How to end stress, unhappiness and anxiety to live in a beautiful state | Preetha ji | TEDxKC 

To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)

Learn to let go, stop trying to control situations or people... it’s how you get rid of stress and unhappiness.

Is anyone here just going through the motions and feeling so alone in such a big world? Are you feeling stuck and lost as if you don’t know the next step to take ?

I’ve had social anxiety, Panic attacks, and insecurities for half of my life. I feel as is life isn’t worth living sometimes and it’s hard to think positive. But I am doing my hardest to find the lighter side to life. I am a mother of 2. One 6 and the other 3. They are happy, loving and positive children. Sometimes I can’t believe they are my babies they are so happy and they love me for me. This is why I am here. To find support and guidance to become better and love myself.

I wish all of you to live in a beautiful state, hugs from me.

Best tip for myself so far was SLEEP and taking a break from the phone. Also focusing more on self-care. Love yourself and your body, you only live once 💕

She is right...about when we are stressed we mentally preoccupied with ourself. Nothing else matters.

"The power of peace is always within you" what a great quote 👌🏻👏🏻

A beautiful speech by a woman who clearly lives her values. I have anxiety and this gives me hope.

The moment she said inhale and exhale with smile .. when I started doing that I couldn’t control my tears... lots of thoughts were pumping in my head.... am stressed!! Yes am

I came across this today and it was really needed. I’m currently being evicted from my place as landlord is selling and there is a housing crises in my country so no places to go so I’m facing homelessness, I’ve just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid arthritis,found a lump and I felt like I hit rock bottom. I felt like giving up. But listening to this amazing woman explaining as to why I’m staying in this stressful state it made sense. All I was thinking about was what was going wrong for me and not looking around at what everyone else is going through and when I stopped and did I suddenly felt not so alone. In a strange way I finally felt hope. So thank you. This may very well have saved my life. And I truly hope it can do the same for anyone who is feeling this way. ❤

Absolutely beautiful, I was fully of anxiety, hate and pain, I’ve always been selfish and self centered. Immediately I felt the energy in my heavy heart release, when I started thinking about others around me and my community of friends and family, I still have some work to do but this sent me in the right direction.

I am 56 years of age. I was wondering if you could adopt me. What a wonderful life mother you are. xx

In the middle of this speech, I started to tell my mom about how I am not able to focus on things and sentences people say and my mom said: "it's your psychological problem you are always so focused on what is happening and how you are reacting to it or how much of stress something in bringing to you." I was angry that her words were just hurtful to me and felt uncompassionate. Them Mrs Preethi came to the self-centric preoccupied part. I am blown here I confess I was always regretting the things that happened to me and the situations life put me into and all the wants and unsuccessful works..but now I am after the meditation know what being present means and allowing myself to do what is right and needful at the time to focus on.

Very powerful speech! It is so true that many of us get caught up in "me, me, me" when we are going through a hard time. This is when we should be aware of how many people are having so many more problems than us, are truly suffering. I was feeling down a few weeks ago but I went to a fast-food coffee shop to buy gift cards for homeless people, if I met any through my day. I can't believe how happy I was the day that I bought them, I feel we need to be more selfless.

Don't try to force yourself out of stress..just focus on good and do something you love..only if you allow yourself to get in a beautiful state .. Stress will flow away.

The reason for your anxiety-Whenever u are scared(you must be scared of something , and you must be wanting to come out of it ), you feel it's controlling you and whatever you think you can't do or will happen, you start believing it and then you start fighting the feeling cause you don't like it obviously , but when you fight what u believe in, it just can't happen, you can't get eid of your anxiety this way. The solution- The first thing to feel is that you don't have to fight it, treat it as your friend who is trying to understand how your mind works(Believe that thinking like this will work, know it will).This relaxes you a bit. Now, just analyse every thing that you believe in related to whatever negative thoughts come to you or what you are scared off in other words, and ask yourself ,is it even real, what do you really think about the thing you are scared off(you will.get answers here), what could have made it what it is today(answer to that is over thinking and trying to fight what you believe,but try to find natural answers, what you think happened, the fear became big cause you made that a big issue,it is actually nothing but a thought), also if u find it is real and you can do something that makes fear go (like if you are fearful of going broke, plan for what you can do about it). Now happily do what you can if it is real, and happily do nothing if it's unreal, you have understood it is nothing but your imagination at extreme work). You will get better. Have fun.

I just moved out from my childhood house to live in a boarding house for college. I've been feeling so alone, and uncomfortable in this totally new environment. I guess I'm just so used to having my loved ones around me, that it feels really strange to be completely alone. It gives me anxiety, and I'm still struggling with it, especially since it effects my academic performance, but I am working on it tho. Despite all that, I'm grateful that my family still looks out to me through phone calls and texts. I hope I can finally live in a beautiful state, and to anyone who's also struggling, please know that you're not alone, we are never alone in this. We just have to remind ourselves sometimes, because we can be unkind to ourselves. let's wipe our tears, and live another day :) let's find our beautiful state and cherish it. Lots of hugs from an anxious stranger🤗🤗

She just made the audience hug each other.. this was beautiful.

This really spoke to me: @ 9:05 "Actions (in a beautiful state) arise from connection, not from an ideal." If you can think upon this deeply and apply it, it rings so true.

When stress & anxiety are already established : Please close your eyes and listen... Appropriate relaxing music to free your mind and restore happiness.. Listen and smile... Open your eyes.... Great speech !

Its an awesome talk. She touched the core part - suffering's root cause is "obsessive self-centered thinking" etc. So many great insights.. Thanks Preetha Ji for sharing such great Wisdom to all of us

This is actually a part of my lesson in nursing school I had to watch this for my home work but believe me when I say she was speaking directly to me. This video is life changing.

Ya this works for people who think they have anxiety or stress. People who have real anxiety and real stress, this doesn’t work.

I learnt many years ago the reason for our unhappiness is the stories we tell ourselves. We sit there, telling ourselves the terrible story of how he left me and how well that persons life is. We tell ourselves the story about the people who suffered 100 years ago and get upset about it, we tell ourselves how better this person and that person it etc etc We need to stop telling ourselves such stories. I try hard to live in the present and not to take myself to places that make me sad...why do that to yourself. It's all about retraining the mind.

It relates to the very fundamental principle of "more you look for happiness, more unhappy you become". Realizing Joy as our natural state through awareness and meditation, and celebrating it with the world is the way we all have been looking for.

this viedeo helped me 1000%,i have been in a stressful stress for allover 30years of my life,but got me out there to a beautifull state,i ask God to never return back.may God bless you preethe ji,u healed and comfort many of us.

One of the better Ted Talks I’ve listened to. She gives the answers at the end. Quit being pre occupied w self. Me, me, me!! It’s way easier said than done. But def can be done. ❤️

As someone recovering from childhood trauma, I have to agree with the lady. Yes, my stress is caused by my parents' incessant preoccupation with themselves, and their ignoring of their child's needs, who never learned that she is worthy of everything good in this world and is now 28 yrs old and still plagued by unhappiness, anxiety and depression.

I am also suffered from severe stress from last 8to 10 years but I was unaware from my thought that this type of thought called stress. But now I understand such negative and suicidal thought is called the depression. But I want to cure by myself. I don't have money to consult doctor. So I want to cure by self because I have created by myself.

To say that this was unhelpful is an understatement

Like the Yesme and Nome Monk story. I've heard it before. Preetha used it well. Lovely speech. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I agree with you on so many levels. I hope by some miracle ( and it is already happening) you can change most of India and make it a safe place for women, a beautiful place which it is, a place were slavery is completely abolished and where the caste system is in our history books and not in every day living. Preetha you have a large canvas. I believe you will paint your story and it'll be beautiful. Wish you love and light always.

I paused uni this year because of the worst anxiety in my life I fear failure and becoming a failure but I am working on this and will return when I am ready

Great speech and she is also gifted with a beautiful and powerful voice. Her voice is full of emotion and passion. the audience are hooked and so am I. 😊

The power to peace is always within you 🙌🏾

One of the best TED Talks ever!!!This video changed my life and solved many frustrations I had..I watch it on and on!!!

What a beautiful speech I was able to see inside myself in meditation 🧘‍♀️ and was able to just smile for no reason it was great 🌈💕🇦🇺🦋x

Preethajis Talk is Highly Educative and meaningful It will open Everybodys eyes All the Best to her ||

Pure gold! Clear , powerful video. Excellent presentation. One of the best on RU-vid.

Her voice is so calming & gentle...😘💓

Her voice is so calming

Thought I was the only one suffering from anxiety everyday. Drives me nuts! I just want to be happy and live happily without all that aniexty .

Hebreos 13:30 dice "si tienen una palabra de estímulo para el pueblo dígala" Por lo tanto, debemos animarnos unos a otros con frases que promuevan la unidad, la felicidad

the power of peace is within me ✨

I broke into tears during this one. I just stayed the course with the meditation and focusing on her words. Cheers to being a human.

She is amazing! I want more!

She gives us mind blowing explaination about how we stress free

Her voice is soothing. Definitely a life saving video.

Hello everyone who read this msg in this pandemic situation...I know that everyone having different stress,pressure,in this situation some one lost his lovable person in this situations...I konw that condition is difficult to handle physically,mentally but remember that difficulties makes us stronger and the difficulties come towards only that person who has ability to face it...😉 so have a faith in yourself and face this situation,there are lots of memorable happy moment yet to come.....✌️😀😀

I loved your speech so much! How truthful it is. It described literally my state over the past two years. It helped me a lot, if even for the moment. Thank you for sharing this with us 🤩

I'm feeling better now ☺️ thank you for this beautiful therapy ❤️

That was beautiful. What a gem of a video to have found.

Short meditation was awesome.. it really make me feel good 😊😊😊😍😍😍 thanks ...

Wow...just wow is coming from my heart

In anxiety the best thing to do is to educate yourself self and understand the fact that what is real .... Anxious thoughts made seems so real that we think that this is the reality but it's not... You can see the world as you like........ So don't look at it at by the anxious way but by a calm and happy way...... Last month my anxiety got too much (which is growing in me from the last 3 or 4 years)... I get relaxed in those years by hearing and understanding and putting geeta quotes in my life....... But last month I suffered a lot but I never give up and everything that happened to me and that I thought helped me..... The first thing that I done is giving a notice to myself that exactly which thoughts made me like this Because you know thoughts control emotions.... The best that my inner soul told in those anxious days is that my legs are moving ,my hands are working and every process in the body is working fine .I have plenty for eat...and I can get the good thought inside me... Don't wait for the happiness to come because it's always inside you but you just have to find it..... Don't try to find what makes you happy in that you may do bad things to you but find the Happinesss in the inside... And the final answer that I got to make myself better... Is thinking of positive thoughts and doing good karmas...... I was going through OCD and hypochondria I am a 15 years old boy...My parents never thought to take to to hospital that's why nor I thought about it...... My hindu culture and the wisdom of what is gyan... Helped me the most .. and like she told never ever try to kill your anxious thought but by with the fact that you know that these are your anxious thought .... And their is a reason for it...Then just calm yourself... Tell the truth..... The inner truth that come from the inside.... Don't try to fight just feel calmness and sereinity..... I know the frustrated feeling that come when the thinking don't stop but calmness is the real thing tmto be done.... The fact that I am here and right now doing the good things for my soul... Is the proof.... Don't worry god is with you he is with everyone....... I pray everyone can get the gyan that he give me... Thank you god 🙏🙏

When you are in your “yes state” you literally glow. She’s beautiful outside and in, and so are you

It was amazing!!! Thank you Preethaji

Well damn! Now my depression, anxiety and stress have all flown away!!!

For the first time meditation worked for me..... I'm in a bad state right now and this just confirmed that I'm depressed. But I'm hopeful that I'll be alright

Thank You Preetha Ji

Worth commenting, superb, great job,can't express how soothing this meditation is and how clear her views are

I love her voice especially how she says “herrrrrrr”

This was so beautiful so I thank you Preetha, for sharing this process with us.

Wow! the way of her speaking style

thankyou TEDx talks and to the beautiful session. Learnt a lot.

Very impressive presentation.. Happiness blooms from within. All the power is the power of spirit. We have to lift ourselves by ourselves.

Thank you for sharing and helping so many. Personally found it an oversimplification of the topic - "all your stress, unhappiness and anxiety is related to being self-centred" so all you have to do is "breathe and get out of your own head" basically. Some of what I've found more helpful is acknowledging and accepting my stress, unhappiness, and anxiety and practising self-compassion, journaling, and writing letters to myself full of love and understanding to quiet my inner critic. I have yet to find a person who can stop being so "self-centred" when faced with major life adversities, except for maybe a handful of spiritual leaders and avatars.

1. Observe yourself. Are you in a stressful state or beautiful state? 2. Are you engaged in the past? Or are you engaged in the future or in the present? 3. Are you pre-occupied with yourself or are you in a state of connections?

shes not wrong, because we are all constantly focused on what makes us different from the rest of the world. because we are taught that our differences are how we learn what makes us valuable. (comparison to our peer) everything we believe ourselves derives down to two simple concepts: “i am not enough” or “i am enough”- which IS preoccupied self obsessive thinking. think about it. all your self limiting beliefs derive to “i am not enough”. we really are capable of anything, if we can stop thinking about how it is only us that has to be in the circumstances we are facing- the reality is, we all are one in the same because our different paths (life circumstances) lead us to the same conclusions (emotional states of being).

You were blessed with the ability to dig out of a hole. Be grateful that when you reach the surface and even higher, the pitts of your past make you powerful. You can pull others out of holes because you were there. If and when you shall fall again you know the way out. The fruits of life will be sweeter and you will never do the sins committed against you. If you do than I hope you recognise it and stop. Cheers to healing, from a person that lived in a pitt for many years.

I really appreciate how this talk gave me insight into having a connection to myself and introspection without the need for religion. Let me explain further: I have understood for a long time that religious institutions employ this "technique of self reflection" as a proof of god to make one feel better about oneself. The freedom of letting go of religion gave me an overpowering sense of liberty of thought. I've learned over the years that that liberty left me deprived of community and a sense of belonging emotionally. My reptilic, limbic, and cortexic parts of my brain are still fighting to strike a balance but I'm thankful that these kind of talks can bring about the same derivitive of clarity and calmness as my religious self would have been relieved to have in the past. Thank you to the speaker and how we can use science to bring about peace of mind.

THANKS FOR THIS TED TALK IM 15 and this just blew my mind

Excellent speach thank you so much ji

This makes me cry.. this speech is the best ted talk i have ever watched ...😊 Now i able to make a stressless , free inner state... thank you.... to the person who reading this, i wish u a beautiful inner state , joy, success and ❤ .....

That's the way how everyone should speak in calm and composed manner

Incredible! What a beautiful message! And Soul of which we should all aspire!

Beautiful! Thank you!

Storehouse of knowledge, indeed !!!

Not me tearing up here This is beautiful

One of best Tedx talks that I've listened to. Thank you.

‘I am all this creation, without me there exists no other’

What a fabulous talk. An absolutely faultless delivery of a truth we ALL need to be made aware of. Bless you, dear woman xx

Gratidão, gratidão pelos ensinamentos! !!

Thanks for a wonderful teaching . Feeling blessed.

Things that we already know deep inside, reminded in a new age manner. Cheers!

every time I see, something new strikes me. Beautiful

She makes so much complete sense.. thank you.. ☮️❤️🌻

Great applause for Preetha Mam👏👏👏👏👏👏🇮🇳🇮🇳

Enlightening and an illuminating lecture.. bravo

So beautifully said!!

The hugging part gave me chills 🤗

So beautiful. What a beautiful talk from a beautiful person. Namaste.

Peace and love to all the other human mates, god bless us all! May we be enlightened, calm, loving, peaceful and happy ❤️

I feel proud when i watch an Indian at such a great platform .

Great realisation for me, thank you Sri Preethaji🙏🙏🙏

I'm scared of the future, I'm scared of dying alone, I'm scared to lose the people I love most, I worry too much and I hate it.

Lively and inspiring speech delivered nicely 😇❤️❤️💞👍👏

I love stories like this.

beautiful speech, the words increases one's mental toughness and looking at life positively

Lovely and inspiring. 💞