others and so harming them, the only "struggle" with this is that it's the harder way. but in my whole life I didn't see the easy way as the good way. the hard way is forming the best personalities, abilities and empathy for your surroundings. Psychopaths though would never see it in the way i see it, but that's the reason why I believe that they are more or less kind of "dead inside".
sa ra there not even people just highly IQ lost.genderless .comfused humannoids .I believe this is the problem with the feminist movement and rape victims they think that a man raped them when in all reality all psychopaths men are not men just genderless voids not straight or homosexual just genderless voids hell I believe it's still an American crime that they haven't made personal bedrooms for these demons there not Mr or Ms ya fill me .give them all there own personal bathrooms all over America called PS so they won't be so undetected and an evil destructionest to society and humanity.............................. +we need to create psychopathic detection system test. yes by law from a period of 18-24 that's it bottom line other then that it becomes available a major pandemic of problems and issues for humanity 🌏🌏🌏as a🌕 whole..........
oh yah, i went total stockholm syndrome a year or so ago, after they cut my hair and left live 357 bullets in my bed, 5x, 5 bullets. Disconnected my heat, and vandalized my security cameras, 3x each, on separate occasions. I thought it was raccoons on my roof, expected to find piss-pots and sleeping bags in my attic! after seeing my stored stolen clothes on them on fakebook. There was so much to document, i started taking pix, they deleted over 800 from @ 2 years. it was almost every week, i had to start over, cleaning and clearing, they bring in and leave clues to let me know who. Im done. Im not leaving. I hope i dont have any emergencies, i have no one. had a gal stay on a few of their nights, she went out side when she heard them, they played her like a fiddle, snuck in, she passed out... 7x. i helped her move out. Turns out she was on drugs and got mean and mouthy towards me. She came back, and stole more. Nope, i figured out how, now, its gonna be over my dead body, unless i find some help to set up cameras and establish security. maybe hire a guard , to go to dr and dentist.
Yep, it's about a hundred or two hundred years old. But now GMOs, Vaccines, and quantum physics put matters of the heart, or psyche, into the backburner.
Star Trek episode where Spock dies. Spock dies yet saves millions. I'm not sure if Spock or Vulcans are Psychopath, or if Vulcans are Autistic or? Mill philosopher says same as Spock "...needs of the many outweigh needs of the few..."
sociopaths have an unconscious attachment to old feelings of being marginalized and rejected. Their narcisistic and manipulative behavior is a psychological defense used to hide their unconscious entanglement with these negative emotions of unworthiness. Of course the victims of sociopaths also gravitate unconsciously towards emotions of helplessness and powerlessness. So basically the sociopath and his victim have the same unconscious unresolved issue.
thank you. i agree with you. Can i add ? sometimes the victims can not speak. sometimes the victim Can be not believed. adult or baby . sometimes A kind of discrimination as mental disorder is used against the victim. sometimes women live in a patriarcal country Where people Say they protect women and babies. it is a story what a man told me . Why this story make him laughing each Time ?
Respectfully, I disagree about keeping quiet. If they're dangerous and you disappear mysteriously, no one will know the difference if no one knew about the psychopath.
TheSheandoah yes, I agree. I think it's better to say, tell the right people and not the wrong people. People who you don't know you too good, don't tell them. Your family who loves you, and best long term friends will believe you because they know you to not be any of those things.
Soloman1001 That doesn't really matter in context of keeping quiet about the psychopath. They hate being exposed. It's not safe for the victim of the psychopath's' abuse to keep their abuse a Little Secret.
Soloman1001 no they are not cowards. Some people assume that a person is a coward because they don't boldly charge ahead, no matter what. a pschopath, lays in the background studying their prey. thats not being a coward. being a coward comes from a place of feeling, psychopaths don't feel for others.
Soloman1001 I know them very well dear. They don't want people to think they're murderers, that way, they can get away with murder if need be. Expose These MONSTERS!!!!!!!!!!!
The "how to" portion begins at 5:27. Before that is his definition of what psychopaths are, which though worth watching, will be redundant for anyone who reads about this stuff. He also neglected to mention that psychopathy is a spectrum, and each tell-tale sign of psychopathy he describes varies wildly in severity across different psychopaths.
This video is right on. I dealt with a psychopath and realized it and went silent on her because she did everything behind my back to ruin any other relationships I had with other people that were mutual friends and by golly she was successful. After I cut her completely off which she didn't like, she pulled one on me trying to get me to accept her friendship again. Little did I know that was a trap and fell for it. From that interaction, she completely twisted it around to make me look soooo very bad when I did absolutely nothing in the wrong. She went on to tell our mutual friends about how awful I was from this one interaction like it was already bad enough to begin with. So he is right don't fall for the second go around because if they didn't burn you enough the first time, they will get immense pleasure in burning you the second time like sticking a knife in your back and twisting it. After that, that was it. No more interaction of any any kind and there won't be any more interaction of any kind from me in the future and she knows it. But the damage has been done. She wrecked just about every friendship I had. I am serious. EVERY SINGLE FRIENDSHIP where she was in the picture.....GONE!
+accidentsafe They may lose in the short term, but they will almost always make someone else pay for that which they fell they've lost. They don't always care who pays, just that someone pays.
+accidentsafe Well yes and no. They might win competition, but they are still angry at themselves because deep inside they know that they didn't win because of their skills, but because they were cheating. Many of them lie to themselves that cheating is just part of the competition.
accidentsafe lol...NO, they believe that cheating is part of the game for THEM. If they think others are cheating, they'll call them out or expose them. They know they can't win if others cheat, or they can't get as much money (or whatever they're playing for). They feel entitled to cheat, but will skewer anyone else who DARE to try and cheat them. It's always a double standard with them.
le th This is why they never stay in power when the chaos hits in. History of ancient china has proven it pretty well. It's easy to climb social ladder through deception and cheating but it's hard to stay in power once chaos hits in and people will be forced to use same methods as them.
I have lived with one over 30 years not understanding why why why.... All traits applies to him. Bullying, manipulative, lack of remorse, lack of empathy, fake charm, hungry for power... and ....... Thank you. I found you too late. when my Life is wasted.
Your life is not wasted!! Only you can make the most of what is left.Do Not,do not,hand your power away! Big big hug for you 🤗.You got this!! Be joyful,be strong,wear a smile anyways!
This is a very helpful video - thank you. I have something to add though - you talk about how to protect yourself from a psychopath but that leaves the psychopath free to destroy other people's lives. Do you believe there is a moral duty to stand up to evil? If everyone avoids confronting it, it carries on and on. You may dodge a bullet but it doesn't stop the gun weilder.
They might have a circle of devotees/ admirers/ supporters who feel strong being accepted by the psychopath. The psychopath uses this circle to strengthen their stories and blackmailing schemes to bring people down who do not recognize them as 'the leader?' I'm not talking about teachers although a psycho. could be a teacher, I'm talking about people in the community ie. a neighbor, co-worker, friend?, etc.
This video is misleading. Not all psychopaths are impulsive, not all psychopaths are charismatic and not all psychopaths are smart. Psychopaths lack empathy, which does not mean that they 'have no feelings' .
A true psychopath can't "Feel"... They might understand some sad or hurtful situation, but lack the ability to have empathy... if they could have empathy... they wouldn't be a (true) psychopath... just like not all psychopaths are killers... having some psychopath tenancy helps to be a leader... ;) but a true psychopath has no remorse...
You are wrong. I'm a true psychopath and I feel emotions just fine, I just don't give two fucks about yours. Understand now? you need to understand that it's on a spectrum. Just because one psychopath can't feel, doesn't mean we're all like that.
After watching this video, I realized that I was dealing with a psychopath or maybe two psychopaths. This explains many things happened to me that I haven't been able to understand. At that time, I didn't want to believe there are evil people, but at the same time, if I think logically, there must be. I became deeply depressed and I just left that place. If I watched this video and listened to the advices earlier, I could have dealt with it properly and not lose my position.
graz Who used your past mistakes against you? Supervisor or others? Know that past mistakes are supposed to be left in the past. If anyone abuses those past mistakes against you , know that your rights are being violated. If it is yoursupervisor, start documenting.
I just started reading your book on Kindle. I'm enjoying it so much; I cannot put it down. And I cannot thank you enough for the good information as I'm suffering in the hands of my boss (of whom I sincerely believe to be a Corporate Psychopath). She's so extreme, that it does not take a psychology degree to acknowledge what she is. as others are also suffering from the hands of her abuse. I'm reading your book with the intentions and hopes of learning how to cope/deal with her successfully without allowing her to continue triggering me... Thanks again. :-)
@@henkka6456 To be honest, I don't have COVID days off because I'm now working home and the micro-managing is a lot worse. Our peace is being disturbed and more unrealistic demands are being given; not to mention the bullying is more emotional and psychologic torment now. There's no way to have true peace and there's no way to win; but to change a jobs like you said. But that's easier said than done. But I am working on it. In the meantime, I just have to endure... Thanks again.
@@survivingtoxicityinworkset4197 I have been in very nice positions, you own your expertise, and it travels with you where ever you go for the grind. It's not that bad to be free of your psychopath, trust me. It's pretty great even if poorer like in my case.
It took me so long to see her true colors, I wish I had seen them before it was too late, but I was ignorant to this type of situation and she saw that as a vulnerability of mine for her to strike at. Luckily, I've attempted to distance myself from her and keep any inevitable conversations short, and it's helped a lot. Thank you for this great video :)
Dear David, I am SO pleased I found your website and video. I have a tenant who is a psychopath and his continuous lies have frustrated me so much. In fact, his lies have had such a negative impact on me. I have felt that my integrity has been compromised. Initially, I could not understand why he had such a bad effect on me, but with time, I have realised that this man has a huge personality disorder. That it's not me that is going crazy. He has started sabotaging my existence by doing strange things. Destroying some of my personal things in the garden, switching off geysers and taps, etc. I realise he is doing this out of anger of some kind. So I have one or two questions for you please. This tenant lives in my garden flatlet. I have 3 small dogs, who he has always shown affection to. I am forced to give him notice of the flatlet as I just cannot have this negative energy around me. BUT I have a fear. That he will react adversely if I give him notice, and that he could hurt my dogs as he knows they are dear to me. He will obviously ask me why I am giving him notice, and I will tell him I need the flatlet for my son to store his furniture in, as he is moving to the UK soon. This is not the truth, but I need a way of getting him out without him knowing what I really feel. Are they cruel people and do they have jealous streaks? I realise that not engaging is the best way to deal with a psychopath. Will he catch on that I am suddenly removing myself, and retaliate? I have become fearful of what he may do as time goes by, and I am becoming very uneasy having him around. Please, David, I need your help!! Warm regards, Elaine Baxter - South Africa
My brother is a psychopath and I just went through the worst time of my life watching him get off at court for busting up my shoulder really badly. He totally hypnotised the jury into believing a false narrative and was found not guilty - even though he's twice my size he convinced the court that I attacked him. I feel so violated but can do nothing except grieve my situation.
These types target me so often. Sad to say, I'd rather be targeted by psychopath than a narcissist. The Narcissist plays the game for life, even if you've moved house and trying to hide (which is what happened to me) The Psychopath wrung me dry, then went on to his next victim. I have tried to warn her, but she's bowled over by the love bombing. Another roadkill in progress.
Are they smart tho, because the ones I know make the same mistakes over and over (lie etc), which pretty much gives them away and keeps everyone at bay?!
I also find this to be true. Really, how "smart" can they be when they keep repeating the same bad behaviors that get them in trouble over and over again?
Great White7 they not really smart at all just high intellectual and calculated chance y. spontaneous very taboo ,cultic , moment seizing ,light snatchers,and darwism. but when they achieve its mostly from the host or in this case victims get into a mental error or (shock mental state) or not believing reality because of are everyday human experiences from perception n deception that's how the psychopath seizes his devil's sexual cultic bondage stlye behavior from any situational human mind mental shock and mostly manipulation and pity games and deception n making everything of your experience of an dramatic evil moment seem as if its your fault if you got raped basically an know the madness don't stop there there Wong even acknowledge that they did anything wrong .anybody know a psychopaths I don't give a fuck how much they say they love you it's just words not there actions and responses.plane an escape route out of the situation as fast as possible man mata fact asap for real😭😭😭😠 this people are literally Lucifer's children is plain sight not humanbeings .I know psychopaths who are Christians but are highly contrary to Christianity even if that's there primary religion these are the some of the people in the church wake up people.unplug yourself from the matrix all psychopaths are proof that were living in a virtual reality unreal from the kind we think of everyday. we see the world as this nice beautiful safe alwsome place were in reality earth is of no more just hell a place of endless suffering and madness and a insane asylum ....... education about everything is key from , psychopaths,nassasist, the dollar bill , American inflation, anarchy,anarchism , oligarchy system, poisonous chemicals in water system.flint Michigan was one of them .serial killer,good people vs bad people all religions , alpha males,beta males,omega male,. alpha women, Hitler,general economics and depopulation,. stone age. shift. non electric time period,all world government systems including a dictatorship which are psychopaths, American cults ,. militia,militant gurrias warfare. female camps., marshal law rigged money system, nuclear warfare ,rape symbol s that matches up with sum pizza restaurants in America,. isis,isil,middle East .question everything,
They're not all smart, those that most of us know that are obviously psychopaths is because they give themselves away and are stupid. Especially the angry and impulsive ones. The charming ones are usually on the smarter spectrum
I knew three people, two at work and one at college, who I believed were psychopathic. If talking was an Olympic sport, they'd win gold medals. If you stood my co-worker in a field, he'd argue all day about the colour of the grass. I tend to find the real trigger for psychopaths is when they have to do something tangible or deal with reality. That is when they reveal their true colours, the anger, the egoism, the arrogance, the laziness , the fecklessness and passing the buck. When I told other employees about his bad temper they'd look at me as if to say, "Are you talking about the same person?". For the record, I quit in the end.
I was unlucky enough to stumble straight into a relationship where I became vulnerable with a psychopath, after the loss of a loved one. I was completely exploited and torn to psychological shreds. Still recovering from the trauma... but watching this video helps, because I now understand this as a sickness, a deep sickness... so I don't take it too personally. If you think you are dealing with a psychopath TRUST YOUR INTUITION and GET OUT because these people are merciless.
I received my lesson from a psychopath a couple of years ago it was exactly as you described I'm inherently naive person wanting to believe the best in everyone my mistake it won't happen No one's perfect but a liar I have no use for! Can't build a relationship on that!! "That person you fell in love with simply never existed"
Very similar to the covert narc. My ex choked me in the end and I threw him out and he litterally moved in down the street! The hoovering started, and slapped his ass with a restraining order. I think he is both. My son (15) is in counseling and I am pretty sure he has some PD's. I am going to need therapy after all this!
I happened to deal with 2 psychopaths . One was my own mother at whose hands I suffered a lot. I call myself an unfortunate victim. This video is so right. I have taken the right steps as suggested in the video. The more you learn the more you free your self from the danger. They are evil souls incarnated . If you have bad karma you happen to meet devils . If you are wise enough you can free yourself .
i no longer believe in karma, NO ONE DESERVES THIS. although ive changed my view that i wouldnt let anyone step in my shoes, let alone walk a mile in them, i now wish for many others i thought i knew, to walk around the block in my shoes, okay, that really is a mean thing to say. They'd freak out. Im lucky i am strong on my own. But it took months of total isolation, loss of almost all human contact or speech, no touch, just deliveries at the door, no human or civil rights and a lot of tears and nightmares and anxiety and fear, well, frankly, personal terrorists... whats my option? take a few years, try to sell everything, out live my pets, leave the country? Go to the ocean, walk in and take a deep breath? Go back to my ex? F-no.
@@maaletasatsachmet6815 People have good as well as bad karma. Good karma brings good people into your life in order to heal your virtuous soul as it deserves happiness. The abusers were actually Narcissists.
All of this is true. My ex was a phyco path and manipulated all my friends to go against me. Strangely, they stopped talking to him once I completely walked out of his life so that I capfuls go and live mine. I have some serious scars but I've been much better at dealing with other phyco people in my life. So it did end up being a great ability even though it was a high cost to get.
If you have discovered a psychopath in your life, cutting contact immediately is just about the most pathetic move you can do! You're already knee-deep, take your time and explore their demented mentality, ensure you fully comprehend the depth of their depravity, their lack of personal identity, their inability to speak the truth, and their limits before they explode into rage. Otherwise you'll be asking questions forever and might even accept another psychopath into your life unconsciously to find answers you didn't ask when you had the chance. Thank god i didn't cut and run.... I understood intellectually, I saw evidence physically, but the true weight of the demonic truth didn't hit me until much later when I 'accidentally' ran into her just after being rejected from the life of some innocent but obviously smarter guy than I was. She was literally a hound from hell, trying to play the role she did with me, but suffering the loss of narcissistic supply, she couldn't do it. She actually ran away after trying to overcome her emotional hunger for a human soul. This was not a rejected human.. this was a wolf denied it's meat to consume. It was the closest thing I've come to being seated directly in front of Satan. She attacked me physically many times, and the last time she had a couch over her head to squash me with. I would never go back to her apartment again, but fuck her.... she lives blocks away.. that is my specimen, guinea pig, and personal psychopath subject for life. She gives me the willies more than any serial killer documentary... you want to permanently walk away from that? She is, as I have been saying the past few weeks, a human/animal hybrid.
+The Narcissist's Scapegoat Does she also have the "crazy eyes" ?? If so, I ran away from mine the moment he started to move forward with the relationship. I immediately noticed something ODD about his stare. It made me feel like i was looking a maniac into his soul. It was like looking into Satan's asshole :). The deep black void.
+Stasik C. You are lucky you picked up on the eyes. I thought the stare (which looked past me, not into me) was due to contact lenses to correct vision problems. Hope you are living life again.
+The Narcissist's Scapegoat I agree. The person who I spent time with said to me that when they were about 6 they knew they were/are a predator. Everything that exists does so only for his benefit and they only knew to control, they would do everything in their power to control everything around them.
That was a perfect video. Been there. I needed to view this, needed to forgive myself for noting the red flags and still allowing him in my life and my family's lives. Thank you for your time in putting this video together and sharing it!
Just every sentence was the undilluted extract of the wisdom I so needed so very much, but two psychopaths later, I'm still alive, barely, the hunt pursues, but finally I'm starting to get wise. Best video, i definetely had a strong gut warning about both but I couldn't find logical words to explain that to them. Run, always run, make a fool of yourself, just run, over react, cut contact without explaining
i have just escaped a psycho manager at work and the best advice i would give is always try to have someone else around , never be in the room alone with them because thats when they start to 'gaslight' you .
Thank you for such a thorough explanation accompanied by fervent warnings. I had finally cut myself off from my psychopath only to find myself currently being drawn very slowly back into communication. Your video came at just the right time and I need to put the barriers back in place. Life has been so much better without the drama.
David, why do you say psychopaths are evil? They suffer a psychological disorder - that alone wouldn't make anyone evil. Someone with autism or a sociopath are not necessarily evil, they just have a psychological disorder. Could you explain why you think psychopaths are evil?
Um, you could say the same for certain other disorders/disabilities as well - both mental and psychical. I don't think making someone around you suffer alone makes you evil - I think that's just part of what makes people people.
Maybe, but there's unintentional harm that could be caused by any action that someone takes. For example, a businessperson could buy real estate to build up, which includes an apartment building. This could cause the renters to have to move and/or potentially be homeless depending on his/her living situation and financial statistic. Now, if that businessperson happens to be a psychopath or sociopath - does that make the unintentional action evil?
True, but they also have part of brain not acting completely correctly and/or structural brain issues, thus why this personality type is considered a psychological disorder by the DSM IV.
Well, there are multiple psychological disabilities/disorders that exist due to either having parts of your brain be different or just missing. For some examples look in the DSM IV. One example here: you know you can live without all of your brain, but still be alive and unable to walk or communicate? There are actually some people born with this problem.
I had to deal with my psychopathic father and I recognise everything in this video . And the points made about how you should react are completely correct . Eventually you realise that you have to not play their game as it's a no win situation and the best thing is cut them out of your life completely . This also can mean many family and friends that have been ' infected ' by miss information about you and believe all the lies from said psychopath . It's tough but necessary and in the end you can be free from their influence .
What if the sociopath is your husband's ex wife and they have kids??? We can't get away from her. She has told lies about us to my husband's family and turned them all against us. She is constantly using the kids in all sorts of ways to hurt my husband. She found out he got a promotion and raise and quit her job (to maximize how much more she could get) and took him back to court for more child support. She won even though she voluntarily quit her job!!! It is like living in a nightmare trying to deal with this woman.
Keep quiet? What about a duty to warn others, even if it has a price? I think psychopaths need to face a world that knows them and expects them to follow the rules that are intended to apply to everyone, i.e., be a productive part of the community, even if you don't feel like it. And many do use their focus and planning skills to succeed in many fields. We all get our character assessed by others and often receive their opinion about it. Keep quiet? That's a formula for recurring emotional stress as a psychopath moves from naïve person to naïve person. No, the video is here as a warning, and we should not wait to issue it until after damage is done. An understanding of the phenomenon should be a part of a young person's education, and acculturation of young psychopaths into the productive, positive application of their unique traits should be a part of our culture.
MrLaurence007 Of course, Like you said ones intelligence seems stop be lacking in the understanding of how another is made. I have always known that i have no real emotions, and no feelings of empathy towards others, And i simply cannot change that.
There's a difference between a psychopath and a sociopath, but what is it? My sister might be one of those. She shows no emotions whatsoever and harms me physically and emotionally without feeling bad. She's younger than me by 5 years, but she still uses physical abuse on me. I thinks it's the fact that her dad(my stepdad) said I couldn't hit her or he'd hit me, so I never touch her. She takes advantage of the fact that I can't hit her back. Plus, I'm a bit on the sensitive, insecure-ish side so I'm pretty much easy at being her victim. She's also pretty messy and takes advantage of others to do her chores. And, she's really smart. Gets mostly A's in school. Acts like every word that comes out of her mouth is correct. No matter how right I could be about something, she doesn't stop the fight because she wants to always be right... What is she?
02:10 i just read that; young and adult psychopaths have after intensive treatment become less criminal, and better att relationships. and that psychopath is something you are born, but only in principle, upbringing, environment and situations also play, and they are often broken ppl.
everything that is in this content describes the mother of my baby.. fortunately we split but unfortunately I am already damaged and everyone has turned against me, so thanks for this video it will help me especially the "forgive yourself"
It's vaguely possible I'm way off-base here. But it seems that "psychopathy", as described here, is adulterated by popular scientific bias and crosses the line into "narcissistic personality disorder". I believe that it is not necessary for the latter to be present whenever the former is observed (nor, most interestingly, vice versa). As for why this secret dichotomy may be possible without having been observed previously: A "pure" psychopath, while still fully outside of social norms in terms of thought processes and even some actions, should possess the logical capacity to engage society in such a manner as will benefit him without drawing the sort attention which proves harmful to most who step outside the arbitrary demarcations of good and bad behavior dictated by society - and by society's most corrupt agent, government. In short, I am convinced that egomania and other such sins are neither pre- nor corequisite to psychopathy, and I find it rather insulting to ascribe a particular illness of the soul and mind to a broad spectrum of so-called "psychopathic" individuals who cannot all be measured. And who, even were they all measured, could not be measured with any degree of certitude by anyone other than another psychopath. Which begs the question: Who diagnoses the psychopath who can diagnose all the others? Which leads to the inevitable conclusion: psychology can observe and guess and extrapolate and theorize and hypothesize. They can make few informed diagnoses without firsthand experience, and even fewer guarantees of said diagnoses.
While many psychopaths are in fact narcissistic, I do tend to agree with you. Well written too - something not often encountered on RU-vid's comment boards.
Pill Box Psychopaths don't necessarily have "way less" in terms of emotion. The primary difference between a psychopath and you is, generally speaking, _empathy,_ or the lack or reduction thereof. That does not mean that emotion is necessarily stunted - though it certainly can be - it merely means that one's emotional connections to others is weak.
Pill Box I was married to a narc for 12 years a narc and i couldn't disagree with you more. There is very little difference between the two. A narc needs validation and adulation.A psychopath doesn't. Narcs hurt people to feel better about themselves. Psychopaths.hurt people for their own amusement and entertainment.Their is a tendency to find a more of a criminal element among Psychopaths.A narc can respond to treatment a Psychopath can't. Other than that, they are the same. I make no contact at all whatsoever with my ex-wife. If by some astronomical chance my ex- wife enters into a recovery program in earnest, for the rest of her life, I would like to be friends with her and help her anyway I could. Sincerely Greg Bernstein
greg bernstein Psychopaths don't always do that, actually. It's a generalizations with some basis in truth, but like most generalizations lacks a view of the entire picture.
okay, common misconception that psychopaths can't feel love, I assure you we can, its just rare, if your loved by a psychopath, your lucky because we will kill and die for the one we love, but also our love is also a more obsessive love, but love non the less. thank you for your time
We'd get a bit jealous from time to time, if you spend a lot of time with another guy we can get really protective and yes I guess you could say possessive, but It mainly stems from the need to keep the person they love in there life, because in a past relationship they could of had a the exact same thing happen, and they lost that person they love. So yes in short
Not hopefully I stay that way, I am very good at impulse control but if I get pissed off I act on impulse emotion for me is like an impulse control override now keep in mind I don't feel a variety of emotion. Jealousy and anger only. Love I don't feel. But I can still laugh and find thongs funny. But for me when it comes to killing random people, I'd do that yes. All it takes is for someone to be there. I don't know them. But I'd kill them. So that's why I try to controlled impulse while I still can.
counselors aren't really to blame; people only know what we've been taught or experienced. an evil presence has taken over so many, the masses turn a blind eye, and damn, until you encounter that evil, you can't grasp what is before you. heck, even afterwards, nightmares can't compete. thanks to hollywood, people can catch glimpses of it but no one can spot it living next door or standinb next to you. ya honestly think this evil is uncharacteristically good. surprise! this kind would abuse Mother Teresa and have everyone believing she was evil... and in an amazingly short time, she, herself, would seriously wonder if she was insane or evil. afterwards, there is no doubt, evil overshadowed you. you may get away, but another will show up. it just keeps coming, once the eyes have opened. its always been here, but now they just might be catching up with us in numbers.
indeed. its pathetic and apparent;y okay, since @80% of the approx 8 million americans, a year, are female, also, 54% stalker victims end up dead by homicide. Cold. Scarey. Evil. Reality. FACTS. Though, the numbers keep increasing... especially with fakebook and internet, now, 1 in 7 teenagers! 1 in 18 males! ive been learning more about them by watching some of these movies, some, i cant, some, im learning that im not alone, some, im learning that we are teaching people bad things. the ones im dealing with seem ton be employing things they learned gaming, larping, strategies from the battles/wars, etc. its sick. they like it, its fun. its another game to them .
It's so hard to stop contact when I'm so in love but I know I'm dying inside . No longer physical violence has stopped the emotional abuse has killed me inside yet he keeps me he's changed . although I realise after only 5 minutes now that it's all a facade as he always wants something
Once you've encountered one you won't forget them sadly. I broke the trauma bond and went no contact, I still see the predatory stare and hear the voice but it's getting less overtime. Don't mess with these people they are willing to go to lengths that we cannot imagine. If you do get free, don't go back! Run ❤
So as of recent I've learnt that I have a lot of psychopathic traits. I'm only 16 so there's a lot of things I haven't experienced which may trigger certain traits. From this videos criteria I'd say that I fit 1, 2, 4, 5 and 6. I definitely have feelings, guilt, remorse for the majority of situations, although some I don't have remorse when others do. Anybody else the same?
Be careful Wall Street may try to recruit you as a intern , a ' finishing school ' for promising future Sociopaths and if you progress and reach their lofty towers, one day you'll divert your misdeeds, by exclaiming ' your just doing Gods work '
I am not trained in psychiatry , but i read that a true psychopath wouldnt even be introspective enough to search for the traits .. kinda like the ' trees in the forest '.. if anyone has reason to believe this is invalid..let us know.
Tor I suspect someone who intellectualizes their world at a high-degree also intellectualizes themselves in a similar way which in turn could lead to researching these very traits.
yup, right beside hate and envy and need to manipulate and control, even if they claim to love someone, its really about possessiveness, which is not love, like the one here, said, my ex was his and he would turn me into mush cuz he is adept at aikido if i didnt give him peace i would be sorry. I emailed my ex, i'm happy for you and if you have a chance at a percentage of the happiness i had with my husband, go for it! fare well, good bye. (funny, i broke up with him and saw they got engaged the next day.) he also said stuff that he didnt say, but said he was repeating himself. i only have the 2 emails. 42 and 32 year olf=d goth punk pretty boy slaves with tits on estrogen, they live off the state. Do not see professional psychiatritsts, not treatment, but transgender counseling, and love my clothes!!! im sick of doing the laundry, they bring back dirty and trade out for something else, clean, my closet is all over my bedroom. Pants are cut off, seams are torn... somebody took some prescriptions, ty would never do that. someone gave my kitty a limp that lasted 3 weeks, ty would never do that. it would have taken ty 3-4 hours to get here, chris drives an rv. they left me a photo shopped voodoo doll saying they were going to alienate my friends, blow up my motor, brakes fail, run out of gas, muffler fall off, my anniversary date and where i bought my locks. Yup. Check. They dance in front of my motions sensors, i get up, open the door, quietly say, come on in ill kick your ass, i can take you, and i have i scream. Then add, get off my property, get a life, leave mine alone, and my fave lately, Just real calm late at night through my screen, quietly say, you will never have me, and you will never be me. giggle, and resume what i was doing. Lately its the phone ringing to wake me in the middle of the night. big deal. I dont care and darn sure not gettin up, unless i gotta use the restroom. Like, okay, kool, and go back to sleep. im done with fear in my home.
I think that your advice is dangerous, compulsive, and over simplified. You're telling people to immediately cut off all contact with someone when that person isn't qualified to determine the other person's condition, if there is a condition. What if this is a family situation? Maybe it's the psychopath who's framing the other person. You could be giving advice that can break up families indefinitely for all you know. If a "no contact" is going to be put in place, then both parties should be seen by a qualified therapist before that major shot is called to determine what the problem really is. In my opinion, this advice constitutes malpractice.
AGREE! Step ONE should be to get help from a professional...this video contradicts itself throughout, it's vague, not research based, and I do not believe this individual is currently a qualified therapist (he doesn't claim to currently be, though it seems implied after he describes being one decades ago, but note at the end his name is written without any qualifications added to it as a therapist would have. I have a degree in psychology (BA) and feel I'm entirely unqualified to make any of this extreme advice, yet I know enough to say this presentation is at least unethical, and that no qualified therapist would even give this advice based on blanket information, much less something like this video alleging that psychopaths have "no feelings" as a way to tell you are dealing with one, yet also says they will likely get very emotional to get you back into their world...how does one correctly judge if another feelings are legitimate (as I think the presenter means by "no feelings" rather than defining the very broad concept)... Also, the presentation contradicts itself throughout, for instance stating at the begining that you likely knew something was off about the "psychopath" at first meeting but ignored your instincts, then later saying there was no way to know. One of the first advice he offers is to strengthen your social support system, and then he says to keep quiet about it and not tell friends (he didn't even just limit it to mutual friends, he directs to not share with any friends, which I take issue with for many reasons, especially if you have genuine concern for your safety (in which suddenly cutting contact could be very dangerous) but you would then keep quiet and allow others to share the same fate. At the end. this man encourages you to email him if you need help with your situation. PLEASE, IF YOU NEED ASSISTANCE IN ANY WAY FOR THIS SUBJECT, CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL...this man does not act as if he is qualified or a current professional in the field.
You don't need a diagnosis in all cases, however, sometimes, family members have undiagnosed issues and they are the ones causing trouble in the family. This can cause entire families to break apart for good. Instead the family should be getting help from a professional before the whole family is split apart and the issues become far more complex.
+Tina Huston you're not gonna get any help from 99% of therapists. they're gonna be treating you as a potential psychopath, because your anxiety level is gonna be sky rocketing and it is very difficult to tell a psychopath from the victim--and they won't be doing any diagnosis of a party not under their care. they'll put you on an antidepressant so you can "communicate better" (in a state of brain fog) and then they'll be lauding their "success". best to learn how to spot em, learn how to counter rebuffs, and distance yourself emotionally from narcissists of all kinds. what they WON'T talk about is most predators have a neurological problem related to genetic inheritance- depending on geographical area, about 1:4 males are thought to be affected.
+ElevenHundred Sounds and, if you talk to the police or anyone in the politics or in the legal system,, unless you have some CLOUT, $$ victims are mercilessly scrutinized for "provoking" crimes against them. They have been trained in their profession to see 100% of all people as psychopathic narcissists, except themselves of course!
I agree with you, buddy. I actually had a lot of mental issues and was quite abusive a couple of years ago. My peers and family could have abandoned me like a lot of people suggest and I would most likely have became the new Ted Bundy or Jeffrey Dahmer. But they didn't. They helped me, offered me the time and help I needed and closure with my past. Now I'm a high member of our society and have killed all the voices and impulses I used to have. All my anger, all my evil thoughts are now forever gone because people cared and helped me
Having dealt with three people of this type in a work setting (over 30 years), I can say with all frankness. Once they realize you are onto them. YOU ARE SCREWED! My advice. Do like the penguins of Madagascar. Just smile and wave and keep good records. Try not to let them get to you, and be positive to do your job the best you can and be like able to your other co workers. Its all you can do.
first he said there arent bad ppl, just lost souls wandering aimlessly with no regard for other ppl. at the end he says there are evil ppl. i dated a psycho. he may not have had some characteristics but most showed positive for him. He was a power and control manipulator. polite and charismatic at a party but alone at home with him he would put me down, ask where i was going whenever i got up, always a fight when i wanted to go out with friends and never met my parents the 4 years we dated. The only reason i didnt leave until march of 2015 was that he had made me feel like no one else would love me because i was the crazy one. be it a man or woman suffering from this same situation i tell with love and compassion; the best thing to do is leave. i am so much happier and actually have my own gamenight with friends. and with self love and the love of my friends. Strength people.
A psychopath (who is born) and a sociopath (who is made) will MOST CERTAINLY apologize IF it will get them what they want the apology may actually mean nothing but it will appease their target and get them back under their control a narcissist is the one never apologizes cause they never did anything wrong. They could burn your house down and it was actually your fault not theirs
Hello Everyone, Two weeks ago I ve separated from my boyfriend...our relation lasted 7 years. He is a psychopath. Weeks two of our relationship....he s done something horrible to me that I should not have let go. But I did. And during the 7 years, he did not treat me well...I ve left him more than once but he always came back and I ve always forgave him for the unforgivable things he done to me. He never shown any remorse, apologised or took me in his arms to comfort me. For him, I ve always merited the treatments he gave me. He might be a psychopath But what am I to be able to love such a person? Certainly something very wrong with me too? Today, I keep far away from him. I feel like shit but I keep strong and remind myself that soon all will only be a memory. Thank you for reading. E from France
I'm a psychopath, and I've known for a very long time. I've known people like you who try to use these methods towards me, and I really don't care, you're only making an ass of yourself when in reality I don't care. I'm pretty self sufficient, and I am in a position of relative power. People often ask me for help and I oblige without asking anything of them. Videos like this dehumanize people like myself. I've done more good than harm in my life and I generally keep to myself.
+Jon Yeager Same thing i was thinking...lol. I think we are all part psychopaths if any of us have suffered a great deal and we just swallowed it. I feel like, but yea....I think I'm a psychopath or at least part....welp time to go and meditate and see if i can change
***** Sorry, but you are so, so wrooong! Firstly: No, I don't like Trump! Why do you insult me! LOL! Secondly: I'm quite educated, thank you very much :-) ! Thirdly : They even measured my intelligence at two occasions, (the only way we really know how to today, and I admit IQ-tests don't measure all kinds of intelligence. It mostly measures that you're good at IQ-tests) , and I was actually in the top 10 % of the population. And I say this not to brag, only to prove to you that you can't draw conclusions and think that you know a person that easily! Fourthly: English is not my first language! I'm swedish and I live in Sweden and I have never lived in England or the US ! My spelling might be wrong sometimes , especially when the fucking T9 predicts the wrong word (or whatever the word programs in the phones are called today). But while my spelling might be wrong sometimes, I still can speak English quite fluently, as most Swedish people do. I even studied advanced english at the university, even though it's quite a long time ago now... Fifthly : Sometimes I spell words wrongly. But it's okay, at least I speak some more languages than my own .( Not only english) so I can communicate with other people in their own languages. It's often much more rewarding :-). Most people in Sweden speak at least 3 languages today, including their own. May I ask - How many languages do people normally speak in your country with the exception of their own? And notice I don't just assume you're american! Sixthly : I'd like to add: You don't have to feel sorry for me anymore! I , on the other hand, feel very sorry for you and your need to be rude to, and put other people down in a sneaky polite way of false biases, preconceptions and stereotypes, in your quickly drawn conclusions . Seventhly and finally: Please try not to judge people with preconceptions in the future... And learn some humility... You can learn that! You can get better :-) Greetings all the way from Sweden :-)
It is very possible to develops emotions that weren't there. It is all in finding the right button and pressing it. Psychopaths have a hard time feeling emotions and empathy however it doesn't mean it doesn't exist inside of them. Some even hold any little sign of emotion for fear of being inferior.
+accidentsafe On the surface of awareness, yes. Being a psychopath and being psychotic seem to be mixed up easily anyhow. If one is psychotic, emotions such as jealousy, fear, anger, and resentment are constantly present, and pre-dominate. Said emotions are frequently used by a psychotic individual to justify why he/she could/should brutally murder someone else. Psychopath: Specific negative emotions are more sensitive, much more amplified. Psychotic: Negative emotions justify for the individual why he/she should throw a Molotov cocktail inside a house window and kill everyone inside. Particularly feelings of "eye for an eye" 'don't get mad, get even x4'.
You're right. They do have feelings. Their own feelings of happiness etc. But it's limited. No feelings for anyone else though. This video is not very accurate
This is the best-detailed description of a psychopath. I lost my job because HR, and people in leadership positions, managers, supervisors, etc are clueless as to how to recognize them in the workplace. Once she realized that she could not manipulate me and that I was on to her, she did not feel comfortable when I was around. It did not sit well her when I socialized and had honest relationships with other coworkers, she felt excluded. Psychopaths are always looking for naive hosts to do their dirty work for them so that it can't be traced back to her. It took her years, but she succeeded in my losing my job. I couldn't blame HR or my bosses because they were clueless about psychopathic behavior. I wish you could have been the HR person at my workplace, just imagine me trying to argue my case, oh by the way she held a higher position than me, yea.Once again this is the best of all the videos I've seen on psychopaths. Just concurring with you're analytical description of a psychopath was good therapy for me. "EVERY WISH FULFILLED" E.T.
My 75 yrs of varied experience TELL me that psychopathology can come in ALL COLORS, ALL SIZES, ALL ATTRIBUTES. Even the speaker ADMITS as a helping pro that HE DID NOT KNOW! (i read Comments cause it"s often like listening to children squabbling ... THANK HEAVEN a few actually bring intelligent, rational observation to the sandbox.) VIVAN
If I had to put one ASPD on Trump, I'd choose narcissism. He isn't cold enough and he above all does not come off as manipulative. Who is "Clinton"? 1/2000 women are psychopaths so I doubt Hillary is one. Bill may be one, in which case Hillary is influenced by him i.e. he's manipulated her. Cruz is definitely someone I'd suspect of psychopathy. Fake-moralist persona, known to be manipulative, changes political positions if it can get him more power.
Why are you lumping psychopaths in with sociopaths. They are different. Psychopaths get pleasure out of others suffering whereas sociopaths have no desire to hurt others, they just don't feel empathy if they inadvertently hurt someone.
If you identify as a psychopath or a sociopath then you absolutely are not one and clearly haven't researched the subject much at all. And yes they are interchangeable terms referring to the same disorder. You just get ones that are violent and ones that aren't. There is absolutely no hard evidence that there are two forms of this.
What part do you think is retarded? I've read a few books on this and done many nights of research. Many websites do claim there's a difference but all brain scan research refers to the same disorder. I'm yet to find a scientific study that shows that sociopaths have a different brain defect (broken amygdala) than psychopaths. In confessions of a sociopath it explains how they are interchangeable terms and that was written by one. The part about people identifying as one is because they have zero sense of self in their brain. They do not identify at all so it's crazy to see so many people say they are psychopaths when a real one would just act like an ordinary person and do everything to hide the true fact.
I rented a house to a psychopath. My tenant was a pathological liar, a past criminal, charismatic, financial parasite, never wrong. Lived in my house for free until evicted and still loses temper texting me that it is MY fault, I was hostile towards them, and I OWE her money. Go figure.. so messed up...
I have watched this video Many times and it seems to give me the lift I needed to realize I'm the victim and i can't feel bad for myself anymore. if anything I need to stand up for myself and my family. thank you for making this video for normal people with normal feelings.
This presentation gives the best advice about dealing with a psychopath that I have seen. It is advice that is difficult to follow since a person will feel that they should right a wrong or to fight back. Walk away. Show guts and walk away QUIETLY to start your future clean of this person or else you risk being hurt even more. I learned my lessons twice in my life.
Thank you. This is all very helpful in breaking away from my psychopath. It's nice to hear it said aloud, I've found that psychopaths have a way of making one seem super crazy. Wish I knew to stop trying to prove myself to be the victim years ago. Better late than never.
A guy at my dance class made up lies about me because he didn't like that I danced better than him. I told him it's only because I practice more but this didn't stop his vendetta. I tried to just ignore his attempts to psyche me out but I got tired of the stress so have left the class and am looking for a new one.
Thank you so much. I had a gut feeling that I needed to watch this video. I've been looking for answers within myself and trying to be strong while really just being defiant against my own better judgement. You said what I needed to hear, so thank you.
I'm being held hostage by a psychopath who took my archive of writings, photos, videos, he doesn't budge on, he takes it as a battle, he wants to exercise his power, his control, by saying "maybe I will send it soon", or "you must submit to me", the police can't do anything as he lives in America and I don't. He's draining me. He blames me for all his misconduct, he has no remorse, months of me crying and begging him don't affect him in any way. He just gets crueler. I don't know what to do.
Thank you. My psychopath is my foreign husband who has me trapped by my cancer treatments in his native country where I've lived with him for over 10 years. I've approached my family back in the States, desperately trying to get them to see that I'm basically being held by a lunatic, but no-one believes me and will not offer to help me escape. I've called hotlines and reached out to support groups online, but there just really isn't any help for someone in as deep as I am (chronically ill, needing expensive medical treatment, no money of my own, nowhere to go in the states, etc). Sometimes I find myself considering not taking anymore chemo, letting death overtake me as my only escape. But your concrete advise here empowers me. I do have a good brain and over half a century of life experience to help me apply what you suggested. Gratefully the whole "love" thing is NOT an issue at my age... ha! I leave that trap to the teenagers! Thanks again for the encouragement and be well!
My mother is a Psychopath and she is 99. And the bottom line is, everything he says is true and more. If you even get a hit that someone is like that give them the road. If you work with them say yes, smile and get the hell away. Do not engage, to not become their focus cause you will loose. They will smell like roses as they destroy you. Working with someone who is a psychopath you may have to change job before they they ruin your reputation and get you fired. They truly do no have any sympathy in a human context. They hide behind there go human and nice personality until you do something they don't like, Like Breathing, but seriously if you look too smart you are on their radar.
Brilliant advice! I have a meeting with a Psychopath tomorrow, and your video has given me great ideas as how to combat this clown! The psychopath expects and loves it when you are weak, act strong, and silent, in control as it will trip up the intent of the scumbag psycho...Yes, be quiet, however social media into on such clowns can play to your advantage! If you have info on them they hate that power, I have just found out some amazing info just by scanning his name on line, he's up for a crime he is trying to hide at work..hmmm looks like someone will have to tip off the press about this..hmmm lol... Never let the bullies win!!
Many years later, but still a big thanks for this helpful info.. Had cut off contact with a psychopath 2years ago but yesterday he again gave me grief through another person. Cheekily came onto my property and instructed the other person to cut down my trees. I ordered him off my land and the other guy got scared and went away but he just calmly loaded his tractor and stole the wood. Early this morning he was back with another guy and they loaded up my firewood all day right in front of my eyes with him smirking I forbade them to put a foot on my land but he just ignored it. The police here are so corrupt that they always take his side even if I have proof. I have taken him to court but they always just archive my complaint. A man's world!!!! I am a woman of age alone in a Mediterranean country where wives are only house and bed slaves, often beaten. After 25 years here and at my age I have no more family abroad to go back to and there are few other foreigners around in this country. I thus have to make the best of it and that is how I found your advice!!! Thanks again.
This is by far the best discussion of manipulation by anti-social I've read or listened to on this subject. It mirrors exactly what I saw in a previous relationship and how I was able to get away from it. The only way is to GET AWAY and STAY AWAY NO MATTER WHAT. Any time I gave in even the least bit in an attempt to be friendly did nothing but bring requests for me to get in line and be there for that person. I've seen this person burn through a handful of relationships which of course were everyone else's fault. Now the person has no friends and dating/depending on someone 20 years older to even make it through life financially. For anyone worried I'd follow these exact instructions.
Psychopaths do apologize -- but only to further their own sick agendas, not because they are genuinely sorry for causing anyone pain. They know normal people are expected to feel bad when they transgress against others, so they mimic this emotion in order to keep the victim(s) in their lives.
For me this advice is 40 years too late. I've been OK for some time now, but there was a lot of unnecessary grief. It is great you put this out for others.
