Part of why I like Echo is that he can give a bit more of the listener's perspective and ask questions that non-military people may have. Though Jocko usually does a good job explaining
@W 9797 If you apply that logic to anything that literally frightens you, life would be meaningless. It is work and progress that gives Humans a drive to keep going, regardless of and ready for death itself. We all have an end, it’s what we do until we get there that defines us and our legacy.
Thanks Jocko. I lost a tooth due to past drug use, and it has been bugging me a lot. It exposed the last reminder of that part of my life, and it was causing me to retreat away from people, and I have basically quit smiling. Now I am gonna attack the insecurity that losing the tooth caused while I work to make enough money to get implants for the few that I'm sure are soon to follow. People like you, and Jordan Peterson have been a huge help in me getting myself back where I need to be as a person. I quit doing drugs 10 years ago, but spent that 10 years as the same person that was meth'd out just without the drugs. It took Dr. Peterson, yourself, and a few others to help me get my ass in gear, and make something if myself. I have a lot more to do, but I am a far bit better than the person I was yesterday, and I'll be a far bit better tomorrow than I am today. Thank you sir.
Lost 4 teeth to meth. I feel ya bro. Friend lost upper row of teeth. Is what it is. You're still an amazing person with or without that tooth. God bless!
It's like asking "How do you eat an elephant?" - One bite at a time. Gradually expose yourself to the problem, with tiny steps, to whatever level you feel comfortable, until you can take another step forward. Eventually you'll be able to deal with it.
can we apply this to the pandemic :)? cuz there was more news today on how we just gotta let ppl die and at this point its really. really unnecesary. and at any other point ....yep, it would still just be demented
yeah? and I got mobbed by ten guys and didn’t get knocked out. but got some stitches and a few staples. my older brother has a worse temper than me and he’s 6’6” and 330 pounds and deceivingly fast . u think I just bother people? I leave people alone as long as they don’t bother me . I’ve never broken one of my bones . not yet . I’m not all trying to prove stuff to people and I’m friendly . but if I’m around certain types I’m not as friendly. I avoid the type to stir up shit and acting tough .
my entire fam except for my grandpa and grandma all got bad tempers. the women do ...my Tetka ( Macedonian for aunt and I have a million “ Tetkas “ ) carries a pin in her hair that’s like an ice pic but thinner that she got ten years for stabbing some dude with and left him permanently blind in one eye. she’ll kill somebody boi. she’s sneaky too. that guy lost some blood ...let’s put it that way . u don’t gotta come on here telling me something I don’t know. I avoid certain people and places especially now because that’s how I could end up in jail or yeah getting killed.
I have noticed that with me, dealing with my insecurities is easier on some days than on others.. what I try to do is ,if it's bothering me,get it out of the way as soon as possible,maybe first thing in the morning. That one disciplined decision sets me up for the whole day...to GET AT IT SOME MORE!
I’ve come to discover that whenever I start clicking on Jocko videos for “entertainment”, it’s actually me subconsciously looking for growth. So I listen to that. 5(ish) years ago, I came across Jordan Peterson for the first time and decided to get myself together, and away from the malefic miasma and chaos casted by my family. Now I know who I am- truly- and do, with my best intent, to bring out the best around me. 2 years ago, I was introduced to Jocko, and have gone from a boy raised fatherless, to a married man with a child on the way, and the resolute head of his family. Whether or not people agree with how impactful JBP and Jocko are, they helped guide me towards the change I thought I’d never experience
My Dad used to tell me all the time. If that asshole can do it, then so can you. It doesnt matter what the task is or what your feelings may be. You arent the first and you definetly wont be the last. Be confident in everything you do. If your wrong, it will be the best learning experience you could ever have.
Take the insult that makes you insecure and Agree and amplify. For example, “You’re getting kinda fat Tim” Tim responds with “Yeah I thought you knew, I’m six months pregnant” this takes the sting out of the insult and now you don’t have to put up your defensive walls and try to hide your insecurities
Thanks Jocko and Echo. _Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway_ by Susan Jeffers is also good to add to this. She battled breast cancer most of her life (passed away a few years ago) - and very helpful. Most helpful twice in my life. In readjusting to civilian life after 2 tours overseas of constantly going from 1 to 11 and worried how tactful I "looked" in personal/professional relationships. Then again some years later when all the insecurities about my strength crept up on me after being diagnosed with colon cancer and dealing with years of residual problems after being saved by doctors and 7 surgeries over 4 years of living in hospitals post military service. I have no large intestine now and cancer may still return, but I go on, like all other survivors. She basically says be excited about living and thankful for the fact that you have the chance to face your perceived "dangers" your insecurity and comfort zone try to protect you from and go after breaking that barrier.
What I am continually amazed at with Jocko is that out of everything he can use effectively as a weapon with all of his training, he understands that his mindset is the greatest weapon he has. And I love that he’s teaching us to realize the same thing for ourselves.
Hearing Jocko mentioning how he failed , this really she’d light on the saying “we are all human “ , we fail hearing you speak on your failures truly helps me deal with my own personal failures . #GetSome
That was super down to earth and real, it’s hard to imagine men of such power and capability being so truthful and kind in a social setting. People often talk pessimistically of technology, there has been so much good though, if you focus on the right information sources, that is:)
Makes total sense as a fellow gapped toothed man. It can’t fade the confidence that you know that you have. Nothing takes that away. People can sense confidence.
We all got insecurity brother. I've seen everything I loved be stripped away based on my lack of discipline, Stupid habits equal weakness Thank you brothers!
I wish jocko would do a video about learning to give yourself credit. I get after it pretty much constantly and I still feel like I could be doing better but I guess that’s a blessing in disguise.
I've heard it phrased differently: "competence gives confidence". There are times where insecurities should be reframed. It's not "bad" to feel insecure about idiot reckless friends laughing at you for not taking on offroad ski slopes with them. Anyone taunts you into doing something unnecessarily dangerous - reevaluate how much of a true friend they are. But insecurities born out of inefficiency in some useful tasks/skills or anything you like but suck at - those do deserve your attention. And if you like skiing offroad that's your choice, problems only begin if you hate that thing you're insecure about yet that thing has only anything to do with approval-seeking from other people.
Jocko Rocks! He is one of the insipirational speaker I look up to! He is also one of those that inspires me to create a youtube channel to reach out to other also!
Tyrion Lannister: Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you.
I joined the wrestling team in college. Never wrestled before. Within a month I wrestled varsity, beat out a two time PA state champ for spot. Had to learn how to b insecure. Wish I could go back to how I was at 17. Didn’t know what insecure was ...
Acknowledging and owning your insecurities only make you stronger and should be apart of your mindset...they are always present - how you handle them forms the person you are.
That has largely been my problem, too critical of myself, and previous mistakes. I have allowed poor health (including poor mental health) to trap me in my own head (too much time to dwell on the past & things I can not change or have limited to no control over), and distract me from staying on my path.
At 5 feet 10 I used to be insecure about my height so I put myself in the gym with all rugby players where majority of guys were between 6'1-6'6. My insecurity was gone.
I’m 1st Gen American. I’m the first to have a degree in the medical field out of my siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. Unfortunately, throughout my childhood I was told I was nothing. I was stupid. Garbage. An animal. My greatest insecurity is feeling like I don’t have what it takes to be successful in the medical field. Classmates had sisters who were nurses. Parents who were anesthesiologists. But I had nothing. All I had were people who told me I was never good enough. I’m studying more. If I don’t know something, I study till I do. If I feel like I don’t know how to approach a doctor, a therapy, or scenario....I review, and assess. I commit to being better. Based off my ethnicity and way I grew up, I’m insecure of whether or not I deserve to succeed. And I’m racking it one day at a time.
Jocko is the kind of guy that when in a job interview gets asked about his weaknesses he answers “I’m a perfectionist”. Jocko, come on, sure you’ve been insecure besides buds. Be human.
I'm insecure about women rejection or friendzone and stuck for over 10 years since social media came popular. I tried to be red pill but I'm still lose my mental war .
Question: "how do you deal, or have dealt with your insecurities?" Jocko: pregnant pause while he tries to think of when such a thing might have *ever* happened in his life... Kidding aside, another insightful vid, gentlemen
Its a difficult one that taking off and putting on scuba gear remember that one but never took my training further , due to my dad's embarrassing take over bid mind you he was probably right , by the time I did it i could do 1 and a half lengths of the Olympic sized pool underwater , mind you i was only 17 at the time . I was a scrawny boy now aged 60 no or few biting teeth left now and a huge gap , I have one big rabbitty tooth left and my right arm scarred and somewhat dysfunctional love my new kettle bell though , orange !. You did the right thing if i hadn't had orthodontic work early on my teeth would have probably been fine but braces and extractions and damaged vasculature probably started it all let alone the fact he wouldn't let me have injections first time I went to the dentist , what a life .. Loved him to bits though "Big Ron ...my old man ....." .God bless
Jocko had ABSOLUTELY CLARITY of his goal and purpose...he was NOT going to fail BUDS. If you don't have clarity of purpose you will NEVER overcome the insecurity you face when going after something. GET.CLARITY.NOW.
Vitiligo? No factor. I was really insecure about my condition regardless what people thought of it. I was overweight and I was insecure about that too. I lost weight and owned Vitiligo, I made it a part of my self. I looked good, people actually found it sexy aswell because I was confident about it. Some people didn't but it didn't matter to me. I gained weight this year and it doesn't bother me at all. It is all in your head man.
I'm insecure about the way my long femurs and wide hips make my body look after having a weird growth spurt that messes up my body proportion. My arms , torso, shins are too short compared to my ugly hips and long femurs. It also makes functionality difficult, mechanically I have to bens my back and knees more to reach my hands to pick up something then the regular person.
Don’t give a damn. I’m about the same size as you but it doesn’t really matter. Work on what you can control. Probably cliche but it’s true. Fake it till you make it.
For some reason I am not afraid to talk in front of a group of people, but after I am done talking, I get nervous and stiff because I have made up false feelings of people judging me and looking at me after I'm done talking. I think its funny though and I laugh at myself when I think back on it. But it is also very strange. I never heard of happening to any one else ever. Anytime I recognize a fear or weakness that can be eliminated, I get excited and I attack it. I guess you could say I get excited and scared at the same time. Maybe the only way to get stronger is repeatedly attacking those same insecurities and fears.
Jiu jitsu reminds me alot of drowning, I had a few experiences with almost drowning as a child, and God damn is it terrifying not having oxygen. But BJJ also helps that fear
