This Is Why You Don't Succeed | Simon Sinek on The Millennial Generation 

Using social media too much is really WASTING YOUR OWN LIFE to watch another person’s life!

I deleted my social media 2 months ago. Absolutely no regrets. I got sick of the gossip, drama, and people faking their lives. It was revolting

I've deleted facebook and Instagram and focussing on reading, growing and reskilling to build a life full of meaning and purpose. I first heard SImon Sinek speak about 4 years ago and it really resonated with me and sparked my personal development journey. Its been hard and tough going, especially with the Pandemic, I've really put myself under the microscope and asking myself hard questions in order to find my WHY

Agreed. I was born in 71 and I have never understood the fascination of watching someone else’s life while putting yours on hold. I have no social media , I’m out there living!

I agree and I permanently deleted all social media (except RU-vid which I use for DIY and motivational videos only) and haven’t missed it for one second. In fact, I’ve been much happier.

Totally agree. I was born in 1984 and I'm just old enough to remember the old ways. When we left home without a phone , ext, ext. Life was good. It was slower. It was fulfilling and wholesome. Life today feels so artificial

I got rid off social media about a year and I never looked back. I have noticed myself being more self aware and a lot more aware of my surroundings. It was one of the best decisions I have made. The moment you realise it is not for you and you don't unnecessary validation is the moment of being really awake.

almost 3 years ago, at almost 22 years old i almost took my own life. I was abused as a kid, broken, depressed, anorexic, bulimic, suicidal. I went in & out of psych units like it was a game of tic-tac-toe. Suicide watch. I was on enough Antidepressants to kill a horse. I hated myself. I wanted out. I wanted the pain to stop. The gaslighting* to end. *(when a psycho makes a sane person question their own sanity, and thus think they themselves are the insane one). I wanted power. I got into witchcraft. I thought it would give me the identity i wanted, to be set apart from people who hurt me. It only made me sicker. Sicker. Thats what it did to me. The doctor said id never get well. That i would suffer severe Chronic Manic depression, and never be well, that id be stuck on antidepressants all of my life. I would plot suicide on a daily basis, binging and purging my food as often as opening and closing a door. The pain was too real. People choked me. Assaulted me. Told me i was ugly, i felt worthless. Nothing ever got better. Then my mother died. The (1) & only soul who ever loved /emotionally supported me was removed from the earth. I was stuck living with people who broke me, ruined my identity, thus causing me to hate God. I thought God hated me, that he was just like the ones who tortured me, a family of abusers, who cover up all their actions with the mask of religion. I didnt know that God is on my side. I didnt know that Jesus would Love and Defend me, and fight for me and that He later would heal me, rescue me from Family. The ones who caused me pain. The ones who choked me for wearing a necklace. I moved out after family threatened to throw all my belongings on the front yard, and have me permanently institutionalized in an insane asylum, when they were the ones who caused my mental illness via abuse. They blamed me for the abuse they did to me. To take my life in an insane asylum when they were the ones who made me suicidal. Next morning i spoke with my dead moms parents who let me live with them. I stayed on the antidepressants, prescribed. But they only made me sicker. I got deeper and deeper into witchcraft, thinking it was a solution. But it made me even more suicidal. Self hatred was inescapable. I decided i was going to kill myself. I was going to take all my pills. But then Jesus stepped in. I didnt die. I surrendered my life to Jesus to make me well and heal me. The deity i blamed for me being abused wanted to heal me. He Was fighting for me and Loved me all along. He wanted to love me. He wanted to give me His Heart. HE LOVES ME. JESUS. LOVES. ME . Jesus miraculously healed me - i am off all drugs and dont need them and i dont have any mental illnesses. I work a job and am totally healed , full of joy. I’m now a born again Christian, in my 20’s who wants the entire world to know that JESUS WANTS TO HEAL YOU HE. LOVES. YOU. Nuff said.

I stopped watching television, using facebook and instagram since mid July 2020 and have never felt better. I don't really have any urge to be recognised or need to show others what I'm doing or what I have. I'm at peace finally.

It does sadden me. You never see kids playing outside anymore. I've seen so many people walk into a busy street completely unaware of traffic because a device had them snared. Take a breath. Look up. See your world. Interact. Give a stranger a smile. So much is being missed.

The timing of this is perfect, considering that social media is now a propaganda tool.

Everyday I feel thankful for my parents who taught me how to balance my phone usage along with my life. When we were at a dinner table, phones and electronics went into my mom's purse. When it was time for bed, we left phones in the kitchen. At 21, I'm not addicted to my phone, I can go days without using it and I only ever pick it up when my mom, dad, or husband call me Admittedly, it can be lonely because I'm not friends with people my age. They're all so busy with their phones. I remember trying to make friends in my community college classes, and they all just buried their faces harder into their phones, not one person wanted to speak, but they only spoke to each other through messages and Instagram posts. It was like that example you gave, where you're sitting with someone, trying to talk to them, and they go "Uh huh, mhm." I don't know what the future will hold, but I know that when I have kids, I refuse to let them waste their life looking at other people's lives through a screen 24/7.

Simon changed my life when I watched him on Tom Bilyeu & a few other channels. I gave up all social media platforms except RU-vid over 3 years ago & it changed my life. In the first year alone I read 45 books. I rediscovered my passion for books & became very present in my life, you will not regret it & your life will change so much 💫

It does take a lot of discipline to NOT let social media steal our time. Make sure you are happy in real life NOT just in social media 🖖

Born in 1987 and I remember the 15-20 minute walks to elementary/ highschool without a phone. Meeting up with friends on the way and just, joking around and laughing the whole time. I'm a HS teacher now and man, times have changed.

When you ignore people who care for you in real life in exchange for an online fix don't always expect them to forgive and forget .

This is gold, not only for our children but for ourselves!

No one and nothing can beat the person who doesn't give up!

I think this fits more with gen z than millennials. As a millennial I still remember my childhood when we didnt have cell phones, when we had to go outside and play. Our generation still has a problem though but the generation after us has it worse.

I left social media for good tonight and for my mental health.

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Your business will make you rich but investment makes and you keep you wealthy, we all deserve to be successful and have financial freedom, I pray everyone here becomes successful

It's actually really sad but also really scary, when you think about it. Social media slowly eats up your brain little by little. Until nothing is left but emptiness in your soul.

I grew up in the 90s and remember going outside to play. My first device was a gameboy, you could t get me away from it, and than it was iPods, than the touches and now smartphones. I spent so much time on social media as a teen and I had a job that I felt paid me just enough. A few years ago I got off social media and don’t use it at all anymore. Earlier this year I realized I was depressed and stuck at the same job for 10 years. I made a very difficult decision leaving that place because I was comfortable but now I have a career in a company I can grow with, and six months in I’ve already been promoted and gotten 2 pay raises. It’s all about having the courage to do what you believe is right for you, not the approval of others around you or people who follow you on the internet. Just do you.

And the effects of social media, like isolation & depression is increased even more so because of the pandemic & everything that 2020 brought upon the world. The corona kids growing up in this... I can’t even imagine🥺

JUST GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA!!!! trust me it feels amazing

I can't believe how he just summarized life in 13 min

I am glad I listened to this on my way back to home after playing in the basketball court. It reminds me how great it is to put down my cellphone and go outside with family enjoying the fantastic time. Nothing is free in the world. When you thought you’re using the social media apps for free, you’re devoting time on something you’ll never get paid off and you’re losing something that’s truly valuable.

I miss the time that we didn't have cell phones and social media. I never felt so alone in my life. Being with someone that is always on his phone and can't have a normal interaction is so frustrating. You talk to them and they are glued to that piece of technology

*I will succeed for my parents, for all they have made for me! I hope you will too!!*

I’m so grateful for my relationship with God, Christianity, the belief of the afterlife and my church community. It’s freed me from this very specific issue

When you get rid of social media; you’ll understand that all of these “world issues” that you should care about...don’t exist. Then you have to deal with your real problems. I don’t miss it for a second.

People need to start reading the classics again!

“Change equals self-improvement. Push yourself to places you haven’t been before.” ―Pat Summitt

Sooooo true i am born 1994 got my first gameboy at age 6 then nintendo playstation computer mobile followed... I became addicted to alcohol, porn and social media and had big difficulties studying and focusing.. not until age 25 i had enough and detoxed myself changed my life and learned how to learn, how to focus, how to build healthy habits and began to go to college for civil engineering again after i failed hard at age 20 and my grades are so good i could not have imagined a few years ago... my life was so empty and frustrating thank god i escaped the vicious addictions and habits... it`s like my life just started and i was a zombie before... maybe my story encourages someone reading this.. God bless you guys ♥

It is really hard to let go of social media. The craves keep coming and coming until you reinstall the apps and get hooked again.

When you're smart enough, nothing can destroy your life. You need to know the value of life.

The modern world is a sea of distractions. Only those that can successfully avoid them can succeed

I'm a millenial and I can totally relate to everything that you said. I blamed myself for not being good enough. But now I work at my own pace, look only at myself, see how better I have got than yesterday and it feels proud. I am much happier. Thanks Simon, you're doing a great job!

I have limited social media to a minimum and I don't care that I'm out of the norm...

*“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”* ―Ralph Waldo Emerson The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day...* 🖤

The #1 thing I don't do first thing in the morning is checking my phone. Hate it. It's stressful. 💓

No social media for this guy. I went down that rabbit hole and felt the pain that was associated with it. NO MORE.

I am going through most of the things you have said, and i have to say thank you for opening my mind, the language and mindset of leadership is lost, and ignored th feeling most of the time but now i see its a problem that i need to train myself out of as it makes my life miserable when it shouldn't be. Big up to the speaker and whoever uploaded it.

Years ago Oprah Winfrey interviewed a family of 4 addicted to their computers and cellphones, I watched the show thinking how can they be addicted to these gadgets. Many years later smartphones made it to my country and I'm here with my kids battling with social media addiction. I look back thinking how simple life was back then, there was no instant self-gratification, seeking validation from strangers on the internet. Life was great, however, I know what the problem is now It's a matter of dealing with the situation. The responsibility and power to change lies with social media users.

This is why the power of the mind is “ESSENTIAL” feed your mind things that you can grow from, like a walk in the park, a book, look at the stars ✨.. the answer we are looking for is in part there! not mindless things that feed your “ego” “Don’t live in your head, you belong somewhere higher” we live in a time where you can hide behind technology and be anything you want, shame! You can be anything you want if your true to the one person that matters most, “yourself” ✌🏻

I'm a Millennial, thank you for this video, it reminds me to become more balance with real life and internet. Thank you Mr. Simon and Motivation Madness.

I have heard him so many times. Can't agree more. He's absolutely right but this addiction of Social Media is so bad and is difficult to quit.

A happier life awaits away from the screen.

I'VE BEEN SEEING POST EVERYWHERE ABOUT FOREX TRADING AND CRYPTO CURRENCY, A LOT OF PEOPLE KEEP SAYING THINGS ABOUT THIS TRADING PLATFORMS PLEASE CAN SOMEONE LINK ME TO SOMEBODY WHO CAN PUT ME THROUGH...?

having grown up during the time before internet, it is a relief to find someone with the same perspective and concerns about device addictions as I have. my 13 y/o grandson cannot get out of bed or go to school due to nighttime video game addiction and living with a completely disconnected parent. he will be staying with me soon so that I can help stabilize all of the above 😓

So powerful! Parents and media is to blame because there’s no control of the devices and the amount of time spent on these things. Thank you for speaking about this .

Not really into motivational speeches, but this one is outstanding! Reasonable, logical, and spot on.

This is terrifyingly accurate. One of my friends ended his life recently. Needles to say it was quite a shock.. I wish I could've helped him somehow, but I had no idea how he was actually feeling. He was very outgoing, smart and we'll dressed guy. Looking at his social media, you'd laugh at anyone who said he wasn't happy... Even a few days before this incident, what he shares is him horse riding and enjoying the sun. And yet, there was nothing but a dark storm inside... Please ask your loved ones how they feel. You never know when is the last time you get to see them.

I've experienced it in first person, and believe me, don't make that mistake. I am finally doing something about it and it's powerful the change is making in my life. Focus on what's really important to your life, and don't get distracted. We all have a mission which is waiting to be accomplished. Let's get it done people.

My parents never let me have a cell phone until I was 14.

I have quit all social media during college. Now I am very successful engineer with salary that only 1% of people in my country have...

I love all the encouragement & motivation in the comments section 💛💛 I pray that everyone who watches this video has a blessed & productive week! Don't forget to breathe so you can bloom 🌱

100 percent. I left it 9 mo ago my life is better for it. I love my peeps but I truly dgaf whatvthey eat di or feel daily , who got time for that.

I laughed so hard when he started talking about parents who tell their kids they are special and can have anything they want. I’ve always told my girls that they better work hard because the world won’t think they are as special as I do. The world is a hard, judgmental place. You don’t get anywhere in life without working hard and earning it. They get it. Not sure why parents think coddling their kids is what’s best for them.

I'm 53 and don't have kids but man the last few minutes of this video made me cry. It's so deep.

Ya I haven't used any social media for over a year now and I don't miss it at all. These people looking for constant validation online need to look inward and address their insecurities.

This is really going to help my life and relationship with my wife and children coming up… really glad I felt to watch this video this morning… my life just got better. Thank you

86 baby here and I can fully contest to this. I had a father that told me "pull yourself up and move forward", "things will be ok, just keep focused on what you're doing right now". There was no heart to heart. There was no what are you thinking about right now? It sucked and I didn't even know it, it was NORMAL. As soon as I got into a real relationship, with someone who cared about me, my perspective QUICKLY changed. I realized I couldn't lie anymore to make myself look good, or lie about things I'm doing and get away scot free. I had to face truths, deal with real hurt, talk about things. If only people would talk to each other in person more...they would see how healing it is. Too much judgement going on, and not enough understanding. I think all of you .. or most of you, will agree. -Much love from MN

Even look at the comments here. The older generation writes, the younger generation places quotes from other people... To think you need to take time. Your time, your thoughts. Write about them and remember them. Do something with them, they are more valuable than any quote because they are part of who you are..

Seriously some of the most profound RU-vid content I’ve come across. Thanks for this.

Social media not really connects people, it actually disconnects them. Imagine being in the comforts of your home, in front of your phone and spending almost your day in front of your social media on your phone. Isn't that a form of disconnect from the outside world? Instead of spending your time into something meaningful, people chose to be in social media. I think it's the reason why people lose their authenticity. Because of social media, people only show what others want to see in them and of course, just the good ones. People seek validation through social media, make decisions by asking people on social media and everything in between. We never noticed that it has corrupted our minds and our humanity. As many people say, anything in excess is evil.

You nailed it Simon - parents are to blame for the ills in our society. Kids don't own or control anything, they just receive and indulge.

You are spot on Simon!! Time to make these teens self-aware.

I really needed this today. Thank you

If you want to be successful have the mindset of the rich Invest more and spend less. Don't give up your dreams..

Your speech should be mixed with gold . Whenever i feel distressed i just wanna listen to this man

Wish I would've seen this video a little while ago. I took the jump from one career into real estate and quit after two years in real estate. I've always felt I didn't put my best foot forward and was depressed about the effort I put forth. The challenge I have is wondering whether the career I fell back on is truly my passion in life, or if I just never put enough effort towards the real estate journey and convinced myself I wasn't cut out for it. After watching this video, I've deleted all social media. I felt it would be good for me personally and somehow, a girl I'm dating became defensive about it when I told her. It led me to believe that we truly are controlled by social media beyond what we tend to comprehend.

Love this video, the message is so deep we need to live , laugh and love more than trying so hard for attention and validation .just to be here in this world is a blessing we need to value that more than anything.

His message to me is about using all technology in a "balanced" way; it is a tool that can be helpful when used correctly; it is about leadership in schools and business and ultimately, parenting that will need to join forces in order to support our youth to find success in their futures. He is challenging each of us to lead.

Best video I have seen in years ! This man is passionate, smart and wise ! Thank you !

In this era of social media and having an overload of information at our fingertips , its hard not to constantly compare yourself to others . It´s hard to see all of the vacation pictures , the couple pictures and everyone seemingly perfect lives on display . However, what we don't always realize is that we´re comparing our behind the scenes to someone else´s highlight reel . People only publish things they want you to see & we need to remember that . `Comparison is the thief of joy !!´

Tell them they need to get off social media and they’ll say “but you’re using RU-vid, that’s social media too”. This is how addicted they are. They think all social media are created equal. That’s like saying LinkedIn is the same as Twitter. Although LinkedIn is definitely starting to get really aggravating with the posts.

I totally agree with everything you said. Thank you so much!

Everyone knows it but only few are aware of it.

So long as you keep trying again and again you will surely win on that one thing.. You can't succeed when you focus on too many things at a time

The one missing element to this incredible explanation is that it entirely explains (most of) modern social movements.. it is the only sense of belonging most people have, and it is being used as a tool by companies and politicians.. and when a person realizes that down the line, as I did, it is soul destroying

Glad that people are getting more and more aware of good and bad about social media.

This is absolutely the BEST video/talk I have EVER heard regarding the toxic effects of social media. It's too bad that this video is not mandatory to show in every single school, each and every year starting in 2nd grade. The sad thing is, it most likely would not do a darn thing to curb or stop this massive addiction to social media. We, with a "refernce point" before the internet/cell phones/social media may be older, but we sure were lucky to be born when we were. We lived in an era that no one will EVER see again, and I am so glad I had a chance to live it.

I am here at the age of 17 and i am also suffering from mobile addiction. This video is very helpful I am coping up after this . Thank you sir for your help. 😇😇

Oh Lord what an amazing video. I M 52 years old end it really scares me day by day how youngest people lives now a day

asking for help in the real world is the skill we are struggling for, yet it is essential for life

Finally I understand how it works! THX SO MUCH!

Yes. Also children with sexual identity issues. The rise of this is alarming and no one is linking the connection. There is a connection.

I'm not a millennial but I agree with this video. This generation cannot live without their phone with them.

Took away my social media for over a year now and social nightouts for 6 years and I felt better. Nobody knows what I'm up to and never wasted anytime on scrolling on other people's lives.

I just had a 75 year old patient who wouldn’t. Put down his phone after surgery to rest. I was so surprised and irritated . Because he should have some control over phone addiction and focus on healing. I turned off everything and moved the phone away but he kept fidgeting. Now that I’m a. Nurse I really see the levels of anxiety and the racing minds that come in. I personally have to work on it too. But I’m 43 so I remember a time where I didn’t have a phone and I know how to practice turning it off

So True... People looking down on their phones constantly, while walking, while waiting for the bus, in a line, then at home, then before bed and when waking up and even in the bed, then add looking at screens at work and/or home (and hopefully not while driving) .... So much missing out on the beauty of the skies, natures beauty, birds in the air, enjoying your loved ones while still alive, seeing your surroundings and learning cognitively and using all your senses... Kinda sad to me. An addiction that hopefully the medical field,, media and society makes us aware of what we are doing to our lives.

I deactivated my Facebook about 10 months ago and I deleted all my other social media... Instagram is the only one I have. I feel a lot happier not looking at my Facebook every 5 minutes. I’ve kinda figured out that social media was making my life worse, it’s so toxic and made me feel incompetent... it wasn’t doing anything to better my life. Instagram is the last crutch, the only reason I have it is so I don’t have to get back on Facebook. I think every American should watch this video. Social media is ruing our lives.

It's not just work and life that we need to balance, it's a little bit of everything around us.

It's sad because then bullying comes into it if a kid does not have socials while their friends have stuff. Another topic which is tough. Amazing talks 💯

Thank you so very much for opening my eyes today. I've been asking myself for a while what was not okay/imbalanced in my life, without being able to pinpoint it. Going to make strong decisions + choices today. Thank you ❤

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I was born in 1982. I actually didn’t even have a cellphone when I went off to college, and I survived. Most of my friends didn’t either. We had the phone numbers to each others dorm room and we would call in the evening when we were most likely to be in our room.

Very well made video and some very important insight and messages. Thank you for this!